WEBVTT - When Your BF Wants To Control Your Instagram 📱

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch Up podcast. You're back Flexi and Fremiani.

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<v Speaker 1>You know who. We are, two little girls running through

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<v Speaker 1>the forest.

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<v Speaker 2>I have forest, being Macquarie part the forest greater New

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<v Speaker 2>South Wales? Is it greater? Let's not talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not great, That's all I'll say. I have a

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<v Speaker 1>love line. Someone is sent in a dilemma and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to read it. My boyfriend and I have been

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<v Speaker 1>having some issues. Say say less. We have been together

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<v Speaker 1>for two years now and before that. I love to

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<v Speaker 1>swipe on the apps and some adult sleepovers. No judgment.

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<v Speaker 1>You were giving a look of judgment.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt it just it was hard to process. But

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<v Speaker 2>I understand what's being said.

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<v Speaker 1>Virgin, there's actually nothing wrong with being virgin. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>believe that, No I do.

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<v Speaker 2>You voice went up three octaves.

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<v Speaker 1>There's something wrong with no I.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm actually serious, and that's why you can't maintain our content.

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<v Speaker 2>Your eyes are going this way.

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<v Speaker 1>You're making it a joke. It's fine to be a virgin. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>We were out of the shops recently together and we

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<v Speaker 1>ran into one of my old friends with benefits The

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<v Speaker 1>problem was we had really good chemistry and it was

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<v Speaker 1>visibly obvious to my partner. I love that it bothered

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<v Speaker 1>him so much that when we got home, he made

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<v Speaker 1>me unfollow every guy on Instagram that wasn't him or

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<v Speaker 1>one of his friends. Did he take it too far?

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<v Speaker 2>Should I unfollow the friends as well? Babes, hasn't stopped

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<v Speaker 2>us before? Ah, Look, I love a love line. They're

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<v Speaker 2>getting really good these days. It is unfortunate that the

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<v Speaker 2>relationship problems of the world are only getting worse with time,

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<v Speaker 2>but great for our content.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I gotta say, on the surface, it's giving emotional manipulation. However,

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<v Speaker 1>on the surface though, just on the saze excavate. I think, like,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, this is a very hetero example. Give it

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<v Speaker 1>to us, a babe.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't need the caveat.

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<v Speaker 1>That proof is in the pudding love. I remember, like

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<v Speaker 1>back in the heyday of Instagram, when was that? I

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<v Speaker 1>want to know for sure for our own personal bank balances. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I think back in the heyday of Instagram, like twenty

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen sixteen, if you saw a guy or started seeing

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<v Speaker 1>a guy and he was following bikini models, you'd have

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<v Speaker 1>a wig out and then if you saw him liking

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<v Speaker 1>other women's photos, and it's not like women that he's

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<v Speaker 1>friends with. It's people who are like celebrities in scantily

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<v Speaker 1>clad outfits and he's liking them. You'd be like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a problem that I need to bring up. However,

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<v Speaker 1>is you not me specifically? I know whereas you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought that's quite normal, but then this one

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<v Speaker 1>is like a level up from that. But it's also

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<v Speaker 1>harder to enforce because it's like, again, it's quite manipulative.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can see that. I think I think the

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<v Speaker 1>GF as much as it's not on you, I think

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm giving serious advice, I think you need to

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<v Speaker 1>reassure him that there's nothing going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because for your partner at the moment, I think

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<v Speaker 2>he's doing a lot of misplaced micromanaging. His issue isn't

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<v Speaker 2>that you are interacting with man? Is that the way

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<v Speaker 2>you interacted with this one, it raised a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>red flags for him. He's a wait a second, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>seeing you. I'm seeing like life in your face. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>seeing blood rush to your cheeks. I'm seeing enthusiasm and

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<v Speaker 2>that's worrying me. So if you can take that energy

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<v Speaker 2>and apply it to him. Perhaps he'll feel less, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, maniacal about who you're following. It's not about Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>Leave Zuckerberg out of this. Number one, that's our king

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<v Speaker 2>number two. I think it's always a good idea to

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<v Speaker 2>validate someone's insecurities in a practical way. And so let's

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<v Speaker 2>not make it about Instagram. Let's go to the source, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and then unpack it through there.

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<v Speaker 1>I totally agree, Yeah, go to the source. Never. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>If someone like clearly on the surface it sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>he's trying to control you, but if he will listen

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<v Speaker 1>to you as you explain why it's not about Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>then you can both have a happy medium.

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<v Speaker 2>I think this reminds me we've got to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>the difference between flirting and banter, because I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I'm not sure. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's obvious love, I've seen some things. Nah, you've

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