WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - HELP!!! Binge drinking, porn and dirty cheating dawgs 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:22.040 Hi guys, and I'll welcome back to another episode of 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:27.200 Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I don't know why that was funny. 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:29.880 I'm Brittany because we've already done this episode like three 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:32.280 times or the start of this episode, and every time 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:35.239 I've tried something different. This is our short, sharp and 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:38.120 sexy little episode where we answer you're deep, dark and 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:41.040 burning questions. It's a Thursday, it's us gun Cut day. 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:43.880 It feels a little bit strange because we've actually recording 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:45.360 this a little bit ahead of time. And by a 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.320 little bit, I mean a few days. Usually we are 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:50.280 scrambling around trying and keep our head above water, bringing 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:52.760 these episodes the night before, because that's just how we've 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:56.120 rolled from day one. Our motto at Life Uncut, and 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.160 this has just become like the unofficial motto. We're gonna 0:00:58.160 --> 0:00:59.880 get stuck on some T shirts that just Brittany and 0:00:59.880 --> 0:01:03.240 our where it is we thrive in chaos. Mine's also 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:05.759 risk it for the biscuit. But yeah, we do thrive 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:07.440 in chaos and I do risk it for the pussy. 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:09.520 And do you know why we're recording this early. I'm 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:10.960 going to tell you I have a little bit of 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.400 like pent up resentment and fear that I'm going to 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:16.039 be left alone and lonely. Britt, as you guys know, 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:19.600 is going overseas, but she's actually going overseas very very soon. 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.600 And this is the last episode that we're going to 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.959 be recording face to face in the same room. Yeah, 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:26.720 it's oh, I didn't even know where to start. I'm 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:29.240 super excited obviously to go and see Jordan. It's been 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:32.160 a couple of months now, but I haven't really let 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.840 myself be that excited. We have had so much to 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:37.760 do in order for me to go, like and I 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.880 just need to say thanks Laurifa, like helping me out 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:42.720 on that since it has been manic. I'm talking like 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:45.640 driving chaos, waking up at seven and putting our phone 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.960 back down at midnight, recording all day, doing business, doing 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:51.560 everything for this to go. And it's everyone's like, are 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:53.120 you excited? I'm like, not really, I just need to 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:56.000 get through the next week. I have wild anxiety about everything. 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.080 The reason why we've been working over time to be 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.560 able to bank some really amazing interviews with some really 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:03.640 really awesome people, and they are going to be still 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:05.800 coming out. We didn't want to have any time. Okay, 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:07.960 we're having like a midyear break, which is like standard 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.639 that we didn't want to have any unscheduled time off 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:13.160 the podcast, and we know that maybe remote recording might 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.000 have its own challenges, so we just wanted to be 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.560 super super prepared, which is very unlike us. But look 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:19.799 at us being all adulty. But when we say we're 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.240 having a midyear break, guys, we will still be releasing content. 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.840 It just won't be like the regular content. So don't 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:28.519 just like shit for lolls. It'll be just Lola Derby is. Yeah, 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.720 accullently unfiltered story. That's where we're gonna be at. Have 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:33.080 your panel already, shull probably need it. Did you just 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:37.560 say that's my new one? Also, like I am gonna 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:41.000 scum like my poor child Lola is just who's Lola? 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:44.239 You mean Lolla Derby? Yeah, Like I've just ruined my child. 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.040 I know that I really got Stubb and I dug 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.560 my heels and I was like, no, I don't care 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:50.240 if Britain's gonna call her Lollodoby. I'm just gonna keep 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:52.120 calling her Lola and I'm gonna name my child that 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:54.400 and that's gonna be it. But now you guys all 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:57.440 message me DM, me, and everyone calls a Lola Derby. 0:02:57.480 --> 0:03:01.600 It really hurts my soul. She loves I get messages 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:03.680 to his hope Little Derby's okay, and I'm like, she's 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:05.640 doing fine. She's just riding a Loller coaster. So you 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:07.679 know that this episode is where we answer all of 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.720 your questions. Thank you to every single person who has 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:11.519 been writing in. We pick out the ones that we 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:13.240 think we can add value to, that we think are 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:15.760 the most relevant, that you guys could maybe empathize with 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:18.959 or get something out of, and we have picked our 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:20.680 I don't know if I can say favorite, because that 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.320 sounds really weird. We have picked three questions for this episode, 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.360 and are we gonna get into it. Before we do 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:27.680 get into the questions, I just wanted to say something funny. 0:03:27.680 --> 0:03:29.760 I wanted to read out something funny. I'm just gonna 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.320 paraphrase it. I got an Instagram DM, I love it 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:34.320 when you guys slide on in And it was from 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.640 a listener she had. I don't know if you guys 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.080 remember if you haven't listened to last week's Ask Uncut. 