WEBVTT - I only usually share this hack in my manifestation course… ✨ 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.600 The Rising Conker Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:08.320 land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen Bear region. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:13.320 We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.840 sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.880 past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:34.159 and terrestrid Islander peoples. Today. Hello and welcome back to 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.360 the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:51.600 ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello and 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.560 welcome back to the Verizon Ponker Podcast. It is your host, 0:00:55.600 --> 0:01:02.240 Georgie Stephenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, mum, business owner, all the things. 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:08.800 Welcome back to another Tuesday episode. Today we are chatting expanders. 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:11.520 If you don't know what that is, hold tight. We 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:14.959 get right into it and I have a whole bunch 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:19.320 of examples. You're going to feel so inspired after this episode. 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.399 But before we get into it, a little update on 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:26.039 my week. Honestly, not too much to update. Had a 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.800 very chill weekend. Wanted to spend a lot of quality 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:32.120 time with Ivy and Tim. I just feel like we've 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:35.600 had a whole bunch of weekends where we've had, you know, 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:40.200 stuff on like friends' birthdays and this and that, and 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:43.080 I just I wanted to spend a weekend at home. 0:01:43.200 --> 0:01:45.880 I even got a massage. It was lovely. I was 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.960 also quite exhausted because I had a huge work week, 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:53.560 obviously in the NH warehouse recording this. Pody and I 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:57.080 also had a very exciting photo shoot. I did some 0:01:57.120 --> 0:02:00.920 stories a little sneak peek. I can't tell you exactly 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:03.720 what that project is actually, I think I can tell 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:06.160 you next week. Oh my god, I'm so excited. So 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.440 I tell you guys about that next week. But it 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:12.400 went really well. It was just really funny because before 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.400 I got there, I was actually chatting to my EA Ellie, 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:19.160 and I was so nervous. And it's like I've done 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:22.959 photo shoots a lot, like I've been there, done that, 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.680 it's not something new, and I was I was so nervous, 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:28.880 and I had all these kind of thoughts running through 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.280 my head of just like, you know, who am I 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:35.959 to do this? You know, I'm six months postpartum, like oh, 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:38.600 you know, worried about what I was gonna look like. 0:02:38.840 --> 0:02:41.280 And then like, you know, all these people are here 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.920 for me, and I just I don't know. I had. 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:46.640 I had a bit of like a moment where I 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.400 was just like encompassed in Yeah, who am I to 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:52.680 do this? In postera syndrome? And I really had to 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:56.560 like put on a good song, pet myself up and 0:02:56.600 --> 0:03:00.799 be like I'm an ordinary person doing extraor ordinary things. 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.760 And I had to give myself that pep talk. And 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:06.760 I just wanted to touch on it today because I think, 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:09.480 no matter how many times you get out of your 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:13.200 comfort zone, it's still the same feeling of just being 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:16.679 so uncomfortable. But like I say to you guys all 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:19.040 the time, that is where the magic happens. That is 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.959 where the good shit happens. And I know that getting 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.680 out of my comfort zone just leads to so many 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:30.040 good things. So put my hype music on, I got 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:31.920 on the zone, and I just had the best day. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:35.680 And yeah, I'm body excited. I hopefully get to tell 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:40.400 you guys about that. But guys, this episode is a goodie. 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.880 I hope you love it. Let's get straight into it, 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:55.560 all right, guys, today we are chatting expanders. This is 0:03:55.600 --> 0:04:01.720 a term I coined, didn't coin this term, but I 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.040 feel like I haven't really heard anyone talk about it. 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.840 To be honest, I hadn't heard anyone talk about it 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:09.400 when you brought it up. But I knew the concept 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:12.600 but not the term expander. But then in the past 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.320 week I've seen it a few places. 