1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboom 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,319 Speaker 1: and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Concer podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and 8 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 12 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 13 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: self awareness. 15 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 2: If you're ready to get into. 16 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: The driver's seat of your own life and stop letting 17 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: life pass you by, then you're in the right place. 18 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 2: Hello, and welcome back to the potty. 19 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: Excuse my voice, my lums. I went away for my 20 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: thirtieth and I feel like it's that whole thing when 21 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: you finally relax your body, you know, all the stuff 22 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: comes up. So I'm fighting away a cough I actually. 23 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 2: Physically feel fine. 24 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: I just sound like this, but I was thinking this 25 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 1: morning of tea, I have been sick quite a bit 26 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: this year, me too, and I'm like, h this is interesting. 27 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: I probably need to like look into this a bit more. 28 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:46,680 Speaker 1: It's usually a sign that you're not looking after yourself, 29 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 1: so I'm like, I probably, yeah, need to take care 30 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: of myself a little bit more. But today's episode is 31 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: super fun. It's the moments I thought my life was ending, 32 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: that something better, okay, And pretty much I just wanted 33 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 1: to give you a whole bunch of expanded stories of 34 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:12,840 Speaker 1: yeah when like some reallycky, really not great times were 35 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: happening in my life, and how beautiful hindsight is. Now 36 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: I can see how much they blossomed me into who 37 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: I am, and I just find these stories are so 38 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: helpful if you're currently going through a really tough time, 39 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: Because if I truly believe our superpower is like if 40 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: we can bounce back, because life is going to constantly 41 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: throw things our way that we think aren't happening for us, 42 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: but if we can bounce back, if we can be like, no, 43 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: this is happening for us, I honestly feel like that's 44 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: like the Secret to Life. Hmmm, like that's bold, but 45 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:49,519 Speaker 1: the Secret to life. 46 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 47 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: So I hope you enjoyed these And before we get 48 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: into it, our weekly recommendation City Ya, Yes, I have two. 49 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:01,839 Speaker 3: My first one is Lust actually have brought back their 50 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 3: beauty school and they are only charging a. 51 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 2: Dollar to get in. 52 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 3: And this shout out isn't sponsored they have sponsored the 53 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 3: podcast before, but the dollars also being donated to a charity, 54 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 3: and I honestly could not recommend the education content enough, 55 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 3: let alone the fact that it's also all going to charity. 56 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 3: We love last We do so highly recommend that. And 57 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 3: my second wreck is a book called The First ninety 58 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 3: Days Ooh by Michael D. Watkins, And essentially it's based 59 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 3: on the concept of when a US president gets elected, 60 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 3: they technically have what they call the first hundred days, 61 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 3: and you have to like make your impact and start 62 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 3: most of your projects in that first hundred days. And 63 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 3: his concept is like, when you have a career transition 64 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 3: or you're starting something new, you have ninety days to 65 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 3: prove yourself and what you're doing that ninety days is 66 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 3: the catalyst for everything after. 67 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 2: So that's my wreck. It's such a good reason. 68 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 3: It is like a bit of a heavier book, so 69 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 3: I'd probably recommend reading it, not listening to it, because 70 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 3: I did try to listen and struggled. Yeah, but really 71 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 3: really interesting. 72 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: I love that. What about you? So I have two. 73 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: My first is like a bit of a spicy book 74 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: we love, which we love. Let me just get my 75 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: kindle out. 76 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 2: It's called So. 77 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 1: Our graphic designer Michayla actually recommended this to me and 78 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 1: she's like, look, if you just want like a. 79 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 2: Easy to read, you know the books. So it is 80 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 2: a fantasy. 81 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: It's called The Ruthless Boys of the Zodiac series by 82 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: Caroline Peckham, and basically the main character, her brother dies 83 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: in this academy and the academy is like full of 84 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: like Fay with all different powers lum and so her 85 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: brother dies and she's like her brother's her best friend. 86 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 1: So she actually becomes a student of that academy to 87 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: like investigate because it says he overdosed, but she's like, 88 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: he would never do drugs. He They've just got such 89 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: a like beautiful bond. So she goes into this academy 90 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: to like investigate his murder and there's there's these four 91 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: boys called the Four Kings, and each of them is 92 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 1: like a suspect, but also she's kind of attracted to everyone. 93 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 2: And it's this whole thing. 94 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: So it's like, I love a murder mystery, but the 95 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 1: fact that I love a murder mystery, I love a 96 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: murder mystery, and the fact that it's like fay and 97 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: fantasy was just so fun. That is there's definitely a 98 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:44,599 Speaker 1: bit of spice, but not a lot. Okay, it's like 99 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: and nothing. Yeah, I wouldn't say it's a five chili. 