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Speaker 1: We just want to start this episode with a very

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Speaker 1: important message. Ash, take it away. Happy New Year, well said,

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Speaker 1: it is, thank you. It is two thousand and No,

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Speaker 1: hang on a second, Hang on a second. Sorry, I'm

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Speaker 1: working on No, no, no, you can't work up to it.

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Speaker 1: You've got to come in. No hot, go again, start again.

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Speaker 1: All right here we are welcome to the podcast. It's Mattie,

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Speaker 1: Jay and Ash. This is two doting dads. And before

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Speaker 1: we go any further with the episode, Ash has something

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Speaker 1: very important to say. Happy New Year.

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Speaker 2: Believe it or not, it is twenty twenty five. That's right, Yeah, cool,

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty five. We've just left twenty twenty four behind.

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Speaker 2: But maybe we should just recap a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Look, we don't want to ruin the facade, but we're

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Speaker 1: actually not twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 2: That's why I can't get excited. I'm not fake.

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Speaker 1: He can't method act.

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Speaker 2: How dare you?

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Speaker 1: What an amazing news? We had to stay up so

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Speaker 1: late with the kids. Do you think you'll stay up

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Speaker 1: late with the kids.

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Speaker 2: No, they're going to bed earlier if possible.

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Speaker 1: Look where will you be? Well?

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Speaker 2: No, I think maybe just at home. Maybe have some

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Speaker 2: Push kids on a swing, makes a pizza, go to

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Speaker 2: bed early, get a good start in twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Push the kids on the swing, Yeah, and I'll probably

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Speaker 2: drink myself into oblivion.

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Speaker 1: That's what I was waiting for.

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Speaker 2: Try and suppress the voices.

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Speaker 1: Don't try and pretend to me like you'd be hanging

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Speaker 1: out with your kids will.

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Speaker 2: For a certain amount of time, but it's so like

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Speaker 2: they're still quite young for the firework thing.

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Speaker 1: Right, Look, we are giving you another best of episode.

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Speaker 1: This is a look back at some of our favorite chats.

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Speaker 2: In this episode matter we're going to talk about you

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Speaker 2: and your war against cane toe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, killing animals pests, that's a bit much. Yes, I

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Speaker 2: I think we're also going to talk a lot about Poohs,

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Speaker 2: like Macy's ginormous pooh is the size of my forearm.

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Speaker 1: Without shit, this podcast would we'd have nothing, it would Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we'd be like we'd struggle to get three episodes out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I keep consipating my kids for the goodness of

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Speaker 2: the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Peeing and pools.

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Speaker 3: I love peeing in a pool. Now that's mine new

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Speaker 3: favorite thing. I'm just in a pool pee.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what my favorite thing is? Well, hearing

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Speaker 1: about you and April having special time.

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Speaker 2: You creep episode sixty.

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Speaker 1: Daddy wants a treat. Let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's a shame. It's not episode sixty.

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Speaker 1: Ahush, let's get it hurt.

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Speaker 2: Let's sea fantasy.

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Speaker 1: It's another about us. Let's get into the best of enjoy.

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Speaker 2: Macy like she must have been constipated or something.

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Speaker 3: So I'm just like, trying to get her to do

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Speaker 3: it before, girls pooh hard out, boys.

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Speaker 1: Only when they're toddlers and once they hit but the teens,

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Speaker 1: they actually stop poolling and they.

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Speaker 2: Don't pooh anymore.

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Speaker 1: Rose pearls come out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, roses really smell like poof.

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Speaker 1: That's why they pooh so much when they're toddlers, because

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Speaker 2: When they're adults and they don't love anymore. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show me the ship.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to show you the ship.

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Speaker 1: Gosh, it was been since we've spoken about kids ship.

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Speaker 3: For those at home, it's it looks like one of

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Speaker 2: It's Plato?

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Speaker 1: Oh? My days? That must have sure April didn't do that?

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Speaker 2: How is it though?

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I've never seen anything like it. What

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Speaker 2: It was pretty like that wafty?

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Speaker 1: I mean, can we show people that ship? I put

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Speaker 1: that's like the size of her leg.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, that was my day yesterday.

