WEBVTT - Would You Rather Be Happy Or Famous? 🤩 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.760 Flex and on cat Welcome to the party. 0:00:03.920 --> 0:00:04.920 It's flex and prooms. 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.280 As always, this episode is so good, is it? 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:10.360 Yeah, it's fantastic. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:13.320 I personally love when we dive a little bit deeper 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:17.759 into stuff. And also this affirms the point that I 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:20.840 made when we even started this show that people assume 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.360 we're quite similar because we've ended up in a similar place. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:28.840 And while our aspiration is like, you know, similar ish, 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:33.400 our approach is very different and our why is very different, 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:36.239 like we've ended up here very different reasons, and we 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:40.040 get into that quite deeply. We don't reach conclusion because 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:43.320 ten minutes is never enough to but there's enough juice 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:45.680 in there that you can take that topic and chuck 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.360 it in your own group chats and see. 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:47.839 What you believe in. 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.040 So we're going to talk about if you'd rather be 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:54.040 successful or happy, no special, special or happy and not 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:55.160 very special. 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:58.040 Of you to stuff it up that is special. 0:00:58.120 --> 0:00:59.240 I rarely make mistakes. 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:04.280 And we also touch on a moral dilemma of whether 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:05.640 you want to get paid a million dollars to be 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:08.120 an egg for a year. It sounds silly, but it's 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:09.200 actually quite deep. 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:11.280 Did it make you think? It makes you think? 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:12.960 I think it could be depressing, because what about if 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:14.040 you don't have anyone. 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.120 To take care of you. That's a big one. I 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:17.480 don't want to I don't want to put that out. 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:20.680 The hardest part of the question whether or not you 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:22.760 can you know someone will take care of you, as 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:24.319 opposed to whether or not you want to just like 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.200 tap out for a year and lose consciousness. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:28.520 It's never that simple. Anyway, let's get into it. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:30.280 This is flex and frooms. 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.280 I have been getting into a new TV show. It's 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:38.959 an old TV show. It's called Keeping Up with the Kardashian. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.600 Which surprises me so much. Why I just didn't think 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.080 you'd watch it, you know what? And it's not about you. 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:45.360 I think it's more about the show. 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:48.480 Oh hell so. I think it's just. 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.600 The format of the show. There are so many seasons, 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:52.760 so many episodes. And I think that the people I 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.640 know who watch the Kardashians are super fans who are 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:58.320 really really interested in being up to date with what's 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:01.240 happening as it's happening. And I'm pretty involved in the 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.920 Kardashians as well. But even I'm like too much. I 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:06.440 don't think I need to know the intricacies of how 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.359 things go down. I'm happy to see like the headline article, 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:10.600 but what do you like about it? 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:11.720 Yeah, because that's the thing. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.880 For the longest time, I was just looking at them 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:17.679 on social media, never following, not for any shade reason. 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:20.440 Just dabbling. You're a ghost follower. I'm a ghost follower. 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.120 Go through phases like once every month, I get I 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:27.360 need my little like dirty news, bad for you feed. 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.000 I'm going on the daily mail for long, going on 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:33.880 the Kardashian having a look at some Australian influences that 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:35.160 I liked when I was fifteen. 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:39.359 Kind of vibes no name dropping, nah, but not good 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:41.080 for the mental health. That type of thing, you know, 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.160 in a k hole makes you feel bad about yourself trying. 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:46.760 But I was just bored the other day looking on 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:51.079 Netflix and I saw they have The Kardashians season five 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:52.160 to season ten. 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:53.239 This is prime time. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.800 Kylie and Kendall are like thirteen and fifteen. Oh wow, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.000 super super young. I feel like this the time when 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:06.120 the Kardashians turned from kind of like not small town America, 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:10.320 but like they're still in their regular homes in Calorblassis, Calabassus, 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:15.440 and yeah, the girls are still really young, and the 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:18.560 Kardashians kind of look like what they originally looked like, 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:20.840 like there hasn't been that much surgery, et cetera. I 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:23.680 was watching the episodes where Kim Kardashian tests if her 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:26.079 butt's real. She like goes and gets an X ray. 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.000 Have you not seen that? What? Yes? 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.279 Say? It was real? Yeah? 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:35.320 This time around like twenty eleven ish where all these. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:35.800 Kind of like. 