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Speaker 1: Podcasting.

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Speaker 2: Wow, it's willin Wody on a Wednesday afternoon.

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys are having a wonderful drive home.

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Speaker 2: Don't forget the Daily Payday continues tomorrow morning, eight am

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Speaker 2: with the Brecky guys. You chance to share one hundreds

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Speaker 2: of thousands of dollars. Where the prizes are going to

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Speaker 2: do is call and win. It's that simple. Woods right

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Speaker 2: up next. I think that you speak brilliantly on a

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Speaker 2: particular topic which is probably a little bit icky for

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Speaker 2: a lot of people, but I think it's really worth

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Speaker 2: hearing your take on things as a single bloke who

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Speaker 2: sees other single people.

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Speaker 1: You're looking at me terrified.

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Speaker 2: I want to talk to you about consent having sex

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Speaker 2: because I know it's a bit of.

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Speaker 1: A buzz thing for you.

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Speaker 2: I think you talk bloody well about it, and I

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Speaker 2: think you've got the right approach about it. And there's

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Speaker 2: something that happened in The Bachelor in Paradise that reminded

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Speaker 2: me that this is a conversation that particularly two blocks

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Speaker 2: like you and me should probably be having on the

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Speaker 2: radio so other people can get around it. Happening right

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Speaker 2: after the two tu tune, you.

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Speaker 1: Got a chance to fill up your water and what

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Speaker 1: we're talking about it. It's a great message for people

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Speaker 1: to hear. I know you are.

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Speaker 2: We're going to get into it right after lou Bega

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Speaker 2: stick around.

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Speaker 1: This is a great side that you should see of Woods.

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Speaker 2: He talks about it very well, jes I'm piling the

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Speaker 2: pressure on you nowsting now excise and Will and Woody

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Speaker 2: Wednesday afternoon. Woods, you and I are both huge fans

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Speaker 2: of the Bachelor in massive fans, massive fans, and look

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Speaker 2: this is I was obviously watching it on the catch up.

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Speaker 1: There was a really interesting chant between Brittany and Jamie.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there were the names I was going to use

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Speaker 2: about when they were having dinner in and around consent,

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Speaker 2: All right, have listeners.

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Speaker 1: Would you sleep with me? I don't love? Why would

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Speaker 1: you not like?

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Speaker 3: So?

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Speaker 1: You would like not her sex with men?

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Speaker 2: Such a massing question put on? So it goes on,

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Speaker 2: It goes on, and he gets very awkward about the

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Speaker 2: whole thing, and fair enough, like you know, it's a

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Speaker 2: pretty confronting question to ask someone. So she threw this

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Speaker 2: on him and look, I wanted to ask you about

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Speaker 2: this specifically, Woods because whilst it is a really icky

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Speaker 2: thing that we don't like to talk about a lot.

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Speaker 2: The parameters and the strictness around getting consent from someone

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Speaker 2: before you sleep with them is not a laughing matter,

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Speaker 2: like we're having a bit of a laugh about it now,

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Speaker 2: and in the current climate, is very important that you

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Speaker 2: get clear and unequivocal consent, that that's something that the

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Speaker 2: person that you're hooking up with wants to do.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: The reason I'm asking you about it is you're obviously

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Speaker 2: a single guy, and you know you see occasionally other

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Speaker 2: single women. I know you're really particular about it, to

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Speaker 2: the point where I know that you've been paid out

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Speaker 2: before for being awkward about the whole thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So we talk a bit more about that, Yes,

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Speaker 1: I can.

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Speaker 3: It's saying I'm really really strict about yeah, and to

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Speaker 3: the to the point where, yeah, I do. I ruin

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Speaker 3: the mood and I've been laughed at before. So I'll

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Speaker 3: tell you what I do.

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Speaker 1: So I will.

