WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! Does Your Long-Term Partner Give You The ICK?!

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<v Speaker 1>Come on in.

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<v Speaker 2>Your day. Here the pickup begs a chemist warehouse.

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<v Speaker 3>Hallo, ladies, We're back again in this freezing cold little

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<v Speaker 3>studio room and Mitch Chury, I just wanted to say

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<v Speaker 3>thank you so much for giving me your shirt, which

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<v Speaker 3>I put on because I was cold, and I'm really

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<v Speaker 3>enjoying the sweat patches that are under the arm.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, he's there, sweat.

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<v Speaker 4>It's wet shirt, wet fries.

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<v Speaker 3>He is disgusting, and I'm going to persevere because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>that cold that I'll handle a little bit of wetness

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<v Speaker 3>under my eye.

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<v Speaker 2>I did you a favorite, like giving you the jacket

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<v Speaker 2>off my shoulder. I'man nothing but a bond's chesty bond singlet.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he needs to be a little bit more

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<v Speaker 1>grateful for the shirt that he's freezing his little nipples.

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<v Speaker 4>No, he likes being cold though.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of Mitch Chury, Mitchchury has developed a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a nick in your long term relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>This is our fifty together and I thought we were

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<v Speaker 2>well and truly beyond dicks. But something has happened over

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<v Speaker 2>the weekend that is making me question the future of

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<v Speaker 2>our relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I want to hear all about this, but also

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<v Speaker 3>on the Today's show, we are speaking to a woman

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<v Speaker 3>who is currently having a baby by surrogacy. Now I

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<v Speaker 3>have a lot of questions about how this even. How

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<v Speaker 3>do you even find someone who's going to have a

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<v Speaker 3>baby for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I might have to go down that route.

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<v Speaker 2>I will have to. That's my only choice if I

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<v Speaker 2>want baby surrocacy, So I might have to get a number.

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<v Speaker 2>She'll be on the show. Also, we finally have an

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<v Speaker 2>update on BRIT's dog walker situation. We're going to get

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<v Speaker 2>her on the show because Laura and I have questions

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<v Speaker 2>as to how ethical the hiring process was.

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<v Speaker 4>You make it sound like a witch. No, we think

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<v Speaker 4>you are just very thorough.

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<v Speaker 2>The dog walker is on the show. Next, what a headline.

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<v Speaker 2>Here at the Pickup around Australia. Welcome here at the

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<v Speaker 2>Pickup with Britt, Laura and Mitch Rush into Chemistlare House

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<v Speaker 2>today grab anc protein, set up powering Tomorrow Today. Last

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<v Speaker 2>week on the show, we were unpacking BRIT's hire process

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<v Speaker 2>to get a dog walker of her beautiful dog Delilah,

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<v Speaker 2>and officially we can announce she's hired someone.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh thank goodness, you can all sleep easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Has been restored to the world.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a really big thing because I've I've had a

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<v Speaker 1>dog walker, Dodie for a long time. She's great, but

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<v Speaker 1>she's gone on a bit of a vacate and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not just a dog walker, it's a sitter extended periods

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<v Speaker 1>of time.

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<v Speaker 4>I needed to find a new one. And I do

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<v Speaker 4>not take that lightly.

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<v Speaker 3>Not only do you not take it lightly, there was

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<v Speaker 3>quite the process of interviewing. There was the need to

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<v Speaker 3>find whether they had a chemistry match between the dog

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<v Speaker 3>and the dog walker, but not just the dog and

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<v Speaker 3>the dog walker. The dog walker and Britt needed to

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<v Speaker 3>also have a good chemistry match. So you made a

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<v Speaker 3>decision though you've hired someone today Delilah is well and

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<v Speaker 3>truly looked after by said dog walker.

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<v Speaker 2>Who is she?

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<v Speaker 1>Demi the dog Walker. It does help that I also

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<v Speaker 1>love some alliteration, so that helped Demi Delilah's dog Walker

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<v Speaker 1>helped all well.

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<v Speaker 2>Britt, what Laura and I have done. We've contacted Demi

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<v Speaker 2>the dog Walker and she joins us now on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>We have some questions for it, don't we.

