WEBVTT - The Blonde Hair Conspiracy 👱🏻‍♀️ ✂️ 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:03.960 Cut flex and rooms, flex and frooms, catch up podcastle 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:07.720 and rooms. It's flex and it's rooms. 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:09.840 We were just talking about how if we were toddlers, 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:13.080 we would one hundred percent get in physical fights rules, 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:16.800 but very easily again become comrades in the playground. 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:18.479 But I also think we'd have a bit of like 0:00:18.520 --> 0:00:22.080 a mummy daughter relationship alternating. So sometimes you'd like brush 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.439 my hair and then I would give you a hair cut, 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:26.200 and then you and be like, why why are you 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:27.000 girls cutting hair? 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:28.560 But she asked me too. 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:30.040 She looks really pretty. 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:33.360 We're very tactile together. I would say, yeah, there's chemistry. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:38.160 There is chemistry. Yeah, wish people could see that more often. 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:38.560 But I like that. 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:40.320 It's a little sacred thing we have between us. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:40.839 Me too. 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:42.680 Actually, I don't want to share. I realized the other day. 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:44.360 I don't want to share, you know. I was saying 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:49.280 that I don't like hang out in groups. I'm going 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.640 to catch up with a friend on the weekend, and 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:54.240 she said, and we always do like a monthly catch up. 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:55.960 And she's very good at that. It's not me who's 0:00:55.960 --> 0:00:57.480 good at that, but she'll put it in the calendar. 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.440 And this time she said something That really caught me. God, 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:03.279 she said, should we invite people? You know, the more 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.480 the merrier. I said, why in the hell would we 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.720 do that? And then she quickly wrote, She's like, you're right, 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:09.560 I don't want to share it either. 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:10.120 I was like, I don't. 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:13.880 What are you sucking about? Share? Why would I want 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:17.160 to share? The food, the conversation, none of it, none 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.399 of it. Remember one time we were doing we do 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.280 these long lunches. We go to like Pop's Points somewhere 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.560 boogie do a long lunch. We bring out the tarot. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.000 We're doing terra for each other. Some chit comes over 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.280 and she's like, you guys to tar do you mind? No, 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:33.720 we said, do you mind? And now she's looking at me. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.960 I'm looking at her, looking at the lady like you're 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:40.280 interrupting and you're scaring the hose. So then we obviously 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:43.720 did the polite We did the polite thing and said, oh, 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:45.840 well no, when we're done, we'll definitely reach out to you. 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:47.840 She said, well, I have to leave here at five. 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:48.800 You're joking? 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:51.560 Was it someone like saving it? 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:55.400 I think I feel like she worked there, but maybe 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:58.240 she owned the place. She was walking with a bit 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.400 of comfort. She was taking loud phone call, so maybe 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:03.080 I don't know what it was, but she's like, I 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:05.480 got to leave at five, so look, okay, well if 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:07.200 we're ready, like you can come back. And then we 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:08.320 just avoided eye contact. 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:12.280 Oh I mean ballsy, but yeah, here's a potty. You're 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:15.840 listening to Flex and Rooms on kit every week I 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:17.320 come to you with a love line. What is that 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:17.799 you ask? 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.320 It is a scenario that's been either sent in from 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.760 a listener or it's come from our producer Brooks. She 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:25.919 trows the internet and finds one, or perhaps this comes 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.359 straight from her brain or maybe mine. I'll leave that 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:29.840 for you to decide. We'd like to have a bit 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.040 of mystery here on the Flex and Froom show. Let 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.920 me launch straight into the story, and then we're gonna 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.840 have to give our two cents, which is always very exciting. 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:42.239 I begin I am twenty one and my boyfriend is 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.560 twenty two. We are wanting to move in together. We're 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:45.360 both moving up. 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.239 From our parents' houses for the first time, or what 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:50.399 a time that was. We've even been buying house things 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:52.880 like kitchen appliances each month for the new place and 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.760 have gone to a few inspections a one bedroom apartment 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:57.519 in the inner city is looking pretty good. 0:02:58.360 --> 0:02:59.080 In a city. 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:02.520 Yeah, big city life, big bucks. It's like the Sims 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:05.880 City expansion pack. It's kind of vibe I'm getting. 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:08.519 I came home last night from work to a message 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.560 for my boyfriend saying that he has changed his mind 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.639 about moving in with me and only wants to do 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:14.320 it now if his best friend can move in with 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:14.680 us too. 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:15.000 Ha ha ha. 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:17.799 That's when Allen of Coffins is. 