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Speaker 1: Ash.

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Speaker 2: Today's guest went from humble school counselor to one of

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Speaker 2: Australia's most beloved content creators. Not yourself, Ash, no oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry about that. He's even more popular than you.

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Speaker 3: That's probably true. Yesterday, Matt, we have Eli Mtanghi, who

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Speaker 3: is a dad to four girls who are the center

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Speaker 3: of most of his content.

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Speaker 4: I will say, and a.

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Speaker 2: Lot of people might not know that they know his

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Speaker 2: three girls to feature in his content, but he also

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Speaker 2: has a stepdaughter from when he first met his wife Petta.

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Speaker 2: It was great to talk about his perspective on parenting

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Speaker 2: and also his background, the fact that he spent a

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Speaker 2: lot of time and a lot of different locations growing

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Speaker 2: up before he ended up in Brisbane where he lives now.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and I've heard based off the chat he's got

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Speaker 3: Arthur dicktoe's and ankle.

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Speaker 5: It will be stoked that we put that in the intro.

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Speaker 3: I love that he's amassed four point six million followers.

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Speaker 4: That must be nice, would be nice? Actually give us

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Speaker 4: a million, would just give us? Just give me cheeky

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Speaker 4: one hundred.

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Speaker 5: Thousand logging them all.

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Speaker 2: But his content is amazing. He also won the TikTok

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Speaker 2: Creative of the Year award recently, he is killing it.

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Speaker 3: That speech was very emotional, nearly made me cry. But

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Speaker 3: fun fact, we actually made him a little emotional on

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Speaker 3: this episode.

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Speaker 2: The big guys are big softy, isn't he Absolutely let's

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Speaker 2: get into it.

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Speaker 5: Let's doo Welcome back to three doting dads. I'm Maddie, Jay, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Ash and it's your boy six seven six.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm so.

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Speaker 5: Sorry, so sorry. What were you saying?

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Speaker 4: I was actually gonna say, my name is my tongue

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Speaker 4: six seven six Wow, like smooth FM.

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Speaker 3: I just was thinking love song dedications. Then we're going

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Speaker 3: to have your love song dedication Valentine's Day and after that.

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Speaker 5: But this is a podcast all about parenting.

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Speaker 2: It is the good, it is the bad and the

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Speaker 2: relatable and Eli, we we don't give advice, but you

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Speaker 2: may if you like. But you are also like you've

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Speaker 2: got the background to give advice, which we'll get into later.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you've also got more kids than us, so ah,

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Speaker 3: I would say that you and they're older, I mean

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Speaker 2: I also I feel like you're stronger than both put together.

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Speaker 2: You know, we always ask I guess a question to

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Speaker 2: begin with, which is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we want to know what's the most trouble

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Speaker 3: that you can remember getting in.

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Speaker 4: As a child? PTS. Dear, Right, now, I'm sorry. I

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Speaker 4: remember when I was I actually can't remember what age

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Speaker 4: I was, but my parents had to go somewhere and

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Speaker 4: I was staying with my grandmother and the power cutout

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Speaker 4: and she needed to light a candle. But the candle

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Speaker 4: was one of those things, you know those candles. W's

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Speaker 4: like a cup and like the lighting parts like in

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Speaker 4: the cup, so like even if you have a lighter,

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Speaker 4: you can't really light it. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. I thought

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Speaker 4: it was a good idea. So what I got was

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Speaker 4: like one of those sparkling fireworks, and I lit the candle.

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Speaker 4: But then it was one of those you know, I

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Speaker 4: don't know if they still in Australia because I grew

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Speaker 4: it's one of those it's the sparkling but it has

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Speaker 4: like a little paper at the front and once the

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Speaker 4: paper like lights and sparkles, once it hits that part,

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Speaker 4: it goes into like flares and there's no stopping. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: And so I lit that and I lit the candle

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Speaker 4: and my NaN's like next to me, He's like, yay,

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Speaker 4: there's light. And then it hit the flare pot and

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Speaker 4: it just went but it was all copy it, so

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Speaker 4: just lit the copita.

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Speaker 3: Do you burn down?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Unfortunately burnt my NaN's hand because you tried to

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Speaker 4: put it out with the pillows and everything, and I froze.

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Speaker 4: I still was like what the hell?

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Speaker 3: And then yeah, usually it's the Usually people used a

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Speaker 4: Down the opposite opposite, So yeah, we lit that up

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Speaker 4: and then smoke alarm went off. Everything paniced. Once everything

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Speaker 5: Was Nan like the confident on could she hold onto that?

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Speaker 4: No, she she'd be treated that the night I lost

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Speaker 4: my trust for my god. Yeah, I got walking up

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Speaker 4: in a very violent way, flogged into shower and then yeah,

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Speaker 4: sat me down and explained consequences which just went right

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Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, damn. We could have lost the house,

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Speaker 4: could have lost my nan, could have lost myself.

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Speaker 5: But it's mistake, I know, it's really.

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Speaker 4: What it is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like if you I mean, you don't really Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you're right. You don't really think about the consequence. You

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Speaker 3: think about solving the problem.

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Speaker 5: Especially the kid.

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Speaker 3: You're just like, I'll fix it with this, and then.

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Speaker 2: Just to make you feel better about yourself, me and

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Speaker 2: my brothers, we got about three hundred sparklers, got duct

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Speaker 4: That sounds fun.

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Speaker 2: And then then you put the middle one a little

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Speaker 2: the four hundred three hundred.

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Speaker 5: It's really big.

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Speaker 3: This sounds amazing. We should just quit what we're doing.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's going to even I've got a sparkle story. We

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Speaker 3: the whole garage just went in an instant in flames.

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Speaker 2: As a young boy to ride a passage, yeah, to burn.

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Speaker 2: So when did you move from Hawaii?

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Speaker 4: I think I was. I spent thirteen years in Hawaii

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Speaker 4: and then the way things work, like in the Tongan culture,

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Speaker 4: my dad's sister kind of took me in like adopted,

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Speaker 4: she moved to Fiji. So, man, if you ask what

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Speaker 4: I've been, I'm like two of the Pacific I've lived

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Speaker 4: I ended up living with her for like four years.

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Speaker 2: How does that conversation happen with your sister? And your

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Speaker 5: Did you? There's a choice for it's just.

