1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Coomboo 3 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:10,560 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. 7 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 2: This is the podcast where. 8 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: We have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self 9 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: mix soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the 10 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: scenes of my life running two businesses and being among 11 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 1: Think of us as the perfect combo of brunch with 12 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:48,239 Speaker 1: your besties mixed with self development. No matter where you 13 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: are in your journey, we're here to help you be curious, 14 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 15 00:00:57,160 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 16 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: life and stop letting life past you by, then you're 17 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: in the right place. Hello, my loves, and welcome back 18 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 1: to the podcast. With Mother's Day coming up this weekend, 19 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: we thought it would be the perfect time to share 20 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: a little bonus episode of the ten mistakes I've made 21 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: as a mother. Now, obviously there are more of these, 22 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: and these are just kind of like the ten biggest 23 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: lessons that I have learned over the past two and 24 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: a half years with Ivy Girl, and it was really 25 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: cool to reflect and I really feel like becoming a 26 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: mum has been my biggest evolution yet and has really 27 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: shaped me into who I am today. And I love 28 00:01:54,680 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: it because there was so much identity and limiting belief 29 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: work that I had to go through. It really blew 30 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:08,799 Speaker 1: up my life and made me I guess, rethink, rethink, 31 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: and redo how I do life. And I feel like, 32 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,239 Speaker 1: if you're a mom, you completely know what I'm talking about. 33 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: And that's actually why we are doing a little sale 34 00:02:18,639 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: on Rebirth, which is our Motherhood on your Own Terms 35 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: mindset course. So this course is a four week module 36 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: plus meditations and workbooks, and it just takes you through 37 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: basically how to reprogram your mindset if you're struggling as 38 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:42,959 Speaker 1: a mum or a new mum, and create beliefs that 39 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: serve you and your family, because becoming a mum can 40 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: really give you a lot of It can kind of 41 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: give you this box that you feel like you have 42 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 1: to fit into, especially because it's something that you've never done. 43 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: And then you become a mom so you're looking to 44 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: your mom. Did you know what your sister did? Arnie's 45 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:06,799 Speaker 1: you know, people on TV, and sometimes we can really 46 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: take on these beliefs and normalize things that we don't 47 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: actually have to. So really working and just having a 48 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,839 Speaker 1: look at your mindset and your beliefs as a mom 49 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 1: is such a powerful tool. And that's why we created Rebirth. 50 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: And you know, as you birthed your babies, you really 51 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: are birthing yourself in this new season. And it is 52 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: normally five five five, and we are discounting it to 53 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: two to two, so huge discount. This is only for 54 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: the next couple of days, guys, So if you're listening 55 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: in real time, make sure you go to the show 56 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: notes and it should be directly discounted on our website. 57 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: But let's get into this episode. So number one, Ivy 58 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: is always a mirror for the stuff that I'm going 59 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: through or the stuff that I'm feeling, and she will 60 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: bring up triggers so I can work through them. And 61 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: so if you guys don't know, triggers are basically things 62 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 1: that activate us. They show us parts of ourselves that 63 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: we don't accept, that we haven't integrated, that we think 64 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: are wrong that we haven't allowed. For example, a trigger 65 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 1: that I worked out I kind of had on my 66 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: mum was I was very loud. I was very out 67 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: there and she was the opposite. She was very quiet, 68 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: you know, good girl, like sweetest woman ever. And so 69 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 1: me being out there and loud and like authentically myself 70 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: used to trigger her and she'd be like, tew to 71 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: you too loud, like you're so full on and so 72 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 1: like our kids are just mirroring to us, like parts 73 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: of ourselves that we haven't accepted. So when you notice, 74 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 1: you know, when I notice Ivy, like there's certain things 75 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 1: that really trigger me. Instead of getting angry at her 76 