WEBVTT - Red Flags & Icks ft. Two Broke Chicks 🚩🚩🚩

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<v Speaker 1>The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the

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<v Speaker 1>land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen Bay region.

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<v Speaker 1>We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land,

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<v Speaker 1>sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders

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<v Speaker 1>past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal

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<v Speaker 1>and terrestriid islander peoples today. Hello, and welcome back to

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<v Speaker 1>the Rising Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for ordinary

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<v Speaker 1>people who want to do extraordinary things.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the idea of been like chasing after a ball,

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<v Speaker 2>but then like trying to pick up what they.

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<v Speaker 3>Miss trying to pick up the ball, and they're like chasing.

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<v Speaker 2>After and you're like I had a dog, Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>like a.

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<v Speaker 3>Tennis ball, like a ping pong ball.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god, no, that's great.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Potty.

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<v Speaker 1>It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lower turned entrepreneur, mum,

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<v Speaker 1>business owner, all the things, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Fridays are our fun g hotline episodes where you give

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<v Speaker 1>us your life dilemmas and we provide you with very

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<v Speaker 1>unqualified two cents on the situation. Except today we are

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<v Speaker 1>joined by some very special guests. Sal and Awl from

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<v Speaker 1>the Two Broke Chicks podcast join me and we chat

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<v Speaker 1>about all things love, dating, and just going through life

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<v Speaker 1>in your twenties. I've been in a relationship since I

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<v Speaker 1>was seventeen, so I loved having the girls on because

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know a lot of these things and it

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<v Speaker 1>was just hilarious. We talk about X, we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>red flags, green flags, all the things. We have so

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<v Speaker 1>much fun. These girls are just they're so funny. They

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<v Speaker 1>are too much. You guys are gonna be obsessed with

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<v Speaker 1>this episode. But before we get into the show, can

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<v Speaker 1>I tell them?

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<v Speaker 4>Sure? You can tell them again.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't told them, but pretty much have.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, I tel You's about as subtle as

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<v Speaker 5>a gun when it comes to launching what like, I

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<v Speaker 5>just love being transparent was with a little secrecy.

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<v Speaker 2>All the time.

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<v Speaker 1>The field hight All right, guys, you've probably seen it

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<v Speaker 1>all over my Instagram, and if you haven't guessed it

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<v Speaker 1>by now, you're not a true R and C fan.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just say that, so we have officially. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you guys will see a bit later today.

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<v Speaker 4>No, they'll see it on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, all right, So we officially are going to

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<v Speaker 1>announce us on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 4>But because you're my gang, you're the club we want

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<v Speaker 4>to remember. Watch you for listening to the podcast We

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<v Speaker 4>Love the rn C Club.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys may have seen, but we're launching a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>rn C time stamped Sunset water bottle. It's not really sunset,

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<v Speaker 1>it's our brain colors, but that's the fo So I've

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<v Speaker 1>you may have seen the sample a lot in my stories,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's because I've been using it for a very

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<v Speaker 1>long time and I'm just obsessed.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so bloody cute, it's stunning.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like I loved it when it first got here,

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<v Speaker 5>and every time I look at it, I just love

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<v Speaker 5>it even more.

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<v Speaker 4>A two years obsessed. But basically these are launching on Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>Stay tuned. But we were just thinking we want to

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<v Speaker 1>do something fun at the end of the year, and

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<v Speaker 1>how fun would it be if you know, you're sitting

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<v Speaker 1>on the bus walking across the road and you see

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<v Speaker 1>someone with a beautiful rn C water bottle and he

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<v Speaker 1>would love it. You just give them the nod like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're in the club.

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<v Speaker 4>So more deeds of that will be on our Instagram

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<v Speaker 4>you can check that out.

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<v Speaker 5>And join the Facebook group if you want to see

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<v Speaker 5>it right now, because we did goat Brogan there.

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<v Speaker 1>We just will of course we tell the fate the

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<v Speaker 1>FB group first. Yeah, it's important, but quick recommendation for

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<v Speaker 1>the week of tcau epis long.

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<v Speaker 5>Mine is just to do something outside.

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<v Speaker 4>The water is the weather. The water. You haven't been

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<v Speaker 4>in the water.

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<v Speaker 5>The weather is stunning on the Gold Coast, and I

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<v Speaker 5>forgot how refreshing it is to just like go for.

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<v Speaker 4>A walk outside because that's not something I do often,

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<v Speaker 4>but everybody here does. Simple reminder, but it's important.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, what's your recommendation this week, Georgie.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a very basic bitch recommendation and it's the

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<v Speaker 1>book you've seen everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>It's all over TikTok It ends with Us by Colleen Hoover.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm obsessed. I get hype. It's so good. Is it

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<v Speaker 4>traumatic though?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, like it's definitely definitely trigger warning.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just it was hugely insightful because I guess to

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<v Speaker 1>understand how I feel like you can really put someone

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<v Speaker 1>in a box in a certain relationship, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>really really insightful to like, understand how that person felt

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe you know the option.

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<v Speaker 4>She had, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 1>So I found it really insightful. I personally love a

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<v Speaker 1>love story. And yeah, I bought the second book and

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<v Speaker 1>currently reading that. So it's probably gonna be next week's recommendation,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was great. Do you recommend I.

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<v Speaker 5>Will give it a go.

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<v Speaker 4>It's on my bedside table. Let's get into the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Sal and Owl, I'm gonna call you all episode. So,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, before we get into the fun Friday

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<v Speaker 1>hotline questions, can you just tell us a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>about you?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure one of you to take? So Saal and I

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<v Speaker 2>have been best friends for six years. We met both

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<v Speaker 2>working as shoppingjournalist. Well, I worked as a shopping journalist.

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<v Speaker 2>Sour worked as a finance editor, so my job was

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<v Speaker 2>a lot more fun. And we met because South told

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<v Speaker 2>me she liked my geenes. So like from that point

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<v Speaker 2>we were just like best friends. Within one month, we

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<v Speaker 2>had matching tattoos. Oh my god, yeah yeah, we both

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<v Speaker 2>had like it's a rose, Like, it's so basic, it's

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<v Speaker 2>so late.

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<v Speaker 1>We went to a tattoo expo. We were like, let's

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<v Speaker 1>get tats.

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<v Speaker 3>Now we have four matching tattoos.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, we can't do anything to get another one.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah on this.

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<v Speaker 1>Trip yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And so fast forward now we have our podcast together.

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<v Speaker 3>Two boat chicks, we would say, now and yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 3>just vibes. Basically we're the same human being.

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<v Speaker 1>Two psychopaths a bit different. Yeah, it's like the same particular. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're either like.

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<v Speaker 2>Completely the same on something or like polar opposite. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I love.

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<v Speaker 4>A different opinion.

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<v Speaker 3>But were we saying how you're like the cold one.

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<v Speaker 2>Like no, no, no, like that friends someone like yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>when someone's like, well we don't like something called like

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<v Speaker 2>someone's mean or whatever it is, Sour will be like

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<v Speaker 2>the ice queen and I'm like an Aries, So I'll

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<v Speaker 2>be like fire and be like like.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, what's like TikTok trend And it's like, oh, Golden

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<v Speaker 6>Retrieve a black car.

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<v Speaker 2>Ye yeah, I'm the Golden Retriever. She's a black cat.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>What star signed?

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<v Speaker 1>So you're Aries and I'm a Pisces.

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<v Speaker 4>Interesting balanced? Yeah that is really balanced. I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what's your star sign?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a Leo.

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<v Speaker 3>Into it, yeah, spicy into it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>We always say that I'm the peronification of a spicy mug.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, in a person.

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<v Speaker 4>I would agree love.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And so how did the podcast actually eventuate?

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<v Speaker 4>Like whose idea was it?

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<v Speaker 1>How did it kind of get picked up?

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<v Speaker 4>And tells the.

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<v Speaker 6>Goss Well, pretty much, our bosses saw us interacting in

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<v Speaker 6>the office and saw us being BF.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're working at the same place, yeah, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>what magazine or Finder?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're still working there.

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<v Speaker 6>But yeah, our bosses saw us interacting and saw us

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<v Speaker 6>being BFF, and they were like, we need to do

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<v Speaker 6>something with these two talking heads. And there'd been a

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<v Speaker 6>few different podcasts at the company that we worked at before,

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<v Speaker 6>and then we were like, you know how besties are always.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we should have a podcast.

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<v Speaker 6>We were like, we're actually sure, Like we're so fanny,

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<v Speaker 6>They're like, shut up, but yeah, So we pretty much

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<v Speaker 6>just pitched it to our work and they were like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>we may as well make.

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<v Speaker 1>You some the fact that you do never shut up.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Everyone at work was like when our desks got

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<v Speaker 2>moved next to each other, because obviously we worked in

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<v Speaker 2>different teams, yeah, but when our desks got moved next

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<v Speaker 2>to each other, everyone at work walked past that day

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<v Speaker 2>and like, who thought this was a good idea. They

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<v Speaker 2>were like, what who approved? And we'd got like when

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<v Speaker 2>they got moved next to each other. H. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys have been given a chance now, so like

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<v Speaker 2>you need to They were like, you need to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure that you don't take advantage of the fact that

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<v Speaker 2>you get to sit next to each other.

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<v Speaker 3>And we definitely got an always.

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<v Speaker 4>Complaint and we definitely did take advantage.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, yeah, we got like because you could send

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<v Speaker 2>in like feedback, and someone was like, sound out, like

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<v Speaker 2>a really good relationship with each other, and it's so

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<v Speaker 2>nice that they can be best friends.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you think that they could maybe keep it

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<v Speaker 3>down at lunchtime? And we all like.

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<v Speaker 4>Rude, So sure, sorry, probably so valid.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was definitely valid.

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<v Speaker 2>But then the next line, someone was like, why are

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<v Speaker 2>you guys being so quiet because normally lunchtime it's like

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<v Speaker 2>sound algia usually.

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<v Speaker 4>Lunch and show.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I was like, why are you guys being boring?

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<v Speaker 6>We got in trouble, were giving people what they want exactly,

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<v Speaker 6>We're got in trouble.

