1 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:10,039 Speaker 1: The Will and Woody podcast. 2 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 2: My Date Night with my Beautiful Wife. 3 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 3: It's almost ruined last night because of one thing that 4 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 3: restaurants are doing. 5 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 2: And gee wiz, does it get up my goat? So 6 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:21,240 Speaker 2: beautiful restaurant. 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 4: I think it gets your goat. I don't think it 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 4: gets up your goat. 9 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 2: Gets my goat. It gets up my goat and that 10 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 2: expression it's doing something. 11 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 4: Bad getting up a goat, mate, Well it gets up 12 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 4: a dog. Get a dog up, yeah, potentially, but there's 13 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 4: no goat getting anything up. 14 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 5: Well. 15 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 2: The point I'm trying to make is it does negative 16 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 2: things to me that makes me angry. 17 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 3: So basically, we sat down and we're reading the menu 18 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:41,240 Speaker 3: and we realize. 19 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,480 Speaker 2: That this is one of those restaurants that does share food. 20 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 3: My beautiful wife looks at me and she says, hey, 21 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 3: do you want to share food during the meal. And 22 00:00:49,840 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 3: whenever she says something like this, this song comes to mind. 23 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 6: I won't will I won't do it. It is the 24 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 6: most frustrating thing that can happen at a restaurant, the 25 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,559 Speaker 6: idea of sharing food. And I'll tell you why, because 26 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 6: the food comes out right and you know, you don't 27 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 6: known that food that's not yours that is now share food, 28 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 6: that is now share food, and you are constantly thinking, okay, 29 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 6: am I being selfish by having too much? 30 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 3: And you live with that guilt. Maybe I've taken too 31 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:32,680 Speaker 3: big of a portion. Shit, I have taken the leg 32 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 3: of chicken? Was that rude of me to take the 33 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 3: whole leg of chicken? Alternatively, you deliberately hold back, and 34 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 3: then at the end of the meal you're a bit 35 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 3: pissed off because you don't think you got your fair share. 36 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: You never nail it. 37 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 3: Whereas if I order a meal for me and I 38 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 3: eat that entire meal, I'm a happy boy. 39 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 40 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 2: Now, try and. 41 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 3: Defend sharing food, because I think I've perfectly canvassed that 42 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 3: it's just a shocking thing to well. 43 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 4: I think some people would say that sharing food is 44 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 4: arguably the best partner with the definitive part of sharing 45 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 4: a meal. That's that's probably why sharing food is so good. 46 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 4: It brings people together. 47 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 2: That we're together. She's sitting six inches away. 48 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 4: You're sharing something, so you bite commune. Do you think 49 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 4: the fact that it does sound a lot like and 50 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 4: I don't want to put you in therapy here, but 51 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 4: it does. I won't do it. I promise I won't 52 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,080 Speaker 4: bring up you, mum, But I think that share like, 53 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 4: I do think that that that this probably says more 54 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 4: about you than it does about the sharing of the food, 55 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 4: doesn't it. No, No, it does, or the fact that 56 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 4: you're so concerned about what people think about you that 57 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 4: you're not sure whether you should take what's actually yours. 58 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 2: Now, Okay, that's a fair point, like to continue down 59 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 2: the show. 60 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 3: Not really, Well, a lot of people would be like me, 61 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 3: and I think there are a lot of people listening 62 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 3: right now that feel the same stress that I feel 63 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 3: when the share food comes at? 64 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 2: What What should I appropriately. 65 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 4: Thin that could happen if somebody thought that you took 66 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 4: a little bit more. 67 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 3: If I'm in a group environment, other couples would go 68 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 3: home and go did you say, would he had the 69 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: three serves of the lamb? 70 00:02:58,840 --> 00:02:59,799 Speaker 2: But surely when they're. 71 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 7: All on me? 72 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 4: Surely when you look at a shareplate like what I 73 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 4: look a shareplate and let's say how many people that 74 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 4: are within the group, I just divide what I see 75 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 4: with my eyes into the amount of people that are there. 76 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 4: So I'm like, okay, well there's you know, there's six 77 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,119 Speaker 4: pieces of lamb, there's six of us, that's a piece each. 78 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 2: It's always a bit sometimes it'd be a bit confusing. 79 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's like sometimes you know what you've got on 80 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:22,799 Speaker 2: your face? What's on my face? 81 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 4: A mouth? Right? And then you open that up and 82 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 4: you go, okay, guys say, look, we might be one 83 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 4: less here. Does any want to go halves with this 84 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 4: final piece of lamb with me? 85 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 2: But I don't look like and they're being too nice 86 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 2: if they say yes, did. 87 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 4: You really mean it? 88 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 7: Ye? Problem? 89 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 4: The problem? 90 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 3: You know, I want to put it out there. Thirteen 91 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 3: one oh six five is the number? Where are we 92 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 3: at with sharing food at restaurants? 93 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 4: You've also got a pathetic mustache on your face? 94 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 2: What right? 95 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 7: Now? 96 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 4: We're just in general. We were at a gastro pub. 97 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 4: I know the pub you were at. It's a fancy pub. 98 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 3: No, I didn't realize your flashing there, and I didn't 99 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 3: think fancy pub meant we share our food. And it 100 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 3: just it frustrates me because I just get stressed. I'm 101 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 3: either stressed about feeling guilty of taking too much or 102 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 3: I'm a little bit annoyed that maybe I don't think 103 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 3: I got my fair share. 