WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: We kinda love Gen Z doctors? 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 Hi Heart podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:20.418 live on the Free iHeart app A good pickup with 0:00:20.579 --> 0:00:23.018 Britt Hockley and Laura burn Bady. 0:00:23.139 --> 0:00:25.619 Your work, our windows done. 0:00:25.859 --> 0:00:26.619 That's my world. 0:00:26.659 --> 0:00:29.579 Reason the dust, only good tabs are all down. 0:00:30.659 --> 0:00:34.538 I don't much, but yet I'm not our big get 0:00:34.699 --> 0:00:37.579 and what I want it don't matter where goes. 0:00:37.699 --> 0:00:38.858 This is the pickup. 0:00:39.219 --> 0:00:41.819 Hi guys, it's the pickup with Britt Harkley and Laura 0:00:41.859 --> 0:00:44.459 Brn Britt, have you noticed how nice it is driving 0:00:44.459 --> 0:00:45.699 to work in the mornings. 0:00:45.459 --> 0:00:49.019 There's no traffic, yes, and no one parking near the school. 0:00:48.739 --> 0:00:49.379 We park up. 0:00:49.499 --> 0:00:51.579 Yeah, well we can get all day parking now because 0:00:51.619 --> 0:00:54.099 the school there's no parent traffic. But also for everyone, 0:00:54.459 --> 0:00:57.419 I hope you're all surviving school holidays. I had this 0:00:57.539 --> 0:01:02.179 realization only this morning, and that is that so growing 0:01:02.259 --> 0:01:04.259 up my mum she's a school teacher, right, and so 0:01:04.419 --> 0:01:07.099 every school holidays we were all just home together, family 0:01:07.139 --> 0:01:10.578 doing stuff. My realization is is that for most kids 0:01:10.578 --> 0:01:13.619 it's just not the case because if you have working parents, you. 0:01:13.699 --> 0:01:16.059 Gotta go to after school care or holiday. 0:01:15.699 --> 0:01:18.059 Care or whatever. And my six year old Marley, she's 0:01:18.139 --> 0:01:20.179 kind of cottoned onto it. This morning, she woke up 0:01:20.179 --> 0:01:20.458 and she. 0:01:20.458 --> 0:01:24.258 Was like, wait a second, it's meant to be school holidays. 0:01:24.738 --> 0:01:26.578 Why don't I even get a holiday? Why am I 0:01:26.619 --> 0:01:29.698 going to vacation care? And I realized just how rough 0:01:29.738 --> 0:01:33.219 it is for some kids. You're like, you spoil little 0:01:33.259 --> 0:01:35.658 I'm like, how dare you? M's gotta work. 0:01:35.779 --> 0:01:38.899 If my parents both worked, there are four of us. 0:01:38.979 --> 0:01:39.658 Where did you go? 0:01:39.938 --> 0:01:42.499 I think we just got like shipped out. I think 0:01:42.499 --> 0:01:45.298 we had to go to different friends' houses, nana's house. Yeah, 0:01:45.298 --> 0:01:47.659 because we didn't even really have a vacation care like 0:01:47.699 --> 0:01:50.619 we're at in Port Macquarry, and it was more like, 0:01:51.339 --> 0:01:53.618 I think sometimes went to an auntie's house, or we'd 0:01:53.619 --> 0:01:55.898 all go to a friend's house until my older brothers 0:01:55.899 --> 0:01:57.419 were old enough, and then they would stay home and 0:01:57.419 --> 0:01:57.819 look after. 0:01:57.899 --> 0:01:58.698 Yeah, this is true. 0:01:58.699 --> 0:02:00.699 It's changed now because kids can go to like a 0:02:00.699 --> 0:02:03.779 school holiday program, a soccer programer whatever. There's like so 0:02:03.859 --> 0:02:06.899 many different activities that did not exist in the eighties 0:02:06.899 --> 0:02:07.459 and the nineties. 