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Speaker 1: extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast.
Speaker 1: It is your host, Georgie Stephenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,
Speaker 1: new mum All the Things Today episode is one of
Speaker 1: our classic Geez hotline It's been a while.
Speaker 2: It's been a while.
Speaker 1: It's been a while, but we're back with the hot lines.
Speaker 1: So these are our fun Friday epps where you send
Speaker 1: in your life dilemmas and a tear and I provide
Speaker 1: our very unqualified two cents on the situation. We've got
Speaker 1: a couple of quick fire ones as well. Yeah, they're
Speaker 1: a bit fun. They're a bit fun. So in today's
Speaker 1: app we answer what are our New Year's resolutions. Me
Speaker 1: and a tea get into that, we answer what we're
Speaker 1: leaving behind in twenty twenty two, and then we get
Speaker 1: into some saucy little ah they are saucy ones today.
Speaker 1: So first of all, what can you do when the
Speaker 1: universe kind of gives you what you want and then
Speaker 1: takes it away hard one? Yeah, very disappointing. And then
Speaker 1: also what do you do about a cheating best friend,
Speaker 1: especially when it involves marriage and children? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Emphasis on the qualified guys.
Speaker 1: So unqualified guys. It's a bit yeah, I don't want
Speaker 1: to say fun one now it's a bit of an
Speaker 1: interesting one. But quickly a tear Happy New Year, Happy
Speaker 1: New Year?
Speaker 2: Can you tell this is recordedpording, guys where I'm.
Speaker 1: Not even going to try and lie to you guys.
Speaker 1: But also when you listen to this Happy New Year,
Speaker 1: I can't update your my New Year because I'm still
Speaker 1: stuck in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 2: New Year's update coming next week?
Speaker 1: Yes, amazing. Do you want to give them a quick
Speaker 1: wreck or we've got no rex.
Speaker 2: If you haven't already watched Wednesday on Netflix, you can't.
Speaker 2: Just really I love that though, Yeah, my rec will
Speaker 2: be the do it for your Future Self course because
Speaker 2: we'll be in the middle of it. I'll finally have
Speaker 2: been able to do it because Georgie hasn't let me
Speaker 2: do it yet, and I just know it's so good.
Speaker 1: Oh, you're so funny, shameless pug. Yes, guys, So the
Speaker 1: do It for Your Future Self course is still available.
Speaker 1: The price does increase literally in the next couple of days.
Speaker 1: So if you want to get clear on your twenty
Speaker 1: twenty three, if you want to, you know, make a
Speaker 1: plan and be very intentionable and just do things a
Speaker 1: little bit differently. This year, we do have a seven
Speaker 1: day mini course where a module opens each day. It's
Speaker 1: only thirty minutes and it's all about getting clear and
Speaker 1: really being intentional with this new year and just having
Speaker 1: a bit of a plan, having a bit of a
Speaker 1: guide map so you can make this year magical and
Speaker 1: we will put the links in the show notes. Also
Speaker 1: very exciting. The project is coming back for round six enrollment.
Speaker 1: Very exciting. This is our manifesting course and we'll have
Speaker 1: more details of when the car opens. It's not starting
Speaker 1: to feb so we just wanted to give you guys,
Speaker 1: you know, a bit of time because we know it's
Speaker 1: an investment of your time and energy, and it's you know,
Speaker 1: it's a life changing call. But we just wanted to
Speaker 1: keep you notice. But yeah, I really hope you're enjoying
Speaker 1: your new year, and I hope you enjoy this little hotline,
Speaker 1: and yeah, we'll be back in your ears next Tuesday.
Speaker 2: So our first question was starting with some quick fire ones.
Speaker 2: What are your New Year's resolutions?
Speaker 1: M do you want to go first? You want me, Joe,
Speaker 1: you go first. I wonder if we'll have similar I
Speaker 1: feel like you know mine?
Speaker 2: Not really?
