WEBVTT - WE ARE BACK BABY! 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:22.480 Hi guys, and are welcome back. It's been a long break, 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.320 but here we are to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:27.720 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. A lot's happened in the 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:29.920 past couple of weeks. Do you know what I think 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:32.720 is actually hilarious. Almost every day someone has written to 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.760 us and said, can you please come back? Like the 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:35.800 break's been too long? 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:38.000 What are we doing without you? We can't survive without you? 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:39.479 And I was like, oh my gosh, how long have 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:41.120 we actually been off for? And I worked it out. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.640 It's only just five weeks to the day that we 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:47.279 stopped the last episode, and a lot has happened. You 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:50.720 have officially got a boyfriend, like out in the media, tell. 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:53.519 On the world the press. I pushed a watermelon out 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:54.240 of my vagina. 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.400 Actually it was almost a sizeable watermelon. She is a 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.040 big girl. She's the kid's got a massive head. 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.480 Some destruction we've had We would get into that later 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:04.959 in the episode. I ran a half marathon. We have 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:08.440 chosen our bachelor for twenty twenty one, and we have 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:11.319 started the train wreck that he's married at first sign 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.400 the absolute dumpster fire, which you know what I am 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:17.399 usually so here for Maths and this year. Maybe it's 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:19.800 because collectively I've had about four hours sleep in the 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:22.960 last month, but I'm not vibing it like I normally would. 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.600 I will tell you about that. Also, coming right up, 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:27.640 you are on the slow decline with Maths. It's really 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:29.080 taken me by surprise too. 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:31.000 I know when we first started this Okay, so we 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.480 started this podcast almost two years ago. Guys, when we 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:36.080 first started it, I was so sick for Maths. I 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.280 was like waving that mass flag. I don't know, I'm 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.600 a bit disenchanted. Maybe it's because I don't feel like 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:43.400 there's any couples this season that I'm like really getting behind. 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:45.880 Do you know what, I'm almost proud of what I 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:49.760 have never watched an episode of Maths of any season. 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:52.040 It just shows how much you've bluffed your fucking way 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.880 through this podcast because you constantly talk about Maths. No, 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.240 because what I will do is I'll watch the highlights, 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.360 or I'll go and watch people like Clementine Ford, who 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.680 will just go to town. I feel like I've watched 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.880 every episode without watching an episode, I'll always read the articles, 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.600 watch the news, I'll look at the contestants pages, I'll 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:09.560 go and look at these people that recap them, people 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.400 like Hijrash that do funny stuff. But I've never sat 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:16.080 down and watched from start to finish a whole episode 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.400 of Maps. You're literally just here for the Punky recaps. 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:20.799 I'm here for punky recaps. Okay, So before we get 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:24.840 into everything about today's episode, we've missed you. We're so 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.320 happy to be back in your ears, let's talk about 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:30.239 the thing that you all actually came here for. Brittany, 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:34.160 tell me what's it like to be in love? Now? 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:36.840 You tell me what's liked me. You're all glowy, You're 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:38.080 all giggly. 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:41.440 I'm humming, am always giggly. I am actually blushing now 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:42.680 talking to Laura. 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:45.160 How's the sex been? I want to know everything. 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:50.760 It's fantastic, from the top to the bottom. Guys, I wholeheartedly, ridiculously, disgustingly, 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:57.840 sickeningly have fallen in love. And I'm going to be 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.080 that person that everyone loves to hate. And then I 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.920 have always always loved to hate. And I've said it 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:04.840 a number of times in this podcast. I'm going to 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.400 say it now. It happened when I least expected it. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:11.799 Of fucking hell. Also, though, for anybody who has been 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:14.120 with this podcast since the very beginning, or if you've 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:16.919 listened to every single episode, you will know that Britney's 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.200 dating love life has been a constant running theme and 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.079 the amount of people who are messaging to say that 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:24.400 they're happy for you. I just don't think people have 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:26.800 actually really thought this through and that they realize that 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:28.360 it means you're not going to be bringing any more 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:31.000 dating stories to the podcast, which is a real point 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:32.000 of contention right now. 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.600 It is a point of contention, but they've thought it 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:37.960 through because every congratulatory message I have finishes with I'm 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:39.920 also disappointed that there will be no more stories, but 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:41.760 I need to be happy enough for you. We've had 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:43.320 a lot of people writing saying that we need a 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:47.600 new segment that is other people's embarrassing, awkward, pathetic, terrible 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.400 dating stories which we might actually bring in. But yeah, 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:52.720 I still have some dating stories up my sleeve, guys, 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.440 I trust me. There's been a decade of dating. I 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:58.000 can bring you a lot of stories still, but I 0:03:58.000 --> 0:03:59.240 can also bring. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.640 You a lot of love. Now. Okay, so let's just 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:04.040 hit the hot ten questions. I don't even know if 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:05.760 I have ten questions, but I'm gonna ask you a few. 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:07.520 How did you guys meet you guys? 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:11.280 Remember that I said last year, like the start of 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:14.840 twenty twenty, that this year in twenty twenty, I did 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:17.640 not want to go through another holiday season and another 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.719 Christmas without someone like I just wanted to finish this 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:22.640 year and hope that I met someone. And in the 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:26.200 last episode of last year, I remember saying, well, that's it. 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:28.280 Another year over and I didn't meet anyone. And then 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:29.919 I think it was like literally the next day, it 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:32.159 was almost like I told the universe, like pull your 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.840 butt into gear. The next day I met Jordan. I 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:37.040 met Jordan on and I'm gonna sound like a wan 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:38.520 car but I met Jordan on. 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.720 Raya, which anyone who doesn't know. Raya is like an 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:45.200 exclusive celebrity dating site. Remember how I used it is 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.919 a celebrity and you have to be approved to be 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:49.760 able to be on Raya, and you have to have 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:52.880 over a certain number of followers on Instagram. No you don't. 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:54.960 I'd also be a certain level of hotness. Am I 0:04:55.040 --> 0:05:00.159 sensing a tinge of jealousy? You're not on rail I 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.800 was off dating sites before I had any kudos in 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:04.080 any social circle. 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.760 You guys remember used to talk about how I saw 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:08.840 Chanting Tatum on a dating app and I was trying 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:10.560 to match with him, et cetera. Like I sent him 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:12.080 a direct message as a joke. 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:15.640 What wasn't a joke. It's funny. It's only a joke. 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.400 When you get rejected, you're like, yeah, I didn't mean 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:18.600 that anyway. He just never go back. 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:20.919 He just didn't. I super liked him. That is the 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:22.920 app that I met Jordan on. And the thing about 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:26.120 this app is it doesn't really work. It's not geolocated, 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.240 so you can match with anyone around the world at 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.840 any time. You don't set a location, which is why 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.360 I saw all these famous people on them. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:34.040 The funny thing about this. 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.000 With Jordan is I saw Jordan on this dating app 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:38.040 three or four times. 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:38.160 Now. 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:40.360 I have made him aware of this, and I said, no, 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:41.880 I always swiped. 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:45.720 Left four times. This is purely because, for. 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:48.680 No other reason, his dating profile looked great. It was fine, 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.760 he was interesting, he was athletic, but he was younger 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.359 than me, and significantly younger than me. 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.120 Bernie does like a young guy from school. All right, 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.200 I got to go he's clocking off school. Now. It 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:03.800 got to a point where, like, you know, when you've 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:06.560 dated everybody, and like when you're on Tinder and it 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:09.159 stated everybody. I mean, I've been there, So this is 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:11.200 not a dig at you, like, oh, you know you're 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.400 on Tinder. You're swiping and it says no one, there's 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.080 no one left in your area, and you're like, all right, 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:17.719 fuck it, I'll just go up ten years and down 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.960 ten years and kilometers. All of a sudden, you've just 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:23.280 matched me a thirteen year old in Brisbane. 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.120 But no, I was ready to meet someone. So I 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:28.000 was and this is my advice that I do give 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:29.640 you guys as well. I was ready to meet someone. 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:31.839 So the people I was looking for were people I 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.080 thought would be ready to meet someone. So I had 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.120 an age range. Age range doesn't really come up on 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.120 rail anyway. So I was like, this guy, I'm going 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:39.359 to tell you how old he's in a second. 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.480 This guy's too young for me. He's not going to 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:41.920 be ready. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.720 So I just kept swiping. No, it got to almost 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.640 the end of the year and he just kept popping 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:49.400 up on my swiping. So I thought, hang on, what 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.440 is wrong with this person? Like why am I saying 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:52.800 no to him? And I sort of went through my 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:54.400 checklist in my head of what I was looking for. 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:57.080 He ticked every single thing, and then I realized the 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:00.719 only reason I was saying no was because he was 0:07:00.720 --> 0:07:04.599 twenty six and I am thirty three. So you do 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:06.200 the math, that's seven years. 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:08.320 I had to laterally stop then, but I also am 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:10.000 very sleep deprin So I was seven. 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:12.000 Years and I thought, there's no way a twenty six 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:15.600 year old and I completely stereotyped a twenty six year 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:18.880 old professional athlete is not going to be traveling the world, 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:20.920 playing the field, doing what he wants. So I was like, 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:22.680 that was the only reason. I was like, Okay, he's young, 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:24.920 he is twenty six, that's my only reason. Fuck it, 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:26.680 I'm just gonna say yes because that's not a good 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:28.600 enough reason when every other box is tick. 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:29.600 So I said yes. 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.920 We matched immediately, and then he sat all over to 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.840 me and we started talking and it was just easy. 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.880 From the second we started talking. He asked me for dinner, 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:42.440 and I was a bit cocky and said, only if 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.560 we can play tennis first. Now, Jordan has a serve 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.040 of two hundred and twenty kilometers an hour. 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.880 This did not go down well for anyone who doesn't 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:52.119 know Jordan is actually a professional tennis player. 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.400 Yeah, so look, I could go into a lot of 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:56.200 details and we will over the coming weeks or for 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:59.160 the rest of my life whatever, but we essentially met. 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:01.880 We had and the next day. 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:03.960 This is huge for me because you guys know that, Like, 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.000 I don't have any emotions really or I never used 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:07.400 to have emotions, and I used to. 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:08.560 I was a runner. 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:12.160 Like someone would say they liked me, and I'd be like, 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:14.000 oh my god, did you see that he wore a 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:16.239 summon shirt. I can't date him, and I would run away. 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.960 Like over the past two years, the amount of guys 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:21.239 who I shouldn't say it there. It's not like Brittany's 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:24.600 been dating a bazillion men, but like the number of 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.480 guys who she has dated and on paper, I'm like, 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.760 they seem like they're a really nice guy and the 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:32.280 only reason why you were trying to pick apart them 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.760 as a person is because they're actually into you and 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.040 they're being nice to you. As much as she has 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.760 sat here and given you relationship advice, I have been 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:41.760 the one behind the scenes being like britt this guy 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:45.280 seems awesome, but there is something to be said for 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:47.480 the fact that you need to have that X factor 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:49.960 as well. You can't just match with someone who on 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.480 paper everything seems awesome, but there's no spark. Oh, and 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.640 that's what it's been for you. There's been no spark. