1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:05,559 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:09,119 Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just 3 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 2: wants answers. 4 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:13,039 Speaker 1: Now. Hello, this is doctor Justin Colson. I'm here with Kylie, 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 1: my wife from Under our six Kids. This is the 6 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:19,760 Speaker 1: Happy Families Podcast summer series, a quick podcast to remind 7 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,080 Speaker 1: you of the basics this week. Each day this week, 8 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: we're going to focus on one or two really basic 9 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: things that can make your family happier. Kylie, when you 10 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: think about the simple things, and that's what our topic 11 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: is today. It's the simple things that make family life work. 12 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: What do you reckon is the simplest thing that you've 13 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: been mindful of over the last couple of weeks, the 14 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 1: one little hack that every parent should remember to make 15 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: their family happier. 16 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 2: Lime in your sparkling water. 17 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: Right, So, a lot of people won't like sparkling water 18 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: full stop and desert. It's like, what do I do 19 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: with the bubbles? I don't like the bubbles in the water. 20 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 1: I love sparkling water, love my sodas dream Lime. That's it. 21 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: That's the simple thing that makes life worth. 22 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 2: Living, so so refreshing on a hot day. 23 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: Surprise, I was waiting for something really profound and you've 24 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: given me lime in the sparkling water. 25 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 2: My second thing is just choosing to sit on the 26 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 2: deck instead of my bed to read a book. 27 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: You know what, that's just love. 28 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:23,839 Speaker 2: There is just something so enlivening about sitting outside, feeling 29 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 2: the breeze, seeing the greenery, and reading a good book. 30 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: So this is what happens when I ask questions without 31 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: notice doing a parenting. Does that help you to be 32 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: a better parent? I think it does in your sparkling water. 33 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 2: Not in the way that you think, but those little 34 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 2: pleasures allow me to be more grounded and more in 35 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:45,039 Speaker 2: the moment, I. 36 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: Feel like life is right, everything's right with the world. 37 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: When I've got lime in my sparkling water and on 38 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: the couch on the balcony. That sounds like parenting made easy. Well, 39 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: you know what, where are the kids while you're doing this? 40 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 2: They usually end up outside? Yeah, they do, because the 41 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 2: rule is right, Mum stops and all of a sudden, 42 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 2: the kids are all there because they want your attention, 43 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 2: whether that be sitting on the loo or But. 44 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:10,839 Speaker 1: They see you on the door, even if you're reading. 45 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: They see you on the deck, they see you outside, 46 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: and then they gravitate. 47 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 2: To gravitate, be outside. That's right, and then conversations are 48 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 2: able to happen. And do you know what it is? Yeah? 49 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 2: What it's actually because we've stopped right right, Yeah, we 50 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 2: are accessible. 51 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: So maybe that's the simple thing. Yeah, because that ties 52 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: in with what I was going to say, ask me 53 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: what my simple thing is? 54 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 2: What is your simple thing? 55 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: So I was thinking when we came up with the 56 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 1: topic of simple things. I was thinking. Just the other day, 57 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: Emily came into the bedroom while I was reading on 58 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: the bed, not on the deck, and she said, Dad, 59 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: can I give you a hug? I put the book 60 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: down and she hopped into my arms and she just 61 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: hugged me. This sweet little eight year old wanted to 62 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 1: give a dad a hug. And I just laid there 63 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: for I reckon. She hugged me for about thirty seconds 64 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: and she said thanks, Dad, and then she got up 65 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: and walked off. But for that thirty seconds, well, it 66 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: didn't just last thirty seconds. I basking in the glow 67 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: of it now, and it came down to stopping, actually 68 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: stopping and being in that moment with her. I'm thinking 69 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: of we've got our brand new puppy, a little puppy 70 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: dog called Ruby and we walk along the beach with 71 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: her each night, and that makes life awesome. I'm thinking 72 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: spending time with the kids running and surfing, and there've 73 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 1: been some of the best. 74 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 2: Just say they're not simple. 75 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 1: Well they are for me because I just put my 76 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:32,639 Speaker 1: shoes on, we go for a run, or we throw 77 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,359 Speaker 1: the boards in the car and we headed down to 78 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: the beach. 79 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 2: I have loved, absolutely love. It's not something that I 80 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 2: share the experience with, so I am at home with 81 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 2: Emily when you guys go and do that stuff. But 82 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 2: I have absolutely loved just seeing the girls being able 83 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 2: to have that time with you and get up, go out. 84 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 2: And the other day we had the kids had haircut 85 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 2: appointments and so instead of me taking them all, you 86 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 2: actually got on the bike with Miss eight You've got 87 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 2: a brand new bike for Christmas, and road to the 88 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 2: shops and met me there. And I just love seeing 89 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 2: the girls being able to have those experiences with you, 90 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 2: because so often when you're traveling they obviously miss out 91 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:11,360 Speaker 2: on them. 92 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: And for the people who are currently working and saying, well, 93 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: I've got to go to work and at school holidays 94 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: and it's the worst. We've been doing a lot of this, 95 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: not all of it, but we've been doing a lot 96 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: of it before seven am. Like we've gone for our 97 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 1: run and we're home by seven. We've gone for a 98 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: surf and we're home by seven seven thirty. You can 99 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: still have a life in the morning before everyone heads 100 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: off to work, even during school holidays, and it makes 101 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: such a difference. So I guess attention is the currency 102 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: of relationships. Take time and make sure you have some 103 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: of those little pleasures. They are the simple things that 104 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: we want to remind you about in today's Happy Families 105 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: podcast for our summer series. Tomorrow on the podcast, we're 106 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: going to share with you some basics back to basics, 107 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: focusing on when you've been your very best as a parent. 108 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: Can't wait for that as much for listening today. I 109 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: hope you have a wonderful school holiday day and we'll 110 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: see you tomorrow on the podcast.