Speaker 1: Well, you guys asked for it, So here we are
Speaker 1: delivering our very first podcast.
Speaker 2: Brittany, how many people exactly asked for this? Okay, full disclaimer,
Speaker 2: less than ten? You got ten, I didn't get any.
Speaker 2: But anyway, here we are, and we're here to talk
Speaker 2: to you a little bit about relationships, dating love.
Speaker 3: Got a bit of reality TV in there.
Speaker 1: A little bit of life, just a little bit of
Speaker 1: our personal opinions.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, we were having these chatty conversations over breakfast,
Speaker 2: and it was actually Britt who was the one who
Speaker 2: decided that maybe we should put some of these thoughts
Speaker 2: down and.
Speaker 3: Start a podcast.
Speaker 2: So, Britt, what makes you think that you have any
Speaker 2: qualifications to give dating advice?
Speaker 3: Look, I don't know if you saw the end of
Speaker 3: my Bachelor series. Yeah, that's why I'm asking, babe.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that makes me overqualified or underqualified,
Speaker 1: but it definitely gives me an opinion.
Speaker 3: No. Look, I have a bit of a dating history
Speaker 3: single long time, and I started to get a lot of.
Speaker 1: People writing to me and asking questions personally after that experience,
Speaker 1: So I thought, I'm just going to have to put
Speaker 1: pen to paper, voice to microphone and get it out there,
Speaker 1: But I mean, that's my story.
Speaker 3: Why are you here?
Speaker 2: Oh I'm completely unqualified to give dating advice, but that
Speaker 2: will not stop me. I look, prior to dating mat
Speaker 2: and to our relationship being where it is now, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I had some pretty colorful dating experience, and I feel
Speaker 2: really passionately about going through breakups and going through ups
Speaker 2: and downs and relationships, that they can have, breakups can
Speaker 2: have really positive outcomes for people, and that it should
Speaker 2: be treated as a learning experience to be able to
Speaker 2: better set you up for your next relationship. So that
Speaker 2: is where my experience comes from. Yeah, look, I can
Speaker 2: play the break up, I think.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that breakups these days and going through
Speaker 1: a really tough time has a bit of a negative
Speaker 1: connotation to it, But I agree, and I don't think
Speaker 1: it has to. I think we can learn a lot
Speaker 1: and it shapes us into who we are today. So
Speaker 1: I think it'd be nice to put a different spin
Speaker 1: on it and learn some things and speak to different
Speaker 1: people and just get a different view on things.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, it is incredibly painful and it is incredibly difficult,
Speaker 2: but I think that from some of the most challenging
Speaker 2: aspects of life is where we do our best growth,
Speaker 2: and I think that it also sets us up for
Speaker 2: making better decisions in the future. So yeah, it's nice
Speaker 2: to be here and to be able to chat about
Speaker 2: these things. Yeah, definitely, So Britt, we had very very
Speaker 2: different experiences on The Bachelor. Why did you do it?
Speaker 2: Why did I do it? The million dollar question?
Speaker 1: To be honest, I have two best friends and I
Speaker 1: have been single for a very long time, seven years,
Speaker 1: and they had been pushing me to go on The
Speaker 1: Bachelor years ago, I think maybe season five, and I
Speaker 1: just thought, no way, no way, no way, and they
Speaker 1: kept pushing and pushing and pushing, and I just said,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm going on around the world trip.
Speaker 3: If I come back in three years and I'm thirty years.
Speaker 1: Old and I'm still single, which, mind you, I absolutely
Speaker 1: did not think was going to happen. I thought I
Speaker 1: was going to go meet the man of my dreams
Speaker 1: in some foreign country. I thought, if I come back,
Speaker 1: I'm going to apply for the Bachelor.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you came back and you would any still
Speaker 2: single and you were like, I'm going on.
Speaker 1: A Bachelor thirty I was still single, and I was like,
Speaker 1: sign me out, baby, I'm going.
Speaker 2: On I think I was pretty similar in my reasoning
Speaker 2: for going on the show as well, although I didn't
Speaker 2: I didn't really do it thinking I would meet someone.
Speaker 3: Very very happy that I did. Oh you didn't. You
Speaker 3: actually didn't think you would.
Speaker 2: Well, I meet the match such a model dating life
Speaker 2: in Sydney as it was, and I'd found dating really
Speaker 2: challenging that I kind of did it more as a
Speaker 2: bit of a joke. Not a joke that's probably a
Speaker 2: bit harsh, but more of experience. Yeah, for the experience,
Speaker 2: And I thought, you know, i'd make some friends. If
Speaker 2: by some wild chance I met an amazing guy, then
Speaker 2: like that would be what a wonderful story that would be.
Speaker 3: But I didn't have any expectations around it.
Speaker 2: I've been in and out of some really difficult relationships
Speaker 2: and I think I just wanted a break from it
Speaker 2: all and then I got my happy ever after outcome.
Speaker 1: Just backtrack a little bit. You have told me this
Speaker 1: over coffee, but you have quite an interesting sort of
Speaker 1: sign up story, don't you, Because you were not sold
Speaker 1: ongoing on The Bachelor.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, my sign up story. So I didn't
Speaker 2: actually sign myself up. My two housemates at the time
Speaker 2: were the ones who put my name down, and it
Speaker 2: was done over a drunken Mexican fiesta.
Speaker 1: Well, obviously the best ideas come from drunken Mexican fiestas.
Speaker 3: And they entered me.
Speaker 2: They did the application process, which I don't know if
Speaker 2: anyone who's listening has actually applied for The Bachelor. It's
Speaker 2: a very lengthy It takes about forty five minutes to
Speaker 2: an hour to actually answer all the questions.
Speaker 3: So I was really lucky my housemates did that for me.
Speaker 2: And then a couple of months later, I got a
Speaker 2: phone call from the producers asking me if I wanted
Speaker 2: to come in an audition. And at the time I
Speaker 2: didn't really think I wanted to go on it. I
Speaker 2: hadn't really processed it. But as I got closer and
Speaker 2: closer and closer to it actually happening, I kind of
Speaker 2: ebbed between yes and no, yes and no, and eventually
Speaker 2: I was there. I mean I was late, everyone else
Speaker 2: was already in lockdown, and I showed up the next day,
Speaker 2: just casually strolled in.
Speaker 3: But better late than never.
Speaker 1: But maybe that is the secret, not overthinking something, not
Speaker 1: putting any expectations on it, just thinking I'm going to
Speaker 1: risk it for the biscuit. Let's turn up and see
Speaker 1: what happens.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Absolutely, I do think that there is.
Speaker 2: Like, you can't be set for disappointment if you don't
Speaker 2: have any expectations on something, and if you're approaching something
Speaker 2: with a more casual like outlook on it. I think
Speaker 2: that that's why it wasn't until i'd spend a bit
Speaker 2: more time in the mansion that I actually felt like
Speaker 2: I was getting really invested in the process because I
Speaker 2: hadn't been hung up on it working out for me.
Speaker 1: And also, you saw Matt's abs, so you're like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm invested.
Speaker 3: I am here for this. Let's be real, Laura. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's got some pretty good abs. Still, I'm like me
Speaker 3: at the moment, that's for sure.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I would just like to make a comment
Speaker 1: to what I'm looking at right now.
Speaker 2: So the dream is what she means, I look like
Speaker 2: the dream.
Speaker 3: So Laura is sitting opposite me.
Speaker 1: She's just come from work, she has just finished to
Speaker 1: work out late last night.
Speaker 3: She's also nine months pregnant.
Speaker 2: I am most pregnant people at this point in time
Speaker 2: their pregnancy would be out winding back and sitting on
Speaker 2: the couch, just you know, enjoying the last few moments
Speaker 2: that they're going to get without a baby attached to them.
Speaker 2: And I've decided I'll start a podcast. Yeah, three days out,
Speaker 2: so I'm literally just.
Speaker 3: Now googling how to deliver a.
Speaker 2: Baby, just in case, please don't, please just strat me
Speaker 2: to the hospital if that happened.
Speaker 3: So this, this podcast has.
Speaker 2: Been recorded a little bit in advance, purely because there
Speaker 2: is the potential that I may drop a child very soon.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we did want to get the ball rolling. We
Speaker 1: had this idea, and we just thought, let's get this
Speaker 1: first episode down now so that you can go off
Speaker 1: and have your baby and peas and then we'll continue
Speaker 1: from there.
Speaker 3: So well, it's one of those things, isn't it.
Speaker 2: You have these these bright ideas and these conversations and
Speaker 2: then they never come into fruition.
Speaker 3: However, with Brittany, it was a It.
Speaker 2: Was a sort of a spark of an idea over breakfast,
Speaker 2: and within an hour of me getting home, she was like,
Speaker 2: so we're recording a podcast and I've booked us in
Speaker 2: and this is the name, and.
Speaker 3: We're ready to go. So it made it really.
Speaker 2: Difficult to say, no, I am here, So I actually no,
Speaker 2: to be fair, I did say, look, were you really
Speaker 2: into this or did you want to semi pull out?
