WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Would you date a 104 year old? 👵 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:14.560 Laura, come on in. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:20.760 Welcome to the Pickup. 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.680 Laura just had a sandwich before we started. She got 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:27.159 it from the cafe. She opened it up. 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:28.880 It's supposed to be like a pit of bread, but 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:31.120 they just forgot to put any feeling in. 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:33.440 There's not a sandwich, there's no there's nothing inside. It's 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:34.680 just bread, just two bits. 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:38.920 Of bread and choking it down because it's so dry. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:39.360 Whatever. 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.800 Okay, well you just swallow. Okay, in some more exciting 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:46.200 room news than my bread. Last week on the show, 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:48.919 we were talking about it being February twenty nine, which 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:51.440 is a leap year, and apparently on leap years that 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:53.840 is when women are supposed to propose to men yes 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:54.800 in heterosexual relations. 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:57.600 Year old Queen Margaret of Scotland said it was okay. 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:58.920 We don't need to go back into the details yet 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:00.720 we were just discussed it really hung up on the 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.520 history lesson. I appreciate that. But also we had somebody 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:05.640 slide into the DM saying that they proposed to their 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:08.679 boyfriend of seven or eight years and he said, yes, 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.240 she's sent a photo of her wearing a beer can 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:14.720 little ring, you know the thing that you Anyway, she 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:16.160 said it was very spur of the moment. 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.039 She didn't plan it, and then she was on the lounge, 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:19.920 she had this moment, so she proposed and then she 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:21.080 was like, oh, we don't have a ring. 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:23.319 So they pulled off like maybe it was like was 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:24.679 it a beer can? Like it looked like a ring 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:26.600 off a tunican or something that she'd put on a finger. 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:27.199 It was awful. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.080 It was a disgusting ring. And it also she said, yes, 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:31.920 it goes to show that she listened to the show 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.080 and was like, I'm doing it tonight because I had 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:34.840 no three of them. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.120 Yes, she may have missed the opportunity of it being 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:38.360 February twenty nine. 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.240 Yeah, good, and if she would have looked like missed 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:41.040 the opportunity to do it. 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.880 Influence and the power here that we have at the pickup, 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:45.880 maybe we should discuss some big topics then if we 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:46.479 have that much. 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:48.920 Influence and we're talking about new marriages. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:51.120 Now right, No just just marriages on leap use. 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.200 Okay, well we're discussing age gaps in relationships to we'll 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.000 do it next in pick up put Down, it's our 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.120 it's a secondent we do every Monday. We discussed the 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:00.320 big topics of the weekend. I mean, I'm a age 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.080 gat relationship. I'm not going to tell you how. 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:02.880 Much it is. 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:06.160 So is brit and Laura went on a reality dating 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:07.960 competition and found her husband, So we're all weird. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.040 I mean, I'm still older than that, which you know 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:12.359 that does go against the norms, doesn't it. 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:14.480 So if you're in an age gat relationship, you're gonna 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:14.880 want to hear this. 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:17.239 And I'm also going to be updating you guys today 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:20.000 on something very personal that I've been going through, and 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:21.880 that is my fertility journey. 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:24.320 So it's been an ongoing process for a couple of 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:26.400 years if you've been coming along that with me. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:29.360 But I do have a pretty big update today. 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:30.919 All right, it's a big show. That's all on the 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.840 way here at the pick up. It is Monday, so 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:34.960 I think we should. 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.400 Do this pick up. 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:40.560 Yeah, we discussed the big topics of the weekend that 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:43.280 had people talking and Laura and Brit you either pick 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:45.520 it up, carry on the conversation, or we put it down. 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:47.160 It's pick up, put down, that's it. 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:49.440 We do it every week now. It's become a staple, 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:49.880 hasn't it. 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:50.240 It has. 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:52.400 I love a game show. This is not big game show, 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:53.760 is it. I just love a game. It's definitely not 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:54.200 a game show. 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:54.520 It's right. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.200 It could be though, because the TV network TV networks 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:58.560 have reached out they want the rights to it, and 0:02:58.560 --> 0:02:59.520 I've said no. 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:00.400 No, we're keeping it. 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:01.000 Yeah. 