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Speaker 1: We are so excited to have John Akin in the studio,

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Speaker 1: as we always are. Season thirteen, Have Married at First

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Speaker 1: Sight begins Sunday seven point thirty on nine.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, good morning.

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Speaker 1: You know I can't as.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we had a big function last night and they

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Speaker 2: showed the first episope.

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Speaker 3: I saw you hadn't seen, Okay, you.

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Speaker 2: Know it comes up the greatest episode, So the greatest show,

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Speaker 2: that's what they're saying. And I'm thinking that.

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Speaker 3: Was bigger than a Hollywood trailer.

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Speaker 2: It was mass, very glossy, and then I buckled up,

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Speaker 2: and I've got to say, I'm not sure whether it's

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Speaker 2: the greatest series, but it's certainly one of the spiciest.

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Speaker 2: We have a lot of storylines this year that we

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Speaker 2: haven't had before, which is one of the things about Maps.

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Speaker 2: It always throws up different talking.

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Speaker 1: Points, different talking points. It always throws up different buzzwords.

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Speaker 1: Each year comes with the buzz. I think one year

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Speaker 1: it was gas lighting, and might I add that most

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Speaker 1: people used it wrong. This is this year, I believe

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Speaker 1: the word is boss babe, boss babes, which yes, we.

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Speaker 2: Has a collection of them, Yeah yeah, yeah, en Mass,

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Speaker 2: We've got six of them. They came together at the

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Speaker 2: Hen's party, and they just decided, we are going to dominate,

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Speaker 2: control and overpower anybody that comes in our way. So

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Speaker 2: whether it was the husbands they were matched with, whether

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Speaker 2: it was other women that stood up to them, or

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Speaker 2: particularly whether it was the experts. They would say to me, John,

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Speaker 2: I know what you're doing. You're trying to silence a woman.

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Speaker 2: Another man trying to silence a woman. We're not going

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Speaker 2: to have it.

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Speaker 1: Did Were you doing a bit of man's planning?

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Speaker 2: I was just calling it. I was calling them for

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Speaker 2: their language. Yes, I don't refer to people like that

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Speaker 2: or speak to them or treat them like that. And

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Speaker 2: they're like, don't try and silence me, John, I don't

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Speaker 2: know what you're doing. Is that the way to find love?

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Speaker 1: You meet them before, obviously, because you're hooking them up

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Speaker 1: with the you know, making the decisions, the connections. Did

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Speaker 1: they show any signs or is it when they get

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Speaker 1: on masks?

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Speaker 2: That's right. So about two weeks in usually the masks

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Speaker 2: come off and their true selves come out, And so

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Speaker 2: we wanted empowered women on the show. But what we

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Speaker 2: didn't know is that they would come together and there's

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Speaker 2: collective and then try and basically overpower everybody. So at

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Speaker 2: times it got very high school less.

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Speaker 1: There's more sometimes you can get.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And what I learned through this is that words

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Speaker 2: are very powerful and language can really make or break

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Speaker 2: a relationship, whether it's a friendship or particularly an intimate relationship.

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Speaker 3: So they like that as a group, But what about

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Speaker 3: when they have to split off, you know, separately by themselves.

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Speaker 3: Can they can they keep that act up or is

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Speaker 3: it just a front?

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Speaker 2: No? No, they don't surround it. You know, that's that's

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Speaker 2: who they are. You're going to see it. It's very raw,

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Speaker 2: and it's very blunt and at times, particularly confronting, makes

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Speaker 2: it hard for love. But we do get love in

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Speaker 2: the show. We do have a springling of love with

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Speaker 2: some of the couples, but they really they got their

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Speaker 2: work cut out because the boss babes come for them. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: they don't like seeing happy couples.

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Speaker 1: Are they aware of the show they signed up for?

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Speaker 1: Is you know, be a happy couple? Aspire to be

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Speaker 1: a happy couple.

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Speaker 2: I think one of the sources of the show is, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: the people that come on our show really aren't aware

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Speaker 2: of themselves and how they are in relationships and what

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Speaker 2: they do wrong. And so one of my roles is

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Speaker 2: to call it out and hold a mirror up. The

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Speaker 2: question is whether they listen or not, and this year

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Speaker 2: there wasn't a lot of listening. There's a lot of walkout,

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Speaker 2: storm outs, a lot of colorful language.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, it is interesting because a lot of

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Speaker 1: the people that you see on the show, they so

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Speaker 1: sincerely seem to want to actually have a relationship when

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Speaker 1: they're in their very early interviews with you, Yes, and

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Speaker 1: then they do they seem like different people once they're

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Speaker 1: in the reality of it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's kind of the frailty of human nature.