104 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 4: And as I said, you in the song just there, and 105 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 4: you know that my remedy for this is just order 106 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 4: too much. 107 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 2: Okay, now I've got to rebuttle to that. 108 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 4: Order a lot of share plates. 109 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 3: I'll get that, but sometimes I won't over order because 110 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 3: I'll be like, maybe there's some people here that are 111 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 3: gonna be uncomfortable with how much money I'm spending. 112 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,160 Speaker 2: Or then more often than not, I'll go, let's get 113 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 2: three of the chips, and someone someone at. 114 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 3: The table is going to go, oh, I don't think 115 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:30,599 Speaker 3: we need three, And then it's like, well, I'm going 116 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 3: to be watching you like a. 117 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 2: Hawk, and if you have a lot of chips and 118 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 2: I'm going to be. 119 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 4: Bringing you're not going to bring it up, though I 120 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 4: will in the car with my wife sixty five brook 121 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 4: you on the way in. 122 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:44,039 Speaker 8: Yeah, I do. 123 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 9: I'm so all about hating shared too. 124 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 2: What's what's your what's your main beef? Mind the part 125 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:49,679 Speaker 2: with sheer. 126 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 9: For well, it's literally like I don't want to look 127 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 9: like a pig if half of the plate or more 128 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 9: than half of the plate is left, and like I'm 129 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 9: like hungry, but I feel guilty about eating it because 130 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 9: then I'm like, look it like a faddy. Or but 131 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 9: I just want my. 132 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 2: Money's worth one hundred. 133 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 4: I hear that, thanks for the call reason cover solid 134 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:10,479 Speaker 4: food puns in there. We can keep them going. 135 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 2: Let's go to Delize. Here, am I saying your name correctly? Delease? 136 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 2: You are outstanding? What are your thoughts on share for Delease? 137 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 10: If I know it's a share restaurant, I'm open to that, 138 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 10: if that's the choice that I've made. But we actually 139 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 10: have some really lovely friends. But if we go to 140 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 10: a share restaurant, we all share, but they don't but 141 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 10: they share with each other? 142 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 4: What or. 143 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 2: How do they bring that up? How do they how 144 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 2: do they bring that. 145 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:41,919 Speaker 10: To the I can remember the first time we all 146 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 10: went out together. Okay, right, we're all going to share. No, no, 147 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 10: you guys organize what you're going to share, but we'll 148 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 10: just order our own that we're going to share with 149 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 10: each other. 150 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 3: What about a bite would you get? Would you get 151 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 3: a bite out of that couple? 152 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 10: It's really funny because that particular time we did our 153 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 10: own thing, as I've just said, and then I think 154 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 10: one of the other couples somebody left something on their plate, 155 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 10: so they left home and went, you're not eating that. 156 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 10: I'll have that it. 157 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: Sounds like a terriby. 158 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 4: Does it annoy you? 159 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 7: Why? 160 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 4: Why does it annoy ever around so much? 161 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 7: Like? 162 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 4: Why does that annoy you so much? Realise I feelt 163 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 4: this is a little bit late, Like. 164 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 10: Me, I've been brought up. If you go out and 165 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 10: you all are sharing, you're sharing the point. 166 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:28,720 Speaker 2: Of sharing the bill gets hard. 167 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 3: Will let's be honest, Like if the couple have done 168 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 3: their own thing over in the corner there and haven't 169 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 3: engaged in the share, and I can't believe I'm arguing 170 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,480 Speaker 3: for sharing you now, but I just like fairness at 171 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 3: the end of the day, feels what are we doing 172 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 3: with the bill? 173 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 4: Like, well, that's that for me, that's a fifty to fifty. 174 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 4: That's delease and her squeeze go go half and then 175 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 4: the others go half. She don't mind that because we 176 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 4: were saying this song that there is a difference between 177 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 4: sharing with your partner and sharing with the group. 178 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: I think you can be more honest with your partner 179 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 2: as well. 180 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, if if I felt like Mim took 181 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 3: more than half, I think we're at a stage in 182 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 3: our relationship, Rubb be comfortable to say, hey, put a 183 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: wing ba. 184 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 4: I'd like to think. I'd like to think, so, oh 185 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 4: you see you just check with him? What it's a 186 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 4: quick tally in semini. There's a very quick time. You 187 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 4: look down it at the first I go, I go 188 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 4: three h It's an honesty system, you know. When there's oysters, 189 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 4: you look up and you go you've had You've had two, 190 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 4: haven't you? 191 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 2: And you can see the shells are there, the chicken 192 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: wings is eyes. 193 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 3: Oh my god, I've got a boneyard here, gott to 194 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 3: throw them on the floor. 195 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 4: Let's go. 196 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 3: Let's go to Sam here, Sam, what are your thoughts 197 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 3: on sheer food? 198 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: Shemy doesn't share a fruit? 199 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 4: Guy, I don't know why I'm reading this story, but look, 200 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 4: let's on surface value. There's a bloke who's recorded his 201 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 4: nineteenth climb of Mount Everest. 202 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 2: Why would you bother doing it nineteen? 203 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 4: Like you've done it nine nineteen times. He has climbed 204 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 4: the twenty nine thousand feet to get to the top. 205 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 5: Of it fresh. 206 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 2: It's very impressive. 207 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 4: But I have a lot of God to have a 208 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 4: lot of time on his hand. 209 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 2: Do another mountain? 