WEBVTT - 🙋🏻‍♀️Your IVF and Pregnancy Questions Answered 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.640 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:06.279 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:11.080 Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:14.280 this land for thousands of years, and we show our 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:19.240 gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture. 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:31.480 This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:37.480 to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations, 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:43.080 healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve. 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:50.800 I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation, 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:54.800 and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:58.320 about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life. 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:04.640 Are you ready? Hello, my loves, and welcome back to 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:08.840 the Rising Honker Potty. Today we are doing a pregnancy 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:12.240 Q and A. So I can't believe I haven't done 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:16.880 like a proper pregnancy episode and I'm like over halfway truly. 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:20.479 Everyone says this, but your second pregnancy is just so 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:24.120 different to your first, and it just goes so fast. 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:28.600 Like obviously having a toddler and working full time helps 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.840 with that, but I feel like most moms feel that way. 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:38.319 I did just record the intro for my Trying to 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:42.080 Conceive Journey episode, So we have kind of like two 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.959 episodes going out. The first one is all about trying 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:49.080 to conceive and like infertility and some like live audios 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:52.400 of the whole twelve months of going through infertility. And 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:55.160 I just wanted to open up about that because I 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:56.920 said this in the episode, but I just don't feel 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:58.520 like it's spoken about it enough and I feel like 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:02.120 a lot of people struggle with it and it's very isolating, 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:04.880 and so I wanted to do a whole episode on that. 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:08.440 So if you're currently in a trying to conceive journey 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.760 or you have friends or family going through it, I 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.320 would suggest listening to that first. It's going to give 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.959 you like a lot more contexts and maybe just kind 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.040 of help you feel a bit more seen and validated 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:23.519 with how you're feeling. So that episode is there, and 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:27.560 then this episode is literally a Q and A episode. 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.120 I put a call out on my stories. You guys 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:37.880 had so many questions, so let's get into it. The 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:41.359 first question, the biggest thing that you and Tim change 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:48.560 that you think contributed to falling pregnant, Well, we had 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:51.839 to go through IVF so our journey is a little 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:55.799 bit different. We didn't fall naturally. We also didn't fall 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:59.520 naturally with IV our first baby. We actually did IUY, 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:03.880 which WHI is basically a procedure kind of think like 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:09.399 before IVF. If there's like unexplained in fertility, they will 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:12.920 recommend you do IUI, which think of like a Turkey 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:17.240 based star like. Basically, they time your ovulation and your 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:21.360 period for the exact days, so you do blood tests. 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.840 Sometimes you're taking hormones, sometimes you're not. I did take 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.840 hormones with IV. You know, your partner does a sample 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:31.040 which is like his sperm and at like the perfect 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:35.480 time of ovulation. Basically the doctor inseminates you, so think 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:39.040 like long Turkey based a thing going inside you and 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.160 puts the sperm at the highest point, so it's giving 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:46.800 you like the greatest chances. So we did IUI and 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:50.840 got pregnant the very first time. So basically they'll encourage 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.640 you to do IUI four times and then if that 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:57.640 doesn't work, you'll go on to IVF. This time, though, 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:01.960 we couldn't do IUI because we just had issues with 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:06.120 me having pcos and not ovulating on time, and then 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:11.640 tim sperm mobility wasn't great, and so we couldn't even 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.920 do IUI. We had to go straight to IVF. And 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.440 so your doctor will like tell you about all that. 