WEBVTT - Welcome To Life Uncut 

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you guys asked for it, So here we are

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<v Speaker 1>delivering our very first podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Brittany, how many people exactly asked for this? Okay, full disclaimer,

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<v Speaker 2>less than ten? You got ten, I didn't get any.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, here we are, and we're here to talk

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<v Speaker 2>to you a little bit about relationships, dating love.

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<v Speaker 3>Got a bit of reality TV in there.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit of life, just a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>our personal opinions.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean, we were having these chatty conversations over breakfast,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was actually Britt who was the one who

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<v Speaker 2>decided that maybe we should put some of these thoughts

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<v Speaker 2>down and.

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<v Speaker 3>Start a podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>So, Britt, what makes you think that you have any

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<v Speaker 2>qualifications to give dating advice?

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I don't know if you saw the end of

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<v Speaker 3>my Bachelor series. Yeah, that's why I'm asking, babe.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that makes me overqualified or underqualified,

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<v Speaker 1>but it definitely gives me an opinion.

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<v Speaker 3>No. Look, I have a bit of a dating history

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<v Speaker 3>single long time, and I started to get a lot of.

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<v Speaker 1>People writing to me and asking questions personally after that experience,

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<v Speaker 1>So I thought, I'm just going to have to put

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<v Speaker 1>pen to paper, voice to microphone and get it out there,

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, that's my story.

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<v Speaker 3>Why are you here?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I'm completely unqualified to give dating advice, but that

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<v Speaker 2>will not stop me. I look, prior to dating mat

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<v Speaker 2>and to our relationship being where it is now, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I had some pretty colorful dating experience, and I feel

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<v Speaker 2>really passionately about going through breakups and going through ups

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<v Speaker 2>and downs and relationships, that they can have, breakups can

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<v Speaker 2>have really positive outcomes for people, and that it should

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<v Speaker 2>be treated as a learning experience to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>better set you up for your next relationship. So that

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<v Speaker 2>is where my experience comes from. Yeah, look, I can

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<v Speaker 2>play the break up, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think that breakups these days and going through

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<v Speaker 1>a really tough time has a bit of a negative

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<v Speaker 1>connotation to it, But I agree, and I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>it has to. I think we can learn a lot

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<v Speaker 1>and it shapes us into who we are today. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think it'd be nice to put a different spin

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<v Speaker 1>on it and learn some things and speak to different

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<v Speaker 1>people and just get a different view on things.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it is incredibly painful and it is incredibly difficult,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think that from some of the most challenging

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<v Speaker 2>aspects of life is where we do our best growth,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think that it also sets us up for

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<v Speaker 2>making better decisions in the future. So yeah, it's nice

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<v Speaker 2>to be here and to be able to chat about

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<v Speaker 2>these things. Yeah, definitely, So Britt, we had very very

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<v Speaker 2>different experiences on The Bachelor. Why did you do it?

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<v Speaker 2>Why did I do it? The million dollar question?

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<v Speaker 1>To be honest, I have two best friends and I

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<v Speaker 1>have been single for a very long time, seven years,

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<v Speaker 1>and they had been pushing me to go on The

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<v Speaker 1>Bachelor years ago, I think maybe season five, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just thought, no way, no way, no way, and they

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<v Speaker 1>kept pushing and pushing and pushing, and I just said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, I'm going on around the world trip.

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<v Speaker 3>If I come back in three years and I'm thirty years.

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<v Speaker 1>Old and I'm still single, which, mind you, I absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>did not think was going to happen. I thought I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to go meet the man of my dreams

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<v Speaker 1>in some foreign country. I thought, if I come back,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to apply for the Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and you came back and you would any still

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<v Speaker 2>single and you were like, I'm going on.

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<v Speaker 1>A Bachelor thirty I was still single, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>sign me out, baby, I'm going.

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<v Speaker 2>On I think I was pretty similar in my reasoning

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<v Speaker 2>for going on the show as well, although I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't really do it thinking I would meet someone.

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<v Speaker 3>Very very happy that I did. Oh you didn't. You

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<v Speaker 3>actually didn't think you would.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I meet the match such a model dating life

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<v Speaker 2>in Sydney as it was, and I'd found dating really

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<v Speaker 2>challenging that I kind of did it more as a

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a joke. Not a joke that's probably a

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<v Speaker 2>bit harsh, but more of experience. Yeah, for the experience,

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<v Speaker 2>And I thought, you know, i'd make some friends. If

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<v Speaker 2>by some wild chance I met an amazing guy, then

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<v Speaker 2>like that would be what a wonderful story that would be.

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<v Speaker 3>But I didn't have any expectations around it.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been in and out of some really difficult relationships

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<v Speaker 2>and I think I just wanted a break from it

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<v Speaker 2>all and then I got my happy ever after outcome.

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<v Speaker 1>Just backtrack a little bit. You have told me this

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<v Speaker 1>over coffee, but you have quite an interesting sort of

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<v Speaker 1>sign up story, don't you, Because you were not sold

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<v Speaker 1>ongoing on The Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, no, my sign up story. So I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>actually sign myself up. My two housemates at the time

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<v Speaker 2>were the ones who put my name down, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was done over a drunken Mexican fiesta.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, obviously the best ideas come from drunken Mexican fiestas.

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<v Speaker 3>And they entered me.

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<v Speaker 2>They did the application process, which I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>anyone who's listening has actually applied for The Bachelor. It's

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<v Speaker 2>a very lengthy It takes about forty five minutes to

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<v Speaker 2>an hour to actually answer all the questions.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was really lucky my housemates did that for me.

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<v Speaker 2>And then a couple of months later, I got a

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<v Speaker 2>phone call from the producers asking me if I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to come in an audition. And at the time I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't really think I wanted to go on it. I

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<v Speaker 2>hadn't really processed it. But as I got closer and

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<v Speaker 2>closer and closer to it actually happening, I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>ebbed between yes and no, yes and no, and eventually

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<v Speaker 2>I was there. I mean I was late, everyone else

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<v Speaker 2>was already in lockdown, and I showed up the next day,

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<v Speaker 2>just casually strolled in.

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<v Speaker 3>But better late than never.

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<v Speaker 1>But maybe that is the secret, not overthinking something, not

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<v Speaker 1>putting any expectations on it, just thinking I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>risk it for the biscuit. Let's turn up and see

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<v Speaker 1>what happens.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Absolutely, I do think that there is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, you can't be set for disappointment if you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have any expectations on something, and if you're approaching something

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<v Speaker 2>with a more casual like outlook on it. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that that's why it wasn't until i'd spend a bit

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<v Speaker 2>more time in the mansion that I actually felt like

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<v Speaker 2>I was getting really invested in the process because I

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<v Speaker 2>hadn't been hung up on it working out for me.

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<v Speaker 1>And also, you saw Matt's abs, so you're like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm invested.

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<v Speaker 3>I am here for this. Let's be real, Laura. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>he's got some pretty good abs. Still, I'm like me

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<v Speaker 3>at the moment, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I would just like to make a comment

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<v Speaker 1>to what I'm looking at right now.

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<v Speaker 2>So the dream is what she means, I look like

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<v Speaker 2>the dream.

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<v Speaker 3>So Laura is sitting opposite me.

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<v Speaker 1>She's just come from work, she has just finished to

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<v Speaker 1>work out late last night.

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<v Speaker 3>She's also nine months pregnant.

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<v Speaker 2>I am most pregnant people at this point in time

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<v Speaker 2>their pregnancy would be out winding back and sitting on

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<v Speaker 2>the couch, just you know, enjoying the last few moments

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<v Speaker 2>that they're going to get without a baby attached to them.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've decided I'll start a podcast. Yeah, three days out,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm literally just.

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<v Speaker 3>Now googling how to deliver a.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby, just in case, please don't, please just strat me

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<v Speaker 2>to the hospital if that happened.

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<v Speaker 3>So this, this podcast has.

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<v Speaker 2>Been recorded a little bit in advance, purely because there

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<v Speaker 2>is the potential that I may drop a child very soon.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we did want to get the ball rolling. We

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<v Speaker 1>had this idea, and we just thought, let's get this

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<v Speaker 1>first episode down now so that you can go off

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<v Speaker 1>and have your baby and peas and then we'll continue

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<v Speaker 1>from there.

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<v Speaker 3>So well, it's one of those things, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>You have these these bright ideas and these conversations and

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<v Speaker 2>then they never come into fruition.

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<v Speaker 3>However, with Brittany, it was a It.

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<v Speaker 2>Was a sort of a spark of an idea over breakfast,

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<v Speaker 2>and within an hour of me getting home, she was like,

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<v Speaker 2>so we're recording a podcast and I've booked us in

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<v Speaker 2>and this is the name, and.

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<v Speaker 3>We're ready to go. So it made it really.

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<v Speaker 2>Difficult to say, no, I am here, So I actually no,

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<v Speaker 2>to be fair, I did say, look, were you really

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<v Speaker 2>into this or did you want to semi pull out?

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<v Speaker 3>Because you can do that now, and you're like, babes,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm already googling.

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<v Speaker 2>I was already too far invested. I was already sitting

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<v Speaker 2>in the chair when she said that you're in. You've got,

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<v Speaker 2>You've got, we've got our name already.

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<v Speaker 3>You're a soul.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to know a little bit about your

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<v Speaker 2>experiences on The Bachelor and how they differed from what

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<v Speaker 2>my experiences were.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we're going back. Mine was a little while ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it was two years that yours was the most

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<v Speaker 2>recent show that we've had, and we arguing up for

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<v Speaker 2>a new season as well. So tell me like a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit about what your dating life was before the.

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<v Speaker 3>Show and why did you go on.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I have been single seven years and I

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<v Speaker 1>had had two serious long term relationships. My first partner

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<v Speaker 1>eight years wonderful man. Still can't fault him. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was young, and it's that young relationship where it's all

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<v Speaker 1>consuming but your babies, and we just grew apart.

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<v Speaker 3>My next relationship was.

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<v Speaker 1>To be honest, very destructive, very abusive, in multiple ways.

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<v Speaker 2>It did not end well. And they're they're fun relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>aren't they. Yeah, that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we've all had that experience, and so many

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<v Speaker 1>women and men but have had that experience, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think it'll be nice to touch on that later and

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<v Speaker 1>bond over some stories. But after that ended, I just

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<v Speaker 1>needed to go and find myself, live my life for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just thought I wasn't going to waste any

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<v Speaker 1>more time unless I thought something could be the big ending,

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<v Speaker 1>the happy ending, and I just hadn't found that.

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<v Speaker 3>So I've dated a lot, a lot. I essentially, I

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<v Speaker 3>like the emphasis on that.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm a wife old dating monk. If there

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<v Speaker 2>is such a thing, well, I mean I think that

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<v Speaker 2>comes part and parcel. If you've spent seven years on

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<v Speaker 2>your own, are going to you know, be in that

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<v Speaker 2>dating world and be meeting lots of different types of people.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's important and also figuring out who's your type

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<v Speaker 2>of person, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>What you want, who you want, and how you want

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<v Speaker 1>that to happen. So, I mean, there are a thousand

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<v Speaker 1>stories that we will share over that seven year period.

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<v Speaker 3>But let's fast forward seven years.

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<v Speaker 1>Later, three years around the world, thirty years old, still single.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just thought, I have zero to lose and

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<v Speaker 1>it's my next big adventure, so I'm going to sign

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<v Speaker 1>up for the Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 3>So there I was. But I believe you've got a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of a different dating history.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I guess. I mean I am quite an independent person. However,

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<v Speaker 2>when it has come to my dating past, I have

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<v Speaker 2>been very codependent in my relationships. I honestly haven't had

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<v Speaker 2>a big stint in my life where I've been single.

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<v Speaker 3>I really have sort.

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<v Speaker 2>Of monkey branched and I hate that term, and I

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<v Speaker 2>hate that I even did it, but a monkey branch

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship to relationship, and I think that that

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<v Speaker 2>really came from a deep seated need to be loved

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<v Speaker 2>and to be valued. And I got a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>my self worth from feeling like somebody wanted me. It

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<v Speaker 2>did mean that I spent a lot of time in

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<v Speaker 2>relationships that weren't good relationships and with people who didn't

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<v Speaker 2>treat me properly. You know, not to say that they

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<v Speaker 2>were all bad. I definitely had some great relationships. They

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<v Speaker 2>just weren't the right person. And it's funny because for me,

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<v Speaker 2>the actual show of going on the Bachelor broke that

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<v Speaker 2>pattern and that cycle for me because I actually had

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<v Speaker 2>some time where I wasn't I wasn't the only person

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<v Speaker 2>like we in Matt and I weren't dating from the

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<v Speaker 2>get go. We were getting to know each other and

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<v Speaker 2>things were a lot slower, which sounds really ironic because

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<v Speaker 2>some things seemed like they move really fast on The Bachelor,

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<v Speaker 2>but for me, it was much slower than what some

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<v Speaker 2>of my normal relationships had moved, and it gave me

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<v Speaker 2>some time to really be introspective and to think about

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<v Speaker 2>what sort of relationship I want and whether Matt was

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<v Speaker 2>the type of guy I wanted. And yeah, it broke

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<v Speaker 2>a pattern, a really really difficult pattern that I'd spent

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<v Speaker 2>many years trying to break. And so now I'm now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a Bachelor advocate.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone should sign up for the show. We did. We

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<v Speaker 3>didn't say it up like us.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, we did say that this was not going

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<v Speaker 2>to be a Bachelor podcast, and we will just sort

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<v Speaker 2>of touch on it from here and there.

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<v Speaker 3>We will do some we will do some.

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<v Speaker 2>Bachelor recaps when the new season does start. However, we

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to be able to bring to you a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of information about us and some background on

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<v Speaker 2>who we are and why we did the show originally,

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<v Speaker 2>and how we even came to meet each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Laura, good call, this isn't going to be a Bachelor

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<v Speaker 1>reality TV podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm out of here.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if you know that. That's all we

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<v Speaker 4>were talking about. That's all I've got in my life.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh no, look, it's of course we're going to touch

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<v Speaker 4>on it. It is our history, and I have zero

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<v Speaker 4>regrets at all. Actually, I do want to say that

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<v Speaker 4>I have zero regrets. I loved my experience.