210 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 4: Yeah? 211 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 2: Like just surely like there's more new experience to do it. 212 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 4: In the mountaineering game, so I get this story and 213 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, good on him, you know he's that's 214 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 4: just great. And then I read further down that it's 215 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 4: not that he doesn't even it doesn't even hold the record. 216 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 2: Who's done it more than not. 217 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 4: He's the nineteenth time for the he holds the record 218 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 4: for the non sirper category. Yeah, it just seems ridiculous. Well, 219 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 4: he doesn't even have the record. 220 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 2: Why create that? 221 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 4: Are we doing that? 222 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 2: We're all human beings. 223 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 4: I've ever heard good on you? Mate? 224 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 7: Why? 225 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 4: Why do why does a white person get a separate 226 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 4: category just because he's got enough money and time to 227 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 4: go on? Anyway, blame producer Georgia. She sent me the story. 228 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 4: I thought it was really cool. The other thing I 229 00:08:56,800 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 4: thought that was really obviously race a whole lot. Anyway, 230 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:02,959 Speaker 4: the other thing I thought was funny about this guy. 231 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 4: His name's Kenton Cool. He was just absolutely outrageous. But anyway, 232 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 4: the actual shirper that holds the record, he's done it 233 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 4: thirty one times. 234 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:13,319 Speaker 2: I'll cop that Kenton. 235 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 4: Ridiculous story, but it was funny. I asked you before 236 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 4: the song, how many times do you think the record 237 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 4: is for climbing everest? Right? And you said five or six, 238 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 4: five or six, which just kind of proved to me 239 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 4: the something which I believed for a long time but 240 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 4: only kind of like crystallized for me when I read 241 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 4: this story. And that is, if you're going to brag 242 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 4: about something cool that you've done, or particularly if it's 243 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 4: a physical feat, stop using numbers to justify it, because 244 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 4: often people on the outside don't know the metrics. If 245 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 4: you talk to somebody, if you're into cricket or you're golf, 246 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 4: you play a lot of golf. Stalking about the handicap, Yeah, 247 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 4: you are so far on the outside. Captain Poop Pount's 248 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 4: arap walks in there every day or what are we 249 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 4: calling him now? Yeah, it'll and he rolls in and 250 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 4: he's like, guys, got my handicapped out and we don't 251 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 4: know what you're saying. 252 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 2: Seventeen point five a much, you've gone to a decimal point, 253 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 2: You loser, It. 254 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 4: Just doesn't matter, you don't And you kind of stand 255 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:21,560 Speaker 4: there and you go like, I don't know what I mean? 256 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 10: Is that good? 257 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 2: To be honest, is that good? 258 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 4: Or is that I'd say it's okay, but who cares? 259 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 2: Yeah? 260 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's even like when but this can be across 261 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,559 Speaker 4: you know, people when they do their fun runs doing 262 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 4: producer A rely said a fund run recently. The time 263 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 4: we are we have water that way in what world? 264 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 4: Did the hours and the hours and minutes mean anything? 265 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 4: I just don't know. 266 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 1: Yah. 267 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:42,680 Speaker 2: Do you ever do it? 268 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 4: Do you ever? 269 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 2: Do you ever find yourself? 270 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 4: I can find myself to it, yeah, only occasionally. Yeah, yeah, 271 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 4: I found myself doing it before. In the airlock. Actually, 272 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 4: I was getting asked about my swimming. 273 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 2: It's interesting you mentioned that because you've got to record. 274 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 4: That's what I was getting asked about. 275 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 2: It didn't take much, well, it did not. 276 00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 4: What do you ask me? 277 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 2: Mudge like, we barely brought it up and you go, my. 278 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 4: Friend, do you ever raise people in the lane? 279 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:05,839 Speaker 7: Next year? 280 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 4: What do you think if there's anyone in front of 281 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 4: me in my lane? Is my commission to mow that down? 282 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 4: T care flatstream an extra five hundred meters? Love it? 283 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 4: So if I get the sense of they're not to 284 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 4: sixty second fifty, I'd probably assume like a thirty second pig. Well, 285 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 4: I'm not coming from the people's spread out and touch 286 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 4: are the people who block up and they're not. 287 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:26,439 Speaker 2: Nor mistiamers and they go. 288 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 4: Oh, I'm going to go on to them ak and 289 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 4: a half today, put my twenty five flaps in. You 290 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 4: shouldn't be in the pool. The quick lane is for 291 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 4: the people who are swimming two o'clock. Are dissimming sense, 292 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 4: How do you know that you are doing quite a 293 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 4: time myself, because I've been fifties on a forty five, 294 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:47,959 Speaker 4: So I say, I'm gonnasume fifty meters every forty five seconds, so. 295 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 2: You get fifteen seconds rest if you punch. 296 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 4: Out the field, so I gets harder and harder over 297 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 4: the fourth of ut tenth. You didn't end there, my friends, 298 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 4: some moments where you just want the earth to swallow 299 00:11:59,000 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 4: you up. 300 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 2: You didn't to end there. 301 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 4: Just six sprints at the end, like sprinting at the end. 302 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 4: Total two k. 303 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 5: That'n't gonna trying to be in a warm up two 304 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 5: hundred minute And remember and. 305 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 7: I love that. 306 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 2: Very impressive. I have myself so much too impressive. 