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:58.600 And I just knew that when the person came along 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:01.120 in my life that it would be easy. I knew 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:02.840 that I wouldn't question it. I knew that I would 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:04.720 just feel it. And I always knew it would happen 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:08.000 fast because I knew that I'm so specific with what 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:09.719 I was looking for that when it did happen, I 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:12.360 knew that it would just happen. So we went on 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.400 this one date. We had an hour and a half 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:17.160 sitting for dinner, and then it was midnight, six and 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:18.760 a half hours later, and they came up to us 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:20.640 say this, let us stay because I saw us having 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:22.840 this such a great time. They came up to us 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:26.839 and they're like, guys, like the restaurant's closing, you do 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:28.760 need to leave. I don't even know if Jordan got 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:30.520 a word in edgewise. It was just like six hours 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:33.720 of me talking. So we left and then he was 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.880 such a gentleman. He was so polite, and I could 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.080 tell he really liked me, like just the way he 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:40.160 was talking and acting. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.439 But he was he was like, didn't touch me. 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.679 Didn't try and kiss me, didn't do anything. And then 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:47.000 the taxi was coming and I was like, this guy's 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.320 not going to even try and kiss me. And I 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.280 was like, I don't know if I should end it 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.480 without kiss because it was so good. And I'll also, 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.120 i'm saying that it's not like it was a new take. 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:57.680 I was had six wines, I was dry. 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.760 I was like and I literally said, so the cars. 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.000 Here in two minutes, and he's like, uh huh. And 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:05.439 I was like, are you going to kiss me? Or 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:07.040 am I going to have to kiss you? That's what 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:08.719 I said, and he was like, it'd be great if 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:15.720 you did it. Chivalry also like grow a set. 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:17.559 Come on. It was like, I'm just He's like, I'm 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:18.400 actually glad you did that. 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:20.000 He's like, I really wanted to kiss you, but I 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:21.320 was just trying to be a gentleman and I didn't 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:24.440 want you to feel uncomfortable. He's actually so great, He's 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.559 so sweet, it's like unheard of. Then this is someone 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:29.280 like me I had to go up to Port Macquarie 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.880 the next day. I had four days left until Christmas, 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:34.160 and I banned him from listening to the podcast. This 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:36.520 is a very important point. I was like, absolutely, you 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:38.920 will never listen to this podcast until you're head over 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.400 heels in love with me, and then it's too late 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:41.160 for you to run away. 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.760 That was my rule. He's like, I don't understand. Why 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:44.679 what do you talk about it. I was like, you 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.960 don't need to know. Ask my question, and like this 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.240 has been your fear, Like I'm perpetually single because of 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:51.360 this podcast. It's a bad omen. It was my fear. 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.199 I just thought people would listen and be turned off 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:55.400 it until you know who I am and what I'm 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.720 actually like. It'd be easy to listen to what we 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:00.719 talk about and just be like, oh, you know, so 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:02.679 I said, you can't listen to the episode I got 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.160 to put mcquarie. I can't stop thinking about him. I 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:05.840 don't know why. 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:06.800 It's weird. 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.319 And then I say to him, look, I've decided you 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.640 can listen to an episode of the podcast. He's like, great, 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.880 which one? And like, so I dated a sociopath? 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:15.400 That was it. 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:19.360 I was like, I feel like it's just going to 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:22.920 explain a lot about me without me having to tell you. 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:25.079 I can't believe that was the episode you got him 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:25.560 to listen to. 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:27.200 Yeah, that was it, because I just feel like it 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.080 explains a lot about me, because I'm a bit like, 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:31.640 I get a bit flighty, and I'm a runner. And 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:33.800 I said that to him. I said, look, historically, I run, 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.960 like I I want you to know that, and I 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.160 want you to know why. And I didn't want to 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:38.959 have the awkward conversation and I didn't want the questions. 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:40.200 I just wanted him to listen. And he's like, when 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:41.840 should I listen? And I said, why don't you listen? 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.400 On the way here, He's like to paut and I 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:46.840 said yes. And then I was like, I threw my 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:49.200 phone just for two days after Christmas. We had just 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:51.480 had Christmas. It was in that Chris between Christmas and 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.560 New Year's period. Yeah, that weird time frame work. No 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.520 one knows what day when he didn't have had my family. 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:57.440 I hadn't even told my family. I had a separate 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:59.800 house I was staying at, so he did not have 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:03.200 I said, and I've seen this guy twice now, and 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:04.880 I said, come to Port he's like, I'll leave in 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.240 an hour. He literally packed his bag, drove to put 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.760 McCrory and we just had these couple of amazing days 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.880 together and that was it. We have not unless he 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:14.880 was away playing, we have not had one day apart. 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:17.560 He moved into my house in Bondie within as soon 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:18.120 as he got back. 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.280 We just moved in. I'm really happy for you, but 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:23.000 this is not necessarily like the precedent that you should 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.199 set for all your relationships. It's okay to take things 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.640 slow people, and that's something that we have been advocating 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:29.800 for for the past two years. And then here's Brittany. 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:31.960 So we're getting married next week and when you know, 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:35.520 you know no. So I will wrap this up because 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.320 we'll talk about it more in other episodes. But I 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:38.880 do want to say when I say he moved in, 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:41.640 I mean unofficially, he just stays with me every night. 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.000 And the reason that is that's not a normal thing 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:46.440 that I would ever do. As we know. 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:50.199 But I know that he's going overseas very very soon, unfortunately, 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:51.480 and he'll be gone for the rest of the year, 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:53.480 so I don't see him. So we've always known that 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:56.280 we had like a four month period together and then 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:57.960 that was it. So in our head, we were like, 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.199 this isn't going to be a normal ticket, slow to 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:02.040 know each other, see each other once a week. This 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:04.280 is We've got four months to see if this is 0:13:04.320 --> 0:13:06.079 a thing, and then we don't see each other for 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:06.679 the rest of the year. 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.199 So that was why I was. 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:10.280 Like, you know what, fuck it, Let's just hang out 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:11.640 as much as we can, get to know each other 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:13.880 as much as we can, and then we decide if 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:15.120 we're going to do a long distance thing. 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.679 So if anyone who doesn't understand why Jordan is going 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.960 overseas for the next x amount of time, it's because 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.319 he is going on tour to play tennis. So he's 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.280 going to be in the States and in Europe and 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:25.840 he's going to be playing all over the place. So 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:27.720 Britt and Jordan are going to have to do this 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:31.800 extended time away from each other, which, you know what, 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:35.120 there's going to be challenges in that of itself, but 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.800 also it means we can do a podcast episode on 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:40.760 long distance. You guys have been asking for a long 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.320 distance dating podcast, and it's been a long time since 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:45.280 I've done long distance dating. So we're going to have 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:47.160 it from the horse's mouth. Absolutely. 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.400 But again, I could talk about this for hours, So 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.760 let's just wrap my little segment up and I'll end 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.240 it with we are doing long distance because I am 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.240 head over heels in love and he's head over heels 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:59.320 in love. And guess who said the L word first? 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.960 He did? You did? You can't say both us on guests. 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:07.080 Don't you know how the game works, Laura, you said it. 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:09.280 I wrote it down in a message to a friend, 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.400 and then later without him knowing, and later that day 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:12.080 that's another story. 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.280 He told me he loved me first. This is I 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.320 was cute. I was never gonna say it. This is 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:19.720 so cute that I feel sick. I know you vomitated disgusting. 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.040 All right, enough about me, let's talk about other huge 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:24.120 things going on in the world. 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:26.320 Well, this episode, we are I mean, like part of 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:27.840 this episode is that we are just kind of going 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:29.560 to have a good catch up guys, because it's been 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:31.560 a while since we were able to sit here and 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:35.720 debrief and get back to basics. But before we talk 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.560 about what this episode like, the main part of this episode, 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.960 which is going to be I guess my birth story, 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:42.800 which kind of is weird, but I'm going to tell 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.880 I'm going to tell you all the nitty gritty details 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:48.400 around Laola being born. I'm entering the world. I don't 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:50.560 think that's weird at all. I think it's really pervy. 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:52.760 There are people out there who are really into other 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:54.680 people's birth stories, and then there's going to be some 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.720 people who are like, I don't want to know about this. 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.120 Oh, I think it's interesting, especially like people like me 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:00.760 or people that haven't had children. 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:02.840 We don't know what happens. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.520 We don't know how it feels, we don't know, we 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:07.960 don't know anything, so it's we I personally am really interested. 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:09.760 I've already quizzed you, but we put it out to 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:11.880 you guys, and you guys had some really great questions. 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.040 Yeah, and I guess you're right, Like I mean, I 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:18.240 from having two children myself, I have learnt so much 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.280 about what it is to actually give birth and the 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.360 whole process, and I think that until you go through 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:27.280 it yourself, there is so little that we actually talk about. 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.560 So I'm not going to keep anything secret, no sugar 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.360 coating and whatever Brittany asked me, I will answer a 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.440 lot of these questions came from you guys directly, so 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:39.280 you only have yourself to blame for asking such disgusting questions. 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:40.280 You'll have issues. 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:43.960 But before we get into that, guys, we have a 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:44.720 new bachelor. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:48.680 We do. We have a new bachelor and. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.960 Normal, and he's hot, any smart, and he looks great. 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.240 He's got a really cute smile and I have one 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:59.560 hundred match with him on Tinder before and it actually 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:05.960 because it's funny, because I have to fuck off. Okay, okay, 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:07.920 So this guy who is our new bachelor, his name 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:11.320 is Jimmy Nicholson. He's thirty one. He's from Sydney. He 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:14.000 is a normy norm which means that he is not 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:17.680 from any ex reality TV show. He is a pilot 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:19.880 and because of COVID, he has a lot of downtime, 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:21.680 which is why he was able to take on the 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:24.680 role of being the bachelor. And he's our very first 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.680 bachelor who is not your standard attractive white man. He 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:31.440 is of Fijian and New Zealander descent, and I think 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:34.280 it is an excellent choice for bachelor. Here is someone fresh, 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.360 and he is someone new, and it has been a 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.800 very long time since I have online dated. But as 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:43.320 soon as I saw his picture on Pedestrian. I was like, oh, 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:45.880 I've definitely matched with that guy on Tinder. I don't 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:48.320 think we spoke. Oh maybe we did speak, but we 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.760 definitely didn't meet up or anything like that. But I 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:54.000 hand on heart one hundred percent seen him before and 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:55.840 it's got to be Tinder. And then I googled where 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.080 he was from, and he's from Sydney, and I was like, well, 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:00.280 that's not surprising. I've matched with every single sing man 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.560 in Sydney at some point in time, so gone through 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.399 the list, here we go, and now you have as well. No, 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.760 I'm actually him not that long ago, Like I matched 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.880 with him Daily Mail, Eat your heart out. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.320 Yeah it wasn't Tinda. It was like bumble. I think 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.439 we matched at the end. We matched twice at the 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:19.680 end of last year. Like obviously, before I met Jordan, 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.640 he was really really nice, really great. 