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<v Speaker 4>Laura Demie, welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Hi guys, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>My question just to kick straight off, is where is

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<v Speaker 1>Delilah right now? If you're on the phone, are you

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<v Speaker 1>not paying attention to Delilah.

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<v Speaker 6>Is being very well looked after. We are just stopped

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<v Speaker 6>at the side of the road, full aircorn on. She's

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<v Speaker 6>actually currently having a snooze because she's been having so

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<v Speaker 6>much fun. She's tucket herself out.

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<v Speaker 3>How many interviews, how many phone calls, how many face

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<v Speaker 3>to face the visits were there in order to get

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<v Speaker 3>the very very prestigious job title of being Dalila's dog walker.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, look, there were a few, definitely a few

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<v Speaker 6>face to face visits, you know, like an initial meeting.

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<v Speaker 6>I'll follow up at the house. Let's have a trial

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<v Speaker 6>at the park or I'm there, let's have a file

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<v Speaker 6>at the park where I'm not there. So it's been

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<v Speaker 6>a lengthy procedure. I was sort of like, is it

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<v Speaker 6>going to be like a background check? The time number?

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<v Speaker 6>Should I send you the photos of my house?

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<v Speaker 2>Demi? You obviously would have known about Britt being in

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<v Speaker 2>the public eye and you would have heard all the stories.

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<v Speaker 2>Was there a certain level of apprehension and did she

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<v Speaker 2>live up to her name? How was she to work

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<v Speaker 2>with that closely.

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<v Speaker 5>No, Look, she's been lovely.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't really buy into all the stuff in the

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<v Speaker 6>media because you know, people can write whatever they want.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't want to set the benefit of the doubt

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<v Speaker 6>because I wasn't really expecting anything untoward. But you know,

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<v Speaker 6>when it comes to who's looking after your dog, I

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<v Speaker 6>get it. I'm the same with being a crazy dog mum.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds like Demi knows exactly where her paycheck is

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<v Speaker 3>coming from this week.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I have How normal is this?

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<v Speaker 6>Like?

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<v Speaker 4>Is this the same process?

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<v Speaker 3>Where would you say this sits in terms of what

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<v Speaker 3>other people have expected you to do.

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<v Speaker 6>Look, if we're going on a scale, I'd say most

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<v Speaker 6>other people are maybe like between us three to five,

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<v Speaker 6>depending on how relaxed they are, if they've had someone before,

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<v Speaker 6>and what was rebby Look at nine to ten?

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<v Speaker 5>Up there.

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<v Speaker 6>That the other end, Yes, I was up there.

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<v Speaker 3>How many photos have you sent to brit today?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, look, the usual client gets like ten to fifteen.

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<v Speaker 6>I think I've maybe sent like forty five the area, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>to cover all the bases.

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<v Speaker 4>And she does look like she's having a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>To be fair, the very cute photos you're showing.

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<v Speaker 6>It, Yeah, she's had a great time.

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<v Speaker 3>But I am on the daycare app that I currently

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<v Speaker 3>have where I can check in on my kids who

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<v Speaker 3>are also being cared for it this very minute. And

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<v Speaker 3>there are four photos, Demi, four photos of my two children,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's combined.

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<v Speaker 6>I'd be asking for more. That's yeah, that's not the scratch.

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<v Speaker 4>I think I'm down on like a one two on

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<v Speaker 4>the scale.

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<v Speaker 2>Demi, do you do kids as well as dogs?

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<v Speaker 6>Perhaps you know what I do. I used to work

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<v Speaker 6>in childcare. So all the.

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<v Speaker 4>Bases sign me up next week.

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<v Speaker 2>You just got another job. They can all go together.

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<v Speaker 6>You tell Mary and Laura to give me a call.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that you already know their names. She's very thorough.

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<v Speaker 4>I checked her for everyone that might ever come into

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<v Speaker 4>contact with her.

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<v Speaker 2>DEMI, can your milk as well? It may as well

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<v Speaker 2>put you on my walk so we can all have

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<v Speaker 2>the same dog walker. Thank you, Danny, congratulations on the gig.

