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Speaker 2: Hi guys, and i'll welcome back to another episode of
Speaker 2: Life Uncut.
Speaker 1: I'm Laura and I'm Brittany and this is our not
Speaker 1: supposed to be here because we was supposed to be
Speaker 1: on holiday Sneaky Thursday, ask Uncut edition.
Speaker 2: Well, we did take Tuesday episode off this week and
Speaker 2: then we thought, you know what, it wouldn't be a
Speaker 2: Life Uncut holiday if we didn't continue to work a
Speaker 2: little bit. And we fucking loved doing us gun cut,
Speaker 2: so we thought we'd get together and get a little saucy,
Speaker 2: sexy episode ready and rearing before we actually went on holidays.
Speaker 1: It's funny you should say that, because last night I
Speaker 1: went for a little walk from my house he get
Speaker 1: some dinner. So I was on Bondi Road and it
Speaker 1: was thriving, It was heaving, heaving, if people will say that,
Speaker 1: who am I?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like when I say heaving, I usually say
Speaker 2: it in conjunction with vomiting.
Speaker 3: I was heaving, ah, I.
Speaker 4: Think I used to see heaving like fifteen years here.
Speaker 3: Like the club was heaving.
Speaker 1: It was holistic anyway, it was thriving. There were people
Speaker 1: ever really enjoying their life. I had a migraine, so
Speaker 1: I was not enjoying my life. I was just going
Speaker 1: to get some dinner in some panadole.
Speaker 4: Anyway.
Speaker 3: That just got so depressing. So having the best holiday ever.
Speaker 2: Guys, she had ad a migraine and planadole on a great.
Speaker 3: Old time and a margarita and a bottle of wine.
Speaker 3: And you do not mix your wine. We now we
Speaker 3: know where the migraine came from.
Speaker 1: But there a group of girls out the front, and
Speaker 1: as I was walking down, they started like screaming at Delilah.
Speaker 4: They fannedgirl Delilah.
Speaker 3: They love Delilah.
Speaker 4: But we got chatting and I said, oh, yeah, we're
Speaker 4: actually going on holiday this week.
Speaker 1: And they also to laugh now and they were like, oh,
Speaker 1: look we listened to like we're big fans of the podcast,
Speaker 1: but let's.
Speaker 4: Be real, you're not really gonna go on a holiday,
Speaker 4: are you? And I said, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: And they're like, every time you guys say that you're
Speaker 1: taking a week or two off.
Speaker 4: We ended up tuning in going.
Speaker 1: All right, well, here's a bonus episode, and I said,
Speaker 1: oh funny, you should say that.
Speaker 2: No, will we refuse here we are, you can't get
Speaker 2: rid of it. We're scared that maybe if we take
Speaker 2: a whole week off, you'll go find somebody else to love.
Speaker 4: We've got faux bo we have.
Speaker 2: We have like you know, we're codependent on you all,
Speaker 2: but also on that brit Is. Actually she's leaving tomorrow
Speaker 2: to go to Thailand unless.
Speaker 1: A touch would Unlet's get COVID overnight, which if I
Speaker 1: have lasted two years without COVID.
Speaker 4: And I get it the night before Thailand, I'm gonna cry.
Speaker 3: What do you else? I thought you're gonna be like
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do something. I'm like, what are you gonna do? Well?
Speaker 4: Do you know what the thing is? Actually?
Speaker 3: Stay inside?
Speaker 4: This is pretty sneaky of Thailand.
Speaker 1: So you know how everywhere else that you go traveling, well,
Speaker 1: I mean it's all country to country. You know how
Speaker 1: you have to do your PCR test here in Australia
Speaker 1: to see if you can get.
Speaker 3: On the plane. Yeah, no, because I haven't been there,
Speaker 3: but likes, well, that's.
Speaker 4: What it is.
Speaker 1: If you go any like even when we're going on
Speaker 1: domestic flights in Australia until not long ago, you had
Speaker 1: to do your test here and if you were positive,
Speaker 1: you can't get on the plane, which is great because
Speaker 1: that's what it's like.
Speaker 4: A super spreadup Thailand.
Speaker 1: Don't make you test before you get there, but they
Speaker 1: make you test when you're there, and that's pretty sneaky
Speaker 1: because it means like you're already there and then if
Speaker 1: you test positive, they're like.
Speaker 4: Oh, well, I've got to throw you into quarantine for
Speaker 4: three grand.
Speaker 2: Hopefully you're staying in a nice hotel though, So then
Speaker 2: if you get stuck in quarantine at least like maybe
Speaker 2: there's an outdoor area a.
Speaker 1: Balcony, No, because it's not your quarantine. You go into
Speaker 1: government quarantine.
Speaker 3: So I don't think.
Speaker 4: It's going to feel luxury five side down with a
Speaker 4: falling not in Thailand hotel quarantine.
Speaker 3: Imagine if that was your holiday. Do you know what?
Speaker 2: Though, I did read that if you're getting to the
Speaker 2: airport you need to leave at least two hours because
Speaker 2: apparently we've all forgotten how to fly. We're not getting
Speaker 2: our laptops out of security, we're not getting our phones out,
Speaker 2: We're not like leaving our aerosol cans. I don't even
Speaker 2: know which bag you leave your aerosol can in. But
Speaker 2: I also think that maybe it's because the airport's are
Speaker 2: huge of the understuff, because they fight at everybody and
Speaker 2: now they are scrambling to get back to capacity.
Speaker 4: This is like a running joke with Sherry and I.
Speaker 4: I mean, you guys, if you guys are long.
Speaker 1: Term listeners, you'll know my sister, Sherry and I did
Speaker 1: a lot of travel together. We went around the world
Speaker 1: for three years, a lot of countries, a lot of cities,
Speaker 1: a lot of flights.