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:41.440 There was a question that came in about should or 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:46.400 shouldn't a woman by her husband for their anniversary viagra, 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:48.760 and we were a bit like, oh, I don't know 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:50.640 if it would be if he would take that as 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:54.560 a bit offensive or anyway. Also, we received so many 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.440 responses on Instagram from people who work in the medical industry, 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.720 who are pharmacists or who like whatever whatever they do. 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.600 They're people who actually know what they're talking about people. 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:07.160 And the response to that question was that you cannot 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.040 just go in and buy viagra, which I think most 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:11.280 people know that, but if you want to get viagro, 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.080 you have to actually get a script, which means that 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.920 the partner can't go and get him viagra anyway, He's 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:17.520 going to go to the doctors and get her himself. 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:19.159 It also means even if you tried to go and 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.400 do that, the poor guy's going to have a recdulltysfunction 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.880 on his medical record. But it doesn't have itually. There's 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.240 like some black market out there. Look, we're not dorsing, 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:31.840 don't do that. Silk Rode deep Whip. No. We were 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:35.040 talking about in that conversation and Laura was talking about 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:36.880 something that Matt had said. She went and asked, Matt, 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.600 what do you think you know Matt was like, oh, 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:40.400 you gotta be ready to go to Poundtown if you're 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:43.760 going to get viagra. So this woman wrote in saying 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.800 she just picked her kids up from piano lessons, very 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.679 innocent piano lessons. They get in the car and Life 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:56.040 on Cut playing that episode, don't play Life uncut around. 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.720 As soon as they get in the car, they heard 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:01.720 you saying, well, you've got to be ready to go 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:04.839 to Poundtown. The five year old daughter in the backseat 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:08.640 pops up, pas Hey, Mom, where's Poundtown? That sounds wild? 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:12.400 She goes, dumb, that's a pleas that you don't need 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:15.880 to visit for a very long time. Poundtown is wild. 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:18.640 You're not going to Poundtown for quite some time. Girlfriend? No, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:22.880 like fifteen years plus? Surely? Well, I mean twenty whatever, 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.360 sixteen seven. I don't know how old are people these days? Well, 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:26.680 I think they're get younger and younger. I think it's 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:29.240 a chicken. Have you seen how old younger girls look? Now? 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:30.919 Do you say? I think it's the chicken. It's like 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:35.880 the hormones chicken. Haven't you seen these young girls? Now? 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.000 And guys, I did not look like sixteen year olds 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.080 look now. When I was sixteen. Let me. I was 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:43.200 like at thirteen, I was walking around a hypercolor T 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:45.360 shirt that changed color depending on how hot or warm 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.520 I was, And I had a pair of fluoro fucking 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:50.800 bite pants. Also, like the other thing, everybody used to have, 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.440 like branded teeth, like Billibong was cool or like I did. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.840 Everybody had like branded T shirts. I will never forget 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.720 being thirteen and going to a surf shop and I 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:00.400 was like, Mum, I really want that tea shirt and 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:02.279 my mom was like, laur it's a T shirt. I 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.039 can make you a T shirt. And we went home 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.479 and my mom fucking sewed me a T shirt. My 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:09.200 mom did and they put a decal on the front 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:13.719 from Spotlight. That's what I wore to Mufty day at school. Honestly, 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:18.040 it's really expensive, like a T shirt back then, sixty 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.279 seventy dollars for one T shirt that you wear ones 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.640 you're a kid, you will ruin it. Add that to 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.960 four kids, Like looking back, there's no way do you 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:27.560 know what I used to do? When I look at 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:29.280 a thirteen and fourteen year old now and they've got 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.960 big boobs, they've got makeup, they've got beautiful hair, they've 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:37.440 like had extensions designer clothes. I used to do every day. 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:41.120 I did that thing where you would twist your hair 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:44.400 into hundreds of twists in little circles and put butterfly 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.520 clips on them. I had I reckon. I could fit 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.720 one hundred five flight clips in my hair, and that's 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:51.279 what I wore to school. That's it. That's literally the 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.560 teenager that I was. Yeah, but that's the teenager you're 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.240 supposed to be. That's Shit's character building, that gives you 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:59.200 a personality. Imagine every time I see a twelve year 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:01.800 old walking around hair assassin vites, I'm like, you will 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:05.120 not be funny. You have no stories to tell. There 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.600 is nothing dysfunctional about your life. You've got too much 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.360 shit together. I still don't have sassinbid jeans. Actually, Laura 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:12.520 and I were talking about this last night too, Laura 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:15.160 Sheridan and myself. We were like, this is the ship 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:16.960 that you do as a kid that actually gives you 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:19.000 stories and makes it funny when you're older, and it 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.240 really really is character building. Like if I was