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Speaker 1: That's my girl. I was like, you gotta be yep,

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Speaker 1: how long did it take her to get that out of?

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Speaker 2: An hour? So I have dealing with that with a headache,

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Speaker 2: a concussion and a fucking broken toe.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could shit like that.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, how could that it feel coming out

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Speaker 1: So cathartic? I'd pay good money to have that come

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Speaker 1: out of me. Anyway, She's not going to ship for

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Speaker 1: a year now, now you think Jesus, and you know

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Speaker 1: there's one thing that is missing, has been missing for

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Speaker 1: the last you know, now, eight nights.

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Speaker 2: I believe I know where you are going with this.

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Speaker 1: Pleasure, deep erotic pleasure. It is deep and we've been

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Speaker 1: talking it up. We don't really like sex?

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Speaker 2: Are you a teenager?

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Speaker 1: No? I was just like, well, what did I say?

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Speaker 1: I think I was trying to be. I was trying

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Speaker 2: It's going to be the best thirty seconds of you.

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Speaker 1: Laugh. No, I think. I was like, I kind of

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Speaker 2: I don't do you know?

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Speaker 4: Do you?

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Speaker 1: You don't write, you don't say that.

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Speaker 2: I'm an adult, bro, I just send the pictures of

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Speaker 2: my dick. I definitely don't do any of that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't. How do you plant this seed with April? No?

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Speaker 2: Text? That's what?

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Speaker 1: What do you do? How do you make it known

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Speaker 1: that today maybe the day.

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Speaker 2: It could come different in different ways. I would say, like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: for example, for example, this weekend, h what do you got?

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Speaker 2: We were finishing bath and stuff from putting kids to bed.

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Speaker 2: It's part of the routine. And I had already gone

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Speaker 2: out and picked up dinner and I brang it back.

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Speaker 1: What do you have?

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Speaker 2: We got? We just got some pizzas, something really nice

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Speaker 2: and cool. We just both felt like pizza summer, which

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Speaker 2: I was like April actually eight before we did bath,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, man, I just want to enjoy

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Speaker 1: But we all know how you get after having a

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Speaker 2: And I had also picked up there's like a little

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Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, I grab something different for

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Speaker 2: after its Sunday night. Yeah, So I went and got that. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: I just had a thought that it was nothing to

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Speaker 2: usually have butt plug. Sorry, how did you know a

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Speaker 2: chocolate butt plug? And I was, I know, we're finishing

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Speaker 2: the bath routurn and I said to April, I'm going

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Speaker 2: I also got like a special treat for us after

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Speaker 1: Fuck, what is it ash?

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Speaker 2: And I said, yeah, that's a cockmeat sandwich. I said,

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Speaker 1: Stop pulling sexually sexual in this. I'm into it. Like, no,

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Speaker 1: this is great. I feel like I'm in the room

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Speaker 3: Continue they're killing me here, okay anyway, she was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: Of a special treat. Oh my god, April's going to

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Speaker 1: Fuck yeah yeah, yeah, then what happened.

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Speaker 2: She's gonna kill me for this?

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Speaker 1: Pick cares And I was like, sorry, rephrase that, April.

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Speaker 1: certain stories being told. But this is very important because

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Speaker 1: I need to learn, because I don't know what I'm

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Speaker 2: Through I I went downstairs, I got my dinner ready,

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Speaker 2: and that's how you do it.

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Speaker 1: What are your thoughts about divorce?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 5: Hit me as in like do I want to do it?

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Speaker 5: Or just in general not us. I'm the product of

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Speaker 5: So my mum was married three times, divorced twice. My

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Speaker 2: Married but they never actually got married.

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Speaker 2: Are we right?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm going to make it work.

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Speaker 5: Like I feel like I, you know, you either repeat

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Speaker 1: Just because we're so fucking stubborn. I love you, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I thought you never asked, and I did. I facetimed

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Speaker 2: She was next to the pool, by the pool and.

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Speaker 1: I was her and a sister obviously her business partner

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, because they just get on with it.

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Speaker 2: She's galimanty too.

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Speaker 1: The women in my life have deserted.

