WEBVTT - MINI! Britt has an emotional update for you...

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<v Speaker 1>Hey is the Pickup Friday with Britt, Laura and Mitch.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a life update, guys. It's not often I

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<v Speaker 2>come with my life updates. I'm excited about it, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>upset about it, I'm stressed about it. I'm all the

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<v Speaker 2>feels in one.

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<v Speaker 3>That was a real rollercoaster feelings it was.

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<v Speaker 2>That is my life right now. No, it's my fertility update.

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<v Speaker 2>If you guys have been following along for a little while,

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<v Speaker 2>you know that I've been on a bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>fertility roller coaster over the last couple of years. And

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<v Speaker 2>that probably sounds far more dramatic than it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just that I've done some egg freezing in the past,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm going to be doing egg freezing again. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to look into embryo freezing because my fertility is

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<v Speaker 2>not great and I'm thirty six years old.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you tell us like for the like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>really across the stats. So what are your numbers fertility wise?

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<v Speaker 1>Then what is the normal numbers?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, they sort of do it by a bunch of things.

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<v Speaker 2>My specialist tells me, I have about a fifteen percent

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<v Speaker 2>chance of falling pregnant in the wild. And that's not

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<v Speaker 2>in the bush. I just say the wild like out naturally,

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<v Speaker 2>So fifteen percent chance naturally.

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<v Speaker 3>When she's not, it's still a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifty percent is still a lot, but it's also at the

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<v Speaker 2>same time, it's not a lot. It's like a.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it. It can sound really shocking, and I

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<v Speaker 3>guess for context for people who are in their cars

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<v Speaker 3>who might not know this. Women who are kind of

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<v Speaker 3>in the thirty five age range, your normal percentage chance

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<v Speaker 3>of getting pregnant is around twenty five to thirty percent

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<v Speaker 3>with each ovulation, So fifteen percent sounds shockingly low when

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<v Speaker 3>you hear fifteen percent, but when you put it into

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<v Speaker 3>perspective of everyone's normal around that sort of time frame,

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<v Speaker 3>it's tough. Yeah, it's otherwise you get pregnant one hundred

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<v Speaker 3>percent of the times that you ovulate. You No, twenty

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<v Speaker 3>five percent is like, you know, one and four kind

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<v Speaker 3>of thing. When you were given that percentage, I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>how does that make you feel? Do you feel worried?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you feel like you need to do more, like

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<v Speaker 3>as in more freezing, Like where are you at with it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So well, I'm going again. I'm freezing again in

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<v Speaker 2>three weeks time, so I will be a hormone or

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<v Speaker 2>mess for a couple of weeks on here, because you

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<v Speaker 2>do a couple of weeks of hormone injections, because you've

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<v Speaker 2>got to prep your body for it. And it's anyone

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<v Speaker 2>that's at home listening to this that's done it, and

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<v Speaker 2>you'll know it's not the most amazing thing. You feel horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>I got hypovarian syndrome last time, which is I had

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<v Speaker 2>too many basically hormones pumped into me because they really

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<v Speaker 2>really wanted to harvest as many as they could get,

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<v Speaker 2>so they went hard and I couldn't even walk the

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<v Speaker 2>last two days. Three days, I could not take a step.

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<v Speaker 2>The pain and in your belly. It was really weird.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't want that to scare anyone too, because

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<v Speaker 2>the rest of it was amazing. I'm going to get

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<v Speaker 2>in three weeks. And it worries me a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>when you think, Okay, well, when's it going to happen

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<v Speaker 2>for me? And when do I start to say I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to put that before my career, you know, for

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<v Speaker 2>a hot second, because I've always been very work work, work, work, work,

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<v Speaker 2>work work. When you say, okay, it's fifteen percent chance, naturally,

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<v Speaker 2>that's fine. I'll if I go down the IVF for it,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you get the IVF statistics, and that's well.