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: or like getting really you know worked up, I'm thinking, 77 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: why is this upsetting me so much? Like what could 78 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: this lesson be? And it has been so good because 79 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: for me, Ivy really triggers my patients. I have no 80 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: I have no patience to you. I'm like, you don't 81 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: have to tell to you dvice and so like when 82 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: Ivy's going really slow, I'm like I can tell him 83 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: getting like annoyed. And it's because I can't hold that 84 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: within myself, right, if that makes sense. Yeah, And so 85 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: they're so beautiful kids, because they just are such a 86 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 1: mirror to all our own stuff and they really help 87 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 1: like healing, which a lot of the lessons go back 88 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,799 Speaker 1: to healing. But that's kind of like my first mistake 89 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 1: because I used to you know, snap or get angry 90 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: or be a bit worked up. But now that I 91 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: can lean into Ivy as a mirror, what could this be? 92 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: You know, telling me it's it's been a game changer. 93 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 2: Do you have an example of a mirror where she 94 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 2: might be doing something you didn't allow yourself or give 95 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 2: yourself permission to do, Like how you were with your mum. 96 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 2: You were authentically yourself and she didn't let herself do that. 97 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: When she I notice myself get really uncomfortable when she 98 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: has a huge tantrum and she shows a lot of 99 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: emotion because I'm someone who's very emotionless, but like I 100 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:44,280 Speaker 1: don't feel she's like, you know, I'm composed. Yeah, And 101 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:48,919 Speaker 1: so when she's like in the depths of her emotions, 102 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 1: I can feel myself get uncomfortable and get triggered interesting, 103 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 1: and I'm like, wow, this is literally just because I 104 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: don't allow myself to fully feel my feelings. 105 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 2: And do you feel like since you've realized that you've 106 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 2: allowed yourself to feel your feelings more, so much more. 107 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: That's good, Like I cry so much more being a mom. Ah, 108 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: it's really sweet. That is very sweet. So mistake number 109 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: two is trying to control. 110 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 2: I feel it comes up a lot. 111 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 1: I feel like every single mother would be. 112 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 2: Like, yes, I hear you, I hear you. 113 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: I feel like you know a lot of us Galleys 114 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: who are working moms or you know, we've got our 115 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: side hustle. We can be control freaks. And Ivy is 116 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 1: my greatest like surrender story I have. Just like it 117 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: started from before she was born, when me and Tim 118 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: were trying to conceive, and I remember being in this 119 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: energy of like I just want a baby. Yeah, I 120 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: just want a baby, and I was so was so controlling. 121 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: I would like, you know, take pregnancy every single month 122 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: six days before and then four days before, and like 123 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: I was so obsessed and I was like doing all 124 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: the tests and we were seeing all the doctors, and 125 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: you know, she was just gonna come when she was 126 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 1: meant to come, and so she really taught me surrender. 127 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: And then you know, having a newborn, Oh my god, 128 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: it's just like the wild West because you just you 129 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: can't control anything. You don't know when they sleep, you 130 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: don't know when they are poohing and wing and breastfeeding 131 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: and all those sorts of things. So you really just 132 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 1: have to be like surrender, full, receiving and allowing energy. 133 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: I didn't enjoy the newborn phase because I wanted control right, 134 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,839 Speaker 1: I wanted things to go my way, and I didn't 135 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 1: enjoy it. And that's definitely a regret that I have 136 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: as a new mom, And that's advice i'd give new moms. 137 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,599 Speaker 1: It's like, let go control. 138 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 2: At what point do you feel you completely let gov? 139 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 1: Well, I honestly feel like not until like recently when 140 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 1: she's a toddler, and I'm just like whatever, whatever, I 141 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: feel like. Honestly, it's because I've been doing my own 142 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: personal work and I realize how much control I need 143 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: to have over everything, and so, you know, in my 144 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 1: own personal development journey, it's been so beautiful to then 145 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: have that you know, mirrord to Ivy from me, and 146 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: now it's so incredible because even I notice how much 147 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,679 Speaker 1: I surrender with Like Tim said the other day, should 148 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: we take Ivy to a speech pathologist? Because you know 149 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: she's not saying as many words as the other kids 150 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,960 Speaker 1: in KINDI and I'm like, she's fine, she's gonna talk. 151 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's the chatter box. 152 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: Like let's leave it, let's not let it run its course. 