Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the
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Speaker 2: but then like trying to pick up what they.
Speaker 3: Miss trying to pick up the ball, and they're like chasing.
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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Potty.
Speaker 1: It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lower turned entrepreneur, mum,
Speaker 1: business owner, all the things, guys.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Fridays are our fun g hotline episodes where you give
Speaker 1: us your life dilemmas and we provide you with very
Speaker 1: unqualified two cents on the situation. Except today we are
Speaker 1: joined by some very special guests. Sal and Awl from
Speaker 1: the Two Broke Chicks podcast join me and we chat
Speaker 1: about all things love, dating, and just going through life
Speaker 1: in your twenties. I've been in a relationship since I
Speaker 1: was seventeen, so I loved having the girls on because
Speaker 1: I didn't know a lot of these things and it
Speaker 1: was just hilarious. We talk about X, we talk about
Speaker 1: red flags, green flags, all the things. We have so
Speaker 1: much fun. These girls are just they're so funny. They
Speaker 1: are too much. You guys are gonna be obsessed with
Speaker 1: this episode. But before we get into the show, can
Speaker 1: I tell them?
Speaker 4: Sure? You can tell them again.
Speaker 1: I haven't told them, but pretty much have.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I tel You's about as subtle as
Speaker 5: a gun when it comes to launching what like, I
Speaker 5: just love being transparent was with a little secrecy.
Speaker 2: All the time.
Speaker 1: The field hight All right, guys, you've probably seen it
Speaker 1: all over my Instagram, and if you haven't guessed it
Speaker 1: by now, you're not a true R and C fan.
Speaker 1: Let's just say that, so we have officially. I think
Speaker 1: you guys will see a bit later today.
Speaker 4: No, they'll see it on Sunday.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all right, So we officially are going to
Speaker 1: announce us on Sunday.
Speaker 4: But because you're my gang, you're the club we want
Speaker 4: to remember. Watch you for listening to the podcast We
Speaker 4: Love the rn C Club.
Speaker 1: You guys may have seen, but we're launching a beautiful
Speaker 1: rn C time stamped Sunset water bottle. It's not really sunset,
Speaker 1: it's our brain colors, but that's the fo So I've
Speaker 1: you may have seen the sample a lot in my stories,
Speaker 1: and it's because I've been using it for a very
Speaker 1: long time and I'm just obsessed.
Speaker 4: It's so bloody cute, it's stunning.
Speaker 5: It's like I loved it when it first got here,
Speaker 5: and every time I look at it, I just love
Speaker 5: it even more.
Speaker 4: A two years obsessed. But basically these are launching on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: Stay tuned. But we were just thinking we want to
Speaker 1: do something fun at the end of the year, and
Speaker 1: how fun would it be if you know, you're sitting
Speaker 1: on the bus walking across the road and you see
Speaker 1: someone with a beautiful rn C water bottle and he
Speaker 1: would love it. You just give them the nod like yeah,
Speaker 1: you're in the club.
Speaker 4: So more deeds of that will be on our Instagram
Speaker 4: you can check that out.
Speaker 5: And join the Facebook group if you want to see
Speaker 5: it right now, because we did goat Brogan there.
Speaker 1: We just will of course we tell the fate the
Speaker 1: FB group first. Yeah, it's important, but quick recommendation for
Speaker 1: the week of tcau epis long.
Speaker 5: Mine is just to do something outside.
Speaker 4: The water is the weather. The water. You haven't been
Speaker 4: in the water.
Speaker 5: The weather is stunning on the Gold Coast, and I
Speaker 5: forgot how refreshing it is to just like go for.
Speaker 4: A walk outside because that's not something I do often,
Speaker 4: but everybody here does. Simple reminder, but it's important.
Speaker 5: Yes, what's your recommendation this week, Georgie.
Speaker 1: I've got a very basic bitch recommendation and it's the
Speaker 1: book you've seen everywhere.
Speaker 4: It's all over TikTok It ends with Us by Colleen Hoover.
Speaker 4: I'm obsessed. I get hype. It's so good. Is it
Speaker 4: traumatic though?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, like it's definitely definitely trigger warning.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just it was hugely insightful because I guess to
Speaker 1: understand how I feel like you can really put someone
Speaker 1: in a box in a certain relationship, and it was
Speaker 1: really really insightful to like, understand how that person felt
Speaker 1: and maybe you know the option.
Speaker 4: She had, et cetera.
Speaker 1: So I found it really insightful. I personally love a
Speaker 1: love story. And yeah, I bought the second book and
Speaker 1: currently reading that. So it's probably gonna be next week's recommendation,
Speaker 1: but it was great. Do you recommend I.
Speaker 5: Will give it a go.
Speaker 4: It's on my bedside table. Let's get into the show.
Speaker 1: Okay, Sal and Owl, I'm gonna call you all episode. So,
Speaker 1: first of all, before we get into the fun Friday
Speaker 1: hotline questions, can you just tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: about you?
Speaker 2: Sure one of you to take? So Saal and I
Speaker 2: have been best friends for six years. We met both
Speaker 2: working as shoppingjournalist. Well, I worked as a shopping journalist.
Speaker 2: Sour worked as a finance editor, so my job was
Speaker 2: a lot more fun. And we met because South told
Speaker 2: me she liked my geenes. So like from that point
Speaker 2: we were just like best friends. Within one month, we
Speaker 2: had matching tattoos. Oh my god, yeah yeah, we both
Speaker 2: had like it's a rose, Like, it's so basic, it's
Speaker 2: so late.
Speaker 1: We went to a tattoo expo. We were like, let's
Speaker 1: get tats.
Speaker 3: Now we have four matching tattoos.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, we can't do anything to get another one.
Speaker 4: Yeah on this.
Speaker 1: Trip yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: And so fast forward now we have our podcast together.
Speaker 3: Two boat chicks, we would say, now and yeah, it's
Speaker 3: just vibes. Basically we're the same human being.
Speaker 1: Two psychopaths a bit different. Yeah, it's like the same particular. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're either like.
Speaker 2: Completely the same on something or like polar opposite. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love.
Speaker 4: A different opinion.
Speaker 3: But were we saying how you're like the cold one.
Speaker 2: Like no, no, no, like that friends someone like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: when someone's like, well we don't like something called like
Speaker 2: someone's mean or whatever it is, Sour will be like
Speaker 2: the ice queen and I'm like an Aries, So I'll
Speaker 2: be like fire and be like like.
Speaker 6: Yeah, what's like TikTok trend And it's like, oh, Golden
Speaker 6: Retrieve a black car.
Speaker 2: Ye yeah, I'm the Golden Retriever. She's a black cat.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: What star signed?
Speaker 1: So you're Aries and I'm a Pisces.
Speaker 4: Interesting balanced? Yeah that is really balanced. I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's your star sign?
Speaker 4: I'm a Leo.
Speaker 3: Into it, yeah, spicy into it. Yeah.
Speaker 2: We always say that I'm the peronification of a spicy mug.
Speaker 3: Yeah, in a person.
Speaker 4: I would agree love.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And so how did the podcast actually eventuate?
Speaker 4: Like whose idea was it?
Speaker 1: How did it kind of get picked up?
Speaker 4: And tells the.
Speaker 6: Goss Well, pretty much, our bosses saw us interacting in
Speaker 6: the office and saw us being BF.
Speaker 1: So you're working at the same place, yeah, and that's
Speaker 1: what magazine or Finder?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're still working there.
Speaker 6: But yeah, our bosses saw us interacting and saw us
Speaker 6: being BFF, and they were like, we need to do
Speaker 6: something with these two talking heads. And there'd been a
Speaker 6: few different podcasts at the company that we worked at before,
Speaker 6: and then we were like, you know how besties are always.
Speaker 1: Like we should have a podcast.
Speaker 6: We were like, we're actually sure, Like we're so fanny,
Speaker 6: They're like, shut up, but yeah, So we pretty much
Speaker 6: just pitched it to our work and they were like, yeah,
Speaker 6: we may as well make.
Speaker 1: You some the fact that you do never shut up.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Everyone at work was like when our desks got
Speaker 2: moved next to each other, because obviously we worked in
Speaker 2: different teams, yeah, but when our desks got moved next
Speaker 2: to each other, everyone at work walked past that day
Speaker 2: and like, who thought this was a good idea. They
Speaker 2: were like, what who approved? And we'd got like when
Speaker 2: they got moved next to each other. H. I was like,
Speaker 2: you guys have been given a chance now, so like
Speaker 2: you need to They were like, you need to make
Speaker 2: sure that you don't take advantage of the fact that
Speaker 2: you get to sit next to each other.
Speaker 3: And we definitely got an always.
Speaker 4: Complaint and we definitely did take advantage.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, yeah, we got like because you could send
Speaker 2: in like feedback, and someone was like, sound out, like
Speaker 2: a really good relationship with each other, and it's so
Speaker 2: nice that they can be best friends.
Speaker 3: But do you think that they could maybe keep it
Speaker 3: down at lunchtime? And we all like.
Speaker 4: Rude, So sure, sorry, probably so valid.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was definitely valid.
Speaker 2: But then the next line, someone was like, why are
Speaker 2: you guys being so quiet because normally lunchtime it's like
Speaker 2: sound algia usually.
Speaker 4: Lunch and show.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I was like, why are you guys being boring?
Speaker 6: We got in trouble, were giving people what they want exactly,
Speaker 6: We're got in trouble.