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:19.919 We get a on really well and normally wouldn't have 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:21.680 an issue with it, but he's been known to blow 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.840 his paycheck at the casino and he's getting kicked out 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.040 of his current rental. There have been a few times 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.080 when he's messaged my boyfriend to borrow money. 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.560 Oh my god. I know gambling can be a serious 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.960 problem and totally want to be supportive. When I brought 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:34.880 up my worries with my boyfriend, he said he's been 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:37.360 his best friend since primary school and is standing by 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:41.840 him whether that includes me or not. WHOA, that is 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:44.480 a big, big, bloody, bloody call. 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:49.160 I'm going to lead that to marinate. I'm not feeling 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:52.480 good about it. Love, It's not the diagnosed the prognosis 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:54.920 is not looking good. It's not looking up. I think 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:56.960 if someone's been kicked out of a rental, that's the 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.200 kind of stuff that I need to know. You're just 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:03.040 coming into your rental. I see this happening. There's two 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:07.360 terrible scenarios. Either AA he stops paying a rent or 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:11.480 b he does something so catastrophic, so cataclysmic, that your 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.200 rental history is forever tarnished by his behavior. 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:18.400 It's hard enough to get a rental generally these days. 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:21.360 You're not a great candidate for being twenty one or 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:27.960 even twenty. And yeah, I just feel like it's such 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:29.960 a terrible feeling to get your hopes up about something 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.720 you've idealized it. You know, it's you and me, and 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:35.480 we're moving in together with our beige Kmart toaster and 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:38.240 our mint green Kmart kettle. But it's not happening anymore. 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.680 I'm so sorry. This is the beginning of the end, 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:42.440 not the end of your relationship, with the end of 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:45.200 the dream. It's just not right. 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.240 I think you should just debt it dead, the whole relationship. 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.599 No, not the relationship, just dead, the fantasy of moving 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.800 in together, because realistically, I don't want to take a 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.800 boyfriend doesn't want to move in with you, But if 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:58.680 he's given you the ultimatum without a discussion of Hey, 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.040 so my best friends in this situation, I really want 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:02.440 to help him out. I don't want to leave him, 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:04.640 you know, down to the dumps. What do you think 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.279 we can do? Can we organize something, can you sleep 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:09.720 on the couch for a little bit, whatever, whatever? Whatever? No, 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:12.040 it turned into him and I am moving in together 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:14.760 and you got to deal with it. So I don't 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:18.480 think there's I would assume there's time to negotiate, but 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:20.760 it doesn't feel like you're he's in a negotiating mood. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:24.520 I would say, plan for a reality that doesn't involve 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:27.320 living with your boyfriend's bum best friend. 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:32.159 Obviously pending financial situations in. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:35.240 A city during the cause of living crisis. Maybe you 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:37.400 got it like that, true? True. 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.800 I will say I believe in holding off on the 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:42.640 moving and with the partner real quick, because you can't 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:43.360 go back from that. 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:48.080 I yeah, I didn't want to bring that up. I didn't. Sorry, 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:50.200 but I'm also a different camp. I don't live with 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:54.800 anyone period. I just it's not great. But also I 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:57.200 think you could, you'd be better off living with some 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:00.920 like minded friends before you live with a partner at 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:01.440 twenty one. 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:05.440 Totally how fun you you know, I just love when 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:08.120 I first moved in in my first share house, we'd 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:10.159 be doing dinner parties. I was learning how to cool, 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:11.920 I was hanging out. It's like you're in a never 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:14.160 any sleepover if you find the right people. So you 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:15.880 should just hate. 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:17.040 Saying you should just enjoy it. 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:19.040 But you know you wanted to say it. 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:20.839 But I said, it's going to be great. 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:21.040 Girl. 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:22.200 Even if you guys do end. 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:24.000 Up moving in with the best friend, it can all 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:25.920 end in flames, and you can start off your new 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.239 life as a bachelorette in a fantastic sharehouse. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:30.040 Let hivemn the best friend move over. You can come 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:32.560 like the third housemate who's not on the least agreement 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.320 raw living there permanently. Just dip into about that's a great. 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.680 Idea, Kate, Flex and Frooms. 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:41.080 You're listening to Flex and Frooms. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:42.080 What the frick? 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.160 We have big thoughts and some big vibes as well. 