153 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: But instead of being anxious and like, oh all right, 154 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: I'll go to the doctor and whatnot, because that's what 155 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 1: we did when she was a newborn, I went to 156 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: like a chiropractor and this doctor and that doctor and 157 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 1: so yeah, yeah, I just like I'm like, oh my god, 158 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: I wish I obviously wish I had this earlier on, 159 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: but to like have this now and have this for 160 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: like the next baby so beautiful. To learn surrender and 161 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:14,800 Speaker 1: not be control all the time. 162 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 2: I love it. 163 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: It's also just like so much like less work. Yeah, 164 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 1: let's stress. Literally, what is your third mistake? Okay, so 165 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 1: realizing if you are over protective with your child, it's 166 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: usually because it's a moment where you're trying to protect 167 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: your inner child. 168 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 2: Ah. 169 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 1: I learned this and I was like, whoa, So again 170 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:42,079 Speaker 1: this is like kind of the same concept of them 171 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: being a mirror. But I noticed that again, like Tim 172 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: was commenting a lot about Ivy's behavior and her being 173 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 1: like really full on and she is she's high energy, 174 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 1: she's high spirited. But I noticed I was getting triggered 175 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: and I was getting a bit annoyed at him, and 176 00:10:57,720 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: I was like trying to and we'd have like, you know, 177 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: some fights, and i'd be a bit frustrated, and I 178 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:06,080 Speaker 1: was trying to figure this out, and I realize it's 179 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: because I felt like growing up, I didn't have that 180 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: protection for. 181 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 2: Me, like little me. 182 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 1: So sometimes we can really get in our egos where 183 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: we're like, no, she's allowed to do that, blah blah blah. 184 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 185 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: It's so interesting because I only had this moment because 186 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,960 Speaker 1: my best friend realized this too. She had a mum 187 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: who was really strict and didn't let her do anything 188 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 1: and was like a bit cold, and so with her daughter, 189 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: she kind of lets her do everything and she's like 190 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: so affectionate, but probably to the point where she absolutely 191 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: has not you know, yeah, you know, the opposite spectrum 192 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: for correction. Yeah, And she's like, it's because I get 193 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 1: so protective over her because no one was protective for me. 194 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 2: Oh, I know, now that you said that, I feel 195 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 2: like that's so common because I noticed my mom doing 196 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 2: it about aspects of my person that would reminder of 197 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 2: herself and also for my sister because like she was 198 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 2: the second child and her older sister everyone like always 199 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 2: commented on her achievement, so she like made sure my 200 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 2: sister got extra yeah almost yeah yeah, and so you 201 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 2: can see now yeah why so it's good. 202 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 1: Like we're we're absolutely allowed to do that. It's quite 203 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: healing for our inner child. But it's just having awareness 204 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: of it. Yeah, so you're not you know, favoriting one 205 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: child or like you know, just having a bit more 206 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: so like me being like, oh okay, I can probably 207 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: fucking relax a bit. 208 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. 209 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: So so interesting. Next one is I realized I wasn't 210 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: a good communicator. 211 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 2: Guy of my mouth is open wild. 212 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: I know, she literally has a podcast or she has 213 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:55,000 Speaker 1: talk all day what And I realized this because anytime 214 00:12:55,160 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: that Ivy was acting out or would throw a tantrum, 215 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: I would kind of backtrack, and it was a lot 216 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: about me not properly communicating and talking to her. It's 217 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:08,720 Speaker 1: so funny though, because you have this newborn and they're 218 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 1: like this little potato and you just gotta like take 219 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 1: it places and do stuff for it, and it doesn't know, 220 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 1: it doesn't like tell you what to do and then 221 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,440 Speaker 1: it turns into this toddler who's like, no, you can't 222 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:20,720 Speaker 1: just pick me up, like you gotta ask me. 223 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. 