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<v Speaker 1>We can't ever really get away from that. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>reason we're here together now, and that's because we had

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<v Speaker 1>this shared experience. Yes, we will recap the Bachelor Saker

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<v Speaker 1>for reality TV. Let's just put that out on the

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<v Speaker 1>table there right now. I might love the stuff. I

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<v Speaker 1>used to hate it.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to think reality TV sucked, and now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>born again Illuminati for reality TV.

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<v Speaker 1>I have listened to your Marriti first site.

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<v Speaker 2>And also the fact that I'm soon going to be

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<v Speaker 2>pinned under a newborn child, or mean that I have.

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<v Speaker 3>So much time to spend in front of the TV.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely, but no, Actually, you may be thinking, how did

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<v Speaker 1>we meet it's a common misconception that everybody in reality

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<v Speaker 1>TV comes friends and joins this cult.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's eactly. That's because they're all hanging out together

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<v Speaker 2>on the Daily Mail. It's not a misconception. Everyone seems

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<v Speaker 2>to know each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I to be fair, don't I do not know

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else from other seasons except you, and that is honest.

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<v Speaker 1>And how we met is actually an interesting story. So

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<v Speaker 1>it was sort of the last maybe two weeks week

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<v Speaker 1>of my season as it was airing and things started

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<v Speaker 1>to really heat up. I was having quite a hard time.

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<v Speaker 3>With the media, and people on social media can be horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think to give a bit of context to this,

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<v Speaker 2>there was an episode on Britney's season where she had

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<v Speaker 2>confronted Cass about something that had happened.

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<v Speaker 3>Cass had been dating Nick in the real world and.

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<v Speaker 2>Britt had Britt had confronted her to ask her, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what the extent of their relationship was, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>from the conversations we've had. Now I understand that it

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<v Speaker 2>was a relative we edited conversation, but I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>one of those bait and switches where it's really it

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<v Speaker 2>becomes really obvious that sometimes the audience changes their opinion

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<v Speaker 2>on someone based on something that happens really quickly, and

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, you see it instantly on social media

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<v Speaker 2>where when someone does something wrong, it's like you show

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<v Speaker 2>you showed your true colors, and all of the trolls

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<v Speaker 2>come out. So I was watching. I was actually just

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<v Speaker 2>looked at BRIT's Instagram while this this episode was rolling,

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<v Speaker 2>and I saw that she was copying a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>flack and I felt really bad for her because I

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<v Speaker 2>had been in the same situation the year prior.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so yeah, we Cas and I did have this conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>And just to put this out there, Cass and I

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<v Speaker 1>were like sisters and best friends from the first episode

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<v Speaker 1>and we still are now and that never changed. The

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<v Speaker 1>conversation was literally, Cass, I've just found out you were

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship with Nick at some point, and all

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know is if there's a love between

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<v Speaker 1>you two, should I But And that was a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>and I said to her, I didn't even care at all,

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, there's a bit of shop and changing there,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's unfortunately not what went to air. So I

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<v Speaker 1>did get a lot of heat from that for a

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<v Speaker 1>few days. And so I wake up. I don't wake up.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't sleeping.

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<v Speaker 3>Because of this.

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<v Speaker 2>It was nine point thirty PM. That's why she didn't

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<v Speaker 2>wake up. That episode airs during the daytime.

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<v Speaker 1>I get a message from Laura. Now I don't know Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously I know of her. I get a message from

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<v Speaker 1>her saying, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Slid into a DM's guy. Oh, she was the first

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<v Speaker 3>person that swit into my dance. Actually, still haven't gotten

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<v Speaker 3>lucky points for trying.

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<v Speaker 1>I get this message and it just says, hey, love, Look,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know me, and I have no ulterior motive

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<v Speaker 1>for this, but I'm going to say I know exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what you're doing right now. You haven't gotten out of

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<v Speaker 1>bedding in three days. You have food wrappers all over

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<v Speaker 1>the floor. You think the world hates you, You think

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<v Speaker 1>your life is never going to get better. You have

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<v Speaker 1>been in tears. You're not sleeping because you're monitoring your

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<v Speaker 1>social media and thinking the whole world is about to employ.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm laying there thinking, oh, my girl, is this

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<v Speaker 1>girl my spirit animal or is she in the next

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<v Speaker 1>room watching me? Because that is exactly right. She's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been there, I've been where you have been and

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<v Speaker 1>the world has hated me as well. This is my

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<v Speaker 1>phone number if you ever want to talk. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>very unlike me to do this, but I called you

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<v Speaker 1>straight away.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well look, I mean I just want to I

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<v Speaker 2>want to correct you on one thing, okay, because the

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<v Speaker 2>world didn't hate you, and the world didn't hate me.

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<v Speaker 3>It just feels like it at the time.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you could receive five hundred amazing complimentary messages

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram and you might get one trolley message where

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<v Speaker 2>someone tells you that your shit and you should go

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<v Speaker 2>kill yourself, and that's what that message that really hurts

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<v Speaker 2>your feelings.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think I wanted.

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<v Speaker 2>To reach out to you when you were in that

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<v Speaker 2>situation because I had experienced that the year prior, and

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<v Speaker 2>also Alex Nation had reached out to me when I

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<v Speaker 2>was in that situation, and I felt I actually still

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<v Speaker 2>never met Alex in real life, but I just felt

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<v Speaker 2>so great that there was somebody else who actually understood

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<v Speaker 2>how I was feeling at that point in time. And

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted you to know that there was somebody else

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<v Speaker 2>out there who knew how you were feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>And I am so grateful for that. Honestly, it was

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<v Speaker 1>really life saving at that point. And I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>just heads up, if you're listening the winner of the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty nineteen Bachelor, I'll probably be reaching out to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you know who it is? They've finished filming.

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<v Speaker 2>We actually know nothing, so any recapts or anything that

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<v Speaker 2>we do come to you just from our spidery senses.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel like it's one of those things that

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<v Speaker 2>you pass on every year. So I feel like at

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<v Speaker 2>some point I'm going to have to reach out as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Do my Yeah, absolutely, I think that there's a due

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<v Speaker 2>diligence when you've been in that position before. And the

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<v Speaker 2>problem is is, you know, you go on these reality

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<v Speaker 2>TV shows and people think, well, you signed up for it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you opened yourself up for all this bullying and

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<v Speaker 2>you made your life public. But no one really makes

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<v Speaker 2>you equipped for that. There's not there's not any And you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't know until you know. I like that saying yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but you don't you don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we still don't know what are we Doingritt,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me a little bit about what was different from

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<v Speaker 2>your experience than mine. I mean, I know that we

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<v Speaker 2>were in completely different Bachelor mansions. Tommy, what did you

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<v Speaker 2>guys eat, as in like when you weren't on camera,

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<v Speaker 2>did you cook? Did you get a will Worst delivery

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<v Speaker 2>like we did? Like?

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<v Speaker 3>How did it work?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>You were willl Worth?

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<v Speaker 2>Now we were coals. I think we were cols too.

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<v Speaker 2>We were actually on an avocado band, but then I

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<v Speaker 2>found out the avocado saga.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's every year, every pasion has an

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<v Speaker 1>avocado saga.

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<v Speaker 2>So the way it worked for us was that was

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<v Speaker 2>that we had a weekly allowance to split between all

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<v Speaker 2>the girls, so our grocery shop had to be less

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<v Speaker 2>than the weekly allowance, and obviously things like avocados a

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<v Speaker 2>datium expensive, so everyone couldn't And there was also a

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<v Speaker 2>cyclone at the time that had wiped out a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of the avocado stock. I don't know why I'm getting

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<v Speaker 2>so into this, but really it ruled our.

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<v Speaker 3>Life for quite rate. Avocado cyclone of twenty seventeen. This

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<v Speaker 3>is true. This is very very true. So we were

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<v Speaker 3>all put on an avocado band. But you know what,

0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:09.320
<v Speaker 3>we actually had it really easy.

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<v Speaker 2>We used to do big cookups as the girls, like

0:19:12.080 --> 0:19:14.919
<v Speaker 2>as a group. We had like big family dinners. We

0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.520
<v Speaker 2>had pizza nights. It was like being on holidays. It

0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:19.920
<v Speaker 2>was bloody great. Sometimes it was sort of like being

0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:22.760
<v Speaker 2>on a resort with some of your closest girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, we it's actually that's a really common question.

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<v Speaker 1>People ask me what did you eat? And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can ask me anything about the Bachelor, and that's

0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:32.280
<v Speaker 1>what you want to know, and they really do well.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's because there's also this misconception that like

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<v Speaker 2>all the girls put on heaps of weight while we're

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<v Speaker 2>in there because there's nothing to do except eat chocolate,

0:19:39.520 --> 0:19:42.639
<v Speaker 2>and there really is that you have free rein over everything,

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<v Speaker 2>and so it's quite hard to stay in shape. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>what was your gym like? Because your gym is shit

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<v Speaker 2>as ours? Yeah, so a funny story. Our gym was

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<v Speaker 2>actually we had some petal packers. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>you saw that we our packers.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I did say.

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<v Speaker 1>That our gym was the ol packer sat that they

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<v Speaker 1>had just ripped out the hay and then put some

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<v Speaker 1>equipment in there.

0:20:02.600 --> 0:20:03.520
<v Speaker 3>So it was quite small.

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<v Speaker 1>Look it has what you needed, but it was Jim

0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:07.800
<v Speaker 1>is a stretch of a term.

0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:11.600
<v Speaker 2>Ours was a garage, like literally a garage that had

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<v Speaker 2>a treadmillion it and some weights facing the wall.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, facing the door.

0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:17.960
<v Speaker 2>There was also a rat that lived in there too,

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<v Speaker 2>but we don't we're not going to get into that.

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<v Speaker 2>But I remember, so we had we had different kettlebells,

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<v Speaker 2>like different weights, and I went down there to do

0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.720
<v Speaker 2>and workout this one day and all of the heavy

0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:31.960
<v Speaker 2>weights had been taken and I found out it was

0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:35.119
<v Speaker 2>macause Matt had requested that he have all of the

0:20:35.119 --> 0:20:38.639
<v Speaker 2>weights over sixteen kilos. So I threw a little tanny

0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:40.359
<v Speaker 2>and got our weights back. I was like, it is

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<v Speaker 2>not acceptable.

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<v Speaker 3>Good for you. I need to squat God, damn it.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, so I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>The bachelor definitely gets to rule the roost of the

0:20:48.359 --> 0:20:49.960
<v Speaker 2>of the bachelor the mansion, and that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So we also just had a big yard that we

0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:55.680
<v Speaker 1>would literally run around in circles like hamsters. So people think,

0:20:55.840 --> 0:20:57.680
<v Speaker 1>if you do think that we're allowed to go out

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<v Speaker 1>for a run or a walk, you don't. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>leave give the mansion ever unless you're on a date.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, there's no, there's no leave.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, do you know what, I did get a pass

0:21:07.840 --> 0:21:10.560
<v Speaker 2>out to leave, so so people don't get to leave

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<v Speaker 2>them once you're in lockdown and you're in lockdown and

0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:14.879
<v Speaker 2>you don't leave, you don't have access to your phone,

0:21:15.040 --> 0:21:17.840
<v Speaker 2>you don't have access to calling your family. The only

0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:20.200
<v Speaker 2>time that you're able to call your family is once

0:21:20.480 --> 0:21:23.720
<v Speaker 2>for fifteen minutes I think every.

0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:25.600
<v Speaker 3>Two weeks on a monitored phone call.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so your minder will listen in and make sure

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<v Speaker 2>that there's nothing that you're talking about that could give

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<v Speaker 2>away any aspect of the show. And also they also

0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:35.120
<v Speaker 2>listened in to make sure that your family isn't telling

0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:37.879
<v Speaker 2>you things that could make you want to leave as well.

0:21:38.000 --> 0:21:39.399
<v Speaker 3>So it does go both ways.

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<v Speaker 2>But I well, I was able to leave a few

0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:45.359
<v Speaker 2>days after I was in lockdown, and it was purely

0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:47.080
<v Speaker 2>because I had to attend a funeral.

0:21:48.119 --> 0:21:53.040
<v Speaker 3>Even for that, I was chaperoned by a minder to

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<v Speaker 3>the funeral.

0:21:54.240 --> 0:21:57.600
<v Speaker 2>I was like they waited for me at the funeral,

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<v Speaker 2>and then as soon as it was finished, I couldn't

0:21:59.240 --> 0:22:00.560
<v Speaker 2>go the wake or anything to get back in the

0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:03.359
<v Speaker 2>car and go straight back. And and so everything is

0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:06.399
<v Speaker 2>monitored really really severely. Yeah, it's good though, I mean

0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:08.080
<v Speaker 2>it needs to be done. It has to be It

0:22:08.160 --> 0:22:11.919
<v Speaker 2>keeps the privacy and it keeps the.

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<v Speaker 1>Ending, the surprise, magicke and the excitement and the surprise.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So and what about so you and I, in case

0:22:22.359 --> 0:22:25.040
<v Speaker 1>people didn't know we had different mansions, what were your

0:22:25.040 --> 0:22:25.960
<v Speaker 1>sleeping arrangements?

0:22:26.080 --> 0:22:27.880
<v Speaker 3>Like, oh, we have like a dorm room.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think you will mention was bigger than ours, though, yeah,

0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:33.560
<v Speaker 2>I've actually seen your mansion, so I did hear that

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<v Speaker 2>secret squirrel?

0:22:34.680 --> 0:22:36.400
<v Speaker 3>So well that's for another time.

0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:42.000
<v Speaker 2>So our mansion was two quite big, oh, three quite

0:22:42.040 --> 0:22:44.359
<v Speaker 2>big rooms, and all the girls were in bunk beds

0:22:44.359 --> 0:22:46.520
<v Speaker 2>in the room. So in my room it was actually

0:22:46.640 --> 0:22:48.960
<v Speaker 2>fourteen girls all.

