WEBVTT - Are We Narcissists For Posting Hot Pics Online? 📸👸💗

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It is Flex and Rooms on CATA And do they

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<v Speaker 1>just give podcasts to anyone these days? Yes, it's looking

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<v Speaker 1>like it. Someone cament on a TikToker that I was

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<v Speaker 1>saying we should start a podcast. Yeah. I didn't like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I shouldn't have real shared it. It's the energy, but

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<v Speaker 1>it is what it is. I love this and I

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<v Speaker 1>stand by it. Yeah, I stand by it. Listen. Emma Chamberlain,

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<v Speaker 1>social media superstar, has a partty called Anything Goes, and

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<v Speaker 1>in one of the most recent episodes, she posts the

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<v Speaker 1>question is it narcissistic to post photos of yourself? I

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<v Speaker 1>like to say words mean things, and we just like

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<v Speaker 1>take words and throw them at the wall and hope

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<v Speaker 1>they stick. I understand what is being said here, but

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<v Speaker 1>do we all have personality disorders for taking photos? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say no.

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<v Speaker 2>What's interesting is I think social media can actually and

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<v Speaker 2>us into narcissists, even if we weren't before. I think

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<v Speaker 2>social media has a tendency to bring out a very

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<v Speaker 2>narcissistic side of us that might have remained dormant otherwise.

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<v Speaker 1>Emphasis on dormant otherwise that in your sister, it was

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<v Speaker 1>in your system, and if it wasn't social media, it

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be something else. Before we used to

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<v Speaker 1>post on social media, we all look to opportunities to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about ourselves, to.

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<v Speaker 2>Bring bring the family photo booths, photo constantly.

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<v Speaker 1>Put it constantly. When I walk into my family home

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<v Speaker 1>and I go into my living room. When I go

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<v Speaker 1>into my living room, there are photo frames all on

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<v Speaker 1>the walls. Who's in those photos? You, babe? My mom house,

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<v Speaker 1>says Queen Liz, Like you know where you are, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>you know where you are socials, but she knows. And

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's thinking that, like, being self interested is a modern problem.

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<v Speaker 1>What about the Greek mythology of narcissists, the guy who

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<v Speaker 1>was so obsessed with his own reflection? Come on, now,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just human nature love the way that even being loathing,

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<v Speaker 1>being a self loathing, self deprecating character is so self interested. Ah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's boring to the point I want to seple obsessed

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<v Speaker 1>with themselves who like themselves as a starter. So yes,

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<v Speaker 1>The question is, has social media turned us into narcissists?

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<v Speaker 1>Hasn't turned It's given us an environment to do so

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<v Speaker 1>with reward. When I remember I was telling that story

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<v Speaker 1>of like me being sixteen telling that story. No one

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<v Speaker 1>was listening, and I was like, I need to learn

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<v Speaker 1>how articulate. When I was on my journey of learning

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<v Speaker 1>how to articulate, one thing that said to be mindful

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<v Speaker 1>of is speaking in imperatives, saying things like always literally yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like constantly when you really mean continuously and sometimes and

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<v Speaker 1>every now and then. And we fall into the trap

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<v Speaker 1>because it's like fill a language and stuff. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and say

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<v Speaker 1>that she didn't mean everyone and we're all narcissists. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's an oversight to assume that in this society

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<v Speaker 1>where people are now interested in improving their self concept

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<v Speaker 1>and sharing to the world, that it's always going to

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<v Speaker 1>be negative. I would much rather this than a generation

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<v Speaker 1>of like insular, closed off people who feel as though

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<v Speaker 1>their stories and their likeness is not worthy of sharing

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<v Speaker 1>like it used to be. I remember when I worked

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<v Speaker 1>in PR I would have been like nineteen or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and my co worker at the time was like, you

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<v Speaker 1>should post your outfits on Instagram, And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>why would I ever post on Instagram? Who cares what

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<v Speaker 1>I do? She's like, that's a very damaging mentality, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what do you mean. She's like, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean? Who cares what you do? I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't understand what you're saying. Like so I get

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, but you know, I was nineteen, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>but that mentality it bleeds over into everything. Why shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>people have permission to share their thoughts, both informed and uninformed.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the damaging part is that we as consumers

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<v Speaker 1>and audience members aren't just certain enough to know that

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<v Speaker 1>some things aren't for us to care about. I can

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<v Speaker 1>see someone crying on the internet, think it's weird and

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<v Speaker 1>move on, as opposed to now trying to pathologize why

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<v Speaker 1>they're doing that, if it's a narcissistic act or whatever, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever whatever. That's what we should be focusing on. You know, Slay,

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<v Speaker 2>Babe?

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<v Speaker 1>He knows he gets it. He's a real one. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I can't say sligh, but I can say podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm done, miss you already, Bye bye.

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