Speaker 4: If I added up, I wouldn't want to add up
Speaker 4: the flights.
Speaker 2: And if you were new to the podcast, the reason
Speaker 2: why Brittany was doing this is because she was running
Speaker 2: away from her responsibilities in life.
Speaker 1: I do that all the time, or whenever something goes bad.
Speaker 1: When Jordan and I just broke up, us like I'm
Speaker 1: moving MC's Laura's like.
Speaker 3: No, and I'm like I'm doing it.
Speaker 4: I'm gone, Wait.
Speaker 2: We had a work meeting the other day with our
Speaker 2: bosses from Radio, and halfway through the work meeting at Radio,
Speaker 2: like sitting there in front of the big bosses, like
Speaker 2: the head yes, Britt goes, oh yeah, I'm thinking I'm
Speaker 2: going to move to LA And I was like, well,
Speaker 2: this is.
Speaker 3: The first i've fucking heard about it. When are you
Speaker 3: moving to LA? Pretty?
Speaker 2: She's like, well, I would move next week if I could.
Speaker 2: And I was like, great, maybe we can have this
Speaker 2: conversation not in front of our boss.
Speaker 3: I was like, nothing's going to change.
Speaker 4: We can still be in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Because she's like, imagine your work colleague telling you you're
Speaker 2: going to do long distance whilst they're also telling your
Speaker 2: boss and she's not moving to LA everybody.
Speaker 3: I mean, we'll talk about it off him.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: So what my point I was getting at is that
Speaker 1: after all this travel that I have done, and it's
Speaker 1: this running joke with my sister and I, I will
Speaker 1: still get to the security line and it's I don't
Speaker 1: have my shit together. Something I've either left like some
Speaker 1: pointy objects not a knife, but something in there that's
Speaker 1: not allowed in there, or there's an area as old
Speaker 1: can or I get there and they pull bottle of
Speaker 1: water out. They're like, you know you can't have water,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't know.
Speaker 4: Sheridan's like, how have you done this? You have been
Speaker 4: to nearly sixty countries?
Speaker 1: Now, how are you still getting to the airport and
Speaker 1: you don't know what to put through?
Speaker 4: Imagine what I'm going to be like now, imagine.
Speaker 3: Alfter some time off.
Speaker 2: On top of that, you are literally the reason that
Speaker 2: people are waiting two hours.
Speaker 3: You're obnoxious traveling. But I have to pull out my
Speaker 3: nun charks. I have to pull out my summer I saw.
Speaker 3: He's like, what do you mean?
Speaker 2: I can't take a gun on the plane?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: I wanted to bring before we get into your spicy questions.
Speaker 2: And we do have some spicy ones today, because the
Speaker 2: reason why we didn't want to leave it for two
Speaker 2: weeks is because the questions just surmount so quickly, and
Speaker 2: if we don't keep doing these ask gun cuts.
Speaker 3: Then they're gone forever into the neha.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean that's not why I do it.
Speaker 3: I want to do it because I'm all about helping
Speaker 3: the people.
Speaker 4: Okay, I can't let people sit for two weeks with
Speaker 4: their problems on Solved.
Speaker 2: I don't want the life admin anyway, capes guys. Before
Speaker 2: we get into it. There is something I read. Actually
Speaker 2: it's a bit of a TikTok trend. You know, that's
Speaker 2: where we love to get our hard hitting articles from.
Speaker 2: But there is a woman and I think that we
Speaker 2: can all take a little leaf out of her book.
Speaker 2: There is a woman who on TikTok has gone viral
Speaker 2: because she went on sixteen consecutive dates and I'm talking
Speaker 2: like one day after another day after another day legend
Speaker 2: with a different man each time. And it wasn't because
Speaker 2: she was interested in finding herself a lover. It's because
Speaker 2: she was so poor at university. She was trying to
Speaker 2: find a man to pay for her dinner every night.
Speaker 3: This is genius, is it?
Speaker 4: Though?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 1: I mean what were the rules around it? Was she
Speaker 1: going out to source these dates? Were they coming to her?
Speaker 3: Where did she find them? So I'm just gonna give
Speaker 3: you a bit of an overview.
Speaker 2: Her name is macaw Brock, and she shared a short
Speaker 2: video on TikTok with the text over it saying in college,
Speaker 2: when I ran out of money for food, I went
Speaker 2: on a dating app and for sixteen days straight, I
Speaker 2: had sixteen dinner dates in a row.
Speaker 3: Because girl's got a Literally.
Speaker 4: I think this is brilliant.
Speaker 2: So her rules were that she never asked a guy
Speaker 2: out for a date. It was only if a guy
Speaker 2: had asked her out for a date, and she was
Speaker 2: like she was sure that they were going to pay
Speaker 2: for wherever he was taking her.
Speaker 1: Okay, girl, what's your secret? Because how are you getting
Speaker 1: asked out on a date every day?
Speaker 4: How have you got sixteen people in a row? I reckon,
Speaker 4: I've had one this year.
Speaker 2: I like that that's where your mind goes to see.
Speaker 2: For me, I would because I know the logistics. I
Speaker 2: know how hard it is to get a good date.
Speaker 4: She's just lining them up left, right and center.
Speaker 2: But I think that's the thing. I don't think that
Speaker 2: they were good dates. I don't think the purpose of
Speaker 2: the date was the company. The purpose of the date
Speaker 2: was the meal. But my thought on this is like, yes,
Speaker 2: I understand I can fully relate to having financial troubles
Speaker 2: when I'm at university.
Speaker 3: I think I was exactly.
Speaker 2: I remember sitting at my desk at work and eating
Speaker 2: tuna and packet rice and five been and I'd mix
Speaker 2: the three things together and I ate that every single
Speaker 2: day with some crackers because I was so freaking university
Speaker 2: poor at the time. But the amount of effort that
Speaker 2: goes in to sitting in a date with someone who
Speaker 2: you don't want to date just to get a free meal,
Speaker 2: that is a level of effort I will never have
Speaker 2: in my body.