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:18.839 That's so weird. I think the actual words expander is 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.719 something I made up. Yeah, but then the actually what 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.039 we're talking about is like not a common thing. But 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:28.400 it's like, it's not the idea. Yeah exactly, let's just 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:29.200 go where I coined it. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:33.880 When your Google expanded, it comes up with braces. So really, 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:37.800 oh my god, I didn't even know this term. 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.840 It's because I just go off simple words as well. 0:04:41.960 --> 0:04:44.560 So in the project I would have been like, use 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.000 this as your expander, and then I'm like, this is 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.760 Expanders's that's how the term came to me, if that 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:55.680 makes sense. So guys, today we are chatting expanders and 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:59.000 if you don't know what that term means. So basically 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:04.240 this has come about from my teachings in my seven 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:08.680 week manifesting and self development cause the project. So in 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:12.520 the project, I teach you my manifesting formula, and you know, 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:16.120 we go through everything. This is not a part of 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:19.599 the formula. This is like a manifestation hack that I 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:24.039 will teach people as a way of basically how to 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:27.640 get around a block they have with what they want 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:30.360 to manifest. So, you know, in the course, a big 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.880 thing I say to them is like, you have to 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.400 dream big and you have to listen to your heart. 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:40.240 So I call them like heart desires, Like you can't 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:42.719 get it wrong if it's on your heart and you're 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:46.599 following your intuition, even if it doesn't make a lot 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:48.960 of sense, but it was put on your heart for reason. 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:51.240 And then so people come back to me and they'll 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:54.360 be like, you know, I on my heart, I've got 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:58.640 this huge dream, but it doesn't make sense, and also 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:03.080 like who am I to do this? But what I 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:06.520 would then say to them is, well, you need to 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:10.919 find your expander. So for example, they might be like, 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:14.040 you know, I, let's just use me as an example. 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:18.560 So you know, I've created two seven figure companies before 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:22.719 I was thirty. That was my big goal of wanting 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:26.560 to build a business, not just be an influencer, but 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:30.279 also this huge thing of I wanted my businesses to 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:34.080 be purposeful. I wanted to have you know, fun every day, 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:38.440 and you know, I've got various goals anyway, So lots 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:40.480 of people will be like, you know, my goals are similar, 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.000 but how can I do what you've done? I don't 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.719 have a following, or I don't have a brother, or 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.600 I don't have a Cooper, I don't have a Cooper, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:55.240 And they will often get hung up on the Oh, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:58.640 but you know you can do that because of this 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:02.640 and that, and then so my response to them is, yes, 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:06.000 that is a fact about me. But also I guarantee 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:09.000 you I could find someone who has done exactly what 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:12.520 I've done without a following, without a Cooper, et cetera, 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:17.360 et cetera. So previously, when I have a huge goal, 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:21.239 and I almost because to manifest a goal, you need 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:25.080 to believe you can do it. Otherwise there's no way 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:27.800 you're going to attract this thing in because that's just 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:31.360 not like how the universe works, because like attracts like. So, 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:34.000 if you don't believe something's going to happen, look it's not. 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:38.280 It's not. So what I kind of explain to people 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:39.960 is like, you need to believe it, and if you 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:44.720 can't believe it, a great way to start believing it 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:49.080 is like surrounding yourself with people who have done the 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.320 things you want to do. And you know, the whole 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:55.720 thing of you know, the five people you surround yourself with. 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.240 Love that is like you're the average of the five 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:00.680 per people you spend the most amount of time with. 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:05.000 Yes, and so many people like holy shit, because you know, 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:09.040 maybe they don't spend their time with the right people. 