Speaker 3: Because you can do that now, and you're like, babes,
Speaker 3: I'm already googling.
Speaker 2: I was already too far invested. I was already sitting
Speaker 2: in the chair when she said that you're in. You've got,
Speaker 2: You've got, we've got our name already.
Speaker 3: You're a soul.
Speaker 2: So I want to know a little bit about your
Speaker 2: experiences on The Bachelor and how they differed from what
Speaker 2: my experiences were.
Speaker 3: I mean, we're going back. Mine was a little while ago.
Speaker 2: Now it was two years that yours was the most
Speaker 2: recent show that we've had, and we arguing up for
Speaker 2: a new season as well. So tell me like a
Speaker 2: little bit about what your dating life was before the.
Speaker 3: Show and why did you go on.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I have been single seven years and I
Speaker 1: had had two serious long term relationships. My first partner
Speaker 1: eight years wonderful man. Still can't fault him. But I
Speaker 1: was young, and it's that young relationship where it's all
Speaker 1: consuming but your babies, and we just grew apart.
Speaker 3: My next relationship was.
Speaker 1: To be honest, very destructive, very abusive, in multiple ways.
Speaker 2: It did not end well. And they're they're fun relationships,
Speaker 2: aren't they. Yeah, that's the thing.
Speaker 1: I think we've all had that experience, and so many
Speaker 1: women and men but have had that experience, and I
Speaker 1: think it'll be nice to touch on that later and
Speaker 1: bond over some stories. But after that ended, I just
Speaker 1: needed to go and find myself, live my life for me,
Speaker 1: and I just thought I wasn't going to waste any
Speaker 1: more time unless I thought something could be the big ending,
Speaker 1: the happy ending, and I just hadn't found that.
Speaker 3: So I've dated a lot, a lot. I essentially, I
Speaker 3: like the emphasis on that.
Speaker 2: I think I'm a wife old dating monk. If there
Speaker 2: is such a thing, well, I mean I think that
Speaker 2: comes part and parcel. If you've spent seven years on
Speaker 2: your own, are going to you know, be in that
Speaker 2: dating world and be meeting lots of different types of people.
Speaker 2: But it's important and also figuring out who's your type
Speaker 2: of person, exactly.
Speaker 1: What you want, who you want, and how you want
Speaker 1: that to happen. So, I mean, there are a thousand
Speaker 1: stories that we will share over that seven year period.
Speaker 3: But let's fast forward seven years.
Speaker 1: Later, three years around the world, thirty years old, still single.
Speaker 1: So I just thought, I have zero to lose and
Speaker 1: it's my next big adventure, so I'm going to sign
Speaker 1: up for the Bachelor.
Speaker 3: So there I was. But I believe you've got a
Speaker 3: bit of a different dating history.
Speaker 2: Well, I guess. I mean I am quite an independent person. However,
Speaker 2: when it has come to my dating past, I have
Speaker 2: been very codependent in my relationships. I honestly haven't had
Speaker 2: a big stint in my life where I've been single.
Speaker 3: I really have sort.
Speaker 2: Of monkey branched and I hate that term, and I
Speaker 2: hate that I even did it, but a monkey branch
Speaker 2: in a relationship to relationship, and I think that that
Speaker 2: really came from a deep seated need to be loved
Speaker 2: and to be valued. And I got a lot of
Speaker 2: my self worth from feeling like somebody wanted me. It
Speaker 2: did mean that I spent a lot of time in
Speaker 2: relationships that weren't good relationships and with people who didn't
Speaker 2: treat me properly. You know, not to say that they
Speaker 2: were all bad. I definitely had some great relationships. They
Speaker 2: just weren't the right person. And it's funny because for me,
Speaker 2: the actual show of going on the Bachelor broke that
Speaker 2: pattern and that cycle for me because I actually had
Speaker 2: some time where I wasn't I wasn't the only person
Speaker 2: like we in Matt and I weren't dating from the
Speaker 2: get go. We were getting to know each other and
Speaker 2: things were a lot slower, which sounds really ironic because
Speaker 2: some things seemed like they move really fast on The Bachelor,
Speaker 2: but for me, it was much slower than what some
Speaker 2: of my normal relationships had moved, and it gave me
Speaker 2: some time to really be introspective and to think about
Speaker 2: what sort of relationship I want and whether Matt was
Speaker 2: the type of guy I wanted. And yeah, it broke
Speaker 2: a pattern, a really really difficult pattern that I'd spent
Speaker 2: many years trying to break. And so now I'm now
Speaker 2: I'm a Bachelor advocate.
Speaker 3: Everyone should sign up for the show. We did. We
Speaker 3: didn't say it up like us.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we did say that this was not going
Speaker 2: to be a Bachelor podcast, and we will just sort
Speaker 2: of touch on it from here and there.
Speaker 3: We will do some we will do some.
Speaker 2: Bachelor recaps when the new season does start. However, we
Speaker 2: just wanted to be able to bring to you a
Speaker 2: little bit of information about us and some background on
Speaker 2: who we are and why we did the show originally,
Speaker 2: and how we even came to meet each other.
Speaker 1: Laura, good call, this isn't going to be a Bachelor
Speaker 1: reality TV podcast.
Speaker 3: I'm out of here.
Speaker 4: I don't know if you know that. That's all we
Speaker 4: were talking about. That's all I've got in my life.
Speaker 4: Oh no, look, it's of course we're going to touch
Speaker 4: on it. It is our history, and I have zero
Speaker 4: regrets at all. Actually, I do want to say that
Speaker 4: I have zero regrets. I loved my experience.
Speaker 1: We can't ever really get away from that. There's a
Speaker 1: reason we're here together now, and that's because we had
Speaker 1: this shared experience. Yes, we will recap the Bachelor Saker
Speaker 1: for reality TV. Let's just put that out on the
Speaker 1: table there right now. I might love the stuff. I
Speaker 1: used to hate it.
Speaker 2: I used to think reality TV sucked, and now I'm
Speaker 2: born again Illuminati for reality TV.
Speaker 1: I have listened to your Marriti first site.
Speaker 2: And also the fact that I'm soon going to be
Speaker 2: pinned under a newborn child, or mean that I have.
Speaker 3: So much time to spend in front of the TV.
Speaker 1: Definitely, but no, Actually, you may be thinking, how did
Speaker 1: we meet it's a common misconception that everybody in reality
Speaker 1: TV comes friends and joins this cult.
Speaker 2: Well, that's eactly. That's because they're all hanging out together
Speaker 2: on the Daily Mail. It's not a misconception. Everyone seems
Speaker 2: to know each other.
Speaker 1: Well, I to be fair, don't I do not know
Speaker 1: anyone else from other seasons except you, and that is honest.
Speaker 1: And how we met is actually an interesting story. So
Speaker 1: it was sort of the last maybe two weeks week
Speaker 1: of my season as it was airing and things started
Speaker 1: to really heat up. I was having quite a hard time.
Speaker 3: With the media, and people on social media can be horrible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think to give a bit of context to this,
Speaker 2: there was an episode on Britney's season where she had
Speaker 2: confronted Cass about something that had happened.
Speaker 3: Cass had been dating Nick in the real world and.
Speaker 2: Britt had Britt had confronted her to ask her, you know,
Speaker 2: what the extent of their relationship was, and it was
Speaker 2: from the conversations we've had. Now I understand that it
Speaker 2: was a relative we edited conversation, but I think it's
Speaker 2: one of those bait and switches where it's really it
Speaker 2: becomes really obvious that sometimes the audience changes their opinion
Speaker 2: on someone based on something that happens really quickly, and
Speaker 2: so you know, you see it instantly on social media
Speaker 2: where when someone does something wrong, it's like you show
Speaker 2: you showed your true colors, and all of the trolls
Speaker 2: come out. So I was watching. I was actually just
Speaker 2: looked at BRIT's Instagram while this this episode was rolling,
Speaker 2: and I saw that she was copying a bit of
Speaker 2: flack and I felt really bad for her because I
Speaker 2: had been in the same situation the year prior.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah, we Cas and I did have this conversation.
Speaker 1: And just to put this out there, Cass and I
Speaker 1: were like sisters and best friends from the first episode
Speaker 1: and we still are now and that never changed. The
Speaker 1: conversation was literally, Cass, I've just found out you were
Speaker 1: in a relationship with Nick at some point, and all
Speaker 1: I want to know is if there's a love between
Speaker 1: you two, should I But And that was a conversation
Speaker 1: and I said to her, I didn't even care at all,
Speaker 1: But you know, there's a bit of shop and changing there,
Speaker 1: and that's unfortunately not what went to air. So I
Speaker 1: did get a lot of heat from that for a
Speaker 1: few days. And so I wake up. I don't wake up.
Speaker 1: I wasn't sleeping.
Speaker 3: Because of this.
Speaker 2: It was nine point thirty PM. That's why she didn't
Speaker 2: wake up. That episode airs during the daytime.
Speaker 1: I get a message from Laura. Now I don't know Laura,
Speaker 1: obviously I know of her. I get a message from
Speaker 1: her saying, I.
