Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboom
Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
Speaker 1: and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and
Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Concer podcast. This is
Speaker 1: the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and
Speaker 1: becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,
Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses
Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo
Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No
Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to
Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical
Speaker 1: self awareness.
Speaker 2: If you're ready to get into.
Speaker 1: The driver's seat of your own life and stop letting
Speaker 1: life pass you by, then you're in the right place.
Speaker 2: Hello, and welcome back to the potty.
Speaker 1: Excuse my voice, my lums. I went away for my
Speaker 1: thirtieth and I feel like it's that whole thing when
Speaker 1: you finally relax your body, you know, all the stuff
Speaker 1: comes up. So I'm fighting away a cough I actually.
Speaker 2: Physically feel fine.
Speaker 1: I just sound like this, but I was thinking this
Speaker 1: morning of tea, I have been sick quite a bit
Speaker 1: this year, me too, and I'm like, h this is interesting.
Speaker 1: I probably need to like look into this a bit more.
Speaker 1: It's usually a sign that you're not looking after yourself,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, I probably, yeah, need to take care
Speaker 1: of myself a little bit more. But today's episode is
Speaker 1: super fun. It's the moments I thought my life was ending,
Speaker 1: that something better, okay, And pretty much I just wanted
Speaker 1: to give you a whole bunch of expanded stories of
Speaker 1: yeah when like some reallycky, really not great times were
Speaker 1: happening in my life, and how beautiful hindsight is. Now
Speaker 1: I can see how much they blossomed me into who
Speaker 1: I am, and I just find these stories are so
Speaker 1: helpful if you're currently going through a really tough time,
Speaker 1: Because if I truly believe our superpower is like if
Speaker 1: we can bounce back, because life is going to constantly
Speaker 1: throw things our way that we think aren't happening for us,
Speaker 1: but if we can bounce back, if we can be like, no,
Speaker 1: this is happening for us, I honestly feel like that's
Speaker 1: like the Secret to Life. Hmmm, like that's bold, but
Speaker 1: the Secret to life.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I hope you enjoyed these And before we get
Speaker 1: into it, our weekly recommendation City Ya, Yes, I have two.
Speaker 3: My first one is Lust actually have brought back their
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Speaker 3: And this shout out isn't sponsored they have sponsored the
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Speaker 3: and I honestly could not recommend the education content enough,
Speaker 3: let alone the fact that it's also all going to charity.
Speaker 3: We love last We do so highly recommend that. And
Speaker 3: my second wreck is a book called The First ninety
Speaker 3: Days Ooh by Michael D. Watkins, And essentially it's based
Speaker 3: on the concept of when a US president gets elected,
Speaker 3: they technically have what they call the first hundred days,
Speaker 3: and you have to like make your impact and start
Speaker 3: most of your projects in that first hundred days. And
Speaker 3: his concept is like, when you have a career transition
Speaker 3: or you're starting something new, you have ninety days to
Speaker 3: prove yourself and what you're doing that ninety days is
Speaker 3: the catalyst for everything after.
Speaker 2: So that's my wreck. It's such a good reason.
Speaker 3: It is like a bit of a heavier book, so
Speaker 3: I'd probably recommend reading it, not listening to it, because
Speaker 3: I did try to listen and struggled. Yeah, but really
Speaker 3: really interesting.
Speaker 2: I love that. What about you? So I have two.
Speaker 1: My first is like a bit of a spicy book
Speaker 1: we love, which we love. Let me just get my
Speaker 1: kindle out.
Speaker 2: It's called So.
Speaker 1: Our graphic designer Michayla actually recommended this to me and
Speaker 1: she's like, look, if you just want like a.
Speaker 2: Easy to read, you know the books. So it is
Speaker 2: a fantasy.
Speaker 1: It's called The Ruthless Boys of the Zodiac series by
Speaker 1: Caroline Peckham, and basically the main character, her brother dies
Speaker 1: in this academy and the academy is like full of
Speaker 1: like Fay with all different powers lum and so her
Speaker 1: brother dies and she's like her brother's her best friend.
Speaker 1: So she actually becomes a student of that academy to
Speaker 1: like investigate because it says he overdosed, but she's like,
Speaker 1: he would never do drugs. He They've just got such
Speaker 1: a like beautiful bond. So she goes into this academy
Speaker 1: to like investigate his murder and there's there's these four
Speaker 1: boys called the Four Kings, and each of them is
Speaker 1: like a suspect, but also she's kind of attracted to everyone.
Speaker 2: And it's this whole thing.