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.360 And I was on TikTok or rather I should say 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:48.680 I'll come and say I produce. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:50.560 It was on TikTok. Shold me to talk about this thing. 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:55.200 It is called the blonde hair Conspiracy. It's by a 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:59.440 user by the name of kate Leannie. 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.240 I went down this whole rabbit hole on the Internet 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:03.960 where I saw a video of a girl saying that 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:06.320 the worst insult you could tell a white girl is 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:07.800 calling her a bottle blonde. 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:09.240 And I was like, why does that matter? You know, like, 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:09.720 I've done my. 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:11.920 Hair a whole bajillion different colors. I don't care if 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:14.080 you call me out on it. Obviously my hair naturally 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:15.760 is not this color. But then I was like, maybe 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.040 there's like a higher archue between blonde people, and like 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.560 a girl on TikTok another girl was talking about that too, 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:22.680 where like the lighter your blonde is like the cooler 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:25.640 you are or whatever, like naturally, So then girls would 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:28.160 like try to look naturally blonde and like claim their 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:29.880 naturally blondes. So then I went on this rabbit hole 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:31.840 and I was just looking at all these girls hair 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.320 and like, again, I had white classmates when I was younger, 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.400 and They're like, hair is naturally this like platinum, platinum blonde. 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.920 But then like I found out, apparently that as you 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:45.040 get older, your hair fades and it becomes a darker tone, 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.000 like very rarely do you maintain the same platinum blonde 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:49.800 level you would have as a child. So then when 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:51.680 I was looking at the hair of these people, I 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:53.600 noticed that, like all of them, even though I was 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:55.760 looking at this like platinum blonde color just so pretty, 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:56.880 they all had. 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:58.760 Really really really dark roots. 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:00.800 And I don't know, maybe all of your stylists are 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:01.200 really good. 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:02.480 I only just learned there's. 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:05.320 Something called a root melt, which I apparently like unintentionally 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.800 asked for from my stylists because I just wanted the 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.280 blonde to blend really naturally into my natural hair color, 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.080 so I just didn't have to go get touch ups 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.120 that often because I'm lazy. But apparently it's like a 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:17.040 really common thing among people with blonde hair. So then 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:19.520 I was like, wait, how many people naturally are like 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.840 blonde blonde? And how many people are blonde but it's 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.400 actually just dyed and the natural hair color is a 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:28.000 shade of brown because I feel like, actually, I feel 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.240 like a lot a lot of blonde people are actually 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:31.520 not genuinely blonde. 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:32.000 Wow. 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:35.679 So that right there is the blonde conspiracy theory, the 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:39.000 conspiracy theory that they actually that there actually aren't that 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:41.160 many blonde people in the world, and that a lot 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:44.080 of the blondes are bond on the blondspiracy. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:45.360 Are you talking? 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:49.560 That's what she said. That's what she said. Conspiracy theory. Well, 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:50.640 let's just call it the theory. 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:53.319 But I guess it is a conspiracy, you know, like 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.679 there's a lot of blondes out there in inverted commas, 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:56.120 a lot. 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:58.280 Of liars, a lot of fliers. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.000 And I must say I do have personal experience in 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:03.840 this realm as a reformed fake blonde. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.439 I was blond for fifteen years. 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.120 I convinced not only a fake blonde, but a fake Swede. 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.679 I never caught myself a sweet I don't know how 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:14.800 I got into my head. Maybe I just there was 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.079 too many context clues, and I said, I think I 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:18.280 think this girl's Swedish. 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:24.560 I just have too much Ikea furniture. No, I will say, 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.280 I now have brown hair. However, in a lot of 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:30.920 say for example, the cat marketing campaigns, I am blonde. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:35.520 I have a lot of thoughts about the bottle blonde hierarchy. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:39.760 It's a real thing that I've seen in my shape spoken. 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.920 I'm freaking out the blonde hierarchy is real. Okay, I 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:46.400 grew up as a brown hair bitch, brown hair since birth. 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:48.640 Oh no, but there was a time in high school 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:51.319 you were blonde, right, Oh yeah, you started your journey 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:51.920 when so. 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.200 My natural hair color has always been brown. I wasn't 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:55.960 like a blonde baby. I came out of the womb 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:57.719 with no hair. I probably didn't get hair until I 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.080 was about two to three years old. 