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<v Speaker 2>But she's a lovely, lovely higher britt Well done, well done.

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<v Speaker 1>See if you do due diligence at the start makes

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of your life easier.

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<v Speaker 2>Very true. Up next for talking to a listener of

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<v Speaker 2>the show who is having a baby. She's not carrying

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<v Speaker 2>it herself. She has employed a surrogate to carry her child.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder her questions as thoroughly as igned did Delilah's

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<v Speaker 1>dog walker questions.

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<v Speaker 2>I doubt it. I truly truly doubt it. And we'll

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<v Speaker 2>find out because she joins us next here at the pickup.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the Pickup with Britt Laura and mid Tuesday afternoon,

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<v Speaker 2>you got to head into Kenis's warehouse today. Great savings

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely every day. Now, ladies, we've been contacted by a

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<v Speaker 2>listener of the show. I love this.

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<v Speaker 3>We have we have such an interesting story. So Lisa

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<v Speaker 3>is a listener of the show and she is having

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<v Speaker 3>a baby, but she's not currently pregnant, so she's having

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<v Speaker 3>a baby through her best friend Sarah, who is carrying

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<v Speaker 3>it via surrogacy for her. Lisa, welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Hi, or you're having a baby, so congratulations, congratulation.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a very exciting time.

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<v Speaker 1>It obviously sounds like it's been a long time coming,

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<v Speaker 1>because correct me if I'm wrong, but you've had eighteen

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<v Speaker 1>rounds of IVF.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, eighteen rounds over eight years, so it's been a long, long,

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<v Speaker 5>long time coming, and we just announced it about four

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<v Speaker 5>days ago, I feel very raw and very exciting.

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<v Speaker 4>How many weeks along now? Is is? Sarah?

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<v Speaker 5>We are fourteen and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so amazing, And so what's that been like for

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<v Speaker 1>you over the eight years? With eighteen rounds of IVF?

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<v Speaker 5>It's excruciating for anyone who's going through it. My hearts

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<v Speaker 5>go out to you. Doing this has been like the

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<v Speaker 5>hardest thing that I've ever been through. Every time it's

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<v Speaker 5>at least thirty injections and then it's the hormones that

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<v Speaker 5>go through you.

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<v Speaker 3>Being your friend, she must have been very aware of

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<v Speaker 3>your IVF journey. But how did you approach the conversation

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<v Speaker 3>of asking her to be a surrogate for you?

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<v Speaker 5>So it doesn't just happen overnight. Sarah and I met

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<v Speaker 5>twelve and a half years ago. We remained like amazing friends.

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<v Speaker 5>We worked on so many projects together. In twenty eighteen,

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<v Speaker 5>when I was in my infancy of my IVS journey,

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<v Speaker 5>she said to me, if you ever want a sarrogate,

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<v Speaker 5>it would be my dream to carry a baby. And

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, oh my god, another human would do that.

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<v Speaker 5>And then fast forward last year, so March twenty twenty two,

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<v Speaker 5>she texted me and said, Hey, how have IVF Collie.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, that's a great still to be a

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<v Speaker 5>sorrygate and I'm text she was like, yes, absolutely, let's

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<v Speaker 5>bring a baby in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, it.

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<v Speaker 4>Really happen, and organically.

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<v Speaker 5>We're together for all the scanned we're like basically together

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<v Speaker 5>together together, So it's incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a beautiful story and it sounds great and it

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<v Speaker 2>warms my heart. But then I think my brain goes

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<v Speaker 2>to the logistics, like do you have to pay your

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<v Speaker 2>you have to write a contract, you both have to

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<v Speaker 2>go to a lawyer and sit down Like I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>it's not as easy as you're making it sound.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not easy at all. And the reason that it's

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<v Speaker 5>probably easier for me is because I'd been through eight

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<v Speaker 5>years of absolute fricking health. I've been through many iterations

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<v Speaker 5>of logistics and legalities. Before. You can't pay someone, it

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<v Speaker 5>has to be out of the goodness of their heart.

