Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
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Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
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Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
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Speaker 1: to the podcast. With Mother's Day coming up this weekend,
Speaker 1: we thought it would be the perfect time to share
Speaker 1: a little bonus episode of the ten mistakes I've made
Speaker 1: as a mother. Now, obviously there are more of these,
Speaker 1: and these are just kind of like the ten biggest
Speaker 1: lessons that I have learned over the past two and
Speaker 1: a half years with Ivy Girl, and it was really
Speaker 1: cool to reflect and I really feel like becoming a
Speaker 1: mum has been my biggest evolution yet and has really
Speaker 1: shaped me into who I am today. And I love
Speaker 1: it because there was so much identity and limiting belief
Speaker 1: work that I had to go through. It really blew
Speaker 1: up my life and made me I guess, rethink, rethink,
Speaker 1: and redo how I do life. And I feel like,
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Speaker 1: give you this box that you feel like you have
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Speaker 1: But let's get into this episode. So number one, Ivy
Speaker 1: is always a mirror for the stuff that I'm going
Speaker 1: through or the stuff that I'm feeling, and she will
Speaker 1: bring up triggers so I can work through them. And
Speaker 1: so if you guys don't know, triggers are basically things
Speaker 1: that activate us. They show us parts of ourselves that
Speaker 1: we don't accept, that we haven't integrated, that we think
Speaker 1: are wrong that we haven't allowed. For example, a trigger
Speaker 1: that I worked out I kind of had on my
Speaker 1: mum was I was very loud. I was very out
Speaker 1: there and she was the opposite. She was very quiet,
Speaker 1: you know, good girl, like sweetest woman ever. And so
Speaker 1: me being out there and loud and like authentically myself
Speaker 1: used to trigger her and she'd be like, tew to
Speaker 1: you too loud, like you're so full on and so
Speaker 1: like our kids are just mirroring to us, like parts
Speaker 1: of ourselves that we haven't accepted. So when you notice,
Speaker 1: you know, when I notice Ivy, like there's certain things
Speaker 1: that really trigger me. Instead of getting angry at her
Speaker 1: or like getting really you know worked up, I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: why is this upsetting me so much? Like what could
Speaker 1: this lesson be? And it has been so good because
Speaker 1: for me, Ivy really triggers my patients. I have no
Speaker 1: I have no patience to you. I'm like, you don't
Speaker 1: have to tell to you dvice and so like when
Speaker 1: Ivy's going really slow, I'm like I can tell him
Speaker 1: getting like annoyed. And it's because I can't hold that
Speaker 1: within myself, right, if that makes sense. Yeah, And so
Speaker 1: they're so beautiful kids, because they just are such a
Speaker 1: mirror to all our own stuff and they really help
Speaker 1: like healing, which a lot of the lessons go back
Speaker 1: to healing. But that's kind of like my first mistake
Speaker 1: because I used to you know, snap or get angry
Speaker 1: or be a bit worked up. But now that I
Speaker 1: can lean into Ivy as a mirror, what could this be?
Speaker 1: You know, telling me it's it's been a game changer.
Speaker 2: Do you have an example of a mirror where she
Speaker 2: might be doing something you didn't allow yourself or give
Speaker 2: yourself permission to do, Like how you were with your mum.
Speaker 2: You were authentically yourself and she didn't let herself do that.
Speaker 1: When she I notice myself get really uncomfortable when she
Speaker 1: has a huge tantrum and she shows a lot of
Speaker 1: emotion because I'm someone who's very emotionless, but like I
Speaker 1: don't feel she's like, you know, I'm composed. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so when she's like in the depths of her emotions,
Speaker 1: I can feel myself get uncomfortable and get triggered interesting,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, wow, this is literally just because I
Speaker 1: don't allow myself to fully feel my feelings.
Speaker 2: And do you feel like since you've realized that you've
Speaker 2: allowed yourself to feel your feelings more, so much more.
Speaker 1: That's good, Like I cry so much more being a mom. Ah,
Speaker 1: it's really sweet. That is very sweet. So mistake number
Speaker 1: two is trying to control.
Speaker 2: I feel it comes up a lot.
Speaker 1: I feel like every single mother would be.