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Speaker 4: With the older generation, the Tonga generation, it's kind of

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Speaker 4: usually like the firstborn or the namesake. So say if

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Speaker 4: do you just to raise her? And because I was

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Speaker 4: I ended up staying four years over there.

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Speaker 3: My question was going to be about, like Fiji and Hawaii,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they both have a special place in my heart,

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Speaker 4: but I think Fiji. I was hitting my teenures in Fiji,

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Speaker 3: Tell us about that.

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Speaker 4: One of my first experiences of life happening in Fiji.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, very cool indeed, And Fiji holds a special place.

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Speaker 4: I do a lot of work in Fiji. I was

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Speaker 4: just there last two weeks. I got to m c

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Speaker 4: EB forty, which is a reggae band, and the Fiji crowd, man,

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Speaker 4: every time I jump on stage, they love me. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: that's goods.

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Speaker 5: Engaged in Yeah, Malala Island.

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Speaker 4: Oh well it's beautiful. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Where does your allegiance lie? Like Hawaii? Fiji?

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Speaker 3: Worry is pants on.

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Speaker 4: I'm tonguing, so by blood and by culture, I'm tonguing.

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Speaker 4: That's my name. So that six seven six is actually Tonga. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and it's crazy because everywhere go nowadays, people think I

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Speaker 4: I have no idea how that came about, but everyone

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Speaker 2: I'm like to the parents listening, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Out there, that's I can't count anymore.

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Speaker 5: And so then when did you end up in Brisbane?

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Speaker 4: So mom and Dad's always they've lived in Australia for years.

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Speaker 4: I remember they made them move I think in nineteen

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Speaker 4: to Australia to them, which is another tongue and thing.

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Speaker 4: It's like your kids get raised by all these extended

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Speaker 4: come back to mom and dad. Yeah, so that's I

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Speaker 4: came back after high school. I've done my last three

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Speaker 3: Boys from music from Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I've done my university in Perth. I met

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Speaker 4: and now we live in Queensland, but Perth is kind

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Speaker 4: of like home for me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everywhere I talk about Peter. Yeah, beautiful wife. Do

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Speaker 2: you remember how you guys met.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So I was a bouncer at the nightclub and

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Speaker 4: she was a drunk white girl and basically your typical

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Speaker 4: love story. But so she walked fast. I thought she

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Speaker 3: You know me, I'm not going to let that. I'm

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So we met there. She came back two weeks

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Speaker 4: stayed in touch and yeah, now four kids later. Wow,

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Speaker 4: that's the love love.

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Speaker 2: Story coming from a relationship that's pretty boring in terms

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Speaker 4: So there's two things. So when Pets came into my life,

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Speaker 4: she had a daughter, and so my family is like

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Speaker 4: this strict Christian you know, don't bring a girl home

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Speaker 4: unless you're going to get married to, don't bring someone

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Speaker 4: home with a child, stay away from girls with tattoos,

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Speaker 4: pets us covered up in tattoos. So everything on the

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Speaker 4: list that my mom told me not to do, I did.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So now she's like my mom's favorite DoD On law.

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Speaker 4: So it kind of worked that well.

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Speaker 5: But what was that first introduction like?

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Speaker 4: So she found out on Facebook. We went out one

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Speaker 4: in it. I think at that time Facebook you couldn't

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Speaker 4: The total opposite. I mean, I'm thirty six right now.

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Speaker 4: But once again that integrity whatever my dad's instilled in

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Speaker 4: show up. Show up was definitely something I had to do.

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00:19:24,480 --> 00:19:25,399
Speaker 5: That's hard to admit.

435
00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:26,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, for sure.

436
00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:28,920
Speaker 3: I mean it's it's so good that you're like again,

437
00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:32,240
Speaker 3: maturity and integrity, self reflection, Yeah, you're self reflecting. How

438
00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:33,080
Speaker 3: old was she when.

439
00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:34,640
Speaker 4: You moved you or seven when?

440
00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:36,240
Speaker 1: Yeah?

441
00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:36,600
Speaker 4: Wow?

442
00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,040
Speaker 3: So like yeah, second year of school is second or third.

443
00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:40,800
Speaker 4: Year of school? Like real demands?

444
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, Like I think like for me, like now

445
00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:45,600
Speaker 3: that they're going to school and all the lunches and stuff,

446
00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:48,600
Speaker 3: I found I adapted that part of their life way

447
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:50,480
Speaker 3: more than their their earlier years.

448
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:51,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

449
00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:53,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like, yeah, you're stepping into it as a

450
00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:55,159
Speaker 3: twenty two There's no way I could have done that.

451
00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:57,240
Speaker 3: And I think a lot of men would have thought

452
00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:58,800
Speaker 3: the same thing because that was the norm, right it

453
00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:02,080
Speaker 3: still going twenty two life?

454
00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:05,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and say I only cared about myself, that's yeah.

455
00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:08,840
Speaker 2: I only when I was hitting thirty, I was like, oh,

456
00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:10,680
Speaker 2: there's other people in the world that I should care about.

457
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 2: Do you find it hard now not to put the

458
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,479
Speaker 2: same amount of pressure that you had as an eldest

459
00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:19,800
Speaker 2: child on your eldest door.

460
00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:23,160
Speaker 4: Not only my eldest, but oh my girls It's funny

461
00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:24,680
Speaker 4: because I was brought up that way and I don't

462
00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:26,960
Speaker 4: hold my parents. I don't hold them to that because

463
00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:30,160
Speaker 4: that's all they knew. But I definitely do not put

464
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:32,879
Speaker 4: that pressure. When it comes to sports. I find myself

465
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 4: getting in that, especially my daughter Ninny, because she's playing

466
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:38,080
Speaker 4: rugby and stuff, and there's there's never a game that's

467
00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 4: good enough. Every game she plays, I'm like, could have

468
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,760
Speaker 4: done better better, And then we get in the car

469
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,880
Speaker 4: because it looks at me and she's like, you need

470
00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 4: to chill the hell down. And it's funny because my

471
00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:49,920
Speaker 4: girls are so sassy too, so they clap back, not

472
00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,919
Speaker 4: at times when I'm having that serious chat and I'm like, bro,

473
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:54,880
Speaker 4: we didn't drive all this way for you to walk around.