walking 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.400 around in designer clothes as a teenager, I would have 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:25.680 no stories to tell, no butterfly clips, no stories. Well, 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:28.120 I mean like far less relatable stories to tell. But 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:29.760 the one thing we were talking about last night, and 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.680 I feel like all of the older listeners are gonna 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:33.800 get this. Mean maybe some of the younger ones will 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:35.440 as well, But I don't think it's quite such a 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.400 fat at school these days because there's a bit more 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:40.559 of a health style rating in primary schools. And okay, 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:43.560 do you guys do not remember Devon? Like just Devon 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:46.800 on a sandwich. I don't think parents would send us 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:51.280 to school white bread, butter, Devon and sauce. That was lunch. 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.640 It was pretty lit because you don't know what it was. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.480 Devon was like a loaf, like a big loaf of 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.800 meat that came like it was a log of meat 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:02.040 and you just had to cut your slabs and then 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.960 you splattered it on your bread with sauce. It was delicious. 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:07.679 It was like really low grade hand but one step 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.960 above spam. That's all we're talking about, and that's what 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:11.960 we all ate for lunch as kids. But anyway, do 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:13.840 you know what this is not a trip down memory lane. 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:16.520 We need to get into the questions. Shout out to Devon. 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:21.120 This episode is brought to you by Devon. That's not 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:26.240 sponsant devon, don't add us. Okay, let's get into some 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.720 questions here we go. Okay, girls, I have this friend 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:32.280 that loves to party, but it seems every time we 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:34.120 go out, she's getting more and more drunk, to the 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.720 point where she's falling asleep and can't walk or talk. 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:38.960 It's getting to the point where I'm starting to resent 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.200 hanging out with her because she gets so drunk I 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.360 have to carry her home. Like last night we went 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.360 to a football game. She got so blind that we 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:47.360 had to sit and rest and recovery for two hours 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.600 so she can sleep it off, and then peed her pants. 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:52.040 The taxi wouldn't even take her. We had to get 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:54.320 the cops to help transfer her into the car. I 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.120 took her back to my house because I was so 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:57.920 scared that she was going to choke on her own vomit. 0:08:58.000 --> 0:08:59.600 And I woke up this morning and she wet the 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.400 bed too. It's just getting progressively worse and worse, and 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.000 I don't know how to bring it up that she 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:07.520 needs some serious reevaluating the way she drinks. And I'm 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.960 not saying this happens once in a blue moon. It's 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.600 like every time we drink she's getting black out drunk. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:15.000 I'm worried for her safety. I'm worried for her health, 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:16.680 and I just don't know how to talk to her 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.120 about it. This is a I want to say, this 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:21.360 is a tricky one, but it probably actually isn't that much. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:25.120 It does sound like your friend, unfortunately, actually has a problem. 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:27.400 It's not that she's maybe just partying a little bit 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:29.199 too hard. It sounds like she's doing it all the time, 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.880 every time. But also, like I think, anybody who's getting 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.479 to a point where they're blackout drunk and that's the default, 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:36.960 you have a problem. Yeah, she's got to reassess her 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.160 baseline of what is a normal night out. If your 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.959 normal night out is blackout drunk, and that's for a 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:45.840 multitude of reasons, that's a it's not healthy, it's not safe, 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:49.000 but it's also a really big inconvenience to the people 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.120 around you. And I guess that's something that she hasn't 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.320 actually considered that her doing that isn't just her. It's 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:56.319 affecting you, guys. You have to take your night out. 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:58.400 It's spend hours looking after and making sure she's okay, 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.160 worrying about us, stressing about us, so I think there 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:04.360 definitely needs to be a conversation that's had well. I guess, 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.160 like there's so many parts to this, and I've spoken 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.120 a little bit before on this podcast about alcohol abuse 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.400 and it's something that I actually genuinely really care about it. 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:13.120 And I don't in any way think that I was 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:16.679 an alcoholic when I was younger, but I definitely drank 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:19.520 too much and I definitely put some of my relationships 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.640 at risk because of the way I behaved when I 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.880 would drink. And I look back on that now and 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.600 now I know, like, I never ever want my relationships 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:29.719 to suffer because I'm partying too much. And I think 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:32.360 about this girl, and I'm like, there is a misconception 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:34.880 in Australia, and I think there's a misconception around young 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:38.440 people that you can only be an alcoholic when you're older. No, 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:40.680 you can be an alcoholic when you're in your twenties. 