0:02:07.499 --> 0:02:09.339 And was like ride your bikeer, but be home by 0:02:10.459 --> 0:02:13.179 so when the sun's setting, buck twice if you need her. 0:02:13.299 --> 0:02:16.339 And I was like, we just been for ourselves. I 0:02:16.379 --> 0:02:18.899 know we've been speaking a lot about weddings lately, but 0:02:18.978 --> 0:02:21.538 we are going to continue that now. 0:02:21.978 --> 0:02:22.698 No, you know. 0:02:22.698 --> 0:02:24.898 Bethany Frankel the Real Housewives of New York. 0:02:24.978 --> 0:02:26.059 Yes, yep, I do. Well. 0:02:26.059 --> 0:02:28.419 She's just come out and admitted to making like a 0:02:28.619 --> 0:02:31.739 huge faux pas around one of her friend's weddings, and 0:02:31.779 --> 0:02:32.858 it's got people talking. 0:02:32.939 --> 0:02:33.538 Have a listen. 0:02:34.099 --> 0:02:37.578 I was today years old when I realized for the 0:02:37.619 --> 0:02:39.459 first time that. 0:02:39.499 --> 0:02:43.219 I wore a wait to my best friend's wedding. 0:02:43.939 --> 0:02:46.739 I never knew that rule. 0:02:47.258 --> 0:02:50.099 So I texted her today. She's on safari in Africa. 0:02:50.138 --> 0:02:53.298 I'm sorry, I just realized for the first time I've 0:02:53.299 --> 0:02:55.699 heard that I wore a wait to wedding. She goes, 0:02:56.418 --> 0:02:57.899 I didn't care what you were wearing. I was just 0:02:57.978 --> 0:03:02.779 happy you were there. I'm so embarrassed. Okay, firstly, she's 0:03:02.859 --> 0:03:03.619 talking like a creep. 0:03:03.739 --> 0:03:05.619 Also, what I'm getting from this is that the wedding 0:03:05.698 --> 0:03:07.939 must have been a long time ago. There's no way 0:03:08.019 --> 0:03:10.298 that she's through life not knowing you can't wear white 0:03:10.339 --> 0:03:10.739 to a wedding. 0:03:10.819 --> 0:03:13.339 No, it was when she was twenty five, so it 0:03:13.418 --> 0:03:15.579 was a long time ago. But also at twenty five, 0:03:15.978 --> 0:03:17.739 I know that there are all these rules around what 0:03:17.779 --> 0:03:19.099 you can and can't wear to a wedding. 0:03:19.099 --> 0:03:20.379 Now, I don't know if I believe in all of. 0:03:20.379 --> 0:03:23.339 Them, but I feel like the one rule that everyone 0:03:23.418 --> 0:03:26.019 knows is like, you don't wear white to a wedding. 0:03:26.538 --> 0:03:29.139 But the reason she was even thinking about this, it 0:03:29.179 --> 0:03:32.059 was based off the back of the Jeff Bezos's recent wedding. 0:03:32.099 --> 0:03:33.779 You know how everyone in Hollywood just went to it. 0:03:34.258 --> 0:03:39.059 Well, Kylie Jenner apparently was wearing like an icy blue dress. 0:03:39.339 --> 0:03:42.499 Now I didn't realize this, but when you wear icy 0:03:42.539 --> 0:03:45.419 blue sometimes when it's photographed, it looks white. So there's 0:03:45.459 --> 0:03:47.979 a picture here it does look like Kylie Jenner is 0:03:47.979 --> 0:03:48.899 wearing a white dress. 0:03:48.939 --> 0:03:50.539 I do think it's something should do. 0:03:50.859 --> 0:03:53.899 Imagine Kylie Jenner coming to your wedding and wearing a 0:03:54.019 --> 0:03:56.099 very distinctly white dress. 0:03:56.219 --> 0:03:58.939 Like she looks so hot too, of all things. 0:03:58.819 --> 0:04:00.939 You could wear, I mean, I think that this is 0:04:00.939 --> 0:04:03.259 something that comes up a lot, Brittany, at your wedding. 0:04:03.259 --> 0:04:05.659 One of our very close friends, Keisha, she wore a 0:04:05.699 --> 0:04:08.419 baby pink dress and it wasn't until when the photos 0:04:08.419 --> 0:04:10.579 were getting taken on the day that she was like, 0:04:10.659 --> 0:04:13.699 oh my god, the photos make my dress look white 0:04:13.739 --> 0:04:14.419 like she was. 0:04:14.859 --> 0:04:15.979 She looked very white. 