474
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 4: We didn't pay all this stuff and pay the toll

475
00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:59,040
Speaker 4: for you to just walk around on the field. Like,

476
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 4: get in there if you want to play, play if

477
00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,480
Speaker 4: you don't, don't waste that time. But when when they

478
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,159
Speaker 4: do get the moment to like clap back, there be like,

479
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:11,560
Speaker 4: are you're authorritis because you can't even That's very true. Yeah,

480
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 4: but back in my days when we went unfortunately there

481
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 4: was no camera around, but you would have seen.

482
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:24,399
Speaker 2: With Melee, she's had her challenges with their health, with

483
00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 2: their kidneys. Can you explain what she had to go through?

484
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, she kept getting sick and then my wife took

485
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,400
Speaker 4: her to the doctors, which was crazy because as a parent,

486
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:36,680
Speaker 4: you guys would know, like, you take them to the doctors,

487
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 4: you expect you know, quick fix panandle the sweeters. And

488
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,159
Speaker 4: we went to the doctors and then they were like, oh,

489
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 4: we need to do some blood tests came back and

490
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:46,919
Speaker 4: then they're like, we needed this further test and stuff,

491
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, it sucks. And it turned

492
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,920
Speaker 4: out that one of her kidney, the tube, it was tangled,

493
00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 4: but it was like deformed, like it wasn't growing the

494
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 4: right way it should be growing, and so it was

495
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 4: preventing her from like releasing all the toxins through her

496
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 4: like urine and stuff. And so every time she needed

497
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 4: to go tell and stuff release talksins, some of the

498
00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 4: toxins were staying back and eventually down the line, too

499
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 4: much talksin obviously would be bad for the kidneys. And

500
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 4: so when we found that out, she wasn't even one

501
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 4: at the time, and they're like, oh, she needs to

502
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 4: do major surgery. We need to cut her open and

503
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 4: put like a stint or something like that to help

504
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,199
Speaker 4: the kidney, and put all this medication to help the

505
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 4: tube to kind of like go back into its normal position.

506
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 4: And then after that we need to do a surgery

507
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,680
Speaker 4: again and take the step out. And like just hearing

508
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:30,199
Speaker 4: that when she barely turned one, me and Peta were like,

509
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,120
Speaker 4: what the hell? But she she went through the surgery

510
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 4: and the thing they told us was majority of her life,

511
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 4: she's gonna have issues with the kidney. So even after

512
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 4: the surgery and stuff, we have to keep getting her

513
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 4: checked and so that that was a pretty brutal time.

514
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 4: But man, she's a tough girl because literally the day

515
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 4: she came out of surgery, she took her first step. Yeah,

516
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:53,159
Speaker 4: that was crazy. As soon as I've seen that, I

517
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 4: was like, yep, this is a girl you don't want

518
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 4: to mess with.

519
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 5: How did you know she was?

520
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,679
Speaker 2: Well if she only won? Obviously can't communicate, so what

521
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:03,159
Speaker 2: was sentence?

522
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 4: She was just feverish, getting sick. She had a lot

523
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 4: of fevering and we thought it was teething, so we

524
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,439
Speaker 4: took it to the doctors and then he done his

525
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 4: obs and then I remember, I think it was the

526
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 4: third time, we took it to the doctors and he's like,

527
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 4: take her to the hospital. And then we went to

528
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 4: the hospital and everything just hit from there. And it

529
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 4: was crazy because I was still like young at the

530
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 4: time and like, this is my first time experiencing like

531
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Speaker 4: one of our girls getting not just your average sickness.

532
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:30,199
Speaker 4: It was like something that could be life threatening or

533
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 4: something that's ongoing throughout the life. And so Mela, she's

534
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 4: a man. She's she's got a She's a very emotional girl.

535
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 4: So if you guys see my videos, anything we do

536
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 4: for her, she cries, she bowls down, and it always

537
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 4: shatters my heart and I'm like, oh man, she's the

538
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 4: one that like appreciates the little things, which is funny

539
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 4: because we didn't like raise her that way to like

540
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 4: be like that, But I guess she subconsciously knows, like,

541
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 4: you know, life is so much more pressure than it is.

542
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 3: It's crazy to think, like, at one year old, you're

543
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 3: going taking your daughter to hospital to go under a

544
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: major and you know, knowing that, like well, not knowing

545
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,399
Speaker 3: what's gonna happen and how it's going to play out.

546
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,479
Speaker 3: And I can imagine, do you remember how you felt

547
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 3: the day of when that was all unfolding.

548
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I kind of some moms might go to so

549
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 4: I can imagine I would have called him board my

550
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,880
Speaker 4: eyes up, because that's I call mom, win or lost.

551
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 4: It's always heard that I call. So I remember calling

552
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 4: her before Ninia was born and all my girls. But

553
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 4: I assume I would have called her and just bored,

554
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 4: and she would have just been like, all good. She's

555
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 4: a very strong woman of faith, So I have my

556
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 4: own faith as well, and I believe everything will fall

557
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 4: in place, whether it's the way it is or the

558
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 4: way it's not meant that you think it's going to be.

559
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 4: I believe something will fall in the right place. And

560
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 4: humans are interesting, man. We we somehow find our own

561
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 4: way to cope with things, or we hope that you

562
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 4: find your own way to cope with things. So as

563
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,200
Speaker 4: much as it was a tough time, yeah, obviously we've

564
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 4: got through it and we're you know, she's good. She's healthy. Now.

565
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 4: We got news when she was about six that everything

566
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 4: was good. That was her last check up and they're like,

567
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 4: everything looks normal. So fingers crossed. No complications down the line,

568
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 4: but so far everything is good.

569
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:17,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, so hard with parenting, especially young kids, when you

570
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: can't appreciate every moment. You know, there's so many nights

571
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 2: where I'm I'm like praying for them to go to

572
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 2: sleep and stay asleep, and it's nine o'clock and they're

573
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 2: still awake. And then it's so hard in those situations

574
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:33,359
Speaker 2: where it's a life threatening situation where you're like, I

575
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 2: wish I appreciate it every little more and so hard.

576
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 2: That's what makes the guilt, makes it so much more tough.

577
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, one thing I say with my kids, Man, they

578
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 4: boil your blood, but they melt your heart. Well said, yeah,

579
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,439
Speaker 4: it's a love hate relationship. Last night we came back

580
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 4: from the airport, Like went on the way from the airport. Man,

581
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 4: I was sitting in the clause quiet the whole time.