Speaker 1: No, all right, let's get into it. So I'm excited
Speaker 1: to answer this because I'm going to completely be a
Speaker 1: bit crazy. And I think I've said this in a
Speaker 1: previous episode, but when I did that night away with
Speaker 1: my girlfriend, and you know, I had already planned the
Speaker 1: year for Naked Harvest and RNC and had my goals
Speaker 1: for that, but I hadn't done anything personally, and so
Speaker 1: for me, and I'm just going to go through my
Speaker 1: personal goals because others will be here all day if
Speaker 1: we're going through all my business Jesus Frost, very exciting
Speaker 1: things happening, but personally a big thing for me and
Speaker 1: my like New Year's Resolutions is really about stepping into
Speaker 1: the unknown and absolutely trusting, like full body trusting, because
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever done this, because I've always
Speaker 1: had some sort of line, some sort of rope of
Speaker 1: where I was going, so I kind of knew. But
Speaker 1: I'm just going to like create space, have such a
Speaker 1: strong intention, and just let the universe do its thing.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to see what happened.
Speaker 1: So like literally I've said to the universe, I've done
Speaker 1: a lot of this in the new do it for
Speaker 1: your future self. Course of like I'm not clear on
Speaker 1: like the visuals, because I was even having this conversation
Speaker 1: with Cooper because human actually just made a beautiful couples
Speaker 1: vision board together. Oh I know, so sweet, And I
Speaker 1: was explaining because he's like, you need to do it,
Speaker 1: and I was like, pes, get yourself a brother who
Speaker 1: makes a vision bond.
Speaker 2: Vibes.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that was a ran. I'm not actually doing
Speaker 1: the vision board this year. Previous years very much help me.
Speaker 1: I vibe it, but I can't actually put a picture
Speaker 1: on the vision board because I feel like this year
Speaker 1: that would be limiting myself. Does that make sense? You're
Speaker 1: like one level up further I'm so much further than
Speaker 1: you guys. I'm my god to know I'll still be
Speaker 1: doing the vision bond. But it's like, intuitively, it just
Speaker 1: feels like I'm clear on the vibe, and the vibe
Speaker 1: is super strong with my boundaries, super strong with knowing
Speaker 1: my worth, super strong with my priorities of family time
Speaker 1: obviously ivy and tim yeah, my happiness, my own time yeah,
Speaker 1: and then my businesses.
Speaker 2: And value them all equally well yeah, like giving more
Speaker 2: time to your family or just it's just about.
Speaker 1: Being so strong in those parties. So when opportunities come
Speaker 1: or decisions come, I look at them and I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: is this going to honor my parities?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Or is this going to take away from them? Or
Speaker 1: is this in an even energy exchange. That's a huge
Speaker 1: thing that I'm like leaning into because I think previous
Speaker 1: years I get I get really excited about shiny things.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, they really get me, and I like
Speaker 1: go off chasing the shiny thing, where in reality it's
Speaker 1: like I didn't really like go within and be like
Speaker 1: is this really a party? Is this really the thing
Speaker 1: I want? Or is it just because it's on someone
Speaker 1: else's vision board or someone else has had that success. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so really like she's she's in like the inner layers.
Speaker 1: And it's the first time I felt like this and
Speaker 1: the first time I've gone and I've said no to
Speaker 1: a lot of things already. I usually have like my
Speaker 1: whole you know, year planned out, even personally, and I've
Speaker 1: gone no, I'm going to just be really really strong
Speaker 1: on the energy I'm attracting, fucking leave some space for
Speaker 1: once and literally just see what happens. And I'm just
Speaker 1: so excited.
Speaker 2: That is so exciting.
Speaker 1: But it's weird though, because I love a vision board.
Speaker 1: I love like specific things and numbers and like specifics.
Speaker 1: I love the control. So I'm letting go of the
Speaker 1: control and I'm leaning into of I know, the vibe
Speaker 1: and vibe check and every time something comes along, is this,
Speaker 1: you know I love that what I said I'm going
Speaker 1: to do, or is this kind of a sparkly thing
Speaker 1: that is just going to leave to me feeling like
Speaker 1: empty m super blank. So yeah, that is like, that's
Speaker 1: my vibe for next year. Are very different something I've
Speaker 1: never done. Look, I hope I am continuing to be
Speaker 1: accountable to this, so I will check in with you guys.
Speaker 1: Obviously this year and we'll kind of see how this changes,
Speaker 1: because this is another thing to and obviously speak about
Speaker 1: this a lot in my Do It for your Future
Speaker 1: self course and the project of if you are feeling
Speaker 1: out of alignment and things just aren't feeling good, it
Speaker 1: is usually because you have shifted or you've gone to
Speaker 1: a new season and it's time to change things. It's
Speaker 1: time to ask your why again. It's time to get
Speaker 1: back to those basics, check in with yourself and be like, hey,
Speaker 1: are my priorities in my reality actually reflecting my priorities
Speaker 1: in my heart?