Speaker 1: So it's like, I love a murder mystery, but the
Speaker 1: fact that I love a murder mystery, I love a
Speaker 1: murder mystery, and the fact that it's like fay and
Speaker 1: fantasy was just so fun. That is there's definitely a
Speaker 1: bit of spice, but not a lot. Okay, it's like
Speaker 1: and nothing. Yeah, I wouldn't say it's a five chili.
Speaker 2: Or anything like that. I'd say it's like a two. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So that's just a bit of fun reading that on
Speaker 1: my holiday. But if you want something that's really deep,
Speaker 1: like really mind boggling, I listened to this episode and
Speaker 1: I'll get t T to link it. It's the podcast
Speaker 1: is Know Thyself, which I've never heard of before. It
Speaker 1: got recommended to me on TikTok. So it's doctor Zach
Speaker 1: Bush healing the root cause of disease by awakening our
Speaker 1: biology of light. Honestly, I had to listen to it twice.
Speaker 2: Wow, Like it's one of those where you're.
Speaker 1: Like you're kind of understanding it, but you're not. And
Speaker 1: he uses he's a scientist and a doctor, so he's
Speaker 1: using these really big words.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I know what that means.
Speaker 1: But the fact that you're putting in this sentence with
Speaker 1: six other big words, I'm like trying to.
Speaker 2: Let you I can only understand one big word person.
Speaker 1: Literally, But it's really interesting. Basically he talks about disease
Speaker 1: and like the root cause basically it's starting from.
Speaker 2: Our food, the earth. How we've fucked up the earth.
Speaker 1: Wow. But then he talks about like the like how
Speaker 1: how there's hope and how we can change things, and
Speaker 1: it's so crazy because he's this doctor and scientists, but
Speaker 1: also like he talks a lot about manifestation. He talks
Speaker 1: about how we're bodies of light. Like it's the most scientific.
Speaker 1: But the work the Spiritual Podcast, I honestly I'm obsessed
Speaker 1: with it.
Speaker 2: Guys, like, listen to it.
Speaker 1: It does go for like two hours, but it's so good.
Speaker 2: You have to listen to it. You have to listen
Speaker 2: to the whole way through and then listen to it again.
Speaker 1: It's wild. It's really wild, but it made sense to me.
Speaker 1: It's like a remembering where I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you're speaking such truth.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I just was obsessed with that.
Speaker 3: Oh, make sure to link it and maybe we'll pop
Speaker 3: up a thread in Facebook people can comment on safely.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it was like I was really like, am
Speaker 1: I grasping this? And I got Tim to listen to
Speaker 1: it too, and he really liked it. Love.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So anyway, they're the res.
Speaker 1: Enjoy this episode and we'll see you in the next one.
Speaker 2: All right, my loves.
Speaker 1: This is just to remind you that life is happening
Speaker 1: for you and in the moments that everything is going
Speaker 1: to shit and things aren't working out and.
Speaker 2: It's not the plan and it's not.
Speaker 1: How it's so supposed to be, that everything is actually
Speaker 1: working out perfectly, and if it's happening anyway, ken like
Speaker 1: this is the biggest hack. Can you enjoy the journey
Speaker 1: if you can almost bypass the pain?
Speaker 2: And I truly.
Speaker 1: Believe we don't actually have to go through it, Like,
Speaker 1: if you can bypass the pain and actually be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't actually have to go on victim mentality, I
Speaker 1: don't actually have to be in a low vibration. Could
Speaker 1: I believe this is actually happening for me? Imagine that person,
Speaker 1: Imagine her just like floating through life, never being phased,
Speaker 1: never being phased. And again, it's not about not feeling
Speaker 1: your feelings. Absolutely feel them, have those initial moments. But
Speaker 1: I truly believe like the bounce back rate for you,
Speaker 1: getting back on the vibration of the frequency you want
Speaker 1: is the most important thing, because the how question is
Speaker 1: always how do I get on the frequency of what
Speaker 1: I want? So if you can have a really amazing
Speaker 1: bounce back rate, your life will be so incredible. And again,
Speaker 1: you like those people who are just unphased and they
Speaker 1: just like, cool, let's go, let's pivot. They like you
Speaker 1: see those people and you're like, oh my god, goals incredible,
Speaker 1: and you also get to be that person. So I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna go through a couple of instances in my
Speaker 1: life where I literally thought my life was ending and
Speaker 1: how it turned out better than I could have imagined.
Speaker 1: And so I truly believe story is the most powerful
Speaker 1: thing to use. So I hope you can connect and resonate.
