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Speaker 2: I have a life update, guys. It's not often I
Speaker 2: come with my life updates. I'm excited about it, I'm
Speaker 2: upset about it, I'm stressed about it. I'm all the
Speaker 2: feels in one.
Speaker 3: That was a real rollercoaster feelings it was.
Speaker 2: That is my life right now. No, it's my fertility update.
Speaker 2: If you guys have been following along for a little while,
Speaker 2: you know that I've been on a bit of a
Speaker 2: fertility roller coaster over the last couple of years. And
Speaker 2: that probably sounds far more dramatic than it is.
Speaker 1: It's not.
Speaker 2: It's just that I've done some egg freezing in the past,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to be doing egg freezing again. I'm
Speaker 2: going to look into embryo freezing because my fertility is
Speaker 2: not great and I'm thirty six years old.
Speaker 1: Can you tell us like for the like, I'm not
Speaker 1: really across the stats. So what are your numbers fertility wise?
Speaker 1: Then what is the normal numbers?
Speaker 2: Well, they sort of do it by a bunch of things.
Speaker 2: My specialist tells me, I have about a fifteen percent
Speaker 2: chance of falling pregnant in the wild. And that's not
Speaker 2: in the bush. I just say the wild like out naturally,
Speaker 2: So fifteen percent chance naturally.
Speaker 3: When she's not, it's still a lot.
Speaker 2: Fifty percent is still a lot, but it's also at the
Speaker 2: same time, it's not a lot. It's like a.
Speaker 3: I think it. It can sound really shocking, and I
Speaker 3: guess for context for people who are in their cars
Speaker 3: who might not know this. Women who are kind of
Speaker 3: in the thirty five age range, your normal percentage chance
Speaker 3: of getting pregnant is around twenty five to thirty percent
Speaker 3: with each ovulation, So fifteen percent sounds shockingly low when
Speaker 3: you hear fifteen percent, but when you put it into
Speaker 3: perspective of everyone's normal around that sort of time frame,
Speaker 3: it's tough. Yeah, it's otherwise you get pregnant one hundred
Speaker 3: percent of the times that you ovulate. You No, twenty
Speaker 3: five percent is like, you know, one and four kind
Speaker 3: of thing. When you were given that percentage, I mean,
Speaker 3: how does that make you feel? Do you feel worried?
Speaker 3: Do you feel like you need to do more, like
Speaker 3: as in more freezing, Like where are you at with it?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So well, I'm going again. I'm freezing again in
Speaker 2: three weeks time, so I will be a hormone or
Speaker 2: mess for a couple of weeks on here, because you
Speaker 2: do a couple of weeks of hormone injections, because you've
Speaker 2: got to prep your body for it. And it's anyone
Speaker 2: that's at home listening to this that's done it, and
Speaker 2: you'll know it's not the most amazing thing. You feel horrible.
Speaker 2: I got hypovarian syndrome last time, which is I had
Speaker 2: too many basically hormones pumped into me because they really
Speaker 2: really wanted to harvest as many as they could get,
Speaker 2: so they went hard and I couldn't even walk the
Speaker 2: last two days. Three days, I could not take a step.
Speaker 2: The pain and in your belly. It was really weird.
Speaker 2: But I don't want that to scare anyone too, because
Speaker 2: the rest of it was amazing. I'm going to get
Speaker 2: in three weeks. And it worries me a little bit
Speaker 2: when you think, Okay, well, when's it going to happen
Speaker 2: for me? And when do I start to say I'm
Speaker 2: going to put that before my career, you know, for
Speaker 2: a hot second, because I've always been very work work, work, work, work,
Speaker 2: work work. When you say, okay, it's fifteen percent chance, naturally,
Speaker 2: that's fine. I'll if I go down the IVF for it,
Speaker 2: and then you get the IVF statistics, and that's well.
Speaker 2: Even if we have your baby, if we have an
Speaker 2: embryo made and we put it in the little home
Speaker 2: that it needs to be, like we're dropping it off
Speaker 2: right into where it needs to be to grow, it's
Speaker 2: still only a thirty percent chance of working. So that's
Speaker 2: even if it's you know, you can lead a horse
Speaker 2: to water, but you can't make a drink. That old saying.