0:22:48.800 --> 0:22:49.600
<v Speaker 3>In bunk beds.

0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:53.280
<v Speaker 2>And then obviously that dwindled down as the roses kind

0:22:53.280 --> 0:22:57.440
<v Speaker 2>of also dwindled. But but yeah, it was like being

0:22:57.440 --> 0:23:00.439
<v Speaker 2>on school camp, which was probably one of the funnest

0:23:00.440 --> 0:23:02.720
<v Speaker 2>parts and also the most difficult parts of the whole.

0:23:02.520 --> 0:23:03.400
<v Speaker 3>Thing as well.

0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:05.360
<v Speaker 1>It's funny because I think, might I had a room

0:23:05.359 --> 0:23:10.400
<v Speaker 1>of maybe one, two, twelve, and you don't think about

0:23:10.400 --> 0:23:12.720
<v Speaker 1>that when you go into the mansion. But what mansion

0:23:12.800 --> 0:23:15.439
<v Speaker 1>is going to have We had thirty women all up?

0:23:15.480 --> 0:23:17.440
<v Speaker 1>What mansion is going to have thirty rooms?

0:23:17.600 --> 0:23:19.040
<v Speaker 3>Did you have thirty women in your season?

0:23:19.160 --> 0:23:21.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we had the biggest season ever. And then once

0:23:21.119 --> 0:23:23.159
<v Speaker 1>the intruders still couldn't pick anyone.

0:23:23.400 --> 0:23:29.040
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, come on, man, I don't know or what

0:23:29.080 --> 0:23:29.800
<v Speaker 4>it says about us.

0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:32.840
<v Speaker 5>I'm going to say more about Nick, But yeah, it's

0:23:32.840 --> 0:23:35.399
<v Speaker 5>not a reflection of you guys. That's definitely just certain.

0:23:37.680 --> 0:23:40.360
<v Speaker 5>What was your expectation of it versus what the reality?

0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:42.919
<v Speaker 2>You know, going into the show, What did you expect

0:23:42.960 --> 0:23:44.879
<v Speaker 2>it to be like versus what it really was like?

0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:47.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know if I had too many expectations.

0:23:47.880 --> 0:23:49.440
<v Speaker 1>I knew I was going to have a lot of fun.

0:23:50.320 --> 0:23:54.680
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. Actually when I met Nick on the Red Carpet,

0:23:54.880 --> 0:23:58.520
<v Speaker 1>that was the first time I thought, when I realized

0:23:58.520 --> 0:24:00.760
<v Speaker 1>how much we have in common and I cans and

0:24:00.800 --> 0:24:02.640
<v Speaker 1>were born in the same place, I thought, oh my god,

0:24:02.720 --> 0:24:05.959
<v Speaker 1>maybe I actually will meet someone on here. I didn't

0:24:06.040 --> 0:24:08.480
<v Speaker 1>really know going into that. All I knew was I

0:24:08.560 --> 0:24:10.000
<v Speaker 1>was going to have fun. I didn't know if I

0:24:10.000 --> 0:24:11.880
<v Speaker 1>thought I was going to meet the one. As soon

0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:14.560
<v Speaker 1>as I met him ten minutes in, I thought it's

0:24:14.560 --> 0:24:17.240
<v Speaker 1>gold be it. So you didn't really have any expectations

0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:20.000
<v Speaker 1>at all. You just kind of went in and winged it. Yeah,

0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:22.159
<v Speaker 1>pretty much, which I think that's a good way for you.

0:24:22.320 --> 0:24:24.680
<v Speaker 1>My life motto, risk it for the biscuit. Risk Yeah,

0:24:24.920 --> 0:24:28.240
<v Speaker 1>hair biscuits, and that's what you've got to do. So

0:24:29.000 --> 0:24:31.720
<v Speaker 1>that's what I did. Played it by ear, didn't plan anything.

0:24:31.760 --> 0:24:34.119
<v Speaker 1>A lot of people said, what's your game plan going in?

0:24:34.320 --> 0:24:35.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what do you mean?

0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:38.160
<v Speaker 3>Do people have a game plan? Yeah? No, they did

0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:38.800
<v Speaker 3>the same to me.

0:24:38.920 --> 0:24:42.359
<v Speaker 2>Actually, thinking back, they wanted they like something gimmicky on

0:24:42.400 --> 0:24:43.120
<v Speaker 2>the red carpet.

0:24:43.320 --> 0:24:44.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they want you to go in there and bring

0:24:44.840 --> 0:24:45.840
<v Speaker 3>a giar door.

0:24:46.520 --> 0:24:50.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I said something ridiculous about cobbloaf I can't even remember.

0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:54.800
<v Speaker 2>I just I blanked they originally they I'm Laura Cobblo

0:24:55.320 --> 0:24:59.119
<v Speaker 2>I pretty much what I said. It still surprises me

0:24:59.160 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 2>to this day that he chose me.

0:25:01.400 --> 0:25:02.000
<v Speaker 3>I was.

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:05.720
<v Speaker 2>They encouraged me to try and bring a piece of jewelry. Sure,

0:25:05.840 --> 0:25:08.160
<v Speaker 2>they wanted me to make something special for him, and

0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:09.639
<v Speaker 2>they wanted me to give it to him on the

0:25:09.640 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 2>red carpet. But for me, jewelry is something that's such

0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:15.679
<v Speaker 2>a personal gift. And I didn't know him at all,

0:25:15.720 --> 0:25:17.560
<v Speaker 2>and I also didn't know even if he would wear

0:25:17.600 --> 0:25:18.120
<v Speaker 2>a ring.

0:25:18.119 --> 0:25:18.760
<v Speaker 3>Or wear a car.

0:25:20.240 --> 0:25:24.040
<v Speaker 2>So I really pushed back on that, and then they said,

0:25:24.359 --> 0:25:27.280
<v Speaker 2>you need to do something, like you have to stand out.

0:25:27.480 --> 0:25:29.520
<v Speaker 2>And so I had told the producers that I was

0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:31.399
<v Speaker 2>going to walk down the red carpet.

0:25:31.400 --> 0:25:32.840
<v Speaker 3>I was going to pick a little flower, and I

0:25:32.880 --> 0:25:33.680
<v Speaker 3>was going to be like.

0:25:33.600 --> 0:25:35.560
<v Speaker 2>Hey, I didn't want to show up empty handed and

0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:38.520
<v Speaker 2>give him this flower. And as I'm sitting in the

0:25:38.520 --> 0:25:41.280
<v Speaker 2>limo about to get out, the producer asked me, like,

0:25:41.320 --> 0:25:42.760
<v Speaker 2>what was I going to do? And I told her

0:25:42.800 --> 0:25:45.840
<v Speaker 2>my plan. She said, oh, you can't do that. Someone

0:25:45.840 --> 0:25:47.840
<v Speaker 2>did that on another season. Oh I had that, and

0:25:47.920 --> 0:25:50.160
<v Speaker 2>I had no idea, And so here I am three

0:25:50.200 --> 0:25:51.640
<v Speaker 2>seconds before.

0:25:51.320 --> 0:25:52.280
<v Speaker 3>Getting out of the car.

0:25:52.680 --> 0:25:55.920
<v Speaker 2>I had my lines little planned and so then they're like, okay,

0:25:55.920 --> 0:25:56.840
<v Speaker 2>get out of the car now.

0:25:56.960 --> 0:25:58.480
<v Speaker 3>So I jumped out of the car and I walked

0:25:58.560 --> 0:25:58.720
<v Speaker 3>up to.

0:25:58.720 --> 0:26:00.920
<v Speaker 2>Him and I was like, hey, hey, I didn't want

0:26:00.920 --> 0:26:02.080
<v Speaker 2>to show up empty handed.

0:26:02.400 --> 0:26:03.840
<v Speaker 3>Maybe I should have brought a cobblo.

0:26:04.240 --> 0:26:06.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I feel like I need to go

0:26:06.760 --> 0:26:07.320
<v Speaker 1>and watch.

0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:08.680
<v Speaker 3>That back creaking idiot.

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:12.600
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I still and I looked like I was on

0:26:12.720 --> 0:26:15.840
<v Speaker 2>crack because I was so high on adrenaline, Like I

0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:18.719
<v Speaker 2>was jacked on adrenaline that my eyes are pretty much

0:26:18.720 --> 0:26:20.639
<v Speaker 2>popping out of my head so look, you know what,

0:26:20.760 --> 0:26:23.880
<v Speaker 2>we got past the first encounter and things got better

0:26:23.920 --> 0:26:24.280
<v Speaker 2>from there.

0:26:24.359 --> 0:26:26.720
<v Speaker 1>Well obviously because any day now there's baby coming.

0:26:27.040 --> 0:26:30.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's all happening, It really really is.

0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:30.800
<v Speaker 3>No.

0:26:30.960 --> 0:26:36.159
<v Speaker 1>I actually I actually took him fortune cookies yep. And

0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:38.600
<v Speaker 1>in each fortune cookie was a different color, and in

0:26:38.680 --> 0:26:42.680
<v Speaker 1>each fortune colored fortune cookie was a different fortune. Obviously

0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:46.160
<v Speaker 1>my favorite color had the best fortune. And I did

0:26:46.200 --> 0:26:48.959
<v Speaker 1>this because didn't show this, Okay, so they didn't, But

0:26:49.000 --> 0:26:51.360
<v Speaker 1>what they showed was me with all these little boxes

0:26:51.760 --> 0:26:54.080
<v Speaker 1>holding them, and I got so many questions after saying

0:26:54.160 --> 0:26:56.879
<v Speaker 1>what was in the box, So if anyone wants to know,

0:26:57.040 --> 0:26:57.679
<v Speaker 1>that's what it was.

0:26:57.720 --> 0:26:59.760
<v Speaker 3>And for some reason they cut that out. Did you

0:26:59.800 --> 0:27:02.880
<v Speaker 3>try and tell him that his fortune would be with you? Essentially?

0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:04.960
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I see someone named Brittany.

0:27:05.040 --> 0:27:08.440
<v Speaker 2>No, I did not, and these are your lucky numbers, but.

0:27:09.640 --> 0:27:13.440
<v Speaker 1>You know, full transparency. He actually did pick my favorite fortune,

0:27:13.640 --> 0:27:16.240
<v Speaker 1>my favorite color, and my favorite fortune, but that didn't

0:27:16.240 --> 0:27:17.199
<v Speaker 1>really work out well for me.

0:27:17.760 --> 0:27:22.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, actually, just remembering back on your series, britt because

0:27:22.640 --> 0:27:25.280
<v Speaker 2>I really did watch it all, I remember that finale

0:27:25.359 --> 0:27:29.240
<v Speaker 2>episode and I remember Nick when he said to you,

0:27:29.320 --> 0:27:32.280
<v Speaker 2>and he also said to Sophie very famously that he

0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:33.840
<v Speaker 2>wasn't going to choose either of you.

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:36.280
<v Speaker 3>I remember you just seeming so.

0:27:37.359 --> 0:27:41.840
<v Speaker 2>Calm, so like unaffected by it, and I know that

0:27:41.880 --> 0:27:46.080
<v Speaker 2>probably that was a defense mechanism, but yeah, why didn't

0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:48.600
<v Speaker 2>you kind of try and ask him some more questions?

0:27:48.680 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 3>Or why didn't you.

0:27:50.040 --> 0:27:53.639
<v Speaker 2>You react in a bit more of a way that

0:27:53.920 --> 0:27:55.439
<v Speaker 2>I think I would have been throwing things out, like.

0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:58.800
<v Speaker 3>Maybe more emotional. Yeah, so I got this.

0:27:58.840 --> 0:28:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Question a lot on the medium trail after for those

0:28:02.040 --> 0:28:06.760
<v Speaker 1>that haven't seen it. Essentially, Nick sort of let Sophie

0:28:06.840 --> 0:28:08.560
<v Speaker 1>go and let her think that it was me, and

0:28:08.600 --> 0:28:12.159
<v Speaker 1>then when my time came, he gave me a very

0:28:12.160 --> 0:28:14.520
<v Speaker 1>big speech and let me down. You know, so your

0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:17.600
<v Speaker 1>heart breaks in that moment. But I didn't cry. I

0:28:17.600 --> 0:28:20.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't ask any questions, and I just said is that all?

0:28:21.440 --> 0:28:24.359
<v Speaker 1>And then said good luck and walked away. And I

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:26.200
<v Speaker 1>think their producer told me I was the first person

0:28:26.200 --> 0:28:29.520
<v Speaker 1>ever on the Bachelort to not cry once. But I

0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:32.480
<v Speaker 1>just want to make this clear. In private, I was

0:28:32.520 --> 0:28:36.000
<v Speaker 1>a mess. I just thought in that time, my internal

0:28:36.040 --> 0:28:39.600
<v Speaker 1>monologue was, Okay, this guy has just said on national

0:28:39.600 --> 0:28:42.120
<v Speaker 1>television that you are not enough, that he doesn't want you,

0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:48.160
<v Speaker 1>so to me, the reason why was irrelevant for me personally,

0:28:48.200 --> 0:28:50.760
<v Speaker 1>it didn't matter to me because he said, no, it's

0:28:50.920 --> 0:28:53.080
<v Speaker 1>you're not enough and it's not you. So I thought, cool,

0:28:54.040 --> 0:28:56.160
<v Speaker 1>get out of here right now, deal with that later.

0:28:56.440 --> 0:28:59.600
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever since that point felt like you wanted closure?

0:28:59.640 --> 0:29:02.920
<v Speaker 1>Because some some times, I mean, I know that your

0:29:03.000 --> 0:29:06.000
<v Speaker 1>first reaction to something not your specifically, but someone's first

0:29:06.080 --> 0:29:09.239
<v Speaker 1>reaction to something isn't always then how they feel like.

0:29:09.320 --> 0:29:11.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm very much a person where where.