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.280 You can be an alcoholic in your early thirties. Being 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.120 an alcoholic doesn't have to mean that your life is 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.160 falling apart around you. What it means is that you 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:51.000 have a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol and you struggle. If 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:53.439 you're in this social environment where there's alcohol, you always 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.280 take it too far, and there's so many ramifications from that. 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:59.120 But I think when people start to realize that actually 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:02.040 maybe they're an alcohol it's when it's taken such a 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.600 huge toll on all their relationships and it's affecting their work, 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:07.720 and it's affecting all these other facets of life that 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.240 they then will acknowledge that they have a problem. You 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.280 need to sit down with your friend and have a 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:15.079 really genuine heart to heart and explain to your friend 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.679 one what they're doing, because if they're getting black out 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:20.360 drunk that they don't remember everything, they need to be 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:24.000 made fully aware of their behavior, which hopefully in their 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:27.280 conscious state, they will be quite embarrassed by. And also 0:11:27.280 --> 0:11:29.240 if you do know the triggers, if you go out 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:31.439 to certain venues or you do certain things at nighttime, 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.400 that that's going to be environments where she's going to drink. 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.200 If you guys are all drinking around her, that she's 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.920 going to be drinking more. I think creating an environment 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.840 or doing things with your friend that don't necessarily involve 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:43.320 alcohol as a way of deterring her. And I'm not 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.679 saying that you need to avoid it. In all instances, 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:49.239 but having a really honest conversation with her saying I 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.640 don't want to be around you when you're drinking. It 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.240 is such a burden on us. And not only a burden, 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.720 but also I am worried for your safety. I'm worried 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:59.080 for your health. And the person that you are when 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:01.040 you're drunk is not the person that I want to 0:12:01.080 --> 0:12:03.720 be friends with. I really think she needs to be 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:06.559 made very, very aware of how this is going to 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:09.719 impact her relationships and for me and for like, when 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:11.600 I was in my twenties and I was getting white 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:14.199 wine wasted and I was, you know, drinking too much 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:15.600 when I was out with my boyfriend at the time, 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.280 and he would say to me, oh, like, I hate 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:19.000 the way that you behave when you're drunk. I hate 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.000 when you do this. It was only when he really 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.640 started to explain to me what my behavior was like, 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.680 and then other people would say, yeah, you said that 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.280 or you did that, that it made me realize, Holy fuck, 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:31.199 I don't want to be that person. I don't want 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:34.280 to ruin my relationships. And now I'm really really conscious, like, yes, 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:35.920 I still love a glass of wine. I'll have a 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:38.480 glass of wine when I cook dinner, I am very 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:40.719 conscious about how much I drink. Now, there's a lot 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:42.640 of points in there. There's a lot. I was like, 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:45.439 what do I get to first? I literally agree with 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:47.720 everything that you said. I, on the other hand, I 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:50.679 can't relate that much because I never have had a 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:53.440 drinking problem. I was probably the opposite my long term 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:57.000 relationship when I was the eight year relationship, he didn't 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.520 drink at all. He was like an athlete to have 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:02.560 someone in life that's so healthy. And he was older 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:04.480 than me, so he was like my influence. That's who 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:06.280 I hung around me, So I didn't really drink. I 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:08.559 also wasn't around people that were like that. I think 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.240 that my group of people growing up, we were all 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.400 the same. We're all really healthy. We're all into surfing 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:16.920 and bike riding and just being active and getting up 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:18.400 at the crack of daw And so I haven't had 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.720 the experience with trying to help a friend through this situation. 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:24.480 But like Laura just said, sometimes people need to be 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:28.079 made aware of just how severe the problem is if 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.480 they're not realizing it on their own, and if you 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.840 don't have a sit down and say as a friend 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:34.960 and like a loving chat. You want to be their 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:37.240 supporter because something is obviously going on in her life. 0:13:37.280 --> 0:13:39.600 You just need to say, hey, like, I'm not sure 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:42.720 if you're aware of what actually happens when you go out, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:46.040 because she might not. She might think it's not nearly 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.440 as bad as what it is. Another point I really 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.640 like that you said, Laura is that you don't have 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.640 to be old. It's a common misconception that alcoholism is 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:56.040 something that comes when you're older. And with all these troubles, 0:13:56.360 --> 0:14:00.480 there are a lot of really young, very inspirational, famous people, 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:03.320 actors that you probably don't know, but that are sober. 