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:23.480 We had really good chat. 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:25.200 We're going to meet up, and then I went to 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.880 put McCrory I went away somewhere and then I just 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:30.160 sort of just like put it on the back burner. 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:30.560 Didn't meet up. 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:34.600 Then he recame back into the messages to meet up 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:37.600 again the second time, and I had just started to 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:39.320 go on at like one or two dates with someone else, 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.360 so I didn't want to go and start dating him 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:42.960 at the same time, so I sort of canned it. 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:45.240 But I never actually met up with him. 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:47.720 But guys, he could have not been the bachelot. Maybe 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:48.880 I could have met up with him and we would 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:50.679 have fallen in love and that wouldn't have happened. I 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:52.320 have a little bit more information. I don't know if 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:54.800 you saw this in the media recently, but it turns 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:58.040 out he's also dated Bella who was on Lucky Season 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:02.000 multiple times. I say that this man, who is our 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:05.479 Australia's number one bachelor, he's churned and burned the online 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:08.320 dating ladies. He is not afraid of it. And I'm 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:09.920 gonna say that there's probably a lot of women in 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:11.560 Sydney who are going to listen to this podcast and 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:14.160 go I also matched with him. Send us it, send 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:15.960 us your details. I want to know. I want to 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.040 I want the nitty gritty on this bachelor. I wanted 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:19.639 to all come out on that fun cut before it 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:20.600 comes out in the Daily Mail. 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:26.800 Well, someone or he has written into us, and I 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.959 didn't know if I wanted to say she hooked up 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:34.159 with him. She shouted and went to his house and 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:37.240 they banked. When she left the next day, she realized 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:39.040 she forgot a bra and she messaged him to get 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:40.080 it back and he just didn't write back. 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:49.120 God. Okay, So something else I wanted to talk about 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:51.560 before we got into birth story nitty gritty details is 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:54.200 I want to talk about maths. Just really top line, 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:57.160 I don't want to go into all of the characters. 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.440 I don't want to go into all the relationship I mean, 0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:03.000 they almost are they almost are character. I don't want 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:04.680 to go into all the relationships with all the people 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:07.679 that have been cast. I think that every year it 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:11.119 seems to be getting more and more controversial, and the 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.200 people who were on the show seemed to be more 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:16.600 poorly matched in order to create the biggest drama possible. 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:19.320 It's like they're not even trying, like they're trying not 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:22.120 to match them. Oh, they are purposely choosing people who 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:25.960 have deep seated insecurities and then choosing the exact thing 0:19:26.000 --> 0:19:29.000 that would inflame those insecurities and matching them together and 0:19:29.080 --> 0:19:33.440 watching the absolute dumpster fire. It's breaking people for our entertainment. 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:34.720 And now, guess one of the things that I have 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:36.919 seen come up. I had this thought the other day 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:39.040 when I was watching one of the episodes and Sam 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:42.360 had said something which was absolutely brutal about how he'd 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:44.680 broken up with his ex girlfriend because he wanted someone 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:47.399 who had bigger boobs, and he was being very blunt 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:50.520 about his desires and what he likes in a woman. 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:53.520 And one of the things Coco said she had to 0:19:53.520 --> 0:19:55.960 say something that she liked about Sam, and obviously like 0:19:56.040 --> 0:19:57.720 she didn't like any of those things that he said, 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:00.760 How could you possibly it was so incredibly misogynous, But 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:04.640 she said, I like that he's really honest, and that 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:07.200 hit me so hard, and I just wanted to quickly 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:08.879 sit on that because I know I've done this in 0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:12.880 past relationships, and it really resonated with me. I think 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:15.200 we do it more as women than men. But when 0:20:15.280 --> 0:20:20.240 men are mean, like actually saying mean things, we often 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:22.840 try and justify that by saying, oh, but at least 0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:25.320 they're really honest, and we try and kind of like 0:20:25.440 --> 0:20:29.000 redeem that characteristic by saying, oh, but it comes from honesty. No, 0:20:29.119 --> 0:20:31.960 it doesn't come from honesty. That's a really shit person. 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:33.919 It's a shit thing to say. All it does is 0:20:33.960 --> 0:20:36.800 inflame your insecurity. So if somebody in your life is 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:39.680 being so honest to you that actually what they're telling 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:43.320 you is mean, that's not a characteristic that she'ld be rewarded. 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:45.480 It's not a characteristic that you should go. Oh, you know, 0:20:45.640 --> 0:20:47.520 like at least I know where I stand with that person. 0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:49.960 That could be them using that as a way to 0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:51.639 gaslight you. It could be them using that as a 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:53.600 way to manipulate you. It could be them using that 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:56.119 as a way to make you feel completely insecure. And 0:20:56.160 --> 0:20:58.040 I think we can call that for what it is. Well, 0:20:58.040 --> 0:20:59.800 I think it's a copy mechanism, isn't it. 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:02.560 Someone just just say someone breaks you and they've just 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:05.320 told you all these horrible things about you as a human. 0:21:05.960 --> 0:21:07.720 We want to take something from that, We want to 0:21:07.760 --> 0:21:09.960 make something positive. So we walk away and we're like, well, 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:11.119 I guess he was honest. 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:13.160 And I think I was really triggered by this because 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:16.399 in my first long term relationship, who I got with 0:21:16.440 --> 0:21:18.480 when I was in my early twenties twenty and I 0:21:18.520 --> 0:21:21.600 was with until I was twenty six, he was really 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:26.240 brutally honest, putting honest in quotation marks. And the more 0:21:26.280 --> 0:21:28.479 that I think about it now, that relationship in my 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:31.159 mid thirties, and I reflect on it. He wasn't honest. 0:21:31.400 --> 0:21:33.840 He was just very mean to me. He would put 0:21:33.840 --> 0:21:35.960 me down. He would tell me that I was too loud, 0:21:35.960 --> 0:21:37.480 I was to this, I was too that I was 0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:40.240 too much for whatever he wanted me to be. And 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:43.600 so I would try and try and mold my personality, 0:21:43.640 --> 0:21:45.760 shape who I was to better fit this person that 0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:48.440 he wanted to be with. And I justified that as 0:21:48.480 --> 0:21:51.040 being like, well, he's being honest. And he said to 0:21:51.040 --> 0:21:53.400 me after six years of us being together that he 0:21:53.880 --> 0:21:56.159 couldn't see a long term relationship with me and couldn't 0:21:56.200 --> 0:21:58.560 see us getting married. And you know, I mean, I've 0:21:58.600 --> 0:22:00.760 talked about this before. I took that as a personal challenge. 0:22:00.800 --> 0:22:02.160 I was like, I'm going to change this guy's mind. 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:05.280 We're saying whatever, low on the hole that didn't work 0:22:05.320 --> 0:22:10.800 out people. But I really justified his bluntness as being honest. 0:22:10.880 --> 0:22:12.800 I think that if you're doing that in a relationship, 0:22:12.840 --> 0:22:15.040 be very aware of it, because there's a huge difference 0:22:15.080 --> 0:22:18.159 between honesty in a relationship that allows for growth and 0:22:18.280 --> 0:22:22.080 allows for like open channels of communication and honesty that's 0:22:22.080 --> 0:22:24.200 to the point of just a put down and being mean. 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:25.520 I look back. 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:27.000 And I have been in that position too, where I 0:22:27.000 --> 0:22:29.240 have said, oh, you know, okay, he's just been honest. 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:30.000 I'll accept that. 0:22:30.359 --> 0:22:32.920 The reason I have done that is because it's better 0:22:32.960 --> 0:22:36.280 than the opposite, which is the constant lies. And I 0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:38.159 had been lying to and cheat on that many times 0:22:38.200 --> 0:22:40.920 that the alternative for me was someone being brutally honest. 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:42.720 I was like, okay, I'll take that. I'll take that 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:44.639 over the secrecy and the hiding. 0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:46.680 Yeah. But I guess that's the thing, right, Like that's 0:22:46.720 --> 0:22:49.160 the pinch point, is like, yeah, you shouldn't be accepting 0:22:49.200 --> 0:22:51.399 somebody who cheats on you and lies to you, but 0:22:51.440 --> 0:22:53.720 you're sure a shit shouldn't be accepting someone who's so 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:56.040 honest that they're fucking mean and hurt your feelings. Like 0:22:56.160 --> 0:22:58.080 that's a narrative that we need to change as well. 0:22:58.160 --> 0:23:00.199 I mean, if you haven't seen the Maths episode, then 0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:03.399 you probably don't know exactly what we're referring to. Don't 0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:05.399 go back and watch it. I'm not recommending of that, 0:23:05.520 --> 0:23:07.720 but I think for everybody who has seen it, there's 0:23:07.760 --> 0:23:10.680 a lot about this season that is very questionable. They 0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:13.119 do it on every season. We know that they purposely 0:23:13.200 --> 0:23:16.000 choose mismatched couples to create the most amount of drama. 0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:18.639 We know that we know that this whole idea that 0:23:18.680 --> 0:23:21.600 the experts actually choose the couples based on what they 0:23:21.640 --> 0:23:23.360 think is going to bring out the best in each 0:23:23.359 --> 0:23:25.040 other is a load of horseshit. 0:23:25.119 --> 0:23:27.679 I also think the term experts is questionable. 0:23:28.040 --> 0:23:30.399 Well, that was something else I wanted to flag on 0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:32.520 this episode, and that is, as we all know, we 0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:35.000 have a new relationship expert in the house on mass 0:23:35.000 --> 0:23:37.680 and that is Alessandra Rampola, and she has actually come 0:23:37.720 --> 0:23:41.359 in and she's replaced to doctor Tricia Statford. I guess 0:23:41.400 --> 0:23:43.880 the thing is is like, as the episodes and seasons 0:23:43.920 --> 0:23:46.960 have kind of progressed and things have become so much 0:23:47.000 --> 0:23:51.160 more glaringly obvious that the experts aren't there to actually 0:23:51.520 --> 0:23:54.439 match people and create successful relationships. They're there to kind 0:23:54.440 --> 0:23:58.000 of mediate the drama and to kind of suck out 0:23:58.040 --> 0:24:00.840 people's insecurities to talk about it so that they can 0:24:00.880 --> 0:24:03.400 hash it out on the couch. Doctor Tricia Stratford walked 0:24:03.400 --> 0:24:06.280 away after seven seasons, and when she first walked away, 0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:08.719 it was very amicable. She said that she wanted to 0:24:08.840 --> 0:24:12.520 spend her time focusing on other areas of interest. For her, 0:24:12.560 --> 0:24:15.880 that was her neuropsychology because she is actually a doctor. 0:24:16.280 --> 0:24:18.960 She also wanted to focus on her writing, and you know, 0:24:19.080 --> 0:24:21.200 she's given seven great years to marry at first sight, 0:24:21.240 --> 0:24:23.760 but she wanted to move on to other things. Since then, 0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:25.560 she's come out and said that the dinner parties on 0:24:25.640 --> 0:24:28.359 Maths have left her feeling sick to the stomach and 0:24:28.400 --> 0:24:30.280 that by the end of her time on Maths, she 0:24:30.280 --> 0:24:34.000 couldn't compromise her professional and personal standards because there were 0:24:34.000 --> 0:24:36.600 participants on the show who she felt shouldn't have been there. 0:24:36.960 --> 0:24:39.040 And then this is also a quote from her, she said, 0:24:39.320 --> 0:24:42.199 if someone gets through the critical selection process when we 0:24:42.359 --> 0:24:44.320 have said that we don't want them on the show 0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:46.560 because they're too fragile, that they're not going to do 0:24:46.640 --> 0:24:49.360 well on the show, and then they're still on there. Anyway, 0:24:49.560 --> 0:24:52.000 it goes to show what everybody has suspected and what 0:24:52.040 --> 0:24:56.080 everybody has argued for so long, is that through seven seasons, 0:24:56.160 --> 0:24:58.959 there is only three successful couples that have come out 0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:01.360 of Maths. And I think think to be an expert 0:25:01.400 --> 0:25:04.160 on that show, especially somebody who is a doctor who 0:25:04.160 --> 0:25:08.119 has dedicated their life to studying and has real credentials. 0:25:08.560 --> 0:25:12.240 It's almost unconscionable and unethical to sit on a board 0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:14.960 of that show and say, yes, we're doing this because 0:25:14.960 --> 0:25:17.240 we think it's a great social experiment where we're hoping 0:25:17.280 --> 0:25:19.520 that these couples will bring up the best in each other, 0:25:19.560 --> 0:25:22.560 where we're encouraging them to work through their problems. Because 0:25:22.640 --> 0:25:25.639 quite frankly, if you met a guy in real life 0:25:26.080 --> 0:25:28.160 and they treated you the way that some of these 0:25:28.240 --> 0:25:31.679 men have treated the women within the first or second episode, 0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:34.280 you would get up and walk the f away. First day, 0:25:34.440 --> 0:25:36.480 first day, you would like or like on the honeymoon, 0:25:36.480 --> 0:25:38.280 you would leave. And we would say to our friends, 0:25:38.320 --> 0:25:40.280 we would say to anybody that we cared about, if 0:25:40.280 --> 0:25:42.400 a man or woman treated you like that, you would 0:25:42.400 --> 0:25:42.800 walk out. 0:25:42.920 --> 0:25:45.240 Imagine I had gone on a date with a guy 0:25:45.760 --> 0:25:48.800 and on the date he ranked me out of his 0:25:48.920 --> 0:25:50.760 dates for the last two weeks, and he ranked me 0:25:50.800 --> 0:25:53.440 as like the fourth best hottest date. And I came 0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:53.960 and told you. 0:25:53.920 --> 0:25:57.000 That, As if you would say to me, give him a. 0:25:56.960 --> 0:25:58.720 Go, though maybe it could work your way up to 0:25:58.840 --> 0:26:02.240 number one, wouldn't never happen. As if I would even 0:26:02.240 --> 0:26:03.960 finish the meal, I'd probably like take both of his 0:26:04.080 --> 0:26:05.160 in a doggy bag and runt. 0:26:05.200 --> 0:26:07.199 You guys know that I'm still kind of sick for it. 0:26:07.240 --> 0:26:09.320 I'm not hating on it completely. You're still gonna watch it. 0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:11.960 I'm still gonna watch it. It's hugely entertaining, and I think 0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:14.000 that the reason why I'm going to continue to watch it, 0:26:14.040 --> 0:26:16.119 and one of the reasons why I do enjoy the 0:26:16.160 --> 0:26:19.399 show is not because I expect that any couples are 0:26:19.440 --> 0:26:21.159 going to come out of it successful, and it's not 0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:23.240 that I expect that anyone's mental health is going to 0:26:23.280 --> 0:26:24.760 come out of it better than when they went in. 0:26:25.000 --> 0:26:27.840 It's because I do think that the show creates some 0:26:27.920 --> 0:26:31.280 really interesting conversations around relationships. I think it really puts 0:26:31.320 --> 0:26:34.320 a spotlight on bad behavior, and like, there's so many 0:26:34.359 --> 0:26:36.720 things that we have spoken about off the back of 0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:41.120 that show, things like gas larding, things like narcissistic personality disorder, 0:26:41.400 --> 0:26:43.760 things like you know, this whole idea of being honest 0:26:43.800 --> 0:26:46.920 and how that's used as a cloak of forgiveness for 0:26:47.000 --> 0:26:48.200 someone's bad behavior. 0:26:48.520 --> 0:26:50.080 We do want to make a point too, We've seen 0:26:50.160 --> 0:26:52.359 it's not just the males. We've seen the females gaslining 0:26:52.400 --> 0:26:53.320 the men as well, like. 0:26:53.280 --> 0:26:55.919 It's this is sick both ways. Now it's time for 0:26:55.960 --> 0:26:58.800 the part your favorite part of every episode, which is 0:26:59.560 --> 0:27:03.399 accident filtered. That was my favorite part. That was so 0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:08.000 overly enthusiastic. It's fine, I'm here for it. I'm gonna 0:27:08.000 --> 0:27:10.520 go first. Okay, So a few years ago, I went 0:27:10.560 --> 0:27:13.000 on this two week cruise with some friends. It was amazing. 0:27:13.040 --> 0:27:15.920 We were having the best time, and then this one 0:27:16.000 --> 0:27:18.560 night I started getting on with this really cute guy. 0:27:18.680 --> 0:27:23.520 We took it back to my room. I've missed this, 0:27:23.840 --> 0:27:25.240 That's what I've missed this. 0:27:25.600 --> 0:27:27.359 We took it back to my room, and it started 0:27:27.400 --> 0:27:29.159 to get pretty hot and heavy, if you know what 0:27:29.160 --> 0:27:29.480 I mean. 0:27:30.000 --> 0:27:30.960 I think they were having sex. 0:27:31.480 --> 0:27:33.560 At one point, I really needed to pee, so I 0:27:33.560 --> 0:27:35.879 got up and I went to the bathroom just to 0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:36.919 do a quick little WHI. 0:27:37.440 --> 0:27:39.680 When I came back, we continued to get it on, 0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:42.240 but I noticed that the fitted sheet on the bed 0:27:42.359 --> 0:27:42.879 was missing. 