0:29:12.120 --> 0:29:14.840
<v Speaker 2>I if somebody hurts my feelings, I'm like, I'm fine,

0:29:15.000 --> 0:29:17.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't care. And then when I've had time to

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:18.040
<v Speaker 2>think about it, I'm like.

0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:19.240
<v Speaker 3>Ohk oh.

0:29:19.280 --> 0:29:22.200
<v Speaker 1>And I cared so much, and deep down later on

0:29:22.560 --> 0:29:24.760
<v Speaker 1>I thought maybe you should have asked him why more,

0:29:25.640 --> 0:29:29.480
<v Speaker 1>only because I didn't understand it. We got along so

0:29:29.600 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 1>well and we had so much in common, we had

0:29:31.120 --> 0:29:35.640
<v Speaker 1>the greatest time. I couldn't understand how that connection wasn't

0:29:35.640 --> 0:29:39.040
<v Speaker 1>there for him to want to explore. Still didn't really

0:29:39.080 --> 0:29:41.880
<v Speaker 1>want to beg him or ask why, you know, Oh,

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:43.720
<v Speaker 1>surface level, I just thought it's a no.

0:29:43.760 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm out.

0:29:44.720 --> 0:29:48.560
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, we did speak later on, and he I

0:29:48.600 --> 0:29:51.560
<v Speaker 1>hold nothing against Nick at all, he's a great guy.

0:29:51.680 --> 0:29:57.920
<v Speaker 1>He just the wrong time, wrong situation. But things could

0:29:57.920 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 1>have been handled differently, for sure. But it's happened now,

0:30:02.120 --> 0:30:05.000
<v Speaker 1>and I think for a lot of women have since

0:30:05.240 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 1>reached out to me, and I think that's part of

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:09.160
<v Speaker 1>the reason we started this podcast, so we could voice

0:30:09.600 --> 0:30:12.080
<v Speaker 1>these thoughts and opinions to women everywhere, because there are

0:30:12.080 --> 0:30:14.200
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people that I mean not necessarily been

0:30:14.200 --> 0:30:16.240
<v Speaker 1>in the same situation, obviously in the Bachelor, but the

0:30:16.240 --> 0:30:19.640
<v Speaker 1>same situation where they're sold on something and their heart's

0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:21.560
<v Speaker 1>really in it and someone has just said to them,

0:30:21.880 --> 0:30:23.480
<v Speaker 1>I can't really give you a reason, but it's not you.

0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:26.960
<v Speaker 1>And to all those women, I just want to say

0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:30.480
<v Speaker 1>that that's not personal, and that's nothing against you as

0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:32.040
<v Speaker 1>a human or anything that you have done.

0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:34.720
<v Speaker 2>It's hard to take things not personally though, of course

0:30:34.760 --> 0:30:36.000
<v Speaker 2>when it's happening at the time.

0:30:36.760 --> 0:30:38.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, especially when you're invested in you're in love.

0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:39.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:30:39.800 --> 0:30:41.560
<v Speaker 1>And that was definitely a hard moment for me, and

0:30:41.600 --> 0:30:44.040
<v Speaker 1>it might not have come across because I'm such a strong,

0:30:44.560 --> 0:30:49.560
<v Speaker 1>independent woman that I had my breakdown in private, and

0:30:49.600 --> 0:30:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to make anyone. I didn't want to

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:52.720
<v Speaker 1>put anyone out and make them feel sorry for me

0:30:53.120 --> 0:30:56.000
<v Speaker 1>when really walking away from him was it.

0:30:55.880 --> 0:30:57.320
<v Speaker 3>Was so hard to not even look back.

0:30:57.400 --> 0:31:00.560
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I think that that's also one of the

0:31:00.640 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 2>challenges with being an independent woman is that as a female,

0:31:06.200 --> 0:31:09.000
<v Speaker 2>if you put up these walls and say I'm fine,

0:31:09.160 --> 0:31:12.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't need help, I'm you know, I'm strong, people

0:31:12.880 --> 0:31:15.280
<v Speaker 2>can sometimes see that as being cold, and they can

0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:18.280
<v Speaker 2>sometimes see that as not needing help. And I think

0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:22.800
<v Speaker 2>it's often forgotten that some of the most independent, seemingly

0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:26.360
<v Speaker 2>independent people, they just struggle through things on their own.

0:31:26.600 --> 0:31:28.560
<v Speaker 2>They still need help, but they might not ask.

0:31:28.680 --> 0:31:30.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and you know, I think that as well.

0:31:30.920 --> 0:31:34.959
<v Speaker 2>Like I've learned a lot from doing reality TV, and

0:31:35.040 --> 0:31:36.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't I have zero regrets. I mean, I have

0:31:36.880 --> 0:31:39.960
<v Speaker 2>a wonderful partner out of it, and a life that

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:42.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm really really happy with that I never would have

0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:45.320
<v Speaker 2>had had I continued on the trajectory I was on.

0:31:47.280 --> 0:31:50.200
<v Speaker 2>But I learned that there really is power in vulnerability,

0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:53.000
<v Speaker 2>and there really is power in allowing people to know

0:31:53.080 --> 0:31:56.880
<v Speaker 2>when you're not okay, because people innately want to help you,

0:31:56.920 --> 0:31:58.760
<v Speaker 2>and they want to take care of you, and they

0:31:58.840 --> 0:32:02.040
<v Speaker 2>want to I brought you through difficult times, but if

0:32:02.080 --> 0:32:04.560
<v Speaker 2>you seem like you don't need support, or you seem

0:32:04.600 --> 0:32:06.760
<v Speaker 2>like you're totally fine on your own, girl, you got this,

0:32:07.440 --> 0:32:09.280
<v Speaker 2>then people don't come to your aid and you do

0:32:09.320 --> 0:32:10.520
<v Speaker 2>get left on your own quite a bit.

0:32:10.640 --> 0:32:12.760
<v Speaker 3>And I will now probably the first time I've actually

0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:13.800
<v Speaker 3>said it, so why not say it.

0:32:13.840 --> 0:32:16.240
<v Speaker 1>On a national podcast. But I will put my hand

0:32:16.280 --> 0:32:18.720
<v Speaker 1>up and say I am that person. I will never

0:32:18.800 --> 0:32:22.040
<v Speaker 1>let friends or loved ones or public know that I'm

0:32:22.080 --> 0:32:24.959
<v Speaker 1>having a hard time or I need help because I

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:27.080
<v Speaker 1>want to be the pillar of strength for them. Yeah,

0:32:27.120 --> 0:32:29.640
<v Speaker 1>but God, sometimes I need it, which is why we're

0:32:29.640 --> 0:32:32.160
<v Speaker 1>here now, because you reached out to me, and I thought,

0:32:32.920 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 1>this is a stranger, but I'm going to just go

0:32:34.960 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 1>and dump all my problems on her. But so like

0:32:40.680 --> 0:32:44.360
<v Speaker 1>nothing about me and my heartache. You had the happy

0:32:44.400 --> 0:32:48.720
<v Speaker 1>ever after. Any I think right now you're literally about

0:32:48.720 --> 0:32:50.560
<v Speaker 1>to pop. You're in the prime of your life. You

0:32:50.680 --> 0:32:53.960
<v Speaker 1>just got engaged, you're running a successful business. On me, actually,

0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:56.720
<v Speaker 1>you just have this amazing life. You've got it together,

0:32:57.080 --> 0:32:58.880
<v Speaker 1>britt you make it sound so flash.

0:32:58.960 --> 0:33:01.680
<v Speaker 2>I also have really had a heartburn right now and

0:33:01.720 --> 0:33:04.400
<v Speaker 2>I need to pee, but I'm holding on because we've

0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:08.360
<v Speaker 2>still got some time left for this podcast. I'm I'm

0:33:08.440 --> 0:33:11.680
<v Speaker 2>really really grateful and incredibly lucky for the part where

0:33:11.760 --> 0:33:13.560
<v Speaker 2>the point in my life where I'm at, And had

0:33:13.600 --> 0:33:15.760
<v Speaker 2>you told me two years ago that I would be here,

0:33:16.520 --> 0:33:18.520
<v Speaker 2>there's no way in hell I would have thought that

0:33:18.520 --> 0:33:22.680
<v Speaker 2>that would be the case. I came out of two

0:33:22.760 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 2>back to back really bad relationships. I would say one

0:33:27.640 --> 0:33:31.479
<v Speaker 2>of them. Look, I'm not a psychiatrist, so I'm not

0:33:31.520 --> 0:33:32.880
<v Speaker 2>going to call him a narcissist, but.

0:33:32.840 --> 0:33:33.240
<v Speaker 3>I thank you.

0:33:34.480 --> 0:33:38.440
<v Speaker 2>I know, look, I think I think we just met

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:39.720
<v Speaker 2>at it at a really difficult time.

0:33:39.760 --> 0:33:39.960
<v Speaker 3>It was.

0:33:39.960 --> 0:33:42.240
<v Speaker 2>It was a two years, two years of my life

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:44.760
<v Speaker 2>where I was pushing a relationship up the hill and

0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:48.920
<v Speaker 2>I was really being lied to, and and it was

0:33:49.000 --> 0:33:50.880
<v Speaker 2>just there was a lot of manipulation going on in

0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:53.280
<v Speaker 2>this relationship, but I wanted it to work, and I

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:58.479
<v Speaker 2>was so blindly accepting, and I had such deeply flawed

0:33:58.520 --> 0:34:01.560
<v Speaker 2>boundaries on what was acceptable and not accepted in a

0:34:01.560 --> 0:34:04.960
<v Speaker 2>relationship that I really just let him get away with

0:34:05.040 --> 0:34:07.560
<v Speaker 2>so many things. I was cheated on, I was lied to,

0:34:08.400 --> 0:34:12.120
<v Speaker 2>and then I went from that relationship into another one,

0:34:12.440 --> 0:34:15.600
<v Speaker 2>which was you know, he was a good guy, but

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:18.279
<v Speaker 2>he also had a lot of his own issues, and

0:34:19.440 --> 0:34:21.239
<v Speaker 2>it just I just felt like I was on ground

0:34:21.280 --> 0:34:23.319
<v Speaker 2>whole day and I was dating the same type of

0:34:23.360 --> 0:34:24.520
<v Speaker 2>person over and over and over.

0:34:24.680 --> 0:34:26.600
<v Speaker 1>So you would say you were sort of just in

0:34:26.600 --> 0:34:29.520
<v Speaker 1>this negative pattern, like did deep down did you know

0:34:29.600 --> 0:34:31.319
<v Speaker 1>that these people were wrong and you kept doing it?

0:34:31.400 --> 0:34:33.359
<v Speaker 1>Or what was your reasoning for going from this bad

0:34:33.360 --> 0:34:34.600
<v Speaker 1>relationship to bad relationship.

0:34:34.680 --> 0:34:37.560
<v Speaker 2>I was in a cyclical die a dating cycle, and

0:34:37.640 --> 0:34:41.560
<v Speaker 2>so I was dating the same type of person on repeat,

0:34:41.840 --> 0:34:44.520
<v Speaker 2>and I was having the exact same outcome on repeat,

0:34:44.520 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 2>but I was just projecting it onto each different relationship.

0:34:47.640 --> 0:34:50.080
<v Speaker 3>So when I met oh, sorry, hey, I was just

0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 3>going to say, do you think that that is a

0:34:51.480 --> 0:34:55.359
<v Speaker 3>reflection looking back now of how you were feeling at

0:34:55.400 --> 0:34:57.759
<v Speaker 3>the time. Did you feel like you had no confidence

0:34:57.880 --> 0:35:00.319
<v Speaker 3>or that you weren't deserving or do you you know

0:35:00.320 --> 0:35:03.120
<v Speaker 3>why you would do No? I think I was deserving.

0:35:03.239 --> 0:35:07.400
<v Speaker 2>I think these I mean, they were very exciting relationships

0:35:07.400 --> 0:35:10.080
<v Speaker 2>at the start, and there was a lot of I'm

0:35:10.120 --> 0:35:11.880
<v Speaker 2>sure that we were all familiar with the terms of

0:35:11.920 --> 0:35:15.080
<v Speaker 2>like love bombing, and I was made to feel so

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:18.799
<v Speaker 2>special and so incredibly valued at the start of the relationship,

0:35:18.840 --> 0:35:22.279
<v Speaker 2>but to a point where it was very unsustainable. And

0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:25.640
<v Speaker 2>then I met Matt, And to be perfectly honest, Matt

0:35:25.680 --> 0:35:28.440
<v Speaker 2>probably wasn't the type of guy. Had I met him

0:35:28.440 --> 0:35:31.040
<v Speaker 2>in the real world and not in the Bachelor at Mansion,

0:35:31.560 --> 0:35:35.600
<v Speaker 2>we probably wouldn't be together. The reason for that would

0:35:35.600 --> 0:35:39.280
<v Speaker 2>be because he is so nice. He's such a kind,

0:35:40.239 --> 0:35:42.440
<v Speaker 2>sweet person. I mean, he's still got a bit of

0:35:42.440 --> 0:35:44.560
<v Speaker 2>grit to him. He can definitely be sarcastic and he

0:35:44.600 --> 0:35:46.080
<v Speaker 2>definitely has that humor to him.

0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:48.280
<v Speaker 3>But he would have been too kind away. I would

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:50.600
<v Speaker 3>have Yeah, I would have whooped his up. In the

0:35:50.640 --> 0:35:53.919
<v Speaker 3>real world, I would have owned him. No, I think.