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<v Speaker 2>Even if we have your baby, if we have an

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<v Speaker 2>embryo made and we put it in the little home

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<v Speaker 2>that it needs to be, like we're dropping it off

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<v Speaker 2>right into where it needs to be to grow, it's

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<v Speaker 2>still only a thirty percent chance of working. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>even if it's you know, you can lead a horse

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<v Speaker 2>to water, but you can't make a drink. That old saying.

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<v Speaker 1>But we know how you feel, Britt, Like we talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you not on air and as friends, but your

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend Ben's overseas. You're doing a lot of this alone,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's hard on you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and he's so great and we talk. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>we're at the stage where we talk about kids in

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<v Speaker 2>our life together and we want to be together forever.

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<v Speaker 2>I have no doubt in that. But it's hard when

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<v Speaker 2>you're not there to help someone through something or go

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<v Speaker 2>through something. And I would love him to be here

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<v Speaker 2>with me, and he would love to be here with me.

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<v Speaker 1>And you can't.

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<v Speaker 2>And then on that sense, when the time comes and

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<v Speaker 2>we do want to try for that fifteen percent in

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<v Speaker 2>the wild. He doesn't live here anyway, So it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>all these thoughts. And unfortunately, because I am thirty six now,

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<v Speaker 2>and any woman I know listening right now will know

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<v Speaker 2>this feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>It is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so consuming in your brain. It's all you think

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<v Speaker 2>about all day, all night. If I wait much longer,

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<v Speaker 2>I going to miss the chance. But what if I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not quite ready yet? And then what if I try

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<v Speaker 2>right now knowing that I'm not ready and it does work,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I have it? What if I wait too

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<v Speaker 2>long and it's you know, it's it's there's so many

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<v Speaker 2>variables that you think about, and it's becomes all of

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<v Speaker 2>a sudden, the most stressful situation. And you guys know,

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<v Speaker 2>like five minutes ago, before this break in the song,

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<v Speaker 2>I was crying. I was sitting here crying about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't even know why I was crying, And

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I will cry now.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just said.

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<v Speaker 2>It's such an It's not the end of the world,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's such an overwhelming feeling sometimes that you feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you can't breathe because you're like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what the answer is, and even if I did know

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<v Speaker 2>the answer, I don't know how to get to the answer.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, it's like the I mean, the fertility

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<v Speaker 3>conversation itself is something that's so hard. But then I

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<v Speaker 3>think you hit the nail on the head with thinking

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<v Speaker 3>and figuring out, well, when is it a good time

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<v Speaker 3>to take the foot off the pedal in terms of career,

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<v Speaker 3>because then you worry, and especially I mean in media,

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<v Speaker 3>you worry, well, if I take my foot off the pedal,

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<v Speaker 3>someone will come and replace me. And I think that

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<v Speaker 3>there's lots of people who have very small maternity leaves

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<v Speaker 3>or don't take time out because they're worried that if

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<v Speaker 3>they get off the rat race, they're going to fall behind,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard to get back on that.

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<v Speaker 3>It is so, it really is, because you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>feel like things are going to continue to move without you.

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<v Speaker 3>I know that there'll be so many people who are

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<v Speaker 3>in a similar phase of life as you are and

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<v Speaker 3>who feel very much the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And look, I feel so lucky. I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not out there like a lot of women I know

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<v Speaker 2>and a lot of friends that have tried IVF over

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<v Speaker 2>and over and over again, and it's failing. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel lucky that I haven't gone down that track yet.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just at the I'm just at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 2>this journey and I feel overwhelmed. So I can't imagine

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<v Speaker 2>what other women that have been struggling for so long

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<v Speaker 2>feel like. So it's just one of those you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we're thinking of everyone that goes through it, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>something that we all do experience and it's something that

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<v Speaker 2>we just have to take day by day.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for sharing, brutt that's not easy to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, No, thank you in advance for putting up with

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<v Speaker 2>me in three weeks time when I.

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<v Speaker 1>Am yeah, will be okay at that time and you're.

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<v Speaker 3>Going to be at my becketing call always support you

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<v Speaker 3>and we and we yeah, we only what was best

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<v Speaker 3>for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Totally totally back after this on the pick up