0:27:43.320 --> 0:27:46.440 I was so confused, and I just casually asked, Oh, 0:27:46.480 --> 0:27:49.679 where did the sheet go? He responded, Oh, I don't know. 0:27:50.280 --> 0:27:51.760 I didn't really think much of it, as I thought 0:27:51.800 --> 0:27:53.879 we had just kicked it off. During the sex. He 0:27:53.960 --> 0:27:55.800 ended up leaving the room by the end of the night. 0:27:56.200 --> 0:27:58.080 When we all woke up in the morning, one of 0:27:58.080 --> 0:28:00.680 my friends started cleaning up around the room. He noticed 0:28:00.720 --> 0:28:03.639 something shoved underneath the table. He pulled it out and 0:28:03.720 --> 0:28:07.000 legitimately shouted, what the actual, Oh my god, did you 0:28:07.080 --> 0:28:10.280 shit yourself? I turned around and he was holding up 0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:13.240 the fitted sheet from the bed and there was legitimately 0:28:13.280 --> 0:28:14.320 a huge shit on it. 0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:15.560 I burst out laughing. 0:28:15.760 --> 0:28:17.720 I was so confused as to what happened until I 0:28:17.720 --> 0:28:20.760 remember this guy obviously did a shit in the sheet. 0:28:20.800 --> 0:28:23.600 When I went to do my two minute WII. I 0:28:23.720 --> 0:28:26.080 explained to my friends what had happened, but they do 0:28:26.160 --> 0:28:27.840 not believe me, and they still to this day think 0:28:27.840 --> 0:28:28.640 I shipped the bed. 0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:32.400 I am so confused by this. What guy is taking 0:28:32.400 --> 0:28:35.440 a dump in bed in the time it took her 0:28:35.480 --> 0:28:37.919 to go and do a two minute WHII? That's actually 0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:39.760 you know what poose take a while. There's a lot 0:28:39.760 --> 0:28:43.040 of energy and effort that has to go im yourself comfortable. 0:28:43.200 --> 0:28:43.960 So she's fucked. 0:28:44.200 --> 0:28:45.880 She's gone to do it. She's like, excuse me, I'm 0:28:45.880 --> 0:28:49.480 doing a WII. He's what cross his mind to be 0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:51.240 like this? Is the perfect time to do my shit. 0:28:51.360 --> 0:28:53.640 I will take the sheet off, shit to the sheet, 0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:56.800 wrap it up and hide it under the table and 0:28:56.840 --> 0:28:59.080 think that she won't. But also I think, what he's funny, 0:28:59.120 --> 0:29:01.600 is this my picture? She comes back from the bathroom. 0:29:01.600 --> 0:29:03.080 There's only two of them in the room. She's been 0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:04.800 gone for two minutes. She's like, where's the sheet. 0:29:04.800 --> 0:29:06.920 He's like, well, I don't know, Like what could have 0:29:06.960 --> 0:29:09.720 happened to the sheet that you don't know? Not two minutes? Okay, 0:29:09.760 --> 0:29:12.200 they must have been drinking. Firstly, because that's why you're like, oh, 0:29:12.240 --> 0:29:14.760 maybe the sheet wasn't there. Maybe maybe we pulled it off. 0:29:14.800 --> 0:29:18.400 I don't know. But secondly, my question is was it 0:29:18.440 --> 0:29:21.720 a solid log, Like what was the consistency because maybe 0:29:21.880 --> 0:29:24.520 he had just done a fart and it accidentally came through. 0:29:24.640 --> 0:29:26.400 No, she said there were marks down there, like puh 0:29:26.400 --> 0:29:28.320 marks if he's wipe his butt with it as well, 0:29:28.400 --> 0:29:30.160 he's done a pooh, he's wiped the. 0:29:30.120 --> 0:29:33.600 Butt because because this is the other gross thing. She 0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:35.560 came back and they said they continued to get it on, 0:29:35.720 --> 0:29:38.440 so he shut wiped the butt, hit it and then 0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:40.320 continued to get it on with it. He has done 0:29:40.360 --> 0:29:42.480 this to absolutely f with her, like that's the only 0:29:42.560 --> 0:29:44.760 reason he has done it to be like like this 0:29:44.880 --> 0:29:47.320 is like his sick fetish and he does this and 0:29:47.360 --> 0:29:49.120 then disappears. He'd only do it on a one night 0:29:49.160 --> 0:29:51.080 stand when he's never gonna see the person again. So bro, 0:29:51.120 --> 0:29:52.720 you're on a cruise. Shit, you're gonna see them the 0:29:52.760 --> 0:29:53.200 next day. 0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:57.520 Wow, unless he got like the alcohol poos, you know 0:29:57.520 --> 0:29:59.040 how sometimes you just really need to go. What if 0:29:59.080 --> 0:30:01.120 it hit him in that moment. I'm giving the guy a. 0:30:01.080 --> 0:30:01.720 Benefit of doubt. 0:30:01.760 --> 0:30:03.080 What if it hit him in that moment when she 0:30:03.120 --> 0:30:05.280 was on the whilet and he just had nothing to do? 0:30:05.440 --> 0:30:07.360 Like what that's what I if if that happened to me. 0:30:07.680 --> 0:30:08.800 The sheet's the perfect thing. 0:30:09.120 --> 0:30:11.080 If that happened to me, I'd take it dump in 0:30:11.160 --> 0:30:12.480 the So like. 0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:14.520 If you had to if you're a room and you 0:30:14.560 --> 0:30:16.520 had to do it done really quickly, like I'm talking 0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:18.280 you had seconds, what would you grab to do it? 0:30:18.280 --> 0:30:20.680 In a pillow case? Would be better than the sheets? 0:30:20.760 --> 0:30:24.720 Good call? Like tie it up? Well that one time 0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:26.280 I took a dumb through my pillow and hurl it 0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:28.600 out the window into the ocean. Why did you live 0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:30.440 in the room? Put it in the ocean. Also that 0:30:30.640 --> 0:30:31.080 I don't. 0:30:30.880 --> 0:30:32.440 Want to litter guys, but like, that's what I would 0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:33.680 do if I was in that awkward situation. 0:30:33.800 --> 0:30:36.600 Now, my other question is she must have been drunk, 0:30:36.640 --> 0:30:39.520 because could you imagine how smelly that sheet would have 0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:41.520 been folded up and put under the bed. Like if 0:30:41.520 --> 0:30:43.840 you were deeming turd in the corner of your cabins, 0:30:43.880 --> 0:30:45.920 those aren't big cabins, well, you'd be getting it on 0:30:46.040 --> 0:30:48.480 and you'd be like, what is this ambient waft of 0:30:48.560 --> 0:30:51.040 turd that keeps coming through here? That's obviously why he 0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:53.520 did a runner too. Wow. I love that. I love 0:30:53.560 --> 0:30:53.960 the story. 0:30:54.000 --> 0:30:55.640 It's funny, but also I love the fact that, like 0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:57.600 there's no escape, she's going to seem somewhere on the 0:30:57.640 --> 0:30:58.520 cruise the next day. 0:30:58.720 --> 0:31:00.640 I hate sometimes we get these stories that come in 0:31:00.680 --> 0:31:04.120 and I'm like, they're just vastly unbelievable, but I'm also 0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:05.959 here for it, and I remember some of the fed 0:31:06.000 --> 0:31:08.920 up ship that's happened in my life, and then I'm like, oh, well, 0:31:09.080 --> 0:31:10.760 maybe that did happen to that person, and it makes 0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:12.840 me feel a little bit better about myself. Do you 0:31:13.040 --> 0:31:15.120 have one? I do have one, And the reason why 0:31:15.200 --> 0:31:18.080 this is so funny. Actually, maybe i'll read out the 0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:19.520 story to you and then I'll tell you why I 0:31:19.520 --> 0:31:22.320 think this is so funny. All right, here it is. 0:31:22.960 --> 0:31:25.200 I started dating this guy and one day he asked 0:31:25.200 --> 0:31:27.440 me over. At the time, he was flatting with his 0:31:27.560 --> 0:31:30.120 older sister and she had gone out with her partner 0:31:30.160 --> 0:31:32.400 for the afternoon. I hadn't met it yet, and the 0:31:32.440 --> 0:31:34.160 plan was that we were going to have a barbecue 0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:36.640 together in the evening. Things got a little bit steamy 0:31:36.680 --> 0:31:38.360 as no one was home yet, and we made a 0:31:38.440 --> 0:31:40.440 dash to the bedroom to get down and dirty. So 0:31:40.560 --> 0:31:42.920 he puts on a condom, grabs a bottle of lube 0:31:43.160 --> 0:31:45.600 to get the situation a little bit slippery, and off 0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:49.400 we went. About five seconds in, I knew that something 0:31:49.480 --> 0:31:54.479 wasn't right. I know what this is. All of a sudden, 0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:57.000 my lady bits were on fire. I gasped, and I 0:31:57.040 --> 0:31:59.720 pushed him off me. I was panicking and could hardly 0:31:59.720 --> 0:32:02.640 speak because the pain was so bad. What the hell 0:32:02.800 --> 0:32:07.240 did you fucking use? He innocently held up a bottle 0:32:07.280 --> 0:32:10.360 of shampoo. I didn't have any loubs, so I thought 0:32:10.360 --> 0:32:12.760 this would be okay, hardly knowing the layout of the house. 0:32:12.800 --> 0:32:15.000 I flew out of the bedroom completely naked. The pain 0:32:15.080 --> 0:32:17.200 was so bad I jumped in the freezing cold shower, 0:32:17.480 --> 0:32:19.480 threw my legs up in the air, and positioned myself 0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:21.479 under the stream of water, trying to stop the burning. 0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:24.320 After thirty minutes, I tried to get out, but the 0:32:24.360 --> 0:32:27.080 pain started again. He finally came in to check on 0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:31.520 me and asks, H, So, my sister's home and she's 0:32:31.520 --> 0:32:34.040 getting kind of angry because you're using all the shower water. 0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:36.840 I have ever met the sister yet. Once I softly 0:32:36.920 --> 0:32:39.800 rinsed myself off and contained the fire between my legs, 0:32:39.920 --> 0:32:42.280 I sheepishly made my way out like a drowned rat. 0:32:42.320 --> 0:32:44.680 The barbecue was on, and by the looks on everyone's faces, 0:32:44.680 --> 0:32:47.200 my situation had been made in use. I took it 0:32:47.240 --> 0:32:49.840 on the chin and we've been together for six more years. Okay, 0:32:51.080 --> 0:32:53.360 have you ever been in a situation where someone's used 0:32:53.360 --> 0:32:54.480 something other than lubricant? 0:32:54.680 --> 0:32:57.080 I was trying to think this. I absolutely have not, 0:32:57.320 --> 0:33:01.920 But my sister has I fucking out her on the podcast. 0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:04.480 I was gonna say, everyone knows, Sherry, what have they used? 0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:05.680 We are going to get a Sherry on to do 0:33:05.680 --> 0:33:06.240 an episode. 0:33:06.360 --> 0:33:08.760 She can tell her own story. Then Sherry's like, so 0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:11.080 it turns out peanut butter is not a very good lubricant, 0:33:11.320 --> 0:33:13.800 especially when you have analogy, but it is good for 0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:17.000 car bloating. Okay. No. So I started reading this accidentally 0:33:17.120 --> 0:33:19.440 unfiltered out to Matt and I was like, is this funny? 0:33:19.440 --> 0:33:21.360 And I was having good chuckle to it. I got 0:33:21.400 --> 0:33:23.280 to the point where I was like, my lady bits 0:33:23.280 --> 0:33:26.600 are on fire. And Matt goes, oh, did he use shampoo? Oh? 0:33:26.640 --> 0:33:28.200 So this is a thing, And I was like, I 0:33:28.240 --> 0:33:31.280 am sorry, how did you know that? How did you 0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:33.880 know that the answer to this accidentally unfiltered with shampoo? 0:33:33.880 --> 0:33:36.760 And he goes, oh, I've done it before. He's like, 0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:39.160 that was me to a girl in the shower. So 0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:41.960 it turns out that it's mad my partner has had 0:33:42.000 --> 0:33:44.320 sex with another woman. I mean, firstly, that's one thing 0:33:44.360 --> 0:33:46.640 I've got to overcome. And then we know that with 0:33:46.720 --> 0:33:49.280 another woman in a shower and he's dumped half a 0:33:49.280 --> 0:33:51.960 bottle of shampoo up a vagina and apparently it's not 0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:54.240 the thing to use for lup. Why do men think 0:33:54.280 --> 0:33:55.280 that this is okay? 0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:58.000 How do they think that that is not going to 0:33:58.000 --> 0:33:59.840 be a problem for the woman's vagina. 0:34:00.120 --> 0:34:03.760 I would prefer a man used conditioner than you shampoo. 0:34:03.800 --> 0:34:04.640 I don't think you should be. 0:34:04.560 --> 0:34:08.080 Putting anything anything at all, not even like the only 0:34:08.080 --> 0:34:11.240 thing I would probably use coconut. That's what's gonna say. 0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:13.400 That's actually the funny thing with my sister's story, but 0:34:13.440 --> 0:34:13.920 I'm not gonna know. 0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:18.360 I want to tell you so bad. Al Right, guys, 0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:21.000 I think that's another episode. I think we've told enough 0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:22.520 for what I do want to say, though, enough. 0:34:22.600 --> 0:34:25.319 If you guys are listening to this and you know 0:34:25.480 --> 0:34:27.680 that your partner or someone has used something that they 0:34:27.719 --> 0:34:30.040 really shouldn't use for lube, we want to know about. 0:34:29.800 --> 0:34:31.120 It because I want to read it out next week. 0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:33.279 I want to know the weirdest, most wonderful things you 0:34:33.280 --> 0:34:34.600 guys have tried to use. 0:34:34.480 --> 0:34:35.839 To get it on. I'm here for it. 0:34:37.360 --> 0:34:39.680 Okay, guys, we have done a lot of talking. We 0:34:39.800 --> 0:34:41.640 have covered a lot this morning. 0:34:41.360 --> 0:34:43.000 But there is one thing that I've been dying to 0:34:43.080 --> 0:34:45.000 chat about, and I know you have all been dying 0:34:45.040 --> 0:34:46.919 to chat about, and that is the fact that we've 0:34:46.920 --> 0:34:48.920 been on break for five weeks and we had a 0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:49.520 good reason. 0:34:49.920 --> 0:34:53.560 That is because Superwoman over here had a baby. She 0:34:53.680 --> 0:34:56.240 pushed a baby out of a vagina, a very. 0:34:56.080 --> 0:34:58.040 Big baby with a very big head, but a very 0:34:58.200 --> 0:35:01.480 very cute baby. I've also already lactated all down the 0:35:01.520 --> 0:35:03.919 front of myself whilst we've been recording this episode. Okay, 0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:07.120 I didn't want to say a full on wet patch 0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:08.880 on one side of my shirt. 0:35:08.920 --> 0:35:10.279 I didn't want to say anything, but I was looking 0:35:10.320 --> 0:35:11.960 at you before and I could see the patch because 0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:13.680 I knew that Lola was almost due for feed and 0:35:13.719 --> 0:35:15.040 I was like, do you know what, I'm not going 0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:16.480 to rub this in a face. I'm not going to 0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:17.560 embarrass I'm not embarrass you. 0:35:17.600 --> 0:35:18.759 I'm not going to bring it up. I'm just gonna 0:35:18.800 --> 0:35:19.200 let it talk. 0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:20.759 She's in the middle of a spiel about married at 0:35:20.760 --> 0:35:22.440 first sight, but the patch was growing in front of 0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:23.760 my eyes, and I thought it was really cute. 0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:26.640 I've never ever embarrassed. But it's really funny that your 0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:29.120 tits actually say to you, like your boobs, go feed 0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:31.360 your child, feed your child. Okay, you get a tingling 0:35:31.400 --> 0:35:33.360 sensation in your nipples and then all of a sudden, 0:35:33.400 --> 0:35:35.240 you're just lactating down the front of yourself. 0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:38.280 But we do have a very very cute new member 0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:40.680 that is part of the Life Uncut family, and that 0:35:40.840 --> 0:35:43.680 is little Lola Ellis. So congratulations, Laura. 0:35:43.680 --> 0:35:45.479 I feel like I'm in. It was so weird because 0:35:45.480 --> 0:35:47.400 we've spoken to each other so many times, I know, 0:35:47.520 --> 0:35:48.839 but like, I feel like it's weird. 0:35:48.880 --> 0:35:51.319 I feel like I'm about to interview, like you're not 0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:52.640 the podcast host. 0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:55.360 But so much for having me here. He's coming on 0:35:55.400 --> 0:35:58.120 Life on Card. As you guys probably already know as well, 0:35:58.200 --> 0:36:00.400 Britt kept on referring to the fact that if I 0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:02.279 ended up having a girl, because Matt and I were 0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:04.600 so convinced that it was a boy, if we had 0:36:04.600 --> 0:36:08.640 a girl, the name was after Britney. And I'm sure 0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:10.759 you now have all put two and two together that 0:36:10.880 --> 0:36:13.680 Britt thinks that I have named Lola because Britt likes 0:36:13.719 --> 0:36:17.480 to use the term lol. It kills me on Lola Derby, 0:36:17.600 --> 0:36:20.880 That's what it was, many many different different variations of lol. 0:36:21.120 --> 0:36:23.960 But anyway, No, I didn't name my child that. It 0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.799 was almost the reason why I changed my child's name. 0:36:26.880 --> 0:36:29.440 But the fir forever, I always thought that if I hadn't, 0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:31.960 I always thought if I had another girl, I would 0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:33.800 name her Lola, and I wasn't going to let Britney 0:36:33.840 --> 0:36:35.640 Hockley ruin it for me anyway. 0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:37.960 You named your child after me, whatever. You had a 0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:39.880 complicated pregnancy, I don't want to say complicated, but you 0:36:39.880 --> 0:36:41.799 were really unwell for a long time. You were far 0:36:41.840 --> 0:36:45.280 more unwell with Lola than you were with Mali, especially 0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:47.680 towards the end. And there were a few episodes at 0:36:47.680 --> 0:36:49.600 the end where Laura, you know, that she couldn't make 0:36:49.640 --> 0:36:51.840 it onto the podcast, and we had Matt feel in 0:36:51.920 --> 0:36:54.640 for her. We did reiterate at the time that if 0:36:54.640 --> 0:36:57.280 that ever happens, there is a solid reason. And Laura 0:36:57.400 --> 0:36:59.000 was in and out of hospital at the end, which 0:36:59.040 --> 0:37:00.920 we didn't really want to go into. Laura didn't really 0:37:00.920 --> 0:37:02.719 want to go into at the time because there were 0:37:02.719 --> 0:37:04.800 bigger things for her to worry about, which was obviously 0:37:04.800 --> 0:37:07.480 the health of her child. Laura, you can jump into that. 0:37:07.560 --> 0:37:09.560 Things went downhill pretty rapidly at the end there. 0:37:10.040 --> 0:37:13.520 Well. I guess one of the things that I experienced 0:37:13.520 --> 0:37:16.400 in this pregnancy, which I didn't experience in Maley's pregnancy 0:37:16.440 --> 0:37:19.760 like Marley's, was it was easy, Like honestly, I felt 0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:23.040 like this pregnant unicorn and I almost kind of hated 0:37:23.120 --> 0:37:25.279 talking about my pregnancy with Marley at the time because 0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:28.000 I felt like I couldn't relate to other people who 0:37:28.000 --> 0:37:30.360 had had really challenging pregnancies. And then I felt like 0:37:30.400 --> 0:37:33.440 I was that asshole who was like, being pregnant is wonderful. 0:37:34.960 --> 0:37:38.840 And then spoiler, this time not quite the case. I 0:37:38.920 --> 0:37:40.600 was in and out of hospital only because I was 0:37:40.640 --> 0:37:42.880 having to go into hospital for pain. It wasn't like 0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:45.719 I was kept in hospital. I couldn't manage the pain 0:37:45.760 --> 0:37:49.360 that I was having with Lola. And basically, I'm sure 0:37:49.400 --> 0:37:52.480 some of you will remember, we didn't ask guncut episode, 0:37:52.520 --> 0:37:55.440 and I genuinely thought I had gone into labor a 0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:58.759 few days earlier and Matt had filled in for me. 0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:01.920 But what was happening is that that feeling of thinking 0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:04.360 I was going into labor I had started to happen 0:38:04.440 --> 0:38:07.880 more frequently and it had gotten way more intense. So 0:38:08.320 --> 0:38:10.640 there's a thing that some people experience, or most pregnant 0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:12.720 women experience, which is called Braxton Hicks. 