Speaker 4: No I could do that.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking back to my Uni days and I was like,
Speaker 1: there's some touch and go moment.
Speaker 3: There's a bit of devon there was. There was a
Speaker 3: lot of tuna.
Speaker 1: I think if you look, if you put a positive
Speaker 1: spin on her, right, they're not going to be a penguin.
Speaker 1: Maybe they are. Maybe she's like, do you know what,
Speaker 1: Maybe then day I'll meet someone really great and go
Speaker 1: on another date. Maybe the sixteen dates turned into thirty
Speaker 1: two dates. I think she's being really smart. She's probably
Speaker 1: learning something. They're probably all bringing something new to the table.
Speaker 1: You know, this is a great to meet new people.
Speaker 1: She's getting a good feed. If she's smart, she'd be
Speaker 1: going to the Oia buffet and putting some in.
Speaker 3: She's like asking if we can got a sizzler.
Speaker 4: Yeah, She's like, can we get pizza? Hat ogony and
Speaker 4: she put some in it like a container for the
Speaker 4: next day.
Speaker 2: Do you do that when you stay at a hotel?
Speaker 2: Do you steal stuff in the breakfast buffet?
Speaker 1: I mean not as a grown woman. I lived in
Speaker 1: a van in England for a while.
Speaker 3: Of course you did.
Speaker 1: I know, so I lived in a van, but not
Speaker 1: a van, guys, I can't explain this.
Speaker 4: Don't picture this like fun, loving, free gypsy life that's
Speaker 4: traveling around.
Speaker 3: I lived in a van.
Speaker 1: There was like just a tiny little removalless fan, no windows,
Speaker 1: a wooden floor. This wasn't built to travel in. It
Speaker 1: was built to like put a table in and move furniture.
Speaker 1: And I'm not talking a big van.
Speaker 4: It probably was. When I put my sleeping bag in it,
Speaker 4: I could only just fit.
Speaker 2: Well long did you live in a e vent a
Speaker 2: couple of months? Why where did you wash and shower
Speaker 2: and eat?
Speaker 4: I went to camping grounds and stuff.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: And I used to go to university with someone who
Speaker 2: I was quite good friends with at the time, and
Speaker 2: they would live out of their car, but they would
Speaker 2: they had a gym membership which was pretty cheap because
Speaker 2: it was a student gym membership at the Uni and
Speaker 2: they would have their shower and everything at the gym
Speaker 2: and then they would just eat on campus, but they
Speaker 2: lived out of their car.
Speaker 1: This was when I used to surf a lot and
Speaker 1: we were going to camping grounds and I would serve
Speaker 1: so be in the water and you would there's always
Speaker 1: like bathrooms and stuff and showers. So sometimes when there
Speaker 1: wasn't even a proper shower, I would just literally be
Speaker 1: that personal showers on the on the beach shower.
Speaker 3: I'd have my.
Speaker 4: Soap, but I'd have my heck.
Speaker 1: Anyway, The point of this story is when I was
Speaker 1: living in the van with no windows and no bed,
Speaker 1: I used to go to these pizza huts and over
Speaker 1: in England they had other types of like all you
Speaker 1: can eat kind of stuff and I used to take it.
Speaker 1: I got to container from like a Cheapo shop two dollars.
Speaker 1: I used to take it and I used to smuggle
Speaker 1: and fill it with food. So yeah, I'd eat my
Speaker 1: dinner and then i'd take but I couldn't reheat it,
Speaker 1: so it's cold because I lived at a vand so
Speaker 1: I would take it and eat it cold the next
Speaker 1: day and I just.
Speaker 4: Ate pizza hut for months. I couldn't afford anything else.
Speaker 3: How good were the bacon bits though? Or that was sizzler?
Speaker 2: Anyway, back to this girl, let's okay. The one thing
Speaker 2: about this though, that I think is slightly problematic.
Speaker 3: The internet is divided.
Speaker 2: Is it unkind to use somebody just to get a
Speaker 2: free meal, knowing full well that you're not interested in
Speaker 2: them at all, and leading them on for that date.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not great. No, But do we know
Speaker 1: she wasn't interested though, yeah, was interested.
Speaker 2: She wasn't going for quality over quantity. It was quantity
Speaker 2: over quality because she just wanted a guy to pay
Speaker 2: for her meals.
Speaker 3: I think it's a.
Speaker 2: Bit bloody mean, But at the same time, I'm like,
Speaker 2: if you're going to go to that much effort and
Speaker 2: then you pretty much deserveed me out of it.
Speaker 1: I mean that is like, as much as we can laugh,
Speaker 1: that is different. If she knows that she had absolutely
Speaker 1: zero interest, then it's it's it's funny, but it's not cool.
Speaker 1: It's not nice to them at all. But if she
Speaker 1: was waiting for the people to ask her out that
Speaker 1: she had an interest in, I think that's okay.
Speaker 2: She definitely had no interest and it was all about
Speaker 2: the food, because, as she said, girl's got to eat.
Speaker 3: Don't you remember?
Speaker 1: This reminds me we spoke about this, but I mean
Speaker 1: we've done nearly three hundred episodes, so you might not remember.
Speaker 4: It's a good chance we spoke about this, probably every
Speaker 4: year ago. About the Japanese man. The thirty nine year
Speaker 4: old Japanese man, and he.
Speaker 1: Was arrested because what he was doing was going on
Speaker 1: dates with women and then getting into serious relationships with them,
Speaker 1: but multiple at a time, like sixteen seventeen at a time.
