1
00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:06,479
Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.

2
00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,280
Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just

3
00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:15,040
Speaker 2: once answers now.

4
00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:15,920
Speaker 3: Hello and welcome to the Happy Families Podcast.

5
00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:17,880
Speaker 1: My name is doctor Justin course, I'm here with my

6
00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:19,640
Speaker 1: wife and mum do our six kids.

7
00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:21,480
Speaker 3: Kylie, missus Happy Families.

8
00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:24,680
Speaker 1: Friday of every week, it's older Better Tomorrow, where we

9
00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,200
Speaker 1: reflect on the week that was. We highlight what we

10
00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,639
Speaker 1: did right or what we did wrong, and try to

11
00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:32,280
Speaker 1: figure out how we can do things better tomorrow.

12
00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:33,160
Speaker 3: Kylie.

13
00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:35,960
Speaker 1: I'm going to go first today, and this is one

14
00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:37,720
Speaker 1: of those ones where I kind of put myself in it.

15
00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,400
Speaker 3: I had an incident. It's been a bit of a

16
00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:41,600
Speaker 3: rough week. You've got crook.

17
00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,800
Speaker 1: On Tuesday, I ended up unwell, very very rarely this

18
00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:48,440
Speaker 1: has happened in our home, but I was incapacitated for

19
00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,559
Speaker 1: Wednesday and Thursday. I'm still struggling right now as we

20
00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,400
Speaker 1: record this podcast, and you're looking at me like you

21
00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:56,720
Speaker 1: would rather still be in bed.

22
00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,800
Speaker 3: Been a rough week. But during the week, one of

23
00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:00,800
Speaker 3: the was having.

24
00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:04,720
Speaker 1: A particularly difficult time, and I decided that I needed

25
00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,040
Speaker 1: to find out what was going on. So I walked

26
00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,520
Speaker 1: into the room and I said, I've got a question

27
00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,119
Speaker 1: for you, and I just started at her. I started

28
00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:17,080
Speaker 1: asking the questions million miles an hour, kind of like

29
00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,320
Speaker 1: a machine gun, like just just one thing after another

30
00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,600
Speaker 1: after another after another, and I was getting what I

31
00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:27,000
Speaker 1: thought were really, really great answers. You heard the conversation

32
00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,080
Speaker 1: and walked in and said, now's not the time I

33
00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,520
Speaker 1: need to finish talking to you. I've already had this conversation.

34
00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:35,240
Speaker 1: And so I stopped after a minute or two, walked

35
00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:37,319
Speaker 1: out and said, okay, fine, tell me what it is

36
00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,120
Speaker 1: that you already know, because I've just had the conversation.

37
00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:40,080
Speaker 3: Now I know everything.

38
00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:42,760
Speaker 1: And we sat down and you started to talk to me,

39
00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:46,679
Speaker 1: and it turns out that I got some superficial answers

40
00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,200
Speaker 1: that were sufficient to satisfy me, only to discover that

41
00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,640
Speaker 1: your previous conversation had been far deeper and that you

42
00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:54,280
Speaker 1: knew a whole lot more about what was going on

43
00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,400
Speaker 1: than I did. That's my old who better tomorrow? That's

44
00:01:58,440 --> 00:01:59,000
Speaker 1: the whole thing.

45
00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:03,880
Speaker 2: One of the one of the benefits to being in

46
00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:06,680
Speaker 2: a relationship is that you have a partner in crime, right,

47
00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,480
Speaker 2: and if you use them, you might find out a lot.

48
00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:14,720
Speaker 1: So here I am thinking I'm doing but let me

49
00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:18,160
Speaker 1: go back a step quite often as parents generally, but

50
00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,399
Speaker 1: I'm going to get a little bit gender specific here.

51
00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:24,760
Speaker 1: As dads specifically, we kind of just think, all right, well,

52
00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:26,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to have the straight up conversation. I'm going

53
00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:27,680
Speaker 1: to get the answers that I need and we can

54
00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,320
Speaker 1: get on with it. Like get in, get it done,

55
00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,480
Speaker 1: get out. That's how we do shopping, that's how we

56
00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,959
Speaker 1: do cooking, it's how we do life. Just get in,

57
00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,000
Speaker 1: get it done, and get on with the next thing.

58
00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:44,440
Speaker 1: And clearly your conversation with our daughter was quite different

59
00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:46,480
Speaker 1: to my conversation with our daughter.