0:38:13.200 --> 0:38:15.360 And it's like the old phantom labor, isn't it. 0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:18.000 Yeah, I'm getting you ready, and like it can be painful, 0:38:18.120 --> 0:38:21.240 but it shouldn't be so painful that you cannot speak 0:38:21.360 --> 0:38:23.480 or move, and you're on the floor on your hands 0:38:23.520 --> 0:38:28.200 and knees in agony, screaming. So I was having these 0:38:28.520 --> 0:38:31.880 contractions which were happening like really rhythmically every sort of 0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:34.200 eight minutes or so, then down to five minutes and 0:38:34.320 --> 0:38:36.960 down to four minutes, and the pain was so severe 0:38:37.040 --> 0:38:40.359 that I couldn't walk or talk or do anything. And 0:38:40.400 --> 0:38:42.359 by the end of it, I was in hospital and 0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:44.279 I had been given more phaine to try and deal 0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:47.200 with the pain, but I wasn't in labor. They didn't 0:38:47.239 --> 0:38:49.600 know why I was having this pain. They couldn't explain 0:38:49.640 --> 0:38:51.960 to me what was going on. But the problem is, 0:38:52.040 --> 0:38:55.879 so it never ever eventuated into actually becoming labor. And 0:38:55.920 --> 0:38:57.640 what the only thing that they could kind of tell 0:38:57.680 --> 0:38:59.719 me that I had is And it's kind of a 0:38:59.760 --> 0:39:02.080 blame a term for when they don't really know what's 0:39:02.120 --> 0:39:04.560 wrong with you. And it's called irritable uterus. And so 0:39:04.760 --> 0:39:06.759 I don't think anyone ever wants an irritable or anything. 0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:08.480 You don't want an irritable bell, you don't want to 0:39:08.480 --> 0:39:11.360 be irritated. You don't want to irritable uterus basic, or 0:39:11.400 --> 0:39:16.440 an irutable boyfriend. I always had an irritable boyfriend. I 0:39:16.560 --> 0:39:19.160 originally was with the public hospital, and I was going 0:39:19.200 --> 0:39:22.120 through public at Royal Women's and I ended up transferring 0:39:22.120 --> 0:39:24.640 to be with a private obstetrician who was amazing, And 0:39:24.680 --> 0:39:28.120 I just had this wild anxiety this time that something 0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:29.920 was going to be wrong with the baby. And I 0:39:29.960 --> 0:39:32.760 didn't experience that with Marley. I always felt really confident 0:39:32.760 --> 0:39:34.719 and really fine during my pregnancy with Marley, but this 0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:38.000 time I was convinced that there was going to be 0:39:38.040 --> 0:39:41.160 something wrong with Lola because of everything that had been happening. 0:39:41.680 --> 0:39:43.759 So what happened was is I went in and had 0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:46.200 some tests done whilst I was having this pain. I 0:39:46.320 --> 0:39:47.960 went and had some ultrasounds, and they went and did 0:39:48.000 --> 0:39:50.320 some measurements. They checked the baby's heart rate and everything, 0:39:50.360 --> 0:39:53.960 and some of the measurements came back abnormal. But they 0:39:54.000 --> 0:39:56.000 sent me home at the time because they didn't have 0:39:56.560 --> 0:39:59.640 the right obstrition in there and everything else was like 0:39:59.719 --> 0:40:02.440 see normal, And my paint had started to go away, 0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:04.320 so they were like, look, go home, monitor it and 0:40:04.360 --> 0:40:06.120 we'll give you a call in a few days. So 0:40:06.160 --> 0:40:07.879 a few days later, I got a phone call from 0:40:07.920 --> 0:40:10.560 my midwife, and my midwife had said we need you 0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:14.040 to come back in and have another test done because 0:40:14.080 --> 0:40:16.440 there was some levels for the baby that were abnormal. 0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:19.000 This at this time, I was about thirty six weeks pregnant, 0:40:19.200 --> 0:40:21.920 and I was like, okay, what are those levels and 0:40:22.480 --> 0:40:25.719 what's abnormal? And what's abnormal? Yeah, and they were like, look, 0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:28.640 there's some fluid on the baby's brain and we need 0:40:28.680 --> 0:40:30.880 to test because it could be a sign that your 0:40:30.960 --> 0:40:33.960 baby has feedal anemia. And this is all over the 0:40:34.000 --> 0:40:37.680 phone call, and I was like, okay, what does feedle 0:40:37.719 --> 0:40:40.879 anemia mean? So if the baby has feedle anemia, then 0:40:40.960 --> 0:40:45.200 what could that indicate? And then the midwife said, you know, 0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:47.719 if the baby does have fetal anemia, we then need 0:40:47.760 --> 0:40:51.120 to rule out another thing, which is called hydrops. And 0:40:51.560 --> 0:40:53.640 of course, like when someone tells you a word on 0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:56.080 the phone, you're like, I'm going to google what that is. Right, 0:40:56.120 --> 0:40:58.319 So this has happened on the Monday, and she said 0:40:58.320 --> 0:40:59.640 you need to come back in on the Friday for 0:40:59.680 --> 0:41:01.880 this test to be done. And I was like, okay, 0:41:01.920 --> 0:41:03.640 well they need to rule out this thing high drops. 0:41:03.680 --> 0:41:06.399 What the hell's hydrops? So I obviously looked up high 0:41:06.440 --> 0:41:07.839 drops on my computer. 0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:10.360 Of course, which is the worst thing, Like, it's actually 0:41:10.400 --> 0:41:12.680 what that nurse did was not right. She should never 0:41:12.719 --> 0:41:14.680 have dropped that on you and then said see you 0:41:14.719 --> 0:41:15.640 in five days. 0:41:15.400 --> 0:41:17.680 See you in five days. So high drops is actually 0:41:17.760 --> 0:41:20.960 called hydrops fatalis. It's a fatal illness that some babies 0:41:21.000 --> 0:41:24.680 have and basically, once they're born, they have no more 0:41:24.680 --> 0:41:26.960 than I think it's a ten percent survival rate, and 0:41:27.000 --> 0:41:29.240 it's because of this fluid that forms in their body 0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:33.040 and on their brains. I just went into absolute panic mode. 0:41:33.120 --> 0:41:35.000 And it was because I had been given this term 0:41:35.200 --> 0:41:36.520 and I didn't know what to do with it, and 0:41:36.520 --> 0:41:38.320 I was told that I had to wait five days 0:41:38.320 --> 0:41:40.399 to have it ruled out. That this was a possibility. 0:41:40.520 --> 0:41:41.239 Of course, when you. 0:41:41.239 --> 0:41:44.879 Google anything and anything medical, you're going to read every 0:41:44.920 --> 0:41:46.520 single thing about it, and you're going to read all 0:41:46.560 --> 0:41:49.560 the horror stories and you're going to think worst case scenario. 0:41:49.640 --> 0:41:52.880 And that's absolutely what you did, absolutely and I are 0:41:52.960 --> 0:41:55.200 called Matt. I called Matt straight away and I was like, 0:41:55.480 --> 0:41:58.319 I've just had this chat with the midwife and you know, 0:41:58.400 --> 0:42:01.600 the levels of what was tested are not normal, and 0:42:01.600 --> 0:42:03.480 then they want to do more tests to rule out 0:42:03.480 --> 0:42:05.800 this thing that they've told me about on the phone 0:42:05.920 --> 0:42:09.080 that is completely fatal. At thirty six weeks, I was 0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:12.880 hysterical and Paul Matt was also hysterical. And it was 0:42:12.880 --> 0:42:14.680 at that point that we made the decision that we 0:42:14.680 --> 0:42:17.239 were going to go through a private obstetrician because we 0:42:17.280 --> 0:42:19.560 wanted to have one point of contact from then on 0:42:19.680 --> 0:42:21.399 and we wanted to be able to get the test 0:42:21.400 --> 0:42:24.400 done sooner, just because I couldn't. I couldn't wait in 0:42:24.440 --> 0:42:26.520 this limbo of five days not knowing if anything was 0:42:26.560 --> 0:42:29.960 going to be okay. It was the worst five days 0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:32.920 I think I have ever had, and to stress and 0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:35.960 anxiety being told that this could be what your baby has, 0:42:36.160 --> 0:42:38.879 which is non viable and non viable pregnancy, and then 0:42:39.440 --> 0:42:42.520 no support from that after it gob smacks me and 0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:44.960 you know what, Look, everything is absolutely fine. Lalla is 0:42:45.000 --> 0:42:47.680 so healthy and she's beautiful. And once I did go 0:42:47.719 --> 0:42:49.839 with the private obstetrition and we had a secondary lot 0:42:49.880 --> 0:42:52.040 of tests done, it turned out that, you know, that 0:42:52.120 --> 0:42:54.799 all the levels had gone back down to normal, so 0:42:54.840 --> 0:42:57.280 something had gone wrong when I was having this pain. 0:42:57.440 --> 0:42:59.600 It was obviously affecting the baby, and the baby was 0:42:59.640 --> 0:43:02.160 in distry because that's why all these levels were elevated, 0:43:02.239 --> 0:43:04.200 and then when the pain had gone away, the levels 0:43:04.200 --> 0:43:06.840 went back down to normal. So it was something that 0:43:06.920 --> 0:43:09.040 was managed, and then I had a really really great 0:43:09.120 --> 0:43:12.040 experience with my obstetrician for the next sort of two 0:43:12.080 --> 0:43:14.440 and a half weeks, I guess before I actually had Lola, 0:43:14.880 --> 0:43:16.560 But there was a lot of questions that came in 0:43:16.600 --> 0:43:18.319 when I put it up on my social media, like 0:43:18.400 --> 0:43:20.279 you know, what do you guys want to know? A 0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:22.719 lot of people asked why was I induced? And that 0:43:22.840 --> 0:43:24.759 was the reason why I was induced, because they got 0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:26.799 to the point where they were like, Okay, we don't 0:43:26.840 --> 0:43:29.080 really know what's going on. We don't really know why 0:43:29.280 --> 0:43:31.480 there is a problem here, but we do know that 0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:33.399 you're at a point now where the baby is better 0:43:33.440 --> 0:43:36.360 off out than in, and we can manage any problems 0:43:36.400 --> 0:43:39.319 if those problems arise. And she was born and she 0:43:39.400 --> 0:43:42.720 was three point six kilos and she was absolutely perfect. 0:43:42.840 --> 0:43:46.799 So it's just like I literally had a goosebumps, I know, 0:43:47.200 --> 0:43:51.040 especially like seeing your friend go through something like that, 0:43:51.120 --> 0:43:52.239 like watching you go through that. 0:43:52.960 --> 0:43:55.759 I felt like when you had your miscarriage. We had 0:43:56.120 --> 0:43:58.399 a really great conversation about that. Guys, If you haven't 0:43:58.440 --> 0:44:01.480 listened to that episode about Laura going through a miscarriage, 0:44:01.520 --> 0:44:03.360 and then as a friend, what you can do to 0:44:03.400 --> 0:44:05.440 be there watching anyone that you love go through a 0:44:05.480 --> 0:44:07.399 situation like that and there's nothing you can do. There's 0:44:07.600 --> 0:44:10.560 absolutely heartbreaking. So when I remember when you were like, 0:44:10.680 --> 0:44:12.080 I'm just going to drop all this money for the 0:44:12.160 --> 0:44:14.120 next two weeks, you only had like a few weeks left, 0:44:14.120 --> 0:44:15.279 You're like, I don't even care. I just want to 0:44:15.280 --> 0:44:18.280 get the best person to relieve your stress and anxiety. 0:44:18.320 --> 0:44:20.400 And when you were like, the baby's healthy and fine 0:44:20.440 --> 0:44:22.440 and everything's gona be fine. I just can't imagine the 0:44:22.440 --> 0:44:23.200 relief you had. 0:44:23.920 --> 0:44:26.680 But also I think maybe that not even maybe it 0:44:26.760 --> 0:44:31.200 absolutely played into it hugely. I think once you've experienced miscarriage, 0:44:31.840 --> 0:44:34.640 it's really difficult to have a pregnancy where you don't 0:44:34.680 --> 0:44:38.120 have any anxiety around the baby's health or around what's 0:44:38.160 --> 0:44:40.520 going to happen. So I think the whole time I 0:44:40.600 --> 0:44:43.680 was pregnant with Lola, I found it really difficult to 0:44:43.800 --> 0:44:45.799 connect with the fact that I was pregnant. I found 0:44:45.800 --> 0:44:48.879 it really difficult to enjoy the pregnancy, and I at 0:44:48.960 --> 0:44:52.040 no point did I ever feel like, yes, I'm absolutely 0:44:52.040 --> 0:44:54.080 going to have this baby. I know that sounds crazy, 0:44:54.120 --> 0:44:57.080 but for the whole thirty eight weeks, I still had 0:44:57.120 --> 0:44:58.759 it in the back of my head that maybe this 0:44:58.840 --> 0:45:01.840 pregnancy was temporary and maybe it was not going to happen. 0:45:01.880 --> 0:45:04.520 So when I thought I was receiving that bad news, 0:45:04.680 --> 0:45:07.600 I was like, of course, like this is what my 0:45:07.640 --> 0:45:10.560 biggest fear has been realized, and this is what I 0:45:10.600 --> 0:45:13.720 have thought this whole pregnancy is. Even now at this point, 0:45:13.800 --> 0:45:16.880 with Lola being four weeks old, I still haven't completely 0:45:16.960 --> 0:45:20.359 overcome that fear and anxiety. Like I still sometimes look 0:45:20.400 --> 0:45:23.640 at her and she does very normal newborn things, and 0:45:23.680 --> 0:45:26.160 I think, is that normal? Is there something wrong with her? 0:45:26.239 --> 0:45:28.880 And I'm really struggling to overcome those thoughts. 0:45:28.920 --> 0:45:31.600 At the moment, I think that's really normal though literally 0:45:31.600 --> 0:45:33.759 obviously not coming from experience. But I remember my dad 0:45:33.840 --> 0:45:35.880 saying to me when I Sherry and I like his 0:45:36.080 --> 0:45:38.120 two baby girls. When Sherry and I went on this 0:45:38.200 --> 0:45:40.040 route on the world trip, we were like in the 0:45:40.040 --> 0:45:44.040 most dangerous countries in South America. I remember him just 0:45:44.040 --> 0:45:47.000 saying to me, let me know when you get home, 0:45:47.080 --> 0:45:48.880 even at like let me know when you get to 0:45:48.920 --> 0:45:51.560 the next country or whatever. And I remember being like, Dad, 0:45:51.600 --> 0:45:55.200 your helicopter parenting at you know, we're twenty six, twenty seven, 0:45:55.200 --> 0:45:58.880 twenty eight years old. And he was like, pretty, I 0:45:58.880 --> 0:46:01.959 don't think you understand as a parent, it never ends. 0:46:02.000 --> 0:46:04.640 He's like, I will never get a proper night sleep. Ever, 0:46:04.800 --> 0:46:07.000 while you're Galivationian on the other side of the world, 0:46:07.000 --> 0:46:09.040 He's like, the stress and the worry from the day 0:46:09.080 --> 0:46:12.359 you're born until the day they die, it's always going 0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:14.720 to be there. It's just something else just presents itself 0:46:14.760 --> 0:46:17.520 in a different way. Like when they're young and their newborns, 0:46:17.560 --> 0:46:19.399 it's you know, is something wrong that they can't tell 0:46:19.440 --> 0:46:20.959 me about? And then when it's old her is someone 0:46:21.040 --> 0:46:21.960 going to hurt them? 0:46:22.000 --> 0:46:22.480 Are they going to. 0:46:22.480 --> 0:46:24.520 Fall her at school? They've been bullied, something going to 0:46:24.560 --> 0:46:26.000 happen to me in another country? Like I think that 0:46:26.040 --> 0:46:28.600 what you're feeling now, it will never go away, It'll 0:46:28.640 --> 0:46:29.160 just evolve. 0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:31.920 Well, there's that beautiful quote, isn't there that having children 0:46:32.000 --> 0:46:34.240 is literally having your heart walking around on the outside 0:46:34.239 --> 0:46:39.319 of your body, which it is. And I still sometimes like, 0:46:39.360 --> 0:46:41.280 look at the person I am now, averse the person 0:46:41.320 --> 0:46:42.959 I was three or four years ago. And I think 0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:45.800 there was a time in my life where I didn't 0:46:45.840 --> 0:46:47.920 want to have kids. Before I met Matt and before 0:46:48.040 --> 0:46:50.839 like doing the show and everything, I thought, you know what, 0:46:50.840 --> 0:46:53.240 maybe kids aren't for me, Maybe I won't have children. 0:46:53.600 --> 0:46:55.960 And I kind of hate that I was that stereotype. 0:46:55.960 --> 0:46:57.319 I kind of hate that. Then I met someone and 0:46:57.520 --> 0:47:00.319 changed my mind. But I have so fund of until 0:47:00.320 --> 0:47:02.520 you changed as a person since becoming a mom, Like 0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:06.239 I'm far more patient, I'm far more accepting, I'm far 0:47:06.320 --> 0:47:08.320 more calm in a lot of areas of my life. 0:47:08.360 --> 0:47:10.920 And then I have such wild anxiety in other areas 0:47:10.920 --> 0:47:12.880 of my life that I never ever ever would have 0:47:12.880 --> 0:47:15.799 thought I would be high strung about your pregnancies. For me, 0:47:16.600 --> 0:47:19.120 I've been. I have been on a roller coaster. Oh god, Brittany, 0:47:19.120 --> 0:47:20.719 it must have been hard for me in terms of 0:47:20.760 --> 0:47:23.440 having kids. I mean, like I was the same as you. 0:47:23.640 --> 0:47:25.600 I was like, you know what, maybe kids aren't for me. 0:47:25.600 --> 0:47:26.959 That's because I've been single so long. 0:47:27.239 --> 0:47:29.640 I was always doing different businesses and different ideas and traveling. 0:47:29.680 --> 0:47:31.120 I was like, maybe that's not going to be my life. 0:47:31.440 --> 0:47:34.279 I didn't feel that craving than when you. I became 0:47:34.280 --> 0:47:36.240 close with you and you had your pregnancy with Maley. 0:47:36.719 --> 0:47:39.120 The pregnancy was so beautiful, and it was and Miley 0:47:39.200 --> 0:47:40.919 so beautiful and perfect. I was like, oh my God, 0:47:41.000 --> 0:47:43.560 like maybe I want kids. And then your pregnancy with 0:47:43.640 --> 0:47:46.080 Lola has been such the antithesis of your pregnancy with 0:47:46.880 --> 0:47:48.959 Maley that when you went through the pregnancy with Lola, 0:47:49.000 --> 0:47:51.080 I was like, oh, it's the best contraception. I was like, 0:47:51.160 --> 0:47:54.319 I am not having sex ever again, because you are 0:47:54.360 --> 0:47:56.640 on all fours. Every day, you were vomiting, every day, 0:47:56.680 --> 0:47:58.359 you were sick, you're in hospital. I was like, that's 0:47:58.400 --> 0:47:59.160 my contraception. 0:47:59.400 --> 0:48:02.680 Yeah. Gave me a whole new sense of appreciation for 0:48:02.719 --> 0:48:05.040 people who struggle with their pregnancies or for people who 0:48:05.040 --> 0:48:07.759 have challenging pregnancies. I was still vomiting up until the 0:48:07.840 --> 0:48:10.919 day that Lola was due. And you know the thing 0:48:10.920 --> 0:48:13.720 that I think people don't talk about is I felt 0:48:13.719 --> 0:48:16.160 a bit of resentment. And I hate saying this because 0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:17.720 I don't want this to get picked up in media 0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:20.360 and get misconstrued, Like I really want to be conscious 0:48:20.360 --> 0:48:24.040 about how I say this. But I never doubted for 0:48:24.120 --> 0:48:26.680 one second that I would feel bonded to Mali because 0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:28.960 I loved my pregnancy with her, and I knew the 0:48:29.000 --> 0:48:32.720 second she came out, I would love her. But with Lola, 0:48:32.880 --> 0:48:35.640 the pregnancy was so hard that I felt a little 0:48:35.640 --> 0:48:37.840 bit resentful, and I even remember saying to one of 0:48:37.880 --> 0:48:40.719 my girlfriends, I'm worried that when Lola is born, I 0:48:40.760 --> 0:48:43.920 will feel resentful for how sick I have felt and 0:48:43.960 --> 0:48:46.880 for how hard this has been. And you know, that 0:48:47.480 --> 0:48:50.799 feeling definitely absolved the moment that she was born. But 0:48:50.920 --> 0:48:53.839 she's a more challenging baby than Mally was. Like she 0:48:54.040 --> 0:48:56.799 is awake all the time, she cries all the time. 0:48:56.880 --> 0:48:59.880 She's a very, very different type of baby, and the 0:49:00.320 --> 0:49:03.680 experience has been a lot harder. But I do think 0:49:03.560 --> 0:49:06.480 the good thing about having a second child is that 0:49:07.640 --> 0:49:10.719 the first time with Marley, I do think the good 0:49:10.719 --> 0:49:13.200 thing is that she's the second child, and the first 0:49:13.239 --> 0:49:15.399 time with Marley. I mean, when you very first become 0:49:15.440 --> 0:49:17.600 a parent, you kind of have this fear of like, 0:49:17.680 --> 0:49:20.040 I'm never going to sleep again, I'm never gonna get 0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:22.200 my body back, I'm never going to get my life back. 0:49:22.239 --> 0:49:24.160 And then all of a sudden, they're two years old, 0:49:24.400 --> 0:49:27.800 Like time just goes so quickly, and so this time around, 0:49:27.840 --> 0:49:29.920 even though it has been more challenging with her in 0:49:29.960 --> 0:49:32.400 the world, physically, like she just is a more demanding 0:49:32.440 --> 0:49:35.200 baby than Mally was. I have a really great perspective 0:49:35.200 --> 0:49:37.440 of the fact that this time period is so short 0:49:37.480 --> 0:49:39.640 and it's going to go so quickly, and so I 0:49:39.680 --> 0:49:41.920 don't feel like I'm getting as hung up on the 0:49:42.000 --> 0:49:45.960 lack of sleep, on the tire tiring nature of it, 0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:48.600 of like how draining it all is, because I'm like, hey, 0:49:49.080 --> 0:49:52.720 this is just a phase, will be there. You definitely 0:49:52.800 --> 0:49:54.960 lulled into a false sense of security with Marley, like 0:49:55.000 --> 0:49:57.760 she tricked you big time. If you had Lola first, 0:49:57.840 --> 0:49:59.840 you probably wouldn't have had another care. I'd be like, mat, 0:50:00.080 --> 0:50:02.920 go get your tubes died, your tube side you sleep. 