Speaker 1: If you're listening to this, you probably are going through
Speaker 1: a bit of a hard time. I just I am
Speaker 1: sending so much love, but just know that time heals all,
Speaker 1: and it does get to be better and it does get.
Speaker 2: To get better. Okay.
Speaker 1: So first instance, so there was a moment in my
Speaker 1: business where I had a key team member leave because
Speaker 1: of family circumstances, and you know, it was quite abrupt
Speaker 1: and I really love, you know, loved this person. They
Speaker 1: were such a key part of the business and it
Speaker 1: was such a moment where I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: what does this mean?
Speaker 2: What am I going to do?
Speaker 1: What does this mean for the business? All those sorts
Speaker 1: of things, and obviously just personally too. So that was
Speaker 1: such a moment where I really could have been victim mentality,
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: What am I going to do? Whatnot?
Speaker 1: But again, adapting life happens for me. I'm going to
Speaker 1: get through this. It's gonna be better than I could
Speaker 1: have imagined. So the really, now that I can and
Speaker 1: obviously hindsight is beautiful, but now that I can look back,
Speaker 1: it was such an incredible shift in team dynamic. It
Speaker 1: really helped other team members step up and rise and
Speaker 1: really step into themselves.
Speaker 2: It also there was then room.
Speaker 1: For new people to come in the business who had
Speaker 1: you know, incredible skills that were needed for the next
Speaker 1: evolution of the business. Like you know, the you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: skills that we didn't have before, and it was able
Speaker 1: to really shift the business into rapid growth and doing
Speaker 1: things a way that we hadn't done things. And I
Speaker 1: really feel like now I can really see it's like
Speaker 1: such a key moment in the business, almost coming out
Speaker 1: of its infancy and like not being a small business anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and needing that you know, bigger team, needing that growth
Speaker 1: and evolution and for things not to be done like
Speaker 1: a small business. And I needed the snap. I needed
Speaker 1: the Okay, I can't treat the business. I've always treated it.
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do?
Speaker 2: How am I gonna lead? And I even feel like
Speaker 2: it really.
Speaker 1: Helped my creativity, It really helped my leadership skills, and
Speaker 1: I really felt like it helped my connection to the business.
Speaker 1: And so it really was a shitty time and situation
Speaker 1: and circumstance, like there's no other words for it, But
Speaker 1: now I can see how not incredible it is, because
Speaker 1: I don't want to discount it being a shitty time,
Speaker 1: but it's like it was necessary for the next stage
Speaker 1: I see.
Speaker 2: I don't even want.
Speaker 1: To say the words necessary, but it's like it ended
Speaker 1: up being amazing.
Speaker 2: It ended up being credible.
Speaker 1: It ended up being like such a key shift in
Speaker 1: the business, in me, in the team and all those
Speaker 1: sorts of things, and it really I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: it turned out better than I could.
Speaker 2: Have imagined that, you know. I mean, even though it
Speaker 2: was a bit rough there for a while. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: I was like.
Speaker 1: Ah, Okay, life's fine, this is amazing, and now yeah,
Speaker 1: I can really I can really see like those key.
Speaker 2: Moments and I'm like, oh wow, I don't know, I'm
Speaker 2: laughing for I'm just.
Speaker 1: Laughing because it's like, you really think trauma respond, you really.
Speaker 2: Think of scenting, You're like, it's fine, Okay.
Speaker 1: The next one was when I gave birth to Ivy
Speaker 1: and then.
Speaker 2: Tried to come back as a working mom. I remember
Speaker 2: witnessing this. Honestly, it was what's it giving? I was giving,
Speaker 2: like byfors.
Speaker 3: It wasn't even that. Georgie just felt like her creativity
Speaker 3: was gone. She blamed it before it.
Speaker 2: I think we did an episode we did. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: I feel this. I literally was like, my creativity's gone.
Speaker 2: She took it, and she took it. She took it,
Speaker 2: and I can't be who I need to be.
Speaker 1: And it was like what like an ill even think
Speaker 1: about that belief, Like that's so limiting. I was such
Speaker 1: a victim. I didn't take any responsibility. And also I
Speaker 1: just didn't have any compassion for myself that it's like
Speaker 1: you literally had a newborn at home. Yeah, like give
Speaker 1: yourself some grace, mate. And again it's like I really
Speaker 1: saw this as like I almost had this like weird
Speaker 1: thing where I'm like, this is the end of my career.