0:35:54.000 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 2>I think in the real world I just would have

0:35:55.640 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 2>thought he was too nice and it wasn't a challenge

0:35:59.120 --> 0:36:02.480
<v Speaker 2>there for me. And what I've come to realize through having,

0:36:02.560 --> 0:36:07.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, two very happy years, is that relationships you

0:36:07.120 --> 0:36:09.200
<v Speaker 2>don't want them to be a challenge. Oh my god,

0:36:09.239 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 2>you don't need to work at it every day. And

0:36:11.600 --> 0:36:15.239
<v Speaker 2>I know that sometimes there's this great romanticism about like

0:36:15.640 --> 0:36:17.920
<v Speaker 2>you fight for the one you love, and you know,

0:36:18.040 --> 0:36:21.800
<v Speaker 2>like like big relationships are worth the heart They're really

0:36:21.840 --> 0:36:25.320
<v Speaker 2>not worth the heartbreak, just they're not easy. You should

0:36:25.320 --> 0:36:29.600
<v Speaker 2>be hanging out with your best friend, laughing, really enjoying

0:36:29.600 --> 0:36:32.520
<v Speaker 2>yourself and having time with them that brings you happiness

0:36:32.560 --> 0:36:34.920
<v Speaker 2>and joy. Someone who makes you cry all the time

0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:37.319
<v Speaker 2>is not someone who's supposed to be in a relationship with.

0:36:37.520 --> 0:36:39.920
<v Speaker 1>No And I've heard a lot of your conversations with Matt,

0:36:39.960 --> 0:36:42.920
<v Speaker 1>and I've even read some of your thirty five texts

0:36:42.920 --> 0:36:44.040
<v Speaker 1>to each other a day.

0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:47.480
<v Speaker 3>And they are actually really funny. Why are you going

0:36:47.480 --> 0:36:48.439
<v Speaker 3>through my phone again?

0:36:48.760 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 4>God?

0:36:49.719 --> 0:36:51.720
<v Speaker 1>But my point is you guys laugh all the time,

0:36:51.800 --> 0:36:54.399
<v Speaker 1>and I think that for me, that is what I'm

0:36:54.400 --> 0:36:56.040
<v Speaker 1>looking for. And I think that's the key to any

0:36:56.040 --> 0:36:59.000
<v Speaker 1>healthy relationship is don't take life too seriously and just.

0:36:59.000 --> 0:37:00.880
<v Speaker 3>Have somebody that you can laugh with.

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:04.120
<v Speaker 2>Well, then you think about it like you're the start

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:06.520
<v Speaker 2>of your relationship. Shouldn't be the part that's the hardest,

0:37:07.000 --> 0:37:09.680
<v Speaker 2>That shouldn't be what it shouldn't be overcoming all these

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:12.839
<v Speaker 2>hurdles at the beginning. You should really slot into each

0:37:12.840 --> 0:37:15.319
<v Speaker 2>other's lives, make each other happy. You should be working

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:18.600
<v Speaker 2>towards common goals. Because, by God, when you are pregnant

0:37:18.640 --> 0:37:20.200
<v Speaker 2>and fat and everything.

0:37:19.880 --> 0:37:21.120
<v Speaker 3>Hurts, things get harder.

0:37:21.440 --> 0:37:23.439
<v Speaker 2>But also, you know, when you have kids and you

0:37:23.880 --> 0:37:27.560
<v Speaker 2>have money, issues and life really, you know, throws challenging

0:37:27.600 --> 0:37:29.440
<v Speaker 2>things at you the longer that you are together in

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:30.239
<v Speaker 2>a relationship.

0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:33.360
<v Speaker 3>So if you're already on rocky territory just trying.

0:37:33.120 --> 0:37:36.960
<v Speaker 2>To be with no other together sources, trying to be together,

0:37:37.400 --> 0:37:40.600
<v Speaker 2>that's not your relationship. And I think that sometimes when

0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:42.920
<v Speaker 2>you're in it, it can be really well, it is

0:37:43.120 --> 0:37:46.239
<v Speaker 2>really really difficult to walk away from something, especially someone

0:37:46.280 --> 0:37:48.880
<v Speaker 2>who you love, but sometimes you need to to be

0:37:48.920 --> 0:37:51.359
<v Speaker 2>able to open up time and space for something else

0:37:51.360 --> 0:37:52.040
<v Speaker 2>to fall in place.

0:37:52.719 --> 0:37:55.759
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I do believe that what personally, I think

0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:58.400
<v Speaker 1>that there's more than one person in this whole universe

0:37:58.600 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 1>for us.

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:01.160
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, thats crap. Sorry.

0:38:01.280 --> 0:38:04.759
<v Speaker 1>So I think a lot of people think if they

0:38:04.800 --> 0:38:06.839
<v Speaker 1>leave now, they'll never meet anyone else again, and they'll

0:38:07.320 --> 0:38:11.520
<v Speaker 1>especially women. Women have this this idea that being alone

0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:14.320
<v Speaker 1>is a failure, being single at thirty is a failure.

0:38:15.080 --> 0:38:18.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, disagree. More So, I don't know if BRIT's

0:38:18.440 --> 0:38:20.360
<v Speaker 1>gonna let me bringing this one up, and I'm bringing

0:38:20.400 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 1>it up anyway.

0:38:22.000 --> 0:38:27.160
<v Speaker 2>Yesterday Brittany showed me a Instagram story that one of

0:38:27.200 --> 0:38:30.440
<v Speaker 2>her friends had posted, and I know, I don't know

0:38:30.480 --> 0:38:32.560
<v Speaker 2>this friend, so I'm sorry that I'm calling her out,

0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:36.120
<v Speaker 2>but I know that it came with the best of intentions.

0:38:36.480 --> 0:38:39.120
<v Speaker 2>Basically the insta story. Hold on, I'm going to point

0:38:39.160 --> 0:38:40.920
<v Speaker 2>it out. I'm going to pull it up on my phone.

0:38:40.920 --> 0:38:43.560
<v Speaker 2>Give me two seconds, so like a grandma tryna, we'll

0:38:43.600 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 2>just set the scene here.

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:46.880
<v Speaker 1>Laura and I were obviously this was only last night,

0:38:46.880 --> 0:38:49.239
<v Speaker 1>and we were talking about today recording what we're going

0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:49.880
<v Speaker 1>to talk about it.

0:38:50.000 --> 0:38:51.720
<v Speaker 3>Oh, here we go, give it to us. Okay.

0:38:51.840 --> 0:38:55.840
<v Speaker 2>So her girlfriend posted a photo of Brittany and herself

0:38:56.200 --> 0:39:01.520
<v Speaker 2>and the caption is this, guys, honestly, this girl is

0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:05.440
<v Speaker 2>still single. She's a catch, passionate, fun fit, tons of

0:39:05.480 --> 0:39:07.080
<v Speaker 2>amazing energy and devoted.

0:39:07.239 --> 0:39:09.359
<v Speaker 3>How is she not taken? I don't get it.

0:39:09.680 --> 0:39:12.839
<v Speaker 2>I have decided to now manage the shortlist of her potentials.

0:39:13.239 --> 0:39:14.560
<v Speaker 3>DM me or cvs.

0:39:14.640 --> 0:39:17.080
<v Speaker 2>If you're keen to meet an amazing woman, I'll set

0:39:17.120 --> 0:39:18.640
<v Speaker 2>it up at Brittany.

0:39:19.120 --> 0:39:22.280
<v Speaker 3>I am dying right now, rip me. I I am adad.

0:39:22.600 --> 0:39:27.640
<v Speaker 3>I read this and I was like, you can't do that.

0:39:27.880 --> 0:39:29.120
<v Speaker 3>I was dead for you.

0:39:29.280 --> 0:39:32.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I mean, look, I know that it comes with

0:39:32.719 --> 0:39:35.280
<v Speaker 2>the best of intentions, but why is being single such

0:39:35.400 --> 0:39:40.320
<v Speaker 2>a Why is it something that you should be not embarrassed.

0:39:40.320 --> 0:39:42.719
<v Speaker 2>But I don't think that that's what is being pointed out.

0:39:42.880 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 2>But why is it a floor?

0:39:44.560 --> 0:39:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I think, obviously this is a very good

0:39:47.040 --> 0:39:48.719
<v Speaker 1>friend of mine and I had been talking to her

0:39:48.760 --> 0:39:50.280
<v Speaker 1>only a few days earlier, and.

0:39:50.600 --> 0:39:53.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, very good friends. I don't mean to to

0:39:54.400 --> 0:39:56.160
<v Speaker 2>call out your bed. Maybe don't do that again.

0:39:56.440 --> 0:39:59.000
<v Speaker 1>I think, Look, it had really great intentions behind it,

0:39:59.040 --> 0:40:01.680
<v Speaker 1>and because she genuinely wants me to be happy and

0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:03.840
<v Speaker 1>meet somebody in course, and she doesn't. She says to me,

0:40:03.880 --> 0:40:05.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't get it. I just don't get it. And

0:40:05.360 --> 0:40:07.320
<v Speaker 1>she obviously I didn't know that that story was happy.

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:09.719
<v Speaker 2>I mean, your closet crazy. But apart from that, no

0:40:09.760 --> 0:40:11.879
<v Speaker 2>one knows that. Don't tell them no.

0:40:11.960 --> 0:40:14.200
<v Speaker 1>But it had good intentions and she just wanted to

0:40:14.200 --> 0:40:18.080
<v Speaker 1>put that out there. But also I couldn't stop laughing crying.

0:40:18.200 --> 0:40:19.759
<v Speaker 1>I was mortified, but I was happy. I didn't know

0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:22.239
<v Speaker 1>how to feel about it, because I know it was

0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:24.600
<v Speaker 1>a good thing. But then you put a different spin

0:40:24.640 --> 0:40:26.120
<v Speaker 1>on it. When I was talking to you about it,

0:40:26.960 --> 0:40:30.120
<v Speaker 1>I didn't have any negative energy towards that. I just

0:40:30.160 --> 0:40:31.520
<v Speaker 1>thought it was a bit funny, but also a bit

0:40:31.600 --> 0:40:35.280
<v Speaker 1>like sad for me. But you sort of thought, well,

0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:38.640
<v Speaker 1>hang on, is this her saying that it's it's not

0:40:38.719 --> 0:40:41.120
<v Speaker 1>cool to be thirty and single, or that you're desperately

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:43.920
<v Speaker 1>trying to find someone, or you had a different My.

0:40:44.000 --> 0:40:45.960
<v Speaker 2>Take on it was more so that I was like,

0:40:46.080 --> 0:40:49.319
<v Speaker 2>why why do you need someone to take it into

0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:52.840
<v Speaker 2>their hands? Like, I trust that you have the ability

0:40:53.040 --> 0:40:57.520
<v Speaker 2>and you are a smart enough, vivacious enough, charismatic enough

0:40:57.560 --> 0:40:59.160
<v Speaker 2>woman that when the time is right, you will meet

0:40:59.200 --> 0:41:02.040
<v Speaker 2>the right person. Yeah, And that I think by making

0:41:02.280 --> 0:41:05.799
<v Speaker 2>it seem like there's a flaw there or there's an urgency,

0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:08.719
<v Speaker 2>that it makes someone who's single and who's looking for

0:41:08.760 --> 0:41:11.399
<v Speaker 2>a relationship feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with them.

0:41:11.719 --> 0:41:13.799
<v Speaker 2>There's nothing fundamentally wrong with you at all. There's nothing

0:41:13.800 --> 0:41:17.799
<v Speaker 2>fundamentally wrong with anyone who's single. It's just when it

0:41:17.920 --> 0:41:20.920
<v Speaker 2>falls in place, it eventually falls in place for a

0:41:21.040 --> 0:41:21.680
<v Speaker 2>very long time.

0:41:21.760 --> 0:41:23.520
<v Speaker 3>So it's not something you need to rush.

0:41:23.640 --> 0:41:25.319
<v Speaker 1>No, And this is something that I would like to

0:41:25.440 --> 0:41:27.640
<v Speaker 1>change the way we look at things. I have had

0:41:27.680 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 1>so many women message me or slide into my dams

0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:33.800
<v Speaker 1>and just say how inspirational I am to them. That

0:41:33.920 --> 0:41:38.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm single, and when I first heard that I'm inspiration,

0:41:38.440 --> 0:41:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I was gobsback because I thought being single and thirty

0:41:41.560 --> 0:41:44.760
<v Speaker 1>is not inspirational. Buying a house at twenty is inspirational.

0:41:44.800 --> 0:41:47.719
<v Speaker 1>Traveling the world is inspirational. Tell me I'm inspirational for that.

0:41:48.120 --> 0:41:50.080
<v Speaker 1>But that's what they mean, though.

0:41:50.120 --> 0:41:52.160
<v Speaker 2>I think when you do get people, Yeah, I think

0:41:52.280 --> 0:41:55.480
<v Speaker 2>because you have accomplished so many different facets of life

0:41:55.800 --> 0:41:58.640
<v Speaker 2>and being single hasn't stopped you from doing that. I think,

0:41:59.040 --> 0:42:00.840
<v Speaker 2>you know, sometimes it is a bit daunting to do

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:03.440
<v Speaker 2>things on your own, and that was probably why I

0:42:03.600 --> 0:42:07.759
<v Speaker 2>was a constant relationship hop because I was, you know,

0:42:08.000 --> 0:42:10.120
<v Speaker 2>I found more purpose being able to travel with a

0:42:10.120 --> 0:42:13.799
<v Speaker 2>partner or being able to have someone to validate my decisions.

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:16.120
<v Speaker 2>And I found it difficult to make those big life

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:19.319
<v Speaker 2>decisions on my own, whereas you seem to have no

0:42:19.360 --> 0:42:23.040
<v Speaker 2>problem with that, and that is something that's aspirational and

0:42:23.040 --> 0:42:23.960
<v Speaker 2>that you shouldn't lose.

0:42:24.160 --> 0:42:24.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:42:24.400 --> 0:42:27.759
<v Speaker 1>I just want women to know that you don't need

0:42:27.760 --> 0:42:29.719
<v Speaker 1>a man to complete you. You need them to be

0:42:29.880 --> 0:42:32.319
<v Speaker 1>added and added bonus to your life. You need to

0:42:32.320 --> 0:42:34.279
<v Speaker 1>be whole on your own first, and then when they come,

0:42:34.320 --> 0:42:36.680
<v Speaker 1>they add to it. So I just hope anyone listening

0:42:36.680 --> 0:42:39.840
<v Speaker 1>out there. If you're single and you're thinking that you're

0:42:40.000 --> 0:42:42.359
<v Speaker 1>too old and your ovaries are drying up, please they

0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:44.799
<v Speaker 1>are not. You just keep doing everything that you love

0:42:44.960 --> 0:42:46.760
<v Speaker 1>and life will just fall into place.