307 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 4: Oh, you guys, that is such a trap. 308 00:12:22,720 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 2: And we all knew, we all knew it. 309 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 4: Was just so easy to You can't question me about 310 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:31,480 Speaker 4: that stuff. That's not fair. That's not fair. I hate 311 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 4: all of you. Will end woodies, all right, So the 312 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:42,439 Speaker 4: quiz is up next, right now though thirteen one and 313 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 4: six five? Do you use language in your workplace that 314 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 4: people outside your work just wouldn't understand? Give us called 315 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 4: thirteen one and six five. So the way we're gonna 316 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 4: do this is people going to use the lingo and 317 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,679 Speaker 4: then firstly we're going to try and keep the conversation going, 318 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:01,719 Speaker 4: and then we might be able to try and guess 319 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 4: where that lingo is from, what profession that lingo is from. 320 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 3: So I'm up first, I reckon ema, hello, crack into 321 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 3: your lingo in your profession that you think only you 322 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 3: and your colleagues would know. 323 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 11: All right, So today we have two hundred packs. 324 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 7: We have no. 325 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 11: APU shall be attached to a GPU for the day. 326 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 3: I'm trying to think, did you want to borrow some 327 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 3: gp us from me or you coming? 328 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 7: Yeah? 329 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 11: Yeah, I think there's just one of them probably available. 330 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 11: Do you think that you're in a position to give that. 331 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 3: To us to you by c O B? Can I 332 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 3: have some of your tp us though? Can I trade 333 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 3: you a TPU for a c g U? 334 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:52,440 Speaker 11: I'm not just not sure what that one is because 335 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 11: we use that at my job. I don't know about yours? 336 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,200 Speaker 4: Do you do you keep the un c g U 337 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:58,319 Speaker 4: is it? 338 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 11: Would you like a hint for what? 339 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 7: Yeah? 340 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 2: You said hang on packs? You did batteries. You work 341 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 2: in batteries. 342 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 8: Incorrect? 343 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 2: Pass Three of the packs are babies and one of them. 344 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:18,719 Speaker 11: Need some assistance. 345 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 2: Are your nurse? 346 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:21,040 Speaker 8: No? 347 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 11: Incorrect? 348 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,239 Speaker 4: Three of the packs of babies. 349 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a zoologist? 350 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 7: Yeah? 351 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 11: Oh yeah, exactly not wrong? 352 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 2: Wrong again? Right, So you don't work You're not a zoologist. 353 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 11: No, this is very embarrassing for you. 354 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:41,120 Speaker 2: Are you? 355 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 8: I'm not a vet. 356 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 11: No, I don't work with animals. 357 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 4: Three packs of babies? Are you talking formula? 358 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 12: No? 359 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 11: But that's I guess that's. 360 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 7: No. 361 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 11: I'm trying to think of another word for you. 362 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 4: What are you doing? 363 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 11: Flight attendant Passengers AP an airpack unit gives you the 364 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 11: air conditioning on the plane. 365 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 8: Wow, I know. 366 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 4: In PAX like they're using the restaurant game. 367 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 13: Yes. 368 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 4: Wow, that was really confusing. 369 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 2: So well done, Emma, well done with zero. 370 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:22,080 Speaker 7: Wow. 371 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 4: This is going to be really hard. Then we're going 372 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 4: to learn something though. All right, Jen, welcome to lingo bingo. 373 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 4: You used so please just let's just kick it off 374 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 4: with the language that you use in your workplace, and 375 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 4: we're going to try and keep the convo going. 376 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 14: Okay, today I used fifteen fractions of gray with eighteen 377 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 14: percent of the posterior. 378 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, beautiful, fifteen fractions of gray with the with 379 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 4: the with the fraction on the posterior on the posterior, 380 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 4: was it there, Gin? 381 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 7: Yes? 382 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 8: Yeah? 383 00:15:55,400 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 4: Interesting? Oh I personally use fifteen fractions of white earlier. 384 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 3: Yes? 385 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 4: Does that sound about right to you? 386 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 14: No? No, not really? 387 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:14,920 Speaker 4: Okay, Jen, So I prost you. I'm guessing there's something 388 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:19,840 Speaker 4: to do with anatomy there. Maybe. Are you a radiologist? 389 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 2: Close body painter? 390 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 7: No? 391 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 14: Definitely not a body painter. We do, we do do 392 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 14: tattooing where we are lasering? 393 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 2: You're a laserer? 394 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 14: No? 395 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:37,239 Speaker 7: No, definitely not you do tattooing. 396 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 4: Do you work in prosthetics? 397 00:16:40,840 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 14: Definitely not? 398 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 4: Oh gosh, but I was close with radiology. 399 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 7: You work close cat scanner. 400 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 4: It's the flight attendant, No joke, Jenna? Where Jen? What 401 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 4: are you working? 402 00:16:58,000 --> 00:16:59,119 Speaker 14: Radiation oncology? 403 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 4: So what's the grays? What's the gray thing there? 404 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 14: That is the dose of the radiation that the person 405 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:11,480 Speaker 14: is receiving when they come to us, And fifteen fraction 406 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 14: means that they're having fifteen doses of the gray and so. 407 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:19,120 Speaker 2: On the posterior. It's just you're going from behind. 408 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, good one woulds bring that one home with 409 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 4: the bank. One of the great joys of life is 410 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:38,320 Speaker 4: watching somebody over the age of sixty thrash something about 411 00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 4: because they're frustrated with it. Old people beautifully unafraid to 412 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:45,400 Speaker 4: break things when they're angry at them as well. It's 413 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:47,959 Speaker 4: a lost art as far as I'm concerned. The rock 414 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 4: rock stars don't smash guitars anymore. Woods they used to. 415 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 4: It was great. It was a great bed. It was 416 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 4: a great bed. 417 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 3: So we've got healthier dealing with our emotions these days. 418 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:58,399 Speaker 3: But the boomers have held onto the I don't like 419 00:17:58,440 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 3: dealing with emotions, so I just smashed the. 420 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 4: Want to take it out on an animate object. 