0:50:03.880 --> 0:50:06.640 This is how sleep to pride you are literally. But 0:50:06.760 --> 0:50:08.320 let's talk. I guess see your birth story. 0:50:08.400 --> 0:50:10.960 It obviously didn't go to plan as such because you 0:50:11.040 --> 0:50:13.520 did were induced and had to have the baby earlier. 0:50:14.000 --> 0:50:15.759 So I guess talk is through the story how it 0:50:15.800 --> 0:50:18.400 happened and how it differed from how you imagined it 0:50:18.480 --> 0:50:19.040 might happen. 0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:21.960 So I really really wanted to not be induced this 0:50:22.000 --> 0:50:23.759 time because I was induced with Marley, and I really 0:50:23.800 --> 0:50:26.600 wanted to have the experience of a natural birth, whatever 0:50:26.640 --> 0:50:29.680 that is. And it didn't happen. I was actually induced 0:50:29.719 --> 0:50:31.840 on the Tuesday, which was the tuesday that our last 0:50:31.840 --> 0:50:32.719 episode came out. 0:50:32.760 --> 0:50:34.720 Oh yeah, we will talk about this too. This woman 0:50:34.760 --> 0:50:36.000 is ridiculous, but we'll get to that. 0:50:36.800 --> 0:50:39.080 I was induced. I mean, I've done childbirth. I know 0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:41.480 it's painful, and I'd also had these series of like 0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:45.400 weird contraction, painful things happening that I was adamant. I 0:50:45.440 --> 0:50:47.640 didn't really want to feel any pain this time around. 0:50:47.840 --> 0:50:50.000 So I got in there to the hospital. I sat 0:50:50.040 --> 0:50:52.120 down on the bed. I wasn't even in labor. I 0:50:52.200 --> 0:50:54.520 wasn't even strapped up to the oxytocin, which is how 0:50:54.560 --> 0:50:57.080 they induced you. I hadn't even had my waters broken yet, 0:50:57.120 --> 0:50:58.759 and I was like, can I just get the epidural. 0:51:01.320 --> 0:51:02.920 She's in the car, she finds a head, She's like, 0:51:02.960 --> 0:51:04.759 can you get that ready? And then yeah, and the 0:51:04.800 --> 0:51:07.080 obstitution was like, actually, we like you to be an 0:51:07.160 --> 0:51:10.680 established labor. We like you to be having rhythmic contractions 0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:12.680 before we give you an epi durol And I was like, no, 0:51:12.800 --> 0:51:16.080 that's not gonna work for me. Don't want to feel it. 0:51:15.760 --> 0:51:18.319 Is labor a prerequisite for the epidural. 0:51:18.640 --> 0:51:20.600 Just sticking him. I've got an email I need to 0:51:20.640 --> 0:51:21.880 send out and I've got a bit of work to 0:51:21.920 --> 0:51:25.120 still do. Can I please get that epidurol now? Thanks? Yeah. 0:51:25.160 --> 0:51:28.480 I was completely completely different with this pregnancy because like 0:51:28.800 --> 0:51:31.080 the first time, I felt like I needed to experience 0:51:31.120 --> 0:51:33.520 the pain. They felt like I needed to justify the 0:51:33.520 --> 0:51:34.959 epidural to myself. 0:51:34.640 --> 0:51:37.120 Which is crazy, isn't it. It's like the fact that 0:51:37.160 --> 0:51:39.560 people I have heard women say before too, They're like, 0:51:39.560 --> 0:51:41.200 I feel like I'm cheating. I feel like I didn't 0:51:41.239 --> 0:51:43.520 even like I feel like I'm cheating myself in the 0:51:43.520 --> 0:51:45.520 world by not going through a painful labor. 0:51:45.520 --> 0:51:48.560 But I don't think. Sometimes the world has other plans. 0:51:48.600 --> 0:51:55.320 We yeah, and that is drugs. It's so funny. So 0:51:55.400 --> 0:51:57.200 Laura's like, I'm like, tell me when you own into labor, 0:51:57.239 --> 0:51:58.759 and we did. She literally was. 0:51:58.680 --> 0:52:01.880 Going to labor on the last episode. So guys, like, 0:52:01.960 --> 0:52:03.680 this woman did not have a break. We did not 0:52:03.719 --> 0:52:06.240 have a break. We worked up until the last hour, 0:52:06.280 --> 0:52:08.759 which was a whole nother story. But she's like, I'm like, 0:52:08.800 --> 0:52:10.920 tell me when you're going too labor. She messaged me. 0:52:10.960 --> 0:52:14.000 She's like, cool, it's happening. Wearing labor I'm like amazing. 0:52:14.120 --> 0:52:15.440 I was like, you go have your baby, like, I'm 0:52:15.480 --> 0:52:19.600 so excited. We're a small business. Business doesn't stop. So 0:52:19.640 --> 0:52:20.960 I'm like, you go have your baby. I'm going to 0:52:21.000 --> 0:52:23.280 look after things. And I could see these business emails 0:52:23.280 --> 0:52:26.000 coming in that are like joined, They're addressed to Laura 0:52:26.000 --> 0:52:29.360 and Brittany so that they're never ever missed. So I'm like, 0:52:29.400 --> 0:52:31.120 go have your baby. I'm going to look after business. 0:52:31.120 --> 0:52:33.960 WHOA see you in like a week or two. I'm 0:52:34.160 --> 0:52:36.440 in the email trying to reply to these business emails 0:52:36.840 --> 0:52:39.360 and Laura's emails are popping up from Laura to the 0:52:39.600 --> 0:52:41.839 to our bosses, and I'm like, what are you doing? 0:52:41.960 --> 0:52:43.759 What are you like? I was like, hang on, I'm 0:52:43.800 --> 0:52:44.759 like just wait a minute. 0:52:44.800 --> 0:52:47.359 I messages Laura back and I'm like, babe, like, you're 0:52:47.360 --> 0:52:49.960 having an actual baby right now. I've got this covered. 0:52:50.360 --> 0:52:52.040 Leave it with me. I'm all good, and she's like. 0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:54.719 Nah, I'm in between contractions. I'm good. I'm like, you 0:52:54.760 --> 0:52:58.040 are literally you are literally contracting and pushing a baby. 0:52:58.160 --> 0:52:59.719 She's like, nah, nah, I can't feel much right now, 0:52:59.760 --> 0:53:01.440 so I just get some stuff done. 0:53:01.680 --> 0:53:05.320 Guys. I want to tell you epidurals are the shit. 0:53:06.000 --> 0:53:09.000 You can do anything after you have an epidural. So 0:53:09.080 --> 0:53:12.839 I had finally gotten the epidural after much persuasion, and 0:53:12.880 --> 0:53:15.400 then I was like a bit bored, thought I'd get 0:53:15.440 --> 0:53:16.280 back on the emails. 0:53:16.400 --> 0:53:18.840 It was ridiculous and I was always like, I was like, 0:53:18.880 --> 0:53:20.399 you need to I just don't know how to block 0:53:20.440 --> 0:53:23.040 you from email. I can't do anything about it. You're ridiculous. 0:53:23.040 --> 0:53:24.640 But let's get into some questions. 0:53:24.680 --> 0:53:27.759 Okay, wait, but you think that's ridiculous. Whilst I was 0:53:27.800 --> 0:53:30.480 having contractions, Matt was making TikTok videos, which I think 0:53:30.560 --> 0:53:32.600 is way worse. That does not surprise me in the 0:53:32.640 --> 0:53:34.120 slightest No, it doesn't. See it would have been like 0:53:34.160 --> 0:53:37.400 content moment. Look, I mean I was in labor, like so, 0:53:37.480 --> 0:53:41.080 once my waters were broken and I was given epidural 0:53:41.200 --> 0:53:45.520 and I was, you know, having contractions consistently. I was 0:53:45.520 --> 0:53:48.040 in labor for ten hours. But when it came to 0:53:48.160 --> 0:53:52.319 actually pushing, after I was ten centimeters dilated, I only 0:53:52.360 --> 0:53:55.759 had to push for seventeen minutes before so she was out, 0:53:55.800 --> 0:54:00.359 which was like maybe six different pushes. Yeah, you can't 0:54:00.400 --> 0:54:05.359 give up that ten hours of work, ten hours of 0:54:05.520 --> 0:54:08.480 some cushy labor to push for seventeen minutes. It was 0:54:08.800 --> 0:54:11.400 that the labor and the birth was absolute chalk and 0:54:11.480 --> 0:54:14.800 cheese to Malie. Because Marley's birth, her pregnancy was easy, 0:54:15.120 --> 0:54:18.200 her as a baby was easy. Her birth, I would 0:54:18.200 --> 0:54:21.800 say her birth was very traumatic, whereas Lola's birth was 0:54:21.800 --> 0:54:26.480 an absolute, just angelic moment. It was so easy. But 0:54:26.560 --> 0:54:27.840 do you know what, then, this is something that we 0:54:27.880 --> 0:54:30.800 don't talk about enough as women. One in three women 0:54:31.280 --> 0:54:36.320 would describe their birth experience as traumatic. And obviously trauma 0:54:37.000 --> 0:54:40.040 is defined very differently from different people. You know, it's 0:54:40.080 --> 0:54:44.080 a very personal experience and so the definition of trauma 0:54:44.160 --> 0:54:48.279 is subjective. But I definitely don't think that And this 0:54:48.360 --> 0:54:50.279 is not to scare anyone. This is not to try 0:54:50.280 --> 0:54:52.440 and like strike the fear of God in you if 0:54:52.480 --> 0:54:55.200 you are pregnant. But I don't think we talk about 0:54:55.360 --> 0:54:58.200 what labor and birth is really like enough. And I 0:54:58.239 --> 0:55:00.800 think that a lot of people go into birth thinking 0:55:01.280 --> 0:55:03.799 it's not going to be what it is, or the 0:55:03.880 --> 0:55:06.680 experience is very different to what they're prepared for, because 0:55:06.840 --> 0:55:09.880 I think the actual mechanics around how it's going to feel, 0:55:10.239 --> 0:55:13.600 what your body experiences, what you can breathe away, and 0:55:13.640 --> 0:55:15.680 what you actually can't breathe away because you know, there 0:55:15.760 --> 0:55:17.560 is only so much of the pain that you can 0:55:17.560 --> 0:55:21.400 physically woosor breathe and breathe out that you're you know 0:55:21.480 --> 0:55:22.880 that you can kind of get on top of. And 0:55:22.920 --> 0:55:25.480 I think that every person is so different in how 0:55:25.480 --> 0:55:28.080 they manage and interpret pain. Every person is so different 0:55:28.120 --> 0:55:31.160 about how they feel about their body that for some 0:55:31.400 --> 0:55:34.480 people it is honestly one of the most traumatic and 0:55:34.520 --> 0:55:36.799 full on experiences that you're ever going to have. And 0:55:36.840 --> 0:55:39.480 for some people, you know, it's scared than when it 0:55:39.480 --> 0:55:41.319 comes to having their second baby. And I think that's 0:55:41.320 --> 0:55:43.200 why it's important to talk about the things that no 0:55:43.280 --> 0:55:46.440 one wants to talk about, because it's more realistic. But 0:55:46.680 --> 0:55:48.400 one of the number one questions that came in Laura, 0:55:48.800 --> 0:55:53.240 I am very curious about it too. Did you shut 0:55:53.280 --> 0:55:55.080 yourself when you're pushing? 0:55:55.200 --> 0:55:59.040 Did you also push a little poop pooh out? 0:55:59.120 --> 0:56:03.600 Everyone tell you this was the number one question. You're 0:56:03.640 --> 0:56:06.600 all a bunch of sickos. It was the number one 0:56:06.880 --> 0:56:09.399 question that I got asked. What came in two parts? Ay, 0:56:09.480 --> 0:56:12.080 did you shot yourself? B If that was yes, did 0:56:12.120 --> 0:56:15.359 you shoot yourself in front of Matt Okay? I hand 0:56:15.440 --> 0:56:17.040 on my heart. And do you know what the funny 0:56:17.040 --> 0:56:18.640 thing is is that the amount of people who then 0:56:18.640 --> 0:56:20.839 wrote back being like, of course you poohed yourself, because 0:56:20.840 --> 0:56:26.200 everyone who gives birth poohs theirself. Hand on my heart. I, 0:56:26.280 --> 0:56:29.600 in both pregnancies have never pooed in front of Matt, 0:56:29.960 --> 0:56:33.799 nor have I poohed during birth. Interesting, however, I know 0:56:33.920 --> 0:56:37.000 that that is super abnormal, but it is also to 0:56:37.040 --> 0:56:39.360 do with the fact that I took some laxatives for 0:56:39.400 --> 0:56:42.640 two days before, so you prepared for it, so you 0:56:42.640 --> 0:56:45.120 didn't poo yourself. No, okay, I didn't do it because 0:56:45.120 --> 0:56:46.440 I didn't want to pooh in front of Matt. I 0:56:46.440 --> 0:56:48.840 couldn't care less like I mean whatever, We've done everything 0:56:48.840 --> 0:56:50.759 in front of each other. It wasn't to do with that. 0:56:50.840 --> 0:56:54.440 It's because I am so petrified by the first pooh 0:56:54.480 --> 0:56:56.680 after birth that I made sure that I was clean 0:56:56.719 --> 0:56:58.560 as a whistle so I could go for as long 0:56:58.600 --> 0:57:01.680 as possible with having to pay. Why are you petrified 0:57:01.680 --> 0:57:04.480 on the first pooh after birth? So? Okay? Celest Barber 0:57:04.560 --> 0:57:07.000 has actually described this. She says that the first pooh 0:57:07.040 --> 0:57:09.200 after birth, this is very in depth. Guys. I'm kind 0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:11.680 of gross, but I'm gona tell you anyway. Celest Barber 0:57:11.719 --> 0:57:14.240 says that the first pooh after birth is the bravest 0:57:14.280 --> 0:57:18.200 pooh that anyone will ever do, And I'm pretty brave poos. 0:57:18.320 --> 0:57:22.120 I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment that there is nothing 0:57:22.200 --> 0:57:25.080 more petrifying than if you've had stitches and you've had 0:57:25.120 --> 0:57:28.960 an episiotomy, then doing a Pooh two days or a 0:57:29.040 --> 0:57:31.479 day after having having a baby. Why is that? Because 0:57:31.480 --> 0:57:34.280 you think your inside are gonna come out? It just hurts, 0:57:34.400 --> 0:57:38.000 like painful. It is so painful. Doing a Pooh part 0:57:38.320 --> 0:57:41.360 was more painful than having Lola. Oh my god. 0:57:42.120 --> 0:57:44.120 I guess it's because it's so tender. I've just been 0:57:44.120 --> 0:57:44.920 through this trauma. 0:57:45.040 --> 0:57:47.120 Well, and you also don't have an epidurol anymore, like 0:57:47.200 --> 0:57:49.120 all of the drugs have worn off, like all the 0:57:49.200 --> 0:57:52.200 feel good has gone away, and you're just left with 0:57:52.320 --> 0:57:55.760 you and your Pooh in a bathroom trying your darnda 0:57:55.760 --> 0:57:57.720 just to get it out. Like and I remember with 0:57:57.800 --> 0:58:00.480 Marley how horrible that first pooh was, So I was 0:58:00.520 --> 0:58:02.680 like really prepared this time. I was like, I am, 0:58:03.120 --> 0:58:05.480 there ain't going to be anything in that passage and 0:58:05.560 --> 0:58:06.240 so yes. 0:58:06.240 --> 0:58:08.840 So how many days after into your food like two, 0:58:09.120 --> 0:58:12.040 Oh my god, yeah, you're an animal. 0:58:12.160 --> 0:58:14.400 There we go clean as we saw. So that's way 0:58:14.440 --> 0:58:15.920 too much information, but I knew that we were going 0:58:15.960 --> 0:58:20.680 to get there, so yeah, that soundlike laur A. Now 0:58:20.720 --> 0:58:23.360 the question that I have did you tear? Did you 0:58:23.400 --> 0:58:26.680 need stitches? How many did you need? I've never asked 0:58:26.680 --> 0:58:30.440 how many stitches I've had. So when I had Marley, 0:58:30.600 --> 0:58:34.760 I had a really really intense like I tore and 0:58:34.800 --> 0:58:37.000 I had an episiotomy, so that was not in a 0:58:37.040 --> 0:58:41.720 good way. This time with Lola, they did cut me. 0:58:42.040 --> 0:58:44.400 I had an episiotomy, and I tore a little bit, 0:58:44.760 --> 0:58:48.000 but nowhere near the extent of Marley. That was probably 0:58:48.120 --> 0:58:50.600 the hardest part of this whole birth. I had a 0:58:50.600 --> 0:58:54.240 lot of anxiety around my past experience with an episiotomy 0:58:54.280 --> 0:58:56.520 because I when I had Marley the first time, my 0:58:56.600 --> 0:58:59.320 stitches got infected and it took a really long time 0:58:59.360 --> 0:59:02.000 for me to heal properly with my first pregnancy, So 0:59:02.240 --> 0:59:06.880 when I was pushing and the doctor was like, put 0:59:06.880 --> 0:59:09.280 your hands down there, you can feel the head, and 0:59:09.760 --> 0:59:11.280 I was like, all right, I put my hands down 0:59:11.280 --> 0:59:14.040 there and I was like is that it? And everything 0:59:14.120 --> 0:59:16.120 just felt so weird. I couldn't tell what I was 0:59:16.160 --> 0:59:19.160 touching because I was so feeling. One, I was so swollen, 0:59:19.400 --> 0:59:24.680 and two I was like, that's you, Glitterius turn around 0:59:24.720 --> 0:59:27.080 and he goes, ah, you would hope that's the head. 0:59:27.120 --> 0:59:28.800 He's like, you'd be in a real state of worry 0:59:28.840 --> 0:59:30.680 if that was your vagina, and I'm like, I don't 0:59:30.720 --> 0:59:34.600 know anymore, that's all. But yeah, So when he said 0:59:34.640 --> 0:59:36.480 he needed to give me an a pisiotomy, I was like, 0:59:36.680 --> 0:59:39.000 I can't. I don't want one. Please don't do that. 0:59:39.080 --> 0:59:40.520 And it was because I thought it was going to 0:59:40.560 --> 0:59:42.280 be painful and I thought I would feel it. I 0:59:42.280 --> 0:59:45.360 didn't feel a thing. The epidural was really great this time. 0:59:45.480 --> 0:59:47.600 The problem I had with my first pregnancy was that 0:59:47.640 --> 0:59:50.760 my epidural wasn't strong enough and I felt my whole episiotomy. 0:59:50.840 --> 0:59:53.920 So that was why Marley's birth was quite traumatic. Was 0:59:53.960 --> 0:59:57.160 because I had an episiotomy with zero pain medication, which 0:59:57.680 --> 0:59:59.120 is not something you want to do. I felt like 0:59:59.120 --> 1:00:01.960 I was being stab or sliced open. Well you literally 1:00:02.000 --> 1:00:03.960 are like, that's what it is. But yeah, so this 1:00:04.040 --> 1:00:05.880 time I did have I did have an a pisiotomy, 1:00:05.920 --> 1:00:08.640 and I did tear, a first degree tear. But honestly, 1:00:08.920 --> 1:00:10.840 I don't want anyone to hear that and think that 1:00:10.840 --> 1:00:13.240 that's frightening, because I think we talk about tearing as 1:00:13.240 --> 1:00:15.720 though it's like the worst thing in the world. It 1:00:15.800 --> 1:00:17.760 is not as painful as you think it is going 1:00:17.800 --> 1:00:20.560 to be, especially if you've had any pain medication, and 1:00:20.600 --> 1:00:23.240 often they'll give you anesthesia anyway they think you're gonna tear. 1:00:23.480 --> 1:00:25.240 That part of it was fine, the stitches and that 1:00:25.240 --> 1:00:28.360 were fine. And as soon as you do have your baby, 1:00:28.400 --> 1:00:31.320 there's this like people talk about that the pain just 1:00:31.360 --> 1:00:31.840 goes away. 1:00:32.080 --> 1:00:33.720 That's what I wanted to ask, like, do you pull 1:00:34.040 --> 1:00:35.480 You don't pull a baby out, but do you actually 1:00:35.520 --> 1:00:37.880 get handed the child? Because you've seen all the movies, 1:00:37.920 --> 1:00:41.720 it's so glorified that there's this traumatic moment, there's so 1:00:41.840 --> 1:00:44.760 much pain, they're crying, it's blood, it's poohs, whatever else, 1:00:44.800 --> 1:00:46.200 and then they put the baby in your arms and 1:00:46.240 --> 1:00:48.560 then it's like the music starts and all the pain's 1:00:48.560 --> 1:00:50.680 gone and they glance down the baby and it's just 1:00:50.720 --> 1:00:52.959 like instant Heaven, is that real? 1:00:53.240 --> 1:00:56.120 It is exactly like that. So I put I did 1:00:56.120 --> 1:00:58.320 pull all out, so like only her head and her 1:00:58.360 --> 1:01:01.320 shoulders were out, and then the obstrition was like, you 1:01:01.320 --> 1:01:03.880 can pull your baby out, and so I bent down 1:01:03.920 --> 1:01:05.800 and I pulled Lola out, and I pulled her onto 1:01:05.840 --> 1:01:07.600 my chest. Were you on your back? I was on 1:01:07.600 --> 1:01:09.360 my back. Yeah, So pulled her out and I pulled 1:01:09.360 --> 1:01:12.320 her onto my chest. And the pain honestly does go away, 1:01:12.560 --> 1:01:16.600 or it does for me anyway. Instantly, however, it comes back. Yeah, 1:01:17.160 --> 1:01:20.440 that's a fleeting moment. So it goes away, and you 1:01:20.600 --> 1:01:22.440 think you're in the clear, and this is the problem, 1:01:22.440 --> 1:01:25.040 and this is what I did that I would really like, 1:01:25.240 --> 1:01:27.200 maybe think about it before you do what I did. 1:01:27.680 --> 1:01:29.760 I was like, oh, I feel great. I want to 1:01:29.800 --> 1:01:31.840 go have a shower. I want to go home. I'd 1:01:31.880 --> 1:01:33.680 literally just given birth. I want to go home. I 1:01:33.680 --> 1:01:37.080 don't want to be in the hospital. So I left 1:01:37.160 --> 1:01:39.040 as soon as I was able to, which was eight 1:01:39.080 --> 1:01:42.240 hours after I'd given birth. We got out of the hospital. 1:01:42.840 --> 1:01:45.840 And what I didn't realize at the time, one, going 1:01:45.880 --> 1:01:47.760 home to a toddler is really really hectic, and I 1:01:47.760 --> 1:01:50.600 probably should have had some more time to rest. But two, 1:01:50.760 --> 1:01:53.200 I was so jacked up on pain medication that I 1:01:53.240 --> 1:01:56.680 couldn't fucking feel anything now. And when I got home, 1:01:56.800 --> 1:01:58.800 that's when everything hit me. That's when the pain hit me. 1:01:58.960 --> 1:02:01.520 And you just don't have the ability to lay down 1:02:01.560 --> 1:02:03.080 and take it as easy at home as what you 1:02:03.120 --> 1:02:04.520 would do at the hospital. And I think when you're 1:02:04.520 --> 1:02:06.480 at hospital, people treat you differently. They treat you in 1:02:06.520 --> 1:02:08.720 a little bit more of a fragile way, whereas when 1:02:08.760 --> 1:02:11.040 you get home, people like, oh, you're home, so you're fine, 1:02:11.080 --> 1:02:14.240 get on with it. And so I was getting up 1:02:14.280 --> 1:02:18.000 and getting people cups of tea twelve hours after giving birth, 1:02:19.040 --> 1:02:21.560 and in my mind, I was like, what is this? 1:02:21.560 --> 1:02:23.560 This is crazy? And I was someone else not bringing 1:02:23.560 --> 1:02:25.400 me the tea? Yeah, and I was in so much pain. 1:02:25.440 --> 1:02:27.880 And then I had other people were at my house 1:02:27.920 --> 1:02:30.640 holding my baby whilst I was up getting them cups 1:02:30.640 --> 1:02:33.080 of tea, and I just thought, this is not right. 