0:42:47.320 --> 0:42:50.160
<v Speaker 2>So okay, then does that mean that you like? What

0:42:50.239 --> 0:42:51.239
<v Speaker 2>sort of dating are you're doing?

0:42:51.560 --> 0:42:51.600
<v Speaker 6>You?

0:42:52.080 --> 0:42:55.480
<v Speaker 2>Are you on online dating? Are you open to meeting friends?

0:42:55.520 --> 0:42:57.600
<v Speaker 2>Are we sourcing people through Instagram?

0:42:57.640 --> 0:42:57.799
<v Speaker 4>Now?

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:00.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, like this podcast was set up for Brittany.

0:43:00.560 --> 0:43:03.000
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. Should I put an ad out there now?

0:43:03.080 --> 0:43:04.400
<v Speaker 3>Please call two?

0:43:04.520 --> 0:43:04.640
<v Speaker 1>No?

0:43:04.719 --> 0:43:07.080
<v Speaker 3>That was actually gonna tell you my phone number. Please

0:43:07.120 --> 0:43:08.200
<v Speaker 3>don't call me. No.

0:43:08.280 --> 0:43:11.200
<v Speaker 1>Look, God, there's so much to the dating world that

0:43:11.200 --> 0:43:13.560
<v Speaker 1>we can discuss and I can't wait to delve into

0:43:13.600 --> 0:43:16.840
<v Speaker 1>that later dates. But yeah, I'm definitely dating. You have

0:43:16.960 --> 0:43:19.759
<v Speaker 1>to be in it to win it. But having said that,

0:43:19.920 --> 0:43:23.879
<v Speaker 1>I think life after the Bachelor has it's probably made

0:43:23.960 --> 0:43:26.080
<v Speaker 1>dating worse for me. To be honest, it's meant harder

0:43:26.120 --> 0:43:32.560
<v Speaker 1>to meet somebody. I don't exactly know why, but I've

0:43:32.560 --> 0:43:34.360
<v Speaker 1>been on online dating a little bit, but I have

0:43:34.400 --> 0:43:36.319
<v Speaker 1>a lot of fake profiles actually that people have sent

0:43:36.360 --> 0:43:37.680
<v Speaker 1>to me, So that has made it a little bit

0:43:37.680 --> 0:43:41.880
<v Speaker 1>hard of your profile. Yeah, people like pretending to be me.

0:43:42.160 --> 0:43:44.440
<v Speaker 2>I was listening to Tommy Little speak about this the

0:43:44.480 --> 0:43:46.640
<v Speaker 2>other day, and he was saying that he was on

0:43:47.200 --> 0:43:50.600
<v Speaker 2>Tinder because he really wants to meet someone and people

0:43:50.600 --> 0:43:53.880
<v Speaker 2>weren't taking him seriously because he's Tommy Little on Tinder.

0:43:55.000 --> 0:43:58.160
<v Speaker 2>Hi Tommy, Hi, So Tommy, if you're listening, Brittany is single.

0:43:59.480 --> 0:44:02.080
<v Speaker 3>No, but really I get that. I do think that that.

0:44:02.239 --> 0:44:04.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it would have an added complication to it

0:44:04.840 --> 0:44:06.480
<v Speaker 2>when you do have a bit of a profile or

0:44:06.760 --> 0:44:09.840
<v Speaker 2>but I guess as time kind of passes and as

0:44:10.480 --> 0:44:13.320
<v Speaker 2>your Bachelor's season fades, which it does.

0:44:13.160 --> 0:44:15.360
<v Speaker 3>Well, that'll become easier and easier.

0:44:15.600 --> 0:44:18.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and look, really I've met a few really great people,

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.400
<v Speaker 1>but also I've meant a few like excuse my language,

0:44:21.440 --> 0:44:23.200
<v Speaker 1>but there are some assholes out there.

0:44:23.520 --> 0:44:26.640
<v Speaker 2>I think that that, especially on online dating, but it

0:44:26.719 --> 0:44:30.920
<v Speaker 2>definitely breeds some interesting characters. And it also is a

0:44:31.160 --> 0:44:33.920
<v Speaker 2>is an environment where people obviously, as we all know,

0:44:33.960 --> 0:44:35.680
<v Speaker 2>are there for hookups as well, so you've got a

0:44:35.680 --> 0:44:39.360
<v Speaker 2>real mismatch of what people's expectations and wants us. So

0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:42.160
<v Speaker 2>I think that it's really important when you have your

0:44:42.160 --> 0:44:45.600
<v Speaker 2>first meeting with someone that you're really clear that you're

0:44:45.600 --> 0:44:47.239
<v Speaker 2>not in this for hookup, but you're not in this

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:51.840
<v Speaker 2>for you know, sex on the first night or Netflix

0:44:51.840 --> 0:44:54.000
<v Speaker 2>and trail you just but you know what I mean,

0:44:54.040 --> 0:44:55.919
<v Speaker 2>you like you want a relationship, and I think that

0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 2>that is It's okay. It's not premature to have that

0:44:59.000 --> 0:45:02.560
<v Speaker 2>conversation in the first because you're setting down your expectations

0:45:02.560 --> 0:45:03.440
<v Speaker 2>and your boundaries.

0:45:03.800 --> 0:45:05.439
<v Speaker 3>You met this person on a dating site.

0:45:05.440 --> 0:45:07.120
<v Speaker 2>It's not like you've just met them through friends and

0:45:07.120 --> 0:45:09.239
<v Speaker 2>you're like, Hi, I want a boyfriend, but on a

0:45:09.320 --> 0:45:11.600
<v Speaker 2>dating site. I think it's important when you go on

0:45:11.600 --> 0:45:14.200
<v Speaker 2>your first date that you then set down some boundary.

0:45:14.320 --> 0:45:16.759
<v Speaker 2>It's nice to meet you, this is what I'm looking for?

0:45:17.120 --> 0:45:20.240
<v Speaker 2>What are you looking for? Because don't waste your time?

0:45:20.440 --> 0:45:23.960
<v Speaker 1>And I think also now, to be fair, Instagram is

0:45:24.040 --> 0:45:25.400
<v Speaker 1>essentially a dating site.

0:45:25.840 --> 0:45:29.120
<v Speaker 3>Why what are you talking about.

0:45:29.440 --> 0:45:31.480
<v Speaker 1>The dm slidings because that's what it is.

0:45:31.520 --> 0:45:31.680
<v Speaker 3>Now.

0:45:31.719 --> 0:45:34.920
<v Speaker 1>What's the difference with swiping on Tinder and then messaging somebody.

0:45:35.239 --> 0:45:37.080
<v Speaker 1>Actually people see people on Tinder and then they go

0:45:37.120 --> 0:45:40.120
<v Speaker 1>and message them on their Instagram anyway, So I think

0:45:40.360 --> 0:45:43.000
<v Speaker 1>now in this day and age, Instagram's as much of

0:45:43.040 --> 0:45:47.040
<v Speaker 1>a dating site as Tinder or a hinge. There's one

0:45:47.040 --> 0:45:48.799
<v Speaker 1>called Hinge now, which you know I did go on

0:45:48.880 --> 0:45:49.800
<v Speaker 1>for all of four hours.

0:45:49.840 --> 0:45:52.560
<v Speaker 2>But I yeah, look, I mean I definitely dabbled in

0:45:52.600 --> 0:45:56.080
<v Speaker 2>the world of online dating. Dabbled is probably an understatement.

0:45:56.640 --> 0:45:59.280
<v Speaker 2>I was well into online dating for quite a while

0:45:59.360 --> 0:46:04.640
<v Speaker 2>before before meeting Matt, but I didn't look. I mean,

0:46:04.680 --> 0:46:07.080
<v Speaker 2>I had some long term relationships out of it, but

0:46:07.680 --> 0:46:12.839
<v Speaker 2>they were both my most difficult and my most flawed relationships.

0:46:12.880 --> 0:46:15.319
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know whether I really met anyone that

0:46:15.400 --> 0:46:16.720
<v Speaker 2>was even potential for dating.

0:46:17.320 --> 0:46:19.440
<v Speaker 3>True. Am I dating my sister Sherry.

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:21.920
<v Speaker 2>We were on this round the world trip together and

0:46:22.000 --> 0:46:25.120
<v Speaker 2>she actually met her now partner, which I think they'll

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:27.400
<v Speaker 2>probably get engaged this year, but Sherry blockiers.

0:46:28.960 --> 0:46:32.560
<v Speaker 1>But they met on Tinder in Scotland, So I just

0:46:32.560 --> 0:46:34.919
<v Speaker 1>think that's a great story and he's an amazing person.

0:46:34.920 --> 0:46:36.719
<v Speaker 3>They have an amazing relationship, and I know actually a

0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:39.160
<v Speaker 3>lot of people that have had success. Absolutely. I we

0:46:39.280 --> 0:46:41.439
<v Speaker 3>said that I have some horror stories that I could

0:46:41.480 --> 0:46:42.160
<v Speaker 3>share with you guys.

0:46:42.200 --> 0:46:43.800
<v Speaker 2>Well, I can't wait to get into the horror stories

0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:45.480
<v Speaker 2>later on, unless you want to share one of them

0:46:45.480 --> 0:46:45.799
<v Speaker 2>with us.

0:46:45.840 --> 0:46:49.120
<v Speaker 3>Now, Oh my God, No, that's a Tipic continued, Yeah,

0:46:49.200 --> 0:46:52.520
<v Speaker 3>let's not cover off everything on the first episode. No, no, no, no.

0:46:53.000 --> 0:46:56.919
<v Speaker 1>So I think before we wrap this up, I want

0:46:56.960 --> 0:46:58.920
<v Speaker 1>to know about you because this could be the last

0:46:58.920 --> 0:47:01.080
<v Speaker 1>time we speak to you when you have a baby

0:47:01.080 --> 0:47:02.520
<v Speaker 1>inside of you and not in the real world.

0:47:02.719 --> 0:47:05.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, look, this will be the last time. I'm hoping

0:47:05.640 --> 0:47:07.880
<v Speaker 2>that you had a contractions over there right now. Actually,

0:47:08.080 --> 0:47:10.600
<v Speaker 2>last night last night was really hard. So I've had

0:47:10.600 --> 0:47:14.080
<v Speaker 2>a really great pregnancy so far. I've really I've actually

0:47:14.080 --> 0:47:15.960
<v Speaker 2>really enjoyed it. I feel like one of those obnoxious

0:47:15.960 --> 0:47:16.880
<v Speaker 2>pregnant women who are like.

0:47:16.880 --> 0:47:20.880
<v Speaker 3>Pregnancy is great and anyone, I.

0:47:20.840 --> 0:47:24.880
<v Speaker 2>Don't know, it's Instagram filter's babe. But last night I

0:47:25.000 --> 0:47:28.840
<v Speaker 2>couldn't sleep and I was having some pretty hectic practice

0:47:28.920 --> 0:47:32.279
<v Speaker 2>contractions last night. So I was I was almost going

0:47:32.280 --> 0:47:33.920
<v Speaker 2>to message you this morning and say we might need

0:47:33.960 --> 0:47:35.560
<v Speaker 2>to reschedule and maybe giving birth.

0:47:35.680 --> 0:47:40.000
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I was waiting for that call to But yeah.

0:47:39.880 --> 0:47:43.279
<v Speaker 2>Look, life is going to change incredibly in a couple

0:47:43.320 --> 0:47:43.760
<v Speaker 2>of weeks.

0:47:43.880 --> 0:47:46.520
<v Speaker 1>And how instead of it changing there, how has it

0:47:46.600 --> 0:47:49.920
<v Speaker 1>changed from when you do just finished as a couple.

0:47:50.320 --> 0:47:52.920
<v Speaker 1>How is being pregnant changed your relationship is it something

0:47:52.960 --> 0:47:55.799
<v Speaker 1>you have found has put more pressures on or has

0:47:55.800 --> 0:47:56.239
<v Speaker 1>it made it?

0:47:56.280 --> 0:48:00.400
<v Speaker 2>Has it better and strengthened your relationship? Yeah, look, reationship

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:03.560
<v Speaker 2>has definitely changed. Obviously, we got engaged whilst we've been

0:48:03.760 --> 0:48:06.600
<v Speaker 2>I've been pregnant, which we congratulate.

0:48:06.040 --> 0:48:08.600
<v Speaker 3>A little bit, thank you, Yay.

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:13.040
<v Speaker 2>It's a little bit back to front, but we we

0:48:13.200 --> 0:48:15.920
<v Speaker 2>have always kind of danced to the beat of our

0:48:15.920 --> 0:48:19.680
<v Speaker 2>own drum mat night and and you know, us getting

0:48:19.680 --> 0:48:23.319
<v Speaker 2>pregnant at the start, it wasn't something that was it

0:48:23.360 --> 0:48:27.920
<v Speaker 2>was planned, but we I don't know if if people

0:48:27.960 --> 0:48:31.520
<v Speaker 2>have followed our journey at all prior to this, but

0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:35.560
<v Speaker 2>we we I was pregnant. We had a miscarriage that

0:48:35.719 --> 0:48:39.799
<v Speaker 2>was definitely a surprise. The miscarriage wasn't like we got

0:48:39.840 --> 0:48:41.839
<v Speaker 2>to the ten week mark. We were both really in

0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:44.640
<v Speaker 2>and really stoked and excited, and then we found out

0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:48.120
<v Speaker 2>at ten weeks that that that was not viable. But

0:48:48.200 --> 0:48:50.319
<v Speaker 2>that really changed our perception on when we wanted to

0:48:50.320 --> 0:48:52.200
<v Speaker 2>have kids and when we wanted to start a family.

0:48:52.440 --> 0:48:53.680
<v Speaker 3>And we went from being.

