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<v Speaker 1>Pad, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Sweety Pike's on today's show, We Must Discuss for Me

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<v Speaker 3>has the ultimate list of scary movies. It's not just

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<v Speaker 3>someone's opinion that they've been calculated by heart rate.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very interesting. You'll enjoy it. Ladies and gentlemen. It's

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<v Speaker 1>time for Flexi's Big Question of the Week.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the segment where I ask you a question to

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<v Speaker 3>get you to think more deeply about what you think,

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<v Speaker 3>why you think it, and who is influencing the way

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<v Speaker 3>that you think people. For the last few weeks, we've

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<v Speaker 3>been talking about misconceptions and stereotypes. How are you being

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<v Speaker 3>misconcept misconceived, misconceptualized?

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<v Speaker 2>What is that?

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<v Speaker 3>How are you being perceived incorrectly by the people around you?

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<v Speaker 3>But also how might you use that to your advantage?

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<v Speaker 3>That's or about flipper transmuter. We can't be suffering every

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<v Speaker 3>day for the question this week, it's going.

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<v Speaker 1>To be a hard one.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh oh, I don't know my own answer, but I

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<v Speaker 3>think that it'll be juicy anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the last thing you changed your mind on? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>My eyes are darting around the room.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm constantly taking a new information changing

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<v Speaker 3>my mind. But the reason that I'm asking is because

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<v Speaker 3>I think a lot of people, myself included, can feel

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<v Speaker 3>quite validated holding strong opinions that are steadfast and never changing,

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<v Speaker 3>because it makes you look like you are consistent and

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<v Speaker 3>reliable and what you see is what you get.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think it's very wise to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be able to say, oh, I got some new information

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<v Speaker 3>and I changed my mind and now I see things differently.

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<v Speaker 3>One thing that comes up is a friend of mine

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<v Speaker 3>was talking recently about how she used to be quite

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<v Speaker 3>a like a people pleaser, like that was her approach

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<v Speaker 3>to life, and she has never seen it as being manipulative,

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<v Speaker 3>but she often talks about feeling taking advantage of by

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<v Speaker 3>her peers, and she feels like she does everything for

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<v Speaker 3>her people and no one does anything else for her.

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<v Speaker 3>And recently she was listening to the show about the

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<v Speaker 3>New York Times advice article that we talked about. It

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<v Speaker 3>was a similar story of this guy feeling as though

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<v Speaker 3>like he does too much for his friends, he cares

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<v Speaker 3>too much, And our kind of response was, have you

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<v Speaker 3>put yourself in this position where you were giving with

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<v Speaker 3>the intention to receive something in return. It's not coming,

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<v Speaker 3>and now you feel silly forgiving so freely. And so

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<v Speaker 3>she read that piece and was like whoa. Yeah, she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>I have this fear of being left behind, like the

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<v Speaker 3>odd one out in the group, like the one that

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<v Speaker 3>people won't realize is missing, or they won't realize when

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not talking, they won't realize when I'm not okay,

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<v Speaker 3>And so I make myself available. She's liked, but people

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<v Speaker 3>don't really ask you to do anything. So like I

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<v Speaker 3>give myself to people like offer constantly. I'm always there.

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<v Speaker 3>I anticipate what they need, so they feel indebted to me.

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<v Speaker 3>So they feel like I could never give up on her,

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<v Speaker 3>Like she's so amazing. She does X, Y and Z

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<v Speaker 3>for me. So I was like, that's big, the big

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<v Speaker 3>thing to change your mind on.

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<v Speaker 1>Scary it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I'm changing my mind on the value of meditating.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, oh my word.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this, this is always bound to happen

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<v Speaker 2>at some point, is it not.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's because I was getting mixed signals about what

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<v Speaker 3>meditating is like fundamentally, is it having no thoughts? Is

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<v Speaker 3>it clearing your brain? Is it finding a way to

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<v Speaker 3>be peaceful. But I was I've explained to you before

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<v Speaker 3>for me that I don't think my mind is a

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<v Speaker 3>very busy place, Like if I am not talking, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't feel like I have an internal monologue that's like

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<v Speaker 3>confusing me.

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<v Speaker 1>Or like it's all over the place.

