Speaker 1: Let's do this Aska, all right? So Asking Cut is
Speaker 1: something that we do every week on My Phone Cut
Speaker 1: our podcast, and it's where you guys call up with
Speaker 1: your biggest, deep as darkest problems and we do our
Speaker 1: absolute best to answer them. And on today's show, we
Speaker 1: have Billy and Billy has a real friendship conundrum. How
Speaker 1: do you break up with a friend? Hi?
Speaker 2: Billy? Hi? Bill? What's going on? Hi? There's a lot,
Speaker 2: but I can narrow it down a little bit. So
Speaker 2: I have a friend that I met about seven months ago,
Speaker 2: but over the past few months, we've been spending kind
Speaker 2: of a lot more time, like one on one outside
Speaker 2: of the little friend group we have, and over I
Speaker 2: guess the past like two three weeks, it's just dawned
Speaker 2: on me that every time after we hang out, I'm
Speaker 2: absolutely drink and exhausted and just like, this doesn't feel
Speaker 2: good anymore the more I'm getting to know.
Speaker 3: Her, Billy, are you really American? Or is this a
Speaker 3: cover so she doesn't he know who you are?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, Oh I'm pure Texan.
Speaker 3: Okay, great, just wanted to confirms I've.
Speaker 2: Roped out in here more context and that would be funny.
Speaker 2: Hold on let me put on my other accent. Well,
Speaker 2: you sound like a fun friend.
Speaker 1: So clearly she's the problem, because you wait, what is
Speaker 1: the problem? Is the problem that you don't know hard
Speaker 1: to distance yourself from her? You want to break up
Speaker 1: with her properly, Like what is the what's the issue?
Speaker 2: The real issue is? Like, if I want to end
Speaker 2: the friendship, what do you guys think is the best
Speaker 2: way to do that? Because I have friends telling me
Speaker 2: we'll do the slow fade, you know, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: that doesn't work. I'm going to do slow fade. I
Speaker 2: go do I just directly say.
Speaker 3: Nah, you do not sit it down and break up.
Speaker 3: It's a slow fade.
Speaker 1: I think you break up with a romantic relationship like
Speaker 1: you have a one on one chat with her. You
Speaker 1: an't slow fade or romantic relationship, but a friendship you
Speaker 1: can slow fade. I think you can say I'm busy
Speaker 1: this week, Oh there's a lot going on, get a
Speaker 1: bit like less frequent with the cakes, replying it's not that.
Speaker 3: Top it is than sitting them down and saying, hey, look,
Speaker 3: this is ending.
Speaker 1: That is wayward.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because that does feel like a breakup, and I'm
Speaker 2: afraid of kind of hurting her ego just based off
Speaker 2: of like problematic behavior.
Speaker 3: The problem also is is if you're in the same
Speaker 3: group of friends and you're always going to be around
Speaker 3: each other in a group, you can't have that really
Speaker 3: weird conflict of you saying I don't want to be
Speaker 3: friends anymore because you're always going to be around each other.
Speaker 3: But you can slow fade the one on one time
Speaker 3: at the end of the day. As adults, which I'm
Speaker 3: assuming you are as adults, we are very time paul,
Speaker 3: So you do need to be selective with like who
Speaker 3: you are giving your time to. Time is such like
Speaker 3: a precious commodity, and it's pretty easy to say, hey,
Speaker 3: I am flat out at the moment, like I don't
Speaker 3: have a lot of spare time, and then you just
Speaker 3: they're going to read the room. I hope.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I think so. I think if I just
Speaker 2: kind of slowly do it and try to be a
Speaker 2: little meticulous, I think if it gets a point where
Speaker 2: the boundaries keep getting cross, maybe that's when I should
Speaker 2: sit down with her, But just a slow fade when
Speaker 2: it works.
Speaker 1: What's your fear of slow fade? Like, why do you
Speaker 1: think she's not going to get it.
Speaker 2: I think I just fear that it will take a
Speaker 2: lot of my energy. What you need to do is
Speaker 2: at least tell them, Billy, you need to at least
Speaker 2: just say, hey, I think you're a bit much.
Speaker 3: Not break up with them, but I think you need
Speaker 3: to say, like, this is intense, this.
Speaker 2: Is too much.
Speaker 3: No, Midge, No, don't listen to me.
Speaker 1: I have never had that conversation with a friend, and
Speaker 1: I have slow faded a couple. You're not too much.
Speaker 3: Where is the queen of slow fade?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just sorry.
Speaker 2: He brought up a great point. It was a great
Speaker 2: point about the social group that we have because we
Speaker 2: will be around each other a lot. And yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: I feel like a solid like friend breakup could be
Speaker 2: pretty muschy.
Speaker 3: It would get for everyone. The whole group is like, Oh,
Speaker 3: we want to have a birthday party, but we can't
Speaker 3: invite Frank and Sally because they're fighting.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, great to break and we'll
Speaker 2: give you. I'm all about it. Well, I hope that.
Speaker 1: Helps you work with that and slow fade, I reckon.
Speaker 2: I worries you can get into if you want to
Speaker 2: ask us a question as well.
Speaker 1: You know, It's a big thing though. Right, there's so
Speaker 1: many tools out there for how to break up with
Speaker 1: romantic relationships, but no one tells you how to, like,
Speaker 1: how to, you know, put some distance between you and
Speaker 1: a friend. It's very hard.
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