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Speaker 2: Sweety Pies. What do we think about stealing from corporations
Speaker 2: when they are recording record breaking profits and people trying
Speaker 2: to buy a bit of dry steak for forty dollars
Speaker 2: a kilo? What's going on there? I'm not quite sure,
Speaker 2: but if you want to do it, don't say we
Speaker 2: told you to. And also, is it truly possible for
Speaker 2: a friendship to be equal? Can I put in as
Speaker 2: much as you put in and get out as much
Speaker 2: as you get out? Or can we understand that some
Speaker 2: things must remain imbalanced to work? Not quite sure, but
Speaker 2: we'll try to buy it more.
Speaker 3: You're listening to Flex and Frooms on kata.
Speaker 2: I want to know if this cafe took it a
Speaker 2: little bit too far by banning influences. What have they done? Hint,
Speaker 2: it's not illegal, but it might be frowned upon. So
Speaker 2: there's this new Korean cafe in New York City called
Speaker 2: Day or Die. It's Dae and it's really cute aesthetic.
Speaker 2: They also sell home was there. They've got this cute
Speaker 2: little toast with checkerboard butter and whatever. It's very cute vibes,
Speaker 2: the kind of place that you probably see on TikTok
Speaker 2: on or Instagram and go there because an influencer posted
Speaker 2: about it. We love it's exactly that. Now upon opening
Speaker 2: this cafe, they had a no laptop rule off the dome.
Speaker 2: They said, don't bring that here. You're not working here,
Speaker 2: You're not doing work from home, no life. It seems
Speaker 2: like people have not really understood the intention as to why,
Speaker 2: and what's happening is that there's been droves of influencers
Speaker 2: bringing their cameras and their tripods like on mass to
Speaker 2: record themselves and what ends up happening is that they
Speaker 2: buy one drink or one little piece of toast and
Speaker 2: there for two hours trying to get the shot. And
Speaker 2: because other influencers see other influencers doing it, it brings
Speaker 2: more influencers. They start multiplying. And the issue is the
Speaker 2: owner is saying that it's putting off actually paying customers
Speaker 2: because they don't want to go to this cafe and
Speaker 2: risk being in the back of someone's video or just
Speaker 2: having their like privacy potentially breached, or for the most part,
Speaker 2: paying a big stack to eat brunch. You don't want
Speaker 2: to feel as though you're on a set literally, So basically,
Speaker 2: because this owner has noticed the negative effect it's happening,
Speaker 2: they've thought, you know, what, do you want to lose
Speaker 2: our paying customers or do you want to lose the
Speaker 2: favor of influencers who aren't really bringing us money. Let's
Speaker 2: lose the favor of the influencers. But people are arguing
Speaker 2: that if you're going to make a cafe so aesthetic,
Speaker 2: what did you expect? And also what is the price
Speaker 2: of exposure? Because one might argue, you know, you are
Speaker 2: complaining about these influencers now because you're not really recognizing
Speaker 2: the value that they're bringing. What if they stop coming
Speaker 2: and you go out of business? But I don't know.
Speaker 2: The people who own this cafe are from that really
Speaker 2: cool street where fashion brand Oh it starts with an
Speaker 2: opening ceremony. Oh yeah, okay, yes, so they've already kind
Speaker 2: of got cloud. I don't necessarily think they need the influencers,
Speaker 2: but banning I think might be a bit tricky. So look,
Speaker 2: I won't be surprised if this is a measure they
Speaker 2: gets taken globally, well, worldwide. I feel like the general
Speaker 2: consensus around influencers in public spaces that it's annoying. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and annoyance and negativity is not what we like. So
Speaker 2: you know, watch this space. I'll keep you guys posted.
Speaker 2: If I see any murmurs locally Sydney melbournevibes, I'll let
Speaker 2: you know for sure.
Speaker 1: People are stealing from the supermarket and also other areas
Speaker 1: as well. I'm not going to ask you if you've
Speaker 1: ever stolen or anyone else in this room, because I
Speaker 1: don't believe in incriminating my coworkers. However, I've come across
Speaker 1: an article in the Citney Morning Herald detailing what is
Speaker 1: most stolen and by what age and gender of the
Speaker 1: people stealing.