Speaker 2: Yeah? What about your tire, I've got two bigorizations.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they better not to be ado.
Speaker 2: That would be a resolute.
Speaker 1: This is a really big.
Speaker 2: Goal in my Like, yeah, kind might be here forever,
Speaker 2: but we were a family. We are family.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, I'm joking.
Speaker 2: My two big resolutions are. Number one, which was inspired
Speaker 2: from an episode, is making my word law I love.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: That is a big one for me because I think
Speaker 2: it's something that I've really not done and I need
Speaker 2: to and I need to be able to set that
Speaker 2: standard for myself in that I'm the only person that
Speaker 2: can hold myself accountable. I'm the only person I have
Speaker 2: to answer to it at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: And it's like respecting yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, respecting myself. And I really want to work on
Speaker 2: that because I think that I'm not very good at
Speaker 2: it at the moment. And then like a boundary to yes,
Speaker 2: absolutely self boundary. And my second one is to become
Speaker 2: better at letting things happen and feeling good when things
Speaker 2: go wrong.
Speaker 1: I tear your life happens for us, I.
Speaker 2: Know, and I just want to embrace that. And I
Speaker 2: want to. I love that because I'm good at it.
Speaker 2: In certain aspects. I'm like, that's fine, we'll work around it.
Speaker 2: But then in other things, it just and it's because
Speaker 2: I've got steps planned out, and then if a step
Speaker 2: gets knocked out, I'm like, well, this is shit. Nothing
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go right anymore. But it always ends up
Speaker 2: working out.
Speaker 1: So life is a mystery and we need to embrace it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So that's my second one.
Speaker 1: I love that. That's literally like what we're talking about
Speaker 1: before with our U know whatce.
Speaker 2: We can't say yeah, should we tell them?
Speaker 1: No, guys, we have an exciting product coming out. I'm
Speaker 1: not going to tell them what it is, tell them
Speaker 1: the story and literally this is like our first for us.
Speaker 1: Were so excited, so much fucking time and energy has
Speaker 1: gone into this, and we like get it, and it's
Speaker 1: wrong in.
Speaker 2: It the part of it that's wrong. The text on
Speaker 2: it literally says my favorite quote, life happens for me,
Speaker 2: and that part of the product is wrong, and we're
Speaker 2: trying to get mad, but then we're like.
Speaker 1: But it's just kind of funny. I just and I
Speaker 1: just have no like wits left, like, oh look, it's
Speaker 1: kind of fucking funny. And also life does happen for us.
Speaker 1: So obviously that was not meant to launch when we
Speaker 1: thought it was gonna launch, and it's gonna launch some
Speaker 1: other time and it's gonna be amazing. Yes, I love
Speaker 1: those New Year's resolutions. They are two great ones.
Speaker 2: I love yours. I'm excited.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna really keep you accountable and be like a
Speaker 1: tear is your word law.
Speaker 2: I know I'm going to say to work on that one.
Speaker 2: I think so. I've maybe we'll do monthly news resolution
Speaker 2: check ins on the podcast make.
Speaker 1: It Happen, put in your little sheet.
Speaker 2: All right, next year, what is the most powerful thing
Speaker 2: I can do? Now to propel me to achieve my
Speaker 2: news resolutions this year.
Speaker 1: Oh, I love this question. I think the most powerful
Speaker 1: thing you can do is well, I think the most
Speaker 1: powerful you can do is like obviously get clear on
Speaker 1: what you want. That's like the huge big thing of
Speaker 1: like get really clear and not even like the specifics
Speaker 1: like I would get clear on like the feeling you
Speaker 1: were wanting to attract. Yeah, and also obviously we do
Speaker 1: this and then do it for your future self course
Speaker 1: of like wit just stell.
Speaker 2: Seventy seven dollars and seventy seven cents.