421 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 2: It's more entertaining to watch. 422 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:05,159 Speaker 4: So I've got a great story here, thirty one and 423 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 4: six five years a story about a boomer breaking something 424 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 4: in anger. I've got a great story here about and 425 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 4: this guy, by the way, before I go into the story, 426 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:13,880 Speaker 4: the guy that we're talking about, he was on the 427 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:20,440 Speaker 4: council of this this Midwest town, right random, This seven 428 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:24,639 Speaker 4: year old girl takes her drone for a flight. I 429 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 4: think she gets a drone for a birthday, beautiful sunny day. 430 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 4: She's in the middle of nowhere, you know. I think, 431 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,120 Speaker 4: you know, she might have got the gift from charity. 432 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 4: I imagine she's an orphan. She's flying the drone out, you know, 433 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:39,919 Speaker 4: just enjoying the sunshine, when all of a sudden, the 434 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:46,400 Speaker 4: drone takes two twenty two shotgunflience. 435 00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:48,640 Speaker 2: Got shot down. Her drone got shot down. 436 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 4: She manages to fly the drone back to her house, amazing, 437 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 4: but it's badly damaged. It's been hit by a shotgun. 438 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 15: Yeah, yeah, yeah. 439 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,920 Speaker 4: Anyway, they do a little bit of a. 440 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 2: Do it got the footage. 441 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 4: They do a little bit of a scope of the area, 442 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,720 Speaker 4: and they find they find this guy, Peter, who's, as 443 00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 4: I said, he is a shy counselor. Peter. They find him, 444 00:19:10,960 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 4: They find him. They go to his gun cabinet. There's 445 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:17,679 Speaker 4: two two live twenty two caliber rounds which have been 446 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 4: shot very recently. 447 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:21,199 Speaker 3: Peter, what do you reckon Peter was doing in his 448 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,720 Speaker 3: backyard to be so embarrassed that he had to shoot 449 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 3: down the drunk. 450 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 4: He's in the Midwest of America. Made, I reckon, that's 451 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 4: just what they call a nice afternoon. So he's sitting 452 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 4: out there with his gun, and it turns out he 453 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:35,360 Speaker 4: shot the drone. Shot the drone out of this guy. Yeah, 454 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:39,800 Speaker 4: great shot. He went on. He went to court for it, 455 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 4: and he said that he was authorized to shoot pests. 456 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:48,200 Speaker 4: Not bad but peter, which is a closing Boomer defense, I imagine, 457 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 4: because let's face it, all Boomers treat drones as pests 458 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 4: and they will never understand that. But that doesn't mean 459 00:19:54,760 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 4: that you can shoot it with a gun. So A said, 460 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,520 Speaker 4: I do think there's a wonderful stories if you've got 461 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 4: a good one that comes to mind. My four year 462 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 4: old teacher, sorry, my year four teacher, missus Smith. She 463 00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:16,439 Speaker 4: she good cover. She once. I remember the day that 464 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 4: she she threw a printer across the classroom, like one 465 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,360 Speaker 4: of those old school lady printers. 466 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 2: Yeah four, it's twenty five, thirty years ago, so that's 467 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:29,920 Speaker 2: that's a whopper, big printer. 468 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, strong old school laser. Yet there's the trunchport and. 469 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 3: She ripped the cord out of the wall, right, came 470 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:39,399 Speaker 3: with it, came with it court at all. 471 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 2: That's always funny. 472 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:42,159 Speaker 4: Well, I think the court. Yeah, the cord would have 473 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 4: stopped it a little bit, but she frisbee this thing 474 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 4: straight at Tali Thompson's head and lucky he darked because 475 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:52,439 Speaker 4: it shattered on the wall behind him. She threw a 476 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:56,959 Speaker 4: printer at a kid, would have killed him. Thirty six 477 00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:01,720 Speaker 4: fine her up there. I can't don't actually remember. I 478 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 4: think it was because he mispronounced the word ute. He said, oh, 479 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:14,919 Speaker 4: track ifrigerating. That's actually exactly what it was. You were 480 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 4: trying to get him say ute for the whole year. 481 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:25,919 Speaker 4: Very good, always good moments, the best. Nathan's killed, Nathan, 482 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:26,640 Speaker 4: This is your dad. 483 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 2: Are you whistling, Nathan? Sorry? 484 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:36,119 Speaker 4: Just enjoying the Neil Young? Were you Nathan talk to 485 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,240 Speaker 4: talk to his mate? What did a boom of breaking angle? 486 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 7: Man? Ah? 487 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 16: So it was about dinner time, about six pm. Yeah, 488 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 16: about a week straight off. Telemarketers calling it from the 489 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 16: landline phone watching TV and that was like fuck, f 490 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 16: this so my bad voice, my bad oh. 491 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,359 Speaker 4: And unfortunately Nathan has sworn, which means for you guys, 492 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 4: we're just gonna go to a quick message and then 493 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,479 Speaker 4: we'll be back on the other side with more calls 494 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 4: of what's a bit of breaking anger and we're back 495 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:12,520 Speaker 4: and I look, I am enjoying these cars. I feel 496 00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 4: like your dad would have broken a few things in 497 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 4: anger Woods surprisingly controlled with I think that is such 498 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 4: a tight ass. 499 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 2: Honestly, like he just overthinks like I couldn't possibly do 500 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 2: any damage to the house because quite. 501 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:28,480 Speaker 3: Because you're right, Like Dad seems like the kind of 502 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 3: person that I think. 503 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely doesn't want to do it. 504 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:33,879 Speaker 2: Absolutely. 505 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 4: I feel like it's going to be a classic Dad topic. 506 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 4: So thirty what it's excited? If you have got more 507 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:42,119 Speaker 4: calls like this, are we going to go back to Nathan. 