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.800 So I highly recommend to see a fertility specialist if 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.800 it has been more than six months, because for instance, 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.479 like maybe you're fine, but your partner sperm isn't like 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.880 great quality, and so there's like supplements he can take, 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:33.760 there's things you can do before going through something like 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:37.160 IUI or IVF, but it just like really helps to 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:41.960 know about it. So like nothing changed for us. We 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:47.840 just did IVF and it worked the first time. Well, 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.520 I'm sure I'll get into that in a second. Okay, 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:54.039 So someone said, I'm starting IVS soon. What are some 0:04:54.200 --> 0:05:02.360 tips and how was the experience? Guys? IVF was kind 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:06.719 of fucked. Ah, And I don't mean to scare you. 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:11.800 I'm just gonna be very honest. Firstly, like the IVF 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:17.720 drugs to stimulate you. So basically how IVF works, or 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:22.039 my understanding of it, is you take hormone drugs to 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:26.320 stimulate you because you usually produce like one egg, but 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:29.080 with an IVF cycle, they want you to produce more 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.080 than that, so you take these drugs that will make 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:34.279 you produce more eggs. So basically think like, you know, 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.919 all the hormones when you get your period and you ovulate, 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:42.000 and how you feel that on steroids because you're producing, 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.520 like I produce like twenty four eggs, which is wild. 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:49.360 That's actually not good. The hormones are really crazy. It's 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.840 fine when you're on them. I just had severe side 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:58.159 effects with bloating and like, yeah, just like didn't feel great. 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:01.000 But also if you get baby at the end of it, 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:04.080 it's obviously so worth it. So the yeah, the drugs 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:07.880 are really harsh. And then our experience was honestly a 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:12.680 bit fed because so you do an egg retrieval, you 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.200 get so many eggs and you either do like a 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:18.800 fresh cycle or a frozen cycle. So the fresh cycle 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.440 means straight after them getting the eggs out, they can 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:25.200 put one back in in the same twenty eight you 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:29.800 know day cycle. But if you're overstimulated or your hormone 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:33.200 levels are like too hay wire, they freeze the eggs 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.640 and you do it like the next month if your 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:40.280 hormones like you So, I got over stimulated with my medication, 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.760 which means like I was so bloated so sick, like 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:48.279 felt horrible, and then they were like, your hormones are 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:52.320 too haywire. And I got overstimulated because like my body 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:58.080 just reacted really well to the ovulation drugs. So our eggs, 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:02.240 we had eight eggs in the first round and they 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:06.680 got frozen. So then when I went the next month 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:09.400 to k get one of the frozen eggs put in, 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:13.880 I was like tracking all good, and basically like they 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.920 thaw out one of the eggs and then that's what 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:24.000 gets inseminated. And there is like a percentage where you 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:27.640 can thaw out an egg and it's not viable, and 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.480 so they will just like thaw out another one. And 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:34.040 I was on the way to my doctors the IVF clinic, sorry, 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.320 and my doctor was like, hey, don't go to the 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:41.280 IVF clinic, come straight to my office, and I I 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:44.200 knew something. I just knew something was wrong when he 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:48.840 said that, and I went to his office and he 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:53.840 explained to me that basically, the like the IVF clinic 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:58.960 had stuffed up and they had put the wrong solution 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:03.280 in our a eggs, and it was the solution that 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:06.720 they're supposed to put when they're thawing it out and 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:10.200 they put that solution on when they were freezing them 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:17.040 and basically killed all eight eggs or eight fertilized embryos, 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:21.200 which is wild because how we found out was like, 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:24.520 they took one egg out, they thought it it wasn't viable. 