100 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,359 Speaker 2: Or anything like that. I'd say it's like a two. Yeah. 101 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: So that's just a bit of fun reading that on 102 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: my holiday. But if you want something that's really deep, 103 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 1: like really mind boggling, I listened to this episode and 104 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: I'll get t T to link it. It's the podcast 105 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: is Know Thyself, which I've never heard of before. It 106 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: got recommended to me on TikTok. So it's doctor Zach 107 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: Bush healing the root cause of disease by awakening our 108 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: biology of light. Honestly, I had to listen to it twice. 109 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 2: Wow, Like it's one of those where you're. 110 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,840 Speaker 1: Like you're kind of understanding it, but you're not. And 111 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: he uses he's a scientist and a doctor, so he's 112 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: using these really big words. 113 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 2: But I'm like, I know what that means. 114 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: But the fact that you're putting in this sentence with 115 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: six other big words, I'm like trying to. 116 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: Let you I can only understand one big word person. 117 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: Literally, But it's really interesting. Basically he talks about disease 118 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 1: and like the root cause basically it's starting from. 119 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,559 Speaker 2: Our food, the earth. How we've fucked up the earth. 120 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: Wow. But then he talks about like the like how 121 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:02,720 Speaker 1: how there's hope and how we can change things, and 122 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:06,359 Speaker 1: it's so crazy because he's this doctor and scientists, but 123 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: also like he talks a lot about manifestation. He talks 124 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: about how we're bodies of light. Like it's the most scientific. 125 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: But the work the Spiritual Podcast, I honestly I'm obsessed 126 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: with it. 127 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 2: Guys, like, listen to it. 128 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: It does go for like two hours, but it's so good. 129 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 2: You have to listen to it. You have to listen 130 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 2: to the whole way through and then listen to it again. 131 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: It's wild. It's really wild, but it made sense to me. 132 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: It's like a remembering where I was like, oh my god, 133 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: you're speaking such truth. 134 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 2: But I don't know. I just was obsessed with that. 135 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 3: Oh, make sure to link it and maybe we'll pop 136 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 3: up a thread in Facebook people can comment on safely. 137 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, because it was like I was really like, am 138 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: I grasping this? And I got Tim to listen to 139 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: it too, and he really liked it. Love. 140 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, So anyway, they're the res. 141 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: Enjoy this episode and we'll see you in the next one. 142 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 2: All right, my loves. 143 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 1: This is just to remind you that life is happening 144 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: for you and in the moments that everything is going 145 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 1: to shit and things aren't working out and. 146 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 2: It's not the plan and it's not. 147 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: How it's so supposed to be, that everything is actually 148 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: working out perfectly, and if it's happening anyway, ken like 149 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: this is the biggest hack. Can you enjoy the journey 150 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: if you can almost bypass the pain? 151 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:39,199 Speaker 2: And I truly. 152 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: Believe we don't actually have to go through it, Like, 153 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: if you can bypass the pain and actually be like, oh, 154 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 1: I don't actually have to go on victim mentality, I 155 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: don't actually have to be in a low vibration. Could 156 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 1: I believe this is actually happening for me? Imagine that person, 157 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: Imagine her just like floating through life, never being phased, 158 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 1: never being phased. And again, it's not about not feeling 159 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: your feelings. Absolutely feel them, have those initial moments. But 160 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: I truly believe like the bounce back rate for you, 161 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: getting back on the vibration of the frequency you want 162 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: is the most important thing, because the how question is 163 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 1: always how do I get on the frequency of what 164 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: I want? So if you can have a really amazing 165 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: bounce back rate, your life will be so incredible. And again, 166 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 1: you like those people who are just unphased and they 167 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: just like, cool, let's go, let's pivot. They like you 168 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 1: see those people and you're like, oh my god, goals incredible, 169 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: and you also get to be that person. So I'm 170 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: just gonna go through a couple of instances in my 171 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: life where I literally thought my life was ending and 172 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,599 Speaker 1: how it turned out better than I could have imagined. 173 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: And so I truly believe story is the most powerful 174 00:09:57,559 --> 00:10:01,719 Speaker 1: thing to use. So I hope you can connect and resonate. 