WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Please don't pound me like a jack hammer

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<v Speaker 1>Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout

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<v Speaker 1>Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We

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<v Speaker 1>pay our respect to their elders past and present and

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<v Speaker 1>extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander

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<v Speaker 1>peoples today.

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<v Speaker 2>This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi guys, and i'll welcome back to another episode of

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<v Speaker 2>Life Uncut.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Laura and I'm Brittany and this is our not

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to be here because we was supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>on holiday Sneaky Thursday, ask Uncut edition.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we did take Tuesday episode off this week and

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<v Speaker 2>then we thought, you know what, it wouldn't be a

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<v Speaker 2>Life Uncut holiday if we didn't continue to work a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. And we fucking loved doing us gun cut,

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<v Speaker 2>so we thought we'd get together and get a little saucy,

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<v Speaker 2>sexy episode ready and rearing before we actually went on holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny you should say that, because last night I

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<v Speaker 1>went for a little walk from my house he get

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<v Speaker 1>some dinner. So I was on Bondi Road and it

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<v Speaker 1>was thriving, It was heaving, heaving, if people will say that,

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<v Speaker 1>who am I?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like when I say heaving, I usually say

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<v Speaker 2>it in conjunction with vomiting.

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<v Speaker 3>I was heaving, ah, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Think I used to see heaving like fifteen years here.

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<v Speaker 3>Like the club was heaving.

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<v Speaker 1>It was holistic anyway, it was thriving. There were people

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<v Speaker 1>ever really enjoying their life. I had a migraine, so

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<v Speaker 1>I was not enjoying my life. I was just going

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<v Speaker 1>to get some dinner in some panadole.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>That just got so depressing. So having the best holiday ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, she had ad a migraine and planadole on a great.

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<v Speaker 3>Old time and a margarita and a bottle of wine.

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<v Speaker 3>And you do not mix your wine. We now we

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<v Speaker 3>know where the migraine came from.

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<v Speaker 1>But there a group of girls out the front, and

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<v Speaker 1>as I was walking down, they started like screaming at Delilah.

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<v Speaker 4>They fannedgirl Delilah.

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<v Speaker 3>They love Delilah.

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<v Speaker 4>But we got chatting and I said, oh, yeah, we're

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<v Speaker 4>actually going on holiday this week.

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<v Speaker 1>And they also to laugh now and they were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>look we listened to like we're big fans of the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's.

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<v Speaker 4>Be real, you're not really gonna go on a holiday,

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<v Speaker 4>are you? And I said, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>And they're like, every time you guys say that you're

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<v Speaker 1>taking a week or two off.

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<v Speaker 4>We ended up tuning in going.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, well, here's a bonus episode, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>oh funny, you should say that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, will we refuse here we are, you can't get

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<v Speaker 2>rid of it. We're scared that maybe if we take

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<v Speaker 2>a whole week off, you'll go find somebody else to love.

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<v Speaker 4>We've got faux bo we have.

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<v Speaker 2>We have like you know, we're codependent on you all,

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<v Speaker 2>but also on that brit Is. Actually she's leaving tomorrow

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<v Speaker 2>to go to Thailand unless.

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<v Speaker 1>A touch would Unlet's get COVID overnight, which if I

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<v Speaker 1>have lasted two years without COVID.

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<v Speaker 4>And I get it the night before Thailand, I'm gonna cry.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you else? I thought you're gonna be like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do something. I'm like, what are you gonna do? Well?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you know what the thing is? Actually?

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<v Speaker 3>Stay inside?

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<v Speaker 4>This is pretty sneaky of Thailand.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know how everywhere else that you go traveling, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's all country to country. You know how

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<v Speaker 1>you have to do your PCR test here in Australia

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<v Speaker 1>to see if you can get.

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<v Speaker 3>On the plane. Yeah, no, because I haven't been there,

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<v Speaker 3>but likes, well, that's.

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<v Speaker 4>What it is.

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<v Speaker 1>If you go any like even when we're going on

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<v Speaker 1>domestic flights in Australia until not long ago, you had

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<v Speaker 1>to do your test here and if you were positive,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't get on the plane, which is great because

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<v Speaker 1>that's what it's like.

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<v Speaker 4>A super spreadup Thailand.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't make you test before you get there, but they

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<v Speaker 1>make you test when you're there, and that's pretty sneaky

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<v Speaker 1>because it means like you're already there and then if

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<v Speaker 1>you test positive, they're like.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, well, I've got to throw you into quarantine for

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<v Speaker 4>three grand.

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<v Speaker 2>Hopefully you're staying in a nice hotel though, So then

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<v Speaker 2>if you get stuck in quarantine at least like maybe

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<v Speaker 2>there's an outdoor area a.

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<v Speaker 1>Balcony, No, because it's not your quarantine. You go into

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<v Speaker 1>government quarantine.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't think.

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<v Speaker 4>It's going to feel luxury five side down with a

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<v Speaker 4>falling not in Thailand hotel quarantine.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine if that was your holiday. Do you know what?

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<v Speaker 2>Though, I did read that if you're getting to the

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<v Speaker 2>airport you need to leave at least two hours because

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<v Speaker 2>apparently we've all forgotten how to fly. We're not getting

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<v Speaker 2>our laptops out of security, we're not getting our phones out,

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<v Speaker 2>We're not like leaving our aerosol cans. I don't even

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<v Speaker 2>know which bag you leave your aerosol can in. But

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<v Speaker 2>I also think that maybe it's because the airport's are

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<v Speaker 2>huge of the understuff, because they fight at everybody and

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<v Speaker 2>now they are scrambling to get back to capacity.

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<v Speaker 4>This is like a running joke with Sherry and I.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you guys, if you guys are long.

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<v Speaker 1>Term listeners, you'll know my sister, Sherry and I did

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of travel together. We went around the world

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<v Speaker 1>for three years, a lot of countries, a lot of cities,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of flights.

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<v Speaker 4>If I added up, I wouldn't want to add up

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<v Speaker 4>the flights.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you were new to the podcast, the reason

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<v Speaker 2>why Brittany was doing this is because she was running

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<v Speaker 2>away from her responsibilities in life.

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<v Speaker 1>I do that all the time, or whenever something goes bad.

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<v Speaker 1>When Jordan and I just broke up, us like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>moving MC's Laura's like.

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<v Speaker 3>No, and I'm like I'm doing it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gone, Wait.

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<v Speaker 2>We had a work meeting the other day with our

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<v Speaker 2>bosses from Radio, and halfway through the work meeting at Radio,

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<v Speaker 2>like sitting there in front of the big bosses, like

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<v Speaker 2>the head yes, Britt goes, oh yeah, I'm thinking I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to move to LA And I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>this is.

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<v Speaker 3>The first i've fucking heard about it. When are you

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<v Speaker 3>moving to LA? Pretty?

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, well, I would move next week if I could.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, great, maybe we can have this

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<v Speaker 2>conversation not in front of our boss.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, nothing's going to change.