Speaker 1: Quick in the course, Like we talk about life buckets,
Speaker 1: and it's really about creating goals that are well rounded
Speaker 1: and not just like a specific thing. Because a big
Speaker 1: learning curve that I've had is like I'll have these amazing,
Speaker 1: you know, goals that are very high achieving, and I'll
Speaker 1: reach them, and i won't feel as good because I've
Speaker 1: let a lot of other shit slide and like be
Speaker 1: less important when that was actually really important to me.
Speaker 1: So like creating you know, getting clear on what you
Speaker 1: actually want and creating well rounded goals around it. But
Speaker 1: I don't know the biggest, biggest thing to like move
Speaker 1: the needle forward is like checking in with yourself with
Speaker 1: your intention of that goal or where you're going more regularly, Yeah,
Speaker 1: don't you reckon instead of just like setting and forgetting.
Speaker 1: It's like, so something new I'm doing. Let me go
Speaker 1: to my calendar and I put this in when I
Speaker 1: had that weekend with my bestie, because like the vibe
Speaker 1: for me is my goals might change. I'm going to change,
Speaker 1: like I've noticed so much. This is so relevant to
Speaker 1: me now becoming a mom of like life does change.
Speaker 1: And if you're got this goal over here and it's
Speaker 1: actually no longer important to you or what you need
Speaker 1: in that moment, but you're trying to get it, things
Speaker 1: are going to feel hard, they're going to feel like
Speaker 1: a slog, and they're not going to be great. So
Speaker 1: literally every single month, so I've got this thing that
Speaker 1: says monthly audit, go of your buckets, go of your goals,
Speaker 1: what's working.
Speaker 2: What isn't. I love it.
Speaker 1: I've got it every single month. So it's like checking
Speaker 1: in with that intention, having a you know, Google Cow moment,
Speaker 1: checking with the attention and just like seeing where your
Speaker 1: energy currently is because you know where intention goes. Energy
Speaker 1: flows like that so that's like a huge thing of
Speaker 1: just being very intentional. I don't know that did that
Speaker 1: kind of answer the question to you?
Speaker 2: I think, so do you have any points ironic for me?
Speaker 2: But I think the most powerful thing you can do
Speaker 2: to propel yourself to achieve your goals is make your
Speaker 2: word law.
Speaker 1: Are you really into it out?
Speaker 2: You? Well, just do it, like, just fucking do it.
Speaker 2: You just have to flip the switch. And I know
Speaker 2: it's shitty to say that. There's not some magical fix.
Speaker 2: It's got to come from the inside. So find find
Speaker 2: your why, probably is probably my advice, and attach every
Speaker 2: goal to your why. And if your goal doesn't clearly
Speaker 2: attached to your why, is it actually your goal or
Speaker 2: is it something that you think you should want?
Speaker 1: Yes? Huge, huge, which love that.
Speaker 2: That's probably motive. All right, Our next question, what are
Speaker 2: you letting go of from twenty twenty two?
Speaker 1: Oh? Everything, very much literally and ready that's the noise
Speaker 1: better already here flicking gross energy off us. I'm letting
Speaker 1: go of so much. So a big thing for me
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two was thinking I had to, like
Speaker 1: I've done so much in a work of like not
Speaker 1: putting myself in a box, and I still fucking put
Speaker 1: myself in a box, but just like it was a
Speaker 1: new box. So like we're letting go of the I
Speaker 1: have to be a certain way. A big thing for
Speaker 1: me was like mentally, I held on a lot of
Speaker 1: should in twenty twenty two of I should be creative,
Speaker 1: I should be better mum, I should be a better partner,
Speaker 1: I should do this, I should want to feel this way,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah, and I'm just fucking over it.
Speaker 1: And so twenty twenty three is all about meeting myself
Speaker 1: where I am. Yeah, So that's accepting my body where
Speaker 1: I am. And this isn't to say that I don't
Speaker 1: have goals and I don't have things I'm looking towards,
Speaker 1: but I'm like, I'm so I was just like so
Speaker 1: sick of myself in the way of not accepting me
Speaker 1: as I was. Because there's this beautiful saying by like
Speaker 1: like a really famous psychologist. I think it's called Carl
Speaker 1: John or I don't know anyway, but he says, like,
Speaker 1: you cannot change until you accept yourself as you are now,
Speaker 1: you cannot I'm probably butchering up anyway, And like that's
Speaker 1: such a beautiful thing of like meet yourself where you
Speaker 1: are right now and accept yourself and like embrace it.