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:40.320 Magazine articles were coming out about how her asks isn't 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:44.120 real obviously because it's quite rotund. She's quite a rotund 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:47.120 And yeah, her and Corney went and got scans because 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:49.840 Courtney has fake tatars, so they showed what looks like 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:50.560 when it's fake. 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.840 And they showed Kim Kardashian's bum and it's all fat. 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:57.040 That is such a setup though, that's doing that's testing 0:03:57.040 --> 0:04:01.520 in bad faith because Courtney's breasted the silicon and Kim's 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:04.600 butt was a fat transfer. Why would her own fat 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:05.600 shop in an X ray? 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:07.160 Was it a fat transfer? 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:07.600 Yeah? 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:10.120 How do you know that? So bbl wait. 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.480 I don't do silicon butt implants anymore because they don't 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:15.960 settle very well. And then you end up seeing the 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:18.640 line of demarcation between the end of the silicon shape 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.719 and the side of your butt because with the way 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:23.799 that gravity's working, the silicon implant kind of like sits 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:27.760 below that your butt ridge. Yeah, so it's fat transfer. 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:32.080 Okay, now I feel jibbed. Yeah, But essentially what I. 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:35.919 Deduced from watching those episodes is that if you want 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.279 a little bit of like a throwback to twenty eleven 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.240 twenty fifteen culture, which you know, I love, the Kardashians 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:44.440 is a wonderful way in because all the fashion, all 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:47.400 the things they talk about are so that time, and 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:49.359 I remember watching it back when I was younger and 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.080 then returning to it you. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.400 Have a completely different rate on it. 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:55.400 But the most interesting thing that I found was that 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:59.800 in probably season six, Kim Kardashian was doing a like 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:04.200 chemist resigning, Like she was at the most random chemist, 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:08.840 doing a meet and greet, a RinkyDink bloody meet and greet, 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.560 And it just made me realize, Yes, it confirms our 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:16.120 idea that you need to be cringe to be successful. Yes, 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:18.920 doing a sit down meet and greet at a goddamn 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:22.400 chemist's probably the most cringingk you'd ever do. And there 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:26.599 wasn't fanfare there wasn't paparazzi. 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:29.400 Which goes I think that aligns neatly with the point 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:32.760 that I'm trying to make, or I'm still mulling over 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.320 what it is. But there's something about traditional celebrities that 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:38.520 will withstand the test of time because they're willing to 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.839 do what new celebrities don't want to do. New celebrities 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:43.800 don't want to be cringe. They don't want to do 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:47.200 the small shows, the small stages, the things that seem 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:51.159 beneath them, because it's really easy to have your worth 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.719 inflated when you get a bunch of views or follows 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.599 or whatever. But traditional celebrities recognize that you have to 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:59.240 do that bottom of the barrel stuff to get by. 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.960 And also the thing with the actions that we have 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:03.680 to talk about this at length at some point, but 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.000 just for now, I want to say that we should 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.640 all pay attention to how they use that TV show. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:10.560 As one long advertisement. 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:15.240 They are just so good at morphing the storylines to 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:16.800 suit whatever they're selling at the time. 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:18.080 Yeah, So if you want to have a bit of 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.640 a throwback, if you want to have a look at 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:22.839 what culture, because they are on the precipice of culture 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:23.640 whether or not we. 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:24.920 Like it or not. Absolutely, I love it. 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.640 I think originally they were more following trends. Now they 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.960 create trends, and I think it's interesting to see that 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:32.640 demarcation per season. 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:33.680 That's hot. 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:37.120 You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kita. 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:40.159 Question for you, FLEXI, would you prefer to be happy 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:41.080 or special? 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:45.200 Happy? Interesting? Would have thought the complete different answer? 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:48.680 Yeah, because I it would have been a different answer before. 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:51.560 But you know, we're going to give into that because 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:53.480 I need to pick your brain. But basically the other 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.840 day I was listening to a podcast. It's called The Imperfect. 0:06:57.000 --> 0:07:00.720 It's an Australian podcast created by Ryan Shelton, one of 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:03.359 my favorite all time comedians and writers. He's like the 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:07.080 blueprint of funny Australian comedy and he does it with 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.720 this guy called hu Van Silenberg from The Resilience Project, 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.280 which basically like teaches people how to be resilient. 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:13.880 That's sick. 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.640 Yeah, it's really cool. I love every single episode that 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:19.960 they do anyway. This one was with Glenn Robbins, the 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:23.200 guy who played kel day Night in Kathink Kim. 