224 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: So for example, I went through this whole stage where 225 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: I'd have to like be like, so, Ivy, we're going 226 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: to have dinner. We've got lasagna, it's delicious, and then 227 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 1: we're gonna go upstairs. We're going to have a shower, 228 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: we're gonna wash the dogs. Then we're gonna get into 229 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: our pajamas, and then we're gonna do this and you know, 230 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: like really communicating to her so she knows what's happening. 231 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: Because I think with kids, we so often she should 232 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 1: do what I say, yeah, because I'm the adult and 233 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: you're the child. 234 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:54,239 Speaker 2: Yeah. And then this little child. 235 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: Is like I'm just getting constantly bossed around and I 236 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: have no autonomy. And then even that's like if they 237 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: constant like that, they'll grow up with no autonomy and 238 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: they will normalize that. So it's like making sure you're communicating. 239 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: And even you know, Ivy hit me the other day 240 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 1: and so I you know, I said to her, I 241 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:17,199 Speaker 1: V like, we don't buy, we don't bite our friends 242 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: and our family, and you know that hurts mummy and then. 243 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: So we had a conversation later after and I said, ivy, 244 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: do we buy and she said no, that hurts mummy. 245 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: Oh so it's because I, like I communicated, not just 246 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 1: being like no, don't buy, it's like explaining to her 247 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: and explaining it. I did not do that, like I 248 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 1: actually had to. I know that probably sounds so simple, Yeah, 249 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 1: but I didn't do that at the start when she 250 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: was a toddler and I would just like pick her 251 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:46,600 Speaker 1: up and take her up, take her to the car, 252 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: or like whatnot, and she would have a lot of reactions. 253 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: I feel like, what's wrong, We're just going in the car? Yeah, 254 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 1: and those sorts of things, and even yeah, like I've 255 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 1: just had so many moments where I just communicate with 256 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 1: her and I get down on her level and everything's fine. 257 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 2: Wow, that's really powerful. What was your next mistake? Number five? 258 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: Not having enough fun? I realized am actually a bit 259 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:18,920 Speaker 1: of a serious sally. He doesn't like having that much fun. No, 260 00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: not really, we are so serious where I hear we 261 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: are lots of fun. 262 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 2: We are lots of fun. But it can be I 263 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 2: totally relate on like forgetting how serious you might take things. 264 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I take things yeah. Yeah, Like but E friend's 265 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: like having about dumb moment and we're like, we're not 266 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 1: saving lives here. No, it's fine, we don't need to 267 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: cry about this. But also it's fine to cry. 268 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 269 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I realized that I toltally and this was because 270 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 1: I could just be pulling this out of thin air. 271 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 1: But I swear in my childhood, I didn't like play 272 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: a lot with my parents, Like I played with my 273 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 1: brothers because I had bloody three of them. Yeah you 274 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 1: were the four Yeah childhood, you know, bestie, But I 275 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 1: didn't really play with mom and dad. So it's like 276 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 1: I had this concept that not that you don't play 277 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: with the children, but I just that never happened to me. 278 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: So it's like this foreign thing where I had to 279 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 1: like learn how to play. Yeah, I know that sounds odd, 280 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 1: but it's like, and I've realized too with Ivy. To 281 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: get her to do something, I literally just have to incorporate, 282 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: incorporate play. So if I'm trying to get her out 283 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 1: of the house, I'm like, Ivy, you know, we're going 284 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: to see Summer and Sasha. We're gonna get in the 285 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: car and then we can play in the playground. But 286 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: we're gonna get to the car first. Do you want 287 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: to hop there like a kangaroo or do you want 288 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: to skip? And you're giving her options so she feels 289 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:55,640 Speaker 1: like she's in control because often kids feel like they 290 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: don't have