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<v Speaker 3>But then I thought to myself, why is it that

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<v Speaker 3>every time I go to sleep, I'm having all of

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<v Speaker 3>these thoughts. They're all just like coming up, And I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so creative, I'm so witty.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, no, baby, Like you.

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<v Speaker 3>Distract yourself all day with stuff, like you watch a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of stuff, you consume a lot of stuff, but

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<v Speaker 3>give yourself time to like decompress.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I've started.

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<v Speaker 3>Meditating again people before bed. No, I'm trying not to

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<v Speaker 3>do that because then I just end up sleeping. But

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<v Speaker 3>this idea of like giving yourself time to number one,

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<v Speaker 3>not not have thoughts, But what thoughts keep coming up

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<v Speaker 3>when you don't cloud your mind with other stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I changed my mind all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I don't want to give anyone reason to

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<v Speaker 2>doubt me. But maybe to the point where like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't really have necessary I can't think of a single

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<v Speaker 2>opinion that I've had my whole life that I'm steadfast on.

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<v Speaker 2>I Well, the one thing I think which could be

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<v Speaker 2>subject to change is that that's a good thing. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that I'm open to other opinions about stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>But what's your foundation?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I wonder if I don't have that? Oh, genuinely,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's where I've I've been thinking about a

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<v Speaker 2>lot with the book Something to get to the bottom of.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think everyone has it. I think I said

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<v Speaker 2>there might be some people like me.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there are plenty of people like you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>As always, if you have an answer to Flexi's big question,

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<v Speaker 3>which is what's the last thing you changed your mind on?

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<v Speaker 3>Go to our instagram right now. It's Flex and Rooms.

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<v Speaker 3>There'll be a question box on our Instagram's and that

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<v Speaker 3>so we can put your answers, and then coming up

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<v Speaker 3>on Thursday this week will share a lot of your

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<v Speaker 3>answers as we do. It's always so much fun. New

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<v Speaker 3>people are insightful, so insane. No man, that too, but

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<v Speaker 3>I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm an absolute slut for a scary movie.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me why.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very excited to see a ranking of the top

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<v Speaker 2>ten scariest movies of all time. And this is not

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<v Speaker 2>just going off vibes, it's going off a scientific bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a rubric. A rubric. They're calculating this off the

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<v Speaker 2>average heart rate of the person watching, also the average

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<v Speaker 2>heart rate of them watching during the movie. That's the comparison,

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<v Speaker 2>the overall difference, and from that they have produced a

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<v Speaker 2>list of ten movies. Do you have any suggestions of

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<v Speaker 2>what could be on there?

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<v Speaker 1>Saw no Doctor, I want the Blair Witch Project.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe that's just entry level spooks. So if you're a

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<v Speaker 3>real high buff, you've probably seen crazy stuff. What about

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<v Speaker 3>the Ring or something horrible movie? What about the strangers? Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>there's twenty twelve movie horrible. These people with the sacks

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<v Speaker 3>on their head, they just appear in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>There's someone out there.

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<v Speaker 2>I was even scared by a scary movie, The Funny Movie,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the trilogy, The Funny Way with Anna Anna Faris.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me read you out some of these movies and

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<v Speaker 2>you tell me, playing a long home if you have

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<v Speaker 2>watched any of them. If you are a spooky movie

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<v Speaker 2>a ficionado. Number one, sinister No, I see some Sinusa

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<v Speaker 2>things happening every day my heart reads copping off our

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<v Speaker 2>number two host no Skin Skinner RN Insidious. Yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 2>heard of that. I haven't watched it. The Conjuring, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard that's horrible. Have you watched it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I don't really. I don't retain movies. I consume okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct hereditary Yeah yeah, smile with our friend Kaylen Stacy Caitlyn.