Speaker 1: Oh you did not know, but it's like a fleeting
Speaker 1: thought of like, yeah, she's taken my creativity because I
Speaker 1: really felt like it was, especially because when I was pregnant,
Speaker 1: I fucking felt incredible. I felt vincall like I was
Speaker 1: on such a high because I had wanted to be
Speaker 1: pregnant so long. Got pregnant and remember I like did
Speaker 1: those sponge of collabs. I was like I was just
Speaker 1: like smashing life and I felt like such this huge high.
Speaker 1: And then I you birth a baby and you have
Speaker 1: to fully slow down, and I think it was just
Speaker 1: like a whole bunch of just like you know, it's
Speaker 1: just like a car crash, the whole bunch of things happening,
Speaker 1: and I really thought, oh my god, this is the
Speaker 1: end of my creativity. I'm gonna have to change my
Speaker 1: whole business, like all those sorts of things, and it
Speaker 1: felt like, oh my god, my life's ending. Like this
Speaker 1: is the worst case scenario, so dramatic, but in saying that,
Speaker 1: it felt really real.
Speaker 2: Like you saw me a tea, I was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: a bit of a mess.
Speaker 1: And the outcome is I before Ivy, I really didn't
Speaker 1: have work life balance. No, I was a workaholic, but
Speaker 1: I didn't think I was because I loved my work
Speaker 1: so much that I was like, I didn't identify with it.
Speaker 1: But now that I've had Ivy, I've never been so balanced.
Speaker 2: I've like, actually, you weren't even there, Tea. But like before.
Speaker 1: Ivy, I would be the first in and the last
Speaker 1: person to leave this office, always whoa always, And so
Speaker 1: having Ivy, I.
Speaker 2: Couldn't do that anymore.
Speaker 1: So that I hadn't eve one at home. I think
Speaker 1: I was even breastfeeding it one stage. And so it
Speaker 1: created this beautiful For the first time in my life,
Speaker 1: I actually had to create work life balance, and I
Speaker 1: had to create those boundaries first. I had to create
Speaker 1: those boundaries first, and then the creativity came. I just
Speaker 1: had to reshift my life. I had to reshift how
Speaker 1: I like I did it. But now that I do
Speaker 1: life in this way where I've never worked a small
Speaker 1: amount of hours, it felt so like I impact my
Speaker 1: business so much. I have such an impact my you know,
Speaker 1: the businesses have never earned so much. So I'm like, before,
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the fuck was I doing? I was
Speaker 1: like a bit, you know, almost like keeping yourself busy
Speaker 1: just for the fact of being busy.
Speaker 2: And obviously I was doing things.
Speaker 1: But now I have really learned how to you know,
Speaker 1: ask for help, create boundaries, have work life balance, and
Speaker 1: I truly believe when you have those times to rest,
Speaker 1: that's when the creativity comes out. If you're just doing
Speaker 1: and doing doing, it's like how you're ever going to
Speaker 1: be recharged. It's like, you know, my car, it's an
Speaker 1: electric car. I have to charge it in the wall
Speaker 1: and then it goes again.
Speaker 3: It's like it's the and it needs time. It needs
Speaker 3: time stations for two seconds. Yes, that's that's a big thing.
Speaker 1: So that was such a key moment. And I have never, yeah,
Speaker 1: been so balanced. I've had so much more structures in
Speaker 1: my day. I'm so much more efficient and productive. I
Speaker 1: feel like, I honestly feel like I have more time
Speaker 1: for me as a working mom than I did before.
Speaker 1: I mean, which is wild to think about. Yeah, wow,
Speaker 1: I used to work on weekends. Remember you still have
Speaker 1: my podcast on the weekends, because I was like, that's
Speaker 1: when I'm creative. And now you won't see me touch
Speaker 1: work on the weekends unless I'm like thrown up a
Speaker 1: story or saying that's that's fine, that's.
Speaker 2: What a cool fun. So honestly, come generating fun. It
Speaker 2: is what I do.
Speaker 1: It's not my it's not my fault. I the money
Speaker 1: lining to you, all right, Okay. The next moment I
Speaker 1: thought my life was ending but turned up better than
Speaker 1: I could have imagined, was when we lost our dream house.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, so that quick, quick, quick backstory. The house
Speaker 1: we're in now, which is like she's like six levels,
Speaker 1: she has water views, two pools, like a gym, like everything, like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, Like I never thought I'd be living
Speaker 1: in a house like this, just such an incredible sanctuary,
Speaker 1: and like, oh I just can't dream house. I saw
Speaker 1: this house on real estate dot com.
Speaker 2: I looked in the.