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:28.240 They did a second, it wasn't viable. They did a third, 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:30.840 it wasn't viable. And then they were like, I think 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:34.760 something's not right here, because that like never happens, And 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:38.600 they looked into it further and basically confirmed that it 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:42.400 was a human error. And one of the scientists fucked up. 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.080 And I'm laughing about it because otherwise I will cry. 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:51.360 It was obviously devastating because it was so harsh on 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:54.480 my body and it's just so tough mentally, and then 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:59.240 to find out that that whole cycle everything was wasted 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:04.319 because human error was you know, was something so important 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:07.560 And like I just thought, imagine if I was a 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:10.880 cancer patient and those were like my last eight eggs, 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:14.560 or if like you know, Tim had died and those 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:17.880 were my last eight fertilized eggs of his babies, and 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:19.880 I wanted to have another one of his babies. Like 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:24.000 I just could not believe it happened. And obviously we 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:29.400 would devastated. They did obviously compensate us with like you know, 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.760 refunding us, you know, from our IVF. So technically we 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:34.960 got our IVF for free and doing the next cycle 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:38.240 for free, but like surely that's the bare minimum they 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:41.880 can do. So then we had to do a whole 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:46.200 other egg retrieval back to back. So, like I said, 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:49.480 these drugs are so harsh on your body, and it's 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.120 not usual to do them back to back. So I 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:55.800 really like hormonally got pretty like stuffed up by it. 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.960 And that's why, if you guys have been following along 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.240 my journey, I was showing so early, but it was 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.920 literally just because of the IVF and how big my 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:10.080 ovaries were because they were like overstimulated. But then we 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:13.080 had our we had a fresh transfer, and it was 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:19.560 really interesting because I posted on social media about the 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:24.079 trying to conceive journey. I had the second egg retrieval 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:28.760 and that week my hormone levels were quite heightened and 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:32.560 I had seventeen eggs taken out and to get a 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:37.040 fresh transfer, the CUSP is like anything over fifteen to 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:40.800 seventeen eggs, you have to do a frozen frozen transfer 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:46.160 and Also, my doctor was retiring the next week, and 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:48.960 so basically, if he didn't do a fresh transfer, I 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.720 was going to get passed on to another doctor. And 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.600 it was like, this is like mid December, so it 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:59.040 would have landed near Christmas time, which they're closed, so 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:02.640 we would have had to wait like January. I basically, 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.240 so I got out of surgery for my second egg retrieval, 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.760 you know, and my doctor was like, oh, look, your 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:12.280 levels are pretty high. We do get a lot of eggs. 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.319 I don't think it's going to be a fresh transfer, 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.600 but we'll call you next week with how many eggs 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.800 you get. That was like a couple of days later, 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:25.960 I posted our infertility journey on Instagram because that was 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:30.000 like my like done moment, being like are you fucking kidding? 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:34.360 Like back to back egg retrievals now having to wait 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:37.920 till the next year, and I was just exhausted and devastated. 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.319 And it for me, who I share my whole life. 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.400 I share my whole life on Instagram and on the 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:45.960 podcast and you know, on YouTube, and I love that. 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:50.360 But when you're going through something mentally and physically and 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.640 you're having to show up like everything's fine, it just 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:57.800 was exhausting and I was overdoing it, and so that's 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:01.840 when I posted about our trying to conceive no joke. 