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:12.600 And then also a big thing comes about of you know, 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:16.240 well how do I find people you know, who I 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.960 want to hang around with? And my example is always 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:23.880 will go buy their books, listen to their podcast, research them. 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:26.800 You don't have to be best friends. But for example, 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:29.080 what I used to do on the bus when I 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:30.760 was going to my law job is I used to 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:34.880 listen to podcasts. So technically every single day I'm surrounding 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:39.280 myself with people who like I wanted to be. It 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:41.480 was just before and after work. It wasn't during work, 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:42.280 if that means. 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:45.359 And even if they weren't physically there, like their influence 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:47.720 was on you for X amount of hours of the day. 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:52.720 Yes. Huge. So to the point, expanders is basically a 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:57.880 manifestation hack, so you can believe in your goal and 0:08:57.920 --> 0:09:01.199 your manifestation. So we thought it would be a bit 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.680 of fun today for me and a tea to come 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:07.800 to you guys with some stories, well they're not stories 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:11.360 because feral facts. Some a minor stories though, because a 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:15.440 big thing too is expanders don't always have to be people. 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:20.640 They can be movies, they can be books. Basically they 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.440 are a person or a thing that expands you to 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.959 believe in yourself. I didn't think about it like that. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:31.880 I doubt people. No, Yeah, And that's why I truly 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:34.280 believe in the concept of like who the five people 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.240 surround your the average of the five people you surround 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.720 yourself with, But not so much that because to be 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:45.000 completely honest, like a lot of my five people, like 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.240 who knows that amount of people? No, But like my 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:53.880 close friends, group and family, isn't necessarily people who are 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:57.079 doing the same things to me or people I inspire 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:59.560 to be. They're like just friends I want to surround 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:03.679 myself with. And then people I inspire to be is 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:06.360 books and podcasts and movies for me. 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:09.760 Yes, And it's like it just comes down to like 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.840 how important it is to choose the content you consume 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:15.000 carefully because it has an impact on. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:19.640 You huge And I think also once it's so it's 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.200 the premise of the four minute mile. Have you heard 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.960 about this? Stia, I haven't. Oh my god, So I'm 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:27.719 gonna butcher this. I do it every time I saw 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.640 I've said it on this podcast. Actually I said on 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:35.560 Rachel Dyllon's podcast, and I butchered it. So basically, the 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:39.000 premise of the four minute mile is I believe it. 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:42.240 It's like in America or something in the seventies, no 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:46.040 one could run a mile in under four minutes, like 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:48.200 just no one could do it. And then so what 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:52.240 happened is one guy did it, and then no joke, 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:55.520 after the world found out this one guy did it, 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.640 like hundreds of people started doing it. So like that's 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.720 such like a feel a cool thing of they thought 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:05.920 it was impossible, and then one person did it, and 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:09.000 then everyone was like, oh easy, I can do it too, 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:12.080 and then people started, like hundreds of people started breaking 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:15.240 this record, and that's such amazing. Isn't that such a 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.959 testament to you know what we're talking about? So literally, 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:21.960 for example, if you have big goals, or even not 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.559 big goals, if you've just got goals and you're struggling 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:29.040 to believe in yourself, a huge thing that I have 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:34.800 done is surround myself with inspiring people or inspiring content 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:39.120 to then make me believe it, and then you you 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:43.480 bet I've gone and done it. That's awesome. So I've 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:46.600 got about four or five stories. A Tear has got some. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.560 My stories are more like in my personal journey, and 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.360 then A Tear has got some great just like huge one, 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:54.600 huge one. She told me about them. I was like, what. 