0:04:16.019 --> 0:04:18.378 I also went to a friend's wedding where the sister 0:04:18.459 --> 0:04:22.379 in law was wearing a sparkly silver dress which shot 0:04:22.819 --> 0:04:25.699 like a wedding dress. And so when the bride and 0:04:25.739 --> 0:04:27.619 the sister in law were dancing on the dance floor 0:04:27.619 --> 0:04:30.339 and the videos came out, literally every comment in the 0:04:30.339 --> 0:04:32.499 comment section was like, oh my god, that person wore 0:04:32.539 --> 0:04:33.339 a wedding dress. 0:04:33.819 --> 0:04:36.379 Well, now there's all this kickoff about like what not 0:04:36.499 --> 0:04:38.219 to wear to a wedding, and I want to read 0:04:38.299 --> 0:04:39.099 you a few of them. 0:04:39.539 --> 0:04:43.099 Number one, very obvious white or whitish colors. 0:04:42.739 --> 0:04:46.459 Like champagne, very pale, pale blues or pinks, because they 0:04:46.459 --> 0:04:47.659 can shoot white. 0:04:47.459 --> 0:04:49.779 Pastels just to avoid Hey, well, I don't know. 0:04:49.859 --> 0:04:52.179 I don't mind a pastel color, but it's not your 0:04:52.219 --> 0:04:54.979 fault if your dress shoots white when it's not. But 0:04:55.019 --> 0:04:58.219 I guess if it's so pale, like you read between 0:04:58.219 --> 0:05:02.259 the lines now, bridal party colors is number two. I 0:05:02.259 --> 0:05:04.379 don't think it's a big issue. If someone turns up 0:05:04.459 --> 0:05:07.459 in the same color that's me. Maybe I'm too laid back, 0:05:07.739 --> 0:05:09.819 they say that off you can tell from the color 0:05:09.859 --> 0:05:12.579 scheme of a wedding invitation, but I don't believe in that. 0:05:12.659 --> 0:05:14.619 A lot of wedding in whites are online. I did 0:05:14.699 --> 0:05:17.739 not put a wedding like a bridesmaid color on my invitation. 0:05:18.019 --> 0:05:20.899 And for reference, Britt, your bridesmaid color was yellow and 0:05:20.939 --> 0:05:23.019 produce a grace almost came in a butter yellow dress. 0:05:23.099 --> 0:05:25.339 Yeah so close. I'm so glad that you told me 0:05:25.379 --> 0:05:27.739 before the wedding that I actually. 0:05:27.779 --> 0:05:30.059 Went to my friend Eleanor's wedding Elena, she was on 0:05:30.059 --> 0:05:31.019 The Bachelor years ago. 0:05:31.499 --> 0:05:32.899 I don't know what made me do it. 0:05:33.059 --> 0:05:36.659 I had this beautiful green dress on that was very particular. 0:05:36.699 --> 0:05:39.299 I had pleats and it was my sister's bridesmaid's dress, 0:05:39.299 --> 0:05:40.779 and I was like, oh, I'll wear that again because 0:05:40.819 --> 0:05:41.539 I've never worn it. 0:05:41.579 --> 0:05:43.739 Isn't it like bright bright green? Yes it is. 0:05:43.779 --> 0:05:46.219 It's very specific green and I'd only ever worn it once. 0:05:46.259 --> 0:05:48.019 It's a beautiful dress, and I was like, I'll wear that. 0:05:48.459 --> 0:05:50.139 Last minute, I got changed because I thought it was 0:05:50.139 --> 0:05:52.179 a bit cold. Anyway, I turned up and they had 0:05:52.179 --> 0:05:54.539 the identical dress on. I would have been in the 0:05:54.579 --> 0:05:56.339 Bridesmaids show. I've done this though. 0:05:56.419 --> 0:05:59.179 No, look I mean in defensive people who have rocked 0:05:59.259 --> 0:06:01.939 up wearing a bridal party dress. The reason why is 0:06:01.979 --> 0:06:04.979 because a lot of brides, especially in Australia, they all 0:06:05.099 --> 0:06:07.339 use the same brand, because there's a couple of specific 0:06:07.379 --> 0:06:10.499 brands that make life the same dresses but in the 0:06:10.539 --> 0:06:12.859 same colors, like Shown a Joy for example. Anyone who's 0:06:12.859 --> 0:06:15.539 ever gotten married knows that bridesmaid dresses Shown a Joy 0:06:15.699 --> 0:06:18.299 got you covered. And I went to a wedding wearing 0:06:18.339 --> 0:06:22.059 Shown a Joy pinky colored dress, and so did the bridesmaids. 