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<v Speaker 1>And so do you guys still work, like, like do

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<v Speaker 1>your other jobs as well as the podcast?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we've kind of moved more into like sours

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<v Speaker 2>moved more into shopping journalism, and we kind of do

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<v Speaker 2>that alongside Two Boat Chicks as well, because that's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of how the brand started a little bit, like Two

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<v Speaker 2>Boat Chicks was a lot more about shopping, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it still is, but then we kind of spread out

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<v Speaker 2>into more like lifestyle content and things like that, and

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<v Speaker 2>then it's just kind of built to be everything, but

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<v Speaker 2>we still have crippling shopping addictions.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I was going to ask, so, like the name,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it.

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<v Speaker 4>Did it literally just come from shopping?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>It was going to be two Broke Girls, and then

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<v Speaker 2>there was that TV show do you remember the one?

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<v Speaker 2>And it was like ages ago, Maybe not.

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<v Speaker 4>It's the two things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, yeah it was two Broke Girls. And then

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<v Speaker 2>legal was like you can do that. So we were like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, two Broke Chicks, crazy idea to shake it out.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, we love it.

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<v Speaker 4>I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm seeing in like Brooklyn nine and he's like showing

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<v Speaker 2>the photos.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like it's the same photo. It's the same. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love anyone who can take, you know, their passion,

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<v Speaker 1>something they love doing and turn it into you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say the word job, but that

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<v Speaker 1>sort of thing like that's incredible.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we feel so lucky.

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<v Speaker 2>Like obviously you would know as well, like you work

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<v Speaker 2>across so many things and so much content creation as well,

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<v Speaker 2>that sometimes you can be like like, work can always

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<v Speaker 2>be annoying, and sometimes whenever we're having those moments being like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh there's so much to do, we're like, wait, we

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<v Speaker 3>have our dream job.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I've stopp being ungrateful little solks and reality too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you need to remind yourself. And I'm sure you

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<v Speaker 1>guys have had previous jobs.

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<v Speaker 4>That you didn't love.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, and you've got to kind of like think

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<v Speaker 1>back to them. That's what I was doing, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>always like, it's fine, I can get through this day.

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<v Speaker 2>To be honest, I think my job when I was

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<v Speaker 2>fourteen was pretty up there. I worked in a patisserie,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'd get free pies and cupcakes all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>How I wasn't the side.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it was just like a cute little like family

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<v Speaker 2>one just down the road, and I was like great,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'd come home with like a loaf of bread pies.

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<v Speaker 2>Mum was living the dream.

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<v Speaker 4>I worked at Hogs bread and would eat all the food.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, the best, the best.

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<v Speaker 4>I worked at a chicken shop and I was the same.

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like in the hot chip traving like they're like,

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<v Speaker 6>there's customers. I was like, I'm showing them how good

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<v Speaker 6>the product, Like you're fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I worked at Grilled as well, but the legal reasons

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<v Speaker 2>we worked we won't the home expand on that Okay

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<v Speaker 2>girl away as well. But you know, slovelover, isn't that funky?

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<v Speaker 4>Noted noted. I was about to say, do you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Have any other previous fun jobs that used to do

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<v Speaker 1>before the funnest job you got?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I still work as a freelance music journalist on

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<v Speaker 6>the side, so I've written for like Rolling Stone and

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<v Speaker 6>music Feeds, So those are probably the funnest ones, like

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<v Speaker 6>just interviewing getting paid to interview bands.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, wow, Yeah, that's incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I worked as a nanny and that was a

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<v Speaker 2>vibe because I just got to watch Disney movies all

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<v Speaker 2>the time.

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<v Speaker 7>Well.

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<v Speaker 1>I was actually talking to my husband about this the

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<v Speaker 1>other day because we get a babysitter every now and

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<v Speaker 1>again when we like do date night or something like

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<v Speaker 1>you but no joke like Ivy goes to bed at

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<v Speaker 1>like six and we're not home till nine, and like

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<v Speaker 1>Nanny just tells us that she does her own like

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<v Speaker 1>other work, so she's like technically getting paid.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm like, I love this for you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 1>And then yeah, when Ivy's awake, she's such a chill baby,

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<v Speaker 1>chill just like watch TV and like give her a bottle,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, I thought.

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<v Speaker 4>This is great.

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<v Speaker 2>It was great because the one thing I always hated about,

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<v Speaker 2>like working in hospitality or retail, is like you only

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<v Speaker 2>get a one in a lunch break and I'm always hungry.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm just always hungry. I love to eat, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and so then I can't eat all the time, Whereas

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you guys hungry, I'm like, should we make cookies?

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<v Speaker 4>But I love that? Yeah, so it was good.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, all right, little momad of Lion King, what

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<v Speaker 3>do we feel? I'm thinking a little my maid?

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<v Speaker 4>But what do you guys want? That's actually I mean

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<v Speaker 4>to him.

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<v Speaker 1>Started watching Disney movies when Ivy was like three months old.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even see You're like, poor memory. Should we

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<v Speaker 1>watch My Mana again? It was like we're doing this viby.

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<v Speaker 4>Ivy.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, guys, so let's get into our questions. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited for this because, like I said off air,

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<v Speaker 1>I have had the same partner since I was seventeen,

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<v Speaker 1>so like, I didn't really date my twenties before Tim,

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<v Speaker 1>there was like you know, one or two people, but

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<v Speaker 1>like when you're seventeen, you fucking don't know shit. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no one knows anything.

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<v Speaker 4>No one knows anything.

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<v Speaker 2>So I still don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Shit, I'm twenty six.

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<v Speaker 3>Where where no no no learning?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, life lessence And well so how.

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<v Speaker 4>Long have you been with your partner? Fourteen years?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? Eating me?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, also fifteen yeah, so I'm twenty nine yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>so I'm eighteen, Like you're on a ship. I don't

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<v Speaker 4>know where. I got a lot of wish keeper.

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<v Speaker 2>We always say that we're like the opposite ends of

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<v Speaker 2>the dating spectrum because I'm just like hopeless, like very single, and.

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<v Speaker 1>He had a like long term boyfriend or anything.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so I.

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<v Speaker 2>Dated basically when I was like, I was in relationships

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<v Speaker 2>for maybe like five years from like eighteen from then.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not even gonna do the masks.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even do a plus six bro.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's why someone that was a plus six yank.

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<v Speaker 2>And then from that, I was like, I just need

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<v Speaker 2>to be single, like that was what I wanted to do,

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<v Speaker 2>because for me, it was such a thing that I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to grow and figure out who I was, and

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't feel like I could do that in the

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<v Speaker 2>relationship that I was in.

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<v Speaker 3>That's not to say that you can't grow into who.

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<v Speaker 2>You're supposed to be when you're in a relationship, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just obviously wasn't in the right ones that I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like I was missing and growing more to like

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<v Speaker 2>be their partner, not be me. So that's why I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, do you know what, I'm going to go

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<v Speaker 2>be a little hull for a bit.

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<v Speaker 4>Breaking Coorage.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're breaking.

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<v Speaker 2>Free as the iconic classical musical works to say, and yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And so then have kind of like dated people on

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<v Speaker 2>and off since then, But then I would like they

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<v Speaker 2>either wouldn't like me.

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<v Speaker 3>Shock, I know, it's.

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<v Speaker 1>More out there they exist, can you believe me? Me

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<v Speaker 1>and my dad always have this joke because we're both

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<v Speaker 1>people seezers that if like someone doesn't like us, we're.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, we are such nice people, how could you not

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<v Speaker 4>like it?

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<v Speaker 2>Or if I've done something wrong but sounds like no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not your fault because all her or then I've

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<v Speaker 2>just gotten the.

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<v Speaker 3>Equal got commitment issues, and I'm like, bye, well, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You have like lots of lots of wisdom, lots of knowledge,

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<v Speaker 1>so this is going to.

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<v Speaker 4>Be perfect for this segment.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so take all of our advice and.

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<v Speaker 4>The RNC gangs like trying to listen his voices. We

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<v Speaker 4>actually get that all.

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<v Speaker 1>So first question, I love this. We're going straight in

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<v Speaker 1>what do we like? What do you do if you

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<v Speaker 1>realize you're dating a fuck boy you.

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<v Speaker 4>Really like him?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's never gonna work, like it's just because as

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<v Speaker 2>well if I mean, you know, sometimes you can lock

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<v Speaker 2>him down, but let's be honest, chances of it's happening

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<v Speaker 2>probably not. So I feel like if you're dating a

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<v Speaker 2>fuck boy, he's showing fuck boy tendencies because if he was,

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<v Speaker 2>then you wouldn't like if he wasn't doing things exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>but like, so, what makes you think he's a fuck

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<v Speaker 2>busy dating other people? You're not comfortable with that, then

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<v Speaker 2>like that needs to be communicated.

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<v Speaker 3>But if your feelings are going to.

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<v Speaker 2>Get hurt rather than being like I conchanged him. We've

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<v Speaker 2>all been there and then we all get hurt, So like,

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<v Speaker 2>don't do that. I think it's opening the conversation up.

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<v Speaker 2>Like what I would do is I would open up

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<v Speaker 2>the conversation and be like, look like, I really like you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm developing feelings for you. Is this something like that

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<v Speaker 2>you were also feeling?

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<v Speaker 3>Don't do the what are we?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't give them that power, be like I feel this,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm enjoying this. I would like to continue it. How

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<v Speaker 2>do you feel about that?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so we're not saying what are we?

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<v Speaker 2>Nah, don't because it gives them the power to define it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I would define it, be like, this is what

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<v Speaker 2>I want. This is what I'm feeling. How do you

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<v Speaker 2>feel about that? Do you agree or disagree?

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<v Speaker 1>So you hold the power. You define it, and then you.

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<v Speaker 2>Go and they can like either meet you in the middle,

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<v Speaker 2>rather than you giving them all the options, being like

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<v Speaker 2>you get to choose whether or not we're just having sex,

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<v Speaker 2>or we're gonna officially date, or maybe.

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<v Speaker 3>We're seeing each other.

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<v Speaker 2>You tell them what you want and they can either

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<v Speaker 2>say yes or no to that, rather than choosing whatever

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<v Speaker 2>they want, because don't give them the option to just

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<v Speaker 2>like string you along.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what about if you've done that? You defined I

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<v Speaker 1>want this, I like you. And they are kind of

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<v Speaker 1>quite transparent where they're like, look, I'm not quite there,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would want to be there.

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<v Speaker 4>I did move on.