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:58.200 So we thought it would be a fun episode to 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:04.040 get your brains thinking about expanders. Tell you some inspiring stories, 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:08.000 and then your homework for this week is, after this episode, 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.800 think of what your huge goal is, think of what 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:14.200 the block is, and then go and find either a 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:17.800 person or a piece of content that tells you that 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:21.480 you can achieve that goal. I love it, love Okay. Also, 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:25.520 you know this is the whole concept of our new 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:31.160 mancha that you know, we're just ordinary people doing extraordinary things. Yes, 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.400 so what you're about to hear is just ordinary people 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:37.560 doing extraordinary things. And guys, this is such a huge 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.440 thing in manifesting too. This is such like a great 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:44.240 manifesting hack and also just a very quick plug. I've 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.720 kind of teas this in previous episodes, but the project 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:55.160 is coming back for one Yes, so the project is 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:59.840 coming back for one live round this year. I honestly 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:01.640 just like don't have a lot of time this year 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:05.080 between exciting projects and IVY, but I did promise you guys, 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.720 and so we are excited it's coming back. It looks 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:13.680 like it's going to be a July start date, but 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:18.120 more to come. And yeah, I don't know. I'm now 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:20.400 that we have gone back into the podcast and I've 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:23.160 started talking about manifesting, like I so to do it again. 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:25.520 I live for this shit. And then oh my god, 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:28.160 just like the transformations that come out of the project 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:31.720 is just it lights me out. So anyway, let's get 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:35.720 into it. I'm going to start sounds good and this 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:38.520 is like, this is going to be funny. But these 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:42.360 were my expanders when I was in high school, when 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:45.080 I didn't know expanders were a thing or what was 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.640 even happening, or I didn't realize I was manifesting things. 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.240 So these were my expanders that made me believe I 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:56.040 could do my law degree. So I went to a 0:13:56.080 --> 0:14:00.120 public school. No one in my family has gone to university. 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:00.880 You know. 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.319 My three older brothers were plumbers, my dad was a palmer. 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.600 No one I really knew was going to university. Wow. Yeah. 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:09.480 Out of my friend group, I don't think anyone went. 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.679 And so I had this dream that I was like, 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:16.280 I want to do something like prestigious, Like I wanted 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:19.120 to be like a lawyer or doctor or you know, 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.880 something like that that like my parents could be proud 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:23.920 of me for doing it. It was very much that 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.520 vibe and I had done legal studies at school and 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:29.400 really enjoyed it, but I had this weird block about it. 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.200 I was like, I can't be a lawyer. Lawyers are boring. 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.640 Lawyers are boring, and also just didn't think I was 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:38.160 smart enough, even though at that point in like my 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:40.920 legal studies subject, I was getting like a pluses. I 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:49.520 was doing well, it's cute, dear, heypusses, I know why 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:55.240 we see this, So no joke. I watched Legally Blonde 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:59.680 was obsessed with Reese with Esperion, and after watching that movie, 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.480 I was like, oh my god, I could be a lawyer. 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:07.800 It's so fun you get to work cut out bits. No, 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.800 but it was more about she could have because I 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:14.960 was very much that girl. I loved fashion. You can 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:16.720 tell by the person I am, what sort of person 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:20.600 I am, and I like, yeah, I just love that 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:23.200 she could do both. Yeah, And it was the first 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:26.880 time that I kind of was opened up to that idea. 