0:06:22.179 --> 0:06:24.619 Not my fault, Well the are the ones. Now. 0:06:24.899 --> 0:06:27.259 I don't know how I feel about this black. Some 0:06:27.299 --> 0:06:29.819 people are saying black sholdey just be a sign of morning. 0:06:29.899 --> 0:06:31.539 I had so many people in a black dress at 0:06:31.539 --> 0:06:33.619 my wedding. I gave my friend a dressed wedd a 0:06:33.619 --> 0:06:35.579 wedding this week there was black. Now this is the 0:06:35.579 --> 0:06:38.259 real kicker, and I feel personally attacked. I recently went 0:06:38.299 --> 0:06:39.939 to a red wedding, like a couple of weeks ago, 0:06:40.059 --> 0:06:41.059 and I wore bright red. 0:06:41.699 --> 0:06:44.099 Now I didn't know, but apparently. 0:06:43.579 --> 0:06:46.339 Bright red means you're either trying to upstage the bride 0:06:46.979 --> 0:06:49.259 or that you've slept with the groom. Like that's an 0:06:49.299 --> 0:06:52.419 old wives tale, and I actually feel mortified now because 0:06:52.419 --> 0:06:54.539 it was a European wedding, and I'm like, did I 0:06:54.579 --> 0:06:57.099 make a statement to the entire wedding that I have 0:06:57.219 --> 0:06:58.219 slept with a bride? 0:06:58.539 --> 0:07:00.058 You slept with the bride, I mean the groom? 0:07:00.659 --> 0:07:02.859 Okay, to be clear, To be clear, I didn't sleep 0:07:02.899 --> 0:07:05.099 with either of them, Like on the record. 0:07:04.979 --> 0:07:06.299 Do people care this much? 0:07:06.379 --> 0:07:07.419 That the real question I have? 0:07:07.699 --> 0:07:10.139 Don't you know that some people have strict dress codes. 0:07:10.179 --> 0:07:12.339 I know that some people are like, don't wear sequence 0:07:12.379 --> 0:07:14.059 and don't wear this, so long as you don't rock 0:07:14.139 --> 0:07:16.699 up to someone's wedding wearing a pair of jeans. 0:07:16.739 --> 0:07:19.619 I feel like ninety percent of this is stupid. It is, 0:07:19.819 --> 0:07:22.379 especially if it's your good friend or I don't. 0:07:22.139 --> 0:07:26.339 Know what it's not. It's just so dumb. 0:07:26.379 --> 0:07:29.699 It's like, I don't remember what people would to my wedding. Like, 0:07:29.779 --> 0:07:32.739 if there's fifty sixty eighty one hundred people at your wedding, 0:07:33.139 --> 0:07:35.459 the last thing that you were thinking about is look 0:07:35.499 --> 0:07:37.819 well for me is looking around at every guest and 0:07:37.859 --> 0:07:40.619 clocking and judging what they're wearing. I almost wouldn't be 0:07:40.699 --> 0:07:43.219 able to recall what half of you guys, and. 0:07:43.339 --> 0:07:45.779 You'd have you did have one rule on your wedding 0:07:45.779 --> 0:07:48.499 invite that was no patterns. And I saw an auntie 0:07:48.579 --> 0:07:50.699 or someone rock up in a dark blue and white 0:07:50.739 --> 0:07:52.059 patterned floral shirt and I. 0:07:52.019 --> 0:07:54.339 Was like, oh, that's your eyes. Some people didn't get 0:07:54.339 --> 0:07:56.259 the memo. The AUNTI is din't get the memo. That's okay. 0:07:56.259 --> 0:07:57.739 I let that one slide. 0:07:58.779 --> 0:08:00.499 Grit. I know I've talked about it a couple of 0:08:00.539 --> 0:08:01.219 times on this show. 0:08:01.299 --> 0:08:04.099 Now I probably should keep it to myself because look, 0:08:04.339 --> 0:08:07.979 it's personal, that's slightly embarrassing, but also maybe women should 0:08:07.979 --> 0:08:08.419 talk about it. 0:08:08.739 --> 0:08:11.419 And that is that my pelvic floor has. 0:08:11.259 --> 0:08:14.259 Been shot to well pieces, Yeah, it's been shot to pieces. 