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<v Speaker 2>I watched that the other day in bed with my mum.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me why she's going. She's genially go oh, and

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<v Speaker 2>she doesn't get scared. And I say, they got you,

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<v Speaker 2>didn't you? And she's like, I'm scared. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>start the fabric of time starts ripping apart, thinking that

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<v Speaker 2>my mum was ever scared the exorsm of Emily Rose

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<v Speaker 2>honestly leave Emily out of it. Hell House, LLC talk

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<v Speaker 2>to me. Australian and the Descent. I agree we need

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<v Speaker 2>to add Blair Witch Project. The Strangers saw American Horror

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<v Speaker 2>Story in some parts. The opening scene of American Horror Story,

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<v Speaker 2>that theme song chills down my spine. I also think

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<v Speaker 2>Black Mirror that spooky, as I guess not for the

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<v Speaker 2>heart rate. Though my heart rate I'm developing.

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<v Speaker 1>Maya carditis.

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<v Speaker 2>To say I'm developing. This is a low mood after

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<v Speaker 2>watching Black Mirror.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you know?

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot deal with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>You can go find this list on the internet by

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<v Speaker 2>suit watching scary movies twenty twelve top ten heart rate.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know twenty twelve. Oh that was a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand you're with flexing frings.

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<v Speaker 3>Ok.

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<v Speaker 2>Also the babaduk horrible stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 2>We have another moral issue to discuss with our friends

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<v Speaker 2>here on the show. We all, well most of us,

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<v Speaker 2>will find ourselves at a dinner with friends, a lunch,

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<v Speaker 2>or another situation where there is a bill that involves

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<v Speaker 2>all of us and there's often one person paying, or

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<v Speaker 2>we're splitting right, and we're not all getting the carbonara

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<v Speaker 2>at the past place in NEWTOWNA right, there's like some

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<v Speaker 2>people with the garlic bread, others are gone with the

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<v Speaker 2>pizza moment, and the bill will see that. Accordingly, we

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<v Speaker 2>have a listener who's written in with something that's grinding

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<v Speaker 2>their gears. Let me read it out to the audience,

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<v Speaker 2>dearest free MINDI and flex Mammy Annie. There's a situation

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<v Speaker 2>that's been grinding my gears and I need h elp help.

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<v Speaker 2>I work a pretty decent job, I would say a

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<v Speaker 2>pretty average salary for someone my age, nothing too crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>But amongst my friends there's a perception that I am

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<v Speaker 2>the rich one. I think this comes from working since

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<v Speaker 2>I was in high school and always hustling and being

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of a save in my whole life. I

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<v Speaker 2>skip out on events and concerts or buying new things

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<v Speaker 2>to save. I have always been frugal. It's getting frugal

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<v Speaker 2>for me. A lot of my friends are just starting

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<v Speaker 2>out in their careers and haven't climbed the latter as

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<v Speaker 2>quickly as I have.

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<v Speaker 1>Shape for dick.

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<v Speaker 2>More recently, my close friends have been particularly bitter towards

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<v Speaker 2>me when it comes to money. There's an expectation that

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<v Speaker 2>I will front bills, digs at me to buy people's

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<v Speaker 2>presents or shout people drinks. Often these friends won't pay

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<v Speaker 2>me back for weeks at a time, but if they

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<v Speaker 2>ever pay for a meal on the rare occasions, I

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<v Speaker 2>have to pay them back immediately, down to the scent.

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<v Speaker 2>For example, we've been out last week, my friend got

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<v Speaker 2>a glass of wine. I've got to be we're at

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<v Speaker 2>the same meal, and when the bill came even though

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<v Speaker 2>I drinks had a difference of two dollars fifty. She

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<v Speaker 2>sent three to four minutes calculating the exact difference between

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<v Speaker 2>now meals instead of just splitting it down the middle.

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<v Speaker 2>I know money is such a hard topic, but at

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<v Speaker 2>twenty eight is this did I write this? Don't worry

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<v Speaker 2>guys for twenty four I didn't think I would still

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<v Speaker 2>be annoyed at my long term friends over money. I

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<v Speaker 2>assumed at this stage in my life we would happily

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<v Speaker 2>be shouting each other and be more generous to our finances,

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<v Speaker 2>given I know they aren't struggling financially. I'm lost with this.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys, please help. I have learnt how to be

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<v Speaker 2>generous from people around me, but I will say the

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<v Speaker 2>rules apply to different people. Ooh, I have friends with

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<v Speaker 2>whoms we will split to the scent, I have other

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<v Speaker 2>friends with whoms. One dinner, three hundred dollars we paid

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<v Speaker 2>by one person, knowing that it will be repaid either

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<v Speaker 2>monetarily or by something else in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if everyone has this. They must. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>there are some people. I've noticed it also with my

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<v Speaker 2>own family.