582
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,239
Speaker 4: My wife was like, you're good. And it's because they

583
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 4: were just bitching in the back the whole time. Who

584
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 4: were supposed to sit in the middle, Who's getting the

585
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,880
Speaker 4: bunk bed at the hotel? All this stuff. And I'm

586
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 4: realizing the older they get, the more of a stimulated

587
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 4: I get. Because they're all girls. And it's like I'm

588
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 4: just driving and my wife looked over and she's like,

589
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 4: you are good and I was like, yeah, yeah, you

590
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 4: look all good. She's like did I did I do

591
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 4: something or say something wrong? I was like no, no,

592
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 4: you're a good baby. But she's like yeah, okay. So yeah,

593
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 4: there's those moments where you're just like, get the hell

594
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 4: out of my face, and then they do something and

595
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 4: you're like cap.

596
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially girls, man, like I've got I've got one

597
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 3: of the age and sorry, especially girls. Yeah, I mean,

598
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 3: let me finish first, I say, especially with girls, and

599
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 3: they like my daughter melts my heart man like she oscar,

600
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 3: I find that I am you.

601
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 5: Don't love them as much.

602
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have a favorite, A favorite.

603
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 5: I said it.

604
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 3: I said it, I have a favorite. Sorry, Cup, you

605
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 3: will be my favorite when you're older. But yeah, you're right,

606
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 3: like just all of a sudden, they can melt your

607
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 3: back down.

608
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 4: But we ask her.

609
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, you need to try harder than that. Bro,

610
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 3: you're gonna melt my heart.

611
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 4: Man, baby, sit in my nephews. I guess I'm so

612
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 4: used to go. It requires so much more energy. They

613
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 4: can't just my girls can sit there and watch TV

614
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 4: or play with something. This guy has to break something

615
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 4: or touch something, and I'm always like stop stop that bro,

616
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 4: sit down, stop that stone.

617
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 2: Stop until you yell at them they break something or

618
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 2: they hurt themselves exactly. They could be like making a

619
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 2: sandwich and you're like, okay, great, then you turn.

620
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 5: Around they're like throwing like fu Yeah, Oscar is great.

621
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 6: It is great.

622
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,880
Speaker 2: I've got to give you a massive rundom applause ash

623
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 2: and I obviously in the content game, but what you've

624
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 2: achieved in a couple of years is incredible and you're

625
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 2: a very humble man. But watching from the sidelines, it

626
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 2: is so fucking amazing how you're still so humble, still

627
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 2: so ice and kind with the accolades that you're clocking up.

628
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:06,120
Speaker 2: I was at the TikTok Awards this year and one

629
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,199
Speaker 2: thing I loved it was one of the highlights was

630
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 2: your speech. And I'm going to play you just a

631
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: little section that you said.

632
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 4: You're gonna get me a tiara.

633
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 6: Now, you guys want to know there's the true stars

634
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 6: on my show. It's a beautiful daughters, Liliar, Luni and Melia.

635
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 6: I love you guys so much.

636
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm so grateful to me or Dad, I'm so

637
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 4: grateful that you guys get to.

638
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 5: Be up here tonight.

639
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 4: Damn you guys. Don't make me crying this you guys,

640
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 4: that's a reminder to you girls that if I can

641
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 4: do it, you.

642
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 6: Girls can definitely do it.

643
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 4: I love you guys so much to kind of celebrate

644
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 4: with you all.

645
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 2: Why is it so important in that situation to show

646
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 2: your girls what you're able to achieve based on where

647
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 2: you've come from.

648
00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 4: I don't know, man, I just that's a great question. Basically,

649
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,479
Speaker 4: I try to show them every day that, like like

650
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 4: I said in my speech, if I can do something,

651
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 4: the only way I would have corrected that is they

652
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 4: can do it better. Not that I only know that

653
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 4: they can do it better, but I got as much

654
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 4: confidence in myself without saying being cocky or anything like that.

655
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 4: I got much confidence in myself to say that I

656
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 4: willn't sure that they will do it better and raise

657
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 4: them to do it better, but they live by what

658
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 4: they see, and I just hope that everything I do

659
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 4: they kind of look at it that way because I

660
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 4: look at my dad that way. And it's funny because

661
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 4: when it comes to my parents' moms might go to

662
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 4: I never have an emotional chat with my dad like

663
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 4: till even till now, we never sit down. We either

664
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 4: talk about rugby, talk about the kids, talk about the weather, anything,

665
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 4: but talk about feelings. But like the day I became

666
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 4: a dad, I don't know. I don't know which moment

667
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 4: it was the day I became a dad. Throughout my

668
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 4: life of being a dad, I've never appreciated him so

669
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 4: much more than there's so much stuff that I realized

670
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 4: that he's done. Frick wasn't that water bro something in

671
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 4: that was oh sorry? Boys?

672
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 3: Usually Matt cries, take your time.

673
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 4: Yeah. Me and my dad never see I don't I

674
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 4: we never really chat about, like I guess the important

675
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 4: things if you say. But I remember there was a

676
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 4: moment where throughout my fatherhood I realized, like sucks, there

677
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 4: was so much crap that like this man did for

678
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 4: me that I didn't even realize. And like, you know,

679
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 4: as much as I show up for my girls, as

680
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 4: much as I do everything for them, there's a lot

681
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 4: of like behind the scene stuff that they probably will

682
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 4: never see and sadly the girls they probably would never

683
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 4: experience as well. But I've never appreciated my dad so

684
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,479
Speaker 4: much until I became a dad and I realized, like damn,

685
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 4: there's a lot of stuff done in the dock. That one.

686
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 4: He's never like raised it. And my mom's always been

687
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 4: one to be like, I work so hard, I do this,

688
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 4: I do that. My Dad's just I must shut my

689
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 4: mouth and get shit done. And that's kind of my

690
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 4: mentality with the way I'm a dad. I mean, yeah,

691
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 4: I tell the girls, damn me, all are expensive, bro.

692
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 4: But with that being said, like I I buckle down.

693
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 4: If there's something that I have to do for my girls,

694
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 4: I buckle down and just get it done. If there's

695
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 4: something I have to do for my wife, I buckle

696
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 4: down and get it done. And a lot of the

697
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 4: characteristics I have as a father comes from my dad

698
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 4: one hundred percent. So yeah, that's why I think I

699
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 4: got emotionally because I was like, sucks. I remember very

700
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 4: there was something I did and I sat in the

701
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 4: car and I was like, damn, like, I feel like

702
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 4: no one's appreciative of me, Like no one my wife

703
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 4: and the girls. No one's like giving me my flowers.