0:08:14.339 --> 0:08:16.099 It's left the chat here. 0:08:16.259 --> 0:08:19.899 And now I just if I surprise sneeze or surprise 0:08:20.059 --> 0:08:22.339 laugh or something kids me and I find I have 0:08:22.339 --> 0:08:22.659 a good. 0:08:22.579 --> 0:08:24.299 Gig, or just walk or I try and do a 0:08:24.339 --> 0:08:24.939 box jump. 0:08:25.059 --> 0:08:27.139 Let me tell you, I will wet my pants in 0:08:27.179 --> 0:08:28.739 a spectacular way. 0:08:28.859 --> 0:08:30.579 And is it getting worse throughout the pregnancy. 0:08:30.739 --> 0:08:34.179 Yeah, unfortunately, Like as this baby's getting bigger, so also 0:08:34.379 --> 0:08:35.979 is the accidents that I'm having in my pants. 0:08:36.099 --> 0:08:39.259 Laura, did I wish I could? I actually do not 0:08:39.419 --> 0:08:41.259 care at all to talk about. 0:08:40.979 --> 0:08:43.459 Like friends stealing thunder at your wedding and stuff. Laura 0:08:43.499 --> 0:08:45.579 stole my thunder in a different way. She like wet 0:08:45.619 --> 0:08:47.539 herself as I was about to walk down the aisle. 0:08:47.819 --> 0:08:50.379 I don't I don't know if there's anyone on this 0:08:50.459 --> 0:08:52.699 planet that would refer to that as stealing someone's thunder. 0:08:52.739 --> 0:08:54.779 If anything, I think they'd be deeply mortified. 0:08:54.859 --> 0:08:56.899 No, we had to put the ceremony on pause Becauselaura, 0:08:57.219 --> 0:08:58.779 we had to take room. 0:09:00.259 --> 0:09:01.659 But like, guys, stop the song. 0:09:01.819 --> 0:09:02.699 La was the ceremony. 0:09:02.739 --> 0:09:03.539 You'll be glad to hear that. 0:09:03.579 --> 0:09:05.499 After that, I actually I went to a GP, a 0:09:05.579 --> 0:09:07.739 new DP I've never seen before, because I was like, 0:09:07.859 --> 0:09:11.419 maybe I should start doing some keegels or something like, 0:09:11.459 --> 0:09:13.739 start doing some sort of exercises so that that's not 0:09:13.779 --> 0:09:16.099 an absolute train wreck. After I give birth to this kid, 0:09:16.459 --> 0:09:18.579 and I went in and it was a new doctor. 0:09:19.019 --> 0:09:21.139 And I don't know if you've ever experienced this yet, 0:09:21.219 --> 0:09:24.779 but usually I find, i'm thirty eight years old, that 0:09:24.819 --> 0:09:27.139 doctors are often older than me, you know, like I'm 0:09:27.219 --> 0:09:31.259 used to having like an old man who seems very wise, 0:09:31.419 --> 0:09:35.419 or an old female doctor who seems very wise. If anything, 0:09:35.739 --> 0:09:38.339 they are sometimes a similar age, but usually I would 0:09:38.339 --> 0:09:39.739 say most doctors I've been to see her in their 0:09:39.739 --> 0:09:40.539 forties or fifties. 0:09:40.619 --> 0:09:40.899 Yeah. 0:09:40.939 --> 0:09:42.619 Anyway, this doctor I went in and saw I was 0:09:42.699 --> 0:09:45.019 quite young. I would add a guest say that she 0:09:45.179 --> 0:09:48.059 was a gen z. And I spoke to her about 0:09:48.059 --> 0:09:50.099 my pellet floor, which I'm sure she's never had to 0:09:50.139 --> 0:09:52.099 experience herself, which is absolutely fine. 0:09:52.259 --> 0:09:54.179 She seems very well researched in it. 0:09:54.219 --> 0:09:57.299 But what she did say about my uterus could have 0:09:57.339 --> 0:09:58.458 been taken as an offense. 0:09:58.499 --> 0:10:00.219 But truly it didn't even touch the sides. 