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<v Speaker 1>Is the white people think.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gagged, consider me gagged more.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, No.

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<v Speaker 3>I think just collective cultures versus individualistic cultures. What we

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<v Speaker 3>learn about money and sharing it, whether we're generous or

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<v Speaker 3>tight with it, it's coming from our parents generally, and

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<v Speaker 3>our parents or parents of or the generation that our

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<v Speaker 3>parents exist in haven't been informed by anything else but

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<v Speaker 3>their cultural context. Right, we have the Internet, and we

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<v Speaker 3>have we are culturally mingling and being multicultural and sharing

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<v Speaker 3>our context with the world with other people and then

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<v Speaker 3>merging them. But our parents don't necessarily have to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>And like historically speaking on white cultures, more communal, more collective.

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<v Speaker 3>But what were we saying about your parents or your family?

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<v Speaker 2>My parents pretty generous, but they're like communicating with other families.

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<v Speaker 2>Some families are the same, and then we will all

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<v Speaker 2>meet with the same energy.

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<v Speaker 1>So where the stingy gene come from? I'm a Victoria.

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<v Speaker 2>No, It's funny, Like I feel like seeing my parents

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<v Speaker 2>be really generous has kind of rubbed me the other

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<v Speaker 2>way where I'm thinking, I hate seeing them getting taken

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<v Speaker 2>advantage of it won't happen to me. I must hoard

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<v Speaker 2>my wealth, got it. But then the more people I

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<v Speaker 2>meet that are generous, You're generous. The more I learned

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<v Speaker 2>that it's okay and that we'll come back. Yeah, But

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<v Speaker 2>then also I think you can go too far. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>operating on just culture.

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<v Speaker 1>I always go too far.

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<v Speaker 2>So how does that feel?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't give with expectation, and I think that's the

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<v Speaker 3>issue because like I just give to give, But then

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<v Speaker 3>it creates a dynamic with a lot of people that

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<v Speaker 3>there's an expectation of the giving, and then so I

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<v Speaker 3>just feed into the expectation because I'm like, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I got it, and like some people, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>quite the rich friend, or like they don't have it

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<v Speaker 3>or la la la la.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like, well, hold on a second.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not the reason why you work in the job

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<v Speaker 3>that you work, or that you manage your money the

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<v Speaker 3>way that you manage and I'm overcompensating with your relationship

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<v Speaker 3>to money in mind, I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>That just feels like too much. So as you get

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<v Speaker 1>to the point where.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you're assuming this person won't have the money to

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<v Speaker 3>go to dinner, but it's like why would they go

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<v Speaker 3>to go to dinner if they don't have the money?

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<v Speaker 1>They're good.

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<v Speaker 3>I also understand the idea of splitting stuff to a sense,

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<v Speaker 3>it makes sense. If I was going out to eat alone,

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<v Speaker 3>I would pay for what I ate for, and now

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<v Speaker 3>the tax of going out to eat with a friend,

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<v Speaker 3>it's only that I'm paying for more or less. It

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<v Speaker 3>actually doesn't make sense logically, like if we're going to

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<v Speaker 3>critically think it down to the core of it. But

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<v Speaker 3>also I think a lot of things about preserving relationships

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<v Speaker 3>don't make sense logically. And you kind of fall into

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<v Speaker 3>habits as well, And like you said, you have some

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<v Speaker 3>groups of friends where you're able to maintain different habits

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<v Speaker 3>and they change with other people. And I think your

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<v Speaker 3>point of the flexibility is the point like it shouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>be this cut and dry thing of you should and

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<v Speaker 3>you shouldn't. But if you're having a feeling and it's

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<v Speaker 3>grinding your gears, and then that's telling you that something

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<v Speaker 3>needs to change with your dynamic in your friends, like

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<v Speaker 3>you got to call it out because you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know what I think is the funniest, just like an irony,

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<v Speaker 2>is that when people are tied asses and you and

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<v Speaker 2>you meet them with the same energy, they think you're

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<v Speaker 2>a tight ass. Like you started. This takes one to

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<v Speaker 2>know one You started this, I hate and then when

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<v Speaker 2>you chase them for money, I'm like, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm tired us I'm chasing. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I put my bloody credit card down. Not I payer

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<v Speaker 2>it's far at all. Well, I shouldn't be doing extra

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<v Speaker 2>lay by chasing it. Yeah, okay. I hate the feeling

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<v Speaker 2>of having the balance hanging in their frugal for me.