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<v Speaker 5>But it's actually not as complex as people may think.

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<v Speaker 5>So basically, what we had to do with her and

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<v Speaker 5>her husband David, me and my hobby to be Stiven

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<v Speaker 5>had to do a three hour counseling session together to

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<v Speaker 5>all get on the same page and kind of work through. Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>how do we all feel about this? So you've got

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<v Speaker 5>to be fairly, you know, in tune with your feelings

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<v Speaker 5>and able to talk about everything and be comfortable. And

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<v Speaker 5>then we had to get legal contracts drawn up on

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<v Speaker 5>both sides just to any anomalies, you know, because as

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<v Speaker 5>you said when you introduced, imagine if Sah had the

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<v Speaker 5>baby and then were suddenly like, I can't let it go.

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<v Speaker 5>So there's a whole lot of legal things. And then

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<v Speaker 5>the surrogate has to have already finished their own families,

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<v Speaker 5>so Sarah and David have three children already. And then

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<v Speaker 5>we cover whilst we can't pay her, we cover every

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<v Speaker 5>single extent for anything to do with her having to

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<v Speaker 5>get transport to a scan or anything to do with medically,

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<v Speaker 5>we cover for Sarah. So yeah, so it's just I

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<v Speaker 5>feel like I've got not only a baby carrier, but

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<v Speaker 5>also a very very very best best best friend, Like

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<v Speaker 5>it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow. Well, I mean, speaking with feelings, what is it

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<v Speaker 3>like going from having these eighteen rounds of IVF to

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<v Speaker 3>having to experience somebody else carrying your baby?

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<v Speaker 4>What does that feel like?

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<v Speaker 5>Amazing? And in fact, they have shivers over my whole body,

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<v Speaker 5>as you say. And again, it's all perspective, right if

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<v Speaker 5>someone was starting today on their journey and they're like,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to get a surrogate, like, there is no way.

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<v Speaker 5>Six and a half years ago, I really could have

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<v Speaker 5>even fathomed it. Whilst my partner Stephen has been amazing.

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<v Speaker 6>Now I've got like a.

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<v Speaker 5>Best fricking girlfriend. But every day we're like, is he kicking?

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<v Speaker 3>Is he doing this?

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<v Speaker 5>How are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 6>It's just so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>It's truly an incredible gift from your friend and your

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<v Speaker 1>little baby boys.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you on the second of August? So we just

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<v Speaker 4>can't say a bigger congratulations to you.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like it's been a long time coming, and

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<v Speaker 1>we wish you all both families the absolute best.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, thank you so much, and thank you for such

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<v Speaker 5>a beautiful kind injury. And I hope we can help

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of other people that might be considering.

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<v Speaker 2>This all right, standby, I might not need a sorry

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<v Speaker 2>get after the experience that I had on the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying I'm leaving my beautiful partner of almost

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<v Speaker 2>five years, but I'm saying something crossed my mind. Something

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<v Speaker 2>that he's doing that has made me really requestion our love.

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<v Speaker 4>We've got the ick, I've got the baby.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll do it next to the pickup. It's the pickup

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<v Speaker 2>with Britt, Laura and Midge. Rush into chemist warehouse today,

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<v Speaker 2>grab inc protein powering tomorrow today, Ladies, I haven't actually

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<v Speaker 2>told you what happened to me over the weekend, but

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<v Speaker 2>I've developed a new ick. How would you describe an ick?

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<v Speaker 3>It's when you are suddenly turned off the person that

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<v Speaker 3>you love.

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<v Speaker 2>My beautiful partner, Hayden, of all almost five years, it's

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<v Speaker 2>our fifty this year together. There is nothing more emasculating

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<v Speaker 2>in the world than having to sign your partner's driving

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<v Speaker 2>log book.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, because Hayden just got his life.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm teaching him to drive and it makes me sick.