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:02.639 Okay, Oh, here's what have we got. What's going on 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:03.320 in the world today? 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:07.919 Banning single use disposable coffee cups. 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:12.560 I want to pick that up, but Laura and I 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:14.400 both have a coffee in her hand right now, so 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:15.200 you know, okay. 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.760 This comes off of the back of Sorry, Western Australia 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.600 becoming the first state in Australia to introduce a ban 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.960 on single use, non compostable coffee cups on Friday. 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:27.560 I think it's great and if it comes in as mandatory, 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:29.960 it means that people like us, who sometimes are a 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:32.200 bit lazy we forget to bring our keep cup, too 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:33.880 busy to think about it. It means you'll be forced 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:35.280 to think about it and you have to do it. 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.840 Says same. But you know what, everyone gets angry with 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:39.360 a bit of change and then we all get used 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.960 to it. Imagine how angry everyone was about the single 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.920 use plastic bags that will worsen coals that no one cares. 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:45.440 They're over it. 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:47.920 Yeah, it's amazing for the environment. Obviously it's heading in 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:49.760 the right direction. Is it going to be inconvenient a 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:51.680 lot of the time. Yes, just means people might drink 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:52.360 less coffee too. 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:54.520 Yeah, it's a green piece about to reach out. We'll 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:56.880 get some spun con You are the face of a 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:57.520 green world. 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.640 We've got the coffee making coffee. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:01.680 It's terrible, all right. 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:06.400 Next, influencers asking for free food in exchange for exposure? 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:12.960 What put down? What are you putting down? Though, influencers 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:17.320 asking for free food? I would never I would never either. 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:19.839 But the only thing I want to say in conflict 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:23.040 to this is that businesses can just say no totally, 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.560 like an asker is gonna ask. A business doesn't have 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.800 to get so angry and offended. Just say no or 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:29.880 don't reply message. We were just sparissing. 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:31.520 Yeah, we were talking, That's what happened. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.880 A UK restaurant has revealed a response they posted online 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.120 saying that an influencer came in said hey, give me 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.359 a free meal and I'll give you some exposure for 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:41.800 your restaurant. That it wasn't struggling, it was a popular 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.040 restaurant and they're being slammed for outing them. 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.200 Look, I get why people get annoyed because everyone wants 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:48.719 to hate influencers. But in the same instance, for example, 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:51.280 like say a magazine contacts a business and says, oh, hey, 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:53.039 we're running a promotion. You can put an ad in 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.000 our paper. It's going to cost you one thousand dollars 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.839 to run this ad. No business is like, how dare 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:01.800 that magazine? Ask me? Influencers have exactly that a huge 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:04.360 amount of influence. Lots of people watch what they're doing, 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:06.159 and it is a great way of advertising for a 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:06.720 lot of business. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:10.040 But I think like, yeah, but it's also so angry. Yeah, 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:10.839 but I don't know. 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:12.440 There is And I hate to say, I know we 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.680 all I do influence title, Yeah, but there is. It's 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.400 the image of an influencer, right, It's the how you're 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:20.000 all paying for our meal and you're asking for a 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:21.280 free one because you've got a blue tick and you 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:22.200 were on a reality show. 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.680 Once I get it, that's not a very pointed mansion. 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:26.960 You can if you can give a meal, if you 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.240 can give a fifty dollars meal to somebody that has 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.120 an audience of like four hundred thousand people. That is 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.320 advertising you literally will never be able to afford to 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:35.760 pay for. 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:36.599 So I get it. 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:39.120 I just also, like you said, Laura, just just say 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:41.360 I don't have to embarrass them, and. 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.320 Like, I just don't like the idea of shaming and 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.760 embarrassing people for what when when you can just move 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:46.320 on with your day. 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:49.360 You're gonna love this one. Pick up, put down age 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:50.560 gap relationships. 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.800 Pick it up because I have the history of age 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:56.560 gap relationship. 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:58.640 It's a cougar, she's a closet cougar, she loves a 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:02.479 young clo she's out of it, and I'm proud I 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:05.440 have nothing against age gap relationships. Could killis well. 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:06.520 This has come out over the weekend. 