0:10:00.499 --> 0:10:02.419 She said to me, as she was trying to describe 0:10:02.459 --> 0:10:04.499 what happens to your uterus when you've had your third 0:10:04.619 --> 0:10:06.779 kid and how like stretched out and floppy and stuff 0:10:06.779 --> 0:10:10.179 it is. She goes, you know what happens when you've 0:10:10.179 --> 0:10:12.819 had more than two kids. Think about your uterus as 0:10:12.899 --> 0:10:16.139 like a tent. It's got no poles, there's nothing to 0:10:16.219 --> 0:10:19.379 hold it up. And that's actually a good analogy. 0:10:19.899 --> 0:10:20.859 I mean, unfortunate for you. 0:10:21.179 --> 0:10:23.379 I know it's an unfortunate analogy, but very accurate. I 0:10:23.419 --> 0:10:25.699 sat there looking at her, and I was like, Wow, 0:10:26.059 --> 0:10:28.499 I think you're actually bang on, But you probably could have. 0:10:28.499 --> 0:10:29.819 Found a nice way of saying that to me. 0:10:30.259 --> 0:10:32.499 I mean, to be fair, I sort of don't mind 0:10:32.539 --> 0:10:35.179 it because I mean, I'm a visual person, so. 0:10:36.819 --> 0:10:39.299 Yeah, because that gives me exactly what I need. But 0:10:39.339 --> 0:10:40.459 it's so funny you say this. 0:10:40.579 --> 0:10:43.379 I was like stuck in a thread on Reddit or 0:10:43.419 --> 0:10:45.339 something the other day that was talking about gen Z 0:10:45.499 --> 0:10:49.379 doctors specifically. The crazy thing is gen Z doctors are 0:10:49.419 --> 0:10:52.379 like twenty eight. So when you said your doctors are 0:10:53.019 --> 0:10:55.699 usually older, that's because we're now older. 0:10:55.859 --> 0:10:57.059 They also, I want. 0:10:56.899 --> 0:10:59.419 This to be very clear, in no disrespect to any 0:10:59.499 --> 0:11:01.659 doctor who's a gen Z like, you've done the hours, 0:11:01.699 --> 0:11:04.699 you've done the study, you're well and truly qualified. You 0:11:04.819 --> 0:11:07.539 just have a different lingo and we're all here for it. Actually, 0:11:07.619 --> 0:11:09.899 we do have a grab from something that's going around 0:11:09.939 --> 0:11:10.459 at the moment. 0:11:10.539 --> 0:11:11.539 Have a little listen to this. 0:11:12.259 --> 0:11:15.099 So yesterday I had my first experience with a gen 0:11:15.219 --> 0:11:18.379 Z doctor, and if you have not had one yet, 0:11:18.699 --> 0:11:22.299 brace yourself. We went to urgent care because I've I 0:11:22.419 --> 0:11:28.459 fainted again. But the doctor comes in and she's like, yo, dog, 0:11:28.739 --> 0:11:31.899 you passed out four times in the past forty eight hours. 0:11:32.019 --> 0:11:35.819 You need to go to the emergency room. By ambulance. 0:11:36.259 --> 0:11:39.899 That is verbatim what the doctor said to me. 0:11:40.459 --> 0:11:42.419 Oh godually, I'm I'm all for this. 0:11:42.739 --> 0:11:44.219 Some of the thread was so funny. 0:11:44.419 --> 0:11:46.539 Someone said, I had a gen Z nurse tell me 0:11:46.579 --> 0:11:49.819 in ICU that, hey, your pancreas has left the chat, 0:11:50.099 --> 0:11:53.579 which basically means that the pancreas is dead. As a 0:11:53.579 --> 0:11:56.699 millennial nurse, getting gen Z residents come through my unit. 0:11:56.579 --> 0:12:00.819 Is always comical. One looked at a brain scan and said, bra, 0:12:03.459 --> 0:12:05.139 that's it, she goes, I knew it was bad. 0:12:05.259 --> 0:12:07.019 I'm pretty sure that that's what that woman said about 0:12:07.019 --> 0:12:07.859 my uterus as well. 0:12:08.539 --> 0:12:09.299 I left the building. 0:12:09.659 --> 0:12:10.099 This one. 0:12:10.179 --> 0:12:12.859 I told a gen Z doctor that my knee was locked. 