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<v Speaker 6>And as well, like the traits of being a fuck

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<v Speaker 6>boy aren't isolated, Like, they're also related to their other

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<v Speaker 6>characteristics and how they treat people. So if they're a liar,

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<v Speaker 6>if they're flaky, like that's going to show up in

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<v Speaker 6>the relationship later. Like, I honestly think that that is

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<v Speaker 6>like someone.

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<v Speaker 4>And who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone being flaky is like sales most hate. Yeah, get

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<v Speaker 2>out of my head.

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<v Speaker 3>If they like if they bail on plans or like

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<v Speaker 3>if they're like yeah, no maybe like I might be.

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<v Speaker 2>Free this week and blah blah blah blah. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>like the.

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<v Speaker 4>Most commitment issue.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and just the dating stage, it's like this is

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<v Speaker 1>the easiest fucking thing ever, totally.

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<v Speaker 4>And it just shows that they don't respect your time.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh nothing annoys me more. Yeah, time is so precious.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, And people give you.

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<v Speaker 2>Their best when you first meet them, so they're not

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<v Speaker 2>true if they're not giving you, like their best and

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<v Speaker 2>making you feel like really special and all that, like sparkles,

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<v Speaker 2>glitter unicorns, butterfly bar aps, Like imagine how shit it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to of been like five years when no one

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<v Speaker 2>makes an effort.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I say that to go hom I'm like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>the start should be the most like magical time of

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<v Speaker 1>your life. You should get butterflies like their feelings like

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<v Speaker 1>and if it's not.

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<v Speaker 4>There, I would be a little bit worried.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>And also I think that that origin story of you

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<v Speaker 6>dating is so important, Like I would hate to think

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<v Speaker 6>back to the beginning of your relationship and when you're

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<v Speaker 6>retelling that story and then you're thinking like, oh, actually

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<v Speaker 6>they fucked a bunch of other people and lied to

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<v Speaker 6>me about it, and like.

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<v Speaker 1>That's our origin story.

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<v Speaker 4>Like no one wants to bully me. So he was

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<v Speaker 4>saving the speech giving the bridesmaid speech.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was really shit with breaking up with like

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<v Speaker 2>my last boyfriend, Like we were so on and off

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<v Speaker 2>for so long, and like I would say to Sal,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, oh, I imagine like the wedding speech

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<v Speaker 2>if we got married and sales like there wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 2>one so.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't speak. So you don't want to hear what

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she's got like a slideshow presentation of like twelve

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<v Speaker 2>reasons you two should not get married.

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<v Speaker 7>Number one I Hate You April eleven, twenty sixty twelve

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<v Speaker 7>fifty four.

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<v Speaker 1>Bit it is a bit like that, I definitely feel

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<v Speaker 1>like at the start. It also kind of tarnishes things,

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<v Speaker 1>like you will constantly think back to that time. I like,

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to think that people can change, and

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<v Speaker 1>like our whole podcast is about personal development, and you

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<v Speaker 1>know that you can change as a person, but there

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<v Speaker 1>definitely are key things where you just like.

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<v Speaker 2>Hm, I feel like as well, when you're watching a

0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:10.800
<v Speaker 2>friend go through that, Like I'm sure you've probably watched friends, Yeah,

0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:11.640
<v Speaker 2>date fuck boys.

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<v Speaker 3>You're just there and you're like, what are you doing.

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<v Speaker 2>There's this term that I definitely didn't coin, but I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know where it came from. And it's called dixand

0:21:19.240 --> 0:21:23.000
<v Speaker 2>and it's like quicksand can I swear? Yeah, Okay, cute dixan.

0:21:23.119 --> 0:21:27.359
<v Speaker 2>So so like you're stunning sand but it's dixan, So

0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:29.000
<v Speaker 2>you have to stop having sex with the person and

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<v Speaker 2>get out of the dixan.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, okay, so my next question, let's just say fuck boy.

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<v Speaker 1>You both you know said what it is. You do

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<v Speaker 1>like him, but you're like, do I just continue to

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<v Speaker 1>no oxytocin.

0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Oxytocin is like the chemical that releases in your brain.

0:21:48.800 --> 0:21:49.880
<v Speaker 3>When you have sex.

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<v Speaker 2>It's such a trick, and the more you have sex

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<v Speaker 2>with this person, the more like oxytocin will be released

0:21:54.960 --> 0:21:57.680
<v Speaker 2>and you'll relate that feeling to that person.

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<v Speaker 3>I always say that there's like.

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<v Speaker 2>A certain lim it on, like how many times I

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<v Speaker 2>can have sex with someone at six? By the way,

0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:08.760
<v Speaker 2>I get six because you're wondering, and then I'm like, ah,

0:22:08.800 --> 0:22:10.080
<v Speaker 2>she I got feelings for them.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so that's the formula.

0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:14.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Like if I'm like seeing something you.

0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:18.440
<v Speaker 1>Don't want to have feelings, You're like five, I'm out.

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<v Speaker 7>Stand kicked the door and I'm like wrong, Yeah, you're

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<v Speaker 7>like West, I love that she's got you back.

0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:33.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she's like get out of there, get.

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<v Speaker 3>Her out, get her out, Redhoy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amazing that you figured that out though, and you're

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<v Speaker 1>very self aware about it too. Have you ever been

0:22:44.680 --> 0:22:48.000
<v Speaker 1>in that situation where you know exactly what's happening and.

0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:48.360
<v Speaker 6>You're like.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I would just be like in my head and

0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:56.680
<v Speaker 2>I was like whatever, what my feelings are fully gonna

0:22:56.680 --> 0:22:58.040
<v Speaker 2>get her? And I was like fuck it.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, let's do it.

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<v Speaker 4>Like when you drink.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like you know you're gonna have the worst hungover,

0:23:03.960 --> 0:23:05.600
<v Speaker 1>but you're like, oh, look I've gone this far.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>So and I would be all night. So I'd be like,

0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:09.680
<v Speaker 3>anyway I'm going.

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<v Speaker 1>She'd be like where are you going?

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<v Speaker 3>I just look at her and she'd be like no,

0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:13.680
<v Speaker 3>I'd like.

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<v Speaker 4>Came down around a shop for me please.

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<v Speaker 2>She's just like there with like the sad saloon, and

0:23:22.080 --> 0:23:24.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm like I'm I literally have left sale, being like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm off to go and make a terrible decisione Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I was like she used to try and

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<v Speaker 2>be like no, don't like stop blah blah blah blah blah.

0:23:33.160 --> 0:23:35.200
<v Speaker 3>But at this point it's like, oh.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to make your own decisions.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's the other thing.

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<v Speaker 2>If your friends dating a fuck boy, I would say like,

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<v Speaker 2>just don't get involved. Like you can to a certain extent,

0:23:46.560 --> 0:23:48.800
<v Speaker 2>but like the more you invest emotionally in it, the

0:23:48.840 --> 0:23:52.080
<v Speaker 2>more that relationship will start to come between, like your friendship.

0:23:52.280 --> 0:23:54.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So it's exhausting, and then.

0:23:54.280 --> 0:23:55.760
<v Speaker 3>Your friends will just lie to you, like I would

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<v Speaker 3>like to out.

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<v Speaker 6>True to me, I would give advice and have like

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<v Speaker 6>a serious converse about it three times and then after

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<v Speaker 6>that like they're on their own.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>But then like I would communicate to al, I'd be

0:24:06.400 --> 0:24:09.120
<v Speaker 6>like sick, but like I'm not going to give you advice. Yes,

0:24:09.320 --> 0:24:11.960
<v Speaker 6>like of course I'll be there for you, but like

0:24:12.520 --> 0:24:14.440
<v Speaker 6>I can give you the script of what I'll say

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<v Speaker 6>and you can like read over, like my opinion's not

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<v Speaker 6>going to change.

0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:21.680
<v Speaker 1>It's like that TikTok it is. And that's what I

0:24:21.720 --> 0:24:22.040
<v Speaker 1>would be.

0:24:22.040 --> 0:24:24.000
<v Speaker 2>I'd be in that situation, be like, this is a

0:24:24.040 --> 0:24:26.640
<v Speaker 2>bad decision whatever.

0:24:26.480 --> 0:24:30.800
<v Speaker 1>It's for the plot. That's what we're saying, Yeah, make

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<v Speaker 1>a bad decision.

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<v Speaker 6>Love.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, well, let's talk about because I was listening to

0:24:35.760 --> 0:24:38.280
<v Speaker 1>an episode where you guys were speaking about I actually

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<v Speaker 1>think you're speaking to someone else. But like red and

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<v Speaker 1>green flags in a relationship at the start.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, so the green flags, green and red flags.

0:24:47.160 --> 0:24:48.680
<v Speaker 4>Let's do green first and then we'll go to red.

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<v Speaker 6>M So I think at the beginning of the relationship,

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<v Speaker 6>the green flag is if they're they show that they're

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<v Speaker 6>into you and you're not confused about that.

0:24:58.720 --> 0:24:59.240
<v Speaker 4>So simple.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I love it because I think that so many

0:25:01.400 --> 0:25:02.040
<v Speaker 6>people are.

0:25:02.280 --> 0:25:07.480
<v Speaker 4>But like so many people by that though, like people

0:25:07.480 --> 0:25:07.840
<v Speaker 4>are like.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, but I don't know, Like one day he

0:25:09.760 --> 0:25:11.480
<v Speaker 6>treated me like this and then the other day didn't

0:25:11.480 --> 0:25:14.080
<v Speaker 6>hear from him for four days, and it's just like

0:25:14.400 --> 0:25:15.399
<v Speaker 6>it is that simple.

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:16.280
<v Speaker 4>I think.

0:25:16.520 --> 0:25:19.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like men are quite simple, and it's like

0:25:19.880 --> 0:25:22.840
<v Speaker 1>what you see is what you get exactly. So at

0:25:22.840 --> 0:25:25.440
<v Speaker 1>the start, if they're giving you those questionable thoughts, it's

0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:29.239
<v Speaker 1>like he's telling you what he how he feels, like

0:25:29.320 --> 0:25:30.480
<v Speaker 1>the famous oult.

0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:31.360
<v Speaker 3>If they wanted to, they.

