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Speaker 1: and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This

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Speaker 1: is the podcast for ordinary people who want to do

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Speaker 1: extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast.

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Speaker 1: It is your host, Georgie Stephenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,

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Speaker 1: new mum All the Things Today episode is one of

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Speaker 1: our classic Geez hotline It's been a while.

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Speaker 2: It's been a while.

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Speaker 1: It's been a while, but we're back with the hot lines.

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Speaker 1: So these are our fun Friday epps where you send

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Speaker 1: in your life dilemmas and a tear and I provide

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Speaker 1: our very unqualified two cents on the situation. We've got

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Speaker 1: a couple of quick fire ones as well. Yeah, they're

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Speaker 1: a bit fun. They're a bit fun. So in today's

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Speaker 1: app we answer what are our New Year's resolutions. Me

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Speaker 1: and a tea get into that, we answer what we're

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Speaker 1: leaving behind in twenty twenty two, and then we get

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Speaker 1: into some saucy little ah they are saucy ones today.

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Speaker 1: So first of all, what can you do when the

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Speaker 1: universe kind of gives you what you want and then

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Speaker 1: takes it away hard one? Yeah, very disappointing. And then

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Speaker 1: So unqualified guys. It's a bit yeah, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to say fun one now it's a bit of an

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Speaker 1: interesting one. But quickly a tear Happy New Year, Happy

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Speaker 1: New Year?

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Speaker 2: Can you tell this is recordedpording, guys where I'm.

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Speaker 1: Not even going to try and lie to you guys.

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Speaker 1: But also when you listen to this Happy New Year,

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Speaker 1: I can't update your my New Year because I'm still

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Speaker 1: stuck in twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 2: New Year's update coming next week?

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Speaker 1: Yes, amazing. Do you want to give them a quick

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Speaker 2: If you haven't already watched Wednesday on Netflix, you can't.

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Speaker 2: Just really I love that though, Yeah, my rec will

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Speaker 2: be the do it for your Future Self course because

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Speaker 2: we'll be in the middle of it. I'll finally have

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Speaker 2: been able to do it because Georgie hasn't let me

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Speaker 2: do it yet, and I just know it's so good.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you're so funny, shameless pug. Yes, guys, So the

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Speaker 1: do It for Your Future Self course is still available.

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Speaker 1: The price does increase literally in the next couple of days.

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Speaker 1: So if you want to get clear on your twenty

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Speaker 1: little bit differently. This year, we do have a seven

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Speaker 1: day mini course where a module opens each day. It's

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Speaker 1: we will put the links in the show notes. Also

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Speaker 1: very exciting. The project is coming back for round six enrollment.

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Speaker 1: Very exciting. This is our manifesting course and we'll have

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Speaker 2: What are your New Year's resolutions?

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Speaker 1: Oh my heart, I know that's really really hard, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: feel the feelings. But in saying that, you know, with hindsight,

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00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 1: now obviously we then getting pregnant with Ivy and having

439
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,679
Speaker 1: a life and everything, I can be like, you know,

440
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 1: life did happen for me. I got my implants out

441
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:13,959
Speaker 1: and like all those things. So it's really hard, but

442
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 1: you just need to trust again, Like you need to

443
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,360
Speaker 1: trust the universe isn't laughing at you. It literally has

444
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: done something. Maybe it was this is the taste because

445
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: you were losing hope and it just needed to give

446
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 1: you the taste. And it's like, don't worry, something better

447
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: is coming, you know, something like that, Like there's so

448
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 1: many things, Like I just thought of so many things

449
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,880
Speaker 1: of there is a way better job coming, or there's

450
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:41,399
Speaker 1: a way better opportunity or situation, and the universe was like,

451
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 1: here's a taste. What are your thoughts?

452
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 2: I yeah, the first thing definitely never feel like the

453
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 2: universe is laughing at you. No, it's not this evil

454
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 2: thing that likes to play tricks on people.

455
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 1: No.

456
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 2: And I think working back up and building that trust,

457
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Speaker 2: because it sounds like you have mentioned your relative new

458
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 2: to manifesting in all of that, so you might not

459
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 2: have had that trust in the universe initially, like you're

460
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 2: still working to build that up. So potentially it gave

461
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 2: you that to show like, hey, what you're doing, the

462
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 2: methods you are using actually works, but there's something else better.