175 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: If you're listening to this, you probably are going through 176 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:05,840 Speaker 1: a bit of a hard time. I just I am 177 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: sending so much love, but just know that time heals all, 178 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: and it does get to be better and it does get. 179 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 2: To get better. Okay. 180 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: So first instance, so there was a moment in my 181 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:24,640 Speaker 1: business where I had a key team member leave because 182 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: of family circumstances, and you know, it was quite abrupt 183 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:33,679 Speaker 1: and I really love, you know, loved this person. They 184 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: were such a key part of the business and it 185 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 1: was such a moment where I was like, oh my god, 186 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: what does this mean? 187 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 2: What am I going to do? 188 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 1: What does this mean for the business? All those sorts 189 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: of things, and obviously just personally too. So that was 190 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:54,559 Speaker 1: such a moment where I really could have been victim mentality, 191 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 192 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:56,559 Speaker 2: What am I going to do? Whatnot? 193 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: But again, adapting life happens for me. I'm going to 194 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: get through this. It's gonna be better than I could 195 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: have imagined. So the really, now that I can and 196 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 1: obviously hindsight is beautiful, but now that I can look back, 197 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: it was such an incredible shift in team dynamic. It 198 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:19,440 Speaker 1: really helped other team members step up and rise and 199 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: really step into themselves. 200 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 2: It also there was then room. 201 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: For new people to come in the business who had 202 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 1: you know, incredible skills that were needed for the next 203 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 1: evolution of the business. Like you know, the you know, Yeah, 204 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 1: skills that we didn't have before, and it was able 205 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: to really shift the business into rapid growth and doing 206 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:47,720 Speaker 1: things a way that we hadn't done things. And I 207 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:50,200 Speaker 1: really feel like now I can really see it's like 208 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: such a key moment in the business, almost coming out 209 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: of its infancy and like not being a small business anymore. Yeah, 210 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:03,680 Speaker 1: and needing that you know, bigger team, needing that growth 211 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 1: and evolution and for things not to be done like 212 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: a small business. And I needed the snap. I needed 213 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 1: the Okay, I can't treat the business. I've always treated it. 214 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:16,199 Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? 215 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 2: How am I gonna lead? And I even feel like 216 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 2: it really. 217 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: Helped my creativity, It really helped my leadership skills, and 218 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: I really felt like it helped my connection to the business. 219 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:32,079 Speaker 1: And so it really was a shitty time and situation 220 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 1: and circumstance, like there's no other words for it, But 221 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:39,680 Speaker 1: now I can see how not incredible it is, because 222 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to discount it being a shitty time, 223 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:45,680 Speaker 1: but it's like it was necessary for the next stage 224 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: I see. 225 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 2: I don't even want. 226 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 1: To say the words necessary, but it's like it ended 227 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: up being amazing. 228 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 2: It ended up being credible. 229 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 1: It ended up being like such a key shift in 230 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 1: the business, in me, in the team and all those 231 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: sorts of things, and it really I was like, wow, 232 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 1: it turned out better than I could. 233 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 2: Have imagined that, you know. I mean, even though it 234 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 2: was a bit rough there for a while. Yeah, and 235 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:06,960 Speaker 2: I was like. 236 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: Ah, Okay, life's fine, this is amazing, and now yeah, 237 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:16,600 Speaker 1: I can really I can really see like those key. 238 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 2: Moments and I'm like, oh wow, I don't know, I'm 239 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 2: laughing for I'm just. 240 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:28,439 Speaker 1: Laughing because it's like, you really think trauma respond, you really. 241 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 2: Think of scenting, You're like, it's fine, Okay. 242 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: The next one was when I gave birth to Ivy 243 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: and then. 244 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 2: Tried to come back as a working mom. I remember 245 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 2: witnessing this. Honestly, it was what's it giving? I was giving, 246 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 2: like byfors. 247 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 3: It wasn't even that. Georgie just felt like her creativity 248 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 3: was gone. She blamed it before it. 249 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: I think we did an episode we did. I'm so sorry. 250 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: I feel this. I literally was like, my creativity's gone. 251 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 2: She took it, and she took it. She took it, 252 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:08,200 Speaker 2: and I can't be who I need to be. 253 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 1: And it was like what like an ill even think 254 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,640 Speaker 1: about that belief, Like that's so limiting. I was such 255 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 1: a victim. I didn't take any responsibility. And also I 256 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: just didn't have any compassion for myself that it's like 257 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: you literally had a newborn at home. Yeah, like give 258 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 1: yourself some grace, mate. And again it's like I really 259 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: saw this as like I almost had this like weird 260 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 1: thing where I'm like, this is the end of my career. 