Speaker 2: Should we make some guesses?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Okay. When I worked in retail, we were encouraged to
Speaker 2: profile the same types of people and usually it was
Speaker 2: like high school aged people follow them around make sure
Speaker 2: they're going to actually buy. Anytime I saw someone stealing,
Speaker 2: it was our mum with our prayer. Did you do
Speaker 2: middle aged women? No, that's sign business. Yeah, I hate
Speaker 2: enough to call anyone out. Do what you need to do.
Speaker 2: If you're brave enough to do it, that's on you.
Speaker 2: But yeah, middle aged specific ethnicity, mums and babies every time.
Speaker 1: Major in this interactive map that I found in City
Speaker 1: Morning Herald. Why is the city of Wentworth the most
Speaker 1: read of the whole map?
Speaker 2: Call it out please, Okay.
Speaker 1: The things that are most stolen number one, liquor Number two,
Speaker 1: clothing and footwear that's your community. Number three other objects
Speaker 1: it's giving sex toy number four, food and beverage, perfume
Speaker 1: and cosmetics. That's a big one. Home entertainment, then machinery
Speaker 1: and tools. Bit of a Bunning's core. There household items
Speaker 1: like appliances and furniture.
Speaker 2: So the question is what isn't stolen? Because that sounds
Speaker 2: like everything true, it's like every category of retail store.
Speaker 1: Okay, now let's guess ages. Okay, what age bracket do
Speaker 1: you think would steal the most?
Speaker 2: Twenty twenty five to forty will.
Speaker 1: Go from least to most. The people that are stealing
Speaker 1: the least are people who are sixty to sixty five.
Speaker 1: That's because they just got the little card that gives
Speaker 1: them things for cheaper. They're riding on a high. The
Speaker 1: second group of people that steal the least to sixty
Speaker 1: six plus, which is honestly surprising. You're on the way out.
Speaker 3: I'll just go looting.
Speaker 1: The third people that still at least to ten to
Speaker 1: thirteen year olds. The next ger of people that don't
Speaker 1: steal much are eighteen to nineteen. Again, I'm saying something
Speaker 1: about like the ages that are the like you're just
Speaker 1: coming into yourself, so you've got other things to do.
Speaker 1: Like when I was eighteen nineteen, I just got a car,
Speaker 1: so you best believe I was driving everywhere.
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 2: Top three. Who's stealing the most?
Speaker 1: Okay, Number three, twenty five to twenty nine. That's our
Speaker 1: age bracket. The second biggest stealers are forty to forty
Speaker 1: nine families to feed. Who steals the most thirty to
Speaker 1: thirty nine, that's on midlife crisis. That's on I feel
Speaker 1: like you got the most to lose when you're thirty
Speaker 1: to thirty nine. That's when you're on the up and also.
Speaker 2: Not necessarily the most to lose, but you probably are
Speaker 2: more disillusioned at that age, Like I'm sure the fear
Speaker 2: on the consequence, Like if you're assuming that you become
Speaker 2: more wise with age, that means you're aware of the
Speaker 2: consequences and you're making the decision anyway, which means that
Speaker 2: the situations that are causing people or driving people to
Speaker 2: theft are far dire than the consequences of thieving.
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Speaker 1: know how people do it. We'll also say it please
Speaker 1: supermarkets ensure there is someone who was willing to do
Speaker 1: the like the self serve, like someone to help you,
Speaker 1: Like I like when you put on the convey belt,
Speaker 1: bring that back. Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2: She's like, bring We need more more people working.
Speaker 1: No, I'm serious, we need more jobs. And also, if
Speaker 1: you're gonna make me do the machine, sorry Mickey telling
Speaker 1: me wrap up.
Speaker 2: Mickey's like usually it's like a little serious.
Speaker 1: If you have the technology to make sure there's like
Speaker 1: three cameras will hit when I'm scanning through fix the scales,
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Speaker 2: Should friendships be equal? Is it even possible if you're
Speaker 2: putting in some time and energy and money and they're
Speaker 2: putting in some time and energy and money, is it
Speaker 2: possible that we all get our needs met as expected?