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.160 I think I posted it on like a Friday or something, 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.080 and then no joke. The doctor called on Monday and 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:11.319 was like, look, your hormones are elevated, like you are 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.240 right on the cast. But if you want to do 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:17.480 the fresh transfer, we can. I just would not recommend 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:22.520 it because chances are things won't work and we end 0:12:22.600 --> 0:12:24.640 up getting i'm pretty sure the same amount of eggs, 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:28.880 like eight eggs, and I was like, we're doing it, 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:32.959 let's just put one in, like I've got eight, and 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:37.000 so we did a fresh transfer and it took, and 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:41.400 that's current baby and my stomach. So it's wild because 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:44.280 like even even think about that from like a manifesting 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:48.280 like energy perspective of me, like finally sharing what I 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:51.719 was going through, just being like, oh, surrendering, like fuck this, 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:55.600 I'm over carrying this, like throwing in the towel vibes. 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.640 And then to find out the next week you can 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.240 do the transfer and then get pregnant, Like I was 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:05.120 like shocked. Me and Tim were shocked, like because I 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:07.960 think we just had at that point were like so 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:11.640 exhausted and so like, this isn't going to happen for us. 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:15.079 So it was wild. And then the cherry on top 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:18.400 is when we did the pregnancy test. You guys will 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:21.600 would have maybe seen this on Instagram. We got a 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:25.040 dud pregnancy test. So the first pregnancy test I took 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:28.319 came negative and you should see me in Tim's faces 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.360 and he literally goes I'm like, oh, this is the 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:34.280 saddest video ever. And then I realized that it was 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.000 dud because like there's this second line that should be 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:39.559 filled and it wasn't. And the instructions were like, if 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.599 you don't see this line, test again because it's not true. 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:46.280 And basically I tested again and Tim wouldn't even be 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.440 in the video with me because he was like, no, 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.600 I'm not testing it again because he was just like 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:55.120 so devastated and sad. And then we tested again and 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:58.360 I videoed it and I was like it was a positive, 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:00.440 and then he like jumped in the frame that it 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:05.199 was very, very exciting, but in a nutshell, that's how 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:08.720 IVF dirty. And I'm not meaning to scare anyone, but 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:13.400 it was wild. Okay, this is a good question, couldn't 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:19.960 you touch on newborn essentials. So newborn essentials honestly for 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:24.600 us because Ivy was like a colliquy baby and she 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:29.120 vomited all the time, so like like rags, like vomit rags, 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:33.240 and a sleep suit. Like if you think about how 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:37.400 cramped the baby is in your stomach and how you're 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:40.800 moving around all the time, and then you give birth 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.520 and this baby's like expected to like sleep in its crib, 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:50.080 not moving all like with so much space. It doesn't 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:54.000 like it, And so like wrap your baby, wrap them 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.440 so tight or use a sleepsuit, make them so warm, 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.760 and think about like if it is upset. I used 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.760 to hold Ivy on my chest so she could hear 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.840 my heartbeat and just walk around the house, and I 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:11.120 swear that worked every time. But like just understand they're 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.880 obviously like transitioning from being like warm and snug in 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.840 this beautiful little environment where they're all like tight to 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:23.160 having their legs and arms everywhere and being go uncomfortable. 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:29.160 So that, honestly newborn essentials was a sleep suit, wraps 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:33.640 and bib not bibs, yeah, actually bibs, and like vomit towels, 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:37.360 because that was my newborn experience honestly, the other stuff, 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:39.680 it's like a nice to have, like obviously you need 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.520 to cut a prem all those sorts of things. But 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:46.480 what I want to say when people, especially this is 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:51.040 a message for first time mums is I know because 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:54.960 I was the exact same with Ivy's pregnancy. But you 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:58.640 focus on the prem you focus on the nursery, you 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:01.760 focus on like the cute little clothes, and look, I 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:05.120 get it, I've been there. And also a lot of 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:08.880 people focus heavily on the birth. I did hypno birthing, 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:12.400 which I highly recommend, but honestly, I spent so much 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.240 time focusing on like the