0:48:53.560 --> 0:48:55.520
<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, we'll have kids in two years to being like,

0:48:56.080 --> 0:49:01.480
<v Speaker 2>I'll screw it, let's see what happens. And within two months,

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:03.960
<v Speaker 2>not even a month, I was pregnant again. So I

0:49:04.000 --> 0:49:05.920
<v Speaker 2>was really lucky that I got pregnant very quickly a

0:49:05.920 --> 0:49:06.439
<v Speaker 2>second time.

0:49:06.520 --> 0:49:06.920
<v Speaker 3>Definitely.

0:49:07.160 --> 0:49:11.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And the pregnancy has been really great. It's changed

0:49:11.160 --> 0:49:15.640
<v Speaker 2>our relationship massively. It has made us really really close,

0:49:15.719 --> 0:49:19.000
<v Speaker 2>and it's made us really connected on what we want

0:49:19.000 --> 0:49:22.399
<v Speaker 2>and where we're heading. So it's, you know, I think

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:24.560
<v Speaker 2>we've moved from that like, oh, we're boyfriend and girlfriend

0:49:24.600 --> 0:49:29.319
<v Speaker 2>to very much we're starting a family. We're building something together.

0:49:29.120 --> 0:49:32.240
<v Speaker 3>Which is forever. Yeah, we want to buy a home.

0:49:32.239 --> 0:49:35.680
<v Speaker 2>We're investing in things that are that are ours, And

0:49:35.719 --> 0:49:37.880
<v Speaker 2>I think that you know, anyone who's gone through that

0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:40.719
<v Speaker 2>shift in their relationship, it's it's really brings you together

0:49:40.719 --> 0:49:42.920
<v Speaker 2>and it really is sort of solidifies that you're in

0:49:42.960 --> 0:49:45.600
<v Speaker 2>it for the long haul, which is a beautiful feeling.

0:49:47.080 --> 0:49:49.120
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I do think that having a child

0:49:49.160 --> 0:49:51.759
<v Speaker 2>together is more of a commitment than getting married, that's

0:49:51.800 --> 0:49:53.440
<v Speaker 2>for sure.

0:49:54.040 --> 0:49:54.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:57.359
<v Speaker 2>But you know, the funny thing is the hardest part

0:49:57.440 --> 0:50:02.400
<v Speaker 2>so far about this pregnancy has been so I know

0:50:02.480 --> 0:50:04.360
<v Speaker 2>that everyone sort of says, you know, people always have

0:50:04.440 --> 0:50:07.040
<v Speaker 2>their opinions, but I'm really happy with people giving me

0:50:07.080 --> 0:50:09.600
<v Speaker 2>their opinions because I don't I've never been a mom before.

0:50:09.640 --> 0:50:10.720
<v Speaker 3>I don't know what I'm doing.

0:50:10.960 --> 0:50:14.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm quite happy to take advice, but the one advice

0:50:14.160 --> 0:50:17.440
<v Speaker 2>that's really been upsetting me lately has been based around

0:50:17.840 --> 0:50:20.479
<v Speaker 2>how much work I'm still doing at the moment and

0:50:20.960 --> 0:50:23.400
<v Speaker 2>my going back to work after having the baby.

0:50:23.680 --> 0:50:25.239
<v Speaker 3>Because you do well, you.

0:50:25.280 --> 0:50:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Run your own business, very successful business, but you don't

0:50:27.760 --> 0:50:30.480
<v Speaker 1>really have that option or luxury I should say to

0:50:30.800 --> 0:50:32.040
<v Speaker 1>take six months or a year off.

0:50:32.160 --> 0:50:33.160
<v Speaker 3>No, well, that's just it.

0:50:33.280 --> 0:50:36.080
<v Speaker 2>So, I mean, I run my own business with my sister,

0:50:36.280 --> 0:50:39.600
<v Speaker 2>and it's impossible. When you run your own business and

0:50:39.640 --> 0:50:43.759
<v Speaker 2>you are the sole person that's responsible for quite a

0:50:43.760 --> 0:50:46.600
<v Speaker 2>big department of it, things.

0:50:46.360 --> 0:50:48.320
<v Speaker 3>Don't just stop. You know. I can't just give myself

0:50:48.360 --> 0:50:49.560
<v Speaker 3>six months maternity leave.

0:50:49.719 --> 0:50:53.600
<v Speaker 2>And that seems to be the thing that's upset a

0:50:53.640 --> 0:50:56.440
<v Speaker 2>lot of other young like so like early mums.

0:50:56.960 --> 0:50:57.680
<v Speaker 3>So my friends.

0:50:57.680 --> 0:50:59.560
<v Speaker 2>I've got some friends who have recently had kids, and

0:50:59.560 --> 0:51:01.760
<v Speaker 2>when i tell them that I'm not really taking maternity

0:51:01.800 --> 0:51:03.960
<v Speaker 2>leave and that I'll still be working from the laptop

0:51:04.000 --> 0:51:06.439
<v Speaker 2>from home and I'll try to juggle it as best

0:51:06.440 --> 0:51:09.839
<v Speaker 2>I can, they're almost bewildered. But to a point where

0:51:09.840 --> 0:51:12.200
<v Speaker 2>they're almost offended that I'm not taking time off to

0:51:12.280 --> 0:51:15.000
<v Speaker 2>spend more of it one on one with my child.

0:51:14.920 --> 0:51:18.439
<v Speaker 3>As if you're not like, I'm not aversion of yeah

0:51:18.440 --> 0:51:21.240
<v Speaker 3>a mother, and yeah, that's that's tough.

0:51:21.320 --> 0:51:23.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it feels very judgmental, and that's been the biggest

0:51:23.680 --> 0:51:25.960
<v Speaker 2>thing that I've had to overcome. But me, Matt and

0:51:26.000 --> 0:51:28.600
<v Speaker 2>I are really lucky in that Matt has a very

0:51:28.680 --> 0:51:30.919
<v Speaker 2>fluid job as well, and so he is at home

0:51:30.960 --> 0:51:33.799
<v Speaker 2>and he's very very hands on. He doesn't have a

0:51:33.840 --> 0:51:36.080
<v Speaker 2>nine to five job to go back to, so he

0:51:36.719 --> 0:51:38.160
<v Speaker 2>keeps saying he's going to be a stay at home.

0:51:38.120 --> 0:51:40.360
<v Speaker 3>Dad, but you know, should probably be great.

0:51:41.080 --> 0:51:43.799
<v Speaker 2>Essentially, we're going at this fifty to fifty and so

0:51:44.280 --> 0:51:46.560
<v Speaker 2>I feel incredibly blessed. I have his support and I

0:51:47.040 --> 0:51:49.480
<v Speaker 2>do have that flexibility to go back to work because

0:51:49.880 --> 0:51:52.120
<v Speaker 2>work gives me so much purpose and it's really important

0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:54.680
<v Speaker 2>to me. It's it's a huge part of my identity.

0:51:55.560 --> 0:51:57.279
<v Speaker 2>And as much as I'm looking forward to being a

0:51:57.320 --> 0:51:59.440
<v Speaker 2>mom and I want to be a mom, and I

0:51:59.480 --> 0:52:01.719
<v Speaker 2>still will be your mom, I will be and I'll

0:52:01.760 --> 0:52:03.520
<v Speaker 2>be a great mom. I'll be the best mum, this mom,

0:52:03.600 --> 0:52:06.840
<v Speaker 2>this mom, oh the best mom. This kid's gonna have baby.

0:52:07.200 --> 0:52:07.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:52:07.560 --> 0:52:11.560
<v Speaker 2>But I so that's been my most challenging thing so

0:52:11.680 --> 0:52:14.640
<v Speaker 2>far is really dealing with other people's expectations on what

0:52:14.680 --> 0:52:15.720
<v Speaker 2>my maternity.

0:52:15.360 --> 0:52:20.800
<v Speaker 3>Leave should look like and their criticism of that. Yeah. Yeah.

0:52:20.840 --> 0:52:24.919
<v Speaker 3>And I think women these days, we are having children later,

0:52:25.440 --> 0:52:27.239
<v Speaker 3>and we are becoming more independent, and we are taking

0:52:27.280 --> 0:52:30.640
<v Speaker 3>our children to work, and it's nice to change that

0:52:30.680 --> 0:52:33.680
<v Speaker 3>stigma and not have it a negative thought that, oh,

0:52:33.719 --> 0:52:35.319
<v Speaker 3>you have to go for six months and stay at

0:52:35.360 --> 0:52:37.520
<v Speaker 3>home in your house and never see the light of

0:52:37.600 --> 0:52:38.040
<v Speaker 3>day again.

0:52:38.360 --> 0:52:38.560
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:52:38.680 --> 0:52:42.880
<v Speaker 2>I actually went to this really interesting talk recently, the

0:52:43.000 --> 0:52:44.720
<v Speaker 2>CEO of Adore Beauty.

0:52:44.800 --> 0:52:46.440
<v Speaker 3>I cannot remember her name off top of my.

0:52:46.480 --> 0:52:50.799
<v Speaker 2>Head, but she spoke about being a CEO and being

0:52:50.800 --> 0:52:53.640
<v Speaker 2>a mum, and she talked about how she juggles it

0:52:53.680 --> 0:52:56.720
<v Speaker 2>by not but she only does jobs that add value

0:52:56.719 --> 0:52:59.000
<v Speaker 2>to her relationships or to her business. So for her,

0:52:59.080 --> 0:53:02.160
<v Speaker 2>she was like, you know, cleaning isn't something that adds

0:53:02.239 --> 0:53:04.600
<v Speaker 2>value to her time with her children, so she has

0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:08.200
<v Speaker 2>a cleaner. Obviously, she's lucky that she earns enough money

0:53:08.239 --> 0:53:10.640
<v Speaker 2>and has that potential that she can do that, but

0:53:10.880 --> 0:53:13.919
<v Speaker 2>you know, she has segregated her life in a way

0:53:13.920 --> 0:53:18.040
<v Speaker 2>where she's able to prioritize the things that add value

0:53:18.080 --> 0:53:21.160
<v Speaker 2>to her relationship and the things that don't. She delegates,

0:53:21.480 --> 0:53:23.839
<v Speaker 2>and I really want to try and implement that as

0:53:23.880 --> 0:53:24.439
<v Speaker 2>best I can.

0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:29.200
<v Speaker 6>Not a good delegator, I'm getting better at delegating, but

0:53:29.320 --> 0:53:31.520
<v Speaker 6>I can delegate the bits of my life that don't

0:53:31.520 --> 0:53:34.080
<v Speaker 6>add value to my relationship with Matt, or my relationship

0:53:34.080 --> 0:53:36.759
<v Speaker 6>with my children, or my relationship with my job.

0:53:37.200 --> 0:53:39.759
<v Speaker 2>So for me, I think that that's the best part

0:53:39.840 --> 0:53:41.800
<v Speaker 2>of it is that if I can get other people

0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:44.080
<v Speaker 2>to do the add hot bits and pieces that take

0:53:44.160 --> 0:53:44.640
<v Speaker 2>up a lot of.

0:53:44.560 --> 0:53:47.680
<v Speaker 3>Time, then essentially I'm still going to be a good mum.

0:53:47.680 --> 0:53:49.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm still going to be very present and be able

0:53:49.600 --> 0:53:52.320
<v Speaker 2>to be there for the sport, be there for the

0:53:52.400 --> 0:53:55.040
<v Speaker 2>nappy changes, be there for the cuddles. But I don't

0:53:55.120 --> 0:53:57.239
<v Speaker 2>have to be there necessarily for the cleaning or the

0:53:57.239 --> 0:54:01.120
<v Speaker 2>cooking or the other things that you know, become part of.

0:54:01.120 --> 0:54:01.839
<v Speaker 3>Day to day life.

0:54:02.000 --> 0:54:05.279
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, and I think that is not to give you

0:54:05.280 --> 0:54:07.000
<v Speaker 1>a big head or to your horn, but that's pretty

0:54:07.000 --> 0:54:11.080
<v Speaker 1>inspiration it No, it's inspirational what you're doing. You're working hard,

0:54:11.120 --> 0:54:13.520
<v Speaker 1>you're literally giving birth any day you're still working out.

0:54:13.920 --> 0:54:15.720
<v Speaker 1>You know you're going to go back and run your business,

0:54:15.800 --> 0:54:20.080
<v Speaker 1>and you have enough respect for your partner Matt to

0:54:20.120 --> 0:54:20.680
<v Speaker 1>be a stay.

0:54:20.520 --> 0:54:21.160
<v Speaker 3>At home dad.

0:54:21.239 --> 0:54:23.080
<v Speaker 1>And I think a lot of women worry about that, that, oh,

0:54:23.120 --> 0:54:24.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe the man is not going to really know what

0:54:25.040 --> 0:54:25.239
<v Speaker 1>to do.

0:54:25.280 --> 0:54:27.400
<v Speaker 2>It hard and that will be amazing. He won't be

0:54:27.400 --> 0:54:29.000
<v Speaker 2>a stay at home dad, and that he still has it.

0:54:29.080 --> 0:54:31.640
<v Speaker 2>He has a lot of lot to do, but that

0:54:31.719 --> 0:54:34.719
<v Speaker 2>he will be very hands on and Matt's always wanted

0:54:34.760 --> 0:54:37.200
<v Speaker 2>to be a dad and so he will thrive in

0:54:37.239 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 2>that environment. He's an amazing uncle. And and yeah he

0:54:41.239 --> 0:54:43.239
<v Speaker 2>I mean he's gotten more into the nesting than I have.

0:54:43.719 --> 0:54:46.439
<v Speaker 2>He's cute, done the whole house. I mean, I did

0:54:46.440 --> 0:54:50.200
<v Speaker 2>see the undies. He bought you the old bridge at Jones.

0:54:51.000 --> 0:54:53.439
<v Speaker 3>I think he likes him too. I reckon he does

0:54:53.480 --> 0:54:55.719
<v Speaker 3>as well. Mad. If you're listening, you need to get

0:54:55.719 --> 0:54:56.800
<v Speaker 3>a life.