261 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: Oh you did not know, but it's like a fleeting 262 00:14:37,960 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 1: thought of like, yeah, she's taken my creativity because I 263 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: really felt like it was, especially because when I was pregnant, 264 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: I fucking felt incredible. I felt vincall like I was 265 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 1: on such a high because I had wanted to be 266 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 1: pregnant so long. Got pregnant and remember I like did 267 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: those sponge of collabs. I was like I was just 268 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: like smashing life and I felt like such this huge high. 269 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 1: And then I you birth a baby and you have 270 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: to fully slow down, and I think it was just 271 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: like a whole bunch of just like you know, it's 272 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 1: just like a car crash, the whole bunch of things happening, 273 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: and I really thought, oh my god, this is the 274 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: end of my creativity. I'm gonna have to change my 275 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: whole business, like all those sorts of things, and it 276 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 1: felt like, oh my god, my life's ending. Like this 277 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 1: is the worst case scenario, so dramatic, but in saying that, 278 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 1: it felt really real. 279 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 2: Like you saw me a tea, I was like, yeah, 280 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 2: a bit of a mess. 281 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 1: And the outcome is I before Ivy, I really didn't 282 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: have work life balance. No, I was a workaholic, but 283 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: I didn't think I was because I loved my work 284 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 1: so much that I was like, I didn't identify with it. 285 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 1: But now that I've had Ivy, I've never been so balanced. 286 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 2: I've like, actually, you weren't even there, Tea. But like before. 287 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: Ivy, I would be the first in and the last 288 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 1: person to leave this office, always whoa always, And so 289 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:00,840 Speaker 1: having Ivy, I. 290 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 2: Couldn't do that anymore. 291 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: So that I hadn't eve one at home. I think 292 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 1: I was even breastfeeding it one stage. And so it 293 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 1: created this beautiful For the first time in my life, 294 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 1: I actually had to create work life balance, and I 295 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 1: had to create those boundaries first. I had to create 296 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 1: those boundaries first, and then the creativity came. I just 297 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 1: had to reshift my life. I had to reshift how 298 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,480 Speaker 1: I like I did it. But now that I do 299 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: life in this way where I've never worked a small 300 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 1: amount of hours, it felt so like I impact my 301 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: business so much. I have such an impact my you know, 302 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: the businesses have never earned so much. So I'm like, before, 303 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:41,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, what the fuck was I doing? I was 304 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 1: like a bit, you know, almost like keeping yourself busy 305 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: just for the fact of being busy. 306 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 2: And obviously I was doing things. 307 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,720 Speaker 1: But now I have really learned how to you know, 308 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: ask for help, create boundaries, have work life balance, and 309 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: I truly believe when you have those times to rest, 310 00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: that's when the creativity comes out. If you're just doing 311 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 1: and doing doing, it's like how you're ever going to 312 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 1: be recharged. It's like, you know, my car, it's an 313 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 1: electric car. I have to charge it in the wall 314 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 1: and then it goes again. 315 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 3: It's like it's the and it needs time. It needs 316 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 3: time stations for two seconds. Yes, that's that's a big thing. 317 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:21,360 Speaker 1: So that was such a key moment. And I have never, yeah, 318 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 1: been so balanced. I've had so much more structures in 319 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:28,080 Speaker 1: my day. I'm so much more efficient and productive. I 320 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: feel like, I honestly feel like I have more time 321 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:35,360 Speaker 1: for me as a working mom than I did before. 322 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 1: I mean, which is wild to think about. Yeah, wow, 323 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:40,480 Speaker 1: I used to work on weekends. Remember you still have 324 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:42,680 Speaker 1: my podcast on the weekends, because I was like, that's 325 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: when I'm creative. And now you won't see me touch 326 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 1: work on the weekends unless I'm like thrown up a 327 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 1: story or saying that's that's fine, that's. 328 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 2: What a cool fun. So honestly, come generating fun. It 329 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 2: is what I do. 330 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:00,400 Speaker 1: It's not my it's not my fault. I the money 331 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:08,439 Speaker 1: lining to you, all right, Okay. The next moment I 332 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:10,479 Speaker 1: thought my life was ending but turned up better than 333 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: I could have imagined, was when we lost our dream house. 334 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 1: Oh yes, so that quick, quick, quick backstory. The house 335 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:22,879 Speaker 1: we're in now, which is like she's like six levels, 336 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:29,479 Speaker 1: she has water views, two pools, like a gym, like everything, like, 337 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: oh my god, Like I never thought I'd be living 338 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 1: in a house like this, just such an incredible sanctuary, 339 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: and like, oh I just can't dream house. I saw 340 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 1: this house on real estate dot com. 341 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 2: I looked in the. 342 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: Sold section of real estate dot Com. This house wasn't 343 00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: even for sale. I looked in the sold section, saw 344 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 1: this house, fell in love with it and was like, 345 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:55,440 Speaker 1: this is my house. Had such an energetic pool text. 346 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 1: The agent said, do you know if the sales the 347 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,520 Speaker 1: buyers would want to sell. He's like, I'll message them, 348 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 1: and then he messaged me and was like, yeah, if 349 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:10,640 Speaker 1: the price is right. So I did why So we 350 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: went over checked out the house. I was like, yes, 351 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,439 Speaker 1: love it, definitely want to paint it some different colors, 352 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,600 Speaker 1: but love. It came to an arrangement, agreed on a price, 353 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: it was all going through, and then two weeks later, 354 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: when we were supposed to sign the paperwork, he caught 355 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 1: up and the owners didn't want to sell anymore. The 356 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 1: wife was actually really attached to the house and she 357 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 1: was like, all, R, I don't want to sell it, 358 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,119 Speaker 1: and I think there were some issues with the titles 359 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 1: or something. 