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<v Speaker 4>We can still be in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Because she's like, imagine your work colleague telling you you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to do long distance whilst they're also telling your

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<v Speaker 2>boss and she's not moving to LA everybody.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we'll talk about it off him.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>So what my point I was getting at is that

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<v Speaker 1>after all this travel that I have done, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>this running joke with my sister and I, I will

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<v Speaker 1>still get to the security line and it's I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have my shit together. Something I've either left like some

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<v Speaker 1>pointy objects not a knife, but something in there that's

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<v Speaker 1>not allowed in there, or there's an area as old

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<v Speaker 1>can or I get there and they pull bottle of

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<v Speaker 1>water out. They're like, you know you can't have water,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>Sheridan's like, how have you done this? You have been

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<v Speaker 4>to nearly sixty countries?

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<v Speaker 1>Now, how are you still getting to the airport and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know what to put through?

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<v Speaker 4>Imagine what I'm going to be like now, imagine.

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<v Speaker 3>Alfter some time off.

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<v Speaker 2>On top of that, you are literally the reason that

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<v Speaker 2>people are waiting two hours.

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<v Speaker 3>You're obnoxious traveling. But I have to pull out my

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<v Speaker 3>nun charks. I have to pull out my summer I saw.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 2>I can't take a gun on the plane?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to bring before we get into your spicy questions.

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<v Speaker 2>And we do have some spicy ones today, because the

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<v Speaker 2>reason why we didn't want to leave it for two

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<v Speaker 2>weeks is because the questions just surmount so quickly, and

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<v Speaker 2>if we don't keep doing these ask gun cuts.

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<v Speaker 3>Then they're gone forever into the neha.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I mean that's not why I do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to do it because I'm all about helping

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<v Speaker 3>the people.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I can't let people sit for two weeks with

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<v Speaker 4>their problems on Solved.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want the life admin anyway, capes guys. Before

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<v Speaker 2>we get into it. There is something I read. Actually

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<v Speaker 2>it's a bit of a TikTok trend. You know, that's

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<v Speaker 2>where we love to get our hard hitting articles from.

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<v Speaker 2>But there is a woman and I think that we

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<v Speaker 2>can all take a little leaf out of her book.

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<v Speaker 2>There is a woman who on TikTok has gone viral

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<v Speaker 2>because she went on sixteen consecutive dates and I'm talking

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<v Speaker 2>like one day after another day after another day legend

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<v Speaker 2>with a different man each time. And it wasn't because

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<v Speaker 2>she was interested in finding herself a lover. It's because

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<v Speaker 2>she was so poor at university. She was trying to

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<v Speaker 2>find a man to pay for her dinner every night.

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<v Speaker 3>This is genius, is it?

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<v Speaker 4>Though?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean what were the rules around it? Was she

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<v Speaker 1>going out to source these dates? Were they coming to her?

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<v Speaker 3>Where did she find them? So I'm just gonna give

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<v Speaker 3>you a bit of an overview.

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<v Speaker 2>Her name is macaw Brock, and she shared a short

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<v Speaker 2>video on TikTok with the text over it saying in college,

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<v Speaker 2>when I ran out of money for food, I went

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<v Speaker 2>on a dating app and for sixteen days straight, I

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<v Speaker 2>had sixteen dinner dates in a row.

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<v Speaker 3>Because girl's got a Literally.

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<v Speaker 4>I think this is brilliant.

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<v Speaker 2>So her rules were that she never asked a guy

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<v Speaker 2>out for a date. It was only if a guy

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<v Speaker 2>had asked her out for a date, and she was

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<v Speaker 2>like she was sure that they were going to pay

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<v Speaker 2>for wherever he was taking her.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, girl, what's your secret? Because how are you getting

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<v Speaker 1>asked out on a date every day?

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<v Speaker 4>How have you got sixteen people in a row? I reckon,

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<v Speaker 4>I've had one this year.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that that's where your mind goes to see.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, I would because I know the logistics. I

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<v Speaker 2>know how hard it is to get a good date.

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<v Speaker 4>She's just lining them up left, right and center.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's the thing. I don't think that

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<v Speaker 2>they were good dates. I don't think the purpose of

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<v Speaker 2>the date was the company. The purpose of the date

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<v Speaker 2>was the meal. But my thought on this is like, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I understand I can fully relate to having financial troubles

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<v Speaker 2>when I'm at university.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I was exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember sitting at my desk at work and eating

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<v Speaker 2>tuna and packet rice and five been and I'd mix

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<v Speaker 2>the three things together and I ate that every single

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<v Speaker 2>day with some crackers because I was so freaking university

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<v Speaker 2>poor at the time. But the amount of effort that

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<v Speaker 2>goes in to sitting in a date with someone who

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to date just to get a free meal,

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<v Speaker 2>that is a level of effort I will never have

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<v Speaker 2>in my body.

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<v Speaker 4>No I could do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking back to my Uni days and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>there's some touch and go moment.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a bit of devon there was. There was a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of tuna.

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<v Speaker 1>I think if you look, if you put a positive

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<v Speaker 1>spin on her, right, they're not going to be a penguin.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they are. Maybe she's like, do you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe then day I'll meet someone really great and go

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<v Speaker 1>on another date. Maybe the sixteen dates turned into thirty

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<v Speaker 1>two dates. I think she's being really smart. She's probably

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<v Speaker 1>learning something. They're probably all bringing something new to the table.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, this is a great to meet new people.

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<v Speaker 1>She's getting a good feed. If she's smart, she'd be

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<v Speaker 1>going to the Oia buffet and putting some in.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like asking if we can got a sizzler.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, She's like, can we get pizza? Hat ogony and

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<v Speaker 4>she put some in it like a container for the

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<v Speaker 4>next day.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you do that when you stay at a hotel?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you steal stuff in the breakfast buffet?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean not as a grown woman. I lived in

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<v Speaker 1>a van in England for a while.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course you did.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, so I lived in a van, but not

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<v Speaker 1>a van, guys, I can't explain this.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't picture this like fun, loving, free gypsy life that's

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<v Speaker 4>traveling around.

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<v Speaker 3>I lived in a van.

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<v Speaker 1>There was like just a tiny little removalless fan, no windows,

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<v Speaker 1>a wooden floor. This wasn't built to travel in. It

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<v Speaker 1>was built to like put a table in and move furniture.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not talking a big van.

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<v Speaker 4>It probably was. When I put my sleeping bag in it,

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<v Speaker 4>I could only just fit.

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<v Speaker 2>Well long did you live in a e vent a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of months? Why where did you wash and shower

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<v Speaker 2>and eat?

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<v Speaker 4>I went to camping grounds and stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>And I used to go to university with someone who

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<v Speaker 2>I was quite good friends with at the time, and

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<v Speaker 2>they would live out of their car, but they would

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<v Speaker 2>they had a gym membership which was pretty cheap because

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<v Speaker 2>it was a student gym membership at the Uni and

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<v Speaker 2>they would have their shower and everything at the gym

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<v Speaker 2>and then they would just eat on campus, but they

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<v Speaker 2>lived out of their car.