Speaker 1: He told them all as soon as he got into
Speaker 1: the relationship, he got him really quickly, like he's like
Speaker 1: I really want to be with you, I love you
Speaker 1: or whatever. As soon as you're relationship, he would tell
Speaker 1: them his birthday. He changed his birthday. His birthday was
Speaker 1: always like a month.
Speaker 2: Away, and he got all these really expensive presents and
Speaker 2: then cash them in and then we'll go to the
Speaker 2: next girlfriend.
Speaker 3: He got charged. He got charged for fraud.
Speaker 2: He got charged for faking his birthday at the end
Speaker 2: of the day, but no, it was fraud. He actually
Speaker 2: got charged for take for defrauding these women out of
Speaker 2: thousands of dollars for birthday presents, and.
Speaker 4: He just kept saying it was my birthday next month.
Speaker 3: I mean, how do you keep up with that?
Speaker 4: Until one day he slipped up and someone was like,
Speaker 4: hang on a minute.
Speaker 2: One thing I think that we can all agree on
Speaker 2: is that his love language was gifts and her love
Speaker 2: language was food. A hundred All right, well, I feel
Speaker 2: like we could talk about this forever, but that is
Speaker 2: not why you were here. We have picked out some
Speaker 2: saucy questions for you guys today, and we are doing
Speaker 2: our absolute best to answer them. So let's get into
Speaker 2: question number one.
Speaker 1: This is like a little bit opposite to what most
Speaker 1: people's problem is, so I'm interested to see what you think.
Speaker 1: My question is what do I do if a guy
Speaker 1: lasts too long?
Speaker 3: Yes? You heard that right, people too long.
Speaker 1: I've recently started seeing a guy and I really like
Speaker 1: where it's going. But when we have sex, it lasts
Speaker 1: a really fucking long time, to the point where I
Speaker 1: orgasm once or twice before he even does. Now, this
Speaker 1: might seem like every woman's dream, but I feel guilty.
Speaker 1: It's like a fucking nightmare. I feel guilty, and sometimes
Speaker 1: it just hurts. I just don't enjoy it anymore.
Speaker 4: What do you think about this?
Speaker 3: What do I do? How do I broach it?
Speaker 2: I think that this like we spend so much time
Speaker 2: talking about men who don't last long enough. I feel
Speaker 2: sorry for the women who are being pounded into the
Speaker 2: ground Poundtown, Poundtown, but far like pound past Poundtown into
Speaker 2: like yeah late pound cemetery.
Speaker 3: Yeah, from Poundtown to Pound cemetery.
Speaker 4: R ipe.
Speaker 2: I once stated a guy not to get into a
Speaker 2: personal story, but you know, we love one here who
Speaker 2: was like a jackhammer forty five minute jack hammer. Yeah, standard,
Speaker 2: it was the worst. Was the worst forty five minutes
Speaker 2: to an hour of my life and like walk half
Speaker 2: a days. I bruised, but like to not with ail,
Speaker 2: like I would have come in the first seven minutes
Speaker 2: and then it's forty minutes of just being pounded.
Speaker 3: But did he.
Speaker 4: Did he was there any like position change?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we would change things up, but it was
Speaker 2: just always like bang bang bang bang bang bang bang
Speaker 2: bang bang. And I was like, how are you not
Speaker 2: coming yet? Like we like just did all the theatrics.
Speaker 2: I was like, maybe I don't know, Okay. My number
Speaker 2: one suggestion to you is like if you were with
Speaker 2: a guy who lasts a really, really long time, invest
Speaker 2: in some good quality lube, like instead of just laying
Speaker 2: there and taking it until you turn into sandpaper.
Speaker 3: The first things first is you need some lube. That's
Speaker 3: your best friend. I don't know what you do. This
Speaker 3: hasn't happened to me.
Speaker 1: I have never been in a situation where someone just
Speaker 1: annihilated me and doesn't end.
Speaker 4: Really, you've never had sex.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm just good.
Speaker 1: Spread it daily mail, pick it up.
Speaker 3: It has nothing to do with like how good it does.
Speaker 3: Yeah's exactly.
Speaker 2: There are just some guys who are just like not
Speaker 2: that stimulator or not overly. It takes them a really
Speaker 2: long time to get to it. I also think, and
Speaker 2: this is something that maybe could be worth a conversation,
Speaker 2: there are some men who think that they're supposed to
Speaker 2: last a really, really long time, who think that it's
Speaker 2: supposed to be an ultra sex marathon. Most women don't
Speaker 2: want to have sex for an hour unless they have
Speaker 2: like real unless you have decided, yes, we're gonna make
Speaker 2: a real night of this sexy time. I would say
Speaker 2: that most people don't walk into sex hoping that it's
Speaker 2: going to take an hour.
Speaker 1: Well, what could be happening is if you are taking
Speaker 1: a leaf out of Laura's book, and you're like, I
Speaker 1: was bringing a theatric, so I was trying to make
Speaker 1: it great.
Speaker 2: He's probably like, she's fucking loving at Like, I'll.
Speaker 4: Just keep going.
Speaker 2: And some guys can actually and I know this because
Speaker 2: I've spoken to Mad about it, some guys can actually
Speaker 2: like stopped themselves from comings and then they can go longer,
Speaker 2: and then they'll keep and obviously the more that they
Speaker 2: stop themselves or they prolong that orgasm, the more that
Speaker 2: the orgasm that they finally has is like fucking phenomenal.
Speaker 2: But like, if that is at the detriment to your
Speaker 2: poor vagina turning into a worn down piece of sandpaper,
Speaker 2: I think that you can maybe have a conversation, which
Speaker 2: is like manage expectations. If you are going to start
Speaker 2: having sex, be like, oh God, is this going to be?
Speaker 2: Not saying times, don't say oh God, start crying. That's
Speaker 2: just managing each person's expectations, like explain or maybe just
Speaker 2: say to him, oh, like I just really want to
Speaker 2: have a quickie, and then see what he says and
Speaker 2: see if it is a quickie, because he might think
Speaker 2: that you want to have sex for forty five minutes.