360 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 2: And then I was. 361 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 3: Like, oh, that's like heartbreaking because it would have felt 362 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 3: so aligned. 363 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:40,440 Speaker 2: It felt so aligned. 364 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: And the wild thing is we lived a suburb over 365 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: on the beach, not on the beach, but close to 366 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:51,199 Speaker 1: the beach, and every beach walk I did, I actually 367 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: didn't realize, but I was looking at our house because 368 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:54,880 Speaker 1: our house is. 369 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 2: On a hill. 370 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: So it's like everything told me we were meant to 371 00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 1: be in this house, like energetically. And so when they 372 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 1: said they didn't want to sell, I was like what 373 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 1: why would you do this to me? Yes? 374 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 2: What do you mean? 375 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: And then yeah, wild, So I totally in that moment disconnected, detached, 376 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, look, it's not meant to be, 377 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:20,399 Speaker 1: but it's shown me how easy it gets to be. 378 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 1: How I know, like like physically in my body, like 379 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 1: somatically when it's a yes, how easy it is even 380 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: if the fucking house isn't for sale, I still get 381 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 1: it kind of vibes. Like I was like, this is 382 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: showing me so many lessons that I can take gratitude 383 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:39,040 Speaker 1: from this even if it didn't eventuate, rather than being like, 384 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: oh my god, why would this happen to me? So 385 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:45,200 Speaker 1: it completely detached two months later, So two months that's 386 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 1: a long time. I've even started like looking at other houses, 387 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,879 Speaker 1: but nothing really came up. Two months later, they called 388 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: back up and were like they want to sell again, 389 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 1: Let's do the deal like this afternoon. It was a testy, 390 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: I know, but I learned so much and it's like, 391 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 1: what a cool story. 392 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 3: And like, so good of you to just like go 393 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 3: straight to the like at least I know what a 394 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:12,439 Speaker 3: yes feels like. At least I know how easy it 395 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 3: gets to be, and like reaffirming like it's not. 396 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: Even listed and it's mine. Yes, Like it's not even available, 397 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 1: but it's still mine. That's when I was like, I'm 398 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: a master manifesto, do you know what I mean? Like, yeah, wow, 399 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,160 Speaker 1: I'm actually really good at this. 400 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,679 Speaker 2: And then so when what I say, you know, I'm like, oh, 401 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 2: she it. 402 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'm like, wow, such a cool moment. Again, 403 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: life apps and for me turned out to be great, 404 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:42,919 Speaker 1: and it actually turned out to be really good when 405 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: we move just in regards to like Ivy's age, financially 406 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:47,920 Speaker 1: for us and all those different things. 407 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 2: So that happens for you. Yeah, okay, so next time. 408 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,800 Speaker 1: Obviously I'm not gonna like say names or be specific, 409 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 1: but there was a moment where I lost some key friendships. 410 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 2: So like these are friendships like really really close. 411 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 1: You know, people had been in my life for a 412 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 1: very long time, very and in those moments, like it 413 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 1: kind of there was you know, almost like a couple 414 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 1: at the same time, and I really was like is 415 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 1: it me? 416 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, am I the problem? What's happening here? 417 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: But it was really because I was moving to a 418 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:26,880 Speaker 1: new evolution in my life, and it was just one 419 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 1: of those moments where I feel like, in your early 420 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:33,159 Speaker 1: twenties you have a lot of friends, you almost have 421 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,679 Speaker 1: like an abundance of friends and abundant of people, and 422 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,719 Speaker 1: you're energetically so much more open to people. And then 423 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 1: I feel like as I got closer to thirty, I 424 00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,439 Speaker 1: just got so much more stricter with my energy and 425 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 1: my standards and like even not necessarily what they were 426 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 1: doing in their life, but if they were entertaining low 427 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 1: vibe behaviors that were. 428 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 2: Aligned with me. I just was almost like you got big. 429 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just oh, do you actually spend your spare 430 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 3: time doing that? 431 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,040 Speaker 1: Like maybe when I was nineteen, but not when we're 432 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:11,959 Speaker 1: you know, nearly thirty, and just kind of And also 433 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 1: friendships where I was like, oh, we only ever really 434 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:19,240 Speaker 1: connected when I was drunk, you know, like, yeah, you 435 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:23,159 Speaker 1: can't ract. But for me, there was a lot of 436 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 1: friendships that I only hung around with them and we 437 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: only connected when I was drinking. 