60
00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,160
Speaker 3: And as a result, you.

61
00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,720
Speaker 2: Know that quote by Shrek who said.

62
00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:57,880
Speaker 3: Augirls are like onions. They steam yes, no, or they

63
00:02:57,919 --> 00:02:58,880
Speaker 3: make you cry no.

64
00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,400
Speaker 2: Oh, you leave them out the sun, nigger brown starts

65
00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:02,600
Speaker 2: sprouting little white hairs.

66
00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:10,120
Speaker 3: No layers. Onions have layers. Ugers have layers. Onions have layers.

67
00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:12,320
Speaker 3: You get it. We both have layers.

68
00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,079
Speaker 2: Girls in particular are layers.

69
00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,399
Speaker 3: Guys are not that complex.

70
00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,440
Speaker 2: And you go in and you might get a top

71
00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:21,359
Speaker 2: layer if you like it.

72
00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,600
Speaker 1: If someone says to me, justin, what's wrong, what's the deal,

73
00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:28,120
Speaker 1: Just tell me what's going on, I'll just tell them

74
00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:29,959
Speaker 1: or I won't, depending on whether or not there's trust

75
00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:31,520
Speaker 1: in the relationship, I'll just say, oh, here's the thing,

76
00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:33,280
Speaker 1: or actually, I just don't want to talk about it.

77
00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:34,639
Speaker 3: It's going to be one of those two things.

78
00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:38,080
Speaker 1: And I know that. I mean, we've got six daughters.

79
00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,920
Speaker 1: I should have figured this out and you, of course,

80
00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:45,080
Speaker 1: but my old do better tomorrow is sometimes the direct,

81
00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:50,920
Speaker 1: straight up, hardcore, down the line, fared income, no pulled

82
00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,200
Speaker 1: punches approach is not effective.

83
00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if you yah for you? Yeah,

84
00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:57,920
Speaker 3: for you. I'm glad you worked it out.

85
00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:02,360
Speaker 1: Probably won't change anything, but I guess the challenge here

86
00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,160
Speaker 1: is I was certain when I walked out of the

87
00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,480
Speaker 1: room I sat down with you, I said, there's nothing

88
00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,520
Speaker 1: going on, it's just this, and that's when you rolled

89
00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,520
Speaker 1: your eyes and said, well, actually no.

90
00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:13,960
Speaker 3: So that's my older bed it tomorrow, Kylie.

91
00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:18,760
Speaker 1: The softly, softly approached can sometimes be better than the hardcore, just.

92
00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,920
Speaker 3: Get it done approach. You know, not even about leg onions.

93
00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,280
Speaker 2: Master is kind of not my story, but it kind

94
00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,359
Speaker 2: of is because I got a little bit involved. But

95
00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,920
Speaker 2: our eldest daughter, Chanel has gone back to work, and

96
00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:41,040
Speaker 2: that meant that we're now babysitting out where either babysitting

97
00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:42,839
Speaker 2: or her dad is babysitting.

98
00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:45,560
Speaker 1: No, no, her dad is being a parent. Her dad

99
00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:47,960
Speaker 1: is being a dad. Let's okay, yeah, let's just get

100
00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:48,400
Speaker 1: that right.

101
00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,359
Speaker 2: And so her first shift was in the afternoon. Jared

102
00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,880
Speaker 2: was able to babysit, he was.

103
00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:57,239
Speaker 1: Able to care for his own daughter. So I feel

104
00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:59,120
Speaker 1: like I really need to clarify that when I'm looking

105
00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:01,200
Speaker 1: after the kids, you can that I'm babysitting them.

106
00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:04,080
Speaker 2: You did used to consider that you were babysitting.

107
00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,840
Speaker 1: Well, I've grown, I've gotten better. But let me ask you,

108
00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,719
Speaker 1: do you feel like I'm babysitting when I'm looking after

109
00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:11,960
Speaker 1: the children, Like, for example, this afternoon, you're going away

110
00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:13,760
Speaker 1: on a camp for a couple of nights, and I'm

111
00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:17,839
Speaker 1: going to have at least one, two, potentially three of

112
00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:20,520
Speaker 1: our children at home. Am I babysitting the kids this weekend?

113
00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:22,720
Speaker 3: Or am I you're dadding? Yeah?