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:08.560 A forty eight year old man in a relationship with 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:11.560 his grandfather's one hundred and four year old widow. 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.440 He's been questioned, but I just say, I don't have 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:17.880 a problem with age gaps. I think we've found potentially 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:19.640 where the light is. I have an issue with this 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.040 one when one hundred and four it's his grandmother. 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:24.719 Well, essentially so a massive age gap. 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.240 There's no sexual intimacy, apparently they don't have sex, but 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:30.400 he's forty eight He said their relationship has an emotional, spiritual, 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:31.640 and intellectual depth. 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.640 They lived together, so nearly sixty years difference. 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:35.719 Yes, that's right. 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:39.640 They sleep in separate beds though, because missus has PTSD 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:43.440 from World War II experiences. He wasn't born, so they 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.719 can't sleep together because she has night terrors from World 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:46.159 War two. 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:49.040 Bullshit, this can't be a real relationship. I'm sorry. 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:52.799 I believe that love is love except when you're fifty 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:53.599 and one hundred and forty. 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:59.000 I agree, But I also think people do weird stuff. 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:01.120 Maybe it is real, Maybe it's real. 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.680 What's that age gap? Forty eight and one hundred and four? 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:06.080 What's that it's like it's fifty six years? 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:10.640 Yeah, it's look the sixty years. Okay, it's very very weird. 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.600 I would say most people would say it's not okay 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.960 because it's just bizarre. But also it doesn't affect me, 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.960 so I don't care. Let them be in a relationship together. 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:20.840 Is she sound of mind the one hundred and four 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.240 year old because one hundred and four. I doubt it 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.080 because can she consent? That's a big question. 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:27.520 Okay. I feel like we need to pollination on this one, though, 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:29.640 because I would I would love to know, like where 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:31.360 is the line? Most people say they're okay with age 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:33.800 gat relationships, but how how big can the age gap? 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:36.080 Because more question, what's your age gap? 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:40.280 Brit But my ex was seven years and my current 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.480 relationship is five years, So I'm moving in the right 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:43.600 direction into the limit. 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.880 If you're listening, now, what is your age gap? The limit? 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:46.760 Like where do you draw a line? 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:49.160 Thirteen one of sixty five will continue this conversation next 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:53.680 on the pickup. If you're just tuning in, we're talking 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:55.320 saucy age gat relationships. 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:56.920 Well, I mean, Mitch, you were. You were telling us 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:58.800 about this guy who's forty eight years old. He's now 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.000 in a relationship trying to claim that he's in a 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.760 relationship with one hundred and four year old woman who 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:07.800 is actually the widow. Yeah, well it's kind of like 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:12.160 his dated grandfri. So his grandfather died and his widow 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.160 is now the person he's in a relationship with. It's 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:17.000 as confusing as it sounds. But also the question was 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:19.440 is how far is too far when it comes to 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:20.200 an age gap. 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:24.360 I'm saying when they're one hundred and they experienced a 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:27.560 war that you weren't even born for for me probably 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.440 the line. Look, I'm I love age gaps as we know, 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:33.400 like literally, I date younger. 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:37.440 I have dated seven years younger historically. How young would 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:39.120 you go, though, bri it, that's the question because you 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.880 say I date younger seven years is your ex? What 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:43.640 would be the youngest. 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:46.080 What I'm going to say is here, as long as 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.840 they a legal age. Now, what I'm going to say 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.040 is I genuinely believe most of the time when it's 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:55.120 not an obvious green card grab like this guy's obviously 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:57.040 doing because he's he's not from Australia, he's dating one 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:57.920 hundred and four year old. 0:08:58.440 --> 0:08:59.800 It's very obvious what he's doing. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.199 For me about listen, age is just a number if 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.600 it's their maturity level. So like my ex was twenty six, 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:10.080 but I didn't notice that difference. My partner now is 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:12.320 five years younger than me. I don't notice a difference either. 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:14.480 To be fair, though, this guy's forty eight, Like I mean, 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:16.920 he's mature enough to make a mature decision about who 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:18.400 he wants to date. He wants a day in one 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:19.400 hundred and four year old woman. 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.520 Let him go. For where I stand is that he's 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:22.240 going to get. 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:24.640 An inheritance and an Australian citizenship. 