508 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,080 Speaker 4: We're going to give him a second shot at the title, Nate, 509 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 4: do you want to give it another go, big. 510 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:47,880 Speaker 16: Fell Yeah, I'll give it one more shot. 511 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 3: No swearing though, Nathan, We're trusting you. 512 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 4: Your dad gets I'll take you to the place he 513 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:56,719 Speaker 4: gets bold calls to the telemarketers. Oh thanks, Nathan, it's 514 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 4: very sweety. But your dad. Let's just get to this 515 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 4: story here, Nate's day with me. Okay, see your. 516 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 12: Dad carry on dinner time, six pm, watching TV, decides 517 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 12: to get up with the phone out of the wall. Yeah, 518 00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 12: I think a good old tosh to learn one phone 519 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 12: ye to sling across the room. Oh, throwing off his 520 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 12: head and then yeah, that's. 521 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 2: Its standard stuff, Nate. 522 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 4: And I'm so glad we came back for that. Give 523 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 4: Nathan final a pillow because that, I mean the Nations 524 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:40,240 Speaker 4: waited thirty seconds through a dummy and that we did 525 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:42,520 Speaker 4: ask Gary Bee whether we should go back to Nathan. 526 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 4: We got the double thumbs up. 527 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 2: So that's just it's always a worry when someone finishes 528 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 2: the story. 529 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:52,880 Speaker 4: It's like, and that's it, right, Julie, Julie, we're taking 530 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 4: calls just to remind everybody what is a boomer broken 531 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,159 Speaker 4: and anger? Julie, what you got is your ex. 532 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 17: It was my ex husband and he couldn't get the 533 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:08,480 Speaker 17: lawnmower started, so he took took a hammer to its. 534 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 4: Particularly lawnmowers very very susceptible. 535 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 2: It's not starting. Sorry give you this, Julie, Like, so 536 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 2: hammer v. Lawnmark. 537 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:18,960 Speaker 3: Because the other thing which I find very funny about 538 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 3: boomers cracking it and trying to break things is when 539 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 3: they go to break it and they fail. 540 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 2: They don't realize how strong the lawnmowers. Like, did he 541 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,040 Speaker 2: beat the lawnmower, Julie? 542 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: He did he beat it really hard, And the funniest 543 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 1: part was I could hear the man next door trying 544 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:40,960 Speaker 1: to start his lawnmower, and of course that I've put 545 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,640 Speaker 1: my head out the door and I've just said to him, 546 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 1: I love I think the man next door needs to 547 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:46,320 Speaker 1: burrow your hammer. 548 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 4: Julie, I did, Julie under you're no longer together, Lisa 549 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,120 Speaker 4: on thirty when it's five. I love this. I love 550 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:58,679 Speaker 4: these just women just doubbing in their husband. Lisa, what 551 00:24:58,760 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 4: did a boomer break in anger? 552 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 7: Yeah? 553 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:06,920 Speaker 8: So, my husband's really competitive at golf and went through 554 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 8: a stage where he just couldn't handle losing against his 555 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 8: best mates. So every time he lost or wasn't happy 556 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 8: with his score, he would snap a club. My son 557 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,959 Speaker 8: also works at the local club where my husband plays, 558 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,679 Speaker 8: so I got him to organize that next time. They 559 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 8: went in a group to bad my husband from playing 560 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,720 Speaker 8: because I'm sick. Well, we're all sick of having to 561 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 8: pay for your club. 562 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 2: Brilliant, brilliant. How'd that go, Lisa? 563 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,720 Speaker 8: It was a bit of a joke, so they ended 564 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 8: up letting him on. But yeah, everyone got involved in it, 565 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:44,440 Speaker 8: just to teach him a lesson of bad sportsmanship. 566 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:48,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, good, lesson Lis to snap a golf club over. 567 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 4: It's pretty impressive, right. I would have thought maybe with 568 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 4: the carbon fiber ones it might be easier. Yeah, potentially 569 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,879 Speaker 4: Gilmore and. 570 00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 15: The big guy Benzy, Yeah yeah, yeah, that looks tough, Vicky. 571 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 2: He absolutely yeah. 572 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 4: I think there's a more lightweight these days. 573 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 7: Vicky. 574 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:22,920 Speaker 15: Well, if I'm a boomer, this is you something, Vicky. 575 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 13: I've broken a lot of things in anger, but technology 576 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,640 Speaker 13: that wear's missing. I just can't my fingers as small 577 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 13: as what I am. 578 00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,720 Speaker 7: I pressed the wrong buttons. I've smashed so many phones. 579 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 13: But I took to having a plate smashing cuppet, and 580 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 13: I've got it near my back door. 581 00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:44,480 Speaker 7: And what I do is I go. 582 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,040 Speaker 13: To a lot of op shops buy opp old plate 583 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:52,400 Speaker 13: just to smash, and when I'm really having a day, 584 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 13: I stand at the back door, open it up and 585 00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 13: I smash as many. 586 00:26:58,880 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 3: As I like. 587 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 13: Then later on I got to go and pick them 588 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 13: all up. So it's one of those things that you 589 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,480 Speaker 13: just can't keep banging head against the wall and you 590 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 13: keep bleeding. You know, you just got to keep trying. 591 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:14,480 Speaker 7: I guess. 592 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 4: She's got a plate smashing cupboard. Get his right, every 593 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,919 Speaker 4: time that you get frustrated with your phone, you go 594 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,320 Speaker 4: to a cupboard next to your back door full of 595 00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:31,520 Speaker 4: plates and you smash your. 596 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:43,159 Speaker 7: Plate, phone, kids, anything, Woods. 597 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:44,960 Speaker 4: It feels like there couldn't be a more point in 598 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:48,320 Speaker 4: time to be talking about mental health with the passing 599 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 4: of another cell would brother in the AFL recently last 600 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:57,440 Speaker 4: week it was it was really full on if you're 601 00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,119 Speaker 4: not across that obviously Troy cell would pass away and 602 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:05,840 Speaker 4: then Adam Selwood's twin brother most recently, and it's just shocking, 603 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:09,440 Speaker 4: and I think everybody is shocked. I think scared is 604 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 4: starting to be the word that sort of creeps in 605 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,600 Speaker 4: and around this at the moment. I'm suicide at this level, 606 00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:15,080 Speaker 4: I think. 