438 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 2: Was we a do bond? 439 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 3: Yeah? 440 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:33,119 Speaker 1: And if we were sober, there wasn't a lot to 441 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,719 Speaker 1: talk about. There wasn't a lot of connection, which I 442 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: definitely take responsibility. It's not just them, but again it's 443 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 1: because when I'm so around, like, oh I don't really 444 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 1: there's not a lot to talk about. 445 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 446 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: And it was a weird thing where again even thinking 447 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:51,639 Speaker 1: about like Ivy and who I want her to see, 448 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:55,000 Speaker 1: like I'm around and the conversations I'm having, and like 449 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:57,919 Speaker 1: what I'm doing with my time, and just like a 450 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: lot of you know, who do I wander my life? 451 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 1: I truly believe like your environment is everything. But there 452 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:06,639 Speaker 1: was a moment when you're losing those friendships that you 453 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: do really question like is it me? Especially if it's 454 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 1: like a couple at a time, or you know, a 455 00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 1: friendship group or those sorts of things. It can feel 456 00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 1: really hard and really disempowering, and like, oh am I 457 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,919 Speaker 1: doing the right thing? Yeah, but again, like you know, 458 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 1: a couple of years down the track, I can really 459 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: see how those people needed to leave my life so 460 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,719 Speaker 1: I could have deeper connections come in, I could have 461 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:37,360 Speaker 1: deeper connections with my more intimate group. Like I feel 462 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 1: like as I got older, I developed more of a 463 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:45,760 Speaker 1: deeper connection with like Tim and Cooper and my parents, 464 00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,879 Speaker 1: whereas maybe I used to confide more in like a 465 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 1: girlfriend yeah if that makes sense, And I still have 466 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 1: amazing girlfriends. But it's really been this like beautiful evolution 467 00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,159 Speaker 1: of Yeah, I don't I don't have language for it, 468 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,240 Speaker 1: but I'm sure you guys know what I mean. And yeah, 469 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:04,720 Speaker 1: it like new people came in, stronger relationships, more deeper relationships. 470 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: And again, I don't think everyone who comes in your 471 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 1: life is supposed to be there forever, and accepting that 472 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 1: and being okay with it and also being like, oh 473 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 1: my god, I haven't I had an amazing time with 474 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 1: those people. Yeah, those memories are still really beautiful. I 475 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,479 Speaker 1: don't have to make them bad or anything like that. 476 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: I get to just move on and it doesn't have 477 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 1: to be a thing. And what's actually great about my 478 00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: situation is there was no like weirdness or cattiness or 479 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,120 Speaker 1: like drama. 480 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, it just was like fizzled. Yeah, fizzled. 481 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: We moved apart, and I still, like, you know, if 482 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: I see them on social media or saying I'm like 483 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 1: wish you well, love that for you, But I'm allowed 484 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 1: to go in a different direction not feel guilty about it. 485 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 1: I love that Another moment when I missed out on 486 00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:52,199 Speaker 1: my law job. So when I finished my law degree 487 00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,760 Speaker 1: and I was already working in a law firm, I 488 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,880 Speaker 1: got my PLT that worked my way up from law 489 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:03,159 Speaker 1: grad to a sorry, a law clerk to a law grad. 490 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 1: And then I kind of made this promise with myself. 491 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:07,600 Speaker 2: I like kind of. 492 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:09,760 Speaker 1: Knew that I wanted to leave law, but I also 493 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 1: was in the mindset of like, it would be really 494 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 1: silly of me because I had just done six years 495 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,760 Speaker 1: of law. So I kind of said to myself, I 496 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:19,800 Speaker 1: worked in a certain area. I worked in the family 497 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:23,479 Speaker 1: law team, but our law firm had lots of other areas. 498 00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,440 Speaker 1: So they had like corporate law, they had you know, wills, 499 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 1: and you know, they had a whole bunch of us 500 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,399 Speaker 1: stuff happening. So there were other teams. And so I 501 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: said to myself, if I don't get into family law, 502 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: which I had been working, I would then like leave 503 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 1: and do my own thing. And so I didn't like 504 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 1: they were like, oh, family law doesn't have enough budget, 505 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:45,120 Speaker 1: but you can go you know, in a different team 506 00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:46,159 Speaker 1: in the firm. 507 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:47,479 Speaker 2: And that's when I knew. 508 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,200 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm not going to continue in law, 509 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:54,360 Speaker 1: but I did feel quite disappointed and quite like, oh 510 00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:55,600 Speaker 1: my god, is this the right thing? 511 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,679 Speaker 2: I've just done six years of law? Why hasn't it 512 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:00,240 Speaker 2: fallen into place? Yeah? 513 00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 1: And almost like am I not smart enough to do 514 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:06,399 Speaker 1: this career? Am I not driven enough? Like lots of doubts. 515 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 1: But then obviously I'm sure you know the story I, 516 00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 1: you know, had like we'll call it a gap year 517 00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: where I just like try to whole bunch of things 518 00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:17,160 Speaker 1: launched like an ebook did presets I called a bunch 519 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,919 Speaker 1: of random things, and then created Rice and Conker and 520 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: Naked Harvest, which obviously you know better than I could 521 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:24,440 Speaker 1: have imagined. 