704
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 4: And then I immediately thought about my dad and I

705
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 4: was like, shit, I wonder if this is how he felt.

706
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 4: And it's funny because immediately I had to snap and

707
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 4: I was like stopping a little bitch, bro, just freaking

708
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 4: whether you get flowers not, this is what you have

709
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 4: to do. Get it done.

710
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 3: You mentioned something before, you said that I never had

711
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: those emotional chats with my dad like you did with

712
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 3: your mom. Do you think being a dad now and

713
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 3: as your girls grow, you want your girls to be

714
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 3: able to have that chat.

715
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 4: Yeah. So that's something that I ensure all the time.

716
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 4: We have a safety word. It's called marshmellow, and I

717
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 4: tell my girls, I know there's times you feel like

718
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 4: you can't be straight up with dad or you're scared

719
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 4: that you're going to get in trouble, and if it

720
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 4: comes at time, just say marshmellow and I'll know, like one,

721
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 4: shut the hell up. Two, do not get angry, even

722
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 4: if I need to step away a bit and kind

723
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 4: of breathe and stuff, but just say my smello and

724
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 4: I know what you mean. But it's definitely something that

725
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 4: I It's not that I craved for to have with

726
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 4: my dad, because I had it with mom, but it's

727
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 4: definitely something that I wish my girls never feel, because

728
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 4: there's been times when my mom's not around and I

729
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 4: needed to, like vent, I needed to speak to someone

730
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 4: and I couldn't go to dad just because I was like, no,

731
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 4: we don't really do that. Yeah, And so I never

732
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 4: want my girls to feel that way, like, oh, I

733
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 4: can't come talk to dad because we don't really do that.

734
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 4: And so so far, I mean, I'm not even Kira,

735
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 4: she's twenty now, but we're pretty we're pretty tight in

736
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 4: terms of like her being comfortable or like call me

737
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 4: or talk to me about something big that's going on

738
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 4: in her life, and with that being with her, like,

739
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 4: I kind of feel like these girls will kind of

740
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 4: have that same logic as well. Yeah.

741
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 3: I think it's a father and son dynamic. It's really

742
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 3: rare to see them communicate like we would do with

743
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 3: our mums.

744
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: Right.

745
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 3: I remember my dad when his dad died. He said

746
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 3: to me, I don't remember the last time I hugged

747
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 3: my father, And.

748
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 4: He said to me, I don't want to be like that. Yeah.

749
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 3: And when you started to talk about your dad, And

750
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 3: now that we're all dads, you want your kids to

751
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 3: Every parent wants their kid to be able to come

752
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 3: to them with whatever it is. And the fact you've

753
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 3: got a safe word, you're doing all this sort of stuff.

754
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 3: There'd be dads and mums listening to this right now

755
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 3: saying well, you know, these relationships moving forward we're going

756
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 3: to have and they're going to be open and much

757
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 3: more accepting, and the communication is going to be free flowing,

758
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 3: which is so healthy for everyone.

759
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, he must be so proud as well,

760
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 2: seeing where you're at now with your family, and even like,

761
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 2: I couldn't believe how well you spoke in front of

762
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 2: twenty thousand people. I was like, damn it, he's good.

763
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 2: But also now I live with my mum and she

764
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 2: does so much and I even just then was thinking,

765
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 2: I need to tell her how last night she was

766
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: cooking dinner and I was like, I told you I

767
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 2: didn't like colidflower.

768
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 5: Wow, I wanted my bread cut of the dryger. I

769
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 5: better call her on the drive home today.

770
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 2: The amount of success that you had can be a

771
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 2: double edged sword because it creates so many opportunities that

772
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 2: you wouldn't have had otherwise.

773
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 5: But at the same time, you're.

774
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 2: Talking to an audience of literally millions and with your

775
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 2: girls like they're amazing on camera, their personalities are just incredible.

776
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 2: But then with that fame also comes from criticism and

777
00:34:58,760 --> 00:34:59,360
Speaker 2: fully happy.

778
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, how do you manage that.

779
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 4: First of all, my girls, the three younger ones, they

780
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 4: don't have gadgets at all, so they don't do iPads,

781
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 4: they don't do phones. The only way they watch stuff

782
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 4: on social media is if they're watching YouTube shorts in

783
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 4: the lounge of us, or if I'm scrolling on my

784
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,280
Speaker 4: phone and they're watching with me. So in that sense,

785
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 4: it's good. Because Nini, who's in just got into high school.

786
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:24,800
Speaker 4: She already had incidents at school where people are like

787
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 4: creating memes of her and stuff like that, and she

788
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 4: had no idea of and so she came home and

789
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:32,760
Speaker 4: she's like, apparently there's like videos and stuff like people

790
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 4: screenshotting dad's photos and like making a meme out of

791
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 4: like my facials and stuff like that. And so my

792
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,240
Speaker 4: wife tried to deal with it through the school and stuff.

793
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 4: But I asked Ninia, I was like, how do you

794
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 4: feel about that? And she's like, I don't really care.

795
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 4: I can't see it, And so I guess that that

796
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 4: works well. But with that being said, she is she's eleven,

797
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,240
Speaker 4: so I mean she's just turned twelve, so she's getting

798
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 4: to that age. Like just last week she's asking, oh,

799
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 4: when can I get a phone when I can get this,

800
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 4: and I spoke about it and a podcast earlier. It's like,

801
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 4: I feel like it's my full well me and petsus

802
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 4: for responsibility as parents to not so much protect them

803
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 4: from the internet, but educate them and let them know.

804
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:14,399
Speaker 4: Like the Internet, everyone has an opinion. Everyone can say something,

805
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:16,839
Speaker 4: and like, I'm not trying to protect you, but I'm

806
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 4: trying to like make your skin thick because the platform

807
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 4: that we've built and the people that know you and stuff,

808
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 4: everyone has something to say, whether it's nice or not.

809
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 4: And it's up to you whether you accept that or not.

810
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 4: It's up to you whether you let that saying be

811
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,959
Speaker 4: true or not, which is easier said than none, because

812
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 4: we are humans at the end of the day. I

813
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 4: don't know, there's I always try to raise the positive

814
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 4: that we've got from where we're at through social media,

815
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 4: but I also put in the like the negatives and

816
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 4: the what ifs, and the safety is a big thing

817
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 4: as well. But with that being said, like when you

818
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 4: weigh out the risk and the rewards that we've been getting. Yeah,

819
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 4: it's funny because people I've had comment, especially on Facebook.