Speaker 2: There was this article on the cut and it was
Speaker 2: a bit of an advice column, and this person was like,
Speaker 2: I think I spend too much time with my friends.
Speaker 2: And I thought that was an interesting thing. But here's
Speaker 2: what they've said. I've always prided myself and being a
Speaker 2: good friend. I love and value my friends so much
Speaker 2: and I want them to know it. Recently, I moved
Speaker 2: from the city where i'd lived for nearly a decade,
Speaker 2: a place where I had a very tight knit group.
Speaker 2: We've been there for each other through so much, and
Speaker 2: people would often comment on how involved behind each other's lives. However,
Speaker 2: now that I've had some distance, I've realized that I
Speaker 2: was putting a lot of effort into maintaining this community
Speaker 2: without saving much energy for myself. In the midst of
Speaker 2: flourishing friendships, I didn't make space for things that would
Speaker 2: only offer me an individual benefit, dating, networking, getting enough sleep, etc.
Speaker 2: And looking around, no one else seemed to have this problem.
Speaker 2: As I've been building a new community in my new city,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be more careful about setting boundaries so
Speaker 2: I don't fall into codependency. But in my eagerness to
Speaker 2: connect with people, it feels unnatural to temper my excitement
Speaker 2: about someone who I feel a kinship to. Real I
Speaker 2: try to remind myself about the lack of reciprocation with
Speaker 2: my old friends, but don't want to become jaden start
Speaker 2: treating each friendship like a carefully balanced transaction. Can I
Speaker 2: train myself to expect less from friends? And how do
Speaker 2: I toe the line between social and selfish? Sincerely a
Speaker 2: fatigued friend? That is a lot. It's such a tricky
Speaker 2: thing here because this person only really understood or got
Speaker 2: perspective once they had left their friends and moved to
Speaker 2: a different city. Which is to say, you know how,
Speaker 2: when you have some distance from a situation, you see
Speaker 2: it clearly. Yes, But in this instance are you really
Speaker 2: seeing it clearly? So we have this person saying here
Speaker 2: that and I quote, I realized I was putting a
Speaker 2: lot of effort into maintaining my community. I didn't make
Speaker 2: space for things that would only benefit myself, like dating, networking,
Speaker 2: and getting off sleep. But no one else seemed to
Speaker 2: have this problem. So it's this person inferring that they
Speaker 2: were the special source that made everybody else's life better.
Speaker 2: It's like, because I invested so much into you, you
Speaker 2: could date, and you could get enough sleep, and you
Speaker 2: could network. It doesn't add up. The math equation is
Speaker 2: just not really making sense for me. I feel like, yes,
Speaker 2: what you're recognizing is you're pouring a lot into your friendships,
Speaker 2: but it's also your responsibility to pour into yourself as
Speaker 2: much not temper your enthusiasm for friendship. Like now that
Speaker 2: you have an awareness that it's natural to you to
Speaker 2: give a lot to other people, now it just means
Speaker 2: you know what the standard is because you've said it.
Speaker 2: You already know what it looks like to be there
Speaker 2: for someone else, So now you can move that inward.
Speaker 1: Reined it in solo Baggins.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And the good thing about friendships, as we know,
Speaker 2: when you're making new ones, you can set new standards.
Speaker 2: So if you want friends who pour into you like
Speaker 2: you poured into your others, then you can help set
Speaker 2: that standard. I would argue that people who are often
Speaker 2: on the receiving end of someone who pours into them,
Speaker 2: they don't realize how much that takes, you know, Like,
Speaker 2: if I've got a friend who's really generous with their time,
Speaker 2: I don't realize it impacts them negatively in any way.
Speaker 2: I'm just like, this is so great. They have so
Speaker 2: much time for me. So there's also that the headline
Speaker 2: was misleading, because its not about spending too much time
Speaker 2: for your friends. Is do I pour into my friends
Speaker 2: in spite of myself so I have someone to blame
Speaker 2: things that turn out the way I want them to.
Speaker 2: The answer is never let your friends go. We need
Speaker 2: our friends, thanks, unless they're toxic people.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, still the case, We'll.
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