Speaker 1: And I felt like I was an really embracing myself.
Speaker 1: Last year, I spent a lot of time chasing the
Speaker 1: old me of like trying to get back to and
Speaker 1: I'm doing quotes here, quote unquote myself pre baby. But
Speaker 1: it's like, no, fuck that we're going forward. We're meeting
Speaker 1: this new person and we're like meeting ourselves where we're at,
Speaker 1: rather than constantly putting these like pressure of myself to
Speaker 1: be a certain person. And it was always something different
Speaker 1: to what I currently was. And I'm like no, because
Speaker 1: it really messed me up mentally for a little bit there.
Speaker 1: I love that it was not good. So dropping that shit,
Speaker 1: what are you dropping?
Speaker 2: I'm dropping leaky energy?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, love.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's something I've noticed that I've done
Speaker 2: a lot this year, is when I've been disappointed about
Speaker 2: something or something's gone wrong or things.
Speaker 1: You like, let it.
Speaker 2: I just really fester.
Speaker 1: What I did that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's such a waste of time because the
Speaker 2: other person carries on with their life. I'm here sulking,
Speaker 2: and it's a mean any person losing out and I
Speaker 2: think just getting better at having the confidence to bring
Speaker 2: things up when they happen. If it's a problem for me,
Speaker 2: nip it in the bud and then move on, tie
Speaker 2: it up and move on, because I just don't want
Speaker 2: to feel that gross.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, and like then you get resent for and
Speaker 1: you get these feelings the other person has fucking noidy
Speaker 1: what's happening?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then it's like too late to bring it up,
Speaker 2: and it's just the whole thing. I love that. So
Speaker 2: that's my big thing that I want to leave behind
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 1: And I think also a big thing like I resonate
Speaker 1: with that and really not letting yourself overthink things and
Speaker 1: just going like, let's just fucking call it as it is.
Speaker 1: Let's like take action now if something is bothering, talk
Speaker 1: to the person or change something, and like, yeah, not
Speaker 1: let it fester. I love that word. Yeah, well I
Speaker 1: don't love it, you know what I mean? Yeah, great
Speaker 1: describing word.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Another thing I'm letting go of is saying yes because
Speaker 1: I think I should or I think I'm gonna like
Speaker 1: let the person down, or like this weird people pleasing
Speaker 1: energy which i've randomly picked up last year. I've never
Speaker 1: been like a people pleas and I've really picked up
Speaker 1: people pleasing energy. Fuck, so we're not doing that. And
Speaker 1: like twenty twenty three is all about if it's not
Speaker 1: a hell, yes, it's a no. I love if it's
Speaker 1: not a fuck, yes it's no, and just like being
Speaker 1: so unapologetic and just being like, you know, let's say
Speaker 1: it is someone else. It's just like, hey, I'm not
Speaker 1: currently in that season, that's not on my party, so
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to decline or not do that thing.
Speaker 1: I hope you can understand. And that's that because I
Speaker 1: just had a couple of scenarios last year when it
Speaker 1: was very like I just said yes because I thought
Speaker 1: I had to, or again like shiny things or like
Speaker 1: you know that sort of thing, and then I was
Speaker 1: stuck with resment not for the person, for myself, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I was like, Georgia, you know this, and you
Speaker 1: said yes when you knew you should have said no.
Speaker 1: And I was like angry at myself. Yeah, well, I'm
Speaker 1: just not doing it anymore. Let's get into the hotline keeers. Yes, Okay, so.
Speaker 2: Our first one this is a little bit long, but
Speaker 2: I think the context is necessary, so I need some help.
Speaker 2: I'm relatively new to manifesting, but have been really getting
Speaker 2: into it and journaling. I'm a mom of two and
Speaker 2: have been manifesting a new career with decent pay, a
Speaker 2: good working environment, and a daycare that makes my kids
Speaker 2: happy as well. In the space of a week, I
Speaker 2: found both a job I could build a career in
Speaker 2: and actually enjoy, with work from home available for some
Speaker 2: of the week. My two kids ended up in a
Speaker 2: daycare literally across the road from my new office. It
Speaker 2: all just fell into place really quickly and easily, as
Speaker 2: if the universe just had my back and knew what
Speaker 2: I needed. Fast forward to today, literally two weeks after
Speaker 2: I started my new role, I've just been made redundant
Speaker 2: due to the company restructuring, and I am devastated. I
Speaker 2: could really see my future opening up and felt so
Speaker 2: relieved to finally start getting back to feeling like myself again.