any control and that's why they want to 291 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: have control, and then giving her like a playful activity 292 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:04,200 Speaker 1: rather than just like get in the car. 293 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, like walk to the car. Yeah. 294 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:09,159 Speaker 1: So that has been like a really interesting thing. And 295 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: I like, I'm like learning how to play and it's 296 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: like really nice and I think it's like, again, it's 297 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 1: really healing for your inner child if you didn't have 298 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:16,640 Speaker 1: a lot of play. 299 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 2: And at what point did you realize that? 300 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,919 Speaker 1: When she was kind of old enough to start playing 301 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 1: with toys, and I just kind of realized. I was like, oh, 302 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 1: I don't really know what to do. I know that 303 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:34,119 Speaker 1: sounds so sim fair enough, and I was just like, oh, yeah, okay. 304 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 2: And I also love that you guys have dance parties. 305 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 2: I think it's like every morning or something that you 306 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:40,359 Speaker 2: have a dance. 307 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:44,359 Speaker 1: We love our dance parties. Ivy loves it. That's so fun. 308 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 1: It's really good. 309 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 2: What was your next mistake? 310 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 1: Not giving Ivy enough connection? So I realized that if 311 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:57,439 Speaker 1: I am distracted with thoughts of business or just like 312 00:17:57,520 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 1: you know, personal things, and I'm not giving Ivy eye contact, 313 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 1: physical touch playing with her because you know, sometimes it 314 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,600 Speaker 1: is like, you know, if you've got something to do, 315 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: you'll put the TV on and you just like want 316 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,359 Speaker 1: them to like watch TV so you can like unpack 317 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: the dish washer. Yeah, but I notice if I don't 318 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: give that connection and touch time to her first, she's 319 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 1: really not okay. Like she might be okay for a 320 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 1: little bit, and then she'll you know, have a reaction, 321 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 1: have a tantrum. And so I notice how, and I like, 322 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: I absolutely do prioritize it. But you know, like you 323 00:18:35,960 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: get distracted sometimes you have to check any email on 324 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,439 Speaker 1: your phone, or like they're watching their show, so you 325 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: go on TikTok or something like that. And I've really 326 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:47,160 Speaker 1: been so much more like conscious of that, and I'm 327 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:52,119 Speaker 1: just like, oh, this is this is she's feeling this, 328 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:57,480 Speaker 1: she feels when I'm not present and not connected to her. 329 00:18:57,680 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: She's such a sensitive soul. So really prioritizing that has 330 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: been such a huge thing that I feel like, I look, 331 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:08,160 Speaker 1: I don't think I'm perfect, but I'm definitely progressing. 332 00:19:08,560 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 2: What was one of the biggest shifts you made to 333 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,800 Speaker 2: help yourself be more present with Ivy? 334 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:16,879 Speaker 1: Put my phone away. So I often put in the 335 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: top drawer and just saw it's away, because if I 336 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 1: just like left out on the bench of the couch, 337 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: I just pick it up, Yeah, to check stuff like 338 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: you just do, or like you hear the notification, I 339 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: just pick it up. So putting that away and then 340 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:32,000 Speaker 1: just anytime I get home, the first thing I do 341 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: is like I sit down, eye contact, talk to her, 342 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:37,640 Speaker 1: how like how is her day? What does she want 343 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: to do? Now? Those sorts of things. I love that. 344 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:41,199 Speaker 2: Yeah. 345 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: The next one is, oh, this is like a very 346 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: like mum one, but not blaming Ivy for not being 347 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:57,880 Speaker 1: able to do things. So obviously you become you know, parents, 348 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 1: and your whole world changes. It's like you can't do 349 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:07,199 Speaker 1: anything without adding this baby attacked to you, or like 350 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:10,120 Speaker 1: if you want to do something, you have to organize 351 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 1: the other person, you have to organize the baby. Like, yeah, 352 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 1: it's such a huge thing where it's like something so 353 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:18,440 Speaker 1: quick like going to the shop or like getting fuel 354 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: or something like that. It's not that simple. Yeah, And 355 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 1: so I know this is probably like okay, clearly, but 356 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 1: to actually experience it is really wild. And I used 357 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:32,879 Speaker 1: to blame Ivy a lot with, oh, well, I can't 358 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: meditate anymore because she gets up so early, and then 359 