114
00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,680
Speaker 1: That's right, So I'm being the dad. So Jared, I

115
00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:28,080
Speaker 1: just really need to drill this point home. Jared is

116
00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:29,640
Speaker 1: doing what his job is.

117
00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:30,679
Speaker 2: Jared's daddy.

118
00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:32,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, Jared's got a dad.

119
00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,200
Speaker 2: So I decided to just ring and check up and

120
00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:39,680
Speaker 2: make sure everything was going okay. And we were having

121
00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,520
Speaker 2: a great conversation. And he may have acknowledged to me

122
00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,520
Speaker 2: at that point that he fed Indy something that I

123
00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,640
Speaker 2: know Chanelle would not be happy with.

124
00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,080
Speaker 3: Let's just spill the beans. This was the nat teller

125
00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:53,440
Speaker 3: story teller.

126
00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,479
Speaker 2: He gave us some peanut butter because he knows that

127
00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:57,560
Speaker 2: she's allowed some peanut butter.

128
00:05:57,680 --> 00:05:58,960
Speaker 3: And he's like fourteen months old.

129
00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:02,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he was having to tell her and he

130
00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,720
Speaker 2: just looked at me and was like, if she likes peanut butter,

131
00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:09,120
Speaker 2: she is gonna love Nadella. And so he gave her

132
00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,040
Speaker 2: some to tell her. And you can imagine, you can

133
00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,680
Speaker 2: imagine what a fourteen year old's eyes were doing, let

134
00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,080
Speaker 2: alone what it tastes. But we're screaming.

135
00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:20,000
Speaker 1: Fourteen month old, but fourteen fourteen years we know what

136
00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:23,320
Speaker 1: our fourteen year old does when she sees Natela.

137
00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,360
Speaker 2: But anyway, I had rung she now because I wasn't

138
00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,640
Speaker 2: sure she'd actually gone to work that day and she

139
00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,120
Speaker 2: didn't pick up. So she saw the miss call and

140
00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:34,839
Speaker 2: she rang me on her way home and she said,

141
00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:37,040
Speaker 2: she said, it was really hard, Mum. She said that's

142
00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:39,840
Speaker 2: the first time where I haven't been able to like

143
00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,240
Speaker 2: ring and just check in on her, because I've had

144
00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:44,120
Speaker 2: her a few times over the last few weeks and

145
00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,000
Speaker 2: she's just sent me a text. Is everything you're going okay?

146
00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,960
Speaker 2: It's asleep, you know. So it was a really big

147
00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,920
Speaker 2: deal for her not to be able to have that contact.

148
00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:53,839
Speaker 2: And she said, I'm just nervous, Mum. I think that

149
00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:56,360
Speaker 2: Jared may have fed with something that I know that

150
00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:58,560
Speaker 2: he knows I wouldn't like him doing.

151
00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:00,760
Speaker 3: So she'd picked that up from a cover well.

152
00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:03,720
Speaker 2: She said she'd asked him when she'd rung to make

153
00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,400
Speaker 2: sure everything was okay after her shift. She'd she'd asked

154
00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,760
Speaker 2: him if everything was okay, and he said, yeah, yeah,

155
00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:10,440
Speaker 2: everything's fine, but I'll talk to you about it when

156
00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:12,840
Speaker 2: you get home. And she's like, he knows that I'm

157
00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:16,000
Speaker 2: going to be really cranky. And so, without me kind

158
00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,720
Speaker 2: of thinking, we were just talking and I said, yeah,

159
00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:21,000
Speaker 2: he definitely fatter something that you're not going to be

160
00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,280
Speaker 2: happy with. And she's like, what, moum, what tell me?

161
00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:25,680
Speaker 2: She's getting really worked up about the.

162
00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,640
Speaker 3: Interfering in this. This is terrible. I was just I

163
00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:31,280
Speaker 3: was just we're supposed to be good in laws. Here,

164
00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:33,920
Speaker 3: we're supposed to be I wasn't even outing it.

165
00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,360
Speaker 2: We were just having a conversation.

166
00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:39,200
Speaker 1: I wasn't I think you're going to discover that he

167
00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:40,800
Speaker 1: did something that you're not going to be happy about.

168
00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:44,040
Speaker 3: That doesn't sound like an outing at all. Oh my goodness,

169
00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:45,560
Speaker 3: that wasn't my intention.

170
00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,120
Speaker 2: I was just having a conversation, and when it came out,

171
00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:51,440
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I probably shouldn't have said that. Anyway.