522 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 2: Vibes. So again, not getting that job. 523 00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: Turned out to be the best thing that ever happened 524 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,480 Speaker 1: to me, Literally, the best thing ever. 525 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 2: The best thing. 526 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:38,679 Speaker 1: So another interesting moment was when I lost a major 527 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:42,560 Speaker 1: brand deal, not even a brand deal, a brand partnership 528 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,560 Speaker 1: with like a brand that I was like, you know, 529 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: I tell me, oh. 530 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 2: I actually haven't heard this story. Really, no, you've never 531 00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:53,159 Speaker 2: told me. 532 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, So basically what happened with that story is I was, 533 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,440 Speaker 1: you know, with them for a while, loved working with them, 534 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,679 Speaker 1: loved the brand, love the product, but I wanted to 535 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:05,880 Speaker 1: reduce my contract, so I wanted to do less deliverables. 536 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 1: I was on quite quite a few, and basically we 537 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,440 Speaker 1: couldn't come to an agreement and they were like. 538 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:14,240 Speaker 2: That's so random. 539 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, not you're gone even though, And it was really 540 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,920 Speaker 1: heartbreaking for me because I knew they worked with other 541 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,919 Speaker 1: influences on a lesser capacity. So I felt very like 542 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 1: not targeted, but just like it's a bit shit when 543 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:29,920 Speaker 1: I had worked for them for a very long time. 544 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like if you wanted to, you would, 545 00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 2: and I know you can't. 546 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, so gave me the ig and so I was 547 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 1: like quite saddened and upset and like, oh what does 548 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,600 Speaker 1: this mean, especially because they were a very prominent brand 549 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: who gave me a lot of exposure. So I was like, oh, 550 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 1: what does this mean for my influencer career, etc. Had 551 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,360 Speaker 1: the thoughts like, you know, is this the end for me? 552 00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 1: But what ended up happening is I got to work 553 00:28:56,040 --> 00:29:00,280 Speaker 1: for another brand now I didn't have exclusivity, got to 554 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 1: work for another brand, and then that brand came straight 555 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:08,640 Speaker 1: in with like a six figure deal, a collection like 556 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 1: all the things that I'm like holy shit, I feel like, 557 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: you know, a superstar and this other brand couldn't even 558 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 1: lower their deliverables for me. But I had to let 559 00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:20,960 Speaker 1: that go because it was like. 560 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:22,479 Speaker 2: That wasn't going to come in if you didn't let 561 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:22,719 Speaker 2: it go. 562 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 1: Well, they said like they had another alternative for me 563 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 1: that was like kind of okay, but it wasn't what 564 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 1: I wanted. So I had the opportunity to just accept that, 565 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: like okay one, but I said no, I'm like nah. 566 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:37,880 Speaker 2: And then yeah, that like the. 567 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,440 Speaker 1: Most incredible brand deal came in that ended up being 568 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,240 Speaker 1: like such a pivotal moment of my influencer career and 569 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: all those sorts of things. So I'm like, oh, wow, 570 00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:47,080 Speaker 1: thank god that happens. 571 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 2: Wow, I love this one. Yeah, I didn't think I've 572 00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 2: told you that one. Who cool moment. That's sick. That's sick. 573 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,760 Speaker 2: It's cool that I know what brads you're talking about. Yeah, 574 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:02,040 Speaker 2: don't rub it in. I'm honestly sure people can put 575 00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 2: it together. Yeah, I'm sure you guys can put it together. 576 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 1: But there's there's no drama or tea on this podcast, 577 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:08,320 Speaker 1: so we don't do that here. 578 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 2: But I'm sure you guys can put it together. Wow. 579 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 1: So the last moment this is going right back to this, 580 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 1: you know, the beginning of my twenties or early teens 581 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 1: was the moment that my high school boyfriend dumbed me. 582 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: When I say I was devastated. 583 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 2: I can't imagine, like no, actually, no joker tea. 584 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 1: I was in my room like wailing, like my mom 585 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: and dad didn't know what to do. And this is 586 00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 1: like my mom and dad who don't show any emotion. 587 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:46,680 Speaker 4: I was wailing, like like hysterically crying, like to the 588 00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 4: point where my dad's like says to my mom planning 589 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,680 Speaker 4: a Dad, She's like, you've got to do something like. 590 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:53,720 Speaker 2: Sort her out. I don't know what to do it. 591 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:58,280 Speaker 4: He had to leave because I was his h sterically cried. 592 00:30:58,360 --> 00:30:59,800 Speaker 2: What did your brothers think? 593 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,800 Speaker 1: I honestly can't remember what they thought back then, but 594 00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,400 Speaker 1: like not okay, And it was right before. 595 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 2: Formal and right before QS. 596 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:14,960 Speaker 1: What's QCs? And I just was like a fucking mess. 597 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 2: Oh that's brutal. It was so. 598 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,720 Speaker 1: Brutal, and it's it was really hard because we had 599 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,680 Speaker 1: a turbulent relationship in high school, like often on vibes, 600 00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,800 Speaker 1: but when he broke up with me, we were really good, 601 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,760 Speaker 1: like everything was fine, nothing was wrong, and I'm like 602 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: maybe that was the point he like thrived on the drama. 