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.880 Not familiar but Russell Cooit. He's like Russell coit. 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:29.200 See, I'm not going to do other ones because I 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:31.840 know that you don't know anything that he's done, OK, 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.080 which is fine. I always find it so interesting that 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.880 you have this whole of knowledge where I know everything 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:38.360 about it. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:40.160 Yeah, it's kind of cool. 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:43.560 So they were talking to old May all about like 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:45.960 his acting and comedy career, and they were talking about 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:51.400 imposter syndrome and being vulnerable, and basically Ryan brought up 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:54.920 this thing that he'd heard, which was this really incredible 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:58.920 accomplished business woman was talking to someone and basically she 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:02.280 was asked the question would you rather be happy or special? 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:04.960 Because this woman is like out of the park, one 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.600 in a thousand, really really good at a job. I 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.160 doesn't sound like a lot of a thousand, you know, 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.560 one in one hundred thousand. She's like a big, big 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:13.800 one in a million. 0:08:15.040 --> 0:08:18.640 I'm being realistic. She's all right, she's right. 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.119 And basically she was asked question, Yeah, would you prefer 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:25.640 to be special or happy? And she's got a family, like, 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.119 doesn't spend enough time with them, blah blah blah. Turns 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.120 out she still would prefer to be special above you 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:35.520 know the things that I ast intensibly bring you happiness 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:40.760 like family, and it got me thinking who else in 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:43.920 this world would prefer to be special over happy? So 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.560 I put a poll on my Instagram and hear other results. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.720 Because off the dome, I could imagine more people would 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:52.760 prefer to be happy than special, because in this day 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:56.319 and age, happiness, sustained happiness feels less attainable. 0:08:57.040 --> 0:08:58.080 Do you think so? Yeah? 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.600 I think you can fake being special for little while. 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:02.880 It's so easy to niche down these days that you 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.680 can be perceived as special when you aren't. But you 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:07.400 can't really fake happiness very long. 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:12.400 Someone even say happiness is not a state, it's rather 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:16.640 a fleeting moment. But anyway, ask my audience and eighty 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:19.200 one percent of people would prefer to be happy. Oh, 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:24.679 nineteen percent said special, which I don't think is true. 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:29.080 I think people are under inflating how much they desire 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.199 to be special. But here are some of I ask 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:31.959 people to elaborate. 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:32.959 This is what people have said. 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:36.400 I ask people who would prefer to be special. They 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:40.600 said they want that because of success and bettering myself selfishly, 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.760 I think about being better than most others. Someone else 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:46.880 said recognition from multiple areas of my life. I definitely 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:50.200 conflate this with happiness. Someone said I can't picture happiness 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:53.920 without success. I think theoretically I want to be special, 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:57.400 but actually I want to be happy. Other people said 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:58.960 it about work, like I want to be the go 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:02.440 to person at work feeling appreciated and celebrated. I need 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:05.840 that in the workplace. And other people talked about I 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.960 think in part it's related to giftedness and being recognized 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:10.760 and seen, and a lot of people thought it was 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:14.680 due to childhood, either being the middle child or being 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.920 told that you are gifted or special. 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.280 That gifted and talented syndrome. 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:18.800 Hmmm. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.000 And another one that I thought was really interesting was 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.600 someone saying, I think people are lying saying they don't 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.000 want to be special. That's being no, that's not what 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:31.439 the question asked though I know, well they're just mister projectie. 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.960 And they said big Aussie culture slash tall Poppy syndrome. 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:39.960 Correlation does not equal causation. Can I can I elaborate 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:44.559 on my answer? I already feel special, So like, if 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:48.280 you're telling me, what would I rather than happy, I'm 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:50.680 not value I'm not valuing my specialness because I am. 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.000 It's like if you asked me, would you rather have 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:58.400 macas or hungry jacks. I'm going to want what I 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:01.640 don't have frequently because I already have access to what 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.599 I have access to. It's not that enticing. So the 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:08.000 question is, would you rather be special or happy? I 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.880 said happy because I already feel special? 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.119 Why do you feel special? Because I am. 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:16.840 Talk to me through the definition of special, and I 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:20.720 quote better, greater, or otherwise different from what is usual. 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:26.240 I'm already special. What areas of your life is special? Literally? Everyone? Okay? 