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:27.959 Guy, if it makes her happy in her final years, 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:29.680 whatever you think of the tech support. 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.040 If she had a HDM I problem with her, Telly, 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:34.040 he'd fix it. 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.520 Come on, Sweaty Cobby doesn't even know who he is. 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.320 I think that's my problem. It's it's power imbalance. 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:41.920 I'm in an age gat relationship. The person I'm seeing 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:43.920 is sixties younger than me. But they're twenty one and 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.440 I'm twenty eight. So then I think anything younger than 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.000 twenty it's an age thing. You're right, anything younger than 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:50.960 the twenties, I think it's an issue. 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:56.480 Yeah, not an age. That's also seven years, sorry not six. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.920 I think it's interesting though, because people always have a 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:02.320 different variable. So I would go up by fifteen years, 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.640 but I'd probably only go down by three. So I'd 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.720 date someone fifteen years older than me, but I'd probably 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:08.160 only date someone three years younger than me. 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:10.480 And old Maddie your partner. 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:12.520 He's one year younger than me. He's the youngest person 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.120 I've ever dated. I've only ever dated older guys. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.400 But it's also it's also more of a shock horror 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:20.600 when it's a woman that's older. Age gaps are always 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:22.440 fine when the man's older and he's dating down. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:23.920 But it's so true, Britt. 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:25.679 Yeah, but when you're one hundred and four year old woman, 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:27.520 I mean, what a boss. Hey, we've got some people 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:28.920 calling in with Lee. 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.760 Hi, Lee, what's the what's the age gap ceiling for you? 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:33.640 Ceiling wise? 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:34.560 Ah? 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:40.000 Gosh, probably depending on the person. I would say I 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:44.360 mainly date based on maturity, like matching wise. So if 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:47.800 the person was say, like you know, ten years older 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.360 or so, but there was still unlike under the same 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:54.240 life circumstance that I was, like similar job, industry or whatever, 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:58.080 then yeah, I definitely consider it. But younger, oh god, 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.240 I don't think i'd go more than two to be I. 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:04.040 Feel the same personally. But I think when you say 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:07.240 it's maturity wise, like everyone has a line in the sand, 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:10.800 like ten years, twenty years, fifteen years, Like there's got 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:12.800 to be an age where you go, Okay, even if 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.520 our maturity levels match, it just feels a bit too 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:16.080 old for me. 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:19.520 But what's what's your thoughts on this situation where there's 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.400 a guy that's fifty dating one hundred and four year 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:22.240 old that was his grandma. 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.160 Oh, that's definitely a money grab. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:29.600 Absolutely, yeah, she doesn't even know. 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:31.040 I'm sure she knows. 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:31.920 She knows. 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:33.760 There's plenty of one hundred wars. There's probably not plenty. 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:35.520 There's a few hundred and four year old who've still 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:36.280 got their wits about him. 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:37.800 But they're not they're not giving they're not giving her 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:40.480 enough credit. She could be making the choice. He could 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:45.319 be the one being taken advantage of. He's not to 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:47.520 add chemistry to it. 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:48.280 Thanks drama. 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:52.640 Hey guys, I have a pretty important update after the break. 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.760 I've been talking about my fertility I mean, if you 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:57.240 know me, for a couple of years now. It's been 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.160 a very I hate the word journey, but it's been 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.720 a very ongoing journey. And I do have an update 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:03.559 that I haven't spoken about on air before. So I'm 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.559 going to talk to you about that after the break. 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.120 All right, that's next on the pickup. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:09.000 So if you guys have. 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:13.280 Been following along with my fertility journey, it's something that 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:13.959 I've been going on. 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:16.319 I mean it's been going for the last couple of years. 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:19.200 I've been speaking very openly of the years about my 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:23.640 egg freezing purely because I'm in my mid thirties now, 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:27.760 my fertility, as most people does around this time, starts 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.560 to deteriorate. So I did the egg freezing a few 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:34.240 times and I haven't spoken about this yet, but last 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:38.079 year mid to the end of last year, so I 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:41.960 decided that with in my situation and with my fertility 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.959 and the way it was going, that I should be 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:48.559 freezing embryos, not just eggs. I should make real babies 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.120 and put them on ice because you have more of 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.079 a chance of success in the future. 