Speaker 1: But we know how you feel, Britt, Like we talk
Speaker 1: to you not on air and as friends, but your
Speaker 1: boyfriend Ben's overseas. You're doing a lot of this alone,
Speaker 1: Like it's hard on you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's so great and we talk. You know,
Speaker 2: we're at the stage where we talk about kids in
Speaker 2: our life together and we want to be together forever.
Speaker 2: I have no doubt in that. But it's hard when
Speaker 2: you're not there to help someone through something or go
Speaker 2: through something. And I would love him to be here
Speaker 2: with me, and he would love to be here with me.
Speaker 1: And you can't.
Speaker 2: And then on that sense, when the time comes and
Speaker 2: we do want to try for that fifteen percent in
Speaker 2: the wild. He doesn't live here anyway, So it's it's
Speaker 2: all these thoughts. And unfortunately, because I am thirty six now,
Speaker 2: and any woman I know listening right now will know
Speaker 2: this feeling.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 2: It's so consuming in your brain. It's all you think
Speaker 2: about all day, all night. If I wait much longer,
Speaker 2: I going to miss the chance. But what if I'm
Speaker 2: not quite ready yet? And then what if I try
Speaker 2: right now knowing that I'm not ready and it does work,
Speaker 2: and then I have it? What if I wait too
Speaker 2: long and it's you know, it's it's there's so many
Speaker 2: variables that you think about, and it's becomes all of
Speaker 2: a sudden, the most stressful situation. And you guys know,
Speaker 2: like five minutes ago, before this break in the song,
Speaker 2: I was crying. I was sitting here crying about it,
Speaker 2: and I don't even know why I was crying, And
Speaker 2: I feel like I will cry now.
Speaker 3: It's just said.
Speaker 2: It's such an It's not the end of the world,
Speaker 2: but it's such an overwhelming feeling sometimes that you feel
Speaker 2: like you can't breathe because you're like, I don't know
Speaker 2: what the answer is, and even if I did know
Speaker 2: the answer, I don't know how to get to the answer.
Speaker 3: Well, you know, it's like the I mean, the fertility
Speaker 3: conversation itself is something that's so hard. But then I
Speaker 3: think you hit the nail on the head with thinking
Speaker 3: and figuring out, well, when is it a good time
Speaker 3: to take the foot off the pedal in terms of career,
Speaker 3: because then you worry, and especially I mean in media,
Speaker 3: you worry, well, if I take my foot off the pedal,
Speaker 3: someone will come and replace me. And I think that
Speaker 3: there's lots of people who have very small maternity leaves
Speaker 3: or don't take time out because they're worried that if
Speaker 3: they get off the rat race, they're going to fall behind,
Speaker 3: you know, and.
Speaker 2: It's hard to get back on that.
Speaker 3: It is so, it really is, because you know, you
Speaker 3: feel like things are going to continue to move without you.
Speaker 3: I know that there'll be so many people who are
Speaker 3: in a similar phase of life as you are and
Speaker 3: who feel very much the same.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And look, I feel so lucky. I'm like, I'm
Speaker 2: not out there like a lot of women I know
Speaker 2: and a lot of friends that have tried IVF over
Speaker 2: and over and over again, and it's failing. You know.
Speaker 2: I feel lucky that I haven't gone down that track yet.
Speaker 2: I'm just at the I'm just at the beginning of
Speaker 2: this journey and I feel overwhelmed. So I can't imagine
Speaker 2: what other women that have been struggling for so long
Speaker 2: feel like. So it's just one of those you know,
Speaker 2: we're thinking of everyone that goes through it, and it's
Speaker 2: something that we all do experience and it's something that
Speaker 2: we just have to take day by day.
Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing, brutt that's not easy to do.
Speaker 2: Well, No, thank you in advance for putting up with
Speaker 2: me in three weeks time when I.
Speaker 1: Am yeah, will be okay at that time and you're.
Speaker 3: Going to be at my becketing call always support you
Speaker 3: and we and we yeah, we only what was best
Speaker 3: for you.
Speaker 1: Totally totally back after this on the pick up