things the baby had and 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:19.480 the birth, and then I had Ivy and it was 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.120 like the biggest shock And what I wish I had 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:28.000 focused on was not newborn essentials. It was postpartum. So 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:31.960 when I say postpartum, I'm talking about like food prepping, 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.560 like literally, you guys, if you're a first time mum, 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:40.120 food prep, lactation snacks for yourself, food prep some like 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:46.560 slow cookers, some really beautiful nourishing food because like you're honestly, 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:48.880 it's like so wid when you have a newborn, you 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:53.200 just can't do anything because they feed and then they 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:55.760 sleep for thirty minutes, but like you've got to like 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.520 burp them, You've got to like change their nappy, and 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.480 then I swear after you've done the little things, they're 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:05.400 ready to feed again. It's like wild. So you like, 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.159 you know how people like, oh, I didn't even have 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:10.440 time to shower. I completely get that, Like that can 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:15.720 be a total reality. So being conscious like and also postpartum, 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:20.159 like stock up on like comfy outfits, have TV shows, ready, 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:25.840 have a lactation consultant, ready, read books about postpartum in 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.840 regards to if your baby does have colic, you know 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:30.879 what sort of problems can come up and how you 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:34.679 can fix them. Because we were so unprepared for the 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:39.639 postpartum period and it really took me by surprise and 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:44.200 it really rocked me. I personally didn't experience postpartum depression, 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:48.400 but I can totally understand why women would because it's 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:52.040 such a shock to your system and it's so different, 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.919 and I feel like no one prepares you, and I 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:57.680 feel like no one prepares for postpartum. No one even 0:17:57.680 --> 0:17:59.680 talks about it. We're all talking about like what pram 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:03.679 which by birthing, and it's like birthing is like twelve 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:07.439 twenty four hours, twenty seven hours if you're unlucky like me, 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.560 and then you have this like six month period that 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:14.040 is wild. Like even we had a sleep and feed 0:18:14.160 --> 0:18:17.240 routine with Ivy and that was really helpful. You know, 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:22.320 researching if they're not latching and lactation, et cetera. Do 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:25.400 that research. Don't just be like, oh, what one sees 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:28.840 shy buy, what pramshy buy. Obviously we need to do that, 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:32.280 But that's what I would say two first time moms. 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:38.080 Next question, any tips on a successful transfer. I honestly 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:40.679 didn't do any of like the old wives tell of, 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.960 like the chips. Actually I think I did Pineapple. I 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:47.320 know it's like you get macas chips or something. Honestly, 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:52.320 I just I'm really big on my trying to conceive 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:56.280 meditations and pregnancy meditations, and we actually have them in 0:18:56.359 --> 0:18:59.200 the Rise app the exact ones that I was doing 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:02.800 our whole journey and still the pregnancy one I do now. 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:08.200 And I just was really locking into the energy of 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:12.120 like you attract what you are, So it's like I 0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:18.720 was embodying being safe to myself. I was embodying feeling love, 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.240 like anything that I thought the baby would want to feel. 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:25.080 That's what I was embodying with our transfer, and I 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:27.959 was doing meditations to help me tap into that, and 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:32.040 it was it was like, you know, I'm safe with myself. 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:36.040 I love myself. My body is a home, my body 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:40.560 is a sanctuary. Like really embodying those feelings because I 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:43.840 truly believe like energy's energy, the baby's going to feel it. 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:48.560 So I just really wanted them to feel safe and 0:19:48.680 --> 0:19:52.840 like you know, obviously try not to stress, clear your calendar, 0:19:53.600 --> 0:19:56.160 just feel good in yourself. Like that's what I would recommend. 