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Speaker 3: Actually, if I'm on a date, it might be a

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Speaker 3: second third, whatever it is date with someone and it's

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Speaker 3: looking like that we might be going home together and

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Speaker 3: we might have discussed it like, hey, do you want

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Speaker 3: to come back to mine or whatever before the conversation

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Speaker 3: goes on for me. If I get a yes, they're like, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: well let's go home together. I say to them, Hey,

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Speaker 3: I know this is going to sound abrupt and weird,

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Speaker 3: but if we do go home together, what are you

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Speaker 3: going to be comfortable with? Because I, for me personally,

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Speaker 3: I prefer to find out. I prefer to have that

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Speaker 3: conversation when you're not in the throes of being back home.

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Speaker 2: That's when the trouble starts, because you know, we all know,

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Speaker 2: when you're at the thin end of the wedge and

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Speaker 2: you've got emotions and hormones and everything flying, no one

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Speaker 2: wants to put the handbrake on and sit down and

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Speaker 2: have a cold conversation about it.

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Speaker 3: So it's much better to go going into that situation

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Speaker 3: knowing exactly what are you feeling comfortable with, what are

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Speaker 3: you not feeling comfortable with? And then it's just good

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Speaker 3: to know, because I mean, if you don't have that conversation,

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Speaker 3: you're just sort of guessing. You're like, yeah, she or

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Speaker 3: he seems to be really into it. Yeah, I think

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Speaker 3: they're going to want.

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Speaker 1: To do that.

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Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, it's not good enough.

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Speaker 3: You don't know, And then the other thing. And again

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Speaker 3: this is again where I've been laughed at. I've literally

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Speaker 3: been laughed at for this. People can change their mind.

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Speaker 1: You've asked, do you've asked during? No?

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, not during, But I so say I specifically

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Speaker 3: asked someone when we're out, like going home, what do

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Speaker 3: you comfort with? And they've said it's awkward. But it's like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'm yes, I am comfortable with it. And then I'm

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Speaker 3: having sex and I go cool, great, well if that happens, great,

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Speaker 3: And then then later at home you might be having

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Speaker 3: another drink and then I might say again, and I

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Speaker 3: have done this before, I go like, hey, are you

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Speaker 3: still comfortable with this scen?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah? Are we going to have said to that

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Speaker 1: I have.

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Speaker 3: Been, I have been laughed at before, and a girl

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Speaker 3: has gone, can you stop being so considerate?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like yes, yes, we're good to go.

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Speaker 3: But again I would much much prefer that awkward chat.

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Speaker 2: This is just something that you need to do, and

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Speaker 2: it's just it's a fascinating area I think these days,

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Speaker 2: because if you look at the past, you know from

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Speaker 2: both sides, it's just fraught with danger unless you're having

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Speaker 2: a clear and unequivocal chat and I can't imagine being

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Speaker 2: in your position, and you know, just everything that comes

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Speaker 2: with doing the wrong thing, and there's a lot of

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Speaker 2: stigma attached and all that sort of stuff, and you know,

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Speaker 2: you don't know these people at the end of the day,

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Speaker 2: Like if it is just one date, then you've got

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Speaker 2: no idea who they are.

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Speaker 1: You don't know what they're on about.

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Speaker 2: It's really worth while having that conversation with both sides

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Speaker 2: and just looking after yourselves.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, and don't like, I mean, I try to

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Speaker 1: look at it, like have a bit of a laugh

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Speaker 1: at yourself as well.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's the other thing I was going to bring up, actually,

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Speaker 2: is that even you said to me beforehand that it's

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Speaker 2: never actually worked out for you.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's right whenever I do it for people, but

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Speaker 3: you need to do it, That's exactly right. And I

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Speaker 3: think we need to get past and this is a

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Speaker 3: real male thing I think of like oh I'm scoring,

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Speaker 3: you know, like, yeah, I'm scoring if we have sex

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Speaker 3: sort of thing. Yeah, I think we need to get

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Speaker 3: past that and move beyond that as as a sex

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Speaker 3: and just go like have the chat. And sure, it's

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Speaker 3: probably not going to be the best thing for what

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Speaker 3: happens afterwards, but at least you've had the conversation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, well said mate. Very good stuff.

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Speaker 2: Listen to whel and on the other side, Daring or

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