Speaker 2: Like, yes, I hear you, I hear you.
Speaker 1: I feel like you know a lot of us Galleys
Speaker 1: who are working moms or you know, we've got our
Speaker 1: side hustle. We can be control freaks. And Ivy is
Speaker 1: my greatest like surrender story I have. Just like it
Speaker 1: started from before she was born, when me and Tim
Speaker 1: were trying to conceive, and I remember being in this
Speaker 1: energy of like I just want a baby. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: just want a baby, and I was so was so controlling.
Speaker 1: I would like, you know, take pregnancy every single month
Speaker 1: six days before and then four days before, and like
Speaker 1: I was so obsessed and I was like doing all
Speaker 1: the tests and we were seeing all the doctors, and
Speaker 1: you know, she was just gonna come when she was
Speaker 1: meant to come, and so she really taught me surrender.
Speaker 1: And then you know, having a newborn, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's just like the wild West because you just you
Speaker 1: can't control anything. You don't know when they sleep, you
Speaker 1: don't know when they are poohing and wing and breastfeeding
Speaker 1: and all those sorts of things. So you really just
Speaker 1: have to be like surrender, full, receiving and allowing energy.
Speaker 1: I didn't enjoy the newborn phase because I wanted control right,
Speaker 1: I wanted things to go my way, and I didn't
Speaker 1: enjoy it. And that's definitely a regret that I have
Speaker 1: as a new mom, And that's advice i'd give new moms.
Speaker 1: It's like, let go control.
Speaker 2: At what point do you feel you completely let gov?
Speaker 1: Well, I honestly feel like not until like recently when
Speaker 1: she's a toddler, and I'm just like whatever, whatever, I
Speaker 1: feel like. Honestly, it's because I've been doing my own
Speaker 1: personal work and I realize how much control I need
Speaker 1: to have over everything, and so, you know, in my
Speaker 1: own personal development journey, it's been so beautiful to then
Speaker 1: have that you know, mirrord to Ivy from me, and
Speaker 1: now it's so incredible because even I notice how much
Speaker 1: I surrender with Like Tim said the other day, should
Speaker 1: we take Ivy to a speech pathologist? Because you know
Speaker 1: she's not saying as many words as the other kids
Speaker 1: in KINDI and I'm like, she's fine, she's gonna talk.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's the chatter box.
Speaker 1: Like let's leave it, let's not let it run its course.
Speaker 1: But instead of being anxious and like, oh all right,
Speaker 1: I'll go to the doctor and whatnot, because that's what
Speaker 1: we did when she was a newborn, I went to
Speaker 1: like a chiropractor and this doctor and that doctor and
Speaker 1: so yeah, yeah, I just like I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I wish I obviously wish I had this earlier on,
Speaker 1: but to like have this now and have this for
Speaker 1: like the next baby so beautiful. To learn surrender and
Speaker 1: not be control all the time.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: It's also just like so much like less work. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's stress. Literally, what is your third mistake? Okay, so
Speaker 1: realizing if you are over protective with your child, it's
Speaker 1: usually because it's a moment where you're trying to protect
Speaker 1: your inner child.
Speaker 2: Ah.
Speaker 1: I learned this and I was like, whoa, So again
Speaker 1: this is like kind of the same concept of them
Speaker 1: being a mirror. But I noticed that again, like Tim
Speaker 1: was commenting a lot about Ivy's behavior and her being
Speaker 1: like really full on and she is she's high energy,
Speaker 1: she's high spirited. But I noticed I was getting triggered
Speaker 1: and I was getting a bit annoyed at him, and
Speaker 1: I was like trying to and we'd have like, you know,
Speaker 1: some fights, and i'd be a bit frustrated, and I
Speaker 1: was trying to figure this out, and I realize it's
Speaker 1: because I felt like growing up, I didn't have that
Speaker 1: protection for.
Speaker 2: Me, like little me.
Speaker 1: So sometimes we can really get in our egos where
Speaker 1: we're like, no, she's allowed to do that, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because I only had this moment because
Speaker 1: my best friend realized this too. She had a mum
Speaker 1: who was really strict and didn't let her do anything
Speaker 1: and was like a bit cold, and so with her daughter,
Speaker 1: she kind of lets her do everything and she's like
Speaker 1: so affectionate, but probably to the point where she absolutely
Speaker 1: has not you know, yeah, you know, the opposite spectrum
Speaker 1: for correction. Yeah, And she's like, it's because I get
Speaker 1: so protective over her because no one was protective for me.