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<v Speaker 3>So wait, Hayden's driving around with his l plates on

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<v Speaker 3>and you're sitting in the driver's seat teaching him how

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<v Speaker 3>to You're a terrible driving.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I know, first of all, that's another issue

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm teaching him to drive, but me having to

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<v Speaker 2>go babe that help plates on? But a power dynamics

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<v Speaker 2>always a bit hot, keeps a relationship alive, but not

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<v Speaker 2>when you're telling your partner how long to stop at

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<v Speaker 2>a stop signed for.

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<v Speaker 4>Two one and accelerate.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like this isn't power dynamics. This is a

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<v Speaker 3>real daddy thing because it's an issually your dad or

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<v Speaker 3>your mum who teaches you how to drive a car.

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<v Speaker 1>When you think of in a relationships and you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be sexy in a car, it's like you're getting

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<v Speaker 1>going to get sexy in the car and you're not

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<v Speaker 1>sitting in the car telling him to stop and start.

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<v Speaker 2>We did a driving lesson on the weekend. He said

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<v Speaker 2>to me, I'm exhausted after that. I can't imagine how

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<v Speaker 2>you feel after driving in the relationship for four years

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<v Speaker 2>and then he goes, you want to sort of, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>have some fun in the bedroom, and I had absolutely

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<v Speaker 2>zero ounce of desire.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, at what point did the desire go?

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<v Speaker 3>Was it when you heard the magnetic click of the

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<v Speaker 3>l plate or was it when he had to put

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<v Speaker 3>his indicator on and you were like, darling, you haven't

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<v Speaker 3>put your indicator on. Probably it's the left one and

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, which one's the indicator? And then he's got

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<v Speaker 3>the windscreen wipers going.

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<v Speaker 2>It was that when I had to google what a

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<v Speaker 2>give way sign looked like because he couldn't picture it

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<v Speaker 2>in his head.

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<v Speaker 4>How old is Hayden, Just so we know, he's twenty

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<v Speaker 4>six the age as me twenty six years.

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<v Speaker 3>That's quite a long way into life to have not

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<v Speaker 3>driven a car, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's also the issue. I forced him to get the

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<v Speaker 2>license because I thought this was so unfair that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>having to drive my whole life and you're you get

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<v Speaker 2>off scott free. You're an uber, You're an everly I'm

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<v Speaker 2>glorified uber. And then now I'm having to teach him,

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<v Speaker 2>and I didn't think about it. I'm telling you it's

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<v Speaker 2>a real problem. And especially when you develop an ick

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<v Speaker 2>this deep into a relationship, it takes you aback. Christen's

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<v Speaker 2>called I'm thirteen one oh six y five. I think, Kristian,

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<v Speaker 2>you've developed an e late into a relationship. What is it?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, So my partner and I have been together for

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<v Speaker 7>eight years now. I've actually just had a babyshit, so

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<v Speaker 7>it's like a long term, serious relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>It's efficient, and I.

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<v Speaker 7>Adore him, but then he shoes with his mouth open,

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<v Speaker 7>and the noise it just gets to me and I

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<v Speaker 7>like to give him jaggers. I stare at him and

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<v Speaker 7>it grinds.

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<v Speaker 3>But surely you've been together eight years. Surely this is

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<v Speaker 3>something he's always done. Just overnight, just decided to start

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<v Speaker 3>eating with the mouth open. Maybe he's got some daser problems.

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<v Speaker 7>I feel like I never really noticed it until like recently.

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<v Speaker 2>So wait, what I'm getting to solve this relationship? In

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<v Speaker 2>my relationship, is I need to have a baby.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it's it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, to solve this issue, I need to go through

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<v Speaker 2>the lengthy process of getting a baby via surracle.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that Hayden just needs to get his license

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<v Speaker 3>and then you'll be fine.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, That's that's the end of the show for

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<v Speaker 2>a Tuesday. We're done here, guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah, Happy Tuesday everyone. We've got Willam, What are you

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<v Speaker 3>coming up next?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? The boys from the Imperfect podcast are into Diish

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<v Speaker 2>kyleen Berg.

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<v Speaker 4>He's wonderful. Oh he's my favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that podcast too. They're joining Will and what

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<v Speaker 2>are you next? You tomorrow? Bye,