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<v Speaker 1>Would yeah, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 6>And again, like I think it's a good sign for

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<v Speaker 6>how they will communicate later down in the relationship, like

0:25:38.600 --> 0:25:41.240
<v Speaker 6>when you're having serious conversations, Like if they can't even

0:25:41.280 --> 0:25:44.160
<v Speaker 6>communicate to you that they are keen on you, how

0:25:44.160 --> 0:25:46.080
<v Speaker 6>are you going to have like a serious and complicated

0:25:46.119 --> 0:25:48.120
<v Speaker 6>relationship when you get into.

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<v Speaker 1>It interesting next screen, Vire, would you say, he goes no, go,

0:25:55.200 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 1>I didn't.

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<v Speaker 4>I was just gonna say, you just said communication.

0:25:58.600 --> 0:26:01.760
<v Speaker 1>Would you say that's a huge green flag of they

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<v Speaker 1>know how to communicate with you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think yes, But like to communicate in the

0:26:06.400 --> 0:26:07.640
<v Speaker 2>same way, so.

0:26:07.680 --> 0:26:10.520
<v Speaker 4>Like some people yeah.

0:26:10.359 --> 0:26:12.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, So like I am not a big texter,

0:26:12.880 --> 0:26:14.800
<v Speaker 2>like I hate texting during the day. I hate being

0:26:14.840 --> 0:26:17.800
<v Speaker 2>on my phone, and so someone that you.

0:26:17.760 --> 0:26:23.280
<v Speaker 1>Were cooler, Yes I am not, especially where I've had

0:26:23.320 --> 0:26:24.119
<v Speaker 1>a few beverages.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, Hi, I like you. I much prefer a call.

0:26:28.800 --> 0:26:31.320
<v Speaker 1>Interesting, but I just hate texting all day.

0:26:31.400 --> 0:26:33.159
<v Speaker 3>So if someone was like texting.

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<v Speaker 2>Me all day, I'd be like, this is too much,

0:26:35.359 --> 0:26:38.280
<v Speaker 2>Like I'm overwhelmed. So like making sure that you're on

0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:40.760
<v Speaker 2>the same page with how you like to communicate yah,

0:26:41.200 --> 0:26:43.199
<v Speaker 2>and being like I just prefer, you know, like a

0:26:43.240 --> 0:26:45.000
<v Speaker 2>call at the end of the day, just be like, hey,

0:26:45.000 --> 0:26:46.879
<v Speaker 2>how's your day being bang bong done?

0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:49.240
<v Speaker 1>Almost like yeah, making sure you're on the same page.

0:26:49.119 --> 0:26:49.679
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, exactly.

0:26:49.840 --> 0:26:53.399
<v Speaker 6>So nobody's feelings are getting hurt. And I think another

0:26:53.440 --> 0:26:56.000
<v Speaker 6>green flag, which you kind of mentioned before, is making

0:26:56.000 --> 0:26:59.840
<v Speaker 6>sure that your love languages align. So if your love

0:26:59.840 --> 0:27:03.720
<v Speaker 6>lianguage is words of affirmation, but the other person doesn't

0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:06.479
<v Speaker 6>really like to talk about their feelings or you know,

0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:08.679
<v Speaker 6>wear their hard on their sleeve and they're more like

0:27:08.720 --> 0:27:12.200
<v Speaker 6>touchy feely, or they like to spend quality time with you,

0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:15.800
<v Speaker 6>like you're going to be left feeling unsatisfied with that

0:27:15.880 --> 0:27:17.840
<v Speaker 6>relationship if they're not telling you all the things that

0:27:17.880 --> 0:27:18.400
<v Speaker 6>you want to hear.

0:27:19.240 --> 0:27:21.440
<v Speaker 2>So I think that's really important too.

0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:23.120
<v Speaker 6>Like you can have different ones, but I think there

0:27:23.160 --> 0:27:25.080
<v Speaker 6>needs to be some that align.

0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:29.560
<v Speaker 1>Would you agree that that's a conversation like you would

0:27:29.600 --> 0:27:31.840
<v Speaker 1>want to have at the start of your relationship.

0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:33.760
<v Speaker 4>That's completely I think.

0:27:33.840 --> 0:27:36.560
<v Speaker 2>So that's always something that I throw out, and.

0:27:36.560 --> 0:27:39.080
<v Speaker 4>I think, like it's good. It's a good icebreaker as well.

0:27:39.240 --> 0:27:42.280
<v Speaker 6>Yes, I have a five minute quiz.

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:45.720
<v Speaker 4>I just need you to feel this point. Yeah, yeah,

0:27:45.800 --> 0:27:46.119
<v Speaker 4>I'm not.

0:27:46.280 --> 0:27:48.840
<v Speaker 3>It's more of a warning, like my love language is physical.

0:27:48.600 --> 0:27:50.440
<v Speaker 2>Touch, so I will try to crawl inside your skin,

0:27:51.320 --> 0:27:53.680
<v Speaker 2>like I will be like I need to be touching

0:27:53.680 --> 0:27:56.560
<v Speaker 2>you all times the git Yeah exactly.

0:27:56.560 --> 0:27:58.520
<v Speaker 6>I feel like it's the twenty twenty two version of

0:27:58.560 --> 0:28:02.040
<v Speaker 6>what's Your Sign? So people are used to it now

0:28:02.080 --> 0:28:04.040
<v Speaker 6>as well, So I think it's a good icebreaker on

0:28:04.080 --> 0:28:07.040
<v Speaker 6>a first date as well, without it being too serious.

0:28:07.800 --> 0:28:09.480
<v Speaker 3>But it's good to know what your own.

0:28:09.960 --> 0:28:11.879
<v Speaker 2>It's good to know what their love language is and

0:28:11.920 --> 0:28:15.399
<v Speaker 2>your love language is, because for example, like sours is

0:28:15.440 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 2>all of them, she's very needy. Yeah, it's exhausting being

0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 2>her best friend.

0:28:20.200 --> 0:28:20.560
<v Speaker 3>I love you.

0:28:21.280 --> 0:28:24.400
<v Speaker 2>But so for example, if you're dating someone, like when

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:26.639
<v Speaker 2>I date someone, my love language is physical touch. That's

0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:28.359
<v Speaker 2>how I want to be loved and that's how I

0:28:28.400 --> 0:28:32.120
<v Speaker 2>show love. But if their love language is acts of service,

0:28:32.840 --> 0:28:36.200
<v Speaker 2>then they're not going to feel loved when I'm giving

0:28:36.240 --> 0:28:38.400
<v Speaker 2>them physical touch because that's not how they.

0:28:38.360 --> 0:28:41.040
<v Speaker 4>They will not do anything for them. So I buy

0:28:41.080 --> 0:28:42.160
<v Speaker 4>me a coffee now.

0:28:42.680 --> 0:28:44.840
<v Speaker 2>But if I like, you know, go get petrol, go

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:46.440
<v Speaker 2>in and get them a kit Cat because I know

0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:49.040
<v Speaker 2>that their favorite like chocolate, is a kit Cat.

0:28:48.880 --> 0:28:49.760
<v Speaker 3>And bring that to them.

0:28:50.240 --> 0:28:52.120
<v Speaker 2>That is going to make them feel so much more

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:54.640
<v Speaker 2>loved than like cuddling on the couch for half an hour. Yeah,

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.840
<v Speaker 2>so understanding, Like, so that is it's so important. It's

0:28:57.840 --> 0:28:58.440
<v Speaker 2>not important.

0:28:58.640 --> 0:29:02.280
<v Speaker 1>It's funny because yeah, I've been with him for like

0:29:02.440 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 1>ten years and we literally did the test the other

0:29:04.400 --> 0:29:05.720
<v Speaker 1>day and I did not.

0:29:06.040 --> 0:29:09.160
<v Speaker 4>Guess what was yours. Mine was acts of service.

0:29:09.800 --> 0:29:12.520
<v Speaker 1>So anytime you because time is such a thing for

0:29:12.600 --> 0:29:14.800
<v Speaker 1>me if I just feel so overwhelmed and busy most

0:29:14.840 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 1>of the time that if you can do something that

0:29:16.960 --> 0:29:20.680
<v Speaker 1>gives me back my time, I'm like, oh, love, love,

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 1>what was his His is words of affirmation, which I

0:29:24.080 --> 0:29:25.120
<v Speaker 1>would not have picked.

0:29:25.520 --> 0:29:25.760
<v Speaker 6>Wow.

0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:28.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then like physical touch after that, like a

0:29:28.880 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 1>lot of men. But it's just so interesting because I

0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:34.200
<v Speaker 1>didn't know that, and it was just it's funny now

0:29:34.200 --> 0:29:37.040
<v Speaker 1>that I think of it, though, he's so huge on

0:29:37.160 --> 0:29:40.200
<v Speaker 1>talking to me, and I'm just like, oh, I've like

0:29:40.400 --> 0:29:41.760
<v Speaker 1>never given him that.

0:29:42.680 --> 0:29:44.720
<v Speaker 4>I'm not a huge like I love you.

0:29:44.880 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was he is.

0:29:47.040 --> 0:29:48.200
<v Speaker 3>You're like, you're hot, babe.

0:29:48.720 --> 0:29:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Cas.

0:29:54.240 --> 0:29:56.560
<v Speaker 3>He like says the most like beautiful thing to you,

0:29:56.600 --> 0:29:57.080
<v Speaker 3>and you're.

0:29:56.880 --> 0:29:59.040
<v Speaker 1>Like, kid, yeah, your wedding vows.

0:29:59.080 --> 0:30:01.200
<v Speaker 3>It's like he has a big and you're like same,

0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:02.560
<v Speaker 3>You're like.

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:05.240
<v Speaker 4>What he said?

0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:09.000
<v Speaker 2>Can we just replay done?

0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:10.840
<v Speaker 4>So yeah, I think that's so important.

0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:14.479
<v Speaker 1>But in saying that, just off the communication side, I

0:30:14.520 --> 0:30:18.040
<v Speaker 1>remember when I first met Tim, his communication was quite

0:30:18.240 --> 0:30:20.840
<v Speaker 1>shocking that he almost didn't speak a lot.

0:30:21.240 --> 0:30:23.920
<v Speaker 4>And I like, I've got a podcast. I love to chat,

0:30:24.600 --> 0:30:25.080
<v Speaker 4>so I'd.

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:27.880
<v Speaker 8>Be like, I'd be.