Speaker 2: Oh, I know, now that you said that, I feel
Speaker 2: like that's so common because I noticed my mom doing
Speaker 2: it about aspects of my person that would reminder of
Speaker 2: herself and also for my sister because like she was
Speaker 2: the second child and her older sister everyone like always
Speaker 2: commented on her achievement, so she like made sure my
Speaker 2: sister got extra yeah almost yeah yeah, and so you
Speaker 2: can see now yeah why so it's good.
Speaker 1: Like we're we're absolutely allowed to do that. It's quite
Speaker 1: healing for our inner child. But it's just having awareness
Speaker 1: of it. Yeah, so you're not you know, favoriting one
Speaker 1: child or like you know, just having a bit more
Speaker 1: so like me being like, oh okay, I can probably
Speaker 1: fucking relax a bit.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So so interesting. Next one is I realized I wasn't
Speaker 1: a good communicator.
Speaker 2: Guy of my mouth is open wild.
Speaker 1: I know, she literally has a podcast or she has
Speaker 1: talk all day what And I realized this because anytime
Speaker 1: that Ivy was acting out or would throw a tantrum,
Speaker 1: I would kind of backtrack, and it was a lot
Speaker 1: about me not properly communicating and talking to her. It's
Speaker 1: so funny though, because you have this newborn and they're
Speaker 1: like this little potato and you just gotta like take
Speaker 1: it places and do stuff for it, and it doesn't know,
Speaker 1: it doesn't like tell you what to do and then
Speaker 1: it turns into this toddler who's like, no, you can't
Speaker 1: just pick me up, like you gotta ask me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So for example, I went through this whole stage where
Speaker 1: I'd have to like be like, so, Ivy, we're going
Speaker 1: to have dinner. We've got lasagna, it's delicious, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna go upstairs. We're going to have a shower,
Speaker 1: we're gonna wash the dogs. Then we're gonna get into
Speaker 1: our pajamas, and then we're gonna do this and you know,
Speaker 1: like really communicating to her so she knows what's happening.
Speaker 1: Because I think with kids, we so often she should
Speaker 1: do what I say, yeah, because I'm the adult and
Speaker 1: you're the child.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then this little child.
Speaker 1: Is like I'm just getting constantly bossed around and I
Speaker 1: have no autonomy. And then even that's like if they
Speaker 1: constant like that, they'll grow up with no autonomy and
Speaker 1: they will normalize that. So it's like making sure you're communicating.
Speaker 1: And even you know, Ivy hit me the other day
Speaker 1: and so I you know, I said to her, I
Speaker 1: V like, we don't buy, we don't bite our friends
Speaker 1: and our family, and you know that hurts mummy and then.
Speaker 1: So we had a conversation later after and I said, ivy,
Speaker 1: do we buy and she said no, that hurts mummy.
Speaker 1: Oh so it's because I, like I communicated, not just
Speaker 1: being like no, don't buy, it's like explaining to her
Speaker 1: and explaining it. I did not do that, like I
Speaker 1: actually had to. I know that probably sounds so simple, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I didn't do that at the start when she
Speaker 1: was a toddler and I would just like pick her
Speaker 1: up and take her up, take her to the car,
Speaker 1: or like whatnot, and she would have a lot of reactions.
Speaker 1: I feel like, what's wrong, We're just going in the car? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and those sorts of things, and even yeah, like I've
Speaker 1: just had so many moments where I just communicate with
Speaker 1: her and I get down on her level and everything's fine.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's really powerful. What was your next mistake? Number five?
Speaker 1: Not having enough fun? I realized am actually a bit
Speaker 1: of a serious sally. He doesn't like having that much fun. No,
Speaker 1: not really, we are so serious where I hear we
Speaker 1: are lots of fun.
