WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - To enema or not to enema... that is the question 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.120 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.280 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Island 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.800 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:42.440 One Cut. 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:43.320 I'm Brittany and. 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:47.080 I'm Laura, and this is our Ask Uncut episode, our saucy, 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.360 little down and dirty. It actually is a bit dirty, 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:51.880 this one episode where we answer all. 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:54.640 If you're deep, you're dark, and you're burning question. We 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:58.680 call it therapy Thursday, and sometimes it's their No, that 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.000 was not seductive at all, if that's if that's what 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:01.680 you would come. 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.039 I feel like every week I try and get weirder 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:04.759 and it just doesn't. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:06.479 I mean, it gets weirder, but it doesn't get better. 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:09.160 Definitely gets weird, but no, we call it therapy Thursday. 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.360 But sometimes I think it's just as much therapy for us, Laura, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:13.720 than it is for anyone else. 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.320 Oh yeah, the amount of self development and self growth 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:18.880 I have done because I've had to research things for 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:20.240 questions that you have asked. 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:21.520 It's been very beneficial. 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:24.000 Sometimes when I'm answering a question and give you my advice, 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:26.400 my internal monologue is like, Brittany, clock. 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:27.840 This and take your own advice. 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:31.480 Also, when we get into one of the questions from today, 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.000 sometimes there's a bit too much research that goes into it. 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.319 There's a bit too much trying to unpack what is 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:39.400 the right and wrong way about doing things? And some 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:41.200 of it all you go and give yourself an enemom, 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.600 did you take the due diligence one step too far? 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:48.160 We may be talking about anal sex on today's episode, 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:50.440 not from personal experience, but from the experience and the 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:52.280 lived moments of. 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:54.880 You guys lived experience. Yeah, that's it. 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:57.200 This one is not coming from person Daily Mail before, 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.240 and I know as soon as we put out an 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:02.280 episode like this, there's some conversations about anal play. 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:03.640 There's a Daily Mail. 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:06.440 Journalist listening to this right now, just hoping that we 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:07.800 say something messed up. 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:09.920 They are rubbing their little mits together. 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:13.160 Let me tell you you will not find anything personal here. 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:16.560 We've all tried it. It's not for us before. No 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.600 judgment though, that'll bit straight before we do get into it. Though, 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:21.839 I if you follow me on Instagram, I just wanted 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:23.840 to say something and I feel like it's a Brinie 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:25.440 underscore hockey. Go follow her. 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:28.880 That is also out leading in. 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.520 A cat That is not what I was gonna say. No, 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:33.160 if you followly on Instagram, you might have seen a 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:37.440 couple of days ago. I am very hormonal at the moment. 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:39.280 Saying I'm very horny. 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:42.160 I'm horny to we all, Yeah, like I'm horny too, 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.040 I'm hormonal, I'm horny. They come hand in hand, right. No, 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.639 I'm very hormonal at the moment. I don't know why 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:49.480 that is that time of the month. I don't know 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.560 if my emotions have just been so high for the 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:54.680 last couple of months. But I'm crying a lot. Things 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:58.679 are touching me a lot, not physically, I can confirm, 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:01.480 definitely not physically. So still getting to eat on this episode. 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.640 Don't worry, guys, nothing and no one is touching me. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.480 Things are touching me, like emotionally, they're pointing my heartstrings. 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:11.400 But why don't you just say the stuff that is 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:14.360 going down in our discussion group on Facebook At the moment, 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:17.440 I hope, And I know there's sixty thousand members, so 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.200 I know not all of you are members, but a 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.280 lot of you obviously are sixty thousand of you. It's 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:23.480 a really big, beautiful group, and I think a lot 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.320 of people still don't know the stuff that goes down 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.239 in the group. They don't know what it is. And look, 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:29.440 there is not a lane, there is not a theme. 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:31.840 There's nothing that I can say goes on in the 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:34.120 Facebook group, because so much goes on. But what I 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:37.720 wanted to say is, lately, you guys have just been 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.800 the best humans and so much good is coming from 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:43.720 it that I just felt, really I just wanted to 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:45.880 shout out every single one of you and every single 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:49.280 life that's involved in it for being such good humans. 