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Speaker 2: They think they know who they are, but actually, under

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Speaker 2: pressure in an experiment, their real person comes out. And

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Speaker 2: you know it's I mean, they might say to me,

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Speaker 2: I really want commitment, but two weeks and they're like, actually,

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Speaker 2: I'm scared of commitment.

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Speaker 1: It's what they want to want, I think, but unfortunately.

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Speaker 3: Lisa wants it to go well, but not too well.

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Speaker 2: You won't be disappointed.

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Speaker 3: One thing that you did say last night, and I

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Speaker 3: know everything is under wraps and everything, but one thing

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Speaker 3: you did say last night, it was actually a question

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Speaker 3: from the room. Someone said about dating trends now, and

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Speaker 3: you said that there is a dating trend and it

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Speaker 3: was a bit, it was a bit concerning.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: One of the one of the girls on the show

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Speaker 2: is very much influenced by TikTok and she she when

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Speaker 2: I asked her about what sort of guy she's looking for,

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Speaker 2: she said, I want someone to make me feel baby pink,

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Speaker 2: baby pink, baby pink. Yeah, And I'd not heard that before.

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Speaker 2: And I said, well, what sort of guy will do that?

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Speaker 2: And she said, he's got to be a blue guy.

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Speaker 2: And so again I must have looked very confused in

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Speaker 2: front of her, like me, and she said, well, if

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Speaker 2: you get on TikTok John and type of blue verse

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Speaker 2: pink jobs, you're going to see a lot of women,

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Speaker 2: thousands and thousands of them, running their relationships according to

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Speaker 2: blue and pink jobs. So a blue job is taking

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Speaker 2: the trash out, a pink job.

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Speaker 1: Is making it like last year's tradwife sort of.

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Speaker 2: And they've kind of decoded it into a color. And

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Speaker 2: people run their entire relationships on blue and pink job.

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Speaker 2: That'll go well, exactly, and they can't cross over. So

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Speaker 2: she said, I'll go to my care and I'll pick

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Speaker 2: the furniture out. That's a pink job. But he's going

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Speaker 2: to buy it and then take it home and put

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Speaker 2: it together. That's a blue job.

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Speaker 3: But there's also this thing of they just look for

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Speaker 3: not just the things that are right with the other person,

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Speaker 3: but go for the things that are wrong, rather than

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Speaker 3: just look for the things that are right. We'll work

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Speaker 3: on the rest.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's like.

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Speaker 3: They just look for reasons to night.

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Speaker 2: So Russell, the thing there is that you're you've got

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Speaker 2: a curious mind, whereas a lot of our participants don't.

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Speaker 2: They have no curiosity. They really just have a very

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Speaker 2: black and white view of relationships, which is blue. They're

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Speaker 2: right and everyone else is wrong.

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Speaker 3: Right, God, this is going to frustrate. Something new in

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Speaker 3: the mix.

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Speaker 1: Here is the after the dinner party show that's going

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Speaker 1: to be on Stan which I love the idea of.

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Speaker 1: That's going to be a nice little dinner party nightcap. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's I think it's juicy, it's fresh,

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Speaker 2: it's different. Jules Lund Old School Channel nine. Yes, host,

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Speaker 2: he'll be there with the Life Uncut girls Brittany and Laura. Yes,

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Speaker 2: and they will be along with myself. We'll be doing

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Speaker 2: essentially a deep dive into what you've seen at the

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Speaker 2: dinner party that night. But it'll be sort of a

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Speaker 2: talk show type of format and behind the scenes elements,

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Speaker 2: and you'll have my insights and also some of the

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Speaker 2: participants that were involved in that particular night will come on.

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Speaker 2: It will come on and be interviewed.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you for your service for coming

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Speaker 1: back once more, even though some of these people must

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Speaker 1: have tested your po Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. After watching a dinner party this year, I'd

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Speaker 2: have to come home and wash the noise off me

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Speaker 2: and take a shower.

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Speaker 1: Yes, party sometimes, but I cannot wait. As always seven

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Speaker 1: thirty Sunday or nine it all begins Season thirteen. Love it,

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Speaker 1: buckle up, and I make no apologies, no thanks guys.

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Speaker 3: Thank you John