Speaker 2: We are lots of fun. But it can be I
Speaker 2: totally relate on like forgetting how serious you might take things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I take things yeah. Yeah, Like but E friend's
Speaker 1: like having about dumb moment and we're like, we're not
Speaker 1: saving lives here. No, it's fine, we don't need to
Speaker 1: cry about this. But also it's fine to cry.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I realized that I toltally and this was because
Speaker 1: I could just be pulling this out of thin air.
Speaker 1: But I swear in my childhood, I didn't like play
Speaker 1: a lot with my parents, Like I played with my
Speaker 1: brothers because I had bloody three of them. Yeah you
Speaker 1: were the four Yeah childhood, you know, bestie, But I
Speaker 1: didn't really play with mom and dad. So it's like
Speaker 1: I had this concept that not that you don't play
Speaker 1: with the children, but I just that never happened to me.
Speaker 1: So it's like this foreign thing where I had to
Speaker 1: like learn how to play. Yeah, I know that sounds odd,
Speaker 1: but it's like, and I've realized too with Ivy. To
Speaker 1: get her to do something, I literally just have to incorporate,
Speaker 1: incorporate play. So if I'm trying to get her out
Speaker 1: of the house, I'm like, Ivy, you know, we're going
Speaker 1: to see Summer and Sasha. We're gonna get in the
Speaker 1: car and then we can play in the playground. But
Speaker 1: we're gonna get to the car first. Do you want
Speaker 1: to hop there like a kangaroo or do you want
Speaker 1: to skip? And you're giving her options so she feels
Speaker 1: like she's in control because often kids feel like they
Speaker 1: don't have any control and that's why they want to
Speaker 1: have control, and then giving her like a playful activity
Speaker 1: rather than just like get in the car.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like walk to the car. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So that has been like a really interesting thing. And
Speaker 1: I like, I'm like learning how to play and it's
Speaker 1: like really nice and I think it's like, again, it's
Speaker 1: really healing for your inner child if you didn't have
Speaker 1: a lot of play.
Speaker 2: And at what point did you realize that?
Speaker 1: When she was kind of old enough to start playing
Speaker 1: with toys, and I just kind of realized. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't really know what to do. I know that
Speaker 1: sounds so sim fair enough, and I was just like, oh, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: And I also love that you guys have dance parties.
Speaker 2: I think it's like every morning or something that you
Speaker 2: have a dance.
Speaker 1: We love our dance parties. Ivy loves it. That's so fun.
Speaker 1: It's really good.
Speaker 2: What was your next mistake?
Speaker 1: Not giving Ivy enough connection? So I realized that if
Speaker 1: I am distracted with thoughts of business or just like
Speaker 1: you know, personal things, and I'm not giving Ivy eye contact,
Speaker 1: physical touch playing with her because you know, sometimes it
Speaker 1: is like, you know, if you've got something to do,
Speaker 1: you'll put the TV on and you just like want
Speaker 1: them to like watch TV so you can like unpack
Speaker 1: the dish washer. Yeah, but I notice if I don't
Speaker 1: give that connection and touch time to her first, she's
Speaker 1: really not okay. Like she might be okay for a
Speaker 1: little bit, and then she'll you know, have a reaction,
Speaker 1: have a tantrum. And so I notice how, and I like,
Speaker 1: I absolutely do prioritize it. But you know, like you
Speaker 1: get distracted sometimes you have to check any email on
Speaker 1: your phone, or like they're watching their show, so you
Speaker 1: go on TikTok or something like that. And I've really
Speaker 1: been so much more like conscious of that, and I'm
Speaker 1: just like, oh, this is this is she's feeling this,
Speaker 1: she feels when I'm not present and not connected to her.
Speaker 1: She's such a sensitive soul. So really prioritizing that has
Speaker 1: been such a huge thing that I feel like, I look,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm perfect, but I'm definitely progressing.
Speaker 2: What was one of the biggest shifts you made to
Speaker 2: help yourself be more present with Ivy?