0:30:27.840 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 1>Like, talk to me about stuff. Yeah, And then in

0:30:30.520 --> 0:30:33.280
<v Speaker 1>saying that, though it was such a huge thing, I

0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:37.680
<v Speaker 1>had to constantly be like, I love talking, I love

0:30:37.760 --> 0:30:44.320
<v Speaker 1>talking about deep tocket topics, pockets, deep my deep pockets.

0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:51.680
<v Speaker 4>I love some deep pockets talking my love language.

0:30:53.360 --> 0:30:56.280
<v Speaker 1>I love deep topics and I had to like instill

0:30:56.320 --> 0:30:58.800
<v Speaker 1>that and then for him to realize and then yeah.

0:30:58.720 --> 0:30:59.240
<v Speaker 4>Build on that.

0:31:00.120 --> 0:31:02.160
<v Speaker 6>But I think you two were also so young when

0:31:02.200 --> 0:31:05.240
<v Speaker 6>you first met, right, so he was also probably like

0:31:05.280 --> 0:31:08.600
<v Speaker 6>growing into himself and who he was and being very comfortable,

0:31:08.920 --> 0:31:10.960
<v Speaker 6>whereas I guess like you have to take you know,

0:31:11.040 --> 0:31:13.680
<v Speaker 6>context is key, as we always say, because if it's

0:31:13.720 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 6>with a thirty year old, you're like, nah, bro, like

0:31:16.760 --> 0:31:18.680
<v Speaker 6>you should know yourself and you should be able to

0:31:18.680 --> 0:31:21.640
<v Speaker 6>speak your truth by then, and you would hope is that.

0:31:21.720 --> 0:31:27.040
<v Speaker 1>Something like you look for in looking at how this

0:31:27.200 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 1>is I say, not yourself like a new person.

0:31:30.480 --> 0:31:31.840
<v Speaker 4>Are you kind of.

0:31:31.600 --> 0:31:33.719
<v Speaker 1>Being like, oh yeah, like you're thirty, you should kind

0:31:33.720 --> 0:31:35.280
<v Speaker 1>of how you have your shit sorted?

0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:36.720
<v Speaker 3>Yes and no.

0:31:37.120 --> 0:31:39.840
<v Speaker 2>I think it kind of depends because if you go

0:31:39.920 --> 0:31:42.240
<v Speaker 2>in with expectations or you go in with the type,

0:31:42.720 --> 0:31:46.120
<v Speaker 2>you're kind of limiting yourself to learning within that relationship.

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:51.200
<v Speaker 2>So Jay Sheddy on his podcast, he spoke about how

0:31:51.680 --> 0:31:55.120
<v Speaker 2>good quality relationships aren't ones that last but learn, so

0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:57.480
<v Speaker 2>you kind of and that kind of sounds like what's

0:31:57.520 --> 0:32:00.160
<v Speaker 2>happened with you and Tim is like you learned to,

0:32:00.200 --> 0:32:04.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, have deeper conversations within your relationship rather than

0:32:04.200 --> 0:32:07.000
<v Speaker 2>like going in and expecting them to have like all

0:32:07.080 --> 0:32:09.880
<v Speaker 2>ticks down the line. That's just like not going to happen,

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:12.160
<v Speaker 2>and it's unachievable, and I'm constantly going to be like

0:32:12.200 --> 0:32:14.640
<v Speaker 2>why A my finger and I an't down anyone. It's

0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:20.120
<v Speaker 2>because they don't exist, no one. It's Henry Cavilly if

0:32:20.160 --> 0:32:20.680
<v Speaker 2>you're listening.

0:32:21.840 --> 0:32:23.160
<v Speaker 4>I think he listens to my podcast.

0:32:23.160 --> 0:32:24.960
<v Speaker 3>I don't know if he does on our podcast.

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:26.520
<v Speaker 2>I was like, guys, send this to Henry cavill and

0:32:26.520 --> 0:32:27.360
<v Speaker 2>we'll send you a jump up.

0:32:27.600 --> 0:32:28.560
<v Speaker 3>And people did it, and.

0:32:28.480 --> 0:32:29.120
<v Speaker 4>I was like, Bob.

0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:31.280
<v Speaker 3>Then I found out he had a girlfriend.

0:32:34.040 --> 0:32:38.240
<v Speaker 2>I've got two broke chicks for all, right. But yeah,

0:32:38.280 --> 0:32:40.760
<v Speaker 2>so I do kind of look for certain things and

0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:44.320
<v Speaker 2>there will be like certain little red flags like but

0:32:44.360 --> 0:32:45.640
<v Speaker 2>that's just kind of what I want.

0:32:45.720 --> 0:32:47.520
<v Speaker 3>Like if you know they didn't have a job, I'd.

0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:50.240
<v Speaker 2>Be like, okay, like what are you doing? Yeah, and

0:32:50.240 --> 0:32:53.480
<v Speaker 2>at like a certain age context, yeah, yeah, definitely.

0:32:53.560 --> 0:32:57.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So like, well, let's chat about red flags and

0:32:57.040 --> 0:32:59.880
<v Speaker 1>give me five red flags in a relationship.

0:33:00.160 --> 0:33:01.560
<v Speaker 3>You're like, nah, oh my.

0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:02.440
<v Speaker 2>God, a selfish lover.

0:33:02.600 --> 0:33:03.680
<v Speaker 3>I hate a selfish lover.

0:33:04.000 --> 0:33:06.600
<v Speaker 2>What do so like you know that doesn't know how

0:33:06.640 --> 0:33:11.120
<v Speaker 2>to like just only cares about like they're they're all

0:33:11.160 --> 0:33:14.160
<v Speaker 2>gasm you know, those guys that are just like I

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:16.600
<v Speaker 2>just like don't like going down on girls, but like

0:33:16.680 --> 0:33:18.080
<v Speaker 2>I would really like it if you could give me

0:33:18.120 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 2>a blowjob.

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:21.240
<v Speaker 3>Get the fuck out of my bed, now, get out.

0:33:21.720 --> 0:33:22.360
<v Speaker 1>That's fine.

0:33:22.400 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 3>If you don't want to do.

0:33:23.400 --> 0:33:26.840
<v Speaker 2>That, it's not but like I would just be like nah,

0:33:27.000 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 2>or like they just don't really care about full play

0:33:29.320 --> 0:33:29.840
<v Speaker 2>or anything.

0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:31.000
<v Speaker 3>It's just like they.

0:33:30.920 --> 0:33:33.360
<v Speaker 1>Almost don't care about your sexual love language.

0:33:33.400 --> 0:33:34.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, we all have them.

0:33:35.080 --> 0:33:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like they just just like yeah, they're just there

0:33:37.840 --> 0:33:40.840
<v Speaker 2>to get off and then afterwards they like don't talk

0:33:40.880 --> 0:33:45.120
<v Speaker 2>to you or like give you a cuddle or whatever.

0:33:44.800 --> 0:33:46.600
<v Speaker 3>And they're just like, well that was fun, and I'm.

0:33:46.440 --> 0:33:49.000
<v Speaker 4>Like ill, yeah, you know, okay, I'm with you.

0:33:49.120 --> 0:33:52.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah that and then if they don't like listen to you.

0:33:53.000 --> 0:33:56.120
<v Speaker 3>So if they we all love to talk. I love

0:33:56.200 --> 0:33:58.959
<v Speaker 3>telling stories, great storyteller.

0:33:59.360 --> 0:34:04.160
<v Speaker 4>Drama about it, fine, fucking yes I am.

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:08.160
<v Speaker 2>But like if they don't listen to like my stories,

0:34:08.239 --> 0:34:10.520
<v Speaker 2>or if they don't actually have an interest in me

0:34:10.719 --> 0:34:12.560
<v Speaker 2>or my life and it's they just love to talk

0:34:12.600 --> 0:34:13.440
<v Speaker 2>about themselves.

0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:15.680
<v Speaker 3>Then I'm kind of like I hate that.

0:34:16.000 --> 0:34:17.759
<v Speaker 2>I will sit there and I will pay attention, like

0:34:17.800 --> 0:34:20.440
<v Speaker 2>if I ask someone questions because I love being like,

0:34:20.520 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 2>oh if.

0:34:20.960 --> 0:34:22.319
<v Speaker 3>You were a fruit, what would you be Like?

0:34:22.400 --> 0:34:24.560
<v Speaker 2>I just like I love just random shit like that.

0:34:24.960 --> 0:34:27.359
<v Speaker 2>I will pay attention to if they ask the question back.

0:34:28.040 --> 0:34:29.000
<v Speaker 2>So true.

0:34:29.840 --> 0:34:31.040
<v Speaker 4>I just with friends too.

0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:35.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, very are you even interested or is this a

0:34:35.160 --> 0:34:37.560
<v Speaker 1>one way street? Yeah, because I tend to be someone

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:38.760
<v Speaker 1>who asked twenty one questions.

0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:43.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, so I'm so interested. I were't furious. Yeah.

0:34:43.120 --> 0:34:45.600
<v Speaker 2>I had a partner that was like, oh, I love you,

0:34:45.680 --> 0:34:47.279
<v Speaker 2>I just don't know if I like you, And I

0:34:47.320 --> 0:34:50.399
<v Speaker 2>was like, that is probably one of the meanest things

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:54.240
<v Speaker 2>anyone's ever said to me, because I know, like I'm

0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:56.799
<v Speaker 2>a certain personality type, Like I know I'm loud, I

0:34:56.880 --> 0:35:00.160
<v Speaker 2>know I'm larry, and I'm like incredibly funny, So.

0:35:00.360 --> 0:35:01.680
<v Speaker 4>I think that he's modest.

0:35:01.800 --> 0:35:03.280
<v Speaker 1>I know I'm a catch.

0:35:03.400 --> 0:35:05.719
<v Speaker 2>Like one time, like he like had boys over at

0:35:05.719 --> 0:35:07.279
<v Speaker 2>his and he was like, yeah, just calm, it's fine,

0:35:07.320 --> 0:35:09.160
<v Speaker 2>Like you get along with everyone anyway. So I went

0:35:09.200 --> 0:35:11.320
<v Speaker 2>over and I was like really like on the money.

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:13.759
<v Speaker 2>I was like written, but he was mainly the butt

0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:16.000
<v Speaker 2>of all the jokes, but like take it, It's fine.

0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:17.600
<v Speaker 2>And then he was like, can you not like you're

0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:19.360
<v Speaker 2>at boys not like you're not supposed to be the

0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:19.920
<v Speaker 2>funny one.