1:02:33.760 --> 1:02:35.720 Is wild to me, and this is not right. So 1:02:35.880 --> 1:02:38.920 I wish, in retrospect, I had spent more time allowing 1:02:38.960 --> 1:02:41.520 myself to recover. I just want to put a disclaimer 1:02:41.520 --> 1:02:45.480 in there that that was not me. And he was like, 1:02:45.520 --> 1:02:47.200 you're very good at making tea, though this is not 1:02:47.240 --> 1:02:49.800 a subtle swipe. So I guess, well, that's a good question. 1:02:49.880 --> 1:02:51.440 What is the one thing. 1:02:51.320 --> 1:02:54.040 That you wish you knew more of, or you wish 1:02:54.040 --> 1:02:56.440 people talked more of, or you wish was done differently 1:02:56.480 --> 1:02:59.320 about birth that people aren't speaking about, like one thing 1:02:59.320 --> 1:03:02.640 maybe you think you someone had spoken about before you 1:03:02.680 --> 1:03:03.520 went and gave birth. 1:03:03.600 --> 1:03:06.440 I think that in our society, and it's definitely something 1:03:06.480 --> 1:03:08.800 that I am guilty of. But I think that we 1:03:09.200 --> 1:03:13.000 congratulate an overly reward women who get on with life 1:03:13.240 --> 1:03:16.640 quickly after having a baby. And it almost said like, look, 1:03:16.680 --> 1:03:18.640 how great, Look how far she bounced back, look at 1:03:18.680 --> 1:03:21.160 her back doing Yeah, oh you left the house after 1:03:21.200 --> 1:03:24.840 a week, congratulations, you're so amazing. I think that then 1:03:24.840 --> 1:03:27.040 it also puts pressure on people to feel like that 1:03:27.080 --> 1:03:28.960 they should be doing that and they should be achieving 1:03:29.000 --> 1:03:32.360 after giving birth. Birth is so different for every single person. 1:03:32.800 --> 1:03:35.919 Some people physically cannot leave the house for three weeks 1:03:36.000 --> 1:03:38.760 after having a baby. I know that with Mary, I 1:03:38.880 --> 1:03:41.760 physically shouldn't have left the house for three weeks after 1:03:41.800 --> 1:03:44.080 having her, but I felt like I needed to be 1:03:44.160 --> 1:03:47.120 achieving still. I was going back to work. I was like, 1:03:47.120 --> 1:03:48.960 you know, on my emails, I felt like I needed 1:03:48.960 --> 1:03:50.680 to be doing stuff. 1:03:50.440 --> 1:03:53.480 Almost like you have something to prove exactly exactly. 1:03:53.560 --> 1:03:55.880 And I do think that we because we reward people 1:03:55.920 --> 1:03:59.280 and we say, oh, like, congratulations, I wasn't able to 1:03:59.280 --> 1:04:00.960 get out of the house when I had my baby 1:04:00.960 --> 1:04:03.760 at that age, or you know, like it sets this 1:04:03.880 --> 1:04:07.280 precedent that we can do everything, and as women, yeah, 1:04:07.320 --> 1:04:09.760 sure we can do everything. We're fucking amazing. We shouldn't 1:04:09.760 --> 1:04:11.840 have to, but we shouldn't have to and we shouldn't 1:04:11.840 --> 1:04:13.640 want to. You know, if there's ever going to be 1:04:13.680 --> 1:04:15.760 a time in life where you're allowed to take time 1:04:15.800 --> 1:04:19.400 out to heal, to be in a quiet space to 1:04:19.480 --> 1:04:22.040 really connect with your child, it's straight after giving birth. 1:04:22.080 --> 1:04:24.600 And if that takes you two weeks, if that takes 1:04:24.640 --> 1:04:27.560 you two months, if that takes you six months, I'm 1:04:27.600 --> 1:04:30.240 not leaven the house for a year. But honestly, though, like, 1:04:30.280 --> 1:04:32.800 if it takes you, it's just it's the most all 1:04:32.920 --> 1:04:36.440 encompassing change that you're ever going to experience that you 1:04:36.480 --> 1:04:38.800 really should be allowed to afford yourself the time to 1:04:38.840 --> 1:04:40.560 adjust to that change. And we are going to do 1:04:40.600 --> 1:04:43.320 an episode on this. It's the idea of the constant 1:04:43.400 --> 1:04:45.920 hustle and the harder you're working and the harder you're hustling, 1:04:45.960 --> 1:04:48.720 and the person that's sleeping the least amount is the 1:04:48.760 --> 1:04:50.800 person that must be succeeding. We will do an episode 1:04:50.800 --> 1:04:51.000 on that. 1:04:51.040 --> 1:04:53.600 But I also think it's a type of habit. I'm 1:04:53.640 --> 1:04:56.320 guilty of this. I don't have kids, but I'm guilty 1:04:56.360 --> 1:04:59.000 of the idea of I can't ever have time where 1:04:59.000 --> 1:05:02.000 I'm not doing something productive. And I know only. 1:05:01.920 --> 1:05:04.200 Other person I know that's an extremist in that sense 1:05:04.320 --> 1:05:04.520 is you. 1:05:04.640 --> 1:05:08.240 It's almost like, for so many years you've been so 1:05:08.360 --> 1:05:10.760 busy because you have been building your own businesses, and 1:05:10.800 --> 1:05:13.480 then you've had babies. You don't know how to not 1:05:13.520 --> 1:05:16.840 do anything. Like you physically, I know, you cannot sit 1:05:16.880 --> 1:05:18.800 there and really do nothing. Even if you're sitting there 1:05:18.800 --> 1:05:21.840 feeding and watching TV, you'll have one hand on an email. 1:05:22.000 --> 1:05:25.760 Yeah, And it's this misleading narrative that busy equals successful, 1:05:26.120 --> 1:05:29.160 you know. And also like, as women, we have been 1:05:29.240 --> 1:05:31.880 fed this idea that you can have it all. You know, 1:05:31.960 --> 1:05:34.120 you can have the babies, you can have the career, 1:05:34.160 --> 1:05:36.800 you can have the relationship, you can have the social network, 1:05:37.120 --> 1:05:39.880 and like, yes, we can have those things, but you 1:05:39.920 --> 1:05:41.960 can't have them all at the same time because the 1:05:42.000 --> 1:05:44.840 only thing that's going to do is give you immense burnout. 1:05:44.960 --> 1:05:46.560 I mean, I know that we've spoken about that in 1:05:46.600 --> 1:05:48.680 season one. We did a whole episode on you know 1:05:48.720 --> 1:05:50.320 you can't have it all at the same time, But 1:05:50.360 --> 1:05:53.280 I really think that that's something, especially now that we 1:05:53.400 --> 1:05:55.480 have added a whole new member to the mix, we 1:05:55.560 --> 1:05:58.760 should probably rehash that and talk about that because I 1:05:58.840 --> 1:06:01.440 really do think that there is such an extreme amount 1:06:01.480 --> 1:06:04.400 of pressure that we put on ourselves to just be 1:06:04.480 --> 1:06:06.720 fucking good at everything, and sometimes you have to stop 1:06:06.760 --> 1:06:09.000 and take time out for yourself and go, you know what, 1:06:09.160 --> 1:06:11.120 doing nothing is actually a bit of mental health and 1:06:11.120 --> 1:06:12.000 a bit of self care. 1:06:12.400 --> 1:06:14.760 I'm not kidding when I say this, and this, guys, 1:06:14.960 --> 1:06:18.120 is going to sound ridiculous. I'm aware of that. I 1:06:18.240 --> 1:06:21.160 just want to highlight something in my life. I am 1:06:21.200 --> 1:06:23.640 struggling and this year you're gonna laugh because you've just 1:06:23.680 --> 1:06:25.800 got two kids. In business, I am struggling to have 1:06:25.840 --> 1:06:29.600 a relationship successfully right now, just with other businesses. I've 1:06:29.640 --> 1:06:31.120 never had it, so I don't know. I've never had 1:06:31.120 --> 1:06:34.000 to share my time and it's such a little thing. 1:06:34.120 --> 1:06:36.280 I'm aware of that, but it's something I'm having to 1:06:36.280 --> 1:06:38.160 renavigate I'm like, how do I give so much of 1:06:38.200 --> 1:06:40.120 my time to someone else now when I have to 1:06:40.160 --> 1:06:42.440 be giving so much of my time to my work. 1:06:42.640 --> 1:06:44.920 And it's just something I'm having to navigate at a really, 1:06:45.000 --> 1:06:47.200 really small base level, and I will figure it out. 1:06:47.400 --> 1:06:49.320 So I can't imagine what it's like for people like 1:06:49.400 --> 1:06:51.640 you that have kids, that have a business and trying 1:06:51.640 --> 1:06:53.600 to have a relationship and trying to have a social 1:06:53.640 --> 1:06:54.960 life and do everything else. 1:06:55.160 --> 1:06:57.520 Well, what it does is like it makes me feel 1:06:57.560 --> 1:06:59.560 like a failure in other aspects of my life. So 1:06:59.680 --> 1:07:01.440 when I I feel like I'm being a good mum, 1:07:01.880 --> 1:07:04.200 I'm being a shit friend. When i feel like I'm 1:07:04.200 --> 1:07:06.920 being great at work, I'm being a shit mum. I 1:07:07.000 --> 1:07:09.720 never feel like I'm good at everything at the same time, 1:07:10.080 --> 1:07:12.680 And it's a constant battle with guilt that I play. 1:07:12.800 --> 1:07:14.680 And I think a lot of women play this battle 1:07:14.680 --> 1:07:17.680 where you know you've fed this idea that you can 1:07:17.840 --> 1:07:20.640 be great at everything and you just physically can't. And 1:07:21.000 --> 1:07:24.240 I know, I do think that Instagram is such a bullshit, 1:07:24.400 --> 1:07:28.000 fake show, Oh my god, such a dumpster fire, And 1:07:28.080 --> 1:07:31.160 sometimes I feel guilty about playing into that and perpetuating 1:07:31.160 --> 1:07:33.280 that storyline. You know, people write to me and they'll 1:07:33.320 --> 1:07:36.000 say on Instagram like, oh, like you're doing so well. 1:07:36.280 --> 1:07:38.520 You know, it's so amazing to see how you are 1:07:38.720 --> 1:07:40.280 getting out there and going to the zoo and doing 1:07:40.280 --> 1:07:42.320 stuff with Mali. And you're like, yeah, that was a 1:07:42.320 --> 1:07:44.400 bloody struggle. Yeah, And I'm like, I am not and 1:07:44.440 --> 1:07:46.520 that's why I do and I am trying to keep 1:07:46.560 --> 1:07:50.240 that conversation really authentic, but like, I am not succeeding. 1:07:50.360 --> 1:07:53.000 Like we have Tampa tantrums. I've not seen any of 1:07:53.000 --> 1:07:55.320 my friends in five weeks since Lla was born. I mean, 1:07:55.320 --> 1:07:56.880 I've seen you, but apart from you, I've not seen 1:07:56.880 --> 1:07:59.040 anybody else. And I'm like a fake friend. Really no, 1:07:59.120 --> 1:07:59.680 but you know what I mean. 1:07:59.680 --> 1:08:02.320 We see each other to work as well, like you're 1:08:02.400 --> 1:08:03.480 two birds one stone. 1:08:03.520 --> 1:08:05.800 But yeah, I think that social media plays such a 1:08:05.880 --> 1:08:09.160 huge role in perpetuating that idea that we can do everything. 1:08:09.400 --> 1:08:12.200 I agree. Thank you, You're doing a good job of 1:08:12.280 --> 1:08:13.360 keeping it real, all right. 1:08:13.400 --> 1:08:17.080 I want to know about after birth after what happens 1:08:17.120 --> 1:08:17.360 do you? 1:08:17.560 --> 1:08:17.720 Well? 1:08:17.800 --> 1:08:20.960 Yeah, like a your birth, like there is a there's 1:08:21.000 --> 1:08:23.800 literally an after birth, but then you have these am 1:08:23.840 --> 1:08:26.120 I correct me if I'm wrong? You have these pains 1:08:26.200 --> 1:08:28.320 after the birth, and like you don't just go back 1:08:28.320 --> 1:08:29.880 to normal, and you're like if vagina gets tired and 1:08:29.880 --> 1:08:32.479 you don't experience anything else. Like I remember you coming 1:08:32.479 --> 1:08:33.760 over and you're like, oh, I've got to change my 1:08:33.800 --> 1:08:36.919 path and I was like what, yeah, okay, yeah. 1:08:36.720 --> 1:08:38.880 Like what's that about. So for anybody who hasn't had 1:08:38.880 --> 1:08:41.800 a baby, then this might be information you don't know. 1:08:41.840 --> 1:08:43.439 If you have had a baby, you'll be like, oh, yeah, 1:08:43.600 --> 1:08:46.719 I've been there. So you bleed for a long time 1:08:46.760 --> 1:08:49.080 after having a baby. So I think we're on a 1:08:49.080 --> 1:08:51.519 week five now and I'm still bleeding. Really see, I 1:08:51.560 --> 1:08:54.679 didn't know that. Yeah, I think it's usually around six weeks. 1:08:54.760 --> 1:08:56.519 But if for everybody it's different. I mean, I know 1:08:56.600 --> 1:08:58.479 for one of my close girlfriends it was ten weeks, 1:08:59.000 --> 1:09:01.000 and for one of my friends it was only three 1:09:01.040 --> 1:09:03.280 and a half weeks, So it really varies. But you 1:09:03.400 --> 1:09:06.920 have very heavy bleeding after having a baby that continues 1:09:07.080 --> 1:09:09.360 for quite a substantial amount of time, and it obviously 1:09:09.360 --> 1:09:11.759 tapers off over time. I had a lot of blood 1:09:11.760 --> 1:09:14.920 clots this time, so it's pretty frightening to go to 1:09:14.960 --> 1:09:16.679 the bathroom and to have a blood clot the size 1:09:16.680 --> 1:09:19.400 of amandarin fall out of you and be like, oh, 1:09:19.520 --> 1:09:21.640 that's like a second child. I think my servix had 1:09:21.680 --> 1:09:24.639 just fallen out of somebody fell into the toilet. Oh 1:09:24.680 --> 1:09:28.920 look at that pro lapse there, guys. Whoops you. But 1:09:28.960 --> 1:09:31.280 I had a lot of clots after having Lola, so 1:09:31.360 --> 1:09:34.080 basically I had given birth and then had to You 1:09:34.479 --> 1:09:36.559 have to birth the placenta, which sounds weird, but they 1:09:36.600 --> 1:09:39.679 also can give you an injection. So after having Lola, 1:09:40.080 --> 1:09:41.439 the nurse came to me and was like, do you 1:09:41.479 --> 1:09:44.800 want the injection which will help you to have contractions 1:09:44.840 --> 1:09:46.439 to get the placenta out, And it means that the 1:09:46.439 --> 1:09:49.679 placenta comes out in one piece instead of it being 1:09:49.680 --> 1:09:52.439 broken or bit's being left behind. And I was like, yep, 1:09:52.600 --> 1:09:54.599 I've had every other drug. Give me some more. Get 1:09:54.600 --> 1:09:57.720 her out. So my placenter came out really easily. And 1:09:57.760 --> 1:10:00.160 the placenta is weird. It's like your body creates a 1:10:00.200 --> 1:10:04.280 whole other organ. It's an organ that is grows just 1:10:04.360 --> 1:10:05.960 for the purpose of birth, and then you get rid 1:10:05.960 --> 1:10:08.679 of it and it's massive and it smells weird. 1:10:08.720 --> 1:10:11.920 The whole thing is weird. People eat it too. I 1:10:11.920 --> 1:10:14.320 have had friends that they sent them plus center off. 1:10:14.400 --> 1:10:16.160 That not kidding. They send them plus center. 1:10:15.960 --> 1:10:18.200 Off and there are people that make it into capsules 1:10:18.240 --> 1:10:20.120 because it's I mean, it's the most nutritious thing you 1:10:20.120 --> 1:10:21.960 can feed your body. It literally is, because it keeps 1:10:21.960 --> 1:10:23.880 a baby alive. Then they take the tablets. 1:10:24.080 --> 1:10:26.840 I have heard of all this. Look, I have zero 1:10:26.880 --> 1:10:29.280 judgment in anybody who wants to eat their placenta or 1:10:29.320 --> 1:10:32.120 who uh puts it in their hair, whatever you want 1:10:32.160 --> 1:10:34.280 to do with it. Highly nourishing, I know this, but 1:10:34.560 --> 1:10:36.679 it's not for me. So no, I didn't keep my placenter. 1:10:36.720 --> 1:10:38.320 They put it in a tray and they probably put 1:10:38.360 --> 1:10:39.880 it in the bin. But then I had a lot 1:10:39.880 --> 1:10:42.080 of blood clots after that, so that was something that 1:10:42.120 --> 1:10:43.799 I had to manage for the next couple of days. 1:10:44.000 --> 1:10:48.000 Everything after birth is weird, Like when you breastfeed, you 1:10:48.040 --> 1:10:51.360 get contractions, so that's something people don't know. So every 1:10:51.400 --> 1:10:54.519 time you feed your baby, you feeding your baby releases 1:10:54.560 --> 1:10:57.680 a hormone that helps your uterus contract back down to 1:10:57.720 --> 1:11:00.639 its normal size. So every time you feed for those 1:11:00.640 --> 1:11:03.200 first couple of days after having a baby, you have 1:11:03.640 --> 1:11:06.799 a gush of blood again because it's your uterus starting 1:11:06.800 --> 1:11:09.639 to contract and go back down and it takes several 1:11:09.680 --> 1:11:12.240 weeks for your uterus to even go back down to 1:11:12.280 --> 1:11:14.360 the size that it normally was. It's just stuff no 1:11:14.360 --> 1:11:17.000 one talks about. And the after birth. So those contractions 1:11:17.000 --> 1:11:20.519 that you have while breastfeeding, they can be incredibly painful, 1:11:20.600 --> 1:11:23.519 and they can be more and more painful with each 1:11:23.560 --> 1:11:26.559 consecutive pregnancy. So with Marley, they were painful, but they 1:11:26.560 --> 1:11:30.080 were top like I could tolerate them. With Lola, I 1:11:30.200 --> 1:11:32.200 remember I was like I had to go and have 1:11:32.240 --> 1:11:35.479 a hot shower because I was in agony after feeding Lola, 1:11:35.880 --> 1:11:38.280 because I felt like I was in labor again. Like 1:11:38.320 --> 1:11:40.519 that's the level of the contractions that you can have, 1:11:41.040 --> 1:11:44.280 and no one, no one talks about it. No one says, oh, 1:11:44.360 --> 1:11:46.680 how did you deal with your after birth pains? Have 1:11:46.800 --> 1:11:49.880 two ends, have two panadoles and two neuropan and a 1:11:49.920 --> 1:11:52.160 lie down. You know, women tell you women are not 1:11:52.160 --> 1:11:52.920 given enough credit. 1:11:53.160 --> 1:11:56.679 I'm being like, from the day you conceived, the whole 1:11:56.720 --> 1:11:58.840 time till it's already out and you're still feeding after 1:11:58.880 --> 1:12:02.160 and you're stilling agonies like women men should be cherishing 1:12:02.200 --> 1:12:02.920 the ground we walk on. 1:12:03.120 --> 1:12:05.240 But the you know, and I know that everyone says this, 1:12:05.320 --> 1:12:07.800 but like the female body is so incredible what it 1:12:07.800 --> 1:12:10.040 can achieve and what it can do, and how it 1:12:10.080 --> 1:12:12.120 goes back to what it was like, that's the thing 1:12:12.120 --> 1:12:14.400 that it still blows my mind. I mean when I 1:12:14.479 --> 1:12:16.240 was pregnant, I was telling you guys all about my 1:12:16.320 --> 1:12:19.880 swollen vagina. Hey, I do have a question. It's back 1:12:19.920 --> 1:12:24.160 to normal. I looked down literally about five days after 1:12:24.200 --> 1:12:26.599 having Laula, and I was like, that's the vagina I remember. 1:12:26.640 --> 1:12:27.200 Good to see you. 1:12:27.200 --> 1:12:29.360 So it's gone back to normal. Great love that for you. 1:12:29.360 --> 1:12:31.439 Happy congrass. I literally ran out and showed man. I 1:12:31.479 --> 1:12:33.160 was like, look, it's back. 1:12:33.760 --> 1:12:36.720 Get on me. No, not yet, not until I'm on 1:12:36.760 --> 1:12:38.720 birth control. I'm not having another baby for a while. 1:12:38.840 --> 1:12:40.720 Has he tried your breast milk? And has he done 1:12:40.720 --> 1:12:41.439 it from nimble? 1:12:41.600 --> 1:12:41.840 Wow? 1:12:41.960 --> 1:12:43.840 Was that a question that came in over Instagram? No, 1:12:43.880 --> 1:12:47.120 it was just mebeing a Sico. Okay, absolutely not. 1:12:47.800 --> 1:12:49.760 He he always said he was going to try it, 1:12:49.800 --> 1:12:54.320 but he never actually has. However, I'll I would, I 1:12:54.360 --> 1:12:56.720 would try it. I would try it. However, I was 1:12:56.760 --> 1:12:59.200 sitting in the bath and Matt was like fully closed, 1:12:59.200 --> 1:13:01.599 sitting on the toilet having conversations. So I was laying 1:13:01.640 --> 1:13:05.559 in the bath and we were just chatting. And sometimes 1:13:05.560 --> 1:13:07.360 when you have a hot shower of hot bath, your 1:13:07.400 --> 1:13:10.160 boob will just start leaking because the hot, the steam 1:13:10.160 --> 1:13:13.280 and everything just gets your milk flowing. So I like, 1:13:13.320 --> 1:13:16.439 my boob just started spraying milk in the bath and 1:13:16.479 --> 1:13:18.800 we're having a chat and he was like, how far 1:13:18.880 --> 1:13:20.560 can it spray? And I was like, I, reckon, I 1:13:20.600 --> 1:13:22.360 could hit you with it from here if I try 1:13:22.360 --> 1:13:24.960 it well, like a squeeze yeah, And he was like, nah, 1:13:25.000 --> 1:13:26.600 shut up, and I was like, yeah, I reckon, I 1:13:26.600 --> 1:13:28.920 could squirt you with it, and he was like really, 1:13:29.760 --> 1:13:32.280 And then in the same action, I sq straight across 1:13:32.320 --> 1:13:37.479 the face. I just squeeze it to do that. Well. 1:13:37.520 --> 1:13:40.040 I even surprised myself. I didn't actually think it was 1:13:40.080 --> 1:13:41.760 dinner hit him in the face, but it hit him 1:13:41.760 --> 1:13:43.840 straight across the face. So did he try it then 1:13:44.680 --> 1:13:47.240 lick it off his shoe? Jesus, No. I don't think 1:13:47.240 --> 1:13:49.800 that's sick. I think that's normal. I think there's going 1:13:49.840 --> 1:13:51.200 to be a lot of people listening to this podcast 1:13:51.240 --> 1:13:52.479 who are going to turn it off at this point. 1:13:52.600 --> 1:13:53.160 I don't think no. 1:13:53.280 --> 1:13:55.160 I think tasting breast milk, like I reckon, A lot 1:13:55.200 --> 1:13:56.280 of people will be the opposite. 1:13:56.320 --> 1:13:57.559 I reckon, A lot of people will be like, yeah, 1:13:57.560 --> 1:13:59.360 of course we tried it. Isn't it weird though that 1:13:59.400 --> 1:14:02.280 we think trying our own human breast milk is weird, 1:14:02.320 --> 1:14:05.439 but we're quite okay with drinking cow's milk, isn't that? 1:14:05.600 --> 1:14:07.639 This is my point? Have you tried your own breast milk? Yeah, 1:14:07.680 --> 1:14:09.240 of course I've tried my own breast milk. I thought 1:14:09.240 --> 1:14:11.240 I was sweet. That's what I try it. Okay, I'm 1:14:11.280 --> 1:14:12.880 not going to give you my breast milk. Don't be weird. 