Speaker 1: Put my phone away. So I often put in the
Speaker 1: top drawer and just saw it's away, because if I
Speaker 1: just like left out on the bench of the couch,
Speaker 1: I just pick it up, Yeah, to check stuff like
Speaker 1: you just do, or like you hear the notification, I
Speaker 1: just pick it up. So putting that away and then
Speaker 1: just anytime I get home, the first thing I do
Speaker 1: is like I sit down, eye contact, talk to her,
Speaker 1: how like how is her day? What does she want
Speaker 1: to do? Now? Those sorts of things. I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The next one is, oh, this is like a very
Speaker 1: like mum one, but not blaming Ivy for not being
Speaker 1: able to do things. So obviously you become you know, parents,
Speaker 1: and your whole world changes. It's like you can't do
Speaker 1: anything without adding this baby attacked to you, or like
Speaker 1: if you want to do something, you have to organize
Speaker 1: the other person, you have to organize the baby. Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's such a huge thing where it's like something so
Speaker 1: quick like going to the shop or like getting fuel
Speaker 1: or something like that. It's not that simple. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so I know this is probably like okay, clearly, but
Speaker 1: to actually experience it is really wild. And I used
Speaker 1: to blame Ivy a lot with, oh, well, I can't
Speaker 1: meditate anymore because she gets up so early, and then
Speaker 1: I can only fit in gym, so I can't fit
Speaker 1: in meditation because then I also want to spend time
Speaker 1: with her, and you know all these things. And I
Speaker 1: also used to blame her a lot about like not
Speaker 1: having creativity because you never have a spare moment and like,
Speaker 1: you know all those things. But really I just had
Speaker 1: to rejig things. I had to accept things in this
Speaker 1: new season, and I had to kind of go about
Speaker 1: things in a different way. Like the other friday I
Speaker 1: had Ivy, Tim was away, and I was I wanted
Speaker 1: to go to gym, but obviously having her usually one
Speaker 1: of us is in the house and then you know,
Speaker 1: i'd just pop out. But I had Ivy and so
Speaker 1: I took her to Krash for the first time, so cute.
Speaker 1: She loved it. It was fine, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. But and then I was like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: anytime I have Ivy and I'm having the day off
Speaker 1: on the Friday, we'll go to krash and I instead
Speaker 1: of doing gym at you know, five thirty in the morning,
Speaker 1: We'll do it at nine thirty. And I'll just like
Speaker 1: change my day around love. And so it's like just
Speaker 1: those sorts of things where it's like really start to
Speaker 1: think about, like maybe the stuff that you stopped because
Speaker 1: you're a mum, and how you can rejig that or
Speaker 1: bring that back in your life. Like it could even
Speaker 1: be talking to you know, your partner and just being like, hey,
Speaker 1: I really miss meditating or this. How can we bring
Speaker 1: this back? Like can you help me with this?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I love that, like it. It's not an excuse,
Speaker 2: it's just you need a little bit more flexibility in
Speaker 2: maybe routines you were super rigid in. I love that. Yes,
Speaker 2: and your next one.
Speaker 1: Okay, So realizing that my core beliefs are her core beliefs.
Speaker 1: This one hit hard when I realized, and it was
Speaker 1: such a and this is literally why my NH collection
Speaker 1: Be Your Own Best Friend was born, because I realized
Speaker 1: how much work I had to do on self love
Speaker 1: and how like unkind I was to myself. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: so I went on you know, this whole journey of
Speaker 1: like self love and self acceptance, which was amazing. But
Speaker 1: it was just such a reflection of like what you
Speaker 1: believe about yourself, they will believe about themselves. And that's like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's darring.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 1: It's really jarring to be like, whoa, if I'm being
Speaker 1: quite mean to myself, even if you think it's just internal,
Speaker 1: they will be replicating that behavior and when they're older,
Speaker 1: they will have those beliefs. So it's just about being
Speaker 1: so conscious about Hang on a second, what behavior am
Speaker 1: I mirroring to you know this child? What thoughts am
Speaker 1: I thinking? How do I let the you know, the
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts If I let the intrusive thoughts win, what
Speaker 1: do I say about myself? And just being so conscious
Speaker 1: about what they pick up, Like we'll even notice, you know,
Speaker 1: anytime me and Tim have a little inside jokes, like
Speaker 1: Ivy will just repeat it because she sees me and
Speaker 1: Tim joking obviously having connection, so she wants that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So it's like even something small like that, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that is so interesting, and then it kind of leads
Speaker 1: into my next one. And that's kind of realizing that
Speaker 1: you can change these core beliefs. So for example, if
Speaker 1: you heard that and you were like, oh, I've got
Speaker 1: some work to do, because I would hate for my
Speaker 1: child to have what I'm currently thinking on my head
Speaker 1: or what I believe about myself. It's realizing that you
Speaker 1: can change them. And it doesn't matter if you know
Speaker 1: your child's like ten, sixteen, eighteen, twenty, whatever. It's never
Speaker 1: too late to start modeling better behavior, better thought patterns,
Speaker 1: better core beliefs, and also start communicating about limiting beliefs.