Speaker 1: Sold section of real estate dot Com. This house wasn't
Speaker 1: even for sale. I looked in the sold section, saw
Speaker 1: this house, fell in love with it and was like,
Speaker 1: this is my house. Had such an energetic pool text.
Speaker 1: The agent said, do you know if the sales the
Speaker 1: buyers would want to sell. He's like, I'll message them,
Speaker 1: and then he messaged me and was like, yeah, if
Speaker 1: the price is right. So I did why So we
Speaker 1: went over checked out the house. I was like, yes,
Speaker 1: love it, definitely want to paint it some different colors,
Speaker 1: but love. It came to an arrangement, agreed on a price,
Speaker 1: it was all going through, and then two weeks later,
Speaker 1: when we were supposed to sign the paperwork, he caught
Speaker 1: up and the owners didn't want to sell anymore. The
Speaker 1: wife was actually really attached to the house and she
Speaker 1: was like, all, R, I don't want to sell it,
Speaker 1: and I think there were some issues with the titles
Speaker 1: or something.
Speaker 2: And then I was.
Speaker 3: Like, oh, that's like heartbreaking because it would have felt
Speaker 3: so aligned.
Speaker 2: It felt so aligned.
Speaker 1: And the wild thing is we lived a suburb over
Speaker 1: on the beach, not on the beach, but close to
Speaker 1: the beach, and every beach walk I did, I actually
Speaker 1: didn't realize, but I was looking at our house because
Speaker 1: our house is.
Speaker 2: On a hill.
Speaker 1: So it's like everything told me we were meant to
Speaker 1: be in this house, like energetically. And so when they
Speaker 1: said they didn't want to sell, I was like what
Speaker 1: why would you do this to me? Yes?
Speaker 2: What do you mean?
Speaker 1: And then yeah, wild, So I totally in that moment disconnected, detached,
Speaker 1: and I was like, look, it's not meant to be,
Speaker 1: but it's shown me how easy it gets to be.
Speaker 1: How I know, like like physically in my body, like
Speaker 1: somatically when it's a yes, how easy it is even
Speaker 1: if the fucking house isn't for sale, I still get
Speaker 1: it kind of vibes. Like I was like, this is
Speaker 1: showing me so many lessons that I can take gratitude
Speaker 1: from this even if it didn't eventuate, rather than being like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, why would this happen to me? So
Speaker 1: it completely detached two months later, So two months that's
Speaker 1: a long time. I've even started like looking at other houses,
Speaker 1: but nothing really came up. Two months later, they called
Speaker 1: back up and were like they want to sell again,
Speaker 1: Let's do the deal like this afternoon. It was a testy,
Speaker 1: I know, but I learned so much and it's like,
Speaker 1: what a cool story.
Speaker 3: And like, so good of you to just like go
Speaker 3: straight to the like at least I know what a
Speaker 3: yes feels like. At least I know how easy it
Speaker 3: gets to be, and like reaffirming like it's not.
Speaker 1: Even listed and it's mine. Yes, Like it's not even available,
Speaker 1: but it's still mine. That's when I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: a master manifesto, do you know what I mean? Like, yeah, wow,
Speaker 1: I'm actually really good at this.
Speaker 2: And then so when what I say, you know, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: she it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'm like, wow, such a cool moment. Again,
Speaker 1: life apps and for me turned out to be great,
Speaker 1: and it actually turned out to be really good when
Speaker 1: we move just in regards to like Ivy's age, financially
Speaker 1: for us and all those different things.
Speaker 2: So that happens for you. Yeah, okay, so next time.
Speaker 1: Obviously I'm not gonna like say names or be specific,
Speaker 1: but there was a moment where I lost some key friendships.
Speaker 2: So like these are friendships like really really close.
Speaker 1: You know, people had been in my life for a
Speaker 1: very long time, very and in those moments, like it
Speaker 1: kind of there was you know, almost like a couple
Speaker 1: at the same time, and I really was like is
Speaker 1: it me?
Speaker 2: Yeah, am I the problem? What's happening here?
Speaker 1: But it was really because I was moving to a
Speaker 1: new evolution in my life, and it was just one
Speaker 1: of those moments where I feel like, in your early
Speaker 1: twenties you have a lot of friends, you almost have
Speaker 1: like an abundance of friends and abundant of people, and
Speaker 1: you're energetically so much more open to people. And then
Speaker 1: I feel like as I got closer to thirty, I
Speaker 1: just got so much more stricter with my energy and
Speaker 1: my standards and like even not necessarily what they were
Speaker 1: doing in their life, but if they were entertaining low
Speaker 1: vibe behaviors that were.