Speaker 1: And so do you guys still work, like, like do
Speaker 1: your other jobs as well as the podcast?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've kind of moved more into like sours
Speaker 2: moved more into shopping journalism, and we kind of do
Speaker 2: that alongside Two Boat Chicks as well, because that's kind
Speaker 2: of how the brand started a little bit, like Two
Speaker 2: Boat Chicks was a lot more about shopping, and yeah,
Speaker 2: it still is, but then we kind of spread out
Speaker 2: into more like lifestyle content and things like that, and
Speaker 2: then it's just kind of built to be everything, but
Speaker 2: we still have crippling shopping addictions.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, I was going to ask, so, like the name,
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 4: Did it literally just come from shopping?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: It was going to be two Broke Girls, and then
Speaker 2: there was that TV show do you remember the one?
Speaker 2: And it was like ages ago, Maybe not.
Speaker 4: It's the two things.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, yeah it was two Broke Girls. And then
Speaker 2: legal was like you can do that. So we were like,
Speaker 2: all right, two Broke Chicks, crazy idea to shake it out.
Speaker 1: They're like, we love it.
Speaker 4: I love it.
Speaker 2: I'm seeing in like Brooklyn nine and he's like showing
Speaker 2: the photos.
Speaker 3: It's like it's the same photo. It's the same. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but yeah.
Speaker 4: That's amazing.
Speaker 1: And I love anyone who can take, you know, their passion,
Speaker 1: something they love doing and turn it into you know,
Speaker 1: I don't want to say the word job, but that
Speaker 1: sort of thing like that's incredible.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we feel so lucky.
Speaker 2: Like obviously you would know as well, like you work
Speaker 2: across so many things and so much content creation as well,
Speaker 2: that sometimes you can be like like, work can always
Speaker 2: be annoying, and sometimes whenever we're having those moments being like.
Speaker 3: Oh there's so much to do, we're like, wait, we
Speaker 3: have our dream job.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've stopp being ungrateful little solks and reality too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need to remind yourself. And I'm sure you
Speaker 1: guys have had previous jobs.
Speaker 4: That you didn't love.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and you've got to kind of like think
Speaker 1: back to them. That's what I was doing, and I'm
Speaker 1: always like, it's fine, I can get through this day.
Speaker 2: To be honest, I think my job when I was
Speaker 2: fourteen was pretty up there. I worked in a patisserie,
Speaker 2: so I'd get free pies and cupcakes all the time.
Speaker 3: How I wasn't the side.
Speaker 2: No, it was just like a cute little like family
Speaker 2: one just down the road, and I was like great,
Speaker 2: and I'd come home with like a loaf of bread pies.
Speaker 2: Mum was living the dream.
Speaker 4: I worked at Hogs bread and would eat all the food.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, the best, the best.
Speaker 4: I worked at a chicken shop and I was the same.
Speaker 6: I feel like in the hot chip traving like they're like,
Speaker 6: there's customers. I was like, I'm showing them how good
Speaker 6: the product, Like you're fine.
Speaker 2: I worked at Grilled as well, but the legal reasons
Speaker 2: we worked we won't the home expand on that Okay
Speaker 2: girl away as well. But you know, slovelover, isn't that funky?
Speaker 4: Noted noted. I was about to say, do you guys.
Speaker 1: Have any other previous fun jobs that used to do
Speaker 1: before the funnest job you got?
Speaker 6: Well, I still work as a freelance music journalist on
Speaker 6: the side, so I've written for like Rolling Stone and
Speaker 6: music Feeds, So those are probably the funnest ones, like
Speaker 6: just interviewing getting paid to interview bands.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, Yeah, that's incredible.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I worked as a nanny and that was a
Speaker 2: vibe because I just got to watch Disney movies all
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 7: Well.
Speaker 1: I was actually talking to my husband about this the
Speaker 1: other day because we get a babysitter every now and
Speaker 1: again when we like do date night or something like
Speaker 1: you but no joke like Ivy goes to bed at
Speaker 1: like six and we're not home till nine, and like
Speaker 1: Nanny just tells us that she does her own like
Speaker 1: other work, so she's like technically getting paid.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, I love this for you.
Speaker 2: It's so good.
Speaker 1: And then yeah, when Ivy's awake, she's such a chill baby,
Speaker 1: chill just like watch TV and like give her a bottle,
Speaker 1: and like, I thought.
Speaker 4: This is great.
Speaker 2: It was great because the one thing I always hated about,
Speaker 2: like working in hospitality or retail, is like you only
Speaker 2: get a one in a lunch break and I'm always hungry.
Speaker 2: Like I'm just always hungry. I love to eat, so yeah,
Speaker 2: and so then I can't eat all the time, Whereas
Speaker 2: I'm like, you guys hungry, I'm like, should we make cookies?
Speaker 4: But I love that? Yeah, so it was good.
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, little momad of Lion King, what
Speaker 3: do we feel? I'm thinking a little my maid?
Speaker 4: But what do you guys want? That's actually I mean
Speaker 4: to him.
Speaker 1: Started watching Disney movies when Ivy was like three months old.
Speaker 1: I can't even see You're like, poor memory. Should we
Speaker 1: watch My Mana again? It was like we're doing this viby.
Speaker 4: Ivy.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, so let's get into our questions. So
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for this because, like I said off air,
Speaker 1: I have had the same partner since I was seventeen,
Speaker 1: so like, I didn't really date my twenties before Tim,
Speaker 1: there was like you know, one or two people, but
Speaker 1: like when you're seventeen, you fucking don't know shit. Yeah
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no one knows anything.
Speaker 4: No one knows anything.
Speaker 2: So I still don't know.
Speaker 1: Shit, I'm twenty six.
Speaker 3: Where where no no no learning?
Speaker 1: Yeah, life lessence And well so how.
Speaker 4: Long have you been with your partner? Fourteen years?
Speaker 1: Wow? Eating me?
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, also fifteen yeah, so I'm twenty nine yeah yeah,
Speaker 4: so I'm eighteen, Like you're on a ship. I don't
Speaker 4: know where. I got a lot of wish keeper.
Speaker 2: We always say that we're like the opposite ends of
Speaker 2: the dating spectrum because I'm just like hopeless, like very single, and.
Speaker 1: He had a like long term boyfriend or anything.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I.
Speaker 2: Dated basically when I was like, I was in relationships
Speaker 2: for maybe like five years from like eighteen from then.
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna do the masks.
Speaker 3: I don't even do a plus six bro.
Speaker 2: So that's why someone that was a plus six yank.
Speaker 2: And then from that, I was like, I just need
Speaker 2: to be single, like that was what I wanted to do,
Speaker 2: because for me, it was such a thing that I
Speaker 2: wanted to grow and figure out who I was, and
Speaker 2: I didn't feel like I could do that in the
Speaker 2: relationship that I was in.
Speaker 3: That's not to say that you can't grow into who.
Speaker 2: You're supposed to be when you're in a relationship, but
Speaker 2: I just obviously wasn't in the right ones that I
Speaker 2: felt like I was missing and growing more to like
Speaker 2: be their partner, not be me. So that's why I
Speaker 2: was like, do you know what, I'm going to go
Speaker 2: be a little hull for a bit.
Speaker 4: Breaking Coorage.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're breaking.
Speaker 2: Free as the iconic classical musical works to say, and yeah.
Speaker 2: And so then have kind of like dated people on
Speaker 2: and off since then, But then I would like they
Speaker 2: either wouldn't like me.
Speaker 3: Shock, I know, it's.
Speaker 1: More out there they exist, can you believe me? Me
Speaker 1: and my dad always have this joke because we're both
Speaker 1: people seezers that if like someone doesn't like us, we're.
Speaker 4: Like, we are such nice people, how could you not
Speaker 4: like it?
Speaker 2: Or if I've done something wrong but sounds like no, no, no,
Speaker 2: it's not your fault because all her or then I've
Speaker 2: just gotten the.
Speaker 3: Equal got commitment issues, and I'm like, bye, well, yeah.
Speaker 1: You have like lots of lots of wisdom, lots of knowledge,
Speaker 1: so this is going to.
Speaker 4: Be perfect for this segment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so take all of our advice and.
Speaker 4: The RNC gangs like trying to listen his voices. We
Speaker 4: actually get that all.
Speaker 1: So first question, I love this. We're going straight in
Speaker 1: what do we like? What do you do if you
Speaker 1: realize you're dating a fuck boy you.
Speaker 4: Really like him?
Speaker 2: Okay, it's never gonna work, like it's just because as
Speaker 2: well if I mean, you know, sometimes you can lock
Speaker 2: him down, but let's be honest, chances of it's happening
Speaker 2: probably not. So I feel like if you're dating a
Speaker 2: fuck boy, he's showing fuck boy tendencies because if he was,
Speaker 2: then you wouldn't like if he wasn't doing things exactly,
Speaker 2: but like, so, what makes you think he's a fuck
Speaker 2: busy dating other people? You're not comfortable with that, then
Speaker 2: like that needs to be communicated.
Speaker 3: But if your feelings are going to.
Speaker 2: Get hurt rather than being like I conchanged him. We've
Speaker 2: all been there and then we all get hurt, So like,
Speaker 2: don't do that. I think it's opening the conversation up.
Speaker 2: Like what I would do is I would open up
Speaker 2: the conversation and be like, look like, I really like you,
Speaker 2: I'm developing feelings for you. Is this something like that
Speaker 2: you were also feeling?
Speaker 3: Don't do the what are we?
Speaker 2: Don't give them that power, be like I feel this,
Speaker 2: I'm enjoying this. I would like to continue it. How
Speaker 2: do you feel about that?
Speaker 1: Okay, so we're not saying what are we?
Speaker 2: Nah, don't because it gives them the power to define it.
Speaker 2: So I would define it, be like, this is what
Speaker 2: I want. This is what I'm feeling. How do you
Speaker 2: feel about that? Do you agree or disagree?