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:30.920 So then at the same time, my oldest brother had 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:35.600 a girlfriend who just got accepted into law at university 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:39.600 and she very much like came from a very low 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:45.720 socio economic background and you know, really had to put 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:47.960 She would not call her off naturally smart, she had 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:50.640 to really put in the work. And then yeah, so 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:54.320 she got into law and was like really excited about it, 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:58.640 and like, both those things together were literally the reason 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.760 that I went into my law degree. That's amazing and 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.200 maybe not yet, like not when it did it bit 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:06.240 believed that you could, that I was worthy enough to 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:09.200 go and do it. That's so cool. I love it. 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:10.480 Watch yours. 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.800 I'm going to start with start with Serena and Venus 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.640 Williams love So have you watched King Richard? 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:17.000 Yes? 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:21.480 Yeah, best movie ever, honestly, right, and I for them 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:23.200 For those of you who haven't seen the movie or 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:26.560 don't know, they had a very rough upbringing. They had 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:28.280 a lot of siblings, they were living in a very 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:32.360 low socioeconomic area in America at that point in time. 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:34.920 There was still a lot of racism and segregation and 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:37.560 all that sort of stuff, and they were the youngest 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:41.240 out of their family, and their dad took them to 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:45.440 the tennis courts almost every day, rain, hail, sunshine, and 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:49.800 they would train every single day. And this was never verified, 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.880 but it is a plot that's followed in the movie 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.360 that he wrote this plan for them before they were born, 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.840 that he was going to make them the Michael Jordan's 0:16:56.880 --> 0:17:00.040 of tennis, and no one believed him. Everyone thought he 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:03.280 was crazy. And you'd all know now that he actually 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:07.320 did that because those girls worked so hard. And one 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:10.199 thing that really stuck with me, especially from that movie, 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.760 was he said we've got doctors, lawyers, and two tennis 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:15.040 stars in this house. And I was like, yeah, sure, 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:17.239 that's a line from the movie, not a line from 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:20.879 the movie. Their siblings are doctors, one's a lawyer. Like 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:25.400 incredibly successful family that just had very hard working parents 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:27.960 that taught them the right values and taught them that 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:31.560 they could do anything, and they have done everything. He 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:35.240 got them scholarships when people said, no, one's going to 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.639 pay for them to learn tennis. At that time, it 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:40.600 was obviously a sport that people who are very wealthy 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:42.240 could do because you. 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:43.040 Had to pay a lot. 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:46.920 He found someone that moved his entire family, gave them 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:49.840 a house, food, electricity, paid for all their bills for 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.800 all these years because he wouldn't let the girls compete 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:56.399 to the point of finally letting the girls compete and 0:17:56.520 --> 0:18:00.400 them smashing it and taking over the world. But for them, 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:02.040 like for me, that's such as. 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:06.240 Are MoPo And now you know the movie. 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:08.800 Yeah, now you know the movie, but I highly recommend it. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:12.240 It's a great watch. But that was a very eye 0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:14.880 opening thing for me because I just assumed that they 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.480 were wealthy, yes, because I saw them from when I've 0:18:18.480 --> 0:18:20.679 seen them. I saw them as being wealthy, and I 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:22.760 saw them as being super successful. And I was like, 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:26.760 there's no way that they came from nothing, and they 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.359 have literally come from nothing. And that's what I find 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:32.120 so inspiring because its huge. They were very young when 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:35.280 they did it too, like age was not an issue 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:35.640 for them. 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:39.199 Yeah, I love that and that, Yeah, can confirm that 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.280 is the best movie. And I think that's a huge 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:45.200 thing of a lot of people. When they're talking about 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:48.600 goals or you know, wanting to do things or inspiring people, 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:50.600 they're like yeah, but you know they came from a 0:18:50.640 --> 0:18:55.120 wealthy family or you don't understand, like I had a 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:59.600 very rough upbringing, and it's like that can also be 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:03.639 true while you're still, you know, achieving things. 