Speaker 1: So if your child is like, oh, mummy, you know,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah said money doesn't grow on trees, then
Speaker 1: having this you know communication. Obviously it's going to depend
Speaker 1: on age if it's about money, but yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: having a communication with them and having an open dialogue
Speaker 1: with them. I even notice myself anytime I'm just like
Speaker 1: looking at Ivy and like staring. I'm like, Ivy, you
Speaker 1: can do anything. Oh, and she'll repeat it back to
Speaker 1: me and be like I can do anything.
Speaker 2: That's so and it's.
Speaker 1: So cute, and it's like, oh that's what I'm like,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this was like put on this planet
Speaker 1: to do is to empower this beautiful young lady. Oh,
Speaker 1: I know, make some crt thinking about it.
Speaker 2: And what is your last one?
Speaker 1: So the last one is just realizing that I'm going
Speaker 1: to continuously make mistakes as a mum. And it's all
Speaker 1: about like progression, not perfection. So I'll probably have ten
Speaker 1: more next year. And I think when we don't strive
Speaker 1: for perfection, but we strive for this progression, working on
Speaker 1: ourselves being the best mom. Like, I have so many
Speaker 1: moments where I'm like, I was not my best self
Speaker 1: in that moment how I spoke to Tim or how
Speaker 1: he spoke to Ivy or how I showed up. But
Speaker 1: I can be my next moment. Yeah, And so that's
Speaker 1: what that's what I focus on, and that's what I'm like.
Speaker 1: I can keep showing up as my best self even
Speaker 1: if it's that little bit better, and I can keep
Speaker 1: changing my core beliefs and I can keep empowering her.
Speaker 1: I can keep telling her you know who she can be,
Speaker 1: and all those sorts of things. And I don't have
Speaker 1: to get it right right now. Like I said, I
Speaker 1: did not get the newborn stage right.
Speaker 2: I did not know.
Speaker 1: Now I do know, But it's like about this beautiful progression.
Speaker 1: I think moms have so much pressure to be perfect,
Speaker 1: to have it all sorted out to make lunches from scratch,
Speaker 1: to be doing their self development, to be you know,
Speaker 1: catching up with friends, and then you know, providing and
Speaker 1: organizing the household and so much pressure, and I think
Speaker 1: we can be so hard on ourselves, and so I
Speaker 1: think it's about realizing that like how you're currently doing
Speaker 1: is amazing, but also about working on that progression and
Speaker 1: being like, no, I am you know, I am amazing,
Speaker 1: and I'm such a good mum, But what could I
Speaker 1: be doing? What's you know, what's the awareness piece, where's
Speaker 1: the mirror, Where's the trigger? Could I be communicating better?
Speaker 1: Could I be like learning about the different you know,
Speaker 1: age groups, the milestones, those sorts of things, but not
Speaker 1: overwhelming yourself, but still striving for progression not perfection.
Speaker 2: I love that, And I think even just like celebrating
Speaker 2: your mistakes, because if you're not making mistakes with Tim
Speaker 2: or Ivy or people in your life and you're not
Speaker 2: getting triggered, it literally just means nothing's changing and you're
Speaker 2: not moving anywhere. And if you start making mistakes and
Speaker 2: you do get triggered, that means that at least you're
Speaker 2: going in a direction, and it's probably forward and then
Speaker 2: you can go further forward faster exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love that, so beautiful.
Speaker 2: I love these lessons guys.
Speaker 1: I hope you loved this. And obviously this is going
Speaker 1: to be around Mother's Day, so happy mother to stay.
Speaker 1: I'm just setting so much love to you, guys. Bye bye.
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