Speaker 1: So you hold the power. You define it, and then you.
Speaker 2: Go and they can like either meet you in the middle,
Speaker 2: rather than you giving them all the options, being like
Speaker 2: you get to choose whether or not we're just having sex,
Speaker 2: or we're gonna officially date, or maybe.
Speaker 3: We're seeing each other.
Speaker 2: You tell them what you want and they can either
Speaker 2: say yes or no to that, rather than choosing whatever
Speaker 2: they want, because don't give them the option to just
Speaker 2: like string you along.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what about if you've done that? You defined I
Speaker 1: want this, I like you. And they are kind of
Speaker 1: quite transparent where they're like, look, I'm not quite there,
Speaker 1: but I would want to be there.
Speaker 4: I did move on.
Speaker 6: And as well, like the traits of being a fuck
Speaker 6: boy aren't isolated, Like, they're also related to their other
Speaker 6: characteristics and how they treat people. So if they're a liar,
Speaker 6: if they're flaky, like that's going to show up in
Speaker 6: the relationship later. Like, I honestly think that that is
Speaker 6: like someone.
Speaker 4: And who they are.
Speaker 2: Someone being flaky is like sales most hate. Yeah, get
Speaker 2: out of my head.
Speaker 3: If they like if they bail on plans or like
Speaker 3: if they're like yeah, no maybe like I might be.
Speaker 2: Free this week and blah blah blah blah. It's just
Speaker 2: like the.
Speaker 4: Most commitment issue.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just the dating stage, it's like this is
Speaker 1: the easiest fucking thing ever, totally.
Speaker 4: And it just shows that they don't respect your time.
Speaker 4: Oh nothing annoys me more. Yeah, time is so precious.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, And people give you.
Speaker 2: Their best when you first meet them, so they're not
Speaker 2: true if they're not giving you, like their best and
Speaker 2: making you feel like really special and all that, like sparkles,
Speaker 2: glitter unicorns, butterfly bar aps, Like imagine how shit it's
Speaker 2: going to of been like five years when no one
Speaker 2: makes an effort.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I say that to go hom I'm like, honestly,
Speaker 1: the start should be the most like magical time of
Speaker 1: your life. You should get butterflies like their feelings like
Speaker 1: and if it's not.
Speaker 4: There, I would be a little bit worried.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: And also I think that that origin story of you
Speaker 6: dating is so important, Like I would hate to think
Speaker 6: back to the beginning of your relationship and when you're
Speaker 6: retelling that story and then you're thinking like, oh, actually
Speaker 6: they fucked a bunch of other people and lied to
Speaker 6: me about it, and like.
Speaker 1: That's our origin story.
Speaker 4: Like no one wants to bully me. So he was
Speaker 4: saving the speech giving the bridesmaid speech.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was really shit with breaking up with like
Speaker 2: my last boyfriend, Like we were so on and off
Speaker 2: for so long, and like I would say to Sal,
Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh, I imagine like the wedding speech
Speaker 2: if we got married and sales like there wouldn't be
Speaker 2: one so.
Speaker 1: I couldn't speak. So you don't want to hear what
Speaker 1: I have to say.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's got like a slideshow presentation of like twelve
Speaker 2: reasons you two should not get married.
Speaker 7: Number one I Hate You April eleven, twenty sixty twelve
Speaker 7: fifty four.
Speaker 1: Bit it is a bit like that, I definitely feel
Speaker 1: like at the start. It also kind of tarnishes things,
Speaker 1: like you will constantly think back to that time. I like,
Speaker 1: I would love to think that people can change, and
Speaker 1: like our whole podcast is about personal development, and you
Speaker 1: know that you can change as a person, but there
Speaker 1: definitely are key things where you just like.
Speaker 2: Hm, I feel like as well, when you're watching a
Speaker 2: friend go through that, Like I'm sure you've probably watched friends, Yeah,
Speaker 2: date fuck boys.
Speaker 3: You're just there and you're like, what are you doing.
Speaker 2: There's this term that I definitely didn't coin, but I
Speaker 2: don't know where it came from. And it's called dixand
Speaker 2: and it's like quicksand can I swear? Yeah, Okay, cute dixan.
Speaker 2: So so like you're stunning sand but it's dixan, So
Speaker 2: you have to stop having sex with the person and
Speaker 2: get out of the dixan.
Speaker 1: Well, okay, so my next question, let's just say fuck boy.
Speaker 1: You both you know said what it is. You do
Speaker 1: like him, but you're like, do I just continue to
Speaker 1: no oxytocin.
Speaker 2: Oxytocin is like the chemical that releases in your brain.
Speaker 3: When you have sex.
Speaker 2: It's such a trick, and the more you have sex
Speaker 2: with this person, the more like oxytocin will be released
Speaker 2: and you'll relate that feeling to that person.
Speaker 3: I always say that there's like.
Speaker 2: A certain lim it on, like how many times I
Speaker 2: can have sex with someone at six? By the way,
Speaker 2: I get six because you're wondering, and then I'm like, ah,
Speaker 2: she I got feelings for them.
Speaker 4: Okay, so that's the formula.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like if I'm like seeing something you.
Speaker 1: Don't want to have feelings, You're like five, I'm out.
Speaker 7: Stand kicked the door and I'm like wrong, Yeah, you're
Speaker 7: like West, I love that she's got you back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like get out of there, get.
Speaker 3: Her out, get her out, Redhoy.
Speaker 1: It's amazing that you figured that out though, and you're
Speaker 1: very self aware about it too. Have you ever been
Speaker 1: in that situation where you know exactly what's happening and.
Speaker 6: You're like.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I would just be like in my head and
Speaker 2: I was like whatever, what my feelings are fully gonna
Speaker 2: get her? And I was like fuck it.
Speaker 3: I was like, let's do it.
Speaker 4: Like when you drink.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you know you're gonna have the worst hungover,
Speaker 1: but you're like, oh, look I've gone this far.
Speaker 4: Yeah exactly.
Speaker 3: So and I would be all night. So I'd be like,
Speaker 3: anyway I'm going.
Speaker 1: She'd be like where are you going?
Speaker 3: I just look at her and she'd be like no,
Speaker 3: I'd like.
Speaker 4: Came down around a shop for me please.
Speaker 2: She's just like there with like the sad saloon, and
Speaker 2: I'm like I'm I literally have left sale, being like
Speaker 2: I'm off to go and make a terrible decisione Yeah.
Speaker 2: And so I was like she used to try and
Speaker 2: be like no, don't like stop blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: But at this point it's like, oh.
Speaker 1: You've got to make your own decisions.
Speaker 3: So that's the other thing.
Speaker 2: If your friends dating a fuck boy, I would say like,
Speaker 2: just don't get involved. Like you can to a certain extent,
Speaker 2: but like the more you invest emotionally in it, the
Speaker 2: more that relationship will start to come between, like your friendship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's exhausting, and then.
Speaker 3: Your friends will just lie to you, like I would
Speaker 3: like to out.
Speaker 6: True to me, I would give advice and have like
Speaker 6: a serious converse about it three times and then after
Speaker 6: that like they're on their own.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: But then like I would communicate to al, I'd be
Speaker 6: like sick, but like I'm not going to give you advice. Yes,
Speaker 6: like of course I'll be there for you, but like
Speaker 6: I can give you the script of what I'll say
Speaker 6: and you can like read over, like my opinion's not
Speaker 6: going to change.
Speaker 1: It's like that TikTok it is. And that's what I
Speaker 1: would be.
Speaker 2: I'd be in that situation, be like, this is a
Speaker 2: bad decision whatever.
Speaker 1: It's for the plot. That's what we're saying, Yeah, make
Speaker 1: a bad decision.
Speaker 6: Love.
Speaker 1: Well, well, let's talk about because I was listening to
Speaker 1: an episode where you guys were speaking about I actually
Speaker 1: think you're speaking to someone else. But like red and
Speaker 1: green flags in a relationship at the start.
Speaker 6: Okay, so the green flags, green and red flags.
Speaker 4: Let's do green first and then we'll go to red.
Speaker 6: M So I think at the beginning of the relationship,
Speaker 6: the green flag is if they're they show that they're
Speaker 6: into you and you're not confused about that.
Speaker 4: So simple.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I love it because I think that so many
Speaker 6: people are.
Speaker 4: But like so many people by that though, like people
Speaker 4: are like.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, but I don't know, Like one day he
Speaker 6: treated me like this and then the other day didn't
Speaker 6: hear from him for four days, and it's just like
Speaker 6: it is that simple.
Speaker 4: I think.
Speaker 1: I feel like men are quite simple, and it's like
Speaker 1: what you see is what you get exactly. So at
Speaker 1: the start, if they're giving you those questionable thoughts, it's
Speaker 1: like he's telling you what he how he feels, like
Speaker 1: the famous oult.
Speaker 3: If they wanted to, they.
Speaker 1: Would yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 6: And again, like I think it's a good sign for
Speaker 6: how they will communicate later down in the relationship, like
Speaker 6: when you're having serious conversations, Like if they can't even
Speaker 6: communicate to you that they are keen on you, how
Speaker 6: are you going to have like a serious and complicated
Speaker 6: relationship when you get into.
Speaker 1: It interesting next screen, Vire, would you say, he goes no, go,
Speaker 1: I didn't.
Speaker 4: I was just gonna say, you just said communication.
Speaker 1: Would you say that's a huge green flag of they
Speaker 1: know how to communicate with you?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think yes, But like to communicate in the
Speaker 2: same way, so.
Speaker 4: Like some people yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So like I am not a big texter,
Speaker 2: like I hate texting during the day. I hate being
Speaker 2: on my phone, and so someone that you.