Speaker 3: Slid into a DM's guy. Oh, she was the first
Speaker 3: person that swit into my dance. Actually, still haven't gotten
Speaker 3: lucky points for trying.
Speaker 1: I get this message and it just says, hey, love, Look,
Speaker 1: you don't know me, and I have no ulterior motive
Speaker 1: for this, but I'm going to say I know exactly
Speaker 1: what you're doing right now. You haven't gotten out of
Speaker 1: bedding in three days. You have food wrappers all over
Speaker 1: the floor. You think the world hates you, You think
Speaker 1: your life is never going to get better. You have
Speaker 1: been in tears. You're not sleeping because you're monitoring your
Speaker 1: social media and thinking the whole world is about to employ.
Speaker 1: And I'm laying there thinking, oh, my girl, is this
Speaker 1: girl my spirit animal or is she in the next
Speaker 1: room watching me? Because that is exactly right. She's like,
Speaker 1: I've been there, I've been where you have been and
Speaker 1: the world has hated me as well. This is my
Speaker 1: phone number if you ever want to talk. And it's
Speaker 1: very unlike me to do this, but I called you
Speaker 1: straight away.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well look, I mean I just want to I
Speaker 2: want to correct you on one thing, okay, because the
Speaker 2: world didn't hate you, and the world didn't hate me.
Speaker 3: It just feels like it at the time.
Speaker 2: You know, you could receive five hundred amazing complimentary messages
Speaker 2: on Instagram and you might get one trolley message where
Speaker 2: someone tells you that your shit and you should go
Speaker 2: kill yourself, and that's what that message that really hurts
Speaker 2: your feelings.
Speaker 3: So I think I wanted.
Speaker 2: To reach out to you when you were in that
Speaker 2: situation because I had experienced that the year prior, and
Speaker 2: also Alex Nation had reached out to me when I
Speaker 2: was in that situation, and I felt I actually still
Speaker 2: never met Alex in real life, but I just felt
Speaker 2: so great that there was somebody else who actually understood
Speaker 2: how I was feeling at that point in time. And
Speaker 2: I wanted you to know that there was somebody else
Speaker 2: out there who knew how you were feeling.
Speaker 1: And I am so grateful for that. Honestly, it was
Speaker 1: really life saving at that point. And I feel like,
Speaker 1: just heads up, if you're listening the winner of the
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen Bachelor, I'll probably be reaching out to you.
Speaker 3: Do you know who it is? They've finished filming.
Speaker 2: We actually know nothing, so any recapts or anything that
Speaker 2: we do come to you just from our spidery senses.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 2: But I feel like it's one of those things that
Speaker 2: you pass on every year. So I feel like at
Speaker 2: some point I'm going to have to reach out as well.
Speaker 2: Do my Yeah, absolutely, I think that there's a due
Speaker 2: diligence when you've been in that position before. And the
Speaker 2: problem is is, you know, you go on these reality
Speaker 2: TV shows and people think, well, you signed up for it,
Speaker 2: like you opened yourself up for all this bullying and
Speaker 2: you made your life public. But no one really makes
Speaker 2: you equipped for that. There's not there's not any And you.
Speaker 1: Don't know until you know. I like that saying yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, but you don't you don't know.
Speaker 2: I mean, we still don't know what are we Doingritt,
Speaker 2: tell me a little bit about what was different from
Speaker 2: your experience than mine. I mean, I know that we
Speaker 2: were in completely different Bachelor mansions. Tommy, what did you
Speaker 2: guys eat, as in like when you weren't on camera,
Speaker 2: did you cook? Did you get a will Worst delivery
Speaker 2: like we did? Like?
Speaker 3: How did it work?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: You were willl Worth?
Speaker 2: Now we were coals. I think we were cols too.
Speaker 2: We were actually on an avocado band, but then I
Speaker 2: found out the avocado saga.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's every year, every pasion has an
Speaker 1: avocado saga.
Speaker 2: So the way it worked for us was that was
Speaker 2: that we had a weekly allowance to split between all
Speaker 2: the girls, so our grocery shop had to be less
Speaker 2: than the weekly allowance, and obviously things like avocados a
Speaker 2: datium expensive, so everyone couldn't And there was also a
Speaker 2: cyclone at the time that had wiped out a lot
Speaker 2: of the avocado stock. I don't know why I'm getting
Speaker 2: so into this, but really it ruled our.
Speaker 3: Life for quite rate. Avocado cyclone of twenty seventeen. This
Speaker 3: is true. This is very very true. So we were
Speaker 3: all put on an avocado band. But you know what,
Speaker 3: we actually had it really easy.
Speaker 2: We used to do big cookups as the girls, like
Speaker 2: as a group. We had like big family dinners. We
Speaker 2: had pizza nights. It was like being on holidays. It
Speaker 2: was bloody great. Sometimes it was sort of like being
Speaker 2: on a resort with some of your closest girlfriends.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we it's actually that's a really common question.
Speaker 1: People ask me what did you eat? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you can ask me anything about the Bachelor, and that's
Speaker 1: what you want to know, and they really do well.
Speaker 2: I think it's because there's also this misconception that like
Speaker 2: all the girls put on heaps of weight while we're
Speaker 2: in there because there's nothing to do except eat chocolate,
Speaker 2: and there really is that you have free rein over everything,
Speaker 2: and so it's quite hard to stay in shape. Also,
Speaker 2: what was your gym like? Because your gym is shit
Speaker 2: as ours? Yeah, so a funny story. Our gym was
Speaker 2: actually we had some petal packers. I don't know if
Speaker 2: you saw that we our packers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did say.
Speaker 1: That our gym was the ol packer sat that they
Speaker 1: had just ripped out the hay and then put some
Speaker 1: equipment in there.
Speaker 3: So it was quite small.
Speaker 1: Look it has what you needed, but it was Jim
Speaker 1: is a stretch of a term.
Speaker 2: Ours was a garage, like literally a garage that had
Speaker 2: a treadmillion it and some weights facing the wall.
Speaker 3: Yeah, facing the door.
Speaker 2: There was also a rat that lived in there too,
Speaker 2: but we don't we're not going to get into that.
Speaker 2: But I remember, so we had we had different kettlebells,
Speaker 2: like different weights, and I went down there to do
Speaker 2: and workout this one day and all of the heavy
Speaker 2: weights had been taken and I found out it was
Speaker 2: macause Matt had requested that he have all of the
Speaker 2: weights over sixteen kilos. So I threw a little tanny
Speaker 2: and got our weights back. I was like, it is
Speaker 2: not acceptable.
Speaker 3: Good for you. I need to squat God, damn it.
Speaker 3: So anyway, so I mean.
Speaker 2: The bachelor definitely gets to rule the roost of the
Speaker 2: of the bachelor the mansion, and that's for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we also just had a big yard that we
Speaker 1: would literally run around in circles like hamsters. So people think,
Speaker 1: if you do think that we're allowed to go out
Speaker 1: for a run or a walk, you don't. You don't
Speaker 1: leave give the mansion ever unless you're on a date.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, there's no, there's no leave.
Speaker 2: Actually, do you know what, I did get a pass
Speaker 2: out to leave, so so people don't get to leave
Speaker 2: them once you're in lockdown and you're in lockdown and
Speaker 2: you don't leave, you don't have access to your phone,
Speaker 2: you don't have access to calling your family. The only
Speaker 2: time that you're able to call your family is once
Speaker 2: for fifteen minutes I think every.
Speaker 3: Two weeks on a monitored phone call.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so your minder will listen in and make sure
Speaker 2: that there's nothing that you're talking about that could give
Speaker 2: away any aspect of the show. And also they also
Speaker 2: listened in to make sure that your family isn't telling
Speaker 2: you things that could make you want to leave as well.
Speaker 3: So it does go both ways.
Speaker 2: But I well, I was able to leave a few
Speaker 2: days after I was in lockdown, and it was purely
Speaker 2: because I had to attend a funeral.
Speaker 3: Even for that, I was chaperoned by a minder to
Speaker 3: the funeral.
Speaker 2: I was like they waited for me at the funeral,
Speaker 2: and then as soon as it was finished, I couldn't
Speaker 2: go the wake or anything to get back in the
Speaker 2: car and go straight back. And and so everything is
Speaker 2: monitored really really severely. Yeah, it's good though, I mean
Speaker 2: it needs to be done. It has to be It
Speaker 2: keeps the privacy and it keeps the.
Speaker 1: Ending, the surprise, magicke and the excitement and the surprise.
Speaker 3: Absolutely. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So and what about so you and I, in case
Speaker 1: people didn't know we had different mansions, what were your
Speaker 1: sleeping arrangements?
Speaker 3: Like, oh, we have like a dorm room.
Speaker 2: Well, I think you will mention was bigger than ours, though, yeah,
Speaker 2: I've actually seen your mansion, so I did hear that
Speaker 2: secret squirrel?
Speaker 3: So well that's for another time.
Speaker 2: So our mansion was two quite big, oh, three quite
Speaker 2: big rooms, and all the girls were in bunk beds
Speaker 2: in the room. So in my room it was actually
Speaker 2: fourteen girls all.