0:12:13.299 --> 0:12:15.779 He said, hmm, I don't know what that's about, but 0:12:15.819 --> 0:12:16.979 it sounds like a red flag. 0:12:17.459 --> 0:12:20.379 That's pretty funny. Wow, I'm all about it. 0:12:20.419 --> 0:12:22.539 I think, Hey, whatever way you want to communicate, If 0:12:22.579 --> 0:12:24.299 you want to tell me that my organs are dying 0:12:24.339 --> 0:12:25.699 by leaving the chat, that's cool. 0:12:25.859 --> 0:12:27.659 Oh, I'm all for it. It just makes me feel old, 0:12:27.659 --> 0:12:29.699 that's pretty much it. That's all that I'm taking away 0:12:29.699 --> 0:12:31.619 from this. And you know what, would also indicate that 0:12:31.659 --> 0:12:33.139 the fact that I keep paying my pants and that. 0:12:33.219 --> 0:12:35.859 You forget your husband's birthday, and uh, we can write 0:12:35.859 --> 0:12:36.338 a little list. 0:12:37.819 --> 0:12:40.899 One thing that I was particularly bad at when I 0:12:40.979 --> 0:12:43.499 was in the throes of dating. Thank god I am 0:12:43.579 --> 0:12:45.459 now married and had to go on a reality TV 0:12:45.499 --> 0:12:47.499 show to find my husband, But that was the break 0:12:47.579 --> 0:12:50.579 up part. I feel like I hung on to dear 0:12:50.659 --> 0:12:52.859 life to all of my relationships. I've said this before, 0:12:52.939 --> 0:12:55.379 until I drove those things so far into the ground 0:12:55.699 --> 0:12:56.379 that they were dead. 0:12:56.539 --> 0:12:58.739 Yeah, they were so dead. They were lifeless and limp 0:12:58.739 --> 0:12:59.179 and sad. 0:12:59.899 --> 0:13:03.099 But I also like, really struggled with the breaking up 0:13:03.179 --> 0:13:04.259 part of a relationship. 0:13:04.299 --> 0:13:05.019 Doesn't matter if I. 0:13:04.939 --> 0:13:08.099 Was dating someone for two days or two years, Like 0:13:08.179 --> 0:13:11.259 I almost impossible, And I think it's because I'm quite 0:13:11.459 --> 0:13:12.579 conflict avoidant. 0:13:12.739 --> 0:13:15.539 Do you think it's easier to be on the receiving 0:13:15.659 --> 0:13:17.939 end of a breakup or the breaker up erer depends 0:13:17.979 --> 0:13:19.059 on how blindsided you are. 0:13:19.179 --> 0:13:21.259 I think there's no person that's ever gone through a 0:13:21.299 --> 0:13:23.739 really bad breakup that's going to sit here and say 0:13:23.939 --> 0:13:26.419 getting broken up with is way easier. But I think 0:13:26.459 --> 0:13:30.059 for some people there are personality types that find doing 0:13:30.099 --> 0:13:32.619 the breaking up incredibly Like I say, in a relationship 0:13:32.619 --> 0:13:33.379 for an entire. 0:13:33.219 --> 0:13:36.219 Year, knowing that it was over, but I could not 0:13:36.339 --> 0:13:37.739 bring myself to break up with him. 0:13:37.819 --> 0:13:39.379 But the reason I want to talk about this is 0:13:39.419 --> 0:13:42.059 because if you were in the early stages of dating 0:13:42.419 --> 0:13:45.059 and you're finding it particularly hard to do the breaking 0:13:45.139 --> 0:13:47.539 up with someone when someone doesn't seem right, I came 0:13:47.579 --> 0:13:50.819 across an article that has a full proof formula for 0:13:50.939 --> 0:13:53.739 how to break up with them. And as someone who 0:13:54.099 --> 0:13:55.619 did quite a bit of dating but also quite a 0:13:55.619 --> 0:13:56.859 bit of breaking hearts skill, for. 0:13:56.939 --> 0:13:59.458 What you were going to say, there's someone who are 0:13:59.699 --> 0:14:02.819 shopped around, someone has been prolific in the dating sphere 0:14:02.939 --> 0:14:04.139 for yeah. 0:14:04.619 --> 0:14:04.779 No. 0:14:04.859 --> 0:14:07.419 But I also think you, and in all the conversations 0:14:07.419 --> 0:14:10.419 we've had over the last six years about friendship, you 0:14:10.979 --> 0:14:13.019 have been really good at calling things off when it 0:14:13.019 --> 0:14:13.779 doesn't serve you. 0:14:14.419 --> 0:14:16.979 It gets easier tried and tested. It's one of those 0:14:17.019 --> 0:14:19.219 learned traits that you have to spend time doing. 