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.360 Brit An embryo is like when you inseminate an egg 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:56.840 from you with your partner bands. 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.800 Sperm, So I, well, you can do it with anyone sperm. 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:00.960 You can do a donus sperm. But I did this 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.880 experience with my partner Ben, who lives in Scotland, so 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.800 he came over here to do it, which was amazing, 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:08.920 and we just decided as a couple that that's what 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:11.880 we wanted to try and do. And then I literally thought, cool, 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:13.720 I've made the decision, We'll make an embryo. 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:14.559 I'll forget about it. 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:17.440 There is no part of me that thought I would 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:22.240 walk away from that situation with no embryos nothing And 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:26.720 that's exactly what happened. And I guess I was faced 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:29.559 with this. I knew my fertility was not great, but 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:31.280 not one percent of me thought I would walk away 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:33.679 empty handed. And it was a real slap in the face. 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:38.440 So basically, I got a few embryos. And the way 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:40.880 it works is you get them on the spot, right 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:43.959 walk you wake up from the anesthetic, then struck them. 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:45.640 They make them right there. 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:49.640 Yeah it's amazing, Well you can yeah, yeah, you can 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.960 walk out. You wake up from the anesthetic, and your 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.240 doctor will tell you how many she thinks you're going 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:56.839 to have, but that's not how many you end up with, 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:59.720 because that's how many on that day. But what happens 0:13:59.800 --> 0:14:02.120 is that takes like six days for them to grow 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:05.000 in a little petri dish, and like, some of them 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:07.240 won't grow all the way, some of them will make it, 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.400 some will have an abnormality or whatever. 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.360 So I started with a couple, so I was feeling. 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:15.040 Really good, and then come day six, I only had 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:19.760 one left. And then we did some genetic testing. I 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:21.720 paid extra to do the genetic testing, which was just 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.400 a choice that we made, and unfortunately it came back 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.720 with a really really rare abnormality that I think like 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.040 twelve or thirteen kids in the world were born with 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:37.120 it because most most of these embryos won't make it 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:39.040 to gestation, they won't make it to a live birth, 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:40.800 and if they do make it to a live birth, 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:43.640 they don't last very long on earth side. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.000 Devastating. It was really devastating. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:48.440 So I remember getting that call in the middle of 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.480 the night because I was overseas at the time, and 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:51.560 my genesis called me. 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:53.120 It's just like, I'm so. 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:58.920 Sorry, but your one embryo hasn't developed and we won't 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:01.920 be going for with it because it's not viable with life. 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:04.920 At some point that that child will die, whether it's 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:09.440 miscarriage or early days of life. And I wasn't ready 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:13.640 for that because firstly, I just thought, what do you 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:16.080 mean there's none? Like how But I just paid all 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:19.360 this money and science and I did hormones for three 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.720 weeks and I've gone under for like the third under 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:23.080 and nine of sake for the third time, and I've 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:24.800 extracted it and I've waited for six days and I've 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:28.520 watched it and what do you mean there's none? She's like, 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.440 there's just none, like it's sometimes that's how it is. 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.040 And I just got this real. 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:36.640 A feeling that I can't explain, And I guess that's 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:38.120 why it's taken me so long to talk about. And 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:40.520 I know so many women go through this ten times 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:42.720 more than I have, Like they do so many rounds, 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.520 and I just can't imagine what that feels like when 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:50.520 that's all you want, the feeling of, like not just 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.720 disappointment and shock, but I was like, oh my god, 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.680 I've let my partner down, Like I all this pressure 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:59.960 for a family. There's two people here and he can't 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:03.880 do anything, and it's my body that's not working, quote unquote, 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.040 And there's a real feeling of the weight of the 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.520 pressure of failure and ruining someone else's life if they 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:11.320 want kids. 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:14.920 Their opportunity to have children. Yeah, it's really hard. That's 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.600 such a huge responsibility that you feel as though you're 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.920 taking on in that moment because it's not I mean, 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:24.400 you went through and had another round of testing and 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:27.200 also of like trying to create embryos. But I just 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:29.120 I feel for any woman out there who feels as 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:32.800