463
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 2: And I think just really you have to jump and

464
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 2: surrender and trust it something better is around the corner,

465
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 2: even if you can't see what that is, because more

466
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,959
Speaker 2: often than not you actually can't see what that is

467
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: and know what happens will surprise you. So just really

468
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 2: lean into that and attract a feeling, not a thing,

469
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 2: A big thing with that TUITI is like, if she's

470
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 2: in the depths of like manifesting and she's doing the

471
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 2: journaling and she's doing all that, sometimes what I find

472
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: really helps in those moments where you're like wtf universe.

473
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 1: It helps to step away for a little bit. It

474
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: helps to not journal and not like get inso in

475
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: your head about it and literally just like take a

476
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: breath and just be like, no, I'm still trusting, I'm

477
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: still surrendering, but maybe I step away and just like

478
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:11,240
Speaker 1: focus on something else rather than letting it be a

479
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 1: big thing of Oh, I've just done all this work

480
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: and I thought I'd gone through this limiting belief and

481
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: this and that. Because also like not that I think

482
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 1: the universe constantly tests us, but like maybe there's this

483
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 1: is literally just because she's like, oh, you know, I

484
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: trust the universe and I believe in the universe, but

485
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: it's like maybe this is like almost a test of like, yeah,

486
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 1: you gotta keep trusting, you gotta keep surrendering, and like

487
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 1: you know, it will be beautiful soon, It's going to

488
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: be better than you could have imagined. But just keep trusting.

489
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Speaker 2: I love that. Our next question. I'm twenty nine and

490
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 2: my bestie is twenty five. We are both theater nurses

491
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 2: and work together. She has started dating a forty seven

492
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Speaker 2: year old man who is married with three children thirteen, sixteen,

493
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: and eighteen. She thinks it's fun, and he takes her

494
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: away to NUSA on the weekend so they can spend

495
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 2: time together. I'm a mom myself of two kids three

496
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 2: and nine months, and I'm married to my high school

497
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 2: boyfriend of fourteen years. What she's doing while fully aware

498
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 2: this man is married, is making me feel so sick.

499
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 2: I think it's because of the whole going behind another

500
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 2: woman's back, and it resonates with me as a mum

501
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 2: and a wife. It seems out of character for her,

502
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,239
Speaker 2: but she stated she wants an older rich man so

503
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 2: she doesn't have to work anymore. This isn't sitting well

504
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 2: with me, as you can tell, and I don't know

505
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 2: how to approach this without ruining our friendship. What would

506
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 2: you do? Ps? This feels like one of those censored

507
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 2: Dolly book chats. After rereading that, I used to.

508
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: Love those who know, I really fucking love those. Oh

509
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 1: my god, what a good one. I know sheels like

510
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: so much strama feels like it of soperper a moment.

511
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 2: I know, what are your first thoughts at why are

512
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 2: you worried about ruining the friendship? To be completely brutally honest, yeah,

513
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 2: and I know it's hard because feel she's your best

514
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 2: friend and it is disappointing to find out that they're

515
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 2: capable of that. I would say, and I do see

516
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 2: where this person's coming from, is that you don't really

517
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 2: want to ruin your best friendship. But I would sort

518
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,159
Speaker 2: of detach myself from it and approach her as like

519
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 2: as a mom and a wife. I'm really uncomfortable with

520
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 2: what you're doing. I have no issue of you wanting

521
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: to have someone a bit older than you and wanting

522
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 2: to not have to work. That's totally fine, But I

523
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 2: do have an issue with the fact that you are

524
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 2: doing this with a married man who has children and

525
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 2: a wife who have no idea what's going on.

526
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I see, It's like it's really hard because I

527
00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: wonder if she's had that converse station and the friend

528
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: has kind of just like not bulldozed her feelings, but

529
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: kind of just like being like, I don't really care

530
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 1: what you think. You know. I guess it's super hard

531
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: because you know your friend might be going through something

532
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: also playing the devil's advocate, if she's acting in that

533
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 1: way and it's not in line with the value she

534
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: thought she had. Yeah, so maybe you know something's happening,

535
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 1: and I think it's important to check in with that

536
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: friend and kind of understand where they're coming from. But again, yes,

537
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: I tear like, if it's not in line with your values,

538
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: you need to make that apparent and you just need

539
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 1: to have the conversation.

540
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 2: And it'll be uncomfortable.

541
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 1: It's going to be uncomfortably the way she's christ like

542
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 1: what you're talking about, it's a I think, yeah, And

543
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: I think you just need to be very honest and

544
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: just be like, look, I'm a fucking wife and mom, like,

545
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: how can you not see that? That would make me

546
00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: extremely uncomfortable? And just see se how she then goes

547
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: about it. It's very interesting too that she is like

548
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 1: so open about it.

549
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be a bit ashamed, I think, not.