Speaker 3: In bunk beds.
Speaker 2: And then obviously that dwindled down as the roses kind
Speaker 2: of also dwindled. But but yeah, it was like being
Speaker 2: on school camp, which was probably one of the funnest
Speaker 2: parts and also the most difficult parts of the whole.
Speaker 3: Thing as well.
Speaker 1: It's funny because I think, might I had a room
Speaker 1: of maybe one, two, twelve, and you don't think about
Speaker 1: that when you go into the mansion. But what mansion
Speaker 1: is going to have We had thirty women all up?
Speaker 1: What mansion is going to have thirty rooms?
Speaker 3: Did you have thirty women in your season?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we had the biggest season ever. And then once
Speaker 1: the intruders still couldn't pick anyone.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, come on, man, I don't know or what
Speaker 4: it says about us.
Speaker 5: I'm going to say more about Nick, But yeah, it's
Speaker 5: not a reflection of you guys. That's definitely just certain.
Speaker 5: What was your expectation of it versus what the reality?
Speaker 2: You know, going into the show, What did you expect
Speaker 2: it to be like versus what it really was like?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if I had too many expectations.
Speaker 1: I knew I was going to have a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: I didn't. Actually when I met Nick on the Red Carpet,
Speaker 1: that was the first time I thought, when I realized
Speaker 1: how much we have in common and I cans and
Speaker 1: were born in the same place, I thought, oh my god,
Speaker 1: maybe I actually will meet someone on here. I didn't
Speaker 1: really know going into that. All I knew was I
Speaker 1: was going to have fun. I didn't know if I
Speaker 1: thought I was going to meet the one. As soon
Speaker 1: as I met him ten minutes in, I thought it's
Speaker 1: gold be it. So you didn't really have any expectations
Speaker 1: at all. You just kind of went in and winged it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: pretty much, which I think that's a good way for you.
Speaker 1: My life motto, risk it for the biscuit. Risk Yeah,
Speaker 1: hair biscuits, and that's what you've got to do. So
Speaker 1: that's what I did. Played it by ear, didn't plan anything.
Speaker 1: A lot of people said, what's your game plan going in?
Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean?
Speaker 3: Do people have a game plan? Yeah? No, they did
Speaker 3: the same to me.
Speaker 2: Actually, thinking back, they wanted they like something gimmicky on
Speaker 2: the red carpet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they want you to go in there and bring
Speaker 3: a giar door.
Speaker 2: Oh, I said something ridiculous about cobbloaf I can't even remember.
Speaker 2: I just I blanked they originally they I'm Laura Cobblo
Speaker 2: I pretty much what I said. It still surprises me
Speaker 2: to this day that he chose me.
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 2: They encouraged me to try and bring a piece of jewelry. Sure,
Speaker 2: they wanted me to make something special for him, and
Speaker 2: they wanted me to give it to him on the
Speaker 2: red carpet. But for me, jewelry is something that's such
Speaker 2: a personal gift. And I didn't know him at all,
Speaker 2: and I also didn't know even if he would wear
Speaker 2: a ring.
Speaker 3: Or wear a car.
Speaker 2: So I really pushed back on that, and then they said,
Speaker 2: you need to do something, like you have to stand out.
Speaker 2: And so I had told the producers that I was
Speaker 2: going to walk down the red carpet.
Speaker 3: I was going to pick a little flower, and I
Speaker 3: was going to be like.
Speaker 2: Hey, I didn't want to show up empty handed and
Speaker 2: give him this flower. And as I'm sitting in the
Speaker 2: limo about to get out, the producer asked me, like,
Speaker 2: what was I going to do? And I told her
Speaker 2: my plan. She said, oh, you can't do that. Someone
Speaker 2: did that on another season. Oh I had that, and
Speaker 2: I had no idea, And so here I am three
Speaker 2: seconds before.
Speaker 3: Getting out of the car.
Speaker 2: I had my lines little planned and so then they're like, okay,
Speaker 2: get out of the car now.
Speaker 3: So I jumped out of the car and I walked
Speaker 3: up to.
Speaker 2: Him and I was like, hey, hey, I didn't want
Speaker 2: to show up empty handed.
Speaker 3: Maybe I should have brought a cobblo.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I feel like I need to go
Speaker 1: and watch.
Speaker 3: That back creaking idiot.
Speaker 2: Anyway, I still and I looked like I was on
Speaker 2: crack because I was so high on adrenaline, Like I
Speaker 2: was jacked on adrenaline that my eyes are pretty much
Speaker 2: popping out of my head so look, you know what,
Speaker 2: we got past the first encounter and things got better
Speaker 2: from there.
Speaker 1: Well obviously because any day now there's baby coming.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all happening, It really really is.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: I actually I actually took him fortune cookies yep. And
Speaker 1: in each fortune cookie was a different color, and in
Speaker 1: each fortune colored fortune cookie was a different fortune. Obviously
Speaker 1: my favorite color had the best fortune. And I did
Speaker 1: this because didn't show this, Okay, so they didn't, But
Speaker 1: what they showed was me with all these little boxes
Speaker 1: holding them, and I got so many questions after saying
Speaker 1: what was in the box, So if anyone wants to know,
Speaker 1: that's what it was.
Speaker 3: And for some reason they cut that out. Did you
Speaker 3: try and tell him that his fortune would be with you? Essentially?
Speaker 3: I was like, I see someone named Brittany.
Speaker 2: No, I did not, and these are your lucky numbers, but.
Speaker 1: You know, full transparency. He actually did pick my favorite fortune,
Speaker 1: my favorite color, and my favorite fortune, but that didn't
Speaker 1: really work out well for me.
Speaker 2: Well, actually, just remembering back on your series, britt because
Speaker 2: I really did watch it all, I remember that finale
Speaker 2: episode and I remember Nick when he said to you,
Speaker 2: and he also said to Sophie very famously that he
Speaker 2: wasn't going to choose either of you.
Speaker 3: I remember you just seeming so.
Speaker 2: Calm, so like unaffected by it, and I know that
Speaker 2: probably that was a defense mechanism, but yeah, why didn't
Speaker 2: you kind of try and ask him some more questions?
Speaker 3: Or why didn't you.
Speaker 2: You react in a bit more of a way that
Speaker 2: I think I would have been throwing things out, like.
Speaker 3: Maybe more emotional. Yeah, so I got this.
Speaker 1: Question a lot on the medium trail after for those
Speaker 1: that haven't seen it. Essentially, Nick sort of let Sophie
Speaker 1: go and let her think that it was me, and
Speaker 1: then when my time came, he gave me a very
Speaker 1: big speech and let me down. You know, so your
Speaker 1: heart breaks in that moment. But I didn't cry. I
Speaker 1: didn't ask any questions, and I just said is that all?
Speaker 1: And then said good luck and walked away. And I
Speaker 1: think their producer told me I was the first person
Speaker 1: ever on the Bachelort to not cry once. But I
Speaker 1: just want to make this clear. In private, I was
Speaker 1: a mess. I just thought in that time, my internal
Speaker 1: monologue was, Okay, this guy has just said on national
Speaker 1: television that you are not enough, that he doesn't want you,
Speaker 1: so to me, the reason why was irrelevant for me personally,
Speaker 1: it didn't matter to me because he said, no, it's
Speaker 1: you're not enough and it's not you. So I thought, cool,
Speaker 1: get out of here right now, deal with that later.
Speaker 1: Have you ever since that point felt like you wanted closure?
Speaker 1: Because some some times, I mean, I know that your
Speaker 1: first reaction to something not your specifically, but someone's first
Speaker 1: reaction to something isn't always then how they feel like.
Speaker 3: I'm very much a person where where.
Speaker 2: I if somebody hurts my feelings, I'm like, I'm fine,
Speaker 2: I don't care. And then when I've had time to
Speaker 2: think about it, I'm like.
Speaker 3: Ohk oh.
Speaker 1: And I cared so much, and deep down later on
Speaker 1: I thought maybe you should have asked him why more,
Speaker 1: only because I didn't understand it. We got along so
Speaker 1: well and we had so much in common, we had
Speaker 1: the greatest time. I couldn't understand how that connection wasn't
Speaker 1: there for him to want to explore. Still didn't really
Speaker 1: want to beg him or ask why, you know, Oh,
Speaker 1: surface level, I just thought it's a no.
Speaker 3: I'm out.
Speaker 1: But yeah, we did speak later on, and he I
Speaker 1: hold nothing against Nick at all, he's a great guy.
Speaker 1: He just the wrong time, wrong situation. But things could
Speaker 1: have been handled differently, for sure. But it's happened now,
Speaker 1: and I think for a lot of women have since
Speaker 1: reached out to me, and I think that's part of
Speaker 1: the reason we started this podcast, so we could voice
Speaker 1: these thoughts and opinions to women everywhere, because there are
Speaker 1: a lot of people that I mean not necessarily been
Speaker 1: in the same situation, obviously in the Bachelor, but the
Speaker 1: same situation where they're sold on something and their heart's
Speaker 1: really in it and someone has just said to them,
Speaker 1: I can't really give you a reason, but it's not you.