607 00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 2: People might have had the same experience as me. 608 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,840 Speaker 3: When I saw the news pop up on Saturday, I 609 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 3: assumed there was a typo with the news because you know, 610 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,879 Speaker 3: that was months ago that Troy Sellwood passed away. But 611 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,800 Speaker 3: to think that his twin brother also goes months later, Yep. 612 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 3: It's really hard to put words to how devastating it is. 613 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, and almost nonsensical for people that on the outside, 614 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,240 Speaker 4: this is the you know, the great tragedy with suicide 615 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 4: with people on the outside who look happy, you know, healthy, 616 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,080 Speaker 4: have had a lot in their lives. They've been successful, 617 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,840 Speaker 4: they've known success, you know, they've got families. The idea 618 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 4: of ending your life prematurely seems like the most foreign 619 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 4: thing in the world, and yet tragically, for a lot 620 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 4: of these people in this position, that is the only opportunity, 621 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,320 Speaker 4: that's the only thing they have left to do, which 622 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 4: just doesn't make a lot of sense. And I think 623 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 4: it's worth exploring why and how people at that point 624 00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 4: get here, and hence how for everyone listening right now 625 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 4: you can think a little bit more about how something 626 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 4: like suicide might impact your life. Look, the lifeline number 627 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 4: is the ten eleven fourteen. If you want to talk 628 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 4: to somebody and you need to speak to someone right now, 629 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:19,120 Speaker 4: that's a great service we've got in Australia. We've got 630 00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 4: Hugh van Kyleenberg from the Resilience Project and The Imperfects 631 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 4: who joins us right now. Hugh, great to have you 632 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 4: back on, Will and Woody. So the reason we've got 633 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 4: you on today, obviously you've got a wealth of experience 634 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 4: in the mental health space. Anyone listening to The Imperfects 635 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 4: would know that. But specifically, You've worked with a lot 636 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 4: of elite sports teams, mate, could you give us a 637 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:40,640 Speaker 4: bit of a layer of the land there who you've 638 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 4: worked with. 639 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, guys, thanks for having me on. Yeah, it's so sad. 640 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 5: I just feel so sad today and have for the 641 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 5: last couple of days on this. But yeah, I have 642 00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:55,680 Speaker 5: been so so lucky to work with I guess like 643 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 5: twelve of the AFL teams, all of every one of 644 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 5: the NRL teams, everyone of the Ileague teams, Australian Cricket team, 645 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 5: men and women and materialism. But yeah, I just just 646 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 5: a lot and I do I do when I work 647 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,360 Speaker 5: with them. I mean they're like we see them on 648 00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 5: TV and they look physically they're so strong and resilient, 649 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 5: and you know, I do a lot of stuff at 650 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,200 Speaker 5: the Queens downstaud of Orizon team. You can't get a 651 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 5: stronger looking group of people. When something else happens, it 652 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 5: reminds you they Yeah, they're human like the rest of us, 653 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:36,200 Speaker 5: and they have their struggles. And I remember when the 654 00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 5: first of the twins passed away. I remember just looking 655 00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 5: at the folk of the family at the funeral, standing 656 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 5: there and I was just fixated on the other twins, 657 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,240 Speaker 5: I come and begin to imagine what that paint is 658 00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 5: and so yeah, to hear that news on the weekend 659 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 5: is utterly devastating. 660 00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, it really is, mate. 661 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 7: It's hard to talk about. 662 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 5: It's just so unbelievably sad. 663 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, what would your huge So if you were working 664 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 3: with a football club and not necessarily talking specifically about 665 00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,920 Speaker 3: the Selwood brothers now, but there's a player in that 666 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:10,120 Speaker 3: club who is struggling with their mental health and you've 667 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:13,080 Speaker 3: noticed that or picked up on that. What kind of 668 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 3: things are you doing with that player to work through 669 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:20,880 Speaker 3: that if they do have the elite sport to grapple 670 00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:21,720 Speaker 3: with at the same time. 671 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 5: But I can give you an example, and I can 672 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 5: talk about this because this player went actually he wrote 673 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,080 Speaker 5: an article about this that was in the paper. This 674 00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 5: is about five or six years ago now, so this 675 00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:35,000 Speaker 5: is not speaking without his permission here. But Charlie Dixon, 676 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 5: when I was at Port Adelaid Football Club, we would 677 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,520 Speaker 5: talk a lot about the battles he was having with 678 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:44,120 Speaker 5: his mental health, more specifically depression. And I remember saying 679 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 5: to him, who do you talk to a cub about this? 680 00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:50,200 Speaker 5: And he said no one, And I said, oh, why 681 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,239 Speaker 5: is that And he said, well, my role is to 682 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 5: be really tough and strong, and I don't want to 683 00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 5: appear to be not that way. And I said, if 684 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,680 Speaker 5: one of your teammates, if one of your teammates spoke 685 00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:00,960 Speaker 5: to you about the press, which you think that was weak? 686 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:02,360 Speaker 5: And he said no, I think it was very strong. 687 00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 5: And I said, wasn't it any different for you? And 688 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 5: he just kind of nodded and he just he could 689 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,080 Speaker 5: tell his understood. And over the next six months, he 690 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 5: wrote a letter through his teammates to tell them what 691 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,040 Speaker 5: he was going through, but also thanking them because they're 692 00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 5: the ones who kept him going the whole time. And 693 00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 5: I was there when he read it out to them. 694 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 5: I was there he read the letter out to them 695 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 5: to explain in detail what he was going through, and 696 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:24,400 Speaker 5: it was, to this day one of the most moving 697 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 5: things I've ever seen. I accidentally booked a very small room, 698 00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,719 Speaker 5: so it's a very tight quartism, and there were forty 699 00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,000 Speaker 5: men all hugging him at the end, and he said 700 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,440 Speaker 5: that was the start of his recovery. So it's a 701 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 5: long story, but I share that story because I do 702 00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,480 Speaker 5: think that being vulnerable and sharing what you're going through 703 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 5: is the