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 1: I can only fit in gym, so I can't fit 360 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,360 Speaker 1: in meditation because then I also want to spend time 361 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: with her, and you know all these things. And I 362 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,359 Speaker 1: also used to blame her a lot about like not 363 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: having creativity because you never have a spare moment and like, 364 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: you know all those things. But really I just had 365 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 1: to rejig things. I had to accept things in this 366 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:01,159 Speaker 1: new season, and I had to kind of go about 367 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: things in a different way. Like the other friday I 368 00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: had Ivy, Tim was away, and I was I wanted 369 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 1: to go to gym, but obviously having her usually one 370 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 1: of us is in the house and then you know, 371 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 1: i'd just pop out. But I had Ivy and so 372 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,400 Speaker 1: I took her to Krash for the first time, so cute. 373 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 1: She loved it. It was fine, and I was like, oh, 374 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: this is amazing. But and then I was like, okay, cool, 375 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,640 Speaker 1: anytime I have Ivy and I'm having the day off 376 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 1: on the Friday, we'll go to krash and I instead 377 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,120 Speaker 1: of doing gym at you know, five thirty in the morning, 378 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,720 Speaker 1: We'll do it at nine thirty. And I'll just like 379 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 1: change my day around love. And so it's like just 380 00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 1: those sorts of things where it's like really start to 381 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 1: think about, like maybe the stuff that you stopped because 382 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 1: you're a mum, and how you can rejig that or 383 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 1: bring that back in your life. Like it could even 384 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:54,960 Speaker 1: be talking to you know, your partner and just being like, hey, 385 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:59,440 Speaker 1: I really miss meditating or this. How can we bring 386 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:00,919 Speaker 1: this back? Like can you help me with this? 387 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 2: Yeah? I love that, like it. It's not an excuse, 388 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 2: it's just you need a little bit more flexibility in 389 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 2: maybe routines you were super rigid in. I love that. Yes, 390 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 2: and your next one. 391 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 1: Okay, So realizing that my core beliefs are her core beliefs. 392 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,280 Speaker 1: This one hit hard when I realized, and it was 393 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:29,320 Speaker 1: such a and this is literally why my NH collection 394 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 1: Be Your Own Best Friend was born, because I realized 395 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 1: how much work I had to do on self love 396 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 1: and how like unkind I was to myself. Yeah, and 397 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 1: so I went on you know, this whole journey of 398 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 1: like self love and self acceptance, which was amazing. But 399 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:49,040 Speaker 1: it was just such a reflection of like what you 400 00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 1: believe about yourself, they will believe about themselves. And that's like, oh, 401 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: it's darring. 402 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:56,200 Speaker 2: It is. 403 00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: It's really jarring to be like, whoa, if I'm being 404 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,719 Speaker 1: quite mean to myself, even if you think it's just internal, 405 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:08,679 Speaker 1: they will be replicating that behavior and when they're older, 406 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,120 Speaker 1: they will have those beliefs. So it's just about being 407 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:17,680 Speaker 1: so conscious about Hang on a second, what behavior am 408 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 1: I mirroring to you know this child? What thoughts am 409 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: I thinking? How do I let the you know, the 410 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:29,840 Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts If I let the intrusive thoughts win, what 411 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: do I say about myself? And just being so conscious 412 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: about what they pick up, Like we'll even notice, you know, 413 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,919 Speaker 1: anytime me and Tim have a little inside jokes, like 414 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,919 Speaker 1: Ivy will just repeat it because she sees me and 415 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: Tim joking obviously having connection, so she wants that. 416 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 417 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,120 Speaker 1: So it's like even something small like that, I'm like, oh, 418 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: that is so interesting, and then it kind of leads 419 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:59,240 Speaker 1: into my next one. And that's kind of realizing that 420 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: you can change these core beliefs. So for example, if 421 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 1: you heard that and you were like, oh, I've got 422 00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:09,439 Speaker 1: some work to do, because I would hate for my 423 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 1: child to have what I'm currently thinking on my head 424 00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 1: or what I believe about myself. It's realizing that you 425 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,639 Speaker 1: can change them. And it doesn't matter if you know 426 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 1: your child's like ten, sixteen, eighteen, twenty, whatever. It's never 427 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:29,680 Speaker 1: too late to start modeling better behavior, better thought patterns, 428 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:35,160 Speaker 1: better core beliefs, and also start communicating about limiting beliefs. 