820
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 4: People that comment on Facebook, they are a whole nother

821
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 4: brutal way. Like there, their comments are brutal, man, bro,

822
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 4: I know, man, there's so mean. They like Instagram and TikTok,

823
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 4: you'll get fat shaming and stuff like that. Hey, but

824
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 4: Facebook they go into like deep like rutes say, and

825
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 4: they say brutal stuff and you're like, oh shit, Karen

826
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 4: in that comment exactly. But one of the things I

827
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 4: always get is like people are like, oh, stop exploiting

828
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 4: your kids. And I had a giggle to my wife

829
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 4: because we were in Japan two weeks ago, and I

830
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 4: was like, if exploding my kids means my kids get

831
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 4: to go to Disneyland, my kids get to do this

832
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 4: and do that, then shit, by all means I'm going

833
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 4: to exploit them. Like if that's the opportunities they get.

834
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 4: And it sounds bad, but I'm like, if that's the

835
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 4: opportunities they get, because realistically, man, everything I do, every

836
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 4: cent I get from like whatever it is to social media,

837
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 4: whatever it gets pumped back into like the girls and

838
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 4: my wife and like all that money just and I'm

839
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 4: not complaining anything, but I'm grateful that they get all

840
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 4: these opportunities, all these experiences. When I first started doing

841
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 4: social media, and I started getting the collapse and stuff.

842
00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 4: They used to just be me to like, you know, oh,

843
00:37:57,719 --> 00:37:59,800
Speaker 4: we need to fly to Melbourne to go do this event.

844
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 4: But as time's going and like the bigger we're getting

845
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 4: and stuff, it's more, oh, we need to fly your

846
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 4: family over. And I sit there and I'm like, holy sucks.

847
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 4: I never imagined that my wife and the girls would

848
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 4: be flying the Japan and getting to experience Japan just

849
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:17,280
Speaker 4: because of the funny videos we did. So it's definitely

850
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 4: a lot of pinch me moments. But it's a crazy

851
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 4: space to be in. Yeah, but it's definitely important to

852
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,720
Speaker 4: educate your kids on the on the pros and cons.

853
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah.

854
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 2: I think we came from a world where social media

855
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,919
Speaker 2: it just ramped up so quickly and there was no

856
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 2: monitoring my, my.

857
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 5: Monitor me at all.

858
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 2: It was like this new playground that everyone was just like, oh,

859
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 2: I just dropped the kids off and we'll come back.

860
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 2: Whereas now like the pendulum swung the other way and

861
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 2: wear so much more away, So it's I think.

862
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 5: It'll level out.

863
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 3: You mentioned something in that that I thought I'll take

864
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 3: away from, which is like educate them because like your

865
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 3: first initial instinct is shield them, right, And you think

866
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 3: like I think my kids getting older, Matt, like our

867
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 3: kids are the same age. It's sort of getting into

868
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,280
Speaker 3: that age now where you know it's YouTube kids, YouTube

869
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 3: shorts and it's monitored. But you know your first thing

870
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 3: to is take it off them. Yeah, but then you

871
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 3: mentioned there it's probably like best to educate them. The

872
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,319
Speaker 3: fact is that someone's always going to have something to say. Well,

873
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 3: my thought behind that is you take it off them.

874
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 3: It doesn't satisfy that need for them to want to

875
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 3: explore it. And if you don't show, if you don't

876
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 3: let them explore the healthy way and teastem, they're going

877
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 3: to find another way. It's just like pornography, you know,

878
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 3: thirteen year old, you can either learn about it with

879
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 3: a chat with the parents and awkward, or you can

880
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 3: go exploreing your own way. And you already know how

881
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 3: to explore your Yeah, it's it's the same thing.

882
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 2: I'll throw my mom under the bus here, yes, but

883
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,799
Speaker 2: I remember in high school, like my mum would give

884
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 2: me a couple of beers to go out to a

885
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,800
Speaker 2: party when I was like sixteen and for me alcohol.

886
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:51,280
Speaker 4: So what's her name?

887
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 2: But for me it wasn't it wasn't so taboo. My

888
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 2: mates who weren't allowed to even look at alcohol.

889
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 4: You're the ones that thrashed it when they had the chance.

890
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 2: Totally, they would just go over indulge. And so I

891
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 2: think it's sometimes better the devil, you know.

892
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, very true. Like there's so many things that

893
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 3: sorry mom, Like I look back now and I feel

894
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 3: like I think about some of the conversations that I

895
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 3: have with my mom, the open ones about sex, and

896
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 3: I feel like there's trauma there because of that conversation.

897
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 3: At the end of the day, it actually educated, yeah,

898
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: you know, and I want it to be the same

899
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:26,760
Speaker 3: for my kids.

900
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 2: And I think the criticism can also come from a

901
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 2: place of jealousy as well. I think a lot of

902
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 2: people would look at what you're doing and just look at,

903
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 2: oh my god, he's going to.

904
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 5: Japan, Like I want to go to Japan.

905
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 3: Throw me on.

906
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 2: It's so easy to get their own situation that they're

907
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: not happy with and take out that frustration.

908
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 4: There's a lot of projecting, like oh yeah, even the

909
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 4: parenting styles and stuff like that. It's like I get

910
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 4: criticized and I'm like I get it, Like maybe you

911
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 4: weren't raised that way, or maybe your parents did things

912
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 4: differently and you turned out great. But this is me

913
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 4: and like mine. So I had a comment the other

914
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 4: day on one of my videos because my girls fake nails,

915
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 4: and he's like, I'd never give my kids fake nails.

916
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 4: And I commented, I was like, thank god, this isn't

917
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 4: your kids. So glad your kids.

918
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know everyone's like with parenting. It is one

919
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 3: of those things if you put your parenting style in

920
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 3: any capacity, because it's not one size that's but I

921
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 3: think like there's a difference between expressing how you would

922
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 3: do things and and then judging how you're doing it.

923
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 3: It's it's such a fine line, right, and especially having

924
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 3: millions of followers like you, it escalates. I think every

925
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 3: million you have, escat how many more people are going

926
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 3: to give you their opinion.