only answer there. Because I think when you 704 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 5: send a message to the world, or at least the 705 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:49,920 Speaker 5: people around you, that I'm not coping, the world wraps 706 00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:50,800 Speaker 5: its arms around you. 707 00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:55,400 Speaker 4: For somebody who is struggling right now from your experience 708 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,040 Speaker 4: and all the stuff that you guys do on the 709 00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:01,680 Speaker 4: imperfects and stuff where vulnerability is breathe and cherished and 710 00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 4: loved and made into such a wonderful space. How does 711 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 4: somebody who listens to the imperfect or here's a story 712 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 4: just then about Charlie Dixon, when that language seems so 713 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 4: foreign to them. What's the first step somebody could maybe 714 00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:17,920 Speaker 4: take to start trying to crack their heart open a 715 00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 4: little bit and share a bit of the load. 716 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,000 Speaker 5: I would say, as the first step, I would say, 717 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 5: down what's in your head? Because I feel like saying 718 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,920 Speaker 5: go and see a health professional, go and see a doctor, 719 00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 5: or going people aren't really doing that. It feels like 720 00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:35,560 Speaker 5: such a monumental step. So I would say, very realistically, 721 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:39,080 Speaker 5: the first thing you could probably do is just right 722 00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:40,000 Speaker 5: down what is in your head? 723 00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 4: Right down? 724 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 5: How are you feeling right down? Why you think you 725 00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 5: feel like that? Writ down why you feel lost? 726 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 7: Right down? 727 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 5: Why you feel stuck, and when it's on the page 728 00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:50,200 Speaker 5: in front of you, just give it some time and 729 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 5: then just look at it and think, Okay, it's out 730 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 5: of my head. Who is someone in my life that 731 00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:59,000 Speaker 5: I could maybe start to talk to. Who's someone I 732 00:33:59,040 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 5: could I trusted? 733 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:00,360 Speaker 7: Love? 734 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 5: No, love me that I could say this stuff too, 735 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 5: Because when you start to share it, the end goal 736 00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:07,920 Speaker 5: we want is for people to serve a psychologists and 737 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 5: to say a therapist and work through it. But I 738 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,040 Speaker 5: mean the amount of families I speak to. I spoke 739 00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:14,839 Speaker 5: to a woman up in Mildua last week who has 740 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:18,359 Speaker 5: been through Her partner took his life when they were 741 00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 5: pregnant with their third child eight and a half month, 742 00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,000 Speaker 5: and she said she just didn't see it coming at all. 743 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 5: I think so often men will keep it all inside 744 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:28,920 Speaker 5: because they're just too afraid to talk about it. So 745 00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:30,680 Speaker 5: get it out of your head on the paper and 746 00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:31,799 Speaker 5: then who can I share this with? 747 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:33,480 Speaker 4: Hey a you hugh good advice? 748 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,000 Speaker 3: What are the signs to pick up on, maybe on 749 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,880 Speaker 3: if there's a man in your life, whether it's a 750 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,879 Speaker 3: friend or partner, Are there any signs you can pick 751 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,880 Speaker 3: up on to kind of kind of twig that maybe 752 00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:45,359 Speaker 3: they're not. 753 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:49,759 Speaker 5: Right sometimes, yeah, there are sometimes, but sometimes there's not. 754 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:51,440 Speaker 5: And I just for anyone listening who has lost someone 755 00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,279 Speaker 5: to suicide, you know you probably didn't miss anything. I 756 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,319 Speaker 5: think a lot of men are really holding inside. But 757 00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:01,440 Speaker 5: I think, you know, things like irritability or maybe a 758 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,800 Speaker 5: much shorter temper penny of my life. If you're listening, 759 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:08,680 Speaker 5: that's not me. I'm just enable to. But yeah, I 760 00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,920 Speaker 5: think a change of sleep patterns a really big one 761 00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,320 Speaker 5: as well. Struck struggling to sleep, feeling like they're a 762 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 5: bit more reclusive, a little bit more distant. They are 763 00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 5: other things, but they're not. It's not always, unfortunately, that 764 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,200 Speaker 5: owes it to spot. 765 00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,440 Speaker 4: No, that's the issue that's there. That's why this is 766 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:29,040 Speaker 4: such an epidemic. Is it's nearly impossible. It's a spot. Hugh. 767 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,840 Speaker 4: Thanks so much for joining us, Mate, and for sharing, 768 00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:34,839 Speaker 4: as always your insights and your wisdom. You can listen 769 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,480 Speaker 4: to you and the Imperfect podcast, so you can. I mean, 770 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,799 Speaker 4: you can see this guy anyway. Honestly, I saw a 771 00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,759 Speaker 4: Resilience Project poster taped up at my daughter's daycare on 772 00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,000 Speaker 4: the weekend and I was like, Jesus, we can leave 773 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:46,319 Speaker 4: me alone. Van carlen Berg. 774 00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:48,520 Speaker 5: I'm running around town. 775 00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,520 Speaker 2: He's doing the kindergartens, he's expanding. 776 00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,880 Speaker 4: He's also a wonderful man with a great message who's 777 00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,080 Speaker 4: already touched a lot of hearts and continues to break barriers. So, Hugh, 778 00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,120 Speaker 4: thank you so much for your mate. We love you 779 00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,960 Speaker 4: and thanks for your wise words. Love you very much, boys, 780 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 4: Thank you, thanks, may see you later, Hugh Van kylen Berg. 781 00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:11,040 Speaker 4: There on Will and Woody Lifeline thirteen eleven fourteen is 782 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,319 Speaker 4: the number to call there. It's a big problem, guys. 783 00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:15,600 Speaker 4: It's a problem with not a lot of answers, and 784 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,360 Speaker 4: it really is reliant on the people who are suffering 785 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,040 Speaker 4: to start finding ways to get in touch with how 786 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,560 Speaker 4: they're suffering and communicate that. 787 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:26,319 Speaker 3: Because great step to right it, and I think take 788 00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,520 Speaker 3: away the pressure of showing someone as well. I'd like 789 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:30,839 Speaker 3: it's just first step, write it down and you don't 790 00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 3: have to get it twenty one. 791 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,640 Speaker 2: But I think that's so good from you. 792 00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,640 Speaker 4: Absolutely see your thoughts and then maybe you can find 793 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:38,879 Speaker 4: some space between them and away from them.