Speaker 2: I think you can be really I mean like controversial,
Speaker 2: but I think you can be really honest in this situation.
Speaker 4: You're seeing him you're in.
Speaker 1: If you're in the middle of sex and it's hurting you,
Speaker 1: no one should ever have to be doing that. I
Speaker 1: would say that. I would literally say, Hey, are you
Speaker 1: going to come? Are you going to be able to
Speaker 1: wrap this up soon? And I was like, because you
Speaker 1: know this is starting to hurt now, I would just
Speaker 1: be I would just be honest because he's okay, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know in the middle of sex, are you saying that?
Speaker 2: You would just roll over and be like, Hey, are
Speaker 2: you going to come soon? Because you're starting to hurt?
Speaker 4: YEP, I would say are you going to come soon?
Speaker 1: Because sometimes it's not going to happen sometimes, you guys,
Speaker 1: it's the same as girls, very like I think it
Speaker 1: happens for women more. I think it's generally speaking, I
Speaker 1: think it's probably easier for men to come. But sometimes
Speaker 1: maybe they've come too many times that day, maybe they've
Speaker 1: masturbated whatever. Maybe it's not going to happen for them
Speaker 1: in that moment and they just keep going. So maybe
Speaker 1: if you just say to them, do you think you're
Speaker 1: gonna come soon, because I've come twice.
Speaker 3: I'm ready to wrap it up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you just say that because if people
Speaker 1: aren't armed with information, and this is in any aspect
Speaker 1: of life, how can you make a decision for that
Speaker 1: situation where you don't know If he thinks you are
Speaker 1: having the time of your life, he's gonna keep going.
Speaker 1: But if he's like, oh, she wants to finish, he
Speaker 1: might be able to finish in two minutes.
Speaker 3: He might be holding off for you totally.
Speaker 2: There's nothing worse than laying on your back, staring at
Speaker 2: the ceiling, trying to moan convincingly and really like for
Speaker 2: like twenty minutes past when.
Speaker 1: It should have ended one hundred percent said, It comes
Speaker 1: back to the same thing. I think honesty is the
Speaker 1: best policy.
Speaker 4: Can I say on one.
Speaker 2: Thing that you did just say, brit which I think
Speaker 2: cannot be overlooked in this Maybe he is masturbating when
Speaker 2: you're not around, And like we do know that the
Speaker 2: more a guy actually ejaculates, the longer it can then
Speaker 2: take him to get to organ and the next time.
Speaker 2: So like if he's only just maybe given himself a
Speaker 2: hand drop that morning or that afternoon and then you.
Speaker 3: Guys are going to have sex.
Speaker 2: That could be part and parcel as to why it's
Speaker 2: taking him so long to actually come. So maybe the
Speaker 2: heaps of guys do that because they want to last longer. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because I don't want to go and have sex with
Speaker 2: a girl they really.
Speaker 3: Like and last two minutes. So I have so many male.
Speaker 1: Friends and you know, partners in the past, I have
Speaker 1: said that they're like, oh, yeah, you'll always jack off
Speaker 1: before you go on a hot day, like because you
Speaker 1: don't want to go in last two seconds.
Speaker 2: Also, like I think if it just is the case
Speaker 2: that he is somebody who lasts a really long time
Speaker 2: and it's becoming tiresome.
Speaker 4: For you, there's usually something.
Speaker 2: That will get your partner off quickly, whether it's like
Speaker 2: you know, I don't know, something that you can whisper
Speaker 2: in the ear, whether it's it's there's usually something that
Speaker 2: will get them over the Do you.
Speaker 1: Whisper the mat Laura and you want to wrap it
Speaker 1: up it's been seven minutes, You're like, Oka, if your
Speaker 1: blow job next week, you give your finishes right now.
Speaker 2: Also, that's another option, right, Like you don't have to
Speaker 2: get to the finish line by having sex, like you
Speaker 2: can finish off.
Speaker 3: By giving him a blowout.
Speaker 4: Or whether he's not gonna come meagine you get Lockjawn.
Speaker 1: You can't go and give a blow job if he's
Speaker 1: not going to come in sex, it's like rip good luck.
Speaker 2: I do want to say though, that I think that
Speaker 2: this is a very relatable question. I know, Brittany, you
Speaker 2: have never experienced this, but I am going to bet
Speaker 2: my life that there are so many women out there
Speaker 2: listening to this who have had sex with somebody who
Speaker 2: just takes too long, and it's almost as bad, if
Speaker 2: not worse than someone who doesn't take long enough one
Speaker 2: hundred percent.
Speaker 4: But what's your answer? My answer is just to honestly
Speaker 4: the best policy.
Speaker 3: Yes, I think honestly is the best policy. But then
Speaker 3: I think there are a few other things that you
Speaker 3: do as well.
Speaker 4: I can I just say as well, it's a loop.
Speaker 4: It's definitely an education thing.
Speaker 1: So if people aren't taught something or or it's never
Speaker 1: spoken about, they're not going to know. And what I
Speaker 1: mean by that is there will be a lot of
Speaker 1: men out there that think the more times a woman
Speaker 1: can come, the better.
Speaker 3: But it's not necessarily like that. For everyone like you.
Speaker 1: You say you can come one or two times, and
Speaker 1: then you and the second time is still great, but
Speaker 1: come the third time, a, it's not gonna happening, and
Speaker 1: be it's getting uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: But if you don't tell him that.
Speaker 3: He's gonna be like, oh yeah, let's so again. How
Speaker 3: many times can I make you come? He doesn't know
Speaker 3: that all of a sudden it changes for you.