Speaker 2: Now I just can't shake the feeling that the universe
Speaker 2: is laughing at me, giving me what I wanted and
Speaker 2: taking it away so quickly. How do I move on
Speaker 2: from this? Do I just start again and keep trying
Speaker 2: to manifest what I wanted? Or is this a sign
Speaker 2: to try for something else. I've been listening to the
Speaker 2: Potty religiously and have just started finishing my manifesting slash
Speaker 2: journaling with this or something better like you do. It
Speaker 2: just felt like a great way to finish. But I
Speaker 2: don't see the something better. I know it's a limiting belief,
Speaker 2: but I don't know what to do. Please help this
Speaker 2: defeated mama out.
Speaker 1: Oh my heart, I know that's really really hard, isn't it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just hard. It's like so disappointing, so.
Speaker 1: Disappointing, and it is it's like it feels very like rude,
Speaker 1: very rude from the unvers You're like, are you kidding?
Speaker 1: Like to give you a little taste and take it away.
Speaker 1: Obviously not the same thing, but it kind of reminds
Speaker 1: me of when I had my miscarriage and I, you know,
Speaker 1: had wanted this baby for so long and then we
Speaker 1: finally got pregnant and it felt like a yeah, it
Speaker 1: kind of it kind of reminds me of that, And
Speaker 1: just in the moment, I think, like the first thing
Speaker 1: is just like feel the feels and just like you know,
Speaker 1: in the moment, I was like, there's no way, you know,
Speaker 1: there was just no use of being like this or
Speaker 1: something better, Like in that moment, it's just like I
Speaker 1: needed to feel the feels and just like sit in
Speaker 1: the feeling of being fucking so disappointed and so like
Speaker 1: wash the fuck. And I think that's okay, and I
Speaker 1: think you need to sit in that. You need to
Speaker 1: feel the feelings. But in saying that, you know, with hindsight,
Speaker 1: now obviously we then getting pregnant with Ivy and having
Speaker 1: a life and everything, I can be like, you know,
Speaker 1: life did happen for me. I got my implants out
Speaker 1: and like all those things. So it's really hard, but
Speaker 1: you just need to trust again, Like you need to
Speaker 1: trust the universe isn't laughing at you. It literally has
Speaker 1: done something. Maybe it was this is the taste because
Speaker 1: you were losing hope and it just needed to give
Speaker 1: you the taste. And it's like, don't worry, something better
Speaker 1: is coming, you know, something like that, Like there's so
Speaker 1: many things, Like I just thought of so many things
Speaker 1: of there is a way better job coming, or there's
Speaker 1: a way better opportunity or situation, and the universe was like,
Speaker 1: here's a taste. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 2: I yeah, the first thing definitely never feel like the
Speaker 2: universe is laughing at you. No, it's not this evil
Speaker 2: thing that likes to play tricks on people.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: And I think working back up and building that trust,
Speaker 2: because it sounds like you have mentioned your relative new
Speaker 2: to manifesting in all of that, so you might not
Speaker 2: have had that trust in the universe initially, like you're
Speaker 2: still working to build that up. So potentially it gave
Speaker 2: you that to show like, hey, what you're doing, the
Speaker 2: methods you are using actually works, but there's something else better.
Speaker 2: And I think just really you have to jump and
Speaker 2: surrender and trust it something better is around the corner,
Speaker 2: even if you can't see what that is, because more
Speaker 2: often than not you actually can't see what that is
Speaker 2: and know what happens will surprise you. So just really
Speaker 2: lean into that and attract a feeling, not a thing,
Speaker 2: A big thing with that TUITI is like, if she's
Speaker 2: in the depths of like manifesting and she's doing the
Speaker 2: journaling and she's doing all that, sometimes what I find
Speaker 2: really helps in those moments where you're like wtf universe.