Speaker 1: Were cooler, Yes I am not, especially where I've had
Speaker 1: a few beverages.
Speaker 3: I'm like, Hi, I like you. I much prefer a call.
Speaker 1: Interesting, but I just hate texting all day.
Speaker 3: So if someone was like texting.
Speaker 2: Me all day, I'd be like, this is too much,
Speaker 2: Like I'm overwhelmed. So like making sure that you're on
Speaker 2: the same page with how you like to communicate yah,
Speaker 2: and being like I just prefer, you know, like a
Speaker 2: call at the end of the day, just be like, hey,
Speaker 2: how's your day being bang bong done?
Speaker 1: Almost like yeah, making sure you're on the same page.
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 6: So nobody's feelings are getting hurt. And I think another
Speaker 6: green flag, which you kind of mentioned before, is making
Speaker 6: sure that your love languages align. So if your love
Speaker 6: lianguage is words of affirmation, but the other person doesn't
Speaker 6: really like to talk about their feelings or you know,
Speaker 6: wear their hard on their sleeve and they're more like
Speaker 6: touchy feely, or they like to spend quality time with you,
Speaker 6: like you're going to be left feeling unsatisfied with that
Speaker 6: relationship if they're not telling you all the things that
Speaker 6: you want to hear.
Speaker 2: So I think that's really important too.
Speaker 6: Like you can have different ones, but I think there
Speaker 6: needs to be some that align.
Speaker 1: Would you agree that that's a conversation like you would
Speaker 1: want to have at the start of your relationship.
Speaker 4: That's completely I think.
Speaker 2: So that's always something that I throw out, and.
Speaker 4: I think, like it's good. It's a good icebreaker as well.
Speaker 6: Yes, I have a five minute quiz.
Speaker 4: I just need you to feel this point. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm not.
Speaker 3: It's more of a warning, like my love language is physical.
Speaker 2: Touch, so I will try to crawl inside your skin,
Speaker 2: like I will be like I need to be touching
Speaker 2: you all times the git Yeah exactly.
Speaker 6: I feel like it's the twenty twenty two version of
Speaker 6: what's Your Sign? So people are used to it now
Speaker 6: as well, So I think it's a good icebreaker on
Speaker 6: a first date as well, without it being too serious.
Speaker 3: But it's good to know what your own.
Speaker 2: It's good to know what their love language is and
Speaker 2: your love language is, because for example, like sours is
Speaker 2: all of them, she's very needy. Yeah, it's exhausting being
Speaker 2: her best friend.
Speaker 3: I love you.
Speaker 2: But so for example, if you're dating someone, like when
Speaker 2: I date someone, my love language is physical touch. That's
Speaker 2: how I want to be loved and that's how I
Speaker 2: show love. But if their love language is acts of service,
Speaker 2: then they're not going to feel loved when I'm giving
Speaker 2: them physical touch because that's not how they.
Speaker 4: They will not do anything for them. So I buy
Speaker 4: me a coffee now.
Speaker 2: But if I like, you know, go get petrol, go
Speaker 2: in and get them a kit Cat because I know
Speaker 2: that their favorite like chocolate, is a kit Cat.
Speaker 3: And bring that to them.
Speaker 2: That is going to make them feel so much more
Speaker 2: loved than like cuddling on the couch for half an hour. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so understanding, Like, so that is it's so important. It's
Speaker 2: not important.
Speaker 1: It's funny because yeah, I've been with him for like
Speaker 1: ten years and we literally did the test the other
Speaker 1: day and I did not.
Speaker 4: Guess what was yours. Mine was acts of service.
Speaker 1: So anytime you because time is such a thing for
Speaker 1: me if I just feel so overwhelmed and busy most
Speaker 1: of the time that if you can do something that
Speaker 1: gives me back my time, I'm like, oh, love, love,
Speaker 1: what was his His is words of affirmation, which I
Speaker 1: would not have picked.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then like physical touch after that, like a
Speaker 1: lot of men. But it's just so interesting because I
Speaker 1: didn't know that, and it was just it's funny now
Speaker 1: that I think of it, though, he's so huge on
Speaker 1: talking to me, and I'm just like, oh, I've like
Speaker 1: never given him that.
Speaker 4: I'm not a huge like I love you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was he is.
Speaker 3: You're like, you're hot, babe.
Speaker 1: Cas.
Speaker 3: He like says the most like beautiful thing to you,
Speaker 3: and you're.
Speaker 1: Like, kid, yeah, your wedding vows.
Speaker 3: It's like he has a big and you're like same,
Speaker 3: You're like.
Speaker 4: What he said?
Speaker 2: Can we just replay done?
Speaker 4: So yeah, I think that's so important.
Speaker 1: But in saying that, just off the communication side, I
Speaker 1: remember when I first met Tim, his communication was quite
Speaker 1: shocking that he almost didn't speak a lot.
Speaker 4: And I like, I've got a podcast. I love to chat,
Speaker 4: so I'd.
Speaker 8: Be like, I'd be.
Speaker 1: Like, talk to me about stuff. Yeah, And then in
Speaker 1: saying that, though it was such a huge thing, I
Speaker 1: had to constantly be like, I love talking, I love
Speaker 1: talking about deep tocket topics, pockets, deep my deep pockets.
Speaker 4: I love some deep pockets talking my love language.
Speaker 1: I love deep topics and I had to like instill
Speaker 1: that and then for him to realize and then yeah.
Speaker 4: Build on that.
Speaker 6: But I think you two were also so young when
Speaker 6: you first met, right, so he was also probably like
Speaker 6: growing into himself and who he was and being very comfortable,
Speaker 6: whereas I guess like you have to take you know,
Speaker 6: context is key, as we always say, because if it's
Speaker 6: with a thirty year old, you're like, nah, bro, like
Speaker 6: you should know yourself and you should be able to
Speaker 6: speak your truth by then, and you would hope is that.
Speaker 1: Something like you look for in looking at how this
Speaker 1: is I say, not yourself like a new person.
Speaker 4: Are you kind of.
Speaker 1: Being like, oh yeah, like you're thirty, you should kind
Speaker 1: of how you have your shit sorted?
Speaker 3: Yes and no.
Speaker 2: I think it kind of depends because if you go
Speaker 2: in with expectations or you go in with the type,
Speaker 2: you're kind of limiting yourself to learning within that relationship.
Speaker 2: So Jay Sheddy on his podcast, he spoke about how
Speaker 2: good quality relationships aren't ones that last but learn, so
Speaker 2: you kind of and that kind of sounds like what's
Speaker 2: happened with you and Tim is like you learned to,
Speaker 2: you know, have deeper conversations within your relationship rather than
Speaker 2: like going in and expecting them to have like all
Speaker 2: ticks down the line. That's just like not going to happen,
Speaker 2: and it's unachievable, and I'm constantly going to be like
Speaker 2: why A my finger and I an't down anyone. It's
Speaker 2: because they don't exist, no one. It's Henry Cavilly if
Speaker 2: you're listening.
Speaker 4: I think he listens to my podcast.
Speaker 3: I don't know if he does on our podcast.
Speaker 2: I was like, guys, send this to Henry cavill and
Speaker 2: we'll send you a jump up.
Speaker 3: And people did it, and.
Speaker 4: I was like, Bob.
Speaker 3: Then I found out he had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I've got two broke chicks for all, right. But yeah,
Speaker 2: so I do kind of look for certain things and
Speaker 2: there will be like certain little red flags like but
Speaker 2: that's just kind of what I want.
Speaker 3: Like if you know they didn't have a job, I'd.
Speaker 2: Be like, okay, like what are you doing? Yeah, and
Speaker 2: at like a certain age context, yeah, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So like, well, let's chat about red flags and
Speaker 1: give me five red flags in a relationship.
Speaker 3: You're like, nah, oh my.
Speaker 2: God, a selfish lover.
Speaker 3: I hate a selfish lover.
Speaker 2: What do so like you know that doesn't know how
Speaker 2: to like just only cares about like they're they're all
Speaker 2: gasm you know, those guys that are just like I
Speaker 2: just like don't like going down on girls, but like
Speaker 2: I would really like it if you could give me
Speaker 2: a blowjob.
Speaker 3: Get the fuck out of my bed, now, get out.
Speaker 1: That's fine.
Speaker 3: If you don't want to do.
Speaker 2: That, it's not but like I would just be like nah,
Speaker 2: or like they just don't really care about full play
Speaker 2: or anything.
Speaker 3: It's just like they.
Speaker 1: Almost don't care about your sexual love language.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we all have them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like they just just like yeah, they're just there
Speaker 2: to get off and then afterwards they like don't talk
Speaker 2: to you or like give you a cuddle or whatever.
Speaker 3: And they're just like, well that was fun, and I'm.
Speaker 4: Like ill, yeah, you know, okay, I'm with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah that and then if they don't like listen to you.
Speaker 3: So if they we all love to talk. I love
Speaker 3: telling stories, great storyteller.
Speaker 4: Drama about it, fine, fucking yes I am.
Speaker 2: But like if they don't listen to like my stories,
Speaker 2: or if they don't actually have an interest in me
Speaker 2: or my life and it's they just love to talk
Speaker 2: about themselves.
Speaker 3: Then I'm kind of like I hate that.
Speaker 2: I will sit there and I will pay attention, like
Speaker 2: if I ask someone questions because I love being like,
Speaker 2: oh if.
Speaker 3: You were a fruit, what would you be Like?
Speaker 2: I just like I love just random shit like that.
Speaker 2: I will pay attention to if they ask the question back.
Speaker 2: So true.