Speaker 1: And to all those women, I just want to say
Speaker 1: that that's not personal, and that's nothing against you as
Speaker 1: a human or anything that you have done.
Speaker 2: It's hard to take things not personally though, of course
Speaker 2: when it's happening at the time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially when you're invested in you're in love.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And that was definitely a hard moment for me, and
Speaker 1: it might not have come across because I'm such a strong,
Speaker 1: independent woman that I had my breakdown in private, and
Speaker 1: I didn't want to make anyone. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: put anyone out and make them feel sorry for me
Speaker 1: when really walking away from him was it.
Speaker 3: Was so hard to not even look back.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that that's also one of the
Speaker 2: challenges with being an independent woman is that as a female,
Speaker 2: if you put up these walls and say I'm fine,
Speaker 2: I don't need help, I'm you know, I'm strong, people
Speaker 2: can sometimes see that as being cold, and they can
Speaker 2: sometimes see that as not needing help. And I think
Speaker 2: it's often forgotten that some of the most independent, seemingly
Speaker 2: independent people, they just struggle through things on their own.
Speaker 2: They still need help, but they might not ask.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know, I think that as well.
Speaker 2: Like I've learned a lot from doing reality TV, and
Speaker 2: I don't I have zero regrets. I mean, I have
Speaker 2: a wonderful partner out of it, and a life that
Speaker 2: I'm really really happy with that I never would have
Speaker 2: had had I continued on the trajectory I was on.
Speaker 2: But I learned that there really is power in vulnerability,
Speaker 2: and there really is power in allowing people to know
Speaker 2: when you're not okay, because people innately want to help you,
Speaker 2: and they want to take care of you, and they
Speaker 2: want to I brought you through difficult times, but if
Speaker 2: you seem like you don't need support, or you seem
Speaker 2: like you're totally fine on your own, girl, you got this,
Speaker 2: then people don't come to your aid and you do
Speaker 2: get left on your own quite a bit.
Speaker 3: And I will now probably the first time I've actually
Speaker 3: said it, so why not say it.
Speaker 1: On a national podcast. But I will put my hand
Speaker 1: up and say I am that person. I will never
Speaker 1: let friends or loved ones or public know that I'm
Speaker 1: having a hard time or I need help because I
Speaker 1: want to be the pillar of strength for them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but God, sometimes I need it, which is why we're
Speaker 1: here now, because you reached out to me, and I thought,
Speaker 1: this is a stranger, but I'm going to just go
Speaker 1: and dump all my problems on her. But so like
Speaker 1: nothing about me and my heartache. You had the happy
Speaker 1: ever after. Any I think right now you're literally about
Speaker 1: to pop. You're in the prime of your life. You
Speaker 1: just got engaged, you're running a successful business. On me, actually,
Speaker 1: you just have this amazing life. You've got it together,
Speaker 1: britt you make it sound so flash.
Speaker 2: I also have really had a heartburn right now and
Speaker 2: I need to pee, but I'm holding on because we've
Speaker 2: still got some time left for this podcast. I'm I'm
Speaker 2: really really grateful and incredibly lucky for the part where
Speaker 2: the point in my life where I'm at, And had
Speaker 2: you told me two years ago that I would be here,
Speaker 2: there's no way in hell I would have thought that
Speaker 2: that would be the case. I came out of two
Speaker 2: back to back really bad relationships. I would say one
Speaker 2: of them. Look, I'm not a psychiatrist, so I'm not
Speaker 2: going to call him a narcissist, but.
Speaker 3: I thank you.
Speaker 2: I know, look, I think I think we just met
Speaker 2: at it at a really difficult time.
Speaker 3: It was.
Speaker 2: It was a two years, two years of my life
Speaker 2: where I was pushing a relationship up the hill and
Speaker 2: I was really being lied to, and and it was
Speaker 2: just there was a lot of manipulation going on in
Speaker 2: this relationship, but I wanted it to work, and I
Speaker 2: was so blindly accepting, and I had such deeply flawed
Speaker 2: boundaries on what was acceptable and not accepted in a
Speaker 2: relationship that I really just let him get away with
Speaker 2: so many things. I was cheated on, I was lied to,
Speaker 2: and then I went from that relationship into another one,
Speaker 2: which was you know, he was a good guy, but
Speaker 2: he also had a lot of his own issues, and
Speaker 2: it just I just felt like I was on ground
Speaker 2: whole day and I was dating the same type of
Speaker 2: person over and over and over.
Speaker 1: So you would say you were sort of just in
Speaker 1: this negative pattern, like did deep down did you know
Speaker 1: that these people were wrong and you kept doing it?
Speaker 1: Or what was your reasoning for going from this bad
Speaker 1: relationship to bad relationship.
Speaker 2: I was in a cyclical die a dating cycle, and
Speaker 2: so I was dating the same type of person on repeat,
Speaker 2: and I was having the exact same outcome on repeat,
Speaker 2: but I was just projecting it onto each different relationship.
Speaker 3: So when I met oh, sorry, hey, I was just
Speaker 3: going to say, do you think that that is a
Speaker 3: reflection looking back now of how you were feeling at
Speaker 3: the time. Did you feel like you had no confidence
Speaker 3: or that you weren't deserving or do you you know
Speaker 3: why you would do No? I think I was deserving.
Speaker 2: I think these I mean, they were very exciting relationships
Speaker 2: at the start, and there was a lot of I'm
Speaker 2: sure that we were all familiar with the terms of
Speaker 2: like love bombing, and I was made to feel so
Speaker 2: special and so incredibly valued at the start of the relationship,
Speaker 2: but to a point where it was very unsustainable. And
Speaker 2: then I met Matt, And to be perfectly honest, Matt
Speaker 2: probably wasn't the type of guy. Had I met him
Speaker 2: in the real world and not in the Bachelor at Mansion,
Speaker 2: we probably wouldn't be together. The reason for that would
Speaker 2: be because he is so nice. He's such a kind,
Speaker 2: sweet person. I mean, he's still got a bit of
Speaker 2: grit to him. He can definitely be sarcastic and he
Speaker 2: definitely has that humor to him.
Speaker 3: But he would have been too kind away. I would
Speaker 3: have Yeah, I would have whooped his up. In the
Speaker 3: real world, I would have owned him. No, I think.
Speaker 2: I think in the real world I just would have
Speaker 2: thought he was too nice and it wasn't a challenge
Speaker 2: there for me. And what I've come to realize through having,
Speaker 2: you know, two very happy years, is that relationships you
Speaker 2: don't want them to be a challenge. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: you don't need to work at it every day. And
Speaker 2: I know that sometimes there's this great romanticism about like
Speaker 2: you fight for the one you love, and you know,
Speaker 2: like like big relationships are worth the heart They're really
Speaker 2: not worth the heartbreak, just they're not easy. You should
Speaker 2: be hanging out with your best friend, laughing, really enjoying
Speaker 2: yourself and having time with them that brings you happiness
Speaker 2: and joy. Someone who makes you cry all the time
Speaker 2: is not someone who's supposed to be in a relationship with.
Speaker 1: No And I've heard a lot of your conversations with Matt,
Speaker 1: and I've even read some of your thirty five texts
Speaker 1: to each other a day.
Speaker 3: And they are actually really funny. Why are you going
Speaker 3: through my phone again?
Speaker 4: God?
Speaker 1: But my point is you guys laugh all the time,
Speaker 1: and I think that for me, that is what I'm
Speaker 1: looking for. And I think that's the key to any
Speaker 1: healthy relationship is don't take life too seriously and just.
Speaker 3: Have somebody that you can laugh with.
Speaker 2: Well, then you think about it like you're the start
Speaker 2: of your relationship. Shouldn't be the part that's the hardest,
Speaker 2: That shouldn't be what it shouldn't be overcoming all these
Speaker 2: hurdles at the beginning. You should really slot into each
Speaker 2: other's lives, make each other happy. You should be working
Speaker 2: towards common goals. Because, by God, when you are pregnant
Speaker 2: and fat and everything.
Speaker 3: Hurts, things get harder.
Speaker 2: But also, you know, when you have kids and you
Speaker 2: have money, issues and life really, you know, throws challenging
Speaker 2: things at you the longer that you are together in
Speaker 2: a relationship.
Speaker 3: So if you're already on rocky territory just trying.
Speaker 2: To be with no other together sources, trying to be together,
Speaker 2: that's not your relationship. And I think that sometimes when
Speaker 2: you're in it, it can be really well, it is
Speaker 2: really really difficult to walk away from something, especially someone
Speaker 2: who you love, but sometimes you need to to be
Speaker 2: able to open up time and space for something else
Speaker 2: to fall in place.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I do believe that what personally, I think
Speaker 1: that there's more than one person in this whole universe
Speaker 1: for us.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, thats crap. Sorry.