550
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: Even really ashamed, but just like know your audience, Like

551
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 1: if you're speaking to.

552
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 2: Your mom and why don't tell them that you're cheating

553
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 2: with the married dad?

554
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, so I know, but then you

555
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: know what A lot of what comes into me too,

556
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: is just like who am I to judge?

557
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 2: Do you mean?

558
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: Or is that just completely.

559
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 2: I I see where you're coming from.

560
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 1: I just I don't like to like it's very clear

561
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: that she's like, this is not in line of my values.

562
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: I think she needs to have that conversation, you know,

563
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 1: with the friend and really understand where she's coming from.

564
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. I just have this really

565
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: big thing about like, who am I to judge anyone?

566
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: Like, if your best friend was doing this, how would

567
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 2: you feel?

568
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: Well, she's which one?

569
00:30:59,520 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 2: And I don't.

570
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: I've got no single best friends. They're all like with partners.

571
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah if they were doing this with Like if

572
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,120
Speaker 2: one of your best friends who has kids was having

573
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: an affair with someone who was much younger than them,

574
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 2: how do you feel like it's extremely uncomfortable?

575
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel like, what the fuck are you doing?

576
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 1: This is not worth her. I've done family law.

577
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: Trust me. Yeah.

578
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: Mmm, it's very interesting.

579
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 2: I think you have every right to express you're uncomfortable,

580
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 2: every right that it's not aligned to your values. If

581
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 2: you don't want to lose the friendship, I just say, look,

582
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: I really don't agree with you what you're doing. I

583
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 2: do think it's a good idea. I'm happy to talk

584
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 2: this through with you and work through it, but otherwise

585
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 2: let's just keep our friendship separate. I don't want to

586
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 2: hear about your relationship, but I still want to be

587
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 2: your friend.

588
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: Well, she is saying, how do I approach this without

589
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: ruining the friendship. So I think it's because she's clearly

590
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: said this doesn't sit well with me. You're going to

591
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: end up resenting that friend. You're going to end up

592
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: festering those feelings. You need to have the conversation. You

593
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 1: need to be very honest, and you need to kind

594
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: of understand where she is at. And then I think

595
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: from that conversation you will know what to do.

596
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

597
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 1: I think also you'll naturally distance yourself if you you know,

598
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: what happens in that conversation isn't also aligned.

599
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah with you.

600
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: And also I think it's important, like to continue to

601
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 1: align with your values, Like I think in my instance,

602
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 1: that's what I would do of just being like, yeah,

603
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: you've just got to continue to be aligned with what

604
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: your beliefs are and your values and kind of trust

605
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: that if that is a true friend, they will either

606
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: understand where you're coming from, or you know, they might

607
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 1: leave your life for a little bit and come back

608
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: vice versa.

609
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

610
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: But also, yeah, the only way to approach this is

611
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 1: just doing it honestly, that's the only Yeah.

612
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 2: And I think let go of the fear, Like that's

613
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 2: definitely something I would work on espcially when it comes

614
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 2: to people. I find that it's so it's easy let

615
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: go of things, Like people find it easy to change jobs,

616
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 2: they find it easy to change the way they dress

617
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 2: or their hobbies. But people get away with so much

618
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 2: because people are so scared that no one will ever

619
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 2: feel that spoty again. And I think that quote of

620
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 2: like people come into your life forever a lesson or

621
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 2: a season and just accepting that and that if maybe

622
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 2: this season of friendship is over, and that doesn't mean

623
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 2: it wasn't a beautiful friendship and she's not a great

624
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: person and you won't have a good relationship with her afterwards.

625
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 2: But maybe you're someone else will take that place now,

626
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 2: maybe someone else you have a bit more in common with,

627
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 2: someone who's a mum. You never know what's going to happen.

628
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 2: And as strong as friendship connections can feel, it's like

629
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 2: you'll never go without.

630
00:33:54,880 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: Oh, we're just trusting the universe. I No, that was

631
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: really beautiful. I love that. I love that, And yeah,

632
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: she needs to lean into that for sure. Yeah, that's amazing.

633
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 1: Well I hope it goes well. Yes, update us, Yeah,

634
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 1: please update us. That is such a hard situation. And yeah,

635
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: look i'd look I'd feel the same, very complicated.

636
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 2: So on that. On that note, thank you.

637
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 1: I also sorry I was a bit distracted in that one.

638
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 1: I had dim calling. Thank you so much for listening.

639
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Speaker 2: Guys.

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Speaker 1: I hope you're having the most amazing New Years and

641
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Speaker 1: we'll be back in your ears next week. Bye bye.

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