0:19:56.640 --> 0:20:00.280 What oil are you using on your bump? In an 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:03.119 ig reel this week you probably would have seen. So 0:20:03.160 --> 0:20:08.360 there's two oils. I'm using. Summer Skin Rejuvenation Oil has 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:10.760 been ten out of ten. I do have a code 0:20:10.760 --> 0:20:12.560 for that, which I'll put in the discount. And then 0:20:12.600 --> 0:20:16.400 also Pure Mama, which was gifted to me, and that 0:20:16.560 --> 0:20:19.879 oh my god, it smells so amazing and it feels 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:25.280 so amazing and it's like actual bump oil. Incredible. Those 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.960 two would be my recommendations. Would you guys go for 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:32.840 a third down the track, I'm pregnant with the number 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:37.879 two and it's on my mind. I have always envisioned 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:44.359 myself with three children. Tim on the other hand, said 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:47.360 he just wants to He comes from a family of 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.199 just him and his brother, whereas I come from a 0:20:50.240 --> 0:20:54.640 family of four, and I just loved having so many siblings, 0:20:55.080 --> 0:20:58.479 and I just always wanted a sister. And so if 0:20:58.520 --> 0:21:01.280 you guys don't know, the gender is a baby girl. 0:21:01.880 --> 0:21:06.280 And I'm just so excited for me and Ivy. Yeah, 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:10.560 the girls. And Ivy literally said the whole pregnancy, it's 0:21:10.560 --> 0:21:13.040 a baby sister. I want a baby sister, and so 0:21:13.080 --> 0:21:16.000 I should have believed her. I actually did think for 0:21:16.080 --> 0:21:19.040 the whole pregnancy it was a girl. Before the pregnancy, 0:21:19.080 --> 0:21:21.840 when I was doing like my meditations to the rise app, 0:21:22.040 --> 0:21:24.880 I did see a boy. Like I fully I thought 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:28.040 it was a boy. And then as soon as I 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:32.160 got pregnant, I literally I like thought to myself, oh 0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:34.160 my god, it's a girl. I know it's a girl. 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:37.840 I know like Tim would love a baby boy. And 0:21:37.880 --> 0:21:39.800 so we were kind of talking about like boys and girls, 0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:41.439 and I was thinking the whole time, I'm like, I 0:21:41.480 --> 0:21:45.439 think it's a girl, which I also would love a 0:21:45.440 --> 0:21:48.960 baby boy. But I think having Ivy and like having 0:21:49.040 --> 0:21:53.040 a mini you that it's so special, and I'm such 0:21:53.040 --> 0:21:55.160 a girly girl, like look at me, well you can't 0:21:55.160 --> 0:21:57.800 see me, but I'm like wearing pink, my head's all curled, 0:21:58.240 --> 0:22:01.000 and Ivy such a girly girl. I just I love 0:22:01.040 --> 0:22:04.199 our dynamic. I love I love it so much. Like 0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:06.679 I said, I didn't get a sister, so I'm so 0:22:06.800 --> 0:22:10.439 excited to have a sister for Ivy and to have 0:22:10.480 --> 0:22:12.760 another girl because they're just, I don't know, they're just 0:22:12.760 --> 0:22:15.200 the best. But also I would love to have a boy, 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:19.240 so I would love to have a third child. Tim, 0:22:19.480 --> 0:22:21.120 I don't know, guys, we'll see if we can get 0:22:21.200 --> 0:22:24.399 him across the line. I honestly think it's going to 0:22:24.440 --> 0:22:28.679 be up to what this baby is like because Ivy 0:22:28.800 --> 0:22:33.560 was a difficult move born, Like obviously love her so much, 0:22:33.680 --> 0:22:38.240 but oh my god, she was so difficult. And obviously 0:22:38.320 --> 0:22:40.240 Tim is a stay at home dad too, so he 0:22:40.400 --> 0:22:44.040 takes on so much more responsibility. So maybe it's like 0:22:44.080 --> 0:22:46.439 with the third child, we have to kind of like 0:22:46.520 --> 0:22:49.040 switch rolls a bit, which I'm totally up for. But 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:53.440 we will see. But yeah, I could totally go three. 0:22:53.520 --> 0:22:56.480 But also let's just let's see how two goes, because 0:22:57.000 --> 0:22:58.520 I just feel like, you never know, I might have 0:22:58.560 --> 0:23:01.040 two and be like I feel completely, I feel good, 0:23:01.720 --> 0:23:03.960 or I might be like, oh, I really want a third, 0:23:04.080 --> 0:23:07.560 but dear me is like, Babe, I don't know if 0:23:07.600 --> 0:23:09.840 I could do three because imagine if we have another 0:23:09.880 --> 0:23:15.280 girl and I'm so outnumbered. But also he's like the 0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:19.360 best girl dad. So we'll we'll see, we'll see. I'm 0:23:19.440 --> 0:23:31.920 just I'm so excited. Okay, So next question, any health issues. Literally, 0:23:32.080 --> 0:23:35.439 as I'm recording this episode, I have just been to 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:39.800 my doctor and we had our halfway scan and bub 0:23:40.160 --> 0:23:48.040 looks amazing. She's very healthy. But unfortunately, my placenta is 0:23:48.080 --> 0:23:51.320 sitting right on my cervix. So I've never really heard 0:23:51.359 --> 0:23:57.320 of this condition. But basically it's not good because you 0:23:57.440 --> 0:24:01.239 can't like birth the baby because like the placenter's there, 0:24:01.280 --> 0:24:06.280 if that makes sense. So hopefully as my tummy grows 0:24:06.280 --> 0:24:09.200 and the baby grows, the placenta just like shoots up. 0:24:10.160 --> 0:24:13.439 But my placenta has been there the whole time, and 0:24:13.480 --> 0:24:16.320 my doctor was hoping it had moved by the halfway 0:24:16.480 --> 0:24:18.480 point and it hadn't, so we kind of had this 0:24:18.520 --> 0:24:22.960 sit down discussion. I've got to wait until thirty two weeks, 0:24:23.000 --> 0:24:26.720 and at thirty two weeks will know if it's moved 0:24:26.840 --> 0:24:30.920 or not, and if it hasn't moved, it is classed 0:24:31.040 --> 0:24:36.639 a high risk pregnancy, and he recommends that you go 0:24:36.720 --> 0:24:39.680 on bed rest. Like he's like, you'll literally get admitted 0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:43.919 into the hospital at thirty two weeks and stay there 0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:48.199 for four weeks on bed rest because it's such a 0:24:48.320 --> 0:24:51.879 high risk of the placenta rupturing because it's right on 0:24:51.920 --> 0:24:56.080 the cervix, and if the cervix dilates or moves or 0:24:56.119 --> 0:24:59.720 you go into spontaneous labor, there's such a high risk 0:25:00.160 --> 0:25:04.119 you bleeding out and baby bleeding out, and it's not good. 0:25:04.359 --> 0:25:12.199 It's really not good. So I'm like, ah, amazing. Yeah, 0:25:12.280 --> 0:25:15.840 so literally I found out that today was recording, so 0:25:16.359 --> 0:25:18.440 obviously I've got to do my research. I'm going to 0:25:18.480 --> 0:25:20.240 look more into it. I'm going to chat to my doctor. 0:25:20.840 --> 0:25:23.359 Fingers crossed. We get the scan at thirty two weeks 0:25:23.480 --> 0:25:27.480