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:05.839 And I remember reading something recently. I know Lucy Haley is, 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:07.960 I know Zach EFRONI is he's been sober since like 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:12.160 twenty thirteen because they literally said I wasn't a good 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.000 person when I was drinking, and I didn't want to 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:15.320 be like that. I didn't want in the world to view 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.079 me like that. And I think that that's really great 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:20.640 to take inspiration from people that are looked at to 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:23.360 be very inspirational. And I guess the gold standards someone 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:27.200 like Zach Efron's just like young, hot, successful, beautiful. I mean, 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:29.200 Kayla it seems that we've had her on the podcast, 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.320 she's exactly the same. She hasn't had a drink in years. 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:33.800 I don't think she's actually ever had a drink. From memory, 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:35.440 Oh yeah, she's never had that's right. I think she 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:37.840 had had it, tried wine and didn't like it. Definitely 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.080 a product of your environment. There's a good chance that 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.840 your friend struggles with social anxiety. The only reason why 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:44.840 I would drink too much when I would go out 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:48.960 was because I thought I was like funnier or louder, 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.080 or more entertaining, or like I had more confidence once 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:53.640 I'd had a few drinks. But I just didn't know 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.680 where that end stop was. Did you get drunk through 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:59.280 the Bachelor? Throughout the Bachelor process? No, I was pretty 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:00.760 good in the Bachelor. There was only like one or 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:02.840 two nights, one or two cocktail parties where I probably 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:04.760 had too many drinks because it had kind of dragged 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:06.560 on a bit too long and it was more so 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.440 help me. Yeah, like it was still it was like 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.560 three in the morning, and we you know, there's nothing 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.520 to do except have a few glasses of wine. By 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.520 then you're kind of like mixed with tired and alcohol 0:15:14.560 --> 0:15:16.520 but when we filmed The Bachelor, I was thirty one 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:19.280 years old, like I'd already kind of lived that life 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.280 and I already knew the person I was when I'd 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:22.520 had a few too many wines and I was like, 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.240 I'm not fucking doing that on National TV. Same. I 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.560 just think alcohol is such a it's such a big 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.840 topic in Australia, and I really do think that we 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:33.040 have such a binge drinking culture here that we glorify 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.440 and we still think it's really fun to go out 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:38.320 and get really wasted. But Australia is the worst. As 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:41.480 someone that's traveled the world, Australia is literally and I 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:44.160 am very patriotic. I love Australia, but we are probably 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.840 the worst for binge drinking. It's almost this thing ingrained 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:48.880 in us that that's the cool thing to do growing up, 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:50.320 and then it's not until you're a little bit older, 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.280 but you realize it's not that cool. The last thing 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:55.520 to think about if anyone does have a friend or 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.320 is in a situation that's very similar, it's really important 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.080 that maybe you create situations for self that aren't going 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.560 out and getting drunk. So instead of all catching up 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.760 at a bar, or going out for the night, be like, Hey, 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:08.160 let's catch up for lunch and a walk, Let's go 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.760 play cricket in the park. There's like a thousand things 0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:12.920 you could do. Let's go to the cinema, Like, you 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:16.160 could do anything other than creating the environment that allows 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:18.160 that to happen. So that's another food for thought. But 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:19.960 I think we've covered that all right. Let's hit me 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.880 with the next question. Have you ever watched porn with 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.200 your partner? What are your thoughts on it? Ways to 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.240 spice up sex life? My partner and I have been 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.480 living together for nearly three years. I want to know 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:34.080 how to spice up the sex watching the sex, watching 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:35.840 The Bold Type. I love that. I hope you're watching 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:38.040 that because of our reco watching The Bold Type, they 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.560 talked about watching porn together. I think it would be awkward, 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:44.000 but would love to hear opinions and options. Have you 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:48.240 ever watched sex with a part I don't watch sex 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:50.640 with a partner. Have you watched porn with a partner? Yeah, 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.720 I have. It doesn't really do it for me, but 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.160 porn doesn't really overly do it for me anyway. We've 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:57.560 spoken about that before. For me, it's not my thing. 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.200 But I also didn't find it awkward, So why did 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:01.480 you watch it if it's not your thing? Was it 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:04.200 for them want to try it? I'm open to try 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:05.800 lots of things, and I was like, well, how do 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:07.359 I know if I don't like something if I don't 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:10.439 try it. It wasn't that it was awkward by any means, 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:12.919 but it just like, I don't find the need. It 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:15.600 doesn't add any value to my sex life, and I 0:17:15.640 --> 0:17:18.760 would probably try other things than watching porn. But what 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.600 I want to say for you is I hope that 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:24.240 after three years with your partner and you live together, 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:26.520 so I hope that after this time you wouldn't ever 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:28.679 feel awkward in a situation like that. I hope that 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:30.960