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<v Speaker 2>What can I say?

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's a good trait.

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<v Speaker 3>In case you needed more confirmation that the world is

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<v Speaker 3>in fact getting spooky, I've got something for you.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think is the appropriate way to.

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<v Speaker 3>Respond to someone saying that they've been cheated on or

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<v Speaker 3>that they're heartbroken?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, condolences?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, anything else?

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<v Speaker 2>The person who is a dog? I stand with you. You

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<v Speaker 2>got this, queen.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to play you a little bit of this

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<v Speaker 3>video that I saw from a creator called Dom Beauclaire,

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<v Speaker 3>and they're talking about their recent heartbreak. I just want

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<v Speaker 3>to get a glimpse of what they're saying, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I can let you know what somebody has responded to.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too much great.

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<v Speaker 4>So yesterday I found out that my partner of seven

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<v Speaker 4>years is in a full relationship with someone new after

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<v Speaker 4>a month of separation, and a separation was to me

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<v Speaker 4>to figure out what I needed, because he cheated on me,

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<v Speaker 4>and he was an alcoholic, and there was a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of stuff that he did in the last few years

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<v Speaker 4>of our relationship that lost a lot of trust from me.

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<v Speaker 3>So this person's painted a really beautiful but tragic picture

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<v Speaker 3>of what they're currently going through. And I would imagine

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<v Speaker 3>it takes a lot of bravery to come onto the

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<v Speaker 3>Internet and express that to the world, because I think that,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, part of you'd be anticipating some kind of

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<v Speaker 3>blame in.

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<v Speaker 1>The process, like what did you do wrong?

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<v Speaker 3>But for the most part, I would say half the

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<v Speaker 3>comments were very understanding of a situation, offering some kind

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<v Speaker 3>of virtual support, virtual community, and then the top comment,

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<v Speaker 3>oh no, and I quote unrelated, but I desperately want

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<v Speaker 3>to shave the end of your eyebrows off.

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<v Speaker 1>Your whole face will lift up.

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<v Speaker 3>One more time. I a creator, am heartbroken. I've been

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<v Speaker 3>cheer it on by my partner of seven years. I've

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<v Speaker 3>come to the Internet for some I guess empathy, and

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<v Speaker 3>you've said unrelated, but I desperately want to shave the

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<v Speaker 3>end of your eyebrows off, it'll lift up your whole face.

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<v Speaker 1>What kind of demon?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>These are the monsters that they were warning us about?

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<v Speaker 3>How many years were we just like programmed with these

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<v Speaker 3>fairy tales and monsters, good deeds and bad deeds.

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<v Speaker 1>You are the monster.

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<v Speaker 2>I think this is a public service. I think now

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<v Speaker 2>that you're getting out there like you ought to know

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<v Speaker 2>what everyone's thinking.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was just let me pretend that this is

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<v Speaker 3>a fine and fair thing to say. Let's make it related.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, why do we make it underlated?

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't we just.

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<v Speaker 3>Say, hey, babe, I went through a similar breakup and

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<v Speaker 3>the one thing that really helped me out was just like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, working on my physical appearance. I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 3>that's something you're you're keen on, but you know, shave

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<v Speaker 3>the taibl.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>That's ten times worse.

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<v Speaker 3>Ten times it's a little compliment sandwich. No, No, the

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<v Speaker 3>unrelated is so brutal.

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<v Speaker 1>That video was.

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<v Speaker 3>Minutes long, minutes long, and I doubt she even bothered

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<v Speaker 3>to watch the whole thing. She said before I swipe

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<v Speaker 3>away from this. I have to get it off my chest.

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<v Speaker 3>You all need group chats?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you need professional help? And group chats. You've been

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