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<v Speaker 1>This was when I used to surf a lot and

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<v Speaker 1>we were going to camping grounds and I would serve

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<v Speaker 1>so be in the water and you would there's always

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<v Speaker 1>like bathrooms and stuff and showers. So sometimes when there

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't even a proper shower, I would just literally be

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<v Speaker 1>that personal showers on the on the beach shower.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd have my.

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<v Speaker 4>Soap, but I'd have my heck.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, The point of this story is when I was

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<v Speaker 1>living in the van with no windows and no bed,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to go to these pizza huts and over

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<v Speaker 1>in England they had other types of like all you

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<v Speaker 1>can eat kind of stuff and I used to take it.

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<v Speaker 1>I got to container from like a Cheapo shop two dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to take it and I used to smuggle

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<v Speaker 1>and fill it with food. So yeah, I'd eat my

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<v Speaker 1>dinner and then i'd take but I couldn't reheat it,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's cold because I lived at a vand so

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<v Speaker 1>I would take it and eat it cold the next

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<v Speaker 1>day and I just.

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<v Speaker 4>Ate pizza hut for months. I couldn't afford anything else.

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<v Speaker 3>How good were the bacon bits though? Or that was sizzler?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, back to this girl, let's okay. The one thing

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<v Speaker 2>about this though, that I think is slightly problematic.

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<v Speaker 3>The internet is divided.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it unkind to use somebody just to get a

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<v Speaker 2>free meal, knowing full well that you're not interested in

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<v Speaker 2>them at all, and leading them on for that date.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not it's not great. No, But do we know

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't interested though, yeah, was interested.

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<v Speaker 2>She wasn't going for quality over quantity. It was quantity

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<v Speaker 2>over quality because she just wanted a guy to pay

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<v Speaker 2>for her meals.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's a.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit bloody mean, But at the same time, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're going to go to that much effort and

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<v Speaker 2>then you pretty much deserveed me out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that is like, as much as we can laugh,

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<v Speaker 1>that is different. If she knows that she had absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>zero interest, then it's it's it's funny, but it's not cool.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not nice to them at all. But if she

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<v Speaker 1>was waiting for the people to ask her out that

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<v Speaker 1>she had an interest in, I think that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>She definitely had no interest and it was all about

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<v Speaker 2>the food, because, as she said, girl's got to eat.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't you remember?

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<v Speaker 1>This reminds me we spoke about this, but I mean

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<v Speaker 1>we've done nearly three hundred episodes, so you might not remember.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a good chance we spoke about this, probably every

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<v Speaker 4>year ago. About the Japanese man. The thirty nine year

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<v Speaker 4>old Japanese man, and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Was arrested because what he was doing was going on

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<v Speaker 1>dates with women and then getting into serious relationships with them,

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<v Speaker 1>but multiple at a time, like sixteen seventeen at a time.

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<v Speaker 1>He told them all as soon as he got into

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship, he got him really quickly, like he's like

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to be with you, I love you

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. As soon as you're relationship, he would tell

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<v Speaker 1>them his birthday. He changed his birthday. His birthday was

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<v Speaker 1>always like a month.

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<v Speaker 2>Away, and he got all these really expensive presents and

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<v Speaker 2>then cash them in and then we'll go to the

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<v Speaker 2>next girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>He got charged. He got charged for fraud.

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<v Speaker 2>He got charged for faking his birthday at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the day, but no, it was fraud. He actually

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<v Speaker 2>got charged for take for defrauding these women out of

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<v Speaker 2>thousands of dollars for birthday presents, and.

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<v Speaker 4>He just kept saying it was my birthday next month.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, how do you keep up with that?

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<v Speaker 4>Until one day he slipped up and someone was like,

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<v Speaker 4>hang on a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>One thing I think that we can all agree on

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<v Speaker 2>is that his love language was gifts and her love

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<v Speaker 2>language was food. A hundred All right, well, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like we could talk about this forever, but that is

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<v Speaker 2>not why you were here. We have picked out some

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<v Speaker 2>saucy questions for you guys today, and we are doing

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<v Speaker 2>our absolute best to answer them. So let's get into

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<v Speaker 2>question number one.

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<v Speaker 1>This is like a little bit opposite to what most

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<v Speaker 1>people's problem is, so I'm interested to see what you think.

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<v Speaker 1>My question is what do I do if a guy

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<v Speaker 1>lasts too long?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? You heard that right, people too long.

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<v Speaker 1>I've recently started seeing a guy and I really like

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<v Speaker 1>where it's going. But when we have sex, it lasts

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<v Speaker 1>a really fucking long time, to the point where I

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<v Speaker 1>orgasm once or twice before he even does. Now, this

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<v Speaker 1>might seem like every woman's dream, but I feel guilty.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a fucking nightmare. I feel guilty, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it just hurts. I just don't enjoy it anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>What do you think about this?

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<v Speaker 3>What do I do? How do I broach it?

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<v Speaker 2>I think that this like we spend so much time

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<v Speaker 2>talking about men who don't last long enough. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>sorry for the women who are being pounded into the

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<v Speaker 2>ground Poundtown, Poundtown, but far like pound past Poundtown into

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<v Speaker 2>like yeah late pound cemetery.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, from Poundtown to Pound cemetery.

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<v Speaker 4>R ipe.

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<v Speaker 2>I once stated a guy not to get into a

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<v Speaker 2>personal story, but you know, we love one here who

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<v Speaker 2>was like a jackhammer forty five minute jack hammer. Yeah, standard,

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<v Speaker 2>it was the worst. Was the worst forty five minutes

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<v Speaker 2>to an hour of my life and like walk half

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<v Speaker 2>a days. I bruised, but like to not with ail,

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<v Speaker 2>like I would have come in the first seven minutes

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<v Speaker 2>and then it's forty minutes of just being pounded.

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<v Speaker 3>But did he.

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<v Speaker 4>Did he was there any like position change?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, we would change things up, but it was

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<v Speaker 2>just always like bang bang bang bang bang bang bang

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<v Speaker 2>bang bang. And I was like, how are you not

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<v Speaker 2>coming yet? Like we like just did all the theatrics.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, maybe I don't know, Okay. My number

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<v Speaker 2>one suggestion to you is like if you were with

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<v Speaker 2>a guy who lasts a really, really long time, invest

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<v Speaker 2>in some good quality lube, like instead of just laying

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<v Speaker 2>there and taking it until you turn into sandpaper.

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<v Speaker 3>The first things first is you need some lube. That's

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<v Speaker 3>your best friend. I don't know what you do. This

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<v Speaker 3>hasn't happened to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I have never been in a situation where someone just

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<v Speaker 1>annihilated me and doesn't end.

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<v Speaker 4>Really, you've never had sex.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'm just good.