Speaker 1: It helps to step away for a little bit. It
Speaker 1: helps to not journal and not like get inso in
Speaker 1: your head about it and literally just like take a
Speaker 1: breath and just be like, no, I'm still trusting, I'm
Speaker 1: still surrendering, but maybe I step away and just like
Speaker 1: focus on something else rather than letting it be a
Speaker 1: big thing of Oh, I've just done all this work
Speaker 1: and I thought I'd gone through this limiting belief and
Speaker 1: this and that. Because also like not that I think
Speaker 1: the universe constantly tests us, but like maybe there's this
Speaker 1: is literally just because she's like, oh, you know, I
Speaker 1: trust the universe and I believe in the universe, but
Speaker 1: it's like maybe this is like almost a test of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta keep trusting, you gotta keep surrendering, and like
Speaker 1: you know, it will be beautiful soon, It's going to
Speaker 1: be better than you could have imagined. But just keep trusting.
Speaker 2: I love that. Our next question. I'm twenty nine and
Speaker 2: my bestie is twenty five. We are both theater nurses
Speaker 2: and work together. She has started dating a forty seven
Speaker 2: year old man who is married with three children thirteen, sixteen,
Speaker 2: and eighteen. She thinks it's fun, and he takes her
Speaker 2: away to NUSA on the weekend so they can spend
Speaker 2: time together. I'm a mom myself of two kids three
Speaker 2: and nine months, and I'm married to my high school
Speaker 2: boyfriend of fourteen years. What she's doing while fully aware
Speaker 2: this man is married, is making me feel so sick.
Speaker 2: I think it's because of the whole going behind another
Speaker 2: woman's back, and it resonates with me as a mum
Speaker 2: and a wife. It seems out of character for her,
Speaker 2: but she stated she wants an older rich man so
Speaker 2: she doesn't have to work anymore. This isn't sitting well
Speaker 2: with me, as you can tell, and I don't know
Speaker 2: how to approach this without ruining our friendship. What would
Speaker 2: you do? Ps? This feels like one of those censored
Speaker 2: Dolly book chats. After rereading that, I used to.
Speaker 1: Love those who know, I really fucking love those. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, what a good one. I know sheels like
Speaker 1: so much strama feels like it of soperper a moment.
Speaker 2: I know, what are your first thoughts at why are
Speaker 2: you worried about ruining the friendship? To be completely brutally honest, yeah,
Speaker 2: and I know it's hard because feel she's your best
Speaker 2: friend and it is disappointing to find out that they're
Speaker 2: capable of that. I would say, and I do see
Speaker 2: where this person's coming from, is that you don't really
Speaker 2: want to ruin your best friendship. But I would sort
Speaker 2: of detach myself from it and approach her as like
Speaker 2: as a mom and a wife. I'm really uncomfortable with
Speaker 2: what you're doing. I have no issue of you wanting
Speaker 2: to have someone a bit older than you and wanting
Speaker 2: to not have to work. That's totally fine, But I
Speaker 2: do have an issue with the fact that you are
Speaker 2: doing this with a married man who has children and
Speaker 2: a wife who have no idea what's going on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I see, It's like it's really hard because I
Speaker 1: wonder if she's had that converse station and the friend
Speaker 1: has kind of just like not bulldozed her feelings, but
Speaker 1: kind of just like being like, I don't really care
Speaker 1: what you think. You know. I guess it's super hard
Speaker 1: because you know your friend might be going through something
Speaker 1: also playing the devil's advocate, if she's acting in that
Speaker 1: way and it's not in line with the value she
Speaker 1: thought she had. Yeah, so maybe you know something's happening,
Speaker 1: and I think it's important to check in with that
Speaker 1: friend and kind of understand where they're coming from. But again, yes,
Speaker 1: I tear like, if it's not in line with your values,
Speaker 1: you need to make that apparent and you just need
Speaker 1: to have the conversation.
Speaker 2: And it'll be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: It's going to be uncomfortably the way she's christ like
Speaker 1: what you're talking about, it's a I think, yeah, And
Speaker 1: I think you just need to be very honest and
Speaker 1: just be like, look, I'm a fucking wife and mom, like,
Speaker 1: how can you not see that? That would make me
Speaker 1: extremely uncomfortable? And just see se how she then goes
Speaker 1: about it. It's very interesting too that she is like
Speaker 1: so open about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be a bit ashamed, I think, not.
Speaker 1: Even really ashamed, but just like know your audience, Like
Speaker 1: if you're speaking to.