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:07.480 Yeah, don't let don't let having a rough upbringing or 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:11.000 a rough childhood stop you from doing great things, because 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:13.280 usually that makes the things you do even better. 0:19:13.400 --> 0:19:18.160 A great story love. Okay, So my next one, and 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.800 this is like a very specific one, but there is 0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:25.960 an influencer who I used to follow called well still follow, 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:29.159 Amanda Boucci. At this time, I had just quit my 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:32.600 law job and I kind of didn't know what I 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:35.480 wanted to do. But I had quit my law job 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:38.240 and I was doing the influencing thing. But I had 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:42.600 this like huge thing that it's like I didn't want 0:19:42.640 --> 0:19:47.240 to be an influencer. I wanted to be known as 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:50.560 more and do more. And it's almost like I had 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:52.240 this kind of chip on my shoulder that it's like 0:19:52.440 --> 0:19:56.119 I wanted to transform my personal brand from not just 0:19:56.160 --> 0:20:00.480 being a fitness influencer. And so a man Da Booty 0:20:00.640 --> 0:20:05.480 at that time was also a fitness influencer who had 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:10.959 made a huge pivot into being a business entrepreneur and 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:12.720 I can't actually remember what she did, but I think 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:15.080 she did like courses or like that side of things, 0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:17.720 and I actually did some coaching with her. Bit you know, 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:21.600 previous to that, she was someone in the space who 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:26.200 was a fitness and film flat, who was a fitness 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:30.600 influencer who pivoted and then was really established and well known, 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:33.320 and she was also only huge podcasts like Lewis Howe 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:36.760 and those ones, and she was well known to you know, 0:20:36.880 --> 0:20:41.280 do this huge pivot. And so at that time it 0:20:41.320 --> 0:20:43.880 was huge to me because that's what I wanted to do, 0:20:44.000 --> 0:20:47.080 and I felt very stuck because I was like, oh, 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:49.639 but everyone's just going to think of me as an influencer. 0:20:49.680 --> 0:20:52.879 They're not going to take me seriously. But then I 0:20:53.000 --> 0:20:58.200 used her as well, look she has done it, and yeah, 0:20:58.240 --> 0:21:01.119 she just did some like really cool things and completely 0:21:01.240 --> 0:21:05.600 changed her personal brand. But it worked so well, and 0:21:05.680 --> 0:21:08.880 so I again used her as a well she can 0:21:08.920 --> 0:21:11.520 do it, I can do it too. Yeah, And it 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:14.640 was such a like huge you know, she was female, 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:17.080 she was a couple of years older than me, Like 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:20.879 I'm very like my expanders are usually me as a 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:24.560 person previous years, and that's what works well for me 0:21:25.280 --> 0:21:28.280 was other people that doesn't matter too much. 0:21:28.680 --> 0:21:31.160 Yeah, like you can use well, I found even when 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:33.119 I was trying to research expand is the one that 0:21:33.560 --> 0:21:35.840 the ones that initially came to my mind, they were 0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:38.520 all female, they were all within the sort of industry 0:21:38.560 --> 0:21:40.200 I wanted to go in. And then I was like, oh, 0:21:40.240 --> 0:21:41.919 maybe you need to include some other stories. 0:21:42.000 --> 0:21:45.320 Yeah, well, I think like your expander, it really does 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:49.920 need to be someone you resonate with who has well, 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:52.600 that's the whole point is because you can see yourself 0:21:52.640 --> 0:21:53.160 in them. 0:21:53.119 --> 0:21:56.120 Exactly, and so there's no point like I obviously don't 0:21:56.119 --> 0:21:58.080 want to be a tennis player and is inspiring as 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:01.200 Venus and Serena are that more just a reality check 0:22:01.240 --> 0:22:03.760 for me when I'm feeling down about not being able 0:22:03.800 --> 0:22:04.800 to do something huge. 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:07.760 And see that's also a great point a tear because 0:22:08.040 --> 0:22:11.760 they don't have to be as specific as I'm talking. 0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:15.760 They can just be almost like a motivational sort of one. 0:22:15.800 --> 0:22:18.800 But also I do definitely encourage you to find like 0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:25.160 very specific ones too, and that's it. Okay, who's your ex? One? 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:27.840 Another huge one and I actually didn't know this much 0:22:27.840 --> 0:22:30.879 about her, but she bounced around before she ended up 0:22:30.920 --> 0:22:33.800 where she did. But it's Sarah Blakely And for those 0:22:33.840 --> 0:22:35.920 of you who don't know, she's the founder of Spanx. 0:22:36.160 --> 0:22:37.680 Oh my god, I love her. 0:22:37.800 --> 0:22:41.800 I've listened to how I built this with her. She's amazing, amazing. 0:22:42.200 --> 0:22:45.560 And so she first of all her parents one was 0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:47.840 an artist and the other one was a trial attorney. 0:22:48.000 --> 0:22:52.040 So obviously nothing crazy entrepreneurial or anything like that. She 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:55.160 wasn't handed the reins to any business. And she has 0:22:55.240 --> 0:22:59.240 one brother who also became an artist. And she actually 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:09.800