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<v Speaker 1>Spread it daily mail, pick it up.

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<v Speaker 3>It has nothing to do with like how good it does.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah's exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>There are just some guys who are just like not

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<v Speaker 2>that stimulator or not overly. It takes them a really

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<v Speaker 2>long time to get to it. I also think, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is something that maybe could be worth a conversation,

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<v Speaker 2>there are some men who think that they're supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>last a really, really long time, who think that it's

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to be an ultra sex marathon. Most women don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to have sex for an hour unless they have

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<v Speaker 2>like real unless you have decided, yes, we're gonna make

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<v Speaker 2>a real night of this sexy time. I would say

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<v Speaker 2>that most people don't walk into sex hoping that it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to take an hour.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what could be happening is if you are taking

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<v Speaker 1>a leaf out of Laura's book, and you're like, I

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<v Speaker 1>was bringing a theatric, so I was trying to make

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<v Speaker 1>it great.

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<v Speaker 2>He's probably like, she's fucking loving at Like, I'll.

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<v Speaker 4>Just keep going.

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<v Speaker 2>And some guys can actually and I know this because

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<v Speaker 2>I've spoken to Mad about it, some guys can actually

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<v Speaker 2>like stopped themselves from comings and then they can go longer,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they'll keep and obviously the more that they

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<v Speaker 2>stop themselves or they prolong that orgasm, the more that

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<v Speaker 2>the orgasm that they finally has is like fucking phenomenal.

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<v Speaker 2>But like, if that is at the detriment to your

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<v Speaker 2>poor vagina turning into a worn down piece of sandpaper,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that you can maybe have a conversation, which

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<v Speaker 2>is like manage expectations. If you are going to start

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<v Speaker 2>having sex, be like, oh God, is this going to be?

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<v Speaker 2>Not saying times, don't say oh God, start crying. That's

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<v Speaker 2>just managing each person's expectations, like explain or maybe just

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<v Speaker 2>say to him, oh, like I just really want to

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<v Speaker 2>have a quickie, and then see what he says and

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<v Speaker 2>see if it is a quickie, because he might think

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<v Speaker 2>that you want to have sex for forty five minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you can be really I mean like controversial,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think you can be really honest in this situation.

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<v Speaker 4>You're seeing him you're in.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're in the middle of sex and it's hurting you,

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<v Speaker 1>no one should ever have to be doing that. I

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<v Speaker 1>would say that. I would literally say, Hey, are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to come? Are you going to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>wrap this up soon? And I was like, because you

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<v Speaker 1>know this is starting to hurt now, I would just

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<v Speaker 1>be I would just be honest because he's okay, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know in the middle of sex, are you saying that?

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<v Speaker 2>You would just roll over and be like, Hey, are

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<v Speaker 2>you going to come soon? Because you're starting to hurt?

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<v Speaker 4>YEP, I would say are you going to come soon?

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<v Speaker 1>Because sometimes it's not going to happen sometimes, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the same as girls, very like I think it

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<v Speaker 1>happens for women more. I think it's generally speaking, I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's probably easier for men to come. But sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>maybe they've come too many times that day, maybe they've

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<v Speaker 1>masturbated whatever. Maybe it's not going to happen for them

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<v Speaker 1>in that moment and they just keep going. So maybe

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<v Speaker 1>if you just say to them, do you think you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna come soon, because I've come twice.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm ready to wrap it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think you just say that because if people

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<v Speaker 1>aren't armed with information, and this is in any aspect

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<v Speaker 1>of life, how can you make a decision for that

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<v Speaker 1>situation where you don't know If he thinks you are

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<v Speaker 1>having the time of your life, he's gonna keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>But if he's like, oh, she wants to finish, he

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<v Speaker 1>might be able to finish in two minutes.

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<v Speaker 3>He might be holding off for you totally.

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<v Speaker 2>There's nothing worse than laying on your back, staring at

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<v Speaker 2>the ceiling, trying to moan convincingly and really like for

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<v Speaker 2>like twenty minutes past when.

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<v Speaker 1>It should have ended one hundred percent said, It comes

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<v Speaker 1>back to the same thing. I think honesty is the

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<v Speaker 1>best policy.

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<v Speaker 4>Can I say on one.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing that you did just say, brit which I think

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<v Speaker 2>cannot be overlooked in this Maybe he is masturbating when

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<v Speaker 2>you're not around, And like we do know that the

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<v Speaker 2>more a guy actually ejaculates, the longer it can then

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<v Speaker 2>take him to get to organ and the next time.

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<v Speaker 2>So like if he's only just maybe given himself a

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<v Speaker 2>hand drop that morning or that afternoon and then you.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys are going to have sex.

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<v Speaker 2>That could be part and parcel as to why it's

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<v Speaker 2>taking him so long to actually come. So maybe the

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<v Speaker 2>heaps of guys do that because they want to last longer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't want to go and have sex with

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<v Speaker 2>a girl they really.

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<v Speaker 3>Like and last two minutes. So I have so many male.

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<v Speaker 1>Friends and you know, partners in the past, I have

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<v Speaker 1>said that they're like, oh, yeah, you'll always jack off

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<v Speaker 1>before you go on a hot day, like because you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to go in last two seconds.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, like I think if it just is the case

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<v Speaker 2>that he is somebody who lasts a really long time

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<v Speaker 2>and it's becoming tiresome.

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<v Speaker 4>For you, there's usually something.

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<v Speaker 2>That will get your partner off quickly, whether it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I don't know, something that you can whisper

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<v Speaker 2>in the ear, whether it's it's there's usually something that

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<v Speaker 2>will get them over the Do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Whisper the mat Laura and you want to wrap it

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<v Speaker 1>up it's been seven minutes, You're like, Oka, if your

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<v Speaker 1>blow job next week, you give your finishes right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, that's another option, right, Like you don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>get to the finish line by having sex, like you

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<v Speaker 2>can finish off.

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<v Speaker 3>By giving him a blowout.

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<v Speaker 4>Or whether he's not gonna come meagine you get Lockjawn.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't go and give a blow job if he's

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<v Speaker 1>not going to come in sex, it's like rip good luck.

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<v Speaker 2>I do want to say though, that I think that

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<v Speaker 2>this is a very relatable question. I know, Brittany, you

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<v Speaker 2>have never experienced this, but I am going to bet

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<v Speaker 2>my life that there are so many women out there

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<v Speaker 2>listening to this who have had sex with somebody who

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<v Speaker 2>just takes too long, and it's almost as bad, if

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<v Speaker 2>not worse than someone who doesn't take long enough one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 4>But what's your answer? My answer is just to honestly

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<v Speaker 4>the best policy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I think honestly is the best policy. But then

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<v Speaker 3>I think there are a few other things that you

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<v Speaker 3>do as well.

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<v Speaker 4>I can I just say as well, it's a loop.