0:54:57.960 --> 0:55:01.200
<v Speaker 7>No look, and I I feel I feel like we've

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:04.080
<v Speaker 7>covered a lot today and today just so everyone knows,

0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:07.920
<v Speaker 7>this will be a podcast about all things love, relationships, life,

0:55:08.120 --> 0:55:12.240
<v Speaker 7>last just a general reality TV and obviously reality TV.

0:55:12.080 --> 0:55:14.359
<v Speaker 3>Because Laura is the other half of this podcast. So well,

0:55:14.400 --> 0:55:15.719
<v Speaker 3>I was never going to slip that by her.

0:55:16.160 --> 0:55:18.760
<v Speaker 1>But we did sort of talk a lot today about

0:55:18.760 --> 0:55:21.920
<v Speaker 1>our bachelor experience and our dating history, because we do

0:55:21.960 --> 0:55:24.680
<v Speaker 1>want to set that up for everybody. But this will

0:55:24.719 --> 0:55:27.920
<v Speaker 1>not be a podcast about us and about just the Bachelor.

0:55:28.120 --> 0:55:30.520
<v Speaker 1>So I'm looking forward to the next few weeks. We've

0:55:30.520 --> 0:55:32.600
<v Speaker 1>got some really good topics we're going to be talking about,

0:55:32.640 --> 0:55:35.799
<v Speaker 1>and obviously Laura will be back with a baby, so

0:55:36.320 --> 0:55:38.919
<v Speaker 1>I'll be commenting on life as a mum. Hey, yeah,

0:55:38.960 --> 0:55:41.680
<v Speaker 1>I'll be talking about my horrific dates and you'll be like, well,

0:55:41.719 --> 0:55:43.000
<v Speaker 1>I got vomited on this morning.

0:55:43.320 --> 0:55:46.080
<v Speaker 3>It's still in my hair right now. Makes the great hairspray.

0:55:47.719 --> 0:55:49.359
<v Speaker 2>We said we were going to finish all of these

0:55:49.400 --> 0:55:52.439
<v Speaker 2>episodes with our suck and sweet for the week, which

0:55:52.480 --> 0:55:56.280
<v Speaker 2>is basically our highs and our lows. So come at me, babe,

0:55:56.280 --> 0:55:58.720
<v Speaker 2>what was your highs and your lows for this week? Okay,

0:55:58.760 --> 0:56:00.320
<v Speaker 2>So I think it's important we always start with a

0:56:00.400 --> 0:56:05.240
<v Speaker 2>suck first. You know, my suck this week was probably

0:56:05.280 --> 0:56:07.799
<v Speaker 2>to be honest, and this is, you know, not a

0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:10.120
<v Speaker 2>really big thing, but I have had no time this week.

0:56:10.160 --> 0:56:11.759
<v Speaker 2>I have been running around like a chicken with its

0:56:11.760 --> 0:56:12.040
<v Speaker 2>head cut.

0:56:12.080 --> 0:56:12.239
<v Speaker 3>Off.

0:56:12.239 --> 0:56:14.440
<v Speaker 1>I just got back from Byron Bay really late last night.

0:56:14.480 --> 0:56:16.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh it sounds so difficult. It was work. It was

0:56:16.560 --> 0:56:19.680
<v Speaker 3>working Byron. It's such a suck.

0:56:19.800 --> 0:56:21.759
<v Speaker 1>I told you this is going to sound bad, but

0:56:21.800 --> 0:56:23.680
<v Speaker 1>I just haven't even had time to scratch myself. And

0:56:23.880 --> 0:56:25.640
<v Speaker 1>that's not a bad thing, but it's the worst thing

0:56:25.640 --> 0:56:30.600
<v Speaker 1>that's happened to me this week. And my sweet was

0:56:30.840 --> 0:56:34.680
<v Speaker 1>probably I just signed on with Beautiful Minds, which is

0:56:34.680 --> 0:56:36.279
<v Speaker 1>the only government funded organization.

0:56:36.600 --> 0:56:39.359
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I love this. Tell me about this, Britay. Yeah.

0:56:39.400 --> 0:56:41.799
<v Speaker 1>Well, they're the only government funded organization that will go

0:56:41.880 --> 0:56:45.239
<v Speaker 1>around and speak to girls young boys as well. I'll

0:56:45.239 --> 0:56:47.400
<v Speaker 1>only be speaking to the girls age from you know,

0:56:47.440 --> 0:56:50.319
<v Speaker 1>eleven up to seventeen, and we go to schools, we

0:56:50.400 --> 0:56:55.040
<v Speaker 1>do workshops and we speak to them about just growing

0:56:55.120 --> 0:56:59.560
<v Speaker 1>up in today's society and body confidence and social media, bullying,

0:56:59.680 --> 0:57:05.000
<v Speaker 1>loving yourself. There'll be things about sexting, suicide, depression, everything.

0:57:05.160 --> 0:57:07.600
<v Speaker 1>So it's really important that we're getting these girls in

0:57:07.600 --> 0:57:10.760
<v Speaker 1>a really good headspace and setting them up for life

0:57:10.840 --> 0:57:11.720
<v Speaker 1>after school.

0:57:12.200 --> 0:57:13.719
<v Speaker 2>I love that you're doing this, and I love that

0:57:13.760 --> 0:57:17.320
<v Speaker 2>this is a conversation you're bringing into schools. But you

0:57:17.320 --> 0:57:19.760
<v Speaker 2>you haven't quite started this yet or it's very new.

0:57:19.800 --> 0:57:21.480
<v Speaker 3>I've just spoken, had my meetings with them, and I'm

0:57:21.560 --> 0:57:23.240
<v Speaker 3>just signing on. So it's amazing.

0:57:23.400 --> 0:57:28.600
<v Speaker 2>You've been an ambassador for anti bullying and I'm excited.

0:57:29.200 --> 0:57:32.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think it's great. But what about you? What's

0:57:32.160 --> 0:57:34.080
<v Speaker 3>what's your second sweet for the week.

0:57:34.880 --> 0:57:38.840
<v Speaker 2>Look, I'm pretty immobile at the moment, like, oh my

0:57:39.160 --> 0:57:43.400
<v Speaker 2>fucking sweet, Um, what sucked this week?

0:57:44.440 --> 0:57:44.760
<v Speaker 3>Okay?

0:57:45.080 --> 0:57:46.400
<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean you just got your coffee or to

0:57:46.400 --> 0:57:47.240
<v Speaker 1>mix up three times?

0:57:47.280 --> 0:57:49.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I'm going to complain so hard about

0:57:49.640 --> 0:57:52.040
<v Speaker 2>the cafe downstairs.

0:57:52.440 --> 0:57:54.000
<v Speaker 3>No I'm not. I'm not going to name and shame.

0:57:54.080 --> 0:57:54.920
<v Speaker 3>Could you imagine?

0:57:55.000 --> 0:57:57.880
<v Speaker 2>But they did take twenty five minutes to bring me

0:57:57.920 --> 0:58:00.240
<v Speaker 2>my coffee, which I ordered to take away, which is

0:58:00.240 --> 0:58:02.200
<v Speaker 2>a long time to wait for takeaway, and then it

0:58:02.200 --> 0:58:04.240
<v Speaker 2>came out as the wrong coffee, and then I had

0:58:04.280 --> 0:58:06.080
<v Speaker 2>to wait another fifteen minutes for the right coffee.

0:58:06.080 --> 0:58:07.040
<v Speaker 3>That's a long time to wait for it.

0:58:07.160 --> 0:58:08.480
<v Speaker 1>But then they brought it back in a mug. I

0:58:08.520 --> 0:58:10.320
<v Speaker 1>was supposed to be taway. It was the whole thing,

0:58:10.520 --> 0:58:12.120
<v Speaker 1>so that I don't even think that was my suck.

0:58:12.240 --> 0:58:14.720
<v Speaker 1>That was just a very unfortunately, very drawn out part

0:58:14.720 --> 0:58:17.800
<v Speaker 1>of my morning. I think my suck for this week

0:58:18.640 --> 0:58:19.440
<v Speaker 1>has been.

0:58:21.280 --> 0:58:26.920
<v Speaker 2>Like I'm I guess, the uncertainty around the pregnancy and

0:58:27.040 --> 0:58:29.600
<v Speaker 2>like the bur Yeah, a little bit of that, a

0:58:29.600 --> 0:58:32.880
<v Speaker 2>little bit of anxiety, a little bit of fear. I

0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:36.640
<v Speaker 2>think that comes into the whole headspace of pushing out

0:58:36.640 --> 0:58:39.440
<v Speaker 2>a small human out of a big human, out of

0:58:39.440 --> 0:58:40.200
<v Speaker 2>a small.

0:58:39.960 --> 0:58:42.560
<v Speaker 3>Hole and just trying to get my head around and

0:58:42.680 --> 0:58:45.480
<v Speaker 3>says that's well, apparently I'm not the first person to

0:58:45.480 --> 0:58:48.040
<v Speaker 3>do it. I'm the first time I'm doing it, so

0:58:48.240 --> 0:58:49.240
<v Speaker 3>it's a big deal for me.

0:58:49.400 --> 0:58:52.600
<v Speaker 2>You're aloe, So yeah, I think that that that I

0:58:52.400 --> 0:58:57.120
<v Speaker 2>have had a little bit of, Uh, I wouldn't say it.

0:58:57.120 --> 0:58:58.880
<v Speaker 2>It's not anxiety, but just a bit of concern. It's

0:58:58.880 --> 0:59:01.040
<v Speaker 2>been keeping me up a bit at night. Apprehension, Yeah,

0:59:01.120 --> 0:59:03.120
<v Speaker 2>and I think it's also the excitement of it as well.

0:59:03.480 --> 0:59:08.080
<v Speaker 2>My suite for this week Matt is home. He had

0:59:08.120 --> 0:59:12.320
<v Speaker 2>been traveling for quite a while. He's been recording and

0:59:12.440 --> 0:59:15.360
<v Speaker 2>filming an exciting project for himself. But he's been away

0:59:15.400 --> 0:59:17.600
<v Speaker 2>for three and a half weeks, which was really difficult

0:59:17.680 --> 0:59:19.760
<v Speaker 2>being this late in my pregnancy and him not being

0:59:19.760 --> 0:59:23.760
<v Speaker 2>around so his home he has been the dream trying

0:59:23.760 --> 0:59:27.760
<v Speaker 2>to set up a house and that's been really wonderful.

0:59:29.160 --> 0:59:32.600
<v Speaker 2>And yeah, I think the fact that we're having a

0:59:32.640 --> 0:59:35.040
<v Speaker 2>baby next week, well, let's end this.

0:59:35.040 --> 0:59:38.000
<v Speaker 1>On you have zero idea what you're having, boy or girl,

0:59:38.040 --> 0:59:38.840
<v Speaker 1>but let's just call it.

0:59:38.880 --> 0:59:40.720
<v Speaker 3>What do you think is going to be? All right?

0:59:40.880 --> 0:59:43.520
<v Speaker 3>Because this is it, you'll have a baby any day?

0:59:43.600 --> 0:59:44.200
<v Speaker 3>Drum roll.

0:59:44.200 --> 0:59:46.240
<v Speaker 2>I feel like we need to take debts on this. Okay,

0:59:46.280 --> 0:59:48.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to pick before you. Okay, go, I'm going

0:59:48.520 --> 0:59:49.120
<v Speaker 2>to say.

0:59:50.640 --> 0:59:50.920
<v Speaker 3>Boy.

0:59:51.000 --> 0:59:53.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to go a boy. Although you're very

0:59:53.160 --> 0:59:54.640
<v Speaker 1>like quite small in compact, so.

0:59:54.720 --> 0:59:56.120
<v Speaker 3>I also think I'm having a boy.

0:59:56.600 --> 0:59:58.760
<v Speaker 2>So we can just like Patti Shop's back if we're right,

0:59:58.800 --> 1:00:00.360
<v Speaker 2>and if we're wrong's.

0:59:59.840 --> 1:00:02.240
<v Speaker 3>Just stop podcasting at the end. Yeah, don't looking to

1:00:02.240 --> 1:00:02.880
<v Speaker 3>anything we say.

1:00:03.160 --> 1:00:06.320
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, guys, thank you so much for tuning in

1:00:06.520 --> 1:00:09.480
<v Speaker 2>to our very very first episode. I'm sure we will

1:00:09.760 --> 1:00:11.840
<v Speaker 2>figure out what the hell we're doing as we continue

1:00:11.920 --> 1:00:12.520
<v Speaker 2>down the path.

1:00:12.680 --> 1:00:14.360
<v Speaker 1>Oh I hope so, but to be on, my cheeks

1:00:14.360 --> 1:00:15.800
<v Speaker 1>are hurting. I've had a smile on my face the

1:00:15.800 --> 1:00:16.400
<v Speaker 1>whole time, and.

1:00:16.360 --> 1:00:18.560
<v Speaker 2>I think you have good You've been looking at me, well,

1:00:18.600 --> 1:00:19.360
<v Speaker 2>I am looking at.

1:00:19.360 --> 1:00:21.280
<v Speaker 3>You exactly but yeah, thanks for tuning in.

1:00:21.360 --> 1:00:22.840
<v Speaker 1>We can't wait to keep talking to you over the

1:00:22.840 --> 1:00:24.760
<v Speaker 1>coming weeks, months, and potentially years.

1:00:24.840 --> 1:00:27.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're going to be dropping a podcast every fortnight

1:00:27.720 --> 1:00:29.880
<v Speaker 2>is what our aim is at the start, so.

1:00:30.200 --> 1:00:32.680
<v Speaker 3>Especially while you get your head around baby life.

1:00:32.760 --> 1:00:36.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so tune in and we look forward to talking

1:00:36.200 --> 1:00:37.120
<v Speaker 2>to you again real soon.

1:00:37.280 --> 1:00:43.720
<v Speaker 3>Have a great week. Okay, thanks bye,