927
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 4: And for some reason, the algorithm always I guess because

928
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 4: the big following when you go notifications, it doesn't really

929
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:47,919
Speaker 4: show much. It just like like like.

930
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 3: Flex right there, you know, when you get so many

931
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 3: notifications that you can't even read them.

932
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 4: So what that's like. There's some days where you get

933
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 4: a top comment. Yeah, And for some reason, the algorithm

934
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 4: puts like the shitty comments on the top of fee.

935
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: Man.

936
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 3: Someone said someone was like, oh, you must really hate

937
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 3: your wife, and like that one burns me up the most.

938
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 3: But I have my response to that is what gave

939
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 3: it away? That usually neutralized. But why like why give

940
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 3: me that one?

941
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 4: Give me the worm?

942
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 3: Like, ah, you're funny. Great, that actually makes me.

943
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 2: From from my perspective, it is such a joy to

944
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 2: watch you and your family on social media, and I

945
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 2: think it's so nice. There's a lot of times when

946
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 2: people get a lot of success and I don't think

947
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 2: they deserve it, and I sounds like I'm being jealous.

948
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 2: But then sometimes the right people who really deserve it,

949
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: like yourself, they get it. And it's been amazing to

950
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 2: watch and I can't wait to see what you do next.

951
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you man. It's been crazy weaving and just

952
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 4: like any wave, man, I don't know how long it's

953
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 4: going to last, So just trying to enjoy every moment

954
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 4: and make the most of it. And I'm grateful that

955
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 4: my family get to take along. But now I'm in

956
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 4: a space where I've realized like the growth and I'm

957
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 4: like trying to get my girls down that path and

958
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:07,720
Speaker 4: kind of like set them up. Which is funny because

959
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 4: two weeks ago we had a collab and they wanted

960
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 4: me and my daughter Nini in the collab, and so

961
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 4: I drafted out the concept. Everything was approved, and she

962
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 4: was like kind of the main star. Yeah, so she

963
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 4: was the main style of the video. And we went

964
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 4: to the venue and I was like, say these lines.

965
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 4: While I recorded said it, she kept like it's like

966
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:28,399
Speaker 4: her head wasn't in it. So I had to off

967
00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 4: the phone and sat down and I was like, what

968
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 4: the hell is wrong? And then she started crying and

969
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 4: she was like, Oh, you're putting so much pressure on

970
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,919
Speaker 4: me to do this. And I was like, all right,

971
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 4: we're gonna have a chat right now. We're here for

972
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,279
Speaker 4: two hours. We're gonna make this content. Now, let me

973
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 4: tell you something. You're getting to an age where you're

974
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 4: gonna go and find work. And I can tell you now,

975
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 4: no disrespect to anyone that works in McDonald's or works

976
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 4: in KFC. This is two hours of pressure. You're gonna

977
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 4: either choose this two hours of pressure, or you can

978
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 4: choose eight hours of standing at macas and selling to

979
00:43:57,960 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 4: a customer, dealing with everything that's gonna go on, and

980
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 4: I've gone through that, Kiara has gone through that, my

981
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:05,439
Speaker 4: oldest I've gone through that fast job one hundred percent.

982
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 4: And I'm like, the way we're setting things up, there's

983
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 4: gonna be pressure everywhere, whether you're making content, whether you're

984
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 4: making things. And I'm sorry to say this, and I'm

985
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 4: sorry to sound brutal, because my wife was looking at me.

986
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 4: She's like, you're being too tough, and I was like, no, Na,

987
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 4: this is a life lesson. I was like, I'm sorry

988
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 4: to sound brutal, but these two hours of doing this content,

989
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 4: this is work. If you want to sit on that

990
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 4: plane and go to Japan, if you want to sit

991
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 4: on that plane and go to Melbourne, if you want

992
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 4: to experience all these beautiful things that we get from

993
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 4: the content we make. Sometimes we have to lock down

994
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 4: and do the hard things. And this is one of

995
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 4: those times. And this is only two hours. And I

996
00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 4: know it sounds bad, but you're getting to an age where

997
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 4: you want to start having to find a job and

998
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 4: if you trust me and you and I made it

999
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:41,799
Speaker 4: clear to I was like, first of all, told me,

1000
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 4: do you want to do content creating? Do you want

1001
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 4: to do what dad does? And because if you don't

1002
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 4: want to do that, then we don't have to do it. Yeah,

1003
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 4: then we don't have to do this. But if you

1004
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 4: want to do it, there is the joys of it,

1005
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 4: there's the awesome things of it. But people got to

1006
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 4: put in work. And trust me, I've I've had hard

1007
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 4: when it comes to work, and doing content is hard,

1008
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 4: but it my preference. I've hard.

1009
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 3: Like that's not it's another line, but you know what

1010
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:04,759
Speaker 3: I mean.

1011
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,240
Speaker 4: Like, I've done the laboring, I've done the customer service,

1012
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 4: I've done all of that. Everything is hard. But when

1013
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 4: you compare content creating to that, I'd pick that kind

1014
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 4: of difficulty any kind of anything.

1015
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 3: Just different pressures, right, I mean, I get what you're

1016
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 3: saying there. Sometimes you're like, I'm feeling a bit too

1017
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:21,879
Speaker 3: pressure right here. It's like, also, I've had a bunch

1018
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: of other jobs, yeah, exactly, standing to it's just different.

1019
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 4: Different yeah, yeah, And it's not like one pressure is

1020
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 4: better than the other. It's just if you have a

1021
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 4: blessing like me to choose which kind of pressure you

1022
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 4: want to choose, then by all means, choose it. And

1023
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 4: so Nini, I'm having a lot of more conversations with

1024
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 4: her around that because she's told me, she's like, I

1025
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 4: want to do content creating. I see what you do

1026
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 4: in the freedom that you have in terms of making

1027
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 4: money and stuff, even though a lot of people like

1028
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 4: that's not a real job. Mate, I'm like, all right,

1029
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 4: well it's real money that I'm paying the bills with somewhat.

1030
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly exactly.

1031
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 4: And so I'm having and she's starting to see those

1032
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 4: benefits of like my work, and so she's like, oh,

1033
00:45:58,560 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 4: I want to do that. I want to be able

1034
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 4: to do this. I want to be able to do that.