172
00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:55,560
Speaker 2: She kept we kept talking and she said, Mom, she said,

173
00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:57,640
Speaker 2: did it? Was it ice cream? And I said, no,

174
00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:58,560
Speaker 2: it wasn't ice cream.

175
00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,920
Speaker 3: It's way And she said, is that way worse? I

176
00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:02,960
Speaker 3: don't know. I think they're probably She said.

177
00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,640
Speaker 2: Is it worse than ice cream? And I said, well,

178
00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,680
Speaker 2: I don't know what your your threshold is for what's

179
00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:12,040
Speaker 2: good and what's bad. I said, I can't be sure.

180
00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,880
Speaker 1: And that's the fact that you didn't say no.

181
00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:18,520
Speaker 2: I would consider to tell her worse than ice cream,

182
00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:23,960
Speaker 2: I think. But as we continued the conversation, I kept

183
00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:27,240
Speaker 2: trying to stare back to a normal conversation, and we

184
00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,679
Speaker 2: just kept coming back to it. She was really really

185
00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,520
Speaker 2: worked up about it, and she said, did they leave

186
00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:34,920
Speaker 2: the house and I was like no. She said, well,

187
00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:37,559
Speaker 2: what do I have in my house? And I said, well,

188
00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:39,480
Speaker 2: if you don't think you've got anything bad in your house,

189
00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,760
Speaker 2: and you've got nothing to worry about. And she said,

190
00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,960
Speaker 2: but I don't know, and she got so worked up

191
00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,560
Speaker 2: about it, and as we continued talking, I said, you

192
00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,920
Speaker 2: know what I said, when you go home, you're going

193
00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:51,679
Speaker 2: to go inside and you're going to give your husband

194
00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:53,520
Speaker 2: a big hug and tell him how greatful you are

195
00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:56,000
Speaker 2: that he had he's looked after your baby.

196
00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:56,360
Speaker 3: That she's nice.

197
00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:00,400
Speaker 2: And she's like, no, I'm not, I'm going to be

198
00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:03,080
Speaker 2: really angry at him, and I said, and we kept

199
00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,600
Speaker 2: talking and then she said, all right, I'm home. I'm

200
00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:07,680
Speaker 2: going in to get angry at my husband. And I said, no,

201
00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,360
Speaker 2: you're not. You're going to go and tell him that

202
00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:13,520
Speaker 2: you're grateful because he was babysitting, because he was babysitting

203
00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:19,360
Speaker 2: because he was looking after her child, their child. But

204
00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:21,760
Speaker 2: the moral of the story is, as parents, we get

205
00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,800
Speaker 2: so worked up. Her whole, her whole perception in that

206
00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,000
Speaker 2: moment was this is why I don't like asking other

207
00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:29,000
Speaker 2: people to do it, because they can't do it like me,

208
00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:33,319
Speaker 2: And we get so riled up as parents sometimes wanting

209
00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:37,040
Speaker 2: things to go exactly to plan the way we want

210
00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:39,400
Speaker 2: it to go, because we think there's only one way

211
00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:41,240
Speaker 2: to do things. Yeah, it would be great if you

212
00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,240
Speaker 2: didn't give it then a teller, But it's not the

213
00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,000
Speaker 2: end of the world. She's gonna survive. And there are

214
00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:48,959
Speaker 2: so many other things. Whether it's grandparents who feed the

215
00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,199
Speaker 2: kid's ice cream at ten o'clock in the morning.

216
00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,760
Speaker 1: That reminds me it was my mom. It was my

217
00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:57,680
Speaker 1: mom who was a dietitian. She's actually a dietitian who

218
00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:01,680
Speaker 1: was feeding our child and ice cream at ten o'clock

219
00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,440
Speaker 1: one morning for breakfast, literally for breakfast on ice cream.

220
00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:05,080
Speaker 3: Okay, you can.

221
00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,320
Speaker 1: I think she said something about, but it's got all

222
00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:10,079
Speaker 1: those it's got dairy like, it's got.

223
00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:10,520
Speaker 3: Milk in it.

224
00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:12,959
Speaker 2: No, she said, if they won't eat, it's better that

225
00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:14,640
Speaker 2: we get fat into them than nothing at all.

226
00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:16,760
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, yeah, ye're fat and sugar. That would that'll

227
00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:20,160
Speaker 1: be fine. Okay, So take home message from me. Gee,

228
00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,120
Speaker 1: I mean, your story was so so much better than mine.