0:14:19.299 --> 0:14:19.979 Okay, hear me out. 0:14:19.979 --> 0:14:21.419 I'm mean to run you through and you can tell 0:14:21.459 --> 0:14:24.539 me what pointer is, dismisses or you know what you 0:14:24.579 --> 0:14:27.739 would do differently. So this is your perfect breakup text. 0:14:27.739 --> 0:14:30.019 Write this down, guys, put this as your bible. If 0:14:30.019 --> 0:14:33.139 you're in the dating throwsk okay. Firstly, start with a 0:14:33.219 --> 0:14:34.099 hello in their name. 0:14:34.219 --> 0:14:34.939 Know nothing. 0:14:36.379 --> 0:14:36.899 Hi Frank. 0:14:37.419 --> 0:14:39.539 No no nice names like if you've called them babe 0:14:39.579 --> 0:14:41.859 or anything like that. None, None, that's going babe, you suck. 0:14:42.019 --> 0:14:43.459 Yeah, don't do that. Okay. 0:14:43.539 --> 0:14:46.139 Small gratitude like had a really nice night the other night, right, 0:14:46.299 --> 0:14:49.299 something that's like, you know, or thanks for picking that restaurant, 0:14:49.339 --> 0:14:50.139 I really enjoyed it. 0:14:50.219 --> 0:14:51.739 Something really simple to the point. 0:14:52.179 --> 0:14:55.459 Next one, get to the point kindly and as honestly 0:14:55.499 --> 0:14:59.699 as possible, which is very simply, something like had a 0:14:59.739 --> 0:15:02.619 really great time. I'm not feeling it with you, you know, 0:15:02.779 --> 0:15:05.299 I hope that you find what is that you're looking for. 0:15:05.339 --> 0:15:06.939 Maybe that's got too much. I don't even know. 0:15:07.099 --> 0:15:09.939 I could see you even getting off Lauria are getting 0:15:09.979 --> 0:15:11.139 uncomfortable reading them. 0:15:11.779 --> 0:15:14.579 Then it says end on a positive note, something like 0:15:14.619 --> 0:15:16.059 you know, I wish you all the best. I really 0:15:16.099 --> 0:15:17.979 enjoyed getting to know you, even though you're giving them 0:15:17.979 --> 0:15:19.979 a shit sandwich and telling them that you really didn't 0:15:20.019 --> 0:15:23.059 enjoy it that much. And then number five, the friend 0:15:23.179 --> 0:15:25.219 opt in. I think that this one is the important one. 0:15:25.619 --> 0:15:27.499 The friend opt in where you say, but we could 0:15:27.539 --> 0:15:30.379 still be friends. You only say it if you really 0:15:30.419 --> 0:15:32.979 mean it, Like, if you're actually going to pursue a friendship, 0:15:33.019 --> 0:15:34.179 then you can throw that line in. 0:15:34.499 --> 0:15:37.259 If you're sending these breakup texts like after one or 0:15:37.259 --> 0:15:39.219 two dates, don't throw the friend thing in. 0:15:39.379 --> 0:15:42.019 Just cut your losses, really. 0:15:42.379 --> 0:15:44.019 Unless you need a new best friend. 0:15:44.099 --> 0:15:46.419 Some people do collect friends though, some people that go 0:15:46.459 --> 0:15:48.219 on single like you know, one or two dates and 0:15:48.259 --> 0:15:49.259 then they collect a friendship. 0:15:49.299 --> 0:15:51.219 Tally. Yeah, we have a friend that does that. That's 0:15:51.219 --> 0:15:53.899 what we give her a hard dive all the time. 0:15:53.939 --> 0:15:55.699 Okay, but I want to give you three one liners 0:15:55.739 --> 0:15:58.459 and brit tell me what you think when you're actually 0:15:58.459 --> 0:16:00.539 going into like the breakup part of the text, I'm 0:16:00.539 --> 0:16:01.859 not feeling a deeper connection here. 0:16:02.139 --> 0:16:03.139 Blunt to the point. 0:16:03.659 --> 0:16:07.379 Another option, however, I don't see this progressing further between us, 0:16:07.699 --> 0:16:09.099