Speaker 2: Aligned with me. I just was almost like you got big.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just oh, do you actually spend your spare
Speaker 3: time doing that?
Speaker 1: Like maybe when I was nineteen, but not when we're
Speaker 1: you know, nearly thirty, and just kind of And also
Speaker 1: friendships where I was like, oh, we only ever really
Speaker 1: connected when I was drunk, you know, like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: can't ract. But for me, there was a lot of
Speaker 1: friendships that I only hung around with them and we
Speaker 1: only connected when I was drinking.
Speaker 2: Was we a do bond?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And if we were sober, there wasn't a lot to
Speaker 1: talk about. There wasn't a lot of connection, which I
Speaker 1: definitely take responsibility. It's not just them, but again it's
Speaker 1: because when I'm so around, like, oh I don't really
Speaker 1: there's not a lot to talk about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: And it was a weird thing where again even thinking
Speaker 1: about like Ivy and who I want her to see,
Speaker 1: like I'm around and the conversations I'm having, and like
Speaker 1: what I'm doing with my time, and just like a
Speaker 1: lot of you know, who do I wander my life?
Speaker 1: I truly believe like your environment is everything. But there
Speaker 1: was a moment when you're losing those friendships that you
Speaker 1: do really question like is it me? Especially if it's
Speaker 1: like a couple at a time, or you know, a
Speaker 1: friendship group or those sorts of things. It can feel
Speaker 1: really hard and really disempowering, and like, oh am I
Speaker 1: doing the right thing? Yeah, but again, like you know,
Speaker 1: a couple of years down the track, I can really
Speaker 1: see how those people needed to leave my life so
Speaker 1: I could have deeper connections come in, I could have
Speaker 1: deeper connections with my more intimate group. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like as I got older, I developed more of a
Speaker 1: deeper connection with like Tim and Cooper and my parents,
Speaker 1: whereas maybe I used to confide more in like a
Speaker 1: girlfriend yeah if that makes sense, And I still have
Speaker 1: amazing girlfriends. But it's really been this like beautiful evolution
Speaker 1: of Yeah, I don't I don't have language for it,
Speaker 1: but I'm sure you guys know what I mean. And yeah,
Speaker 1: it like new people came in, stronger relationships, more deeper relationships.
Speaker 1: And again, I don't think everyone who comes in your
Speaker 1: life is supposed to be there forever, and accepting that
Speaker 1: and being okay with it and also being like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I haven't I had an amazing time with
Speaker 1: those people. Yeah, those memories are still really beautiful. I
Speaker 1: don't have to make them bad or anything like that.
Speaker 1: I get to just move on and it doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be a thing. And what's actually great about my
Speaker 1: situation is there was no like weirdness or cattiness or
Speaker 1: like drama.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just was like fizzled. Yeah, fizzled.
Speaker 1: We moved apart, and I still, like, you know, if
Speaker 1: I see them on social media or saying I'm like
Speaker 1: wish you well, love that for you, But I'm allowed
Speaker 1: to go in a different direction not feel guilty about it.
Speaker 1: I love that Another moment when I missed out on
Speaker 1: my law job. So when I finished my law degree
Speaker 1: and I was already working in a law firm, I
Speaker 1: got my PLT that worked my way up from law
Speaker 1: grad to a sorry, a law clerk to a law grad.
Speaker 1: And then I kind of made this promise with myself.
Speaker 2: I like kind of.
Speaker 1: Knew that I wanted to leave law, but I also
Speaker 1: was in the mindset of like, it would be really
Speaker 1: silly of me because I had just done six years
Speaker 1: of law. So I kind of said to myself, I
Speaker 1: worked in a certain area. I worked in the family
Speaker 1: law team, but our law firm had lots of other areas.
Speaker 1: So they had like corporate law, they had you know, wills,
Speaker 1: and you know, they had a whole bunch of us
Speaker 1: stuff happening. So there were other teams. And so I
Speaker 1: said to myself, if I don't get into family law,
Speaker 1: which I had been working, I would then like leave
Speaker 1: and do my own thing. And so I didn't like
Speaker 1: they were like, oh, family law doesn't have enough budget,
Speaker 1: but you can go you know, in a different team
Speaker 1: in the firm.
Speaker 2: And that's when I knew.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm not going to continue in law,
Speaker 1: but I did feel quite disappointed and quite like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, is this the right thing?
Speaker 2: I've just done six years of law? Why hasn't it
Speaker 2: fallen into place? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And almost like am I not smart enough to do
Speaker 1: this career? Am I not driven enough? Like lots of doubts.