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:53.120 And you yourselves have created that group. You yourselves contribute 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.480 to it every day. You're the ones that are helping people, 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:57.119 You're the ones that are supporting each other, and it's 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.400 so like, it's so nice to see that. I just 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:02.920 wanted to make sure you all realize how special you 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.040 all are and how much you're contributing to each other, 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:09.080 because in the last little I guess couple of months specifically, 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:11.760 they've done you guys have done things like Dennis. A 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:14.040 lot of you might remember Dennis, the elderly man that 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:15.720 was getting kicked out of his home up north on 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:18.240 the Gold Coast. And we had a member, Jamie, who 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.279 really went out on a limb to help him. She 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.080 fundraised for him, She got him removalless, she found him 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.160 new accommodation, she ensured he wasn't homeless, she raised money 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.440 for him to live a really great life. Then we've 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:32.960 had members saving and rescuing animals. We've had people giving 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:35.159 to each other when they need it, supporting each other, 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:38.040 really really helping each other. And everything that is happening 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:41.719 in that group is happening very organically, just purely because 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.880 you all have really really good hearts. And like I said, 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:46.600 I'm emotional, but even if I was, and I just 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:48.600 wanted to say thank you to everyone. Everyone in a group, 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.640 he's I'm not crying your crime. 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:53.120 Do you know what though? 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:56.240 I mean, we have spoken about the Facebook group since inception, 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:59.039 like since the very very beginning, when it very first started, 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:02.320 and it's been I mean, it's been such a journey 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:04.039 because when it very first started, it was only a 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:05.960 couple hundred people and then it grew to a couple 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.719 of thousand people, and it was really easy to manage 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:10.720 when it was really really small. And now there is 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:13.720 sixty thousand of you in the Facebook and you're all wild. 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:15.719 And we can't control you yeo, And we don't moderate. 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:17.440 So this is the big thing about the Life un 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.520 Cut discussion group. Britta and I and produce a Keisha. 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:23.640 We're a super small team. We do not moderate that group. 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:26.400 We have the it would be impossible, well, I mean, 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.680 we'd have to have a dedicated social media team to 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.080 do that. And we kind of run it under the 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.360 impression that everybody who was a part of the lifelung 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.240 cut community, everyone who is part of the Facebook discussion 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.000 group as an adult, everyone treats each other with the 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.159 respect and the kindness that you would treat another adult, 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:44.960 or that you would treat any other human. And obviously 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:47.479 there are definitely times where we have to jump in 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.760 and we do moderate things, and we're like the cranky 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:52.040 school teachers when we say, hey, hey, come on, guys, 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:53.840 like let's all be a little bit softer and a 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.760 little bit more gentle towards each other. But recently there 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:59.960 have been so many wonderful things that have taken place recently. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.680 There was a mermaid hair wand that was exchange, and 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:05.200 it seems like something that was mundane. And for example, 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:07.640 there was one post that came up recently and one 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:10.000 of the Life on Cut members had written, if you 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:12.120 could buy yourself anything right now, if there's one thing 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.279 that you could get for yourself, what would it be? 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.799 And another Life Uncut member had written that she wanted 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.760 a mermaid hair wand one of the things that make. 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:19.359 Your hair or curly. 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:21.960 And you know, you don't know where somebody is in 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.560 their financial journey, You don't know what somebody's other external 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.320 pressures are. And somebody else in the Facebook group reached 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.360 out and sent her the one that she had, and I. 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.040 Know that she just said, Hey, I'm not using it 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:33.280 so like you use it totally. Here it is, I'm 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:33.919 going to send it to you. 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.000 And I know that that is such a small, what 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:39.440 seems like an insignificant act, but sometimes these very very 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:42.279 small acts of kindness can have really profound impacts on 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.200 people's life. And I am so a Britta and I 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.240 we are both just so grateful for the Life on 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:49.240 Cut discussion group. If you are not a member of 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.200 their please go on and join. And just for everybody 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:55.120 who contributes to making it such a special place and 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.400 such a supportive place, we're so grateful for that. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:59.320 And there are just so you guys know too, there 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:02.159 are a huns and that's not an exaggeration. Hundreds of 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.760 posts and comments a day. It's impossible for Laura and 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.760 I to get on there and respond to everyone. But 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:09.960 I want you to know that we see these things 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:12.800 going down and we discuss them personally, like lurking in 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.240 the background. We are, we lurk like we lurk, but 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.560 we see them and we talk about it all the 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:20.040 time with each other. We're just like, how bloody good 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:22.680 are our listeners? Like how amazing all these humans do? 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:24.880 We feel like we're just like so brivateym anyway. 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.280 That's it, And we're like secretly screenshotting the shit that 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:28.800 you guys do and sending it to each other in 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:29.720 our WhatsApp dms. 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:30.560 That's what's going down. 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:32.960 So this is your friendly reminder that if you were 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.720 not part of the Facebook discussion group, stop what you're doing, 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.360 put us on pause, Go type in life on cut 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:40.600 discussion group, Join the group and you'll. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.160 Be part of the party. Anyhow, you have something you 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:44.040 want to talk to me about. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:45.600 Okay, I have a question for you, And this is 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.560 before we get into actual ask uncut questions. Now, you guys, 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:51.520 if you are a bit of a Maths fan, as 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:53.960 we all know that I am, you may remember a 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.320 Maths contestant from a few years back. Her name was 0:07:56.400 --> 0:08:00.000 Kathy Evans. She's been really vocal on social media recently. 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.400 She's had a lip persuction and she kind of followed 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:05.120 her journey of life persuction and cosmetic surgery. 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.920 I remember Kathy, and most celebrities. 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.640 When they go and they get cosmetic enhancements, they do 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:11.360 it on the slide like they don't want people to know. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:14.040 But Kathy I really got into following her last year 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:16.960 because I quite enjoyed how frank she was about the 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:18.880 alterations that she was making to her body. 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:21.440 And she was a different person. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:23.320 But she wasn't even trying to hide it, you know, 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:26.600 she was like super authentic about it and was you know, 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:28.920 communicating that with her audience. Anyway, this has got nothing 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:30.640 to do with that. I just was trying to make 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:34.840 the correlation. Anyone had forgotten who she is now Kathy 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:38.200 has posted something recently they got me thinking, and it 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:41.079 is something to do with children on planes, which we 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.440 all know can be a very polarizing thing. But she 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:45.920 wrote this picture this. You're on a flight with a 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.720 young child seated behind you. For the entire duration of 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:50.960 the flight. The child is rapid kicking the back of 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.160 your seat. However, the back is thin, so you feel 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:56.240 every single kick to your spine. The child then starts 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.600 slapping the top of everyone's head seated in front of them, 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:01.520 and the noise is insane. 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:05.080 Now, she glanced. 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:08.800 Over at the parents to try and visually communicate that 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:10.280 she wasn't happy with what their child. 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:11.880 Like, communicate your displeasure with your eyes. 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:13.920 Yeah, yeah, yeah, like you know, like I control your 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:17.200 child kind of thing. My question is is it okay 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.920 for a complete stranger, because in this this is wild, 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:21.760 Like if a child is doing this on a plane 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:23.760 and you are stuck, you're trapped. You can't leave, You've 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:25.600 got to put up with this kid behind you trying 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:28.000 to ruin your entire two hours. Different to like a 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:30.520 crying child. This is like a misbehaving child. Is it 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:34.080 okay to turn around and reprimand the child? 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.280 Or do you have to go through the parent. Oh, 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:40.120 this is a difficult one. I feel like the right 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:42.959 answer and generally the answer would be go through the 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:47.679 parent if it's just a misbehaving child. But if a child, 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.640 I'm just trying to put myself. If a child is 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.640 slapping me, physically slapping me in. 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.400 The head, I can I can picture this now. I'm 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:58.000 just imagining a kid hanging over the seat and like 0:09:58.280 --> 0:09:59.800 banging bongo drums on your head. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:01.679 If a kid, Yes, I think that you can say 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.319 something to the child, but you also have to say 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:04.640 something to the adult. And I think what you say 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.280 to the child has to be pretty nice, like you 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:09.839 just have to say, excuse me, you don't hit people, 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:12.640 you know, like something like that. But I think it 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:14.200 probably needs to go through the parent, like can you 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:17.360 contain your child? What gets me in this situation is 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:21.960 what parent anywhere lets their child on a plane or not, 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:25.840 but especially a confined space, what parent lets their child 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.360 physically be hitting people and drawing on property like a plane, 0:10:29.360 --> 0:10:32.280 Because I'm guessing that's what Kathy means by tagging drawing 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:34.480 on them that they're drawing. So this child's drawing on 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:36.920 people on the walls, on the seats on her on 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:40.600 her like, how how is his parent letting that happen? 