Speaker 1: So I think a lot of people think if they
Speaker 1: leave now, they'll never meet anyone else again, and they'll
Speaker 1: especially women. Women have this this idea that being alone
Speaker 1: is a failure, being single at thirty is a failure.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, disagree. More So, I don't know if BRIT's
Speaker 1: gonna let me bringing this one up, and I'm bringing
Speaker 1: it up anyway.
Speaker 2: Yesterday Brittany showed me a Instagram story that one of
Speaker 2: her friends had posted, and I know, I don't know
Speaker 2: this friend, so I'm sorry that I'm calling her out,
Speaker 2: but I know that it came with the best of intentions.
Speaker 2: Basically the insta story. Hold on, I'm going to point
Speaker 2: it out. I'm going to pull it up on my phone.
Speaker 2: Give me two seconds, so like a grandma tryna, we'll
Speaker 2: just set the scene here.
Speaker 1: Laura and I were obviously this was only last night,
Speaker 1: and we were talking about today recording what we're going
Speaker 1: to talk about it.
Speaker 3: Oh, here we go, give it to us. Okay.
Speaker 2: So her girlfriend posted a photo of Brittany and herself
Speaker 2: and the caption is this, guys, honestly, this girl is
Speaker 2: still single. She's a catch, passionate, fun fit, tons of
Speaker 2: amazing energy and devoted.
Speaker 3: How is she not taken? I don't get it.
Speaker 2: I have decided to now manage the shortlist of her potentials.
Speaker 3: DM me or cvs.
Speaker 2: If you're keen to meet an amazing woman, I'll set
Speaker 2: it up at Brittany.
Speaker 3: I am dying right now, rip me. I I am adad.
Speaker 3: I read this and I was like, you can't do that.
Speaker 3: I was dead for you.
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean, look, I know that it comes with
Speaker 2: the best of intentions, but why is being single such
Speaker 2: a Why is it something that you should be not embarrassed.
Speaker 2: But I don't think that that's what is being pointed out.
Speaker 2: But why is it a floor?
Speaker 1: Okay, So I think, obviously this is a very good
Speaker 1: friend of mine and I had been talking to her
Speaker 1: only a few days earlier, and.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, very good friends. I don't mean to to
Speaker 2: call out your bed. Maybe don't do that again.
Speaker 1: I think, Look, it had really great intentions behind it,
Speaker 1: and because she genuinely wants me to be happy and
Speaker 1: meet somebody in course, and she doesn't. She says to me,
Speaker 1: I don't get it. I just don't get it. And
Speaker 1: she obviously I didn't know that that story was happy.
Speaker 2: I mean, your closet crazy. But apart from that, no
Speaker 2: one knows that. Don't tell them no.
Speaker 1: But it had good intentions and she just wanted to
Speaker 1: put that out there. But also I couldn't stop laughing crying.
Speaker 1: I was mortified, but I was happy. I didn't know
Speaker 1: how to feel about it, because I know it was
Speaker 1: a good thing. But then you put a different spin
Speaker 1: on it. When I was talking to you about it,
Speaker 1: I didn't have any negative energy towards that. I just
Speaker 1: thought it was a bit funny, but also a bit
Speaker 1: like sad for me. But you sort of thought, well,
Speaker 1: hang on, is this her saying that it's it's not
Speaker 1: cool to be thirty and single, or that you're desperately
Speaker 1: trying to find someone, or you had a different My.
Speaker 2: Take on it was more so that I was like,
Speaker 2: why why do you need someone to take it into
Speaker 2: their hands? Like, I trust that you have the ability
Speaker 2: and you are a smart enough, vivacious enough, charismatic enough
Speaker 2: woman that when the time is right, you will meet
Speaker 2: the right person. Yeah, And that I think by making
Speaker 2: it seem like there's a flaw there or there's an urgency,
Speaker 2: that it makes someone who's single and who's looking for
Speaker 2: a relationship feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with them.
Speaker 2: There's nothing fundamentally wrong with you at all. There's nothing
Speaker 2: fundamentally wrong with anyone who's single. It's just when it
Speaker 2: falls in place, it eventually falls in place for a
Speaker 2: very long time.
Speaker 3: So it's not something you need to rush.
Speaker 1: No, And this is something that I would like to
Speaker 1: change the way we look at things. I have had
Speaker 1: so many women message me or slide into my dams
Speaker 1: and just say how inspirational I am to them. That
Speaker 1: I'm single, and when I first heard that I'm inspiration,
Speaker 1: I was gobsback because I thought being single and thirty
Speaker 1: is not inspirational. Buying a house at twenty is inspirational.
Speaker 1: Traveling the world is inspirational. Tell me I'm inspirational for that.
Speaker 1: But that's what they mean, though.
Speaker 2: I think when you do get people, Yeah, I think
Speaker 2: because you have accomplished so many different facets of life
Speaker 2: and being single hasn't stopped you from doing that. I think,
Speaker 2: you know, sometimes it is a bit daunting to do
Speaker 2: things on your own, and that was probably why I
Speaker 2: was a constant relationship hop because I was, you know,
Speaker 2: I found more purpose being able to travel with a
Speaker 2: partner or being able to have someone to validate my decisions.
Speaker 2: And I found it difficult to make those big life
Speaker 2: decisions on my own, whereas you seem to have no
Speaker 2: problem with that, and that is something that's aspirational and
Speaker 2: that you shouldn't lose.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just want women to know that you don't need
Speaker 1: a man to complete you. You need them to be
Speaker 1: added and added bonus to your life. You need to
Speaker 1: be whole on your own first, and then when they come,
Speaker 1: they add to it. So I just hope anyone listening
Speaker 1: out there. If you're single and you're thinking that you're
Speaker 1: too old and your ovaries are drying up, please they
Speaker 1: are not. You just keep doing everything that you love
Speaker 1: and life will just fall into place.
Speaker 2: So okay, then does that mean that you like? What
Speaker 2: sort of dating are you're doing?
Speaker 6: You?
Speaker 2: Are you on online dating? Are you open to meeting friends?
Speaker 2: Are we sourcing people through Instagram?
Speaker 4: Now?
Speaker 1: I don't know, like this podcast was set up for Brittany.
Speaker 3: I don't know. Should I put an ad out there now?
Speaker 3: Please call two?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: That was actually gonna tell you my phone number. Please
Speaker 3: don't call me. No.
Speaker 1: Look, God, there's so much to the dating world that
Speaker 1: we can discuss and I can't wait to delve into
Speaker 1: that later dates. But yeah, I'm definitely dating. You have
Speaker 1: to be in it to win it. But having said that,
Speaker 1: I think life after the Bachelor has it's probably made
Speaker 1: dating worse for me. To be honest, it's meant harder
Speaker 1: to meet somebody. I don't exactly know why, but I've
Speaker 1: been on online dating a little bit, but I have
Speaker 1: a lot of fake profiles actually that people have sent
Speaker 1: to me, So that has made it a little bit
Speaker 1: hard of your profile. Yeah, people like pretending to be me.
Speaker 2: I was listening to Tommy Little speak about this the
Speaker 2: other day, and he was saying that he was on
Speaker 2: Tinder because he really wants to meet someone and people
Speaker 2: weren't taking him seriously because he's Tommy Little on Tinder.
Speaker 2: Hi Tommy, Hi, So Tommy, if you're listening, Brittany is single.
Speaker 3: No, but really I get that. I do think that that.
Speaker 2: I mean, it would have an added complication to it
Speaker 2: when you do have a bit of a profile or
Speaker 2: but I guess as time kind of passes and as
Speaker 2: your Bachelor's season fades, which it does.
Speaker 3: Well, that'll become easier and easier.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and look, really I've met a few really great people,
Speaker 1: but also I've meant a few like excuse my language,
Speaker 1: but there are some assholes out there.
Speaker 2: I think that that, especially on online dating, but it
Speaker 2: definitely breeds some interesting characters. And it also is a
Speaker 2: is an environment where people obviously, as we all know,
Speaker 2: are there for hookups as well, so you've got a
Speaker 2: real mismatch of what people's expectations and wants us. So
Speaker 2: I think that it's really important when you have your
Speaker 2: first meeting with someone that you're really clear that you're
Speaker 2: not in this for hookup, but you're not in this
Speaker 2: for you know, sex on the first night or Netflix
Speaker 2: and trail you just but you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: you like you want a relationship, and I think that
Speaker 2: that is It's okay. It's not premature to have that
Speaker 2: conversation in the first because you're setting down your expectations
Speaker 2: and your boundaries.
Speaker 3: You met this person on a dating site.
Speaker 2: It's not like you've just met them through friends and
Speaker 2: you're like, Hi, I want a boyfriend, but on a
Speaker 2: dating site. I think it's important when you go on
Speaker 2: your first date that you then set down some boundary.
Speaker 2: It's nice to meet you, this is what I'm looking for?
Speaker 2: What are you looking for? Because don't waste your time?
Speaker 1: And I think also now, to be fair, Instagram is
Speaker 1: essentially a dating site.
Speaker 3: Why what are you talking about.
Speaker 1: The dm slidings because that's what it is.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: What's the difference with swiping on Tinder and then messaging somebody.