429 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:38,119 Speaker 1: So if your child is like, oh, mummy, you know, 430 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:41,880 Speaker 1: blah blah blah said money doesn't grow on trees, then 431 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 1: having this you know communication. Obviously it's going to depend 432 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,199 Speaker 1: on age if it's about money, but yeah, you know, 433 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,480 Speaker 1: having a communication with them and having an open dialogue 434 00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:55,640 Speaker 1: with them. I even notice myself anytime I'm just like 435 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: looking at Ivy and like staring. I'm like, Ivy, you 436 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:04,720 Speaker 1: can do anything. Oh, and she'll repeat it back to 437 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: me and be like I can do anything. 438 00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 2: That's so and it's. 439 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 1: So cute, and it's like, oh that's what I'm like, 440 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god, this was like put on this planet 441 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:17,960 Speaker 1: to do is to empower this beautiful young lady. Oh, 442 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 1: I know, make some crt thinking about it. 443 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 2: And what is your last one? 444 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: So the last one is just realizing that I'm going 445 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:31,160 Speaker 1: to continuously make mistakes as a mum. And it's all 446 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 1: about like progression, not perfection. So I'll probably have ten 447 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: more next year. And I think when we don't strive 448 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: for perfection, but we strive for this progression, working on 449 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 1: ourselves being the best mom. Like, I have so many 450 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 1: moments where I'm like, I was not my best self 451 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: in that moment how I spoke to Tim or how 452 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 1: he spoke to Ivy or how I showed up. But 453 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,679 Speaker 1: I can be my next moment. Yeah, And so that's 454 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,919 Speaker 1: what that's what I focus on, and that's what I'm like. 455 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 1: I can keep showing up as my best self even 456 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 1: if it's that little bit better, and I can keep 457 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 1: changing my core beliefs and I can keep empowering her. 458 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 1: I can keep telling her you know who she can be, 459 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: and all those sorts of things. And I don't have 460 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 1: to get it right right now. Like I said, I 461 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,000 Speaker 1: did not get the newborn stage right. 462 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:25,479 Speaker 2: I did not know. 463 00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 1: Now I do know, But it's like about this beautiful progression. 464 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 1: I think moms have so much pressure to be perfect, 465 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,360 Speaker 1: to have it all sorted out to make lunches from scratch, 466 00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,879 Speaker 1: to be doing their self development, to be you know, 467 00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,919 Speaker 1: catching up with friends, and then you know, providing and 468 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:50,880 Speaker 1: organizing the household and so much pressure, and I think 469 00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:54,080 Speaker 1: we can be so hard on ourselves, and so I 470 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:57,800 Speaker 1: think it's about realizing that like how you're currently doing 471 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:03,719 Speaker 1: is amazing, but also about working on that progression and 472 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 1: being like, no, I am you know, I am amazing, 473 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:09,520 Speaker 1: and I'm such a good mum, But what could I 474 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,439 Speaker 1: be doing? What's you know, what's the awareness piece, where's 475 00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 1: the mirror, Where's the trigger? Could I be communicating better? 476 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: Could I be like learning about the different you know, 477 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 1: age groups, the milestones, those sorts of things, but not 478 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: overwhelming yourself, but still striving for progression not perfection. 479 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 2: I love that, And I think even just like celebrating 480 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:33,360 Speaker 2: your mistakes, because if you're not making mistakes with Tim 481 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 2: or Ivy or people in your life and you're not 482 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 2: getting triggered, it literally just means nothing's changing and you're 483 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 2: not moving anywhere. And if you start making mistakes and 484 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 2: you do get triggered, that means that at least you're 485 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 2: going in a direction, and it's probably forward and then 486 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 2: you can go further forward faster exactly. Yeah. 487 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,080 Speaker 1: I love that, so beautiful. 488 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,639 Speaker 2: I love these lessons guys. 489 00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,399 Speaker 1: I hope you loved this. And obviously this is going 490 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,520 Speaker 1: to be around Mother's Day, so happy mother to stay. 491 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:07,760 Speaker 1: I'm just setting so much love to you, guys. Bye bye. 492 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,399 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of 493 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer podcast. 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