Speaker 2: And some people can have like infinite number of orgasms,
Speaker 2: like all the power to you. But for me, if
Speaker 2: I ever get to number two, I am wham bam,
Speaker 2: thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 3: I'm done.
Speaker 2: That is shut down for business. Oh no, I see
Speaker 2: I could go to probably four four?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and in what period of time in
Speaker 1: the same session, Wait, like an hour, half an hour?
Speaker 3: Like, how many times is he going to get you
Speaker 3: to four? Fifteen minutes? No? He no, he would only
Speaker 3: go once.
Speaker 2: Wait, in one back to back sex session, you can
Speaker 2: have four orgasms?
Speaker 3: Yeah fucking yeah?
Speaker 4: Average three.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I'm pretty lucky average three, but I've four
Speaker 1: has been my I think four has been my record.
Speaker 3: That is impressive.
Speaker 4: Yeah, when forget the.
Speaker 3: Spot, let's get into question number two.
Speaker 2: I feel like this one has some similarities to the
Speaker 2: number one question, so I thought I would bring this
Speaker 2: one hot and ready and.
Speaker 3: Rearing off the back of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'd been with my boy for a few years now,
Speaker 2: but we were kept apart due to COVID for a
Speaker 2: year before this. The sex was well and truly on fire.
Speaker 2: It was amazing and I was loving it since. However,
Speaker 2: we have been reunited, which was almost a year ago. Now,
Speaker 2: he has trouble playing the long game from too long
Speaker 2: to not long enough, and typically as soon as he
Speaker 2: puts it in, he literally can't move because.
Speaker 3: He will finish immediately.
Speaker 2: I'm a thirsty girl and I have been known to
Speaker 2: hit double digits with my orgasms when I'm with him
Speaker 2: in the past. I really miss this. I really miss
Speaker 2: our sex life. He is perfect in every other way possible,
Speaker 2: But I don't know if this is going to fulfill
Speaker 2: me long term.
Speaker 3: What do I do?
Speaker 2: Can I have a conversation with him about this? How
Speaker 2: do I bring it up with him without completely destroying
Speaker 2: his self esteem?
Speaker 3: You can't do? You care?
Speaker 4: I'm joking. Of course you can, but he's gonna be devoted.
Speaker 3: But the thing is, I know how old are one?
Speaker 4: I feel like I've gone back in time. I've been
Speaker 4: saying bro and devoted lately.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's happened becoming more bogan. I don't
Speaker 3: know what's happened to me.
Speaker 1: I go through these phases anyway. He's going to be
Speaker 1: devoted for sure, because viewing no one, no man or
Speaker 1: woman wants to hear that, like they're not pleasing their
Speaker 1: partner in the bedroom. The fact is he's coming in
Speaker 1: two seconds. He's aware of that. That's sort of secret.
Speaker 4: He's not doing that without his own knowledge.
Speaker 1: So he knows that there is no way you are
Speaker 1: getting off.
Speaker 4: He knows that there's no way there's pleasure. So it's
Speaker 4: a bit weird. It's a bit like the elephant in
Speaker 4: the room.
Speaker 1: If he's putting it in coming and then you just
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine the scene. Do you both just
Speaker 1: roll over and look at the ceiling?
Speaker 4: How do you not?
Speaker 3: How do you not recognize it?
Speaker 2: I think the big part of this is like knowing
Speaker 2: that you can obviously be satisfied and have a great
Speaker 2: sex life. It doesn't have to just come down to
Speaker 2: penetrative sex, right, That doesn't have to be the end goal.
Speaker 2: And knowing that he is capable of it, but something
Speaker 2: else has happened amongst the change the COVID.
Speaker 4: Like flat COVID.
Speaker 3: That was a weird time for everyone.
Speaker 2: I think it's had some long stemming mental health impacts
Speaker 2: and on that long oh, it's impacted people in a
Speaker 2: lot of ways, and maybe he's got anxiety in this
Speaker 2: life in others aspects. We've only got a really small
Speaker 2: snapshot on what's happening in this guy's life from your question.
Speaker 2: The other part of this is sometimes in sex, I've
Speaker 2: experienced this before with an X when now it's a problem,
Speaker 2: you know, like whether you guys have spoken about it
Speaker 2: or not, Like he knows that he's coming pretty much
Speaker 2: as soon as he's inside you, and he knows that
Speaker 2: that's different to how it used to be. And then therefore,
Speaker 2: the next time you have sex, instead of thinking about
Speaker 2: enjoying yourself, taking it slow, getting in the mood, all
Speaker 2: he's probably thinking is fuck, don't come, don't come, don't fuck,
Speaker 2: I've came again. You know, it becomes the anxiety around
Speaker 2: not coming becomes more prevalent in you guys having sex
Speaker 2: than what actually enjoying it is. And I think that
Speaker 2: like that's where the issues stem. I feel like you're
Speaker 2: doing yourself a disservice by not acknowledging it and not
Speaker 2: like having a conversation because at least like by then
Speaker 2: discussing the elephant in the room and not in like
Speaker 2: a I'm not satisfied kind of way, but just being like, hey,
Speaker 2: you know, is there something that's going on? Do you
Speaker 2: feel like you're in your head about this? Like what
Speaker 2: can we do to take the pressure off the bedroom?
Speaker 2: So instead of the next time you go into the
Speaker 2: bedroom to have sex, instead of it being penetrative sex,
Speaker 2: maybe you go back to ground zero and you just
Speaker 2: do for play, like you just have oral sex. You
Speaker 2: just kind of get each other off with your hands
Speaker 2: and take penetration out of the equation for a little
Speaker 2: while until he gets to a point where it's not
Speaker 2: such a big deal. But I think the thing we
Speaker 2: need to recognize is too that premature ejaculation is a
Speaker 2: thing and it's nothing to be ashamed of and.