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<v Speaker 4>It's definitely an education thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So if people aren't taught something or or it's never

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<v Speaker 1>spoken about, they're not going to know. And what I

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<v Speaker 1>mean by that is there will be a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>men out there that think the more times a woman

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<v Speaker 1>can come, the better.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's not necessarily like that. For everyone like you.

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<v Speaker 1>You say you can come one or two times, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you and the second time is still great, but

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<v Speaker 1>come the third time, a, it's not gonna happening, and

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<v Speaker 1>be it's getting uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>But if you don't tell him that.

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<v Speaker 3>He's gonna be like, oh yeah, let's so again. How

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<v Speaker 3>many times can I make you come? He doesn't know

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<v Speaker 3>that all of a sudden it changes for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And some people can have like infinite number of orgasms,

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<v Speaker 2>like all the power to you. But for me, if

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<v Speaker 2>I ever get to number two, I am wham bam,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, ma'am.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm done.

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<v Speaker 2>That is shut down for business. Oh no, I see

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<v Speaker 2>I could go to probably four four?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, and in what period of time in

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<v Speaker 1>the same session, Wait, like an hour, half an hour?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, how many times is he going to get you

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<v Speaker 3>to four? Fifteen minutes? No? He no, he would only

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<v Speaker 3>go once.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, in one back to back sex session, you can

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<v Speaker 2>have four orgasms?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah fucking yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Average three.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm I'm pretty lucky average three, but I've four

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<v Speaker 1>has been my I think four has been my record.

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<v Speaker 3>That is impressive.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, when forget the.

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<v Speaker 3>Spot, let's get into question number two.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this one has some similarities to the

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<v Speaker 2>number one question, so I thought I would bring this

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<v Speaker 2>one hot and ready and.

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<v Speaker 3>Rearing off the back of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'd been with my boy for a few years now,

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<v Speaker 2>but we were kept apart due to COVID for a

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<v Speaker 2>year before this. The sex was well and truly on fire.

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<v Speaker 2>It was amazing and I was loving it since. However,

0:21:10.440 --> 0:21:13.040
<v Speaker 2>we have been reunited, which was almost a year ago. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>he has trouble playing the long game from too long

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<v Speaker 2>to not long enough, and typically as soon as he

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<v Speaker 2>puts it in, he literally can't move because.

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<v Speaker 3>He will finish immediately.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a thirsty girl and I have been known to

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<v Speaker 2>hit double digits with my orgasms when I'm with him

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<v Speaker 2>in the past. I really miss this. I really miss

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<v Speaker 2>our sex life. He is perfect in every other way possible,

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't know if this is going to fulfill

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<v Speaker 2>me long term.

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<v Speaker 3>What do I do?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I have a conversation with him about this? How

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<v Speaker 2>do I bring it up with him without completely destroying

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<v Speaker 2>his self esteem?

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<v Speaker 3>You can't do? You care?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm joking. Of course you can, but he's gonna be devoted.

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<v Speaker 3>But the thing is, I know how old are one?

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like I've gone back in time. I've been

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<v Speaker 4>saying bro and devoted lately.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's happened becoming more bogan. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know what's happened to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I go through these phases anyway. He's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>devoted for sure, because viewing no one, no man or

0:22:07.000 --> 0:22:08.879
<v Speaker 1>woman wants to hear that, like they're not pleasing their

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<v Speaker 1>partner in the bedroom. The fact is he's coming in

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<v Speaker 1>two seconds. He's aware of that. That's sort of secret.

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<v Speaker 4>He's not doing that without his own knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>So he knows that there is no way you are

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<v Speaker 1>getting off.

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<v Speaker 4>He knows that there's no way there's pleasure. So it's

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<v Speaker 4>a bit weird. It's a bit like the elephant in

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<v Speaker 4>the room.

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<v Speaker 1>If he's putting it in coming and then you just

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even imagine the scene. Do you both just

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<v Speaker 1>roll over and look at the ceiling?

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<v Speaker 4>How do you not?

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<v Speaker 3>How do you not recognize it?

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<v Speaker 2>I think the big part of this is like knowing

0:22:32.280 --> 0:22:35.320
<v Speaker 2>that you can obviously be satisfied and have a great

0:22:35.320 --> 0:22:37.080
<v Speaker 2>sex life. It doesn't have to just come down to

0:22:37.160 --> 0:22:40.200
<v Speaker 2>penetrative sex, right, That doesn't have to be the end goal.

0:22:41.080 --> 0:22:43.879
<v Speaker 2>And knowing that he is capable of it, but something

0:22:43.880 --> 0:22:47.320
<v Speaker 2>else has happened amongst the change the COVID.

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<v Speaker 4>Like flat COVID.

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<v Speaker 3>That was a weird time for everyone.

0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:52.399
<v Speaker 2>I think it's had some long stemming mental health impacts

0:22:52.440 --> 0:22:57.080
<v Speaker 2>and on that long oh, it's impacted people in a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of ways, and maybe he's got anxiety in this

0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:01.720
<v Speaker 2>life in others aspects. We've only got a really small

0:23:01.800 --> 0:23:04.359
<v Speaker 2>snapshot on what's happening in this guy's life from your question.

0:23:04.960 --> 0:23:09.000
<v Speaker 2>The other part of this is sometimes in sex, I've

0:23:09.080 --> 0:23:12.840
<v Speaker 2>experienced this before with an X when now it's a problem,

0:23:12.920 --> 0:23:14.879
<v Speaker 2>you know, like whether you guys have spoken about it

0:23:15.000 --> 0:23:17.080
<v Speaker 2>or not, Like he knows that he's coming pretty much

0:23:17.080 --> 0:23:19.080
<v Speaker 2>as soon as he's inside you, and he knows that

0:23:19.080 --> 0:23:21.439
<v Speaker 2>that's different to how it used to be. And then therefore,

0:23:21.480 --> 0:23:23.480
<v Speaker 2>the next time you have sex, instead of thinking about

0:23:23.560 --> 0:23:26.520
<v Speaker 2>enjoying yourself, taking it slow, getting in the mood, all

0:23:26.560 --> 0:23:28.920
<v Speaker 2>he's probably thinking is fuck, don't come, don't come, don't fuck,

0:23:28.960 --> 0:23:31.879
<v Speaker 2>I've came again. You know, it becomes the anxiety around

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<v Speaker 2>not coming becomes more prevalent in you guys having sex

0:23:35.160 --> 0:23:37.159
<v Speaker 2>than what actually enjoying it is. And I think that

0:23:37.240 --> 0:23:39.960
<v Speaker 2>like that's where the issues stem. I feel like you're

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<v Speaker 2>doing yourself a disservice by not acknowledging it and not

0:23:43.000 --> 0:23:45.880
<v Speaker 2>like having a conversation because at least like by then

0:23:46.000 --> 0:23:48.159
<v Speaker 2>discussing the elephant in the room and not in like

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:51.000
<v Speaker 2>a I'm not satisfied kind of way, but just being like, hey,

0:23:51.119 --> 0:23:53.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, is there something that's going on? Do you

0:23:53.800 --> 0:23:55.600
<v Speaker 2>feel like you're in your head about this? Like what

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<v Speaker 2>can we do to take the pressure off the bedroom?