Speaker 4: I just with friends too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, very are you even interested or is this a
Speaker 1: one way street? Yeah, because I tend to be someone
Speaker 1: who asked twenty one questions.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so I'm so interested. I were't furious. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I had a partner that was like, oh, I love you,
Speaker 2: I just don't know if I like you, And I
Speaker 2: was like, that is probably one of the meanest things
Speaker 2: anyone's ever said to me, because I know, like I'm
Speaker 2: a certain personality type, Like I know I'm loud, I
Speaker 2: know I'm larry, and I'm like incredibly funny, So.
Speaker 4: I think that he's modest.
Speaker 1: I know I'm a catch.
Speaker 2: Like one time, like he like had boys over at
Speaker 2: his and he was like, yeah, just calm, it's fine,
Speaker 2: Like you get along with everyone anyway. So I went
Speaker 2: over and I was like really like on the money.
Speaker 2: I was like written, but he was mainly the butt
Speaker 2: of all the jokes, but like take it, It's fine.
Speaker 2: And then he was like, can you not like you're
Speaker 2: at boys not like you're not supposed to be the
Speaker 2: funny one.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh boohoo, Like yeah, so if
Speaker 1: you're funnier, like yeah, funnier exactly.
Speaker 4: I'm not going to go easy on you.
Speaker 2: Yeah. People that are like are also too dependent on
Speaker 2: you to just either like make the plans or like
Speaker 2: they need to lean on you too much because like
Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys could pick up on it,
Speaker 2: but I'm a bit of an extra it, so like
Speaker 2: I like ye all bat so I like, like, you know,
Speaker 2: being able to bring them to a party, for example,
Speaker 2: and then being like all right, see you in an
Speaker 2: hour and split up and.
Speaker 1: Just go like have a my one effect. So you
Speaker 1: could put him in a room and he can talk
Speaker 1: to anyone. And I went see most of the night.
Speaker 1: And that's one thing I've had friends with boyfriends that
Speaker 1: they've got to like sit beside them, and I'm just like, oh,
Speaker 1: I hate it.
Speaker 4: I lived together. I didn't need to be beside you
Speaker 4: at the party.
Speaker 2: The red flag is like when they when you're just
Speaker 2: their entire universe, which like sounds like a good thing,
Speaker 2: but it's not healthy. You shouldn't be like they should
Speaker 2: have their own life and you should be like vibing
Speaker 2: alongside it. But if they just like wanted to make
Speaker 2: me their entire universe, I would just be like.
Speaker 4: Hugh, I can't break. Yeah, it's not sustainable.
Speaker 6: I think kind of related to that is anyone controlling.
Speaker 6: So if you're out on a girl's night and they're
Speaker 6: like blowing up your phone being like where are you
Speaker 6: blah blah, or you know, like they try to make
Speaker 6: decisions for you or aren't supportive.
Speaker 4: Of you, or if they comment on what you were.
Speaker 2: Oh, I was just about to say that if a
Speaker 2: guy I've had that been like because I've got like
Speaker 2: giant boobies, Like they're literally huge, so annoying, but like
Speaker 2: half the time if I wear anything that's fitted, it
Speaker 2: will like to see them. Yeah, like and they'd be like, oh,
Speaker 2: are you're gonna wear that? Are you actually wearing that?
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, because my boobs look great.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they look good.
Speaker 2: But then like on the other hand, I've like like
Speaker 2: I'm dating someone now and I like put something and
Speaker 2: they're like, fuck, you look good, and they were just
Speaker 2: like they're like I can't wait for just like everyone
Speaker 2: to know that like your mind. Yeah, you know, like
Speaker 2: that's like being like like I didn't care if anyone
Speaker 2: post to you because at the end of the night,
Speaker 2: you're coming home with me.
Speaker 4: That's the energy. Yeah, yeah, that's the vibe.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So I think like insecurity as well, like jealous jealousy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't have time friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, jealousy is so like sixteen and getting jealous about
Speaker 2: someone else being like a snapchat best friend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would get the upset that I'm not.
Speaker 2: Gonna lie I like this boy, And then there was
Speaker 2: this other cheek that was always above me on a
Speaker 2: Snapchat and I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 6: I think that is a bit of a red flag though, right,
Speaker 6: just with mainly with Snapchat, Like it's fine for your
Speaker 6: friends to have female friends, Like, if anything, I think
Speaker 6: that's preferable because it shows that they have like some
Speaker 6: level of maturity to yeah, a friendship with someone of
Speaker 6: the opposite sex, but snapchats, you know, wishy washy, But
Speaker 6: also who's still using Snapchat.
Speaker 1: To say I don't have snapchats, so I think that's
Speaker 1: what like teenagers use these days.
Speaker 2: I tried to snapchat me like maybe a month ago,
Speaker 2: and I was like, what's happening.
Speaker 3: I don't know how to use this.
Speaker 2: I saw my bit mojie for like the first time
Speaker 2: in about seven years.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my girl.
Speaker 3: I was like, I did not look at that.
Speaker 2: You know how you would make an avatar and it
Speaker 2: does not look like oh no, you'd be like, yeah, sure,
Speaker 2: I look like that. I've got green eyes.
Speaker 4: Yeah it was a girl.
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Speaker 1: get back into the episode. Well, I was gonna ask
Speaker 1: you guys, like what are your biggest X. But I
Speaker 1: feel like we just covered them.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, no, I've got so many.
Speaker 6: I feel like there's a difference between red flags and X.
Speaker 6: We learn it on the podcast with Georgia Grace. So
Speaker 6: I think those were actual red flags. Now we can
Speaker 6: get into the petty IX.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so red flags are like legit, this is actual.
Speaker 2: Yeah, IX are what They're just like they're like a
Speaker 2: smaller thing that I'm like, I can't see you naked anymore.
Speaker 2: That yeah, okay, so when okay, the idea of them
Speaker 2: pointing their toes just like in any situation, just like
Speaker 2: just like you imagine they're like lying on the bed
Speaker 2: and then they just point their toes. I fucking hate it.
Speaker 2: Like I hate the idea of it, like imagine like
Speaker 2: like no, it's so grim that and.
Speaker 1: Then trying to think anyone do that because I just
Speaker 1: think about it.
Speaker 3: I'll just think it because then one time this.
Speaker 2: Like someone was trying to set me up with a
Speaker 2: dancer and then I was like and then I just
Speaker 2: pictured them pointing their toes and I was like just off,
Speaker 2: Like imagine when they finished and they're like.
Speaker 4: Just boring.
Speaker 2: I'm like, nah, I can't broke calls to match. I'm like,
Speaker 2: not on, not on that, And then the idea of
Speaker 2: them like chasing after a ball, but then like trying
Speaker 2: to pick it up but they miss.
Speaker 3: They're trying to pick up the ball and.
Speaker 2: They're like chasing after and you're like a dog.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like like a tennis ball, like a ping pong ball.
Speaker 2: Oh god no, that's grimm.
Speaker 3: And then the other one is and I didn't think
Speaker 3: of this one.
Speaker 2: I saw it somewhere, but it really hit when they
Speaker 2: like run out of bird and it doesn't move, like
Speaker 2: if there was like a seagull and they're like go
Speaker 2: and I was like, what are you doing?
Speaker 4: Sea girls like not even yeah, but this is not.
Speaker 1: It Yeah, so true though.
Speaker 2: Yeah, those are like like the three of the main
Speaker 2: ones that I think. Oh also if they like if
Speaker 2: you're in a public space like at the beach and
Speaker 2: then they start playing music out loud.
Speaker 4: I ha baruss.
Speaker 2: And it's probably like.
Speaker 3: Fucking levels by Vichy and I'm like turn it off.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, it is, so every time.
Speaker 4: It's never like fucking queen I want. Yeah, Like if
Speaker 4: it was a c DC, I'd.
Speaker 3: Be like, you know, I'll let it slide.
Speaker 6: But yeah, yeah, it's so gross. My first one is
Speaker 6: a bad hand and shake. Yeah, so then you know immediately,
Speaker 6: especially when it's like the wet fish soft handshake that's
Speaker 6: just like has no conviction to it. I really hate
Speaker 6: that when people are rude to wait stuff that's my can't.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't.
Speaker 6: Like one time I was a teenager because I'm watch
Speaker 6: for four Gris and there was like, you know, some
Speaker 6: guy that I was, you know, going on a little
Speaker 6: date with, and he went like and clicked at the
Speaker 6: weight stuff and I literally was.
Speaker 4: Like, I'm going he was also like fifteen, so what
Speaker 4: was he doing so rude?
Speaker 3: It's like, mum, can I have my pocket money backers?
Speaker 4: That's probably where it was. And then I think the
Speaker 4: third one for me is bad taste in music, So
Speaker 4: again a beachy.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Oh I have another one really try lip bad
Speaker 2: just put some lip balm on Earth, the idea of
Speaker 2: like kissing like krusty flaky Earth, but.
Speaker 4: Also watching a man apply lip balm.
Speaker 1: Just I always like I was.
Speaker 6: Like that not doing it and I coming out with
Speaker 6: like kissable lips.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I do love so tim Odie recently so he's thirty,
Speaker 1: only recently has like started. I think he's like really,
Speaker 1: he's thirty and he's like I need to start looking,
Speaker 1: and he like has moisturizer. I love it because I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, he's taking care of himself.
Speaker 4: That's like, what's the opposite to an neck that's hot?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's heart turn off.
Speaker 4: That's a turn off. That's an end.
Speaker 2: Yeah did we just make that?
Speaker 1: Damn?
Speaker 3: What are your it?
Speaker 1: It's so weird because like I haven't dated for so long.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think, do I have any it?