Speaker 1: Something that probably more people than you realize experience. You
Speaker 1: go and speak to a specialist or a doctor like
Speaker 1: if this is and from what you've said, this is extreme,
Speaker 1: You've said he literally can't move, he puts it in
Speaker 1: and he can't me or he'll come. So this isn't
Speaker 1: just like I'm super horny and can't wait. There's more
Speaker 1: going on here, and the worst thing you can do
Speaker 1: is pretend it's not going on and make it like
Speaker 1: it's an embarrassing thing to go and seek help.
Speaker 2: It's not embarrassing. There are people going through it all
Speaker 2: the time, and there is help for it.
Speaker 1: So maybe you just say hey, like exactly like said, hey,
Speaker 1: what's going on, Like, let's just chat about this. And
Speaker 1: if you need to go on, like if he needs
Speaker 1: to go and speak to someone, that's okay, But he
Speaker 1: is going to feed off your energy and the way
Speaker 1: you feel about it. So if he thinks you're embarrassed
Speaker 1: and you're awkward and you're not enjoying it and you
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it, he's going to feel
Speaker 1: that as well, and it's going to intensify it.
Speaker 4: But if you just sit down and you're really open
Speaker 4: about it and say let's get.
Speaker 1: To the bottom of itr like, let's sort this out,
Speaker 1: let's get back to it, he's going to be more
Speaker 1: engaged and more likely to go and seek help for it.
Speaker 2: And I think especially when you talk about this from
Speaker 2: like being in a place where you've had an amazing
Speaker 2: sex life prior. If it was something that had never
Speaker 2: existed in your relationship and it was a problem from
Speaker 2: day one, I would say like, okay, well, then this
Speaker 2: is something that maybe a constant in relationship, something that
Speaker 2: you have to work through. But this is something that's changed,
Speaker 2: so there's obviously an impacting factor here, and maybe talking
Speaker 2: it out and like Britt said, going and seeing a
Speaker 2: specialist and getting to the bottom of it will mean
Speaker 2: that you can both get down to poundtown really appropriate
Speaker 2: length of time.
Speaker 4: Yes, without any chafing and without any page all.
Speaker 3: Right, all right? Question number three? Am I being unreasonable? Yes?
Speaker 3: Or all right?
Speaker 2: I think that this is an interesting one. It's a
Speaker 2: very specific question. Or would most girlfriends think it is
Speaker 2: not not respectful for your boyfriend to put another girl
Speaker 2: on his shoulders at a festival?
Speaker 3: I was not expecting this is it's.
Speaker 2: Very, very fucking specific. So I've been dating my boyfriend
Speaker 2: for nearly two years and we are in a loving,
Speaker 2: committed relationship. However, I feel insecure at times about one
Speaker 2: of his girlfriends who he used to have a crush
Speaker 2: on for many many years in high school and all
Speaker 2: throughout UTI. She never liked him though, so nothing ever
Speaker 2: happened between them. They are still friends, which I'm okay with,
Speaker 2: of course, as they are in the same friendship group
Speaker 2: that I have become a part of. I feel I
Speaker 2: am quite reasonable. However, I was told that at a
Speaker 2: festival last weekend he put her on his shoulders, which
Speaker 2: made me feel really upset and insecure. I'm guessing that
Speaker 2: she wasn't at the festival. He said it was just
Speaker 2: a momentary thing, and he has constantly reassured me that
Speaker 2: he feels absolutely nothing for her. But I can't help
Speaker 2: but feel upset and I feel entirely disrespected that he.
Speaker 3: Would even do that.
Speaker 2: I guess what I'm wondering is should I be feeling disrespected?
Speaker 3: Am I overreacting? Or is this a deal breaker?
Speaker 4: Definitely not a deal breaker.
Speaker 3: It's definitely not deal definitely not like.
Speaker 1: No, if you break up over this, where do we.
Speaker 3: Go from this? I feel?
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that like having a girl on
Speaker 2: your shoulders could be deemed as being.
Speaker 4: A bit flirtatious and vagina's neck.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's like the genitools turn around the other way
Speaker 2: and you could be going down on her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is not the Exorcis. Girls sit around in like.
Speaker 2: Three sixty ok okay, and he doesn't have a mouth
Speaker 2: on the back of his neck.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: My my first instinct here is I totally understand where
Speaker 1: your feelings are coming from, because they have some sort
Speaker 1: of connection. Now, whether they actually ever did hook up,
Speaker 1: whether he had a crush on her, whether she had
Speaker 1: a crush on him, there's obviously something that's been there
Speaker 1: in the past, So I get why you would feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: especially because you weren't there from the outskirts. This to
Speaker 1: me seems pretty innocent.
Speaker 2: If you're at a festival, there's people ever here, there's music,
Speaker 2: happy probably been drinking. The ViBe's high, she's still in
Speaker 2: the friendship circle. I don't think this moment would have
Speaker 2: been too thought out. I think it would have been
Speaker 2: very spontaneous. It would have been like everyone else is
Speaker 2: doing it, throw me up. He was there available, his
Speaker 2: shoulders were free. Also, like he's not going to do
Speaker 2: it in public around everyone if he thought it was
Speaker 2: something sinister, you know, like there wasn't ill intent in that.
Speaker 2: Those feelings that you have have also come as a
Speaker 2: result of your insecurities around knowing that he used to
Speaker 2: have a crush on her.
Speaker 1: And he's you have said, he has made it really,
Speaker 1: really obvious, and he's really reassured you that there's nothing
Speaker 1: there and it wasn't anything. He didn't even think about it,
Speaker 1: And I think you need to accept that, Like, don't
Speaker 1: make a mountain out of a molehill. That is what
Speaker 1: I think is happening here. This has the potential to
Speaker 1: keep snowball into something huge. And let me tell you,
Speaker 1: he's going to get exasperated. He's going to be like,
Speaker 1: for fuck's sake, like I like to me this, I
Speaker 1: didn't even think about it. He would have been like,
Speaker 1: I was there, it was two seconds, everyone's partying. She
Speaker 1: jumped on my She he probably didn't even think about it. Again,
Speaker 1: And I think if you're in a relationship he has
Speaker 1: tried to reassure you, you need to accept that or
Speaker 1: this is unless you actually one of those people that
Speaker 1: are constantly wanting to fight about stuff you know is
Speaker 1: not healthy in any relationship.