0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:00.159
<v Speaker 2>So instead of the next time you go into the

0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:02.840
<v Speaker 2>bedroom to have sex, instead of it being penetrative sex,

0:24:02.880 --> 0:24:05.359
<v Speaker 2>maybe you go back to ground zero and you just

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:07.960
<v Speaker 2>do for play, like you just have oral sex. You

0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:10.080
<v Speaker 2>just kind of get each other off with your hands

0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:12.600
<v Speaker 2>and take penetration out of the equation for a little

0:24:12.600 --> 0:24:14.399
<v Speaker 2>while until he gets to a point where it's not

0:24:14.440 --> 0:24:16.080
<v Speaker 2>such a big deal. But I think the thing we

0:24:16.119 --> 0:24:19.760
<v Speaker 2>need to recognize is too that premature ejaculation is a

0:24:19.800 --> 0:24:21.520
<v Speaker 2>thing and it's nothing to be ashamed of and.

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<v Speaker 1>Something that probably more people than you realize experience. You

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<v Speaker 1>go and speak to a specialist or a doctor like

0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:30.640
<v Speaker 1>if this is and from what you've said, this is extreme,

0:24:30.680 --> 0:24:32.359
<v Speaker 1>You've said he literally can't move, he puts it in

0:24:32.359 --> 0:24:34.040
<v Speaker 1>and he can't me or he'll come. So this isn't

0:24:34.119 --> 0:24:36.640
<v Speaker 1>just like I'm super horny and can't wait. There's more

0:24:36.720 --> 0:24:38.479
<v Speaker 1>going on here, and the worst thing you can do

0:24:38.600 --> 0:24:41.320
<v Speaker 1>is pretend it's not going on and make it like

0:24:41.359 --> 0:24:43.200
<v Speaker 1>it's an embarrassing thing to go and seek help.

0:24:43.200 --> 0:24:45.520
<v Speaker 2>It's not embarrassing. There are people going through it all

0:24:45.560 --> 0:24:47.200
<v Speaker 2>the time, and there is help for it.

0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:49.920
<v Speaker 1>So maybe you just say hey, like exactly like said, hey,

0:24:49.960 --> 0:24:52.480
<v Speaker 1>what's going on, Like, let's just chat about this. And

0:24:52.880 --> 0:24:54.800
<v Speaker 1>if you need to go on, like if he needs

0:24:54.840 --> 0:24:57.480
<v Speaker 1>to go and speak to someone, that's okay, But he

0:24:57.840 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 1>is going to feed off your energy and the way

0:25:00.400 --> 0:25:03.520
<v Speaker 1>you feel about it. So if he thinks you're embarrassed

0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:05.639
<v Speaker 1>and you're awkward and you're not enjoying it and you

0:25:05.680 --> 0:25:07.439
<v Speaker 1>don't want to talk about it, he's going to feel

0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:09.159
<v Speaker 1>that as well, and it's going to intensify it.

0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:10.680
<v Speaker 4>But if you just sit down and you're really open

0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:11.960
<v Speaker 4>about it and say let's get.

0:25:11.840 --> 0:25:13.280
<v Speaker 1>To the bottom of itr like, let's sort this out,

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:15.360
<v Speaker 1>let's get back to it, he's going to be more

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:18.200
<v Speaker 1>engaged and more likely to go and seek help for it.

0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:20.640
<v Speaker 2>And I think especially when you talk about this from

0:25:20.680 --> 0:25:22.879
<v Speaker 2>like being in a place where you've had an amazing

0:25:22.920 --> 0:25:25.440
<v Speaker 2>sex life prior. If it was something that had never

0:25:25.520 --> 0:25:27.760
<v Speaker 2>existed in your relationship and it was a problem from

0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:29.560
<v Speaker 2>day one, I would say like, okay, well, then this

0:25:29.640 --> 0:25:31.920
<v Speaker 2>is something that maybe a constant in relationship, something that

0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:34.679
<v Speaker 2>you have to work through. But this is something that's changed,

0:25:34.720 --> 0:25:38.320
<v Speaker 2>so there's obviously an impacting factor here, and maybe talking

0:25:38.320 --> 0:25:39.919
<v Speaker 2>it out and like Britt said, going and seeing a

0:25:39.920 --> 0:25:42.080
<v Speaker 2>specialist and getting to the bottom of it will mean

0:25:42.119 --> 0:25:45.720
<v Speaker 2>that you can both get down to poundtown really appropriate

0:25:45.800 --> 0:25:46.359
<v Speaker 2>length of time.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, without any chafing and without any page all.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, all right? Question number three? Am I being unreasonable? Yes?

0:25:53.760 --> 0:25:54.919
<v Speaker 3>Or all right?

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<v Speaker 2>I think that this is an interesting one. It's a

0:25:56.560 --> 0:25:59.760
<v Speaker 2>very specific question. Or would most girlfriends think it is

0:25:59.800 --> 0:26:03.200
<v Speaker 2>not not respectful for your boyfriend to put another girl

0:26:03.240 --> 0:26:04.840
<v Speaker 2>on his shoulders at a festival?

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<v Speaker 3>I was not expecting this is it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Very, very fucking specific. So I've been dating my boyfriend

0:26:10.240 --> 0:26:12.200
<v Speaker 2>for nearly two years and we are in a loving,

0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:15.600
<v Speaker 2>committed relationship. However, I feel insecure at times about one

0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:17.879
<v Speaker 2>of his girlfriends who he used to have a crush

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<v Speaker 2>on for many many years in high school and all

0:26:20.320 --> 0:26:22.960
<v Speaker 2>throughout UTI. She never liked him though, so nothing ever

0:26:23.000 --> 0:26:25.920
<v Speaker 2>happened between them. They are still friends, which I'm okay with,

0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:28.080
<v Speaker 2>of course, as they are in the same friendship group

0:26:28.119 --> 0:26:29.879
<v Speaker 2>that I have become a part of. I feel I

0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:32.399
<v Speaker 2>am quite reasonable. However, I was told that at a

0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:36.200
<v Speaker 2>festival last weekend he put her on his shoulders, which

0:26:36.200 --> 0:26:38.359
<v Speaker 2>made me feel really upset and insecure. I'm guessing that

0:26:38.440 --> 0:26:40.399
<v Speaker 2>she wasn't at the festival. He said it was just

0:26:40.400 --> 0:26:43.280
<v Speaker 2>a momentary thing, and he has constantly reassured me that

0:26:43.320 --> 0:26:45.720
<v Speaker 2>he feels absolutely nothing for her. But I can't help

0:26:45.760 --> 0:26:49.120
<v Speaker 2>but feel upset and I feel entirely disrespected that he.

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:50.000
<v Speaker 3>Would even do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess what I'm wondering is should I be feeling disrespected?