1:14:13.080 --> 1:14:15.320 I'm trying not to be weird, but I'm interested. All right, Well, 1:14:15.360 --> 1:14:16.640 I mean, if you really want it, I can put 1:14:16.640 --> 1:14:18.080 it in a cup and I'll walk away, and if 1:14:18.080 --> 1:14:19.560 it's drunk by the time I get back or we 1:14:19.720 --> 1:14:24.439 know what happens, give me an AREO with it? Okay? So, 1:14:24.720 --> 1:14:26.240 I mean, do you have any other question? Most of 1:14:26.280 --> 1:14:28.519 these questions that Britta is asking have actually come from 1:14:28.560 --> 1:14:32.240 you guys specifically, and come over Instagram, so she's not 1:14:32.360 --> 1:14:34.240 totally the sick ol in the situation. No, they have 1:14:34.320 --> 1:14:36.960 come from the Instagram. From the Instagram, I do have 1:14:37.040 --> 1:14:39.439 some more questions, but they're pretty big ones, and I 1:14:39.520 --> 1:14:41.960 actually think there is a lot to them that I 1:14:41.960 --> 1:14:44.280 think will make a whole episode on and that is 1:14:44.320 --> 1:14:48.160 things like gender disappointment that he s things like baby blues, 1:14:48.200 --> 1:14:51.040 the feeling that you know, not everyone has a baby 1:14:51.200 --> 1:14:53.439 and then feels totally fine and gets on with life. 1:14:53.479 --> 1:14:55.759 Some people feel really down about it, and baby blues 1:14:55.800 --> 1:14:58.519 is a real thing, oh absolutely, and you know it's 1:14:58.560 --> 1:15:02.479 a hormone imbalance as well. I mean, I definitely think 1:15:02.479 --> 1:15:04.840 that we should talk about this idea of gender disappointment. 1:15:04.880 --> 1:15:07.080 Like you guys all know that I was so convinced 1:15:07.120 --> 1:15:10.520 that we were having a boy that I definitely wasn't disappointed, 1:15:10.520 --> 1:15:13.599 but I was shocked and it took me a while 1:15:13.760 --> 1:15:16.439 to accept the fact that maybe I won't be a 1:15:16.520 --> 1:15:19.320 mum to a boy. That was something that definitely took 1:15:19.400 --> 1:15:21.840 me a while to kind of comprehend. And I love 1:15:21.920 --> 1:15:24.479 Lola and I'm so happy that she is who she is, 1:15:24.880 --> 1:15:27.240 but at the same time, I was like, I've always 1:15:27.280 --> 1:15:29.280 thought that I would have a son, and I always 1:15:29.320 --> 1:15:30.960 believe that I would be a mum to a boy. 1:15:31.320 --> 1:15:33.799 And I know that Matt felt that exact same feeling, 1:15:34.320 --> 1:15:36.920 And there's so much to it because you're not allowed 1:15:36.960 --> 1:15:39.400 to say that you're disappointed by the gender of your child, 1:15:39.439 --> 1:15:42.519 because you're so lucky and privileged to have a child 1:15:42.560 --> 1:15:45.960 in the first place, that it's like you can't verbalize 1:15:46.040 --> 1:15:49.040 those things because it's ungrateful. But it doesn't mean that 1:15:49.040 --> 1:15:51.360 people don't still feel those feelings, and it doesn't mean 1:15:51.360 --> 1:15:54.000 that those feelings aren't still real and valid. This is 1:15:54.000 --> 1:15:55.680 why I think there's a whole topic, you know, a 1:15:55.720 --> 1:15:58.280 whole big chat. Because I had a good friend that 1:15:58.400 --> 1:16:00.320 was really open with me. She's got a few kids, 1:16:00.400 --> 1:16:03.479 but her first child, she for whatever reason, she was 1:16:03.520 --> 1:16:05.439 just convinced it was a girl. There was no science 1:16:05.520 --> 1:16:07.000 behind it. She was just convinced it was a girl. 1:16:07.040 --> 1:16:08.360 Everyone thought it was a girl. Everyone told it was 1:16:08.360 --> 1:16:09.960 a girl. Everone's like, oh the way he carrying a girl. 1:16:10.240 --> 1:16:11.080 She wanted a girl. 1:16:11.560 --> 1:16:13.639 She was always gonna be happy with whatever she'd bought 1:16:13.720 --> 1:16:16.599 girl things. I came out she had a boy, and 1:16:16.880 --> 1:16:19.760 she said to me, don't get me wrong, like I'm 1:16:19.800 --> 1:16:22.320 obsessed with my son. I love him, But I would 1:16:22.360 --> 1:16:26.000 be lying if I didn't say I had gender disappointment. 1:16:26.040 --> 1:16:27.559 And I had never heard of it. But it's a 1:16:27.600 --> 1:16:29.439 thing because she went and spoke to someone about it. 1:16:29.720 --> 1:16:31.479 And it's not that she doesn't love for him. It's 1:16:31.520 --> 1:16:33.920 not that she doesn't have the connection, because she did, 1:16:34.680 --> 1:16:36.400 but it took her a while to get her head 1:16:36.400 --> 1:16:38.720 around the same thing. She's like, I didn't know what 1:16:38.760 --> 1:16:40.720 to do with him. I had not let myself even 1:16:40.720 --> 1:16:42.720 think I was having a boy. He was this boy, 1:16:42.760 --> 1:16:44.800 and I had dressed him in pink clothes because that's 1:16:44.800 --> 1:16:46.880 all I had. She literally did not buy anything, so 1:16:46.920 --> 1:16:48.400 the first couple of days he was like in these 1:16:48.439 --> 1:16:51.439 pretty questionable outfits. But she was like, I think more 1:16:51.439 --> 1:16:53.240 people need to speak about it, because it's not taking 1:16:53.280 --> 1:16:55.080 away from the fact that I'm grateful and I love 1:16:55.120 --> 1:16:56.920 the child, but I had these feelings. 1:16:56.960 --> 1:16:57.679 It's a real thing. 1:16:57.680 --> 1:16:59.519 And she's spoken to other mothers and they've had it, 1:16:59.560 --> 1:17:01.360 so I I think a lot of people feel that, 1:17:01.680 --> 1:17:03.599 but no one feels like they're allowed to talk about 1:17:03.600 --> 1:17:05.320 it because they think people are going to judge them 1:17:05.360 --> 1:17:07.439 for not being grateful and not being thankful, and you 1:17:07.439 --> 1:17:09.679 should just be happy that you have this healthy child. 1:17:09.760 --> 1:17:11.680 I mean, the reality is that there are people out 1:17:11.680 --> 1:17:13.519 there who would judge them. You know that there are 1:17:13.600 --> 1:17:18.000 people who maybe you know, and especially because having a baby, 1:17:18.080 --> 1:17:21.000 like I said, is such a privilege, and not everybody 1:17:21.280 --> 1:17:23.679 is able to have a baby in the same way 1:17:23.720 --> 1:17:25.600 that I can. You know, I can have sex with 1:17:25.640 --> 1:17:27.120 a man and I can get pregnant and I can 1:17:27.160 --> 1:17:30.240 have a baby. For those people who struggle, or for 1:17:30.280 --> 1:17:32.400 those people who have been through pregnancy loss or who 1:17:32.400 --> 1:17:35.800 have been through child loss, there's this feeling of like, 1:17:35.920 --> 1:17:38.400 how dare you be ungrateful for what you get because 1:17:38.640 --> 1:17:41.200 you have received a baby, you know, and that's what 1:17:41.240 --> 1:17:42.920 some people would want, no matter what it is. 1:17:43.240 --> 1:17:45.479 That's the thing. This isn't a feeling but being ungrateful. No. 1:17:45.720 --> 1:17:47.559 And the thing is is like those two those two 1:17:47.640 --> 1:17:50.639 feelings don't have to live that they're separate to each other, 1:17:50.720 --> 1:17:52.360 do you know what I mean? Like, just because one 1:17:52.360 --> 1:17:56.080 person feels slightly disappointed or slightly like like they're trying 1:17:56.120 --> 1:17:59.160 to rationalize their identity now that they are no longer 1:17:59.160 --> 1:18:00.560 going to be the mum to a boy or the 1:18:00.640 --> 1:18:04.519 mum to a girl, doesn't lessen anybody else's pain or suffering, 1:18:04.560 --> 1:18:06.080 you know. Like that's the thing. We need to realize 1:18:06.120 --> 1:18:07.879 that those two things are very very separate. 1:18:08.160 --> 1:18:11.120 Look, I just do think I find the topic really interesting, 1:18:11.160 --> 1:18:12.599 and it's not a topic I've heard a lot about. 1:18:12.680 --> 1:18:14.559 So I would like to do some research more into 1:18:14.640 --> 1:18:16.840 the idea of gender disappointment. Maybe we can get my 1:18:16.920 --> 1:18:18.640 friend on that has been throwed if she's happy to 1:18:18.720 --> 1:18:20.880 Maybe we can get someone else that's really experienced it 1:18:20.920 --> 1:18:22.920 and is happy to talk about it, because it is 1:18:22.920 --> 1:18:24.760 something that's happening, and it is something that should be 1:18:24.760 --> 1:18:27.719 spoken about so that other women that experience it don't 1:18:27.720 --> 1:18:30.880 feel guilty and don't feel like they're doing something wrong. 1:18:31.120 --> 1:18:32.800 Yeah, and I think that that's the big thing, right, 1:18:32.920 --> 1:18:36.080 Like you already feel guilty about fricking everything when you've 1:18:36.120 --> 1:18:38.479 just had a baby, Like you feel guilty, you know, 1:18:38.640 --> 1:18:40.439 are you have it? Do you have enough milk? Do 1:18:40.479 --> 1:18:43.960 you breastfeed? Don't you breastfeed? Is are they sleeping enough? 1:18:44.240 --> 1:18:46.719 And then when they're screaming and you feel angry because 1:18:46.720 --> 1:18:49.040 they're screaming all night and you haven't had any sleep, 1:18:49.120 --> 1:18:51.040 and then you're angry at them, you feel guilty that 1:18:51.080 --> 1:18:53.240 you're angry at them. So I think it's just another 1:18:53.320 --> 1:18:57.439 thing in a long list of feeling guilty that you 1:18:57.439 --> 1:18:59.879 you know, by having conversations about it, we can overcome 1:18:59.880 --> 1:19:03.800 that normal absolutely, and like you know in saying that, 1:19:03.840 --> 1:19:07.960 there's been nights where Lola has screamed non stop and 1:19:08.040 --> 1:19:11.160 I have felt angry. I don't feel loving, I don't 1:19:11.200 --> 1:19:13.800 feel calm. I just feel like I need to leave 1:19:13.840 --> 1:19:17.880 you here to cry because you're screaming, just get it 1:19:17.880 --> 1:19:20.639 gets to somewhere in your soul, like in your inner chest, 1:19:20.680 --> 1:19:23.880 where you're like, oh, like I cannot stop this. And 1:19:24.280 --> 1:19:28.160 it's understandable why women feel like they lose their sense 1:19:28.160 --> 1:19:30.280 of self and they lose control. And it's not that 1:19:30.320 --> 1:19:32.880 you lose control and you do anything or behave badly, 1:19:32.920 --> 1:19:35.600 but you just feel like, I'm supposed to love this 1:19:35.680 --> 1:19:38.559 baby all the time, endlessly, but there are times where 1:19:38.560 --> 1:19:43.200 you actually feel so soul destroyed and so frustrated that 1:19:43.240 --> 1:19:45.880 you can't make the situation better. And I think the 1:19:45.880 --> 1:19:47.880 more that we talk about that and how normal that is, 1:19:47.920 --> 1:19:49.840 and that it's okay sometimes to walk out of the 1:19:49.880 --> 1:19:51.400 room and let your baby cry for a couple of 1:19:51.439 --> 1:19:54.000 minutes while you calm down, I think that we've covered 1:19:54.040 --> 1:19:56.439 a lot in this episode, and there will be so 1:19:56.479 --> 1:19:58.240 many more episodes that we are going to be talking 1:19:58.240 --> 1:20:00.800 about things like this, because it's now huge part of 1:20:01.400 --> 1:20:03.880 well I guess our life, Like obviously I don't read 1:20:04.520 --> 1:20:07.840 by proxy. Yeah, I am by DeVault. No, but there's 1:20:07.960 --> 1:20:09.640 there are so many and it's so interesting when you 1:20:09.640 --> 1:20:12.240 start talking about there are so many little like subtopics 1:20:12.240 --> 1:20:14.800 that we can talk about, and we will definitely talk 1:20:14.800 --> 1:20:18.160 about because Laura and myself, but we're both passionate about 1:20:18.200 --> 1:20:21.759 normalizing things that aren't really deemed as normal, aren't spoken 1:20:21.800 --> 1:20:24.559 about enough, or are sort of like pushed under the car. 1:20:24.640 --> 1:20:27.240 But we've always been big advocates on this podcast and 1:20:27.280 --> 1:20:28.880 being able to bring these things to light. So we 1:20:28.920 --> 1:20:30.760 will continue to do that. So don't worry if we 1:20:30.760 --> 1:20:33.240 haven't answered something in this episode today. Yeah, and you 1:20:33.280 --> 1:20:35.200 know what, Like I mean, there's gonna be parts of 1:20:35.240 --> 1:20:37.479 this that aren't relative to people who don't have children 1:20:37.560 --> 1:20:40.040 or who don't want to have children. But like we say, 1:20:40.080 --> 1:20:43.759 with everything, in particular the miscarriage conversation, it's always nice 1:20:43.800 --> 1:20:47.120 to understand other people's experiences so that you know how 1:20:47.120 --> 1:20:49.720 to relate to someone who is struggling with something and 1:20:49.880 --> 1:20:52.840 know like the best way to not make the situation worse, 1:20:52.880 --> 1:20:54.280 you know what I mean, Like to be able to 1:20:54.280 --> 1:20:57.080 be empathetic and to understand where someone's coming from without 1:20:57.400 --> 1:20:59.720 saying something or behaving in a way that's dismissive of 1:20:59.720 --> 1:21:02.080 somebody else's feelings. So I think that there's always something 1:21:02.120 --> 1:21:15.360 to learn in listening to other people's stories. Hey, gay guys, 1:21:15.400 --> 1:21:18.000 it is time for the last segment. And we love 1:21:18.080 --> 1:21:18.360 doing this. 1:21:18.479 --> 1:21:20.880 It's our suck and sweet, our highlight and our low 1:21:20.960 --> 1:21:24.840 light of the week. Sometimes it's amazing, sometimes it's ridiculous. 1:21:24.960 --> 1:21:27.559 Sometimes we feel very entitled, but either way, it's just 1:21:27.600 --> 1:21:29.879 a way to talk about, you know, how your week'spen, 1:21:29.960 --> 1:21:32.320 what the best thing's been, So Laura, you can kick 1:21:32.360 --> 1:21:35.640 it off. My suck for the week is Matt has 1:21:35.680 --> 1:21:38.880 been working heaps, like so much, and he and he 1:21:38.960 --> 1:21:41.439 got a big job just after I had Lola, So 1:21:41.840 --> 1:21:44.320 about a week after I had Lola, Matt got contracted 1:21:44.360 --> 1:21:47.720 for some work and he's been super busy, and it's 1:21:47.840 --> 1:21:50.320 just meant that I've had a lot of time, which 1:21:50.439 --> 1:21:52.400 normally I would have a lot more support from him 1:21:52.479 --> 1:21:54.920 because obviously I work a lot as well, And so 1:21:55.040 --> 1:21:57.760 it's been a really hard juggle this past week with 1:21:57.800 --> 1:22:00.600 the two kids and with little sleep, trying to do 1:22:00.720 --> 1:22:03.479 emails and like I said earlier in the episode, trying 1:22:03.479 --> 1:22:05.960 to do everything and feeling like you're not doing anything. Well, 1:22:06.280 --> 1:22:08.840 that's been something I really struggled with this week in general. 1:22:08.920 --> 1:22:12.000 But my highlight for the week, which in one aspect, 1:22:12.080 --> 1:22:14.200 I'm like, damn you, Lola because it wasn't to me. 1:22:14.320 --> 1:22:16.800 But Lola smiled for the first time that wasn't a 1:22:16.840 --> 1:22:18.880 gas smile. So four weeks old is when they kind 1:22:18.880 --> 1:22:22.519 of start smiling as a reaction to something, and she 1:22:22.880 --> 1:22:26.160 fully smiled at Matt Woe. So Matt was making some 1:22:26.200 --> 1:22:28.000 cute faces at her, and she smiled, and I was like, 1:22:28.080 --> 1:22:30.479 damn you. I spend every day with you all day. Yeah, exactly, 1:22:30.720 --> 1:22:33.240 Breeze smile at me. You know, her first word is 1:22:33.280 --> 1:22:36.840 going to be daddy, saddy. Yeah, I hate you, mom. 1:22:36.840 --> 1:22:38.800 I can't wait for having two thirteen year old daughters 1:22:38.840 --> 1:22:41.160 who hate me. No, they won't. They love me though 1:22:41.400 --> 1:22:44.800 they will. I'll be the favorite. Have fun Annie, Okay, Britt, 1:22:44.880 --> 1:22:47.120 what's your suck? And suite my suck? Probably this is. 1:22:47.120 --> 1:22:50.360 Actually ridiculous, but I'm quite a competitive person in like 1:22:50.520 --> 1:22:54.759 sports and games and things like that, and the worst 1:22:54.880 --> 1:22:57.599 person for me to probably date is a professional athlete. 1:22:57.600 --> 1:23:00.679 There's also very competitive. So we played board game last night, 1:23:00.720 --> 1:23:02.799 and you would not think that you could get competitive 1:23:02.800 --> 1:23:05.080 in a board game, but we were like at each other. 1:23:05.080 --> 1:23:06.080 We're on opposite teams. 1:23:06.080 --> 1:23:07.680 He was on the boys team, I was on the 1:23:07.760 --> 1:23:10.479 girls team, and it was horrific, Like we almost divorced 1:23:10.520 --> 1:23:12.080 over it. But I think there's gonna be a lot 1:23:12.080 --> 1:23:13.719 of things. It's not the first time we've played mini 1:23:13.720 --> 1:23:16.240 golf before, and we've gotten into a brawl playing tennis, Like, 1:23:16.360 --> 1:23:18.880 I mean, I'm in a competitive I'm in a brawl 1:23:18.880 --> 1:23:20.439 with him when we play tennis, Like, how can I 1:23:20.439 --> 1:23:23.160 get competitive with someone that's a professional tennis player. I 1:23:23.200 --> 1:23:24.680 just think that there's gonna be a lot of these 1:23:24.720 --> 1:23:27.280 moments in the future where the two of us, who 1:23:27.320 --> 1:23:29.040 are highly competitive are going to have blowouts because we 1:23:29.080 --> 1:23:30.960 both want to play sport all the time. I've got 1:23:30.960 --> 1:23:32.680 to accept that he's a professional athlete. He's probably going 1:23:32.720 --> 1:23:33.120 to be better. 1:23:33.439 --> 1:23:35.400 I reckon, he's probably gonna beat you. But also, this 1:23:35.479 --> 1:23:37.960 is not really a suck, Like it's not that bad. No, 1:23:38.360 --> 1:23:39.680 But that's my point, Like that was the worst thing 1:23:39.680 --> 1:23:42.080 that happened to me. Life is pretty rosy now in 1:23:42.080 --> 1:23:46.559 Britney's corner. Sweet, she's in love. I haven't sun for 1:23:46.640 --> 1:23:49.120 so long. Guys, my sweet, I have two? Is that 1:23:49.160 --> 1:23:51.519 all right? Oh? Sure, go on, bak the rules? Am 1:23:51.520 --> 1:23:51.880 I too? 1:23:52.240 --> 1:23:54.720 I think that this is like, I'm so chuffed with 1:23:54.760 --> 1:23:57.960 both of these. Since I've died my hand blonde, which 1:23:58.040 --> 1:24:00.880 you guys, I've gone blonde, it's still on me, not 1:24:00.920 --> 1:24:03.519 gonna have it forever. It was just a phase since 1:24:03.520 --> 1:24:05.320 I've had my hair blonde. Every day I get someone 1:24:05.320 --> 1:24:07.280 message to me saying, I'm my god, you look like 1:24:07.360 --> 1:24:09.480 Jennifer Hawkins. I thought you're Jennifer Hawkins. 1:24:10.960 --> 1:24:13.479 I like that. We laughed so aggressively at that, because 1:24:13.520 --> 1:24:15.599 if you actually know me in real life, there is 1:24:15.680 --> 1:24:17.879 nothing about me that resembles Jennifer Hawkins. 1:24:17.920 --> 1:24:20.679 I get that maybe sometimes I photograph on the right 1:24:20.720 --> 1:24:23.280 angle and I might look one percent like her, but 1:24:23.360 --> 1:24:26.719 it's really You've all made my whole life. 1:24:27.040 --> 1:24:29.040 Man. You're like hot as the sun. She's hot as 1:24:29.080 --> 1:24:29.639 the sun. 1:24:29.640 --> 1:24:32.519 Like we're comparison. But I'm frothing that, so thank you. 1:24:33.200 --> 1:24:37.360 My second suite was that I have had a conversation. 1:24:37.000 --> 1:24:39.639 With Rebel Wilson this week, but like whatever, so Britt 1:24:39.680 --> 1:24:41.760 asked at Rebel Wilson. She asked her if she'd be 1:24:41.760 --> 1:24:44.360 on the podcast, and she wrote back and politely declined. 1:24:44.360 --> 1:24:47.800 But that's still Brittany touching base with an actual, real 1:24:47.920 --> 1:24:48.760 life celebrity. 1:24:48.840 --> 1:24:51.439 I shot my I shot my shot this week, and 1:24:51.479 --> 1:24:52.599 I was like, you know, I'm just going to message 1:24:52.600 --> 1:24:54.240 Rebel because I we all know I love her and 1:24:54.320 --> 1:24:56.799 like as someone that would love to be an actor 1:24:56.840 --> 1:25:00.000 in comedy and looking at Rebel Wilson, I just love it. 1:25:00.080 --> 1:25:01.679 So I was like, gonna shoot my shot message around. 1:25:01.680 --> 1:25:05.000 I was like, okay, babe, how are you. We'd love 1:25:05.000 --> 1:25:06.880 to have you on the podcast. Blah blah blah. 1:25:06.920 --> 1:25:09.759 Didn't even expect her response. In two minutes, she wrote 1:25:09.800 --> 1:25:11.920 straight back to me. She was like, hey, love, thanks 1:25:11.920 --> 1:25:14.599 for kind words, congrats that your podcast is so amazing. 1:25:14.760 --> 1:25:16.599 I'm actually overseas film in a movie at the moment, 1:25:16.680 --> 1:25:19.120 so like I can't, but definitely we'll be in contact 1:25:19.120 --> 1:25:20.840 when you know the time comes, basically, which I'm not 1:25:20.920 --> 1:25:23.320 ever expecting her to come back and be in conduct. 1:25:22.920 --> 1:25:24.360 But I was like, yeah, no worries, babe, played are 1:25:24.400 --> 1:25:27.400 so cool. I was like, anyway, I was just so 1:25:27.400 --> 1:25:29.280 stoked with that and that's it. That's my sweets for 1:25:29.280 --> 1:25:31.920 the week. Well, on that note, guys, that has been 1:25:31.960 --> 1:25:34.400 a bloody long episode. It is so good to be back. 1:25:34.479 --> 1:25:37.200 We have missed you. We have also kind of dropped 1:25:37.200 --> 1:25:39.559 the ball a little bit on Instagram and on Facebook 1:25:39.600 --> 1:25:41.519 over the last couple of weeks. We really did take 1:25:41.520 --> 1:25:44.479 a break. But now that we're back, we are holding 1:25:44.520 --> 1:25:46.639 the reins to everything and we were back on board. 1:25:46.680 --> 1:25:49.120 Don't forget to keep your accidently on filters coming in guys. 1:25:49.160 --> 1:25:50.840 I love that and we got some really really good 1:25:50.840 --> 1:25:52.600 ones this week, so just make sure you're sliding too. 1:25:52.600 --> 1:25:54.559 The DM guys. You can send it to our Instagram 1:25:54.560 --> 1:25:57.200 which is at Life Uncut Podcast. You can send it 1:25:57.240 --> 1:25:59.599 to our Facebook group which is also at Life Uncut 1:25:59.600 --> 1:26:02.479 Podcast group. If you're not in the Facebook group, sign 1:26:02.600 --> 1:26:04.960 up where you at. 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So there are groups on the discussion group. 1:26:32.160 --> 1:26:35.000 They're like separate subgroups where they have meetup groups for 1:26:35.080 --> 1:26:38.439 their city. So absolutely cannot recommend that enough. And to 1:26:38.520 --> 1:26:40.719 you guys that are meeting up and the big Sydney 1:26:40.720 --> 1:26:43.360 group that met up, oh my god, you guys are amazing. 1:26:43.400 --> 1:26:45.360 We absolutely love to see that, so thank you and 1:26:45.400 --> 1:26:47.160 make sure that you invite us next time, because I'm 1:26:47.240 --> 1:26:48.640 kind of gip that we didn't get an invite to 1:26:48.680 --> 1:26:51.439 our own meetup group. But anyway, guys, you know the drill. 1:26:51.760 --> 1:26:53.519 Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell 1:26:53.520 --> 1:26:57.680 you Nan, tell everybody and share the love because we 1:26:57.840 --> 1:27:14.639 love love vac the bobany Apac Happen. Madame Day