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.840 And I also like, I'm not comparing an I need 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:31.840 specific examples for people. 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:35.040 Well, I think when I'm saying special, it's in my 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:38.400 like immediate world, Like I don't know what's happening in Lithuania. 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:41.560 I don't know what's happening in Portugal, so I can't 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:46.080 speak for that. But in terms of my network, I 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.280 feel like I'm better, greater, or special. 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:52.240 And you're happy to freely admit that to everybody? 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:57.640 Yeah, Well, because it's it's like it's not quantifiable. Being 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:02.480 special is not something you can quanti. It's you know 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:04.600 what I mean, Like, special is not a numerical thing. 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:07.720 It's like I'm not saying that I am two percent 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:11.200 smarter than everybody else, Like, I cannot quantify that, so 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:13.560 in my delusion, yeah, I'm special. 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.520 So you think it's a delusion, Well, I think in 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:17.959 my delusion, i'm special. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.480 I don't know how anyone else is quantifying what special 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:20.959 is for them? 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:22.199 Do you know what I'm saying? 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:25.080 I think so, Like, for example, if the question was 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:26.720 would you rather be perceived as. 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.000 Pretty or smart? 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:32.360 Right, you're not here being like, well, I'm sixty five 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:35.800 percent pretty and you're abcent pretty. Therefore you're just like, 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:37.960 it's a vibe. I feel pretty. I've been told I'm pretty, 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:38.959 therefore I feel pretty. 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:39.600 It is what it is. 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:41.680 I think with this one, you're asking you to put 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.920 a measurable value on what cannot be measured. 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:46.560 Mmm. 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.640 Well, let's say you have to pick one, happiness or 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:53.640 being special. So let's say in this universe, Flex is 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:56.440 really special. There's no really, there's no one like Flex 0:12:56.440 --> 0:13:00.880 in the media landscape in Australia. She does all these things. 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.280 She makes t shirts, got this Hassan. 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:05.880 T shirt to make this one. I know I wish 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:07.080 not a special. 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.520 But there's another Flex in an alternate universe. Who is 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:16.120 the happiest, most content person possible, shouldn't necessarily have much 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:19.720 special about her to the I guess yes. Something with 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.360 this is we need to define who is deciding what's special. 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:23.959 Well we are. 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:26.840 I think that's what makes the question interesting, Like as 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.400 soon as you try and broaden it to like will 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:30.720 other people validate if I'm special or happy? 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:35.120 The point is moot, so us internally to ourselves or 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:37.600 us mean flexing f ums to everybody else? 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:39.200 You to yourself? 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:42.400 Oh well, then like everybody thinks they're special. 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:43.079 That's the point. 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.560 But how closely does your inner reality align with your 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:49.520 outer reality? Like I think I'm special, and I've done 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:52.360 enough special things. I'm not grasping at straws. 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:55.719 But let's say someone is like a surgeon who has 0:13:55.840 --> 0:14:00.360 saved one hundred people's lives. They might not necessarily think 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:01.319 that you're special, but. 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.040 Who cares, Like what's this surgeon got to do with me? 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.120 Like, what's some random person who's done something that's even 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:09.559 more special got to do with me? 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.480 Because oh okay, because it's just you're trying to create this. 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:15.959 Like omnipotent measuring system where like everybody in the world 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:19.520 can be in this one ranking one definition of special 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:21.440 and it's like, well, how are you gonna know? 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:23.360 Well, I think it's because a lot of people base 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:24.600 how they feel. 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:26.880 A lot of people are you, Oh, you. 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:30.480 Do this to me every time I'm saying, I'm saying 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.400 a lot of people because in my research of people 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:36.440 the DM ME, the vast majority were saying, feeling special 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:39.120 is external validation. There's a little bit of internal, but 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:40.200 mostly it's external. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.320 Yeah. I can relate to that, and that's and that's 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.080 what I said for me, it's external and internal. 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:48.840 So let's say that special, Let's say the external gets 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:52.240 taken away. Yeah, so you feel happier more than you 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.680 feel special. I would rather be more happy than special. 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:57.680 Being special is really isolating. 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:00.400 Interesting. Okay, that's the kind of an what I was 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:06.080 hoping for. Ohe me. 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.440 That there's a lot of value being special, but that 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:15.360 value comes from a very superficial place and that's neither 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:16.080 here nor there. 