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<v Speaker 3>Am I overreacting? Or is this a deal breaker?

0:26:56.680 --> 0:26:58.760
<v Speaker 4>Definitely not a deal breaker.

0:26:58.920 --> 0:27:02.080
<v Speaker 3>It's definitely not deal definitely not like.

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<v Speaker 1>No, if you break up over this, where do we.

0:27:06.760 --> 0:27:07.920
<v Speaker 3>Go from this? I feel?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think that like having a girl on

0:27:10.280 --> 0:27:12.640
<v Speaker 2>your shoulders could be deemed as being.

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:15.200
<v Speaker 4>A bit flirtatious and vagina's neck.

0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:18.120
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's like the genitools turn around the other way

0:27:18.160 --> 0:27:19.360
<v Speaker 2>and you could be going down on her.

0:27:19.640 --> 0:27:23.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, this is not the Exorcis. Girls sit around in like.

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<v Speaker 2>Three sixty ok okay, and he doesn't have a mouth

0:27:26.880 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 2>on the back of his neck.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 1>My my first instinct here is I totally understand where

0:27:31.560 --> 0:27:33.920
<v Speaker 1>your feelings are coming from, because they have some sort

0:27:33.920 --> 0:27:35.879
<v Speaker 1>of connection. Now, whether they actually ever did hook up,

0:27:35.920 --> 0:27:37.280
<v Speaker 1>whether he had a crush on her, whether she had

0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:40.240
<v Speaker 1>a crush on him, there's obviously something that's been there

0:27:40.240 --> 0:27:43.120
<v Speaker 1>in the past, So I get why you would feel uncomfortable,

0:27:43.200 --> 0:27:48.439
<v Speaker 1>especially because you weren't there from the outskirts. This to

0:27:48.560 --> 0:27:49.880
<v Speaker 1>me seems pretty innocent.

0:27:49.920 --> 0:27:52.200
<v Speaker 2>If you're at a festival, there's people ever here, there's music,

0:27:52.440 --> 0:27:55.640
<v Speaker 2>happy probably been drinking. The ViBe's high, she's still in

0:27:55.680 --> 0:27:58.840
<v Speaker 2>the friendship circle. I don't think this moment would have

0:27:58.840 --> 0:28:00.639
<v Speaker 2>been too thought out. I think it would have been

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:03.000
<v Speaker 2>very spontaneous. It would have been like everyone else is

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:04.919
<v Speaker 2>doing it, throw me up. He was there available, his

0:28:05.000 --> 0:28:08.159
<v Speaker 2>shoulders were free. Also, like he's not going to do

0:28:08.240 --> 0:28:11.000
<v Speaker 2>it in public around everyone if he thought it was

0:28:11.040 --> 0:28:13.960
<v Speaker 2>something sinister, you know, like there wasn't ill intent in that.

0:28:14.400 --> 0:28:17.440
<v Speaker 2>Those feelings that you have have also come as a

0:28:17.480 --> 0:28:20.600
<v Speaker 2>result of your insecurities around knowing that he used to

0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:21.560
<v Speaker 2>have a crush on her.

0:28:21.560 --> 0:28:24.760
<v Speaker 1>And he's you have said, he has made it really,

0:28:25.000 --> 0:28:28.399
<v Speaker 1>really obvious, and he's really reassured you that there's nothing

0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:30.320
<v Speaker 1>there and it wasn't anything. He didn't even think about it,

0:28:30.400 --> 0:28:32.679
<v Speaker 1>And I think you need to accept that, Like, don't

0:28:32.720 --> 0:28:35.199
<v Speaker 1>make a mountain out of a molehill. That is what

0:28:35.240 --> 0:28:38.240
<v Speaker 1>I think is happening here. This has the potential to

0:28:38.320 --> 0:28:40.960
<v Speaker 1>keep snowball into something huge. And let me tell you,

0:28:41.160 --> 0:28:42.760
<v Speaker 1>he's going to get exasperated. He's going to be like,

0:28:42.800 --> 0:28:45.120
<v Speaker 1>for fuck's sake, like I like to me this, I

0:28:45.160 --> 0:28:46.600
<v Speaker 1>didn't even think about it. He would have been like,

0:28:46.600 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 1>I was there, it was two seconds, everyone's partying. She

0:28:49.640 --> 0:28:51.720
<v Speaker 1>jumped on my She he probably didn't even think about it. Again,

0:28:51.760 --> 0:28:54.280
<v Speaker 1>And I think if you're in a relationship he has

0:28:54.560 --> 0:28:57.560
<v Speaker 1>tried to reassure you, you need to accept that or

0:28:57.840 --> 0:28:59.800
<v Speaker 1>this is unless you actually one of those people that

0:28:59.880 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 1>are constantly wanting to fight about stuff you know is

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:04.120
<v Speaker 1>not healthy in any relationship.

0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:07.520
<v Speaker 4>But I would just take his word for it.

0:29:07.560 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 2>And the fact of the matter is she is in

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:11.480
<v Speaker 2>their friendship group, so they are going to have interactions

0:29:11.480 --> 0:29:12.680
<v Speaker 2>from here to there, and you need to get to

0:29:12.720 --> 0:29:14.360
<v Speaker 2>a place where you're okay with it, unless, of course,

0:29:14.360 --> 0:29:16.960
<v Speaker 2>they're like going out one on one. That's different if

0:29:17.000 --> 0:29:18.280
<v Speaker 2>you won't have had a coffee with her one on

0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:19.520
<v Speaker 2>one and you found out about it.

0:29:19.920 --> 0:29:20.720
<v Speaker 4>Different story.

0:29:20.880 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Okay.

0:29:21.280 --> 0:29:23.600
<v Speaker 2>I think the big thing here for me is like,

0:29:23.760 --> 0:29:26.480
<v Speaker 2>ask yourself, if it had been anybody else, would you

0:29:26.520 --> 0:29:28.760
<v Speaker 2>be okay with it? Like if it was another girl

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:30.360
<v Speaker 2>in the friendship group, would you be okay with it?

0:29:30.440 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 3>Or is it a random yeah?

0:29:31.800 --> 0:29:34.720
<v Speaker 2>Is it just because you know that back a few

0:29:34.840 --> 0:29:38.160
<v Speaker 2>years ago he had a crush on her, Like, just

0:29:38.200 --> 0:29:39.640
<v Speaker 2>because he had a crush on her a few years

0:29:39.640 --> 0:29:42.720
<v Speaker 2>ago doesn't mean he has any romantic feelings for her now.

0:29:42.920 --> 0:29:45.400
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes we just have to with these sorts of situations

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:49.640
<v Speaker 2>go okay. It doesn't make me feel great. Something about

0:29:49.680 --> 0:29:51.400
<v Speaker 2>it makes me feel a bit icky, But I'm not

0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:55.520
<v Speaker 2>going to sabotage my relationship or create a huge issue

0:29:55.800 --> 0:29:58.840
<v Speaker 2>when he's already done everything he can, he's apologized, he's

0:29:58.880 --> 0:30:00.520
<v Speaker 2>reassured you.