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.760 I okay, Like, look, not defending the parents at all, 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:46.760 but I do think that sometimes when your child is occupied, 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:49.200 no matter what they're doing, if they're just occupied, you're like, 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:51.360 I don't need to worry about them, Like they're not screaming, 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:53.959 so I'm just gonna like let them go. And I 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:56.320 don't think that that's the solution. Obviously, if your child 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.960 is occupied by absolutely ruining somebody else's time, you're doing, 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.560 it's a terrible a terrible job of keeping them under control. 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:03.920 But almost sometimes we can. 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.080 Be immune to how annoying they are because they're our kids, 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.240 and we don't We're like, we're used to the annoyingness, 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:11.600 but we think that everybody else is used to annoying kids. 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:15.760 But you wouldn't let the kids be physically slapping other 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:17.760 people on a plane. Not Oh my god, do you 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:18.520 know what I once did? 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:20.400 Okay, The reason why I thought about this is because 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:22.640 it brought up a memory from the past, a pre 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.880 child memory that I had. I was very deep that 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:27.680 I was at a restaurant this one time and I 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.080 was sitting in my seat and we were sitting along 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:31.800 like a row of chairs that kind of went along 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.240 the wall. So everyone sits on the same row of chairs. 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.440 Does that make it like a bench? Like a bench? 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.760 So the tables were all facing the bench, and then 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:40.319 the people on the opposite side had a chair. But 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.360 I was sitting on a bench and I was next 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.160 to this child who was on the table next to me. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.840 Now the child had like left their parents and was 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:48.840 like right next to my side of the seat on 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:51.240 the bench, and he had a fork and he was 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:55.000 banging the fork against the brick wall next to my head. 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:57.040 And I had said a couple of times, Oh, could 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:57.600 you stop that? 0:11:57.640 --> 0:11:58.160 Like I was trying. 0:11:58.160 --> 0:11:59.880 I was on a day and I was trying to 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.480 have a date, have a chat to my. 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:03.280 Date, and he was banging. 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:04.960 Show him I was good with children. 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:06.599 I was like, I also at the time didn't know 0:12:06.600 --> 0:12:09.599 whether I wanted kids, and I had a really short 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:12.800 like patience with children. And he was banging and banging 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:14.040 and banging, and I was like, oh, can you please 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:14.360 stop that? 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:14.800 Can you please? 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:16.920 I think I asked about four times. I made the 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:20.160 eye contact with the parents. It didn't commute, and then 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:25.440 I snapped, snapped, I fucking snapped. I turned around and 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.880 I yelled at this like four year old and I was. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.800 Like, God, you stop banging that against the all. And 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:34.400 that is a recise moment my date I exited the building. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.320 No, he actually started laughing. 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.480 But the parents, I was expecting the parents to be 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:40.760 angry at me, Like I was like, I mean, obviously 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:42.720 I wasn't like I didn't I wasn't gonna. 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:43.520 Smack the chart or anything. 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:45.040 But I was like, I made it very clear that 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:48.600 I was not happy, and the parents were like, see, 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.120 you shouldn't be doing that. You know, we've told you 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.640 to stop doing these things. But they had become immune 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:56.160 to it. They were like they're used to like channeling 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.880 that shit out you. It becomes so good as a parent, 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:01.280 are like blocking out what you're own child does that 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:04.560 you just don't even necessarily realize or don't even see 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.840 how bad it is when it's impacting other people. 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.520 Well, I guess, see, I guess being childless, I don't. 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:11.360 I don't know that side of it because I mean, 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.000 like I say, my nieces and nephews do it. But 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:14.920 I definitely have seen the other side. 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:15.440 I've been you. 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:16.920 I've been on the bench. I'm not. 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:18.719 I have wanted to snap. 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:22.720 But I'm pretty good. But generally I think there is 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:24.960 like a rule that you should go through the parents. 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:26.760 I don't know, I don't know. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.160 I think that if my kids are being super naughty. 