Speaker 4: I feel like.
Speaker 2: If they pointed their toes, I agree, that's a big yeah, like,
Speaker 2: well this is done.
Speaker 1: Sorry, take an ivy. I think the big one for
Speaker 1: me and men is like how they treat others around them,
Speaker 1: just like says so much to their character. Big one
Speaker 1: for me is like if yeah, my favorite thing is
Speaker 1: how Tim can literally just be so dependent and do
Speaker 1: things by himself and also talk to anyone. So I
Speaker 1: feel like I've just met so many guys and their
Speaker 1: boyfriends and where they talk it's like so awkward or
Speaker 1: like yeah, don't make you feel very comfortable. That's like
Speaker 1: a huge thing of like if they can't hold a conversation, yeah,
Speaker 1: probably not as.
Speaker 4: Petty as you guys. But I think literally, now that I.
Speaker 1: Think of that, I'm like, that's so it's embarrassing what
Speaker 1: I mean. Also, I'm going to be super sexist here too,
Speaker 1: and like if they can't do like manly things like
Speaker 1: paying a photo for like you know, Tim is such
Speaker 1: a hands on, like handyman as the biggest turn one,
Speaker 1: and I think about all the time if like my
Speaker 1: husband couldn't do that.
Speaker 2: You're there, my globes in the house, He's like, oh,
Speaker 2: what's out?
Speaker 1: And I love the fact that he's like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: can just like do those things. Because I can't.
Speaker 4: I would hate like me trying to figure out those things.
Speaker 3: Yeah hmmm, he's got it covered.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Okay, So this is something I would love
Speaker 1: to know. It doesn't have to necessarily be about dating.
Speaker 1: But could you tell me like your biggest life lesson
Speaker 1: that you've learned.
Speaker 4: I would say early.
Speaker 1: Twenties one each ooh, and it's kind of like it's
Speaker 1: going to be quite life changing changed you as a person.
Speaker 2: I would say that, like everything will change and you
Speaker 2: need to be able to like go without the people
Speaker 2: that will like come into your life might be there
Speaker 2: forever might not be, but like everything that happens is
Speaker 2: going to develop you to who you're supposed to be.
Speaker 3: So whether or not it is.
Speaker 2: You know, a really good relationship that maybe it didn't last,
Speaker 2: you still learned what you really liked in a relationship
Speaker 2: and what you didn't like in a relationship. Whether it's
Speaker 2: you know, a friend ship that you felt was going
Speaker 2: to be like your best friend for the rest of
Speaker 2: your life and maybe that didn't continue or it just fizzled,
Speaker 2: you lost touch, you still learn things about yourself within that.
Speaker 3: Can you tell them Italian? Sometimes I'm like, no.
Speaker 2: You'll make it the friends, but everything, like things will change,
Speaker 2: and be comfortable with that, Like lean into it because
Speaker 2: some of the people that come into your life and
Speaker 2: maybe some of the best best season of your life
Speaker 2: and it doesn't continue, it's still like a really nice
Speaker 2: memory and everything that you learn, all the memories you
Speaker 2: have are still really nice.
Speaker 3: So try to lean into.
Speaker 1: That almost, like don't be afraid of change.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but like the thing is, it will happen.
Speaker 3: Nothing is going to say the same.
Speaker 2: Something will change, whether it's your troll free ord know, nah,
Speaker 2: Like I like I like to kind of navigate the situation,
Speaker 2: Like I don't know how it's it, but like arias.
Speaker 6: A born leaders but like I think you like to
Speaker 6: take charge, but you're not going to get thrown off
Speaker 6: if like Aspana gets thrown You're like, all right, problem solving.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm like I would say I'm pretty good
Speaker 2: at problem solving, and like that's something that I quite
Speaker 2: like about myself, like being like all right, this has happened,
Speaker 2: here are options, Yeah, how can we instead of yeah, and.
Speaker 4: Like not dealing with the situation, You're like, all right,
Speaker 4: what are we going to do?
Speaker 2: Movie? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And that's a change.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 2: That's not to say that, you know, I haven't had
Speaker 2: those moments when like, you know, I broke up with
Speaker 2: an X and I didn't have my like you know,
Speaker 2: really upset stage with that. I definitely did. It's not
Speaker 2: to say that change happens. I'm like, what are Iver
Speaker 2: Deck's back? I'm amazing and so emotionally strong.
Speaker 3: That is not OK.
Speaker 2: But it's just try not to lean into the negative
Speaker 2: part of it and look at the positive side and
Speaker 2: just adapt yourself.
Speaker 1: And I think also like going off that even I
Speaker 1: feel like every situation, even when it's like a quote
Speaker 1: unquote negative or bad outcome, there is always something that
Speaker 1: you can take from that that even evolved you as
Speaker 1: a person, you know, formed you into who you are,
Speaker 1: and if you can, like, yeah, lean into that rather
Speaker 1: than being like this is.
Speaker 3: Fun, Yeah, don't let it.
Speaker 6: You basically love that because if anything, you're going to
Speaker 6: learn what you don't like and what you don't want,
Speaker 6: and which is that's a.
Speaker 4: Real important in itself important.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I think that my biggest life lesson from my early
Speaker 6: twenties is that you need to make decisions for yourself
Speaker 6: and for your best interests. So you can't think about
Speaker 6: what other people may want or expect from you.
Speaker 4: You just have to think about what's best for me.
Speaker 6: So an example of that was I was like living
Speaker 6: at home for ages and hated it and was just
Speaker 6: like so I was like ready to move out when
Speaker 6: I was like sixteen, and then I was like maybe
Speaker 6: turning twenty one, and I was waiting for like my
Speaker 6: sister and my boyfriend to be ready to move out
Speaker 6: with me, and I was like chasing them for years
Speaker 6: and years. It never happened, and then I was like
Speaker 6: I can't, like I'm just leaving and moved up to Sydney,
Speaker 6: and I was like, you guys will like either stay
Speaker 6: with me or you won't. And I was like, I
Speaker 6: have to put myself first. And it was like the
Speaker 6: best thing I ever did.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that, she said, des Yeah.
Speaker 6: And it like completely changed like my career everything.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like imagine if I did, I'd probably still
Speaker 4: be down in fucking longer and then he never would
Speaker 4: have met me, exactly, get down there. Yeah you're young,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 1: I love that so much, And like I often don't
Speaker 1: hear that advice.
Speaker 4: I feel like that's so refreshing.
Speaker 1: To be like, no, actually, you need to put your
Speaker 1: needs first because when you do that, that's when things
Speaker 1: like flourish. Yeah yeah, things work out.
Speaker 2: And if you have the right people around you, they'll
Speaker 2: want you to do that. They'll want you to do
Speaker 2: the thing that is in your best interest because they
Speaker 2: should want that for you as well.
Speaker 3: They should want you to be happy.
Speaker 2: So like, if someone around you is being like, oh
Speaker 2: but look at how that affects me, well, they're just
Speaker 2: thinking of themselves exactly.
Speaker 4: And that's why ended up happening.
Speaker 6: Like with my boyfriend especially, it was really hard because
Speaker 6: we were already in a like long term oh sorry,
Speaker 6: a long distance relationship. We're already like ninety minutes apart,
Speaker 6: and then going to Sydney, it was like we were
Speaker 6: three hours apart.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then he was just like he.
Speaker 6: Got around it, realized we could make it work and
Speaker 6: we ended up moving in together in Sydney later down
Speaker 6: the track.
Speaker 1: Anyway, it's about to say, it's almost like that make
Speaker 1: or break, But wouldn't you rather know sooner?
Speaker 4: Exactly? It's going to break later on?
Speaker 1: It's just prolonging it exactly.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And I think so many people can relate to that,
Speaker 6: whether it's like pressure from friends and their partner or
Speaker 6: expectations from their family, especially which I think it's really tough,
Speaker 6: but just gotta do you boo.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that so much. That's really refreshing.
Speaker 2: Whatever I'm making about decision now, I'm gonna be like
Speaker 2: just putting.
Speaker 1: Me first out.
Speaker 4: I'm like, no, you're not.
Speaker 2: I'm like shout out to see the shots for the plot.
Speaker 7: No.
Speaker 1: I love that. And I think also we tend to,
Speaker 1: I think, especially as we get older, like we think
Speaker 1: of everyone before ourselves.
Speaker 4: We're like, oh, what will this person think? I'll do this?
Speaker 1: And I don't want to make this person feel a
Speaker 1: certain way. But then you're almost if you're not living
Speaker 1: your truth, it's going to constantly build on you and
Speaker 1: you know, eventually drown.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2: LUs. We like to always say, like, no one cares
Speaker 2: as much as you think they do. Like you were
Speaker 2: your own worst enemy, overthinking things, making yourself anxious. Everyone
Speaker 2: actually is kind of just vibing on their own, like
Speaker 2: no one's no one's sitting there watching you being like, wow,
Speaker 2: she looks weird. Those cowboy boots suck. Like no one cares.
Speaker 2: Like we were going to pilates for the first time
Speaker 2: and we're really nervous, and we're like, we're gonna look
Speaker 2: so silly, Like what if people are watching us and
Speaker 2: we don't know what we're doing.
Speaker 3: No one gave a flying hoot. No, no, no one
Speaker 3: cares as much as they do.
Speaker 4: Get invested in their own world. Yeah worrying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, before we get onto chatting some money and budgeting,
Speaker 1: because that's your zones of genius. I want to know,
Speaker 1: do we have a really funny horror dating story?
Speaker 2: Probably, I tell the lamb ragu one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, it's.
Speaker 4: So good, it's so cook okay.