Speaker 1: Actually people see people on Tinder and then they go
Speaker 1: and message them on their Instagram anyway, So I think
Speaker 1: now in this day and age, Instagram's as much of
Speaker 1: a dating site as Tinder or a hinge. There's one
Speaker 1: called Hinge now, which you know I did go on
Speaker 1: for all of four hours.
Speaker 2: But I yeah, look, I mean I definitely dabbled in
Speaker 2: the world of online dating. Dabbled is probably an understatement.
Speaker 2: I was well into online dating for quite a while
Speaker 2: before before meeting Matt, but I didn't look. I mean,
Speaker 2: I had some long term relationships out of it, but
Speaker 2: they were both my most difficult and my most flawed relationships.
Speaker 2: So I don't know whether I really met anyone that
Speaker 2: was even potential for dating.
Speaker 3: True. Am I dating my sister Sherry.
Speaker 2: We were on this round the world trip together and
Speaker 2: she actually met her now partner, which I think they'll
Speaker 2: probably get engaged this year, but Sherry blockiers.
Speaker 1: But they met on Tinder in Scotland, So I just
Speaker 1: think that's a great story and he's an amazing person.
Speaker 3: They have an amazing relationship, and I know actually a
Speaker 3: lot of people that have had success. Absolutely. I we
Speaker 3: said that I have some horror stories that I could
Speaker 3: share with you guys.
Speaker 2: Well, I can't wait to get into the horror stories
Speaker 2: later on, unless you want to share one of them
Speaker 2: with us.
Speaker 3: Now, Oh my God, No, that's a Tipic continued, Yeah,
Speaker 3: let's not cover off everything on the first episode. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: So I think before we wrap this up, I want
Speaker 1: to know about you because this could be the last
Speaker 1: time we speak to you when you have a baby
Speaker 1: inside of you and not in the real world.
Speaker 2: Yeah, look, this will be the last time. I'm hoping
Speaker 2: that you had a contractions over there right now. Actually,
Speaker 2: last night last night was really hard. So I've had
Speaker 2: a really great pregnancy so far. I've really I've actually
Speaker 2: really enjoyed it. I feel like one of those obnoxious
Speaker 2: pregnant women who are like.
Speaker 3: Pregnancy is great and anyone, I.
Speaker 2: Don't know, it's Instagram filter's babe. But last night I
Speaker 2: couldn't sleep and I was having some pretty hectic practice
Speaker 2: contractions last night. So I was I was almost going
Speaker 2: to message you this morning and say we might need
Speaker 2: to reschedule and maybe giving birth.
Speaker 3: I mean, I was waiting for that call to But yeah.
Speaker 2: Look, life is going to change incredibly in a couple
Speaker 2: of weeks.
Speaker 1: And how instead of it changing there, how has it
Speaker 1: changed from when you do just finished as a couple.
Speaker 1: How is being pregnant changed your relationship is it something
Speaker 1: you have found has put more pressures on or has
Speaker 1: it made it?
Speaker 2: Has it better and strengthened your relationship? Yeah, look, reationship
Speaker 2: has definitely changed. Obviously, we got engaged whilst we've been
Speaker 2: I've been pregnant, which we congratulate.
Speaker 3: A little bit, thank you, Yay.
Speaker 2: It's a little bit back to front, but we we
Speaker 2: have always kind of danced to the beat of our
Speaker 2: own drum mat night and and you know, us getting
Speaker 2: pregnant at the start, it wasn't something that was it
Speaker 2: was planned, but we I don't know if if people
Speaker 2: have followed our journey at all prior to this, but
Speaker 2: we we I was pregnant. We had a miscarriage that
Speaker 2: was definitely a surprise. The miscarriage wasn't like we got
Speaker 2: to the ten week mark. We were both really in
Speaker 2: and really stoked and excited, and then we found out
Speaker 2: at ten weeks that that that was not viable. But
Speaker 2: that really changed our perception on when we wanted to
Speaker 2: have kids and when we wanted to start a family.
Speaker 3: And we went from being.
Speaker 2: Like, oh, we'll have kids in two years to being like,
Speaker 2: I'll screw it, let's see what happens. And within two months,
Speaker 2: not even a month, I was pregnant again. So I
Speaker 2: was really lucky that I got pregnant very quickly a
Speaker 2: second time.
Speaker 3: Definitely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And the pregnancy has been really great. It's changed
Speaker 2: our relationship massively. It has made us really really close,
Speaker 2: and it's made us really connected on what we want
Speaker 2: and where we're heading. So it's, you know, I think
Speaker 2: we've moved from that like, oh, we're boyfriend and girlfriend
Speaker 2: to very much we're starting a family. We're building something together.
Speaker 3: Which is forever. Yeah, we want to buy a home.
Speaker 2: We're investing in things that are that are ours, And
Speaker 2: I think that you know, anyone who's gone through that
Speaker 2: shift in their relationship, it's it's really brings you together
Speaker 2: and it really is sort of solidifies that you're in
Speaker 2: it for the long haul, which is a beautiful feeling.
Speaker 2: And you know, I do think that having a child
Speaker 2: together is more of a commitment than getting married, that's
Speaker 2: for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But you know, the funny thing is the hardest part
Speaker 2: so far about this pregnancy has been so I know
Speaker 2: that everyone sort of says, you know, people always have
Speaker 2: their opinions, but I'm really happy with people giving me
Speaker 2: their opinions because I don't I've never been a mom before.
Speaker 3: I don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2: I'm quite happy to take advice, but the one advice
Speaker 2: that's really been upsetting me lately has been based around
Speaker 2: how much work I'm still doing at the moment and
Speaker 2: my going back to work after having the baby.
Speaker 3: Because you do well, you.
Speaker 1: Run your own business, very successful business, but you don't
Speaker 1: really have that option or luxury I should say to
Speaker 1: take six months or a year off.
Speaker 3: No, well, that's just it.
Speaker 2: So, I mean, I run my own business with my sister,
Speaker 2: and it's impossible. When you run your own business and
Speaker 2: you are the sole person that's responsible for quite a
Speaker 2: big department of it, things.
Speaker 3: Don't just stop. You know. I can't just give myself
Speaker 3: six months maternity leave.
Speaker 2: And that seems to be the thing that's upset a
Speaker 2: lot of other young like so like early mums.
Speaker 3: So my friends.
Speaker 2: I've got some friends who have recently had kids, and
Speaker 2: when i tell them that I'm not really taking maternity
Speaker 2: leave and that I'll still be working from the laptop
Speaker 2: from home and I'll try to juggle it as best
Speaker 2: I can, they're almost bewildered. But to a point where
Speaker 2: they're almost offended that I'm not taking time off to
Speaker 2: spend more of it one on one with my child.
Speaker 3: As if you're not like, I'm not aversion of yeah
Speaker 3: a mother, and yeah, that's that's tough.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels very judgmental, and that's been the biggest
Speaker 2: thing that I've had to overcome. But me, Matt and
Speaker 2: I are really lucky in that Matt has a very
Speaker 2: fluid job as well, and so he is at home
Speaker 2: and he's very very hands on. He doesn't have a
Speaker 2: nine to five job to go back to, so he
Speaker 2: keeps saying he's going to be a stay at home.
Speaker 3: Dad, but you know, should probably be great.
Speaker 2: Essentially, we're going at this fifty to fifty and so
Speaker 2: I feel incredibly blessed. I have his support and I
Speaker 2: do have that flexibility to go back to work because
Speaker 2: work gives me so much purpose and it's really important
Speaker 2: to me. It's it's a huge part of my identity.
Speaker 2: And as much as I'm looking forward to being a
Speaker 2: mom and I want to be a mom, and I
Speaker 2: still will be your mom, I will be and I'll
Speaker 2: be a great mom. I'll be the best mum, this mom,
Speaker 2: this mom, oh the best mom. This kid's gonna have baby.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But I so that's been my most challenging thing so
Speaker 2: far is really dealing with other people's expectations on what
Speaker 2: my maternity.
Speaker 3: Leave should look like and their criticism of that. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And I think women these days, we are having children later,
Speaker 3: and we are becoming more independent, and we are taking
Speaker 3: our children to work, and it's nice to change that
Speaker 3: stigma and not have it a negative thought that, oh,
Speaker 3: you have to go for six months and stay at
Speaker 3: home in your house and never see the light of
Speaker 3: day again.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I actually went to this really interesting talk recently, the
Speaker 2: CEO of Adore Beauty.
Speaker 3: I cannot remember her name off top of my.
Speaker 2: Head, but she spoke about being a CEO and being
Speaker 2: a mum, and she talked about how she juggles it
Speaker 2: by not but she only does jobs that add value
Speaker 2: to her relationships or to her business. So for her,
Speaker 2: she was like, you know, cleaning isn't something that adds
Speaker 2: value to her time with her children, so she has
Speaker 2: a cleaner. Obviously, she's lucky that she earns enough money
Speaker 2: and has that potential that she can do that, but
Speaker 2: you know, she has segregated her life in a way
Speaker 2: where she's able to prioritize the things that add value
Speaker 2: to her relationship and the things that don't. She delegates,
Speaker 2: and I really want to try and implement that as
Speaker 2: best I can.