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:25.120
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, oh boohoo, Like yeah, so if

0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:29.120
<v Speaker 1>you're funnier, like yeah, funnier exactly.

0:35:28.840 --> 0:35:29.920
<v Speaker 4>I'm not going to go easy on you.

0:35:30.160 --> 0:35:32.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. People that are like are also too dependent on

0:35:33.000 --> 0:35:36.480
<v Speaker 2>you to just either like make the plans or like

0:35:36.680 --> 0:35:38.239
<v Speaker 2>they need to lean on you too much because like

0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:39.880
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you guys could pick up on it,

0:35:39.920 --> 0:35:41.799
<v Speaker 2>but I'm a bit of an extra it, so like

0:35:41.880 --> 0:35:46.719
<v Speaker 2>I like ye all bat so I like, like, you know,

0:35:46.800 --> 0:35:48.880
<v Speaker 2>being able to bring them to a party, for example,

0:35:48.920 --> 0:35:50.960
<v Speaker 2>and then being like all right, see you in an

0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:53.080
<v Speaker 2>hour and split up and.

0:35:53.040 --> 0:35:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Just go like have a my one effect. So you

0:35:56.239 --> 0:35:57.799
<v Speaker 1>could put him in a room and he can talk

0:35:57.840 --> 0:36:00.799
<v Speaker 1>to anyone. And I went see most of the night.

0:36:01.040 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 1>And that's one thing I've had friends with boyfriends that

0:36:04.000 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 1>they've got to like sit beside them, and I'm just like, oh,

0:36:07.200 --> 0:36:07.839
<v Speaker 1>I hate it.

0:36:08.000 --> 0:36:09.840
<v Speaker 4>I lived together. I didn't need to be beside you

0:36:09.880 --> 0:36:10.279
<v Speaker 4>at the party.

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 2>The red flag is like when they when you're just

0:36:14.239 --> 0:36:17.560
<v Speaker 2>their entire universe, which like sounds like a good thing,

0:36:17.600 --> 0:36:20.360
<v Speaker 2>but it's not healthy. You shouldn't be like they should

0:36:20.360 --> 0:36:22.160
<v Speaker 2>have their own life and you should be like vibing

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:25.279
<v Speaker 2>alongside it. But if they just like wanted to make

0:36:25.320 --> 0:36:27.520
<v Speaker 2>me their entire universe, I would just be like.

0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:30.400
<v Speaker 4>Hugh, I can't break. Yeah, it's not sustainable.

0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:34.000
<v Speaker 6>I think kind of related to that is anyone controlling.

0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:37.439
<v Speaker 6>So if you're out on a girl's night and they're

0:36:37.440 --> 0:36:40.080
<v Speaker 6>like blowing up your phone being like where are you

0:36:40.200 --> 0:36:43.399
<v Speaker 6>blah blah, or you know, like they try to make

0:36:43.440 --> 0:36:46.799
<v Speaker 6>decisions for you or aren't supportive.

0:36:46.400 --> 0:36:48.080
<v Speaker 4>Of you, or if they comment on what you were.

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:50.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I was just about to say that if a

0:36:50.400 --> 0:36:53.319
<v Speaker 2>guy I've had that been like because I've got like

0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:57.920
<v Speaker 2>giant boobies, Like they're literally huge, so annoying, but like

0:36:58.280 --> 0:37:01.319
<v Speaker 2>half the time if I wear anything that's fitted, it

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:04.000
<v Speaker 2>will like to see them. Yeah, like and they'd be like, oh,

0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:05.960
<v Speaker 2>are you're gonna wear that? Are you actually wearing that?

0:37:06.040 --> 0:37:08.040
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, yeah, because my boobs look great.

0:37:08.120 --> 0:37:09.959
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, they look good.

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:12.960
<v Speaker 2>But then like on the other hand, I've like like

0:37:13.000 --> 0:37:15.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm dating someone now and I like put something and

0:37:15.120 --> 0:37:17.160
<v Speaker 2>they're like, fuck, you look good, and they were just

0:37:17.239 --> 0:37:19.200
<v Speaker 2>like they're like I can't wait for just like everyone

0:37:19.200 --> 0:37:21.480
<v Speaker 2>to know that like your mind. Yeah, you know, like

0:37:21.600 --> 0:37:24.000
<v Speaker 2>that's like being like like I didn't care if anyone

0:37:24.040 --> 0:37:25.279
<v Speaker 2>post to you because at the end of the night,

0:37:25.320 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 2>you're coming home with me.

0:37:26.520 --> 0:37:29.320
<v Speaker 4>That's the energy. Yeah, yeah, that's the vibe.

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:29.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:37:29.760 --> 0:37:32.920
<v Speaker 6>So I think like insecurity as well, like jealous jealousy.

0:37:34.160 --> 0:37:35.319
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't have time friends.

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:38.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, jealousy is so like sixteen and getting jealous about

0:37:38.520 --> 0:37:40.200
<v Speaker 2>someone else being like a snapchat best friend.

0:37:40.360 --> 0:37:42.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I would get the upset that I'm not.

0:37:42.160 --> 0:37:43.719
<v Speaker 2>Gonna lie I like this boy, And then there was

0:37:43.760 --> 0:37:45.320
<v Speaker 2>this other cheek that was always above me on a

0:37:45.360 --> 0:37:47.040
<v Speaker 2>Snapchat and I was like, I don't know.

0:37:47.080 --> 0:37:49.680
<v Speaker 6>I think that is a bit of a red flag though, right,

0:37:50.120 --> 0:37:52.480
<v Speaker 6>just with mainly with Snapchat, Like it's fine for your

0:37:52.480 --> 0:37:55.440
<v Speaker 6>friends to have female friends, Like, if anything, I think

0:37:55.440 --> 0:37:58.239
<v Speaker 6>that's preferable because it shows that they have like some

0:37:58.400 --> 0:38:01.040
<v Speaker 6>level of maturity to yeah, a friendship with someone of

0:38:01.080 --> 0:38:04.440
<v Speaker 6>the opposite sex, but snapchats, you know, wishy washy, But

0:38:04.480 --> 0:38:06.160
<v Speaker 6>also who's still using Snapchat.

0:38:05.960 --> 0:38:08.080
<v Speaker 1>To say I don't have snapchats, so I think that's

0:38:08.120 --> 0:38:09.560
<v Speaker 1>what like teenagers use these days.

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:11.799
<v Speaker 2>I tried to snapchat me like maybe a month ago,

0:38:11.840 --> 0:38:14.040
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, what's happening.

0:38:14.120 --> 0:38:14.880
<v Speaker 3>I don't know how to use this.

0:38:15.120 --> 0:38:16.799
<v Speaker 2>I saw my bit mojie for like the first time

0:38:16.840 --> 0:38:17.719
<v Speaker 2>in about seven years.

0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:18.520
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh my girl.

0:38:20.480 --> 0:38:21.880
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I did not look at that.

0:38:23.760 --> 0:38:25.359
<v Speaker 2>You know how you would make an avatar and it

0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:27.719
<v Speaker 2>does not look like oh no, you'd be like, yeah, sure,

0:38:27.719 --> 0:38:29.120
<v Speaker 2>I look like that. I've got green eyes.

0:38:31.280 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah it was a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, guys, let's be honest. When we're not sleeping, we're

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0:38:47.360 --> 0:38:51.239
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<v Speaker 1>get back into the episode. Well, I was gonna ask

0:40:32.960 --> 0:40:35.000
<v Speaker 1>you guys, like what are your biggest X. But I

0:40:35.000 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 1>feel like we just covered them.

0:40:36.040 --> 0:40:37.160
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, no, I've got so many.

0:40:37.960 --> 0:40:41.160
<v Speaker 6>I feel like there's a difference between red flags and X.

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:43.680
<v Speaker 6>We learn it on the podcast with Georgia Grace. So

0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:45.759
<v Speaker 6>I think those were actual red flags. Now we can

0:40:45.760 --> 0:40:47.080
<v Speaker 6>get into the petty IX.

0:40:47.280 --> 0:40:52.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so red flags are like legit, this is actual.

0:40:52.600 --> 0:40:55.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, IX are what They're just like they're like a

0:40:55.200 --> 0:40:57.960
<v Speaker 2>smaller thing that I'm like, I can't see you naked anymore.

0:40:59.000 --> 0:41:03.319
<v Speaker 2>That yeah, okay, so when okay, the idea of them

0:41:03.360 --> 0:41:08.200
<v Speaker 2>pointing their toes just like in any situation, just like

0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:11.479
<v Speaker 2>just like you imagine they're like lying on the bed

0:41:11.680 --> 0:41:14.560
<v Speaker 2>and then they just point their toes. I fucking hate it.

0:41:14.960 --> 0:41:18.359
<v Speaker 2>Like I hate the idea of it, like imagine like

0:41:18.360 --> 0:41:21.479
<v Speaker 2>like no, it's so grim that and.

0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:25.200
<v Speaker 1>Then trying to think anyone do that because I just

0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:26.200
<v Speaker 1>think about it.

0:41:26.760 --> 0:41:29.040
<v Speaker 3>I'll just think it because then one time this.

0:41:29.200 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 2>Like someone was trying to set me up with a

0:41:30.640 --> 0:41:32.960
<v Speaker 2>dancer and then I was like and then I just

0:41:33.000 --> 0:41:36.320
<v Speaker 2>pictured them pointing their toes and I was like just off,

0:41:36.760 --> 0:41:38.239
<v Speaker 2>Like imagine when they finished and they're like.

0:41:41.440 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 4>Just boring.

0:41:42.040 --> 0:41:48.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, nah, I can't broke calls to match. I'm like,

0:41:49.000 --> 0:41:51.360
<v Speaker 2>not on, not on that, And then the idea of

0:41:51.360 --> 0:41:54.160
<v Speaker 2>them like chasing after a ball, but then like trying

0:41:54.160 --> 0:41:55.240
<v Speaker 2>to pick it up but they miss.

0:41:56.640 --> 0:41:58.480
<v Speaker 3>They're trying to pick up the ball and.

0:41:58.400 --> 0:42:01.240
<v Speaker 2>They're like chasing after and you're like a dog.

0:42:01.960 --> 0:42:05.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like like a tennis ball, like a ping pong ball.

0:42:05.400 --> 0:42:07.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh god no, that's grimm.