229
00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:25,440
Speaker 1: I can't even know what I talked about. Now, what

230
00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:26,600
Speaker 1: did I talk about?

231
00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,160
Speaker 2: Straight up? One eighty doesn't always work, especially with girls.

232
00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:33,160
Speaker 3: Can'tfully you've forgot that.

233
00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:39,319
Speaker 2: And my take home, My take home is I think

234
00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:41,280
Speaker 2: it's because I'm doing right with the small stuff.

235
00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:43,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think it's because I'm not doing well.

236
00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,080
Speaker 1: I'm still not fully recovered from the Indian that I

237
00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:47,719
Speaker 1: had the other night.

238
00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,600
Speaker 2: Excuse this, excuses. I don't think nobody needs to know that.

239
00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:52,040
Speaker 1: I don't think I can ever look at a bottle

240
00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:53,920
Speaker 1: of me in the same way. And you know that,

241
00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:59,320
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Take her message gently, gently, softly, softly,

242
00:10:59,840 --> 00:11:03,880
Speaker 1: and yeah, don't worry. Some stuff is worth worrying about

243
00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:05,680
Speaker 1: and other stuff is not. And sometimes we get caught

244
00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:09,040
Speaker 1: up on the wrong stuff, even if our child does

245
00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,880
Speaker 1: become a Natella addict and won't eat any.

246
00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:12,440
Speaker 3: Other real So.

247
00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:14,920
Speaker 2: I know the story was about Chanella and Jared, but

248
00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:19,520
Speaker 2: it's about us, like as parents, we always have these situations,

249
00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,080
Speaker 2: and I think about it looking back. I've just been

250
00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:24,480
Speaker 2: going over some old journals and reading back some of

251
00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:28,240
Speaker 2: the experiences we had, and I wonder, is the Natella

252
00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:32,240
Speaker 2: the problem or is it the angst that we create

253
00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,880
Speaker 2: coming home, the big reactions that has more impact on

254
00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:36,400
Speaker 2: our kids.

255
00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:36,840
Speaker 3: Yeah?

256
00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:42,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, as we prepared for today's podcast episode. Because it's

257
00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:44,040
Speaker 1: been such a nothing week with me being sick and

258
00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,599
Speaker 1: you're being sick. You called out to one of the

259
00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,920
Speaker 1: kids and said, we need a story for I'd do

260
00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,240
Speaker 1: about it tomorrow. And one of the kids said, Dad

261
00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:55,120
Speaker 1: got angry on Tuesday night. That was it, Like nothing

262
00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,720
Speaker 1: else has happened. It's been a terrible week. Dad got

263
00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:01,959
Speaker 1: angry on Tuesday night. And immediately I felt a rush

264
00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:05,440
Speaker 1: of pain to my heart because I was already coming

265
00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:07,600
Speaker 1: down with whatever was going on. I think you were

266
00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:09,360
Speaker 1: already sick. There was a lot of stress, a lot

267
00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:11,920
Speaker 1: of pressure. But the whole week, that's the only thing

268
00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,160
Speaker 1: that our daughter could think of. That was the only

269
00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,280
Speaker 1: thing that stood out to her, And it made me

270
00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,160
Speaker 1: just think if I'd given her a tell a sandwich,

271
00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,000
Speaker 1: maybe everything that'd be better. He was certainly quite direct.

272
00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:22,320
Speaker 1: I would have liked it if she'd been a bit

273
00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:25,480
Speaker 1: more softly, softly, See why I did that, See the

274
00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:26,480
Speaker 1: way I brought that back.

275
00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:28,840
Speaker 3: You know, Hey, we hope you have a great weekend.

276
00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:31,120
Speaker 1: We hope that our take her messages today are useful

277
00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:33,680
Speaker 1: in helping you to do better tomorrow. Have a fabulous

278
00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,360
Speaker 1: couple of days across the weekend, and we will look

279
00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:39,600
Speaker 1: forward to joining you again on Monday morning for your

280
00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,800
Speaker 1: podcast fix. The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin

281
00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:46,079
Speaker 1: Roland from Bridge Media. If you like more info about

282
00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:48,080
Speaker 1: making your family happy, you'll find everything you need at

283
00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:49,720
Speaker 1: happy families dot com dot au.

284
00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:56,640
Speaker 3: All girls, I like onions,