Speaker 4: But I would just take his word for it.
Speaker 2: And the fact of the matter is she is in
Speaker 2: their friendship group, so they are going to have interactions
Speaker 2: from here to there, and you need to get to
Speaker 2: a place where you're okay with it, unless, of course,
Speaker 2: they're like going out one on one. That's different if
Speaker 2: you won't have had a coffee with her one on
Speaker 2: one and you found out about it.
Speaker 4: Different story.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: I think the big thing here for me is like,
Speaker 2: ask yourself, if it had been anybody else, would you
Speaker 2: be okay with it? Like if it was another girl
Speaker 2: in the friendship group, would you be okay with it?
Speaker 3: Or is it a random yeah?
Speaker 2: Is it just because you know that back a few
Speaker 2: years ago he had a crush on her, Like, just
Speaker 2: because he had a crush on her a few years
Speaker 2: ago doesn't mean he has any romantic feelings for her now.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we just have to with these sorts of situations
Speaker 2: go okay. It doesn't make me feel great. Something about
Speaker 2: it makes me feel a bit icky, But I'm not
Speaker 2: going to sabotage my relationship or create a huge issue
Speaker 2: when he's already done everything he can, he's apologized, he's
Speaker 2: reassured you.
Speaker 3: And second to that.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think, especially when we're jealous, because jealousy is
Speaker 2: such a fucking blinding emotion.
Speaker 3: When we're in and we have.
Speaker 2: Full emotion jealousy, you can think, especially because you're not there,
Speaker 2: you didn't see how it all went down.
Speaker 3: You didn't see the tone.
Speaker 4: Or the vibe of the situation in your head.
Speaker 3: They probably fucked it.
Speaker 2: Behind the demand of you think, your brain just instantly
Speaker 2: goes to worst case scenario. Your brain will play tricks
Speaker 2: on you, because that's what jealousy does. And jealousy is
Speaker 2: an emotion that comes when you're fearful of losing something,
Speaker 2: and it's a really controlling feeling. So I think, like,
Speaker 2: instead of trying to keep him in check where he
Speaker 2: sounds like he's actually a pretty great guy, just think about, Okay,
Speaker 2: where are these feelings coming from, where are these insecurities
Speaker 2: coming from, and working on that rather than keeping on
Speaker 2: bringing this up in your relationship because it is going
Speaker 2: to not end well. And his reaction for me is
Speaker 2: a real telltale sign. I think that this is something
Speaker 2: that you need to He has reacted in a way
Speaker 2: that you want your partner to react in, which.
Speaker 4: Is like fuck, sorry, like I didn't.
Speaker 1: Realize everything I can to make you feel good. I
Speaker 1: promise there's nothing there, Like we didn't think about it.
Speaker 1: If he had turned around to you and said, fuck
Speaker 1: you, you're so controlling.
Speaker 3: I'll do whatever the fuck I want. Don't tell me
Speaker 3: what to do. That's I'd be like, run for the hills.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do it at the next festival on the weekend.
Speaker 2: And if he does do it again in the future
Speaker 2: with the same girl, then of course you're going to
Speaker 2: be like, well, that is a problem.
Speaker 4: This is a reoccurring problem.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he did what every His response was what
Speaker 2: you could only hope for.
Speaker 1: It was very it seems like very respectful and honest.
Speaker 1: So I think, don't I think you are. You're for
Speaker 1: sure overthinking this, and okay, put yourself again.
Speaker 4: I love this. Put yourself in the situation. Picture this.
Speaker 4: You're at a festival. He's not there. You're all having fun.
Speaker 4: There's this big group of people.
Speaker 2: It's crowded, the music's going, it's your favorite band.
Speaker 1: Everyone's on each other's shoulders. You're there alone, but someone
Speaker 1: else in.
Speaker 3: The group is like, jump up.
Speaker 4: You would be like, what chances are You'd be like WHOA, Yes,
Speaker 4: you wouldn't even think about it. You would jump on.
Speaker 4: You would have fun, you wouldn't think twice, you'd get
Speaker 4: off and you get on with your day.
Speaker 2: So and don't get me wrong, like, I agree with
Speaker 2: you completely, brit when you put it in that perspective,
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, yes, yes, But then I also think
Speaker 2: about it from her perspective, Like if Matt was at
Speaker 2: a festival without me and he got a really hot
Speaker 2: chick to jump up on his shoulders, there would be
Speaker 2: a little bit of me that was like, oh, that's okay,
Speaker 2: Like why did you do that? You know, I would
Speaker 2: feel there would be a little bit of me, But
Speaker 2: would that feeling be strong enough for me to like,
Speaker 2: is it a fuel breaker? I'm gonna leave my fucking
Speaker 2: the father of my children because he put a chick
Speaker 2: on his shoulders at a festival. There would be a
Speaker 2: part of me that would say, hey, that makes me
Speaker 2: feel a bit weird.
Speaker 3: Please don't do that again.
Speaker 2: And I would hope that he respected me enough that
Speaker 2: he just didn't do that again and that's the end
Speaker 2: of it, or go to the festival with him anyway,
Speaker 2: that is from us that three short, sharp and sexy
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Speaker 2: to be a catch up on some of the ask
Speaker 2: Guncut questions that we've asked. We've reached out to people
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Speaker 3: Did they take our advices? Did they run for the hills?
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