0:42:07.600 --> 0:42:10.000
<v Speaker 3>And then the other one is and I didn't think

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:10.440
<v Speaker 3>of this one.

0:42:10.480 --> 0:42:13.160
<v Speaker 2>I saw it somewhere, but it really hit when they

0:42:13.239 --> 0:42:17.040
<v Speaker 2>like run out of bird and it doesn't move, like

0:42:17.120 --> 0:42:18.840
<v Speaker 2>if there was like a seagull and they're like go

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.279
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, what are you doing?

0:42:21.600 --> 0:42:23.879
<v Speaker 4>Sea girls like not even yeah, but this is not.

0:42:23.880 --> 0:42:26.759
<v Speaker 1>It Yeah, so true though.

0:42:26.880 --> 0:42:29.839
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, those are like like the three of the main

0:42:29.880 --> 0:42:32.839
<v Speaker 2>ones that I think. Oh also if they like if

0:42:32.880 --> 0:42:34.759
<v Speaker 2>you're in a public space like at the beach and

0:42:34.760 --> 0:42:36.920
<v Speaker 2>then they start playing music out loud.

0:42:39.080 --> 0:42:40.879
<v Speaker 4>I ha baruss.

0:42:42.040 --> 0:42:42.799
<v Speaker 2>And it's probably like.

0:42:42.800 --> 0:42:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Fucking levels by Vichy and I'm like turn it off.

0:42:45.800 --> 0:42:50.439
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, it is, so every time.

0:42:50.640 --> 0:42:53.120
<v Speaker 4>It's never like fucking queen I want. Yeah, Like if

0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 4>it was a c DC, I'd.

0:42:54.239 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 3>Be like, you know, I'll let it slide.

0:42:56.160 --> 0:42:59.400
<v Speaker 6>But yeah, yeah, it's so gross. My first one is

0:42:59.440 --> 0:43:02.239
<v Speaker 6>a bad hand and shake. Yeah, so then you know immediately,

0:43:02.440 --> 0:43:05.960
<v Speaker 6>especially when it's like the wet fish soft handshake that's

0:43:06.080 --> 0:43:09.959
<v Speaker 6>just like has no conviction to it. I really hate

0:43:10.000 --> 0:43:14.040
<v Speaker 6>that when people are rude to wait stuff that's my can't.

0:43:14.320 --> 0:43:15.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I can't.

0:43:15.520 --> 0:43:19.839
<v Speaker 6>Like one time I was a teenager because I'm watch

0:43:20.760 --> 0:43:23.000
<v Speaker 6>for four Gris and there was like, you know, some

0:43:23.120 --> 0:43:24.799
<v Speaker 6>guy that I was, you know, going on a little

0:43:24.880 --> 0:43:28.359
<v Speaker 6>date with, and he went like and clicked at the

0:43:28.360 --> 0:43:29.839
<v Speaker 6>weight stuff and I literally was.

0:43:29.760 --> 0:43:34.080
<v Speaker 4>Like, I'm going he was also like fifteen, so what

0:43:34.160 --> 0:43:35.640
<v Speaker 4>was he doing so rude?

0:43:35.680 --> 0:43:39.600
<v Speaker 3>It's like, mum, can I have my pocket money backers?

0:43:39.920 --> 0:43:42.440
<v Speaker 4>That's probably where it was. And then I think the

0:43:42.480 --> 0:43:44.759
<v Speaker 4>third one for me is bad taste in music, So

0:43:44.840 --> 0:43:46.160
<v Speaker 4>again a beachy.

0:43:46.040 --> 0:43:49.160
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, Oh I have another one really try lip bad

0:43:50.719 --> 0:43:52.839
<v Speaker 2>just put some lip balm on Earth, the idea of

0:43:52.840 --> 0:43:55.200
<v Speaker 2>like kissing like krusty flaky Earth, but.

0:43:55.160 --> 0:43:57.280
<v Speaker 4>Also watching a man apply lip balm.

0:43:57.320 --> 0:44:02.279
<v Speaker 1>Just I always like I was.

0:44:03.000 --> 0:44:06.120
<v Speaker 6>Like that not doing it and I coming out with

0:44:06.160 --> 0:44:07.360
<v Speaker 6>like kissable lips.

0:44:07.760 --> 0:44:08.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:11.920
<v Speaker 1>I do love so tim Odie recently so he's thirty,

0:44:12.200 --> 0:44:15.439
<v Speaker 1>only recently has like started. I think he's like really,

0:44:15.560 --> 0:44:17.439
<v Speaker 1>he's thirty and he's like I need to start looking,

0:44:18.680 --> 0:44:23.040
<v Speaker 1>and he like has moisturizer. I love it because I'm like,

0:44:23.040 --> 0:44:24.600
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, he's taking care of himself.

0:44:24.880 --> 0:44:27.160
<v Speaker 4>That's like, what's the opposite to an neck that's hot?

0:44:27.440 --> 0:44:28.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's heart turn off.

0:44:28.960 --> 0:44:30.160
<v Speaker 4>That's a turn off. That's an end.

0:44:30.320 --> 0:44:33.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah did we just make that?

0:44:34.600 --> 0:44:34.960
<v Speaker 1>Damn?

0:44:36.239 --> 0:44:36.800
<v Speaker 3>What are your it?

0:44:37.200 --> 0:44:40.359
<v Speaker 1>It's so weird because like I haven't dated for so long.

0:44:41.120 --> 0:44:42.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think, do I have any it?

0:44:43.239 --> 0:44:43.959
<v Speaker 4>I feel like.

0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:50.239
<v Speaker 2>If they pointed their toes, I agree, that's a big yeah, like,

0:44:52.120 --> 0:44:54.080
<v Speaker 2>well this is done.

0:44:54.760 --> 0:44:59.480
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, take an ivy. I think the big one for

0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:04.600
<v Speaker 1>me and men is like how they treat others around them,

0:45:04.920 --> 0:45:07.359
<v Speaker 1>just like says so much to their character. Big one

0:45:07.400 --> 0:45:10.120
<v Speaker 1>for me is like if yeah, my favorite thing is

0:45:10.120 --> 0:45:12.799
<v Speaker 1>how Tim can literally just be so dependent and do

0:45:12.880 --> 0:45:17.680
<v Speaker 1>things by himself and also talk to anyone. So I

0:45:17.719 --> 0:45:20.120
<v Speaker 1>feel like I've just met so many guys and their

0:45:20.160 --> 0:45:24.319
<v Speaker 1>boyfriends and where they talk it's like so awkward or

0:45:24.400 --> 0:45:27.120
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, don't make you feel very comfortable. That's like

0:45:27.200 --> 0:45:31.320
<v Speaker 1>a huge thing of like if they can't hold a conversation, yeah,

0:45:31.600 --> 0:45:32.239
<v Speaker 1>probably not as.

0:45:32.120 --> 0:45:40.480
<v Speaker 4>Petty as you guys. But I think literally, now that I.

0:45:40.440 --> 0:45:43.319
<v Speaker 1>Think of that, I'm like, that's so it's embarrassing what

0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:46.759
<v Speaker 1>I mean. Also, I'm going to be super sexist here too,

0:45:46.880 --> 0:45:49.440
<v Speaker 1>and like if they can't do like manly things like

0:45:49.719 --> 0:45:52.959
<v Speaker 1>paying a photo for like you know, Tim is such

0:45:52.960 --> 0:45:56.120
<v Speaker 1>a hands on, like handyman as the biggest turn one,

0:45:56.520 --> 0:45:58.319
<v Speaker 1>and I think about all the time if like my

0:45:58.400 --> 0:45:59.320
<v Speaker 1>husband couldn't do that.

0:45:59.480 --> 0:46:01.680
<v Speaker 2>You're there, my globes in the house, He's like, oh,

0:46:01.960 --> 0:46:02.359
<v Speaker 2>what's out?

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:06.920
<v Speaker 1>And I love the fact that he's like, yeah, I

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:10.000
<v Speaker 1>can just like do those things. Because I can't.

0:46:10.520 --> 0:46:13.800
<v Speaker 4>I would hate like me trying to figure out those things.

0:46:13.960 --> 0:46:15.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah hmmm, he's got it covered.

0:46:15.920 --> 0:46:19.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, Okay, So this is something I would love

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:22.720
<v Speaker 1>to know. It doesn't have to necessarily be about dating.

0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:27.120
<v Speaker 1>But could you tell me like your biggest life lesson

0:46:27.400 --> 0:46:28.400
<v Speaker 1>that you've learned.

0:46:28.520 --> 0:46:29.759
<v Speaker 4>I would say early.

0:46:29.520 --> 0:46:32.279
<v Speaker 1>Twenties one each ooh, and it's kind of like it's

0:46:32.280 --> 0:46:35.160
<v Speaker 1>going to be quite life changing changed you as a person.

0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:39.120
<v Speaker 2>I would say that, like everything will change and you

0:46:39.200 --> 0:46:41.440
<v Speaker 2>need to be able to like go without the people

0:46:41.520 --> 0:46:44.319
<v Speaker 2>that will like come into your life might be there

0:46:44.360 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 2>forever might not be, but like everything that happens is

0:46:48.040 --> 0:46:50.359
<v Speaker 2>going to develop you to who you're supposed to be.

0:46:50.480 --> 0:46:51.959
<v Speaker 3>So whether or not it is.

0:46:52.000 --> 0:46:54.600
<v Speaker 2>You know, a really good relationship that maybe it didn't last,

0:46:54.680 --> 0:46:57.000
<v Speaker 2>you still learned what you really liked in a relationship

0:46:57.040 --> 0:46:59.239
<v Speaker 2>and what you didn't like in a relationship. Whether it's

0:46:59.320 --> 0:47:01.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, a friend ship that you felt was going

0:47:01.680 --> 0:47:03.120
<v Speaker 2>to be like your best friend for the rest of

0:47:03.120 --> 0:47:05.640
<v Speaker 2>your life and maybe that didn't continue or it just fizzled,

0:47:05.719 --> 0:47:08.880
<v Speaker 2>you lost touch, you still learn things about yourself within that.

0:47:08.920 --> 0:47:12.319
<v Speaker 3>Can you tell them Italian? Sometimes I'm like, no.