Speaker 1: But then obviously I'm sure you know the story I,
Speaker 1: you know, had like we'll call it a gap year
Speaker 1: where I just like try to whole bunch of things
Speaker 1: launched like an ebook did presets I called a bunch
Speaker 1: of random things, and then created Rice and Conker and
Speaker 1: Naked Harvest, which obviously you know better than I could
Speaker 1: have imagined.
Speaker 2: Vibes. So again, not getting that job.
Speaker 1: Turned out to be the best thing that ever happened
Speaker 1: to me, Literally, the best thing ever.
Speaker 2: The best thing.
Speaker 1: So another interesting moment was when I lost a major
Speaker 1: brand deal, not even a brand deal, a brand partnership
Speaker 1: with like a brand that I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I tell me, oh.
Speaker 2: I actually haven't heard this story. Really, no, you've never
Speaker 2: told me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So basically what happened with that story is I was,
Speaker 1: you know, with them for a while, loved working with them,
Speaker 1: loved the brand, love the product, but I wanted to
Speaker 1: reduce my contract, so I wanted to do less deliverables.
Speaker 1: I was on quite quite a few, and basically we
Speaker 1: couldn't come to an agreement and they were like.
Speaker 2: That's so random.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not you're gone even though, And it was really
Speaker 1: heartbreaking for me because I knew they worked with other
Speaker 1: influences on a lesser capacity. So I felt very like
Speaker 1: not targeted, but just like it's a bit shit when
Speaker 1: I had worked for them for a very long time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like if you wanted to, you would,
Speaker 2: and I know you can't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so gave me the ig and so I was
Speaker 1: like quite saddened and upset and like, oh what does
Speaker 1: this mean, especially because they were a very prominent brand
Speaker 1: who gave me a lot of exposure. So I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: what does this mean for my influencer career, etc. Had
Speaker 1: the thoughts like, you know, is this the end for me?
Speaker 1: But what ended up happening is I got to work
Speaker 1: for another brand now I didn't have exclusivity, got to
Speaker 1: work for another brand, and then that brand came straight
Speaker 1: in with like a six figure deal, a collection like
Speaker 1: all the things that I'm like holy shit, I feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, a superstar and this other brand couldn't even
Speaker 1: lower their deliverables for me. But I had to let
Speaker 1: that go because it was like.
Speaker 2: That wasn't going to come in if you didn't let
Speaker 2: it go.
Speaker 1: Well, they said like they had another alternative for me
Speaker 1: that was like kind of okay, but it wasn't what
Speaker 1: I wanted. So I had the opportunity to just accept that,
Speaker 1: like okay one, but I said no, I'm like nah.
Speaker 2: And then yeah, that like the.
Speaker 1: Most incredible brand deal came in that ended up being
Speaker 1: like such a pivotal moment of my influencer career and
Speaker 1: all those sorts of things. So I'm like, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: thank god that happens.
Speaker 2: Wow, I love this one. Yeah, I didn't think I've
Speaker 2: told you that one. Who cool moment. That's sick. That's sick.
Speaker 2: It's cool that I know what brads you're talking about. Yeah,
Speaker 2: don't rub it in. I'm honestly sure people can put
Speaker 2: it together. Yeah, I'm sure you guys can put it together.
Speaker 1: But there's there's no drama or tea on this podcast,
Speaker 1: so we don't do that here.
Speaker 2: But I'm sure you guys can put it together. Wow.
Speaker 1: So the last moment this is going right back to this,
Speaker 1: you know, the beginning of my twenties or early teens
Speaker 1: was the moment that my high school boyfriend dumbed me.
Speaker 1: When I say I was devastated.
Speaker 2: I can't imagine, like no, actually, no joker tea.
Speaker 1: I was in my room like wailing, like my mom
Speaker 1: and dad didn't know what to do. And this is
Speaker 1: like my mom and dad who don't show any emotion.
Speaker 4: I was wailing, like like hysterically crying, like to the
Speaker 4: point where my dad's like says to my mom planning
Speaker 4: a Dad, She's like, you've got to do something like.
Speaker 2: Sort her out. I don't know what to do it.
Speaker 4: He had to leave because I was his h sterically cried.
Speaker 2: What did your brothers think?
Speaker 1: I honestly can't remember what they thought back then, but
Speaker 1: like not okay, And it was right before.
Speaker 2: Formal and right before QS.
Speaker 1: What's QCs? And I just was like a fucking mess.
Speaker 2: Oh that's brutal. It was so.