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:01.640 Late bloom, wispy. Don't worry. 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:03.439 I was hitting the different males stones, I was walking, 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:07.160 I was talking. I was like doing poos as a 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:11.480 joke on purpose. Oh funny, Yeah, big tricks, the big jokes. 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.520 Will in the sound booth is thinking, yeah, that's that's 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.120 a bit of her. I see the vision. I see 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:20.319 the vision, and then yeah, I definitely always wanted to 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.160 be blonde. I had a best friend in primary school 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:24.080 who actually listens to the show. Her name is Stephanie, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.959 and Stephanie was super tan and had blonde hair, was 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:29.959 really cool, like had a cool family anyway, So he 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:32.400 was like obsessed with her, and she was my best friend. 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:36.839 And yeah, so I always thought people with blonde hair 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.400 are hotter. I had this hierarchy, and I think it's 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:41.800 definitely obviously to do with the media. 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:42.360 Okay. 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:44.640 I wanted to be a newsreader and my favorite news reader, 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:46.560 Sandra Sully, had blonde. 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:47.760 Hair, Shelly Kraft. 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:53.520 All your typical Australian presenders were blonde, and so it's 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:56.440 surprising to me like now that I've got brown hair. 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:58.839 It took me a long time for me to be 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.959 able to accept the idea may being brown head, because 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:06.880 in my mind, being blonde was being exceptional because it's rare. However, 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.439 like hearing this TikTok, obviously it's so tied up with 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.240 Eurocentric beauty standards and the high ruh. 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:13.440 Just hearing this TikTok. 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:16.480 No, of course I knew beforehand, She's. 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:20.480 She said, of course I knew beforehand. 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:22.520 I'm learning. 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:24.959 I'm learning to love click three. 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:27.360 No. 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:30.199 But it's funny to me that people wouldn't like grasp 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:34.920 that that, like, people with dark roots aren't blonde. I 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.440 even had a conversation earlier with people here at cater 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.360 and they're like, WHOA, your hair gets darker every single 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:42.920 time I see you. I said, it's not just that, though, 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.000 not from your experience. A lot of blonde people lie, 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.200 A lot of blonde people are in denial about how 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:53.560 blonde they actually are, in contrast to what we've imagined 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:57.520 blonde to be. I've seen and overheard so many conversations. 0:11:56.880 --> 0:12:01.040 Of people who were clearly visibly maybe you're a very dark, 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:04.000 dark blonde, but it's reading brown and most lighting. I'm 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:07.520 not talking jet black, I'm talking a soft mousie. I'm 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.319 talking a caramel. All of these things read brown to 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.600 the average person who's not wrapped up in blonde politics. 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:17.199 In the same way that a non black person doesn't 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.400 really understand when I'm wearing a wig or when I'm 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.160 not wearing a wig, or my braids are real when 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:24.280 they're not real. It's exactly that. But I say it's 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:27.520 a wig, it's not real blonde. On the other hand, 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:30.960 even if it's fake, I'm a blonde. I'm a blonde. 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:32.920 I'm a blonde. I'm a blonde. I'm a blonde. You 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.719 say it so often that you truly believe it, and 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:38.439 when those roots start coming in, it's not cooking for you. 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.120 Just say it's time for it's time for my appointment. 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:42.440 I got to touch up my blonde. 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:45.160 They say, oh, I haven't had I haven't had highlights 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:47.320 in like twelve months. Yeah, okay. 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:50.040 I must say, though, I think mousie Brown needs to 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.599 have a rebrand because the term mousy brown is not 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:53.400 attractive at all. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:55.800 I know like that. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.000 I know people who are mousie brown and like, oh, 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.240 my hair's mousey. It's the worst thing ever say. 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.719 I think it's cute. It's a humble color and it 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:04.400 looks cute. 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:09.400 Okay, it's a humble, modest it's a modest colour forgettable. 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:11.080 Anyway. 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:12.640 I must say, if you're a bottle blonde like I 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:15.679 was for fifteen years, once you feel up to it, 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.880 I think graduating back to your natural color is a 0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:21.480 humbling experience and one that you know once you hit 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.199 the ceiling and you can do that, it really means 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:25.440 you've done a lot of personal growth. 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:27.000 Would you have done if your hair wasn't breaking? 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:28.520 Probably not. 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.040 Yeah, my hair broke off. This is interesting. So it's 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:34.160 just coming from the angle of self. Laugh and when 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.160 you two reach this at the point. 