1035
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 4: And I'm like, that's fine. If that's what you want

1036
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 4: to do, then you've got to understand some of the

1037
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 4: conversations and some of the situations I'm going to put

1038
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,320
Speaker 4: you in. It's not going to be all like, hey, guys,

1039
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 4: were we just opened this box and it's all fun

1040
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 4: in games, like, there's some stuff you got to lock down,

1041
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 4: and unfortunately that's the way the world spinds, and no

1042
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 4: one really cares about your feelings. So you just got

1043
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 4: to hide enough and just keep moving on there.

1044
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 5: How did she react to that?

1045
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 4: She took it, Yeah, she takes it very well. My girls, No,

1046
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 4: it's all fun in games, but when especially Nini and

1047
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,879
Speaker 4: Kiara because they're older, the two young ones, every time

1048
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 4: I try to have a I don't even have a

1049
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 4: hard conversation with them because it goes in one year

1050
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 4: and goes out the other. They're still very young. But

1051
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 4: the other two like when I lock down and tell them,

1052
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 4: they're like, oh, hopefully they can lead with example now.

1053
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, after that conversation, it was pretty good and

1054
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 4: we've been good since then. And my wife was able

1055
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 4: to be like, oh, yeah, I see where you're going

1056
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 4: with this, so the only time will tell I guess yeah, yeah.

1057
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 3: I think like again, you educated her, protecting her from

1058
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 3: what potentially can happen, because it's really easy to just

1059
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 3: be like, oh, look, today's not your day. Yeah, or

1060
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 3: you're like, hey, look, life's full of pressures. A life's

1061
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 3: full of these moments where you're like am I doing

1062
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,799
Speaker 3: the right thing? Am I doing it well enough? All

1063
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 3: the time, you're always having that conversation in your head,

1064
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:13,839
Speaker 3: whether it's work or not. So I mean you could

1065
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 3: have very easily been like, yeah, today's not your day.

1066
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,239
Speaker 3: We'll come back and try another day. But you said, look,

1067
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:19,759
Speaker 3: you're going to have to face it. At some point,

1068
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 3: and I think earlier on is, especially with this sort

1069
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 3: of thing, because like for me, yeah, I don't know

1070
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:28,359
Speaker 3: if I you know, like I can't still can't read

1071
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 3: a lot of comments, and so I wish like, yeah,

1072
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 3: if someone might, you know, like you said, you're going

1073
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 3: to have to just face it and deal with the pressure.

1074
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1075
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 2: One question that we always end on is when the

1076
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: girls are all grown up, they're no longer living at home,

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Speaker 2: what is the one thing you want them to remember

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Speaker 2: about the house they grew up in.

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Speaker 4: That they're always love. It was never perfect, but it

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Speaker 4: was always love, especially if coming from Dad, however he

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Speaker 4: tried to teach you, or however he tried to raise you,

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Speaker 4: whether you agreed with it or not, it always came

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Speaker 4: from a place of love. That's one thing I reflect

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Speaker 4: back to my parents, because I, man, there's been moments

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Speaker 4: throughout my whole life, why was like damn, I wonder

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Speaker 4: if they loved me. I wonder if they actually could

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Speaker 4: have stayed home with me rather than go to work.

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Speaker 4: I wonder if they raised me the right way. But

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Speaker 4: now that I'm a parent, I've been so less judgmental

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Speaker 4: towards them, and so I just hope my girls can

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Speaker 4: get that reflection as well when they become parents and

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Speaker 4: be like, damn, we shouldn't have judge dad that or

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Speaker 4: mom that way. Because now we got our own kids

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Speaker 4: and their own ship to deal with them. We hope

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Speaker 4: they can be as kind as like we had it.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I hope when they do get older and

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Speaker 4: they live life that everything that me and my wife

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Speaker 4: did always came from a place of love, whether they

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Speaker 4: agreed with it or not.

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Speaker 5: Love that brother, Thank you so much, Thank you guys

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Speaker 5: for having your absolute pleasure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, Thank you for spending some time with

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Speaker 3: us today, and I will keep watching.

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Speaker 4: I have no intentions of crying on Valentine's cheers?

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Speaker 5: Man, do you know what annoys me? Ash? What's that

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Speaker 5: annoys me? This is a little grap that I have.

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Speaker 2: If I was going to have four point six million

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Speaker 2: followers and also have a number of awards under my belt,

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Speaker 2: I would be a bit of an arrogant prick, you

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Speaker 2: know that. Look, I'll be honest, and it annoys me

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Speaker 2: that people like Eli have all of that and they're

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Speaker 2: still very humble, still very sweet.

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Speaker 5: Just come on, like, have something wrong with you?

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Speaker 3: If you met him? And you didn't know what he did.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't think that he has that many people that

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Speaker 3: follow his every day activities.

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Speaker 2: We did do a cheeky little skit. It would have

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Speaker 2: been rood of us not to, so make sure you

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Speaker 2: jump on our socials give that a.

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Speaker 5: Like or share because we need the followers.

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Speaker 3: We got to get a four point six stat If

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Speaker 3: you've enjoyed this episode, please leave review five stars.

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Speaker 4: A couple of common words.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I really enjoy ash the comments on Spotify.

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Speaker 3: Yes, let's they're negative and I don't like them.

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Speaker 2: Don't get I don't want this to invite people to

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Speaker 2: give negative comments. Don't get many negative comments on Spotify.

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Speaker 2: If you want to have a good passion of the eargo,

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Speaker 2: Trust me, you won't be upset. Go to the individual

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Speaker 2: episodes on Spotify and then read the comments.

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Speaker 3: Will or I'll go to social media Instagram TikTok, Facebook,

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Speaker 3: Facebook group or YouTube. Four point five thousand at the moment,

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Speaker 3: not four point six million.

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Speaker 6: Fuck.

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Speaker 5: It's terrible, isn't it.

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Speaker 3: One day, Matthew? One day, when I grow up, I

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Speaker 3: want to have four point six million followers. He's probably

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Speaker 3: younger than me.

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Speaker 5: Four point six He is young. Oh God, Oh, let's

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Speaker 5: get out of here.

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Speaker 1: Bye.

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Speaker 2: Two Doting Dads podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country

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Speaker 2: throughout Australia and the connections to land, see and community.

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Speaker 3: We pay our respects to their elders past and present

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Speaker 3: and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torrestraight Islander

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Speaker 3: people's today.

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Speaker 4: This episode was recorded on Gadigle Land