Speaker 1: Brutal, and it's it was really hard because we had
Speaker 1: a turbulent relationship in high school, like often on vibes,
Speaker 1: but when he broke up with me, we were really good,
Speaker 1: like everything was fine, nothing was wrong, and I'm like
Speaker 1: maybe that was the point he like thrived on the drama.
Speaker 2: But it was like just so I felt blindsided. That's
Speaker 2: what it was.
Speaker 1: I was blindsided. I didn't have any control.
Speaker 2: It was fucked.
Speaker 1: And then obviously like the it being better than I
Speaker 1: could have imagined. Was I added Tim on Facebook because
Speaker 1: so his so his brother, like Tim was his brother's friend,
Speaker 1: So his older brother's friends.
Speaker 2: Look at you a bit toxic? So toxic a tr.
Speaker 1: I was also seventeen, Yeah it's fine, And I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what seventeen you can get.
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna go funck on your.
Speaker 4: Brother's friends, no joke, That's what went through my head,
Speaker 4: a tr like I didn't.
Speaker 2: But you know what's funny is because like Tim was.
Speaker 1: You did.
Speaker 5: I did? I'm sure they know you have a child.
Speaker 2: No, I'm an angel.
Speaker 1: No, but I was like full like what's circle, what's revenge? Yeah,
Speaker 1: full revenge vibes. And but it's funny because Tim was
Speaker 1: just like the hottest friend out of the friend group.
Speaker 1: And also I didn't like No, I hadn't met him,
Speaker 1: so he was kind of giving.
Speaker 2: I don't really care vibes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but also he was the hottest and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: that's so happens, added him. He didn't like accept my
Speaker 1: friend quest for like a couple of weeks, and in
Speaker 1: those couple of weeks, I like did QCs went.
Speaker 5: To four more.
Speaker 1: So I got prom queen at formal, which was a
Speaker 1: huge confidence.
Speaker 2: Honestly I needed it. I needed it because I did.
Speaker 3: I need it myself in like seventeen year old shoes
Speaker 3: and it's like that is like life ending.
Speaker 1: It is life ending stuff like your boyfriend breaking up
Speaker 1: with you for no reason before four more, hang on
Speaker 1: till after. Yeah, but I got prom quin did QCs.
Speaker 2: By the time Tim added me, you didn't care? I forgot.
Speaker 2: I even was like who's this friendom person? Because I
Speaker 2: hadn't met him.
Speaker 1: And then he jumped straight to my DMS and was
Speaker 1: like hey, I love and so we just like were chatting.
Speaker 2: A little bit on Facebook.
Speaker 1: I went to schoolies at this point, he wasn't at
Speaker 1: schoolies or anything because he's four years older. And then
Speaker 1: the weekend after schoolies we went on our first date
Speaker 1: and since then always been together. So like obviously better
Speaker 1: than way better than you could better you could have imagined.
Speaker 2: So that was my lass point.
Speaker 1: And again I really thought my life was ending, but
Speaker 1: it's like it turned out amazing.
Speaker 2: It's always those ones.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So my loves, this is your reminder that
Speaker 1: you know, these were all pivotal moments that all came
Speaker 1: from shitty things happening, endings, not great feelings, but it
Speaker 1: turned out better than I could have imagined. And now
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful and love that this all happened to me.
Speaker 1: So these are the moments that I lock into when
Speaker 1: things aren't going my way or things, you know, abrupt
Speaker 1: things happened. So if, like I said, if you can
Speaker 1: harness this, it will truly be it's it's truly like
Speaker 1: a skill that will help you not be superior.
Speaker 2: But like I think, just navigate those times with a
Speaker 2: bit more grace.
Speaker 1: Yes, grace, because again like obviously me wailing like that's fine,
Speaker 1: but the whole like toxic revenge like that, that's not
Speaker 1: the And again it's fine. I was seventeen, but you
Speaker 1: would hope that you know, someone in their thirties isn't
Speaker 1: doing that. But we can because we get so caught
Speaker 1: up in the feelings and the emotions. So if we
Speaker 1: can be a bit more graceful, if we can float
Speaker 1: through those and really like, Okay, this is happening for me.
Speaker 2: I really think it's like such a great skill tap.
Speaker 2: The secret is detachment totally.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 2: It's such a we're doing and Rise up this month.
Speaker 2: Yes it is. It's such a it's such a secret hack. Yeah,
Speaker 2: just attached. But anyway, I hope you loved these wild stories.
Speaker 2: I loved him goes through entertaining.
Speaker 1: But love you guys so much, and we'll chat to
Speaker 1: you in the next episode. Thank you so much for
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