Speaker 2: Literally, So basically I accidentally started dating someone that was
Speaker 2: in the same building as me.
Speaker 3: Don't ever do that.
Speaker 4: Was a life and how was it an accident? Do
Speaker 4: we not know?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I did know. We met at the Bins an romantic.
Speaker 2: But yeah, So we met at the Bins and then
Speaker 2: one night we had like drinks at his apartment because
Speaker 2: I was like, how great. I only have to go
Speaker 2: up a lift to get home. So that was very
Speaker 2: convenient because there's nothing worse than like waking up in
Speaker 2: a boy's bed.
Speaker 3: It's like eight am, You're sixty minutes from home.
Speaker 2: Like you really need a glass of water, the pillows
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable, and you're just like, I'm like, this is it.
Speaker 2: This is how it ends. So anyway, we were having
Speaker 2: drinks at his and I was just talking absolute smack,
Speaker 2: like I was just having a Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was just like.
Speaker 4: I'm a tian.
Speaker 2: I was like, come over tomorrow night. I'll cook your dinner.
Speaker 2: What do you want, Like, I'll make you any pasty
Speaker 2: you want. And he was like, oh I really lamdragon.
Speaker 2: I was like done, say less, my king.
Speaker 3: I was like, I've got it sworded for you.
Speaker 2: Anyway, the next day I was hungover as shit, and
Speaker 2: I was like, there's no chance of hanging out with
Speaker 2: the boy tonight. I was like, I just want to
Speaker 2: look ugly, sit on my couch and watch the Vampire
Speaker 2: Diaries and anyway.
Speaker 3: So then I was kind of tossing up.
Speaker 2: All day whether or not to hang out with him,
Speaker 2: and it got to five o'clock and it was like
Speaker 2: six thirty and I was like, no, it's not happening.
Speaker 2: So then I called him and I like tried to
Speaker 2: bail and I was like, hey, I'm so sorry, I
Speaker 2: can't do tonight anymore, Like something's come up, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: And he was like, are you serious, Like it's an
Speaker 2: hour and a half before we're supposed to be hanging
Speaker 2: out and you're bailing, which, you know, like fair enough.
Speaker 4: That was that was fair enough, Like I'll he lives
Speaker 4: in the same building. It's not like this laft.
Speaker 2: This was like.
Speaker 4: This is like the third Yeah, this was.
Speaker 2: Like the third time we were hanging out, so it
Speaker 2: wasn't like we were like months in, like it was
Speaker 2: still very new.
Speaker 4: And then oh he made you feel guilty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like, oh crap.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, oh, you know what if
Speaker 2: I just like throw back a glass of rose, I'll
Speaker 2: probably like, yeah, pep up. But he was like, you
Speaker 2: were planning on bailing all day, weren't you? And I
Speaker 2: was like no, no, no, no.
Speaker 3: I was like.
Speaker 2: Busted, and I was like no, I swear I wasn't.
Speaker 2: Like I literally got the ingredients. I've been like, I
Speaker 2: started cooking, but like I this thing came up that
Speaker 2: I just I have to go and help my friend.
Speaker 3: And then he was like okay.
Speaker 2: He's like, well, given that you're already cooking, why don't
Speaker 2: you go help your friend and then like we and
Speaker 2: just have dinner a bit later. And I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: you know what, fine, I'll probably will like get back
Speaker 2: into it once I've had a glass white. And so
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, fine. By this point, it's like
Speaker 2: five thirty, and I was like, just come over.
Speaker 3: At six thirty, I look like.
Speaker 2: The female gremlin, Like I'm not looking good. I need
Speaker 2: to like wash my hair, do my hair, do my makeup,
Speaker 2: shave my entire body from like my eyebrows down, I
Speaker 2: mean eyelashes that would be weird. And then I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: so I've sorted that out.
Speaker 4: So I've got like.
Speaker 2: An hour to get ready and then make lamb ragou.
Speaker 2: So I was like, do you know what I'll do.
Speaker 2: I'll milk run the ingredients. It'll be super easy. I
Speaker 2: look up how to make lamb ragou. It takes a
Speaker 2: minimum of four hours.
Speaker 1: Why because you have to slow cook it.
Speaker 4: You have to slow cook the may. And I was like, well,
Speaker 4: I'm vegetarian.
Speaker 3: I knew that. She was like, oh.
Speaker 2: Fuck, I've already said I'm making it. Oh my, I
Speaker 2: already said I had the ingredients and I'm making it
Speaker 2: because he accused me of baling, which I was doing.
Speaker 2: So then I'm like, and I can't make a different
Speaker 2: pusta because I already said.
Speaker 3: I was cooking it.
Speaker 2: So I was like, I don't know what to do.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna busted. So then I did what any normal, saying,
Speaker 2: rational person would do in this situation, and I uber
Speaker 2: eats ninety dollars worth of lamb ragu to my apartment.
Speaker 2: But it doesn't stop there. Then I got pots and
Speaker 2: pans out and I.
Speaker 4: Set the scene.
Speaker 2: I like separated the meat. I like put the pasta
Speaker 2: in like a different ball.
Speaker 3: I had it in a pot. I FaceTime with my
Speaker 3: mom I was like, Mom, how.
Speaker 2: Do I like keep this hot without overcooking the lamb
Speaker 2: and making it too hard, but like not overcooking the
Speaker 2: pasta and make it to And Mom was like, Alex,
Speaker 2: this is lying and I was like, Mum, we were
Speaker 2: so past that point out.
Speaker 4: So I was like committed.
Speaker 2: I got like bits of the sauce and like splattered
Speaker 2: it on the bench and like mad mutual medicine, I
Speaker 2: like got the strainer out and dirtied it, and then
Speaker 2: I took down like every piece of rubbish I own,
Speaker 2: because then if I hadn't taken down the rubbish, it
Speaker 2: meant there should be like if it's a packets or
Speaker 2: like meat packets, which there was, and because I was lying,
Speaker 2: and so then I had to take it so sad
Speaker 2: like the thought you I overthought this way much like.
Speaker 3: It was way too much.
Speaker 2: And then I literally took every piece of rubbish down,
Speaker 2: remembering this boy lives in my apartment building, so I've
Speaker 2: had to like scurry down and like put everything in
Speaker 2: the bin. But your gal got away with it. I
Speaker 2: completely got away with it. That he saw them, No,
Speaker 2: he was like he ate it, and he was like, Babe,
Speaker 2: this is the best lamb racko I've ever had. He
Speaker 2: was like, he was like, how did you make it?
Speaker 2: I was like, I can't tell you that mom would
Speaker 2: kill me in his recipe. I hope he doesn't go
Speaker 2: to Totty's basically because this before it's really similar. So yeah,
Speaker 2: that was my like misdoubtfire dating story.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, shout out to Toddy's. Yeah, I love
Speaker 1: extent you went to to be like, no, I committed,
Speaker 1: you will believe I was.
Speaker 2: There was no chance I was getting busted, absolutely not,
Speaker 2: and like.
Speaker 4: How like the rest of the night go.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was good, but like that was kind of
Speaker 3: I had more fun doing that, to be honest, not
Speaker 3: fun like trying to get away with it. Then I
Speaker 3: was like, oh that's done. And then like a week,
Speaker 3: lady Who's like I'm.
Speaker 2: Still thinking about that lamb ragus the best I've ever had.
Speaker 2: I like see him around now, like we're not dating anymore,
Speaker 2: because I was just like, oh, this is just not
Speaker 2: the vibe, but he'll like we'll see each other sometimes.
Speaker 2: I still think about that lamb rago and I might like.
Speaker 4: Poor boy, you got one day.
Speaker 8: No, no, it's too already being like heys just like
Speaker 8: I've lived in an apartment before, and yeah, like you
Speaker 8: go to the beans, you go around the car park,
Speaker 8: you look like fucking shit sober.
Speaker 4: So yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's mine.
Speaker 2: So if you ever need to make lamb raghu, make
Speaker 2: sure you have at least four hours.
Speaker 4: I did not knowed.
Speaker 1: Okay, well let's chat some money and budgeting. So this
Speaker 1: is your whole you know, the reason you started the podcast.
Speaker 1: I love that you're him shopping journalists. Yes, So does
Speaker 1: that just mean like you just know how to shop?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 3: Yes or no?
Speaker 2: So it's like, as like a shopping journalist, you kind
Speaker 2: of have to know what everyone's shopping for, regardless of
Speaker 2: like what we like ourselves, because we will wear pink
Speaker 2: cowboy boots and like snake print like pants, where it's.
Speaker 4: Like that's probably not everyone else's.
Speaker 2: Everyone else's spiel, they're like you guys look CORESSI. But
Speaker 2: so like it's things like Christmas gift guides as well
Speaker 2: as like sales what people want to look for. We
Speaker 2: do like a thing on our Instagram being like like
Speaker 2: you can send us what you're shopping for and we'll
Speaker 2: go find it on sale. Like it's knowing where to
Speaker 2: find things on sale or what sites price match so
Speaker 2: that you can like get the best possible.
Speaker 6: Yeah, love or like beauty joops, if you want to
Speaker 6: buy affordable beauty, or if you want to shop more sustainably,
Speaker 6: like helping people like make.
Speaker 4: Better shopping decisions. Yes, trying to.
Speaker 3: It's so bad though.
Speaker 1: She was a hashtag because I, like probably everyone else
Speaker 1: at the moment, I wanted to buy something from Jeff Avenue.
Speaker 4: And I was like, I've found a couple.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, tell us some of your best budgeting shopping tip.