Speaker 6: Not a good delegator, I'm getting better at delegating, but
Speaker 6: I can delegate the bits of my life that don't
Speaker 6: add value to my relationship with Matt, or my relationship
Speaker 6: with my children, or my relationship with my job.
Speaker 2: So for me, I think that that's the best part
Speaker 2: of it is that if I can get other people
Speaker 2: to do the add hot bits and pieces that take
Speaker 2: up a lot of.
Speaker 3: Time, then essentially I'm still going to be a good mum.
Speaker 2: I'm still going to be very present and be able
Speaker 2: to be there for the sport, be there for the
Speaker 2: nappy changes, be there for the cuddles. But I don't
Speaker 2: have to be there necessarily for the cleaning or the
Speaker 2: cooking or the other things that you know, become part of.
Speaker 3: Day to day life.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, and I think that is not to give you
Speaker 1: a big head or to your horn, but that's pretty
Speaker 1: inspiration it No, it's inspirational what you're doing. You're working hard,
Speaker 1: you're literally giving birth any day you're still working out.
Speaker 1: You know you're going to go back and run your business,
Speaker 1: and you have enough respect for your partner Matt to
Speaker 1: be a stay.
Speaker 3: At home dad.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of women worry about that, that, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe the man is not going to really know what
Speaker 1: to do.
Speaker 2: It hard and that will be amazing. He won't be
Speaker 2: a stay at home dad, and that he still has it.
Speaker 2: He has a lot of lot to do, but that
Speaker 2: he will be very hands on and Matt's always wanted
Speaker 2: to be a dad and so he will thrive in
Speaker 2: that environment. He's an amazing uncle. And and yeah he
Speaker 2: I mean he's gotten more into the nesting than I have.
Speaker 2: He's cute, done the whole house. I mean, I did
Speaker 2: see the undies. He bought you the old bridge at Jones.
Speaker 3: I think he likes him too. I reckon he does
Speaker 3: as well. Mad. If you're listening, you need to get
Speaker 3: a life.
Speaker 7: No look, and I I feel I feel like we've
Speaker 7: covered a lot today and today just so everyone knows,
Speaker 7: this will be a podcast about all things love, relationships, life,
Speaker 7: last just a general reality TV and obviously reality TV.
Speaker 3: Because Laura is the other half of this podcast. So well,
Speaker 3: I was never going to slip that by her.
Speaker 1: But we did sort of talk a lot today about
Speaker 1: our bachelor experience and our dating history, because we do
Speaker 1: want to set that up for everybody. But this will
Speaker 1: not be a podcast about us and about just the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: So I'm looking forward to the next few weeks. We've
Speaker 1: got some really good topics we're going to be talking about,
Speaker 1: and obviously Laura will be back with a baby, so
Speaker 1: I'll be commenting on life as a mum. Hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll be talking about my horrific dates and you'll be like, well,
Speaker 1: I got vomited on this morning.
Speaker 3: It's still in my hair right now. Makes the great hairspray.
Speaker 2: We said we were going to finish all of these
Speaker 2: episodes with our suck and sweet for the week, which
Speaker 2: is basically our highs and our lows. So come at me, babe,
Speaker 2: what was your highs and your lows for this week? Okay,
Speaker 2: So I think it's important we always start with a
Speaker 2: suck first. You know, my suck this week was probably
Speaker 2: to be honest, and this is, you know, not a
Speaker 2: really big thing, but I have had no time this week.
Speaker 2: I have been running around like a chicken with its
Speaker 2: head cut.
Speaker 3: Off.
Speaker 1: I just got back from Byron Bay really late last night.
Speaker 3: Oh it sounds so difficult. It was work. It was
Speaker 3: working Byron. It's such a suck.
Speaker 1: I told you this is going to sound bad, but
Speaker 1: I just haven't even had time to scratch myself. And
Speaker 1: that's not a bad thing, but it's the worst thing
Speaker 1: that's happened to me this week. And my sweet was
Speaker 1: probably I just signed on with Beautiful Minds, which is
Speaker 1: the only government funded organization.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I love this. Tell me about this, Britay. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, they're the only government funded organization that will go
Speaker 1: around and speak to girls young boys as well. I'll
Speaker 1: only be speaking to the girls age from you know,
Speaker 1: eleven up to seventeen, and we go to schools, we
Speaker 1: do workshops and we speak to them about just growing
Speaker 1: up in today's society and body confidence and social media, bullying,
Speaker 1: loving yourself. There'll be things about sexting, suicide, depression, everything.
Speaker 1: So it's really important that we're getting these girls in
Speaker 1: a really good headspace and setting them up for life
Speaker 1: after school.
Speaker 2: I love that you're doing this, and I love that
Speaker 2: this is a conversation you're bringing into schools. But you
Speaker 2: you haven't quite started this yet or it's very new.
Speaker 3: I've just spoken, had my meetings with them, and I'm
Speaker 3: just signing on. So it's amazing.
Speaker 2: You've been an ambassador for anti bullying and I'm excited.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's great. But what about you? What's
Speaker 3: what's your second sweet for the week.
Speaker 2: Look, I'm pretty immobile at the moment, like, oh my
Speaker 2: fucking sweet, Um, what sucked this week?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean you just got your coffee or to
Speaker 1: mix up three times?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm going to complain so hard about
Speaker 2: the cafe downstairs.
Speaker 3: No I'm not. I'm not going to name and shame.
Speaker 3: Could you imagine?
Speaker 2: But they did take twenty five minutes to bring me
Speaker 2: my coffee, which I ordered to take away, which is
Speaker 2: a long time to wait for takeaway, and then it
Speaker 2: came out as the wrong coffee, and then I had
Speaker 2: to wait another fifteen minutes for the right coffee.
Speaker 3: That's a long time to wait for it.
Speaker 1: But then they brought it back in a mug. I
Speaker 1: was supposed to be taway. It was the whole thing,
Speaker 1: so that I don't even think that was my suck.
Speaker 1: That was just a very unfortunately, very drawn out part
Speaker 1: of my morning. I think my suck for this week
Speaker 1: has been.
Speaker 2: Like I'm I guess, the uncertainty around the pregnancy and
Speaker 2: like the bur Yeah, a little bit of that, a
Speaker 2: little bit of anxiety, a little bit of fear. I
Speaker 2: think that comes into the whole headspace of pushing out
Speaker 2: a small human out of a big human, out of
Speaker 2: a small.
Speaker 3: Hole and just trying to get my head around and
Speaker 3: says that's well, apparently I'm not the first person to
Speaker 3: do it. I'm the first time I'm doing it, so
Speaker 3: it's a big deal for me.
Speaker 2: You're aloe, So yeah, I think that that that I
Speaker 2: have had a little bit of, Uh, I wouldn't say it.
Speaker 2: It's not anxiety, but just a bit of concern. It's
Speaker 2: been keeping me up a bit at night. Apprehension, Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I think it's also the excitement of it as well.
Speaker 2: My suite for this week Matt is home. He had
Speaker 2: been traveling for quite a while. He's been recording and
Speaker 2: filming an exciting project for himself. But he's been away
Speaker 2: for three and a half weeks, which was really difficult
Speaker 2: being this late in my pregnancy and him not being
Speaker 2: around so his home he has been the dream trying
Speaker 2: to set up a house and that's been really wonderful.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I think the fact that we're having a
Speaker 2: baby next week, well, let's end this.
Speaker 1: On you have zero idea what you're having, boy or girl,
Speaker 1: but let's just call it.
Speaker 3: What do you think is going to be? All right?
Speaker 3: Because this is it, you'll have a baby any day?
Speaker 3: Drum roll.
Speaker 2: I feel like we need to take debts on this. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm going to pick before you. Okay, go, I'm going
Speaker 2: to say.
Speaker 3: Boy.
Speaker 1: I'm just going to go a boy. Although you're very
Speaker 1: like quite small in compact, so.
Speaker 3: I also think I'm having a boy.
Speaker 2: So we can just like Patti Shop's back if we're right,
Speaker 2: and if we're wrong's.
Speaker 3: Just stop podcasting at the end. Yeah, don't looking to
Speaker 3: anything we say.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, guys, thank you so much for tuning in
Speaker 2: to our very very first episode. I'm sure we will
Speaker 2: figure out what the hell we're doing as we continue
Speaker 2: down the path.
Speaker 1: Oh I hope so, but to be on, my cheeks
Speaker 1: are hurting. I've had a smile on my face the
Speaker 1: whole time, and.
Speaker 2: I think you have good You've been looking at me, well,
Speaker 2: I am looking at.
Speaker 3: You exactly but yeah, thanks for tuning in.
Speaker 1: We can't wait to keep talking to you over the
Speaker 1: coming weeks, months, and potentially years.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're going to be dropping a podcast every fortnight
Speaker 2: is what our aim is at the start, so.
Speaker 3: Especially while you get your head around baby life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so tune in and we look forward to talking
Speaker 2: to you again real soon.
Speaker 3: Have a great week. Okay, thanks bye,