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Speaker 2: Me back to Vegas.

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Speaker 1: I's go go on to the days of us having

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Speaker 1: just making Lola not think I'm a piece of shit.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you bonded.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And now that Laura's out of the mix, she's

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Speaker 1: I want to cuddle. As a man who's been neglected

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Speaker 2: Like did you say cuddle?

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Speaker 1: She's like no, no, I'm like dragging her into my bed.

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Speaker 1: She's like, leave me alone, but I bring it into

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Speaker 2: Up realize that she's not there because they share a.

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Speaker 2: How is the bunk beds going just really quick?

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Speaker 1: A great?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I might have to get.

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Speaker 1: Some absolutely fantastic, highly reckon.

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Speaker 2: I don't need Macy running around as well in the

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Speaker 1: I would keep the cop for as long as you can,

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Speaker 2: Even the lid. I keep the lid on it.

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Speaker 1: No, you got me, just lock her in there, but

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Speaker 2: Are they chatting about?

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Speaker 1: Just like I don't know. Marley woke up the small morning,

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Speaker 2: Scheduling in meetings?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's like right at the cusp of like

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Speaker 1: That's right. I was like, you've got to go back

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Speaker 1: you know what she said? Sleeping is boring.

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Speaker 2: It's not boring, it's the best.

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Speaker 1: So our day started at five o'clock this morning and

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Speaker 2: The milk. You've said that the kids.

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Speaker 1: No, because they had the bottle that was finished, that

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Speaker 1: was already opened. Okay, So I opened the fresh bottle.

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Speaker 2: You never buy two at a time for starters. That

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Speaker 1: You've either got too much or not an art.

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Speaker 2: So you had some carbonated milk for breakfast and.

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Speaker 1: I didn't register until I was almost like, I was

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, was it clumpy?

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Speaker 1: Not clumpy? I was in this scene vomiting. Emalia and

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Speaker 1: Laula were like, can you keep it down.

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Speaker 2: The release of gas is definitely a gay.

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Speaker 1: If you're opening up milk, you got some milk on.

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Speaker 1: So that's how my morning started with a carbonated milk.

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Speaker 2: Oh, how are you feeling now? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Good?

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Speaker 2: You just got it straight.

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Speaker 1: I vomited it all up, straight out.

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Speaker 2: You're like, that's a spicy cow.

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Speaker 1: As before we go, I just want to ask, do

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Speaker 1: share with everyone here?

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Speaker 2: I haven't really thought about it.

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Speaker 1: You did tell me, you did tell me that you

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Speaker 1: were going sober.

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Speaker 2: Oh just for just for January.

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Speaker 1: Try January. You're like, no, none of.

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Speaker 2: The whole year. It's not a new it's a one

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Speaker 2: month relax, relax. I do know that.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I think I want to be I think I want

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Speaker 2: I'm always like this at the back end of the year,

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Speaker 2: I'm just surviving.

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Speaker 1: Look, Acknowledging the problem is the first step to recovery.

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Speaker 1: So well done.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, what about you, man? What do you got now?

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Speaker 1: I'm perfect? So okay, I was going to say that

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Speaker 1: nothing to change this end.

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Speaker 2: Maybe eat a carp.

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Speaker 1: I'll think about it. You are yoked, go promise anything

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Speaker 1: if you've enjoyed this at the and I can only

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Speaker 1: imagine that you have because We've just had so much

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Speaker 1: goodness to deliver to you in one episode. Give us

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Speaker 1: a review, find us online, and I think are we

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Speaker 1: back next week?

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Speaker 2: We will be back.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back next week with a brand new shut up.

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Speaker 1: Eh really, We'll tell you what we've been up to

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Speaker 1: across at Christmas break, so we'll chat you then until then.

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Speaker 1: Until then, enjoy yourself. Goodbye bye. Two. Doting Dad's podcast

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Speaker 1: acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout Australia and the

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Speaker 1: connections to land, see and community.

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Speaker 3: We pay our respects to their elders past and present

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Speaker 3: and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torrestraight Island

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Speaker 3: the people's today.

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Speaker 2: This episode was recorded on Gatagal Land