Speaker 1: It's a very broad question, but I'm sure you got some.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: The first one is that sales mainly launch on a
Speaker 2: Tuesday or a Wednesday, So like if you're going to
Speaker 2: buy something and it's like a Friday, wait because if
Speaker 2: it's not on sale, it might be on sale that
Speaker 2: Tuesday or Wednesday. Like the Iconic is always on sale.
Speaker 2: That's like their business model, but every Tuesday or Wednesday
Speaker 2: it changes to something else. And same with like wherever
Speaker 2: you're shopping, like Princess Poll or Nasty Gal, like their
Speaker 2: sales update mainly on like a Tuesday or Wednesday, so
Speaker 2: that's when we'll do like the best sales of the
Speaker 2: Week round up because that's when all the new sales.
Speaker 3: Are going to come in.
Speaker 2: And then the other thing is if you want to
Speaker 2: buy something online, to put it into Google and then
Speaker 2: like the exact product name, like if you wanted to
Speaker 2: get like Converse Chuck Taylor Platforms, I don't that's not
Speaker 2: like the exact name, but you'd put that into Google
Speaker 2: and Google will show you all the retailers that stock
Speaker 2: it in like their little carousel at the top, and
Speaker 2: so you can actually like compare prices through that and
Speaker 2: from that go to like their policies roof. They have
Speaker 2: the little chat box on their website, be like, do
Speaker 2: you guys price match? So if you want to get
Speaker 2: it from the Iconic because you've got a gift voucher,
Speaker 2: but you know like JD Sports has them on sale,
Speaker 2: go to their chat and be like, would you guys
Speaker 2: and the Iconic does price matt so and you can
Speaker 2: do it that way is probably my two favorite, and.
Speaker 6: As well as knowing those weekly sail like seasons sale events.
Speaker 6: So there are so many throughout the year, but before
Speaker 6: the end of this year, we'll have Black Friday, Cyber Monday,
Speaker 6: and then Boxing Day, so we don't do any of
Speaker 6: our like big ticket item shopping sprees be on those dates. Really,
Speaker 6: like so planning that out. So Christmas is coming up,
Speaker 6: do all of your Christmas shopping on Black Friday and
Speaker 6: Side Monday. Get a spreadsheet or like have it or
Speaker 6: everything that you want to buy that's in your like
Speaker 6: must buy lists, and then have it in the cart
Speaker 6: ready to go, so as soon as the sail drops
Speaker 6: you can jump on it.
Speaker 1: This is actually something that I came across the other
Speaker 1: day that my pre a's twenty first was the other day,
Speaker 1: and I was like, what do you want for your birthday?
Speaker 1: And then she's like told me how she's got this
Speaker 1: like almost like a wish list.
Speaker 2: Cue.
Speaker 1: And then someone else was saying they have a wish list,
Speaker 1: and I was like, is this a normal thing where
Speaker 1: you almost have a document of like all the things
Speaker 1: you want?
Speaker 4: Do you guys have that?
Speaker 3: I do?
Speaker 2: It's like twelve pages long. I'm like, what do you
Speaker 2: want for Christmas? She's like, here's a spreadsheet?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I have it.
Speaker 2: I have it on TikTok as well, so you know
Speaker 2: how you can like save into folders.
Speaker 3: I have like a two by folder of all.
Speaker 2: The things that like to because you know how you
Speaker 2: see something on TikTok and you like scroll it or
Speaker 2: you like it, but then like your light folder is
Speaker 2: like seven one hundred tiktoks and you never can find
Speaker 2: it again. So I save it to a folder of
Speaker 2: things that I want to buy.
Speaker 1: Do you guys have like a roster or something like?
Speaker 1: For example, I'm a person when when I like achieve
Speaker 1: a goal or something, I buy myself something. I'm that
Speaker 1: person and I love to treat myself in that way
Speaker 1: and almost I almost need to work for something for
Speaker 1: it to feel really special and nice to me. I'm
Speaker 1: talking more like luxy. Do you guys kind of have
Speaker 1: a roster of like how much money you spend or
Speaker 1: if you're you know, waiting for those like higher ticket things,
Speaker 1: or like what do you do in that situation?
Speaker 6: I think we always consider the cost per wear if
Speaker 6: it's all cost per use.
Speaker 1: Me too, Like that is like bags.
Speaker 4: I don't do shoes because I don't like shoes very often.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like guys toes. It is scary most.
Speaker 1: Sneakers most of the time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So you're not gonna like splurge on a pair
Speaker 6: of gees that you give you like.
Speaker 4: Agony for the rest of your life.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, whereas a handbag that you're like, this is
Speaker 6: a classic style that I will never fall out of
Speaker 6: love with.
Speaker 4: Yes, I will splurge on that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And there's also like a hack that you can do
Speaker 2: that we saw on TikTok as well, and it was
Speaker 2: like if someone if you want us to buy a
Speaker 2: new case, for example, and the phone case was fifty dollars,
Speaker 2: or someone offers you fifty dollars, Like, would you if
Speaker 2: I was going to give you the phone case for
Speaker 2: free or I was going to give you fifty dollars
Speaker 2: and you would choose the fifty dollars, then you don't
Speaker 2: actually want the phone case.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you value the money more than the item.
Speaker 4: Oh my god. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2: So that's like a good way that you can do it,
Speaker 2: or working out how many hours you would actually work
Speaker 2: do that? Yeah, But then like that one includes maths,
Speaker 2: so I don't do that one.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, do I want fifty bucks? Yes, not
Speaker 3: a phone case for me?
Speaker 1: Interesting? Yeah, Oh I love that so much.
Speaker 3: That's like a good I think.
Speaker 1: Also another thing is for me personally, I love mixing
Speaker 1: and matching, like you know, high priced tans and low
Speaker 1: price items and not getting caught up in I guess
Speaker 1: like it it's whatever it means to me. It doesn't
Speaker 1: matter to anyone else. And it's like, am I going
Speaker 1: to value this piece? Am I going to feel like
Speaker 1: this is really worth it? Or is it just like
Speaker 1: trendy at the moment?
Speaker 6: Yeah, trending like designer bag.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the Gucci marm On belt was like one of
Speaker 2: the best things that people could buy what like five years.
Speaker 3: Ago, and then like everyone had it.
Speaker 2: But then when everyone has it, I just feel like
Speaker 2: it's not special anymore.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's just like my opinion, and then it becomes
Speaker 6: a little bit cringe. But say if you do think no,
Speaker 6: I genuinely love this and will love it forever, Like yes,
Speaker 6: by it if it's on trend. Yeah, but it needs
Speaker 6: to be something that you know that you will love forever.
Speaker 2: We're really bad in terms of like when one of
Speaker 2: us is like, oh, should I buy this? Like like yes,
Speaker 2: we are each other, like you have black you know,
Speaker 2: You're like when I achieve something, I buy something.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I will. I'm probably the opposite.
Speaker 2: I want to buy something, but I'm like Joe, what
Speaker 2: I went for the gym three times? Last week I
Speaker 2: wrote an article I did my job.
Speaker 8: I just have something.
Speaker 1: In saying that that's still achieving things if I've even
Speaker 1: gone through like a bit of a like hard time Metal.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I just.
Speaker 2: Seroton, Yeah, a little shopping serotonin here. My like Postman's like, ell,
Speaker 2: what have we got today? And I'm like, wouldn't you
Speaker 2: like to know?
Speaker 6: Joe?
Speaker 4: I was a kids. Yeah, No, that's amazing. They are great.
Speaker 1: Tip Well, guys, thank you so much for coming on
Speaker 1: the potty. This is us and you you already offered,
Speaker 1: so we'll have you every hotline difect everyone's please. No,
Speaker 1: I appreciate so much. It's so lovely being in person,
Speaker 1: so nice, so nice. But can you tell the audience
Speaker 1: where they can find you all those good things?
Speaker 6: You can listen to our podcast two broa Chicks wherever
Speaker 6: you get your fine shows. You can follow us on
Speaker 6: Instagram at two Broke Chicks and on TikTok at two
Speaker 6: brow Chicks Underscore. And if you're out there and you're
Speaker 6: the person with at two Broo Chicks on TikTok, please
Speaker 6: linquish your power, will give you money know what is
Speaker 6: what's the TikTok someone?
Speaker 3: It doesn't even they're not even. It's just some random
Speaker 3: person that got too broke. Is your TikTok to broach
Speaker 3: Chicks Underscore?
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, so you can follow us there. We also
Speaker 6: have a private Facebook group bro Chicks Club, and we're
Speaker 6: always chucking up sales when we see them in there.
Speaker 4: I'm joining.
Speaker 2: I put a video of Sala washing my face last night.
Speaker 3: We were a bit drunk in there today.
Speaker 4: So you'll get those two sales trauma.
Speaker 2: I was like to take off my makeup and Sale
Speaker 2: came in with like a WebWatch class.
Speaker 3: She was like coming.
Speaker 2: I was like help, Like that's if you want to
Speaker 2: see that too. Everyone's like leaves groups.
Speaker 1: No, you guys are honestly so much fun you know,
Speaker 1: I just love that with love this whole time.
Speaker 4: You guys are really funny.
Speaker 2: I told you, oh my god, one time, we'll do
Speaker 2: your partnership.
Speaker 3: And they're like, you know, we could go with like.
Speaker 2: Really pretty creators, but you guys are funny.
Speaker 1: And we were like I was like, no, we get it.
Speaker 3: Where ugly.
Speaker 1: You know what I love is like even on my
Speaker 1: personal brand, like when they you're really down to earth
Speaker 1: like good.
Speaker 4: That's all right.
Speaker 2: We'll take the personality card.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll take the w.
Speaker 4: Every day. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah no, thank you guys so much.
Speaker 3: Bye bye.
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