Speaker 2: Your mom and why don't tell them that you're cheating
Speaker 2: with the married dad?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, so I know, but then you
Speaker 1: know what A lot of what comes into me too,
Speaker 1: is just like who am I to judge?
Speaker 2: Do you mean?
Speaker 1: Or is that just completely.
Speaker 2: I I see where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: I just I don't like to like it's very clear
Speaker 1: that she's like, this is not in line of my values.
Speaker 1: I think she needs to have that conversation, you know,
Speaker 1: with the friend and really understand where she's coming from.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. I just have this really
Speaker 1: big thing about like, who am I to judge anyone?
Speaker 2: Like, if your best friend was doing this, how would
Speaker 2: you feel?
Speaker 1: Well, she's which one?
Speaker 2: And I don't.
Speaker 1: I've got no single best friends. They're all like with partners.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah if they were doing this with Like if
Speaker 2: one of your best friends who has kids was having
Speaker 2: an affair with someone who was much younger than them,
Speaker 2: how do you feel like it's extremely uncomfortable?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel like, what the fuck are you doing?
Speaker 1: This is not worth her. I've done family law.
Speaker 2: Trust me. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Mmm, it's very interesting.
Speaker 2: I think you have every right to express you're uncomfortable,
Speaker 2: every right that it's not aligned to your values. If
Speaker 2: you don't want to lose the friendship, I just say, look,
Speaker 2: I really don't agree with you what you're doing. I
Speaker 2: do think it's a good idea. I'm happy to talk
Speaker 2: this through with you and work through it, but otherwise
Speaker 2: let's just keep our friendship separate. I don't want to
Speaker 2: hear about your relationship, but I still want to be
Speaker 2: your friend.
Speaker 1: Well, she is saying, how do I approach this without
Speaker 1: ruining the friendship. So I think it's because she's clearly
Speaker 1: said this doesn't sit well with me. You're going to
Speaker 1: end up resenting that friend. You're going to end up
Speaker 1: festering those feelings. You need to have the conversation. You
Speaker 1: need to be very honest, and you need to kind
Speaker 1: of understand where she is at. And then I think
Speaker 1: from that conversation you will know what to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think also you'll naturally distance yourself if you you know,
Speaker 1: what happens in that conversation isn't also aligned.
Speaker 2: Yeah with you.
Speaker 1: And also I think it's important, like to continue to
Speaker 1: align with your values, Like I think in my instance,
Speaker 1: that's what I would do of just being like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you've just got to continue to be aligned with what
Speaker 1: your beliefs are and your values and kind of trust
Speaker 1: that if that is a true friend, they will either
Speaker 1: understand where you're coming from, or you know, they might
Speaker 1: leave your life for a little bit and come back
Speaker 1: vice versa.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But also, yeah, the only way to approach this is
Speaker 1: just doing it honestly, that's the only Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I think let go of the fear, Like that's
Speaker 2: definitely something I would work on espcially when it comes
Speaker 2: to people. I find that it's so it's easy let
Speaker 2: go of things, Like people find it easy to change jobs,
Speaker 2: they find it easy to change the way they dress
Speaker 2: or their hobbies. But people get away with so much
Speaker 2: because people are so scared that no one will ever
Speaker 2: feel that spoty again. And I think that quote of
Speaker 2: like people come into your life forever a lesson or
Speaker 2: a season and just accepting that and that if maybe
Speaker 2: this season of friendship is over, and that doesn't mean
Speaker 2: it wasn't a beautiful friendship and she's not a great
Speaker 2: person and you won't have a good relationship with her afterwards.
Speaker 2: But maybe you're someone else will take that place now,
Speaker 2: maybe someone else you have a bit more in common with,
Speaker 2: someone who's a mum. You never know what's going to happen.
Speaker 2: And as strong as friendship connections can feel, it's like
Speaker 2: you'll never go without.
Speaker 1: Oh, we're just trusting the universe. I No, that was
Speaker 1: really beautiful. I love that. I love that, And yeah,
Speaker 1: she needs to lean into that for sure. Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 1: Well I hope it goes well. Yes, update us, Yeah,
Speaker 1: please update us. That is such a hard situation. And yeah,
Speaker 1: look i'd look I'd feel the same, very complicated.
Speaker 2: So on that. On that note, thank you.
Speaker 1: I also sorry I was a bit distracted in that one.
Speaker 1: I had dim calling. Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2: Guys.
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