0:47:12.520 --> 0:47:17.760
<v Speaker 2>You'll make it the friends, but everything, like things will change,

0:47:17.800 --> 0:47:20.760
<v Speaker 2>and be comfortable with that, Like lean into it because

0:47:20.880 --> 0:47:22.920
<v Speaker 2>some of the people that come into your life and

0:47:23.120 --> 0:47:25.480
<v Speaker 2>maybe some of the best best season of your life

0:47:25.719 --> 0:47:28.520
<v Speaker 2>and it doesn't continue, it's still like a really nice

0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:30.719
<v Speaker 2>memory and everything that you learn, all the memories you

0:47:30.760 --> 0:47:31.719
<v Speaker 2>have are still really nice.

0:47:31.760 --> 0:47:32.920
<v Speaker 3>So try to lean into.

0:47:32.719 --> 0:47:34.720
<v Speaker 1>That almost, like don't be afraid of change.

0:47:34.960 --> 0:47:38.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, but like the thing is, it will happen.

0:47:39.360 --> 0:47:40.919
<v Speaker 3>Nothing is going to say the same.

0:47:41.040 --> 0:47:44.759
<v Speaker 2>Something will change, whether it's your troll free ord know, nah,

0:47:45.080 --> 0:47:48.840
<v Speaker 2>Like I like I like to kind of navigate the situation,

0:47:49.000 --> 0:47:51.120
<v Speaker 2>Like I don't know how it's it, but like arias.

0:47:50.800 --> 0:47:53.960
<v Speaker 6>A born leaders but like I think you like to

0:47:54.000 --> 0:47:56.239
<v Speaker 6>take charge, but you're not going to get thrown off

0:47:56.320 --> 0:47:59.120
<v Speaker 6>if like Aspana gets thrown You're like, all right, problem solving.

0:47:59.400 --> 0:48:02.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I'm like I would say I'm pretty good

0:48:02.239 --> 0:48:04.719
<v Speaker 2>at problem solving, and like that's something that I quite

0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:07.360
<v Speaker 2>like about myself, like being like all right, this has happened,

0:48:07.560 --> 0:48:11.280
<v Speaker 2>here are options, Yeah, how can we instead of yeah, and.

0:48:11.200 --> 0:48:13.200
<v Speaker 4>Like not dealing with the situation, You're like, all right,

0:48:13.239 --> 0:48:13.920
<v Speaker 4>what are we going to do?

0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:14.439
<v Speaker 2>Movie? Yeah?

0:48:14.760 --> 0:48:15.439
<v Speaker 3>And that's a change.

0:48:15.480 --> 0:48:15.680
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:48:15.719 --> 0:48:17.279
<v Speaker 2>That's not to say that, you know, I haven't had

0:48:17.320 --> 0:48:19.239
<v Speaker 2>those moments when like, you know, I broke up with

0:48:19.280 --> 0:48:21.160
<v Speaker 2>an X and I didn't have my like you know,

0:48:21.239 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 2>really upset stage with that. I definitely did. It's not

0:48:23.960 --> 0:48:26.000
<v Speaker 2>to say that change happens. I'm like, what are Iver

0:48:26.080 --> 0:48:28.359
<v Speaker 2>Deck's back? I'm amazing and so emotionally strong.

0:48:28.400 --> 0:48:29.000
<v Speaker 3>That is not OK.

0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.520
<v Speaker 2>But it's just try not to lean into the negative

0:48:32.600 --> 0:48:34.879
<v Speaker 2>part of it and look at the positive side and

0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:36.160
<v Speaker 2>just adapt yourself.

0:48:36.200 --> 0:48:39.600
<v Speaker 1>And I think also like going off that even I

0:48:39.640 --> 0:48:43.279
<v Speaker 1>feel like every situation, even when it's like a quote

0:48:43.360 --> 0:48:47.799
<v Speaker 1>unquote negative or bad outcome, there is always something that

0:48:47.880 --> 0:48:50.399
<v Speaker 1>you can take from that that even evolved you as

0:48:50.400 --> 0:48:54.040
<v Speaker 1>a person, you know, formed you into who you are,

0:48:54.560 --> 0:48:57.799
<v Speaker 1>and if you can, like, yeah, lean into that rather

0:48:57.800 --> 0:48:58.960
<v Speaker 1>than being like this is.

0:48:58.880 --> 0:48:59.840
<v Speaker 3>Fun, Yeah, don't let it.

0:49:00.320 --> 0:49:03.520
<v Speaker 6>You basically love that because if anything, you're going to

0:49:03.600 --> 0:49:05.480
<v Speaker 6>learn what you don't like and what you don't want,

0:49:05.560 --> 0:49:06.239
<v Speaker 6>and which is that's a.

0:49:06.239 --> 0:49:08.000
<v Speaker 4>Real important in itself important.

0:49:08.239 --> 0:49:08.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:49:08.840 --> 0:49:11.400
<v Speaker 6>I think that my biggest life lesson from my early

0:49:11.480 --> 0:49:15.560
<v Speaker 6>twenties is that you need to make decisions for yourself

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:19.480
<v Speaker 6>and for your best interests. So you can't think about

0:49:19.480 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 6>what other people may want or expect from you.

0:49:22.080 --> 0:49:24.239
<v Speaker 4>You just have to think about what's best for me.

0:49:24.440 --> 0:49:26.600
<v Speaker 6>So an example of that was I was like living

0:49:26.600 --> 0:49:29.520
<v Speaker 6>at home for ages and hated it and was just

0:49:29.560 --> 0:49:31.120
<v Speaker 6>like so I was like ready to move out when

0:49:31.160 --> 0:49:33.440
<v Speaker 6>I was like sixteen, and then I was like maybe

0:49:33.440 --> 0:49:36.080
<v Speaker 6>turning twenty one, and I was waiting for like my

0:49:36.160 --> 0:49:38.640
<v Speaker 6>sister and my boyfriend to be ready to move out

0:49:38.640 --> 0:49:41.120
<v Speaker 6>with me, and I was like chasing them for years

0:49:41.120 --> 0:49:43.040
<v Speaker 6>and years. It never happened, and then I was like

0:49:43.120 --> 0:49:45.800
<v Speaker 6>I can't, like I'm just leaving and moved up to Sydney,

0:49:45.880 --> 0:49:47.880
<v Speaker 6>and I was like, you guys will like either stay

0:49:47.880 --> 0:49:49.799
<v Speaker 6>with me or you won't. And I was like, I

0:49:49.840 --> 0:49:52.200
<v Speaker 6>have to put myself first. And it was like the

0:49:52.200 --> 0:49:53.120
<v Speaker 6>best thing I ever did.

0:49:53.239 --> 0:49:57.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I love that, she said, des Yeah.

0:49:57.320 --> 0:50:00.480
<v Speaker 6>And it like completely changed like my career everything.

0:50:00.719 --> 0:50:02.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and like imagine if I did, I'd probably still

0:50:02.600 --> 0:50:04.239
<v Speaker 4>be down in fucking longer and then he never would

0:50:04.239 --> 0:50:07.279
<v Speaker 4>have met me, exactly, get down there. Yeah you're young,

0:50:09.360 --> 0:50:09.560
<v Speaker 4>you know.

0:50:09.840 --> 0:50:12.880
<v Speaker 1>I love that so much, And like I often don't

0:50:12.920 --> 0:50:13.720
<v Speaker 1>hear that advice.

0:50:13.760 --> 0:50:15.600
<v Speaker 4>I feel like that's so refreshing.

0:50:15.120 --> 0:50:18.080
<v Speaker 1>To be like, no, actually, you need to put your

0:50:18.160 --> 0:50:21.600
<v Speaker 1>needs first because when you do that, that's when things

0:50:21.640 --> 0:50:24.680
<v Speaker 1>like flourish. Yeah yeah, things work out.

0:50:24.840 --> 0:50:27.000
<v Speaker 2>And if you have the right people around you, they'll

0:50:27.040 --> 0:50:28.759
<v Speaker 2>want you to do that. They'll want you to do

0:50:28.800 --> 0:50:31.200
<v Speaker 2>the thing that is in your best interest because they

0:50:31.239 --> 0:50:32.480
<v Speaker 2>should want that for you as well.

0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:33.680
<v Speaker 3>They should want you to be happy.

0:50:33.760 --> 0:50:36.040
<v Speaker 2>So like, if someone around you is being like, oh

0:50:36.080 --> 0:50:38.719
<v Speaker 2>but look at how that affects me, well, they're just

0:50:38.760 --> 0:50:40.240
<v Speaker 2>thinking of themselves exactly.

0:50:40.320 --> 0:50:41.600
<v Speaker 4>And that's why ended up happening.

0:50:41.680 --> 0:50:43.799
<v Speaker 6>Like with my boyfriend especially, it was really hard because

0:50:43.800 --> 0:50:46.360
<v Speaker 6>we were already in a like long term oh sorry,

0:50:46.560 --> 0:50:49.520
<v Speaker 6>a long distance relationship. We're already like ninety minutes apart,

0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:51.160
<v Speaker 6>and then going to Sydney, it was like we were

0:50:51.200 --> 0:50:52.040
<v Speaker 6>three hours apart.

0:50:52.239 --> 0:50:53.799
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and then he was just like he.

0:50:53.760 --> 0:50:55.960
<v Speaker 6>Got around it, realized we could make it work and

0:50:56.080 --> 0:50:58.600
<v Speaker 6>we ended up moving in together in Sydney later down

0:50:58.640 --> 0:50:58.960
<v Speaker 6>the track.

0:50:59.000 --> 0:51:01.759
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, it's about to say, it's almost like that make

0:51:01.880 --> 0:51:03.800
<v Speaker 1>or break, But wouldn't you rather know sooner?

0:51:03.960 --> 0:51:05.520
<v Speaker 4>Exactly? It's going to break later on?

0:51:05.600 --> 0:51:07.480
<v Speaker 1>It's just prolonging it exactly.

0:51:07.640 --> 0:51:09.640
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And I think so many people can relate to that,

0:51:09.680 --> 0:51:12.440
<v Speaker 6>whether it's like pressure from friends and their partner or

0:51:12.600 --> 0:51:16.719
<v Speaker 6>expectations from their family, especially which I think it's really tough,

0:51:16.880 --> 0:51:18.239
<v Speaker 6>but just gotta do you boo.

0:51:18.520 --> 0:51:21.240
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I love that so much. That's really refreshing.

0:51:