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 3>And second to that.

0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:04.040
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I think, especially when we're jealous, because jealousy is

0:30:04.040 --> 0:30:05.840
<v Speaker 2>such a fucking blinding emotion.

0:30:06.320 --> 0:30:07.360
<v Speaker 3>When we're in and we have.

0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:11.920
<v Speaker 2>Full emotion jealousy, you can think, especially because you're not there,

0:30:12.000 --> 0:30:13.480
<v Speaker 2>you didn't see how it all went down.

0:30:13.520 --> 0:30:14.920
<v Speaker 3>You didn't see the tone.

0:30:14.680 --> 0:30:17.040
<v Speaker 4>Or the vibe of the situation in your head.

0:30:17.040 --> 0:30:17.720
<v Speaker 3>They probably fucked it.

0:30:17.720 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 2>Behind the demand of you think, your brain just instantly

0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:24.360
<v Speaker 2>goes to worst case scenario. Your brain will play tricks

0:30:24.360 --> 0:30:27.080
<v Speaker 2>on you, because that's what jealousy does. And jealousy is

0:30:27.320 --> 0:30:30.200
<v Speaker 2>an emotion that comes when you're fearful of losing something,

0:30:30.440 --> 0:30:33.239
<v Speaker 2>and it's a really controlling feeling. So I think, like,

0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:36.080
<v Speaker 2>instead of trying to keep him in check where he

0:30:36.120 --> 0:30:40.040
<v Speaker 2>sounds like he's actually a pretty great guy, just think about, Okay,

0:30:40.080 --> 0:30:42.600
<v Speaker 2>where are these feelings coming from, where are these insecurities

0:30:42.640 --> 0:30:45.880
<v Speaker 2>coming from, and working on that rather than keeping on

0:30:45.920 --> 0:30:48.080
<v Speaker 2>bringing this up in your relationship because it is going

0:30:48.120 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 2>to not end well. And his reaction for me is

0:30:50.600 --> 0:30:53.080
<v Speaker 2>a real telltale sign. I think that this is something

0:30:53.080 --> 0:30:55.400
<v Speaker 2>that you need to He has reacted in a way

0:30:55.520 --> 0:30:57.880
<v Speaker 2>that you want your partner to react in, which.

0:30:57.720 --> 0:30:59.360
<v Speaker 4>Is like fuck, sorry, like I didn't.

0:30:59.160 --> 0:31:01.720
<v Speaker 1>Realize everything I can to make you feel good. I

0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:03.719
<v Speaker 1>promise there's nothing there, Like we didn't think about it.

0:31:04.520 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 1>If he had turned around to you and said, fuck

0:31:07.280 --> 0:31:08.320
<v Speaker 1>you, you're so controlling.

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 3>I'll do whatever the fuck I want. Don't tell me

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:12.080
<v Speaker 3>what to do. That's I'd be like, run for the hills.

0:31:12.120 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do it at the next festival on the weekend.

0:31:14.040 --> 0:31:15.840
<v Speaker 2>And if he does do it again in the future

0:31:15.960 --> 0:31:17.560
<v Speaker 2>with the same girl, then of course you're going to

0:31:17.640 --> 0:31:19.800
<v Speaker 2>be like, well, that is a problem.

0:31:19.800 --> 0:31:21.160
<v Speaker 4>This is a reoccurring problem.

0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but he did what every His response was what

0:31:23.600 --> 0:31:24.920
<v Speaker 2>you could only hope for.

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:27.400
<v Speaker 1>It was very it seems like very respectful and honest.

0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:29.400
<v Speaker 1>So I think, don't I think you are. You're for

0:31:29.440 --> 0:31:31.840
<v Speaker 1>sure overthinking this, and okay, put yourself again.

0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:34.560
<v Speaker 4>I love this. Put yourself in the situation. Picture this.

0:31:34.640 --> 0:31:37.560
<v Speaker 4>You're at a festival. He's not there. You're all having fun.

0:31:37.560 --> 0:31:38.680
<v Speaker 4>There's this big group of people.

0:31:38.720 --> 0:31:41.080
<v Speaker 2>It's crowded, the music's going, it's your favorite band.

0:31:41.120 --> 0:31:43.920
<v Speaker 1>Everyone's on each other's shoulders. You're there alone, but someone

0:31:43.960 --> 0:31:44.320
<v Speaker 1>else in.

0:31:44.240 --> 0:31:45.280
<v Speaker 3>The group is like, jump up.

0:31:45.600 --> 0:31:48.440
<v Speaker 4>You would be like, what chances are You'd be like WHOA, Yes,

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:50.280
<v Speaker 4>you wouldn't even think about it. You would jump on.

0:31:50.320 --> 0:31:51.959
<v Speaker 4>You would have fun, you wouldn't think twice, you'd get

0:31:51.960 --> 0:31:52.960
<v Speaker 4>off and you get on with your day.

0:31:53.040 --> 0:31:55.800
<v Speaker 2>So and don't get me wrong, like, I agree with

0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:57.560
<v Speaker 2>you completely, brit when you put it in that perspective,

0:31:57.600 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yes, yes, yes, But then I also think

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:01.480
<v Speaker 2>about it from her perspective, Like if Matt was at

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 2>a festival without me and he got a really hot

0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:06.640
<v Speaker 2>chick to jump up on his shoulders, there would be

0:32:06.640 --> 0:32:08.760
<v Speaker 2>a little bit of me that was like, oh, that's okay,

0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 2>Like why did you do that? You know, I would

0:32:11.000 --> 0:32:12.880
<v Speaker 2>feel there would be a little bit of me, But

0:32:12.960 --> 0:32:15.160
<v Speaker 2>would that feeling be strong enough for me to like,

0:32:15.520 --> 0:32:18.000
<v Speaker 2>is it a fuel breaker? I'm gonna leave my fucking

0:32:18.200 --> 0:32:20.160
<v Speaker 2>the father of my children because he put a chick

0:32:20.200 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 2>on his shoulders at a festival. There would be a

0:32:22.360 --> 0:32:24.360
<v Speaker 2>part of me that would say, hey, that makes me

0:32:24.360 --> 0:32:25.000
<v Speaker 2>feel a bit weird.

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:25.960
<v Speaker 3>Please don't do that again.

0:32:26.000 --> 0:32:27.880
<v Speaker 2>And I would hope that he respected me enough that

0:32:27.920 --> 0:32:29.760
<v Speaker 2>he just didn't do that again and that's the end

0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 2>of it, or go to the festival with him anyway,

0:32:32.480 --> 0:32:35.160
<v Speaker 2>that is from us that three short, sharp and sexy

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<v Speaker 2>little questions. Then I know that we are supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>be on holidays, so we will not be bringing out

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<v Speaker 2>so this is that's a last week of our you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to be a catch up on some of the ask

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just a little tidy follow up.

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