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:21.120 But did you say successful or special superficial? But before that, 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.160 did you say success is superficial or specialness is superficial? 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:26.600 I was affirming what you were saying about how a 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:31.280 lot of specialness is superficial and external. Yes, But if 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.760 I had to choose, I would rather be happy, because 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.880 a lot of me seeking out specialness is to attain 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.840 some kind of happiness. Yes, you know, I would just 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.280 rather like bypass the middleman and just be happy. 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:49.560 Imagine me just toiling outside being like this time, just 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.040 like cackling all day. That amazing. 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:54.520 This is flex and frooms. 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.280 For the last I think it'd be coming up to 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:00.320 three months now. Every week we've discussed some kind of 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:03.080 way to get rich, not just for ourselves. We are 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.920 scouring the internet for the tricks of the trade and 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:09.440 then disseminating the information to you, and it's been fantastic 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.400 so far. There's been a theme of bodily fluids, selling 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:18.040 spit and bath water farts. It's all quite gross, but 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:21.640 it's making people multimillionaires, so I'm not one to judge. 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:26.640 You can't hate from outside the club. I've been trying 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.560 to find a balance of how often I look at 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.680 news and news sources, especially local versus international news. I 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.480 used to bog myself down trying to be really aware 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.320 of what's happening globally. I just go stick with locally 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:42.960 and every now and then I'll do my Bloombergs, my CNBC, 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:46.080 see what's popping off A couple of weeks ago came 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:48.000 across this headline, and you would think it came from 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.480 the onion, but it didn't listen to this. Geico, an 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:55.080 insurance company, was ordered to pay five point two million 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:59.880 dollars that's USD to a woman who contracted an str 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:05.880 during sex in an insured vehicle. Now off the dome. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:10.960 I'm trying to do the maths, like do I contact 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:12.120 the insurance company? 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.080 Is it mine? Is my car? Is it my? What's 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:19.200 going on? Is it the doctor? Huh? Is the doctor calling? 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:20.359 Oh on? 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:23.480 Behalf of you? Yeah, serving the papers and it's like, 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.640 what did the car do to you? Tell me more? 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:28.120 Let me it is. 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.359 So, it says that Geico has been ordered to pay 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:33.680 five point two million dollars in damages to a woman 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:37.000 who contracted a sexually transmitted disease in the insured vehicle 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:38.320 of her then boyfriend. 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:41.200 It says that the Missouri. 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:44.199 Court of Appeals published an opinion in favor of the 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:47.840 woman who alleged that she contracted HPV during a sexual 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:52.280 encounter in the insured vehicle in twenty seventeen. So HPV 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:56.119 can be spread through direct sexual contact or and cause like, 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:59.800 what's on the genitals and stuff. But this is the thing. 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:07.200 They're saying that the insured So the boyfriend negligently caused 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:11.760 or contributed to this girl getting HPV by not taking 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:15.640 proper precautions and neglecting to inform her of the diagnosis. 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:15.920 Right. 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:21.399 So the girl that got the HPV said that she 0:18:21.640 --> 0:18:26.280 checked her boyfriend's car insurance policy and that it covered 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:33.120 injuries and losses. So she's claiming that the damages associated 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:38.240 with contracting HPV should be covered by his insurer because 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:39.320 it happened in the car. 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:44.280 I said, sis can be my lawyer. Literally, how would 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:45.520 you want to think about me? I don't read the 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:45.960 fine print? 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:49.920 Maybe I should drick and she was a lawyer perhaps, Yeah, 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:52.000 that seems crafty for sure. 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:53.160 I'm so impressed. 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:54.360 And this definitely happened. 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.760 Yeah, this is on USA today. Oh, I don't know 0:18:57.760 --> 0:19:00.359 if that's a very good source. Why don't er and 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:04.359 then I'll believe it. I don't know is not writing 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:04.840 about this. 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:11.080 Daily mail? I'm giving you something anyway. She then filed 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:12.679 the motion with the trial court, the rule in her 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:14.840 favor and confirmed the judgment of five point two million 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:18.800 damages for past and future medical expenses. As well as 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:23.000 past and future mental and physical pain and suffering. Get it, amen, 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:25.680 that is incredible. I'm so happy for her. 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:31.119 Also, if there's a hierarchy of sexually transmitted infections, HPVA. 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:34.080 Is very low level. Yeah, so you've got a more 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:37.720 hectic one. Get more money. If you happen to contract 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:41.920 something in an ensured vehicle, look at the fine print. 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:43.160