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:30.960 Of course, I don't want some stranger to yell at 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:32.959 my children at all, but I do think if they 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:36.199 were being super naughty, if my kid was being naughty 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:37.840 to another kid in the park, or if they were, like, 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:41.200 you know, doing something that is really destructive, I would 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.080 be I think, okay with somebody else saying hey, you 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:47.199 need to stop that, because I think sometimes children would. 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:50.880 Be yelled in their face like you, I don't drop you. 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:52.640 I feel like you would be like, don't you speak 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.040 to my child like that? Probably actually to be fair. 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:57.400 And I've definitely been on a plane where I've just 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:59.840 like let Laula hang over the seat trying to make faces. 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.959 I'm like, it's cute, not cute to the other person. 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:05.120 I have done the thing before where you're on a 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:07.640 plane and you know that the kids kicking the seat 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:09.120 and you're like, okay, I'm just gonna let go for 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:10.760 a little while. It might have been a sporadic kick 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:12.480 might have been an accident. Might he might have tried 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:15.200 get up, but this constant kicking. But I've done the 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:17.560 thing where you put your head between the seats and 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:21.480 just like hard core, Yeah, you penetrate the parent with 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:22.200 your eyes. 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:24.800 Like I know I'm on point with my word penetrating. 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:28.240 Do you know that deep guttural like that stare that 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.440 every answer of your body is going into that look 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.320 to the parent. But then you give you know, they 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:33.680 give the kid a little look. But I think I 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:35.280 don't know. I don't think anyone should go in and 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:38.760 abuse a child without going through the parents first. But 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:39.840 why don't have kids? 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:40.400 So I don't know. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.360 But this is what Kylie did and it didn't to 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:42.800 no avail. 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:43.560 It didn't work out. 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:45.640 Here's my question to you guys slide into the DMS. 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.680 Do you think it's okay to get annoyed at somebody 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:51.040 else's kid if the parent has decided that they don't 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:51.880 care about the behavior. 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:54.560 Well, it's sort of like continuing on this, can you 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:58.720 discipline another child, like just say your friend's child. It 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.600 might be a sister, brother's child, like someone you know, 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:03.280 are alway to discipline them? 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.960 I think you can discipline them in a way that's 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:06.480 like you can give a child a time out or 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:08.240 something like if they're in your care and they're being 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:10.040 really naughty, you can give a time out. But I 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.240 always find anyway with Mally, like if anybody else tells 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:17.440 her not to do something, it's so much more impactful 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:18.400 coming from someone else. 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:20.240 Like if her auntie's or her uncles say. 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:23.600 Mallie, don't do that, she's on the floor bawling her 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:25.600 eyes out. And if I say Marley, don't do that, 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.480 She's like, whooa, how far can I run away from? 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.560 Mom? Watch me run onto the phone? Yeah, watch me 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.200 run onto the road mom. Okay? 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:32.440 Anyway, that is enough. 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:32.800 For my question. 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.480 If you have any thoughts on this, if it's okay 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.200 or not okay, I would love to know where you 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:39.320 sit on this. What would you do in this situation? 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:45.600 And is it okay to discipline somebody else's child? Question 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:48.200 number one from the actual questions, though, here we go 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.600 Question number one. June last year, I met my penguin. 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.240 Also I thought he was the one that I was 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.400 going to be with forever. We moved in together and 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:58.480 had the most amazing life together. He is my complete 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:01.520 world and I love him so much. My dog passed away, 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.400 and my grandfather passed away, which hit me really hard. 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:08.400 Then his older brother passed away, and it's just been 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:11.600 incredibly hard ever since. However, I have been there for 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:13.760 him every step of the way and completely put my 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.520 life on hold for him because I thought he was 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:18.640 the one. Recently, he was telling me that we're going 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.480 to spend the rest of our lives together, and it 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:23.320 made me so happy. But then all of a sudden, 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:25.600 he left me. I feel like my entire world has 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:27.840 been broken. He just all of a sudden said he 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:29.640 doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, and he 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:31.920 doesn't want to be with me anymore. He wanted me 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:33.840