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.679 Of okay, I was forced. I had it in my hand, 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:43.599 you dressing it, flex and rooms on. 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:47.920 Kait. I do like hearing any anecdotes. I'm a quote girly, 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:51.000 you know what I mean, just because you know, there's 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:54.280 so much chit chat coming from me, coming from rooms, 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:56.080 coming from the world, but not all of it. It's good. 0:13:56.559 --> 0:14:00.360 So when someone yourself, when someone it's an observation. So 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.200 when someone has lived enough and done enough great things 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:06.000 so they can distill that into a nugget or three, 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:10.199 I'm always ready to tune in. This is from j 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.320 Cole mister Platinum, no features himself. 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:19.520 I think there's two key ingredients, maybe three, but one 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:24.200 is see yourself as high as you possibly can see yourself. Right, 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:28.680 So someone wants to be in the NBA, like they 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.680 want to be an NBA but to me, that's not enough. 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:34.480 There's a wide range of NBA players, Right, There's an 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:38.800 NBA player that never saw the floor. You know, he 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.760 sat at the end of the bench his whole career 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:43.640 and they never re upped this contract and then he 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:45.240 had to go fight in the G League and boom 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:48.640 boom he was in the NBA. Lebron James is in 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.160 the NBA. Who do you see yourself as? And there's 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:55.320 no right or wrong answer. Clarify and define your vision 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:57.960 for yourself in the highest possible way that you could 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.560 see it and see yourself as high as you possible can, right, 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.040 That's your first job is to see it as high 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:05.200 as you can see it, be delusional either to the 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:08.000 point where to where your mind the rate at the 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:11.000 apex of which your mind believes as possible, maybe pushed 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:13.240 past that even a little bit, and define it. And 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:16.040 then number two is like believe it, you know what 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:18.200 I mean, Like like see it all the time and 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:21.320 believe it and whatever you got to do to protect 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:23.480 that belief. My version of protecting that belief was I 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:26.040 wasn't sharing this or you know, I wasn't telling my mom. 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:28.080 She knew I rap, she knew I did music, and 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.920 to her somebody, I'm not even gonna give my own 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:32.920 mother the chance to try to bring me back down 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:34.800 to reality. It's not gonna happen, you know what I mean, 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:37.760 Like not gonna happen. So number one, dream is high 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:40.920 as you possibly can see yourself, not even dream, see 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.360 yourself as high as you possibly can. Define that. Don't 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:45.040 just say I want to do such and such, because 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.560 if you mess around and get such and such, you're 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:51.480 gonna be mad that you didn't think about higher. There's 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:53.000 a lot of people that do that they're like, man, 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:57.360 why didn't I think about being this instead of just this? 0:15:57.560 --> 0:15:59.360 Because at the time you thought just this was it. 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:01.120 But due to do the thought work and see where 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.520 you really want to be too, believe that it's possible, 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:07.480 and protect that belief. And then three is work towards it. 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.480 Don't You have to do the work and because you 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:12.600 love it. It's not always gonna feel like work. But 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:13.400 sometimes it is. 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:16.480 Nothing like that boom. 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.560 You love that sound, but I hate it every time. 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:24.360 I used to try and crop it off videos, but 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.640 then it has the person's I just I. 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:27.800 Love it, boom troom. 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:30.240 It's just even if it's like especially when it's not 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.400 a funny video, it makes it ten min times funny. 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:36.080 That advice was really good because it's true. It's all there. 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.560 I don't think everyone will resonate to that, because thinking 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.320 and dreaming about being your best self and then a 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:43.920 little bit higher people are trying to eat babe. But 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:48.040 I think it's a nice way to learn how to 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.760 back yourself in practice and in a way that's just 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:54.400 for you, not for the imaginary observer. I guess. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:57.080 So I will say this parent settling like the idea 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:59.440 that you I think like if you're the kind of 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.280 person it's like, oh I did this, Like I settled 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.000 for being the NBA player rather than being Lebron James. 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:08.880 Like sometimes maybe you're never going to be happy. Maybe 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:10.680 if you're a Lebron James, you issue with someone else. 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:12.600 So just like I think, also it's good to be 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:16.480 mindful of like, yes, I can imagine myself being someone 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:18.840 who wins an oscar, but at what costs? Like, I 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:20.800 think it's also important, Like it's totally good to have 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:22.440