603 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:35,800 Speaker 2: But it was like just so I felt blindsided. That's 604 00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 2: what it was. 605 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,719 Speaker 1: I was blindsided. I didn't have any control. 606 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:39,320 Speaker 2: It was fucked. 607 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: And then obviously like the it being better than I 608 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:48,200 Speaker 1: could have imagined. Was I added Tim on Facebook because 609 00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:57,440 Speaker 1: so his so his brother, like Tim was his brother's friend, 610 00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 1: So his older brother's friends. 611 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 2: Look at you a bit toxic? So toxic a tr. 612 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,640 Speaker 1: I was also seventeen, Yeah it's fine, And I was like, 613 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 1: you know what seventeen you can get. 614 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 2: And I'm gonna go funck on your. 615 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 4: Brother's friends, no joke, That's what went through my head, 616 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 4: a tr like I didn't. 617 00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,240 Speaker 2: But you know what's funny is because like Tim was. 618 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 1: You did. 619 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:33,160 Speaker 5: I did? I'm sure they know you have a child. 620 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:35,000 Speaker 2: No, I'm an angel. 621 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 1: No, but I was like full like what's circle, what's revenge? Yeah, 622 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,840 Speaker 1: full revenge vibes. And but it's funny because Tim was 623 00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 1: just like the hottest friend out of the friend group. 624 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,880 Speaker 1: And also I didn't like No, I hadn't met him, 625 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:52,000 Speaker 1: so he was kind of giving. 626 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,200 Speaker 2: I don't really care vibes. 627 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, but also he was the hottest and I was like, okay, 628 00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 1: that's so happens, added him. He didn't like accept my 629 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,479 Speaker 1: friend quest for like a couple of weeks, and in 630 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:05,360 Speaker 1: those couple of weeks, I like did QCs went. 631 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:05,800 Speaker 5: To four more. 632 00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,920 Speaker 1: So I got prom queen at formal, which was a 633 00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:09,400 Speaker 1: huge confidence. 634 00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:13,640 Speaker 2: Honestly I needed it. I needed it because I did. 635 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:16,680 Speaker 3: I need it myself in like seventeen year old shoes 636 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 3: and it's like that is like life ending. 637 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 1: It is life ending stuff like your boyfriend breaking up 638 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 1: with you for no reason before four more, hang on 639 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:29,720 Speaker 1: till after. Yeah, but I got prom quin did QCs. 640 00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,080 Speaker 2: By the time Tim added me, you didn't care? I forgot. 641 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,680 Speaker 2: I even was like who's this friendom person? Because I 642 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 2: hadn't met him. 643 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 1: And then he jumped straight to my DMS and was 644 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 1: like hey, I love and so we just like were chatting. 645 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 2: A little bit on Facebook. 646 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 1: I went to schoolies at this point, he wasn't at 647 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,120 Speaker 1: schoolies or anything because he's four years older. And then 648 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 1: the weekend after schoolies we went on our first date 649 00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:55,680 Speaker 1: and since then always been together. So like obviously better 650 00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 1: than way better than you could better you could have imagined. 651 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 2: So that was my lass point. 652 00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,520 Speaker 1: And again I really thought my life was ending, but 653 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:04,760 Speaker 1: it's like it turned out amazing. 654 00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 2: It's always those ones. 655 00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,799 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So my loves, this is your reminder that 656 00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,880 Speaker 1: you know, these were all pivotal moments that all came 657 00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:19,400 Speaker 1: from shitty things happening, endings, not great feelings, but it 658 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 1: turned out better than I could have imagined. And now 659 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful and love that this all happened to me. 660 00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:29,000 Speaker 1: So these are the moments that I lock into when 661 00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,320 Speaker 1: things aren't going my way or things, you know, abrupt 662 00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 1: things happened. So if, like I said, if you can 663 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:39,960 Speaker 1: harness this, it will truly be it's it's truly like 664 00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:44,880 Speaker 1: a skill that will help you not be superior. 665 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,960 Speaker 2: But like I think, just navigate those times with a 666 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 2: bit more grace. 667 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:56,600 Speaker 1: Yes, grace, because again like obviously me wailing like that's fine, 668 00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,759 Speaker 1: but the whole like toxic revenge like that, that's not 669 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,920 Speaker 1: the And again it's fine. I was seventeen, but you 670 00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,719 Speaker 1: would hope that you know, someone in their thirties isn't 671 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,840 Speaker 1: doing that. But we can because we get so caught 672 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:12,440 Speaker 1: up in the feelings and the emotions. So if we 673 00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:15,800 Speaker 1: can be a bit more graceful, if we can float 674 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,920 Speaker 1: through those and really like, Okay, this is happening for me. 675 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,640 Speaker 2: I really think it's like such a great skill tap. 676 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,320 Speaker 2: The secret is detachment totally. 677 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:24,960 Speaker 3: I know. 678 00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,880 Speaker 2: It's such a we're doing and Rise up this month. 679 00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,280 Speaker 2: Yes it is. It's such a it's such a secret hack. Yeah, 680 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,520 Speaker 2: just attached. But anyway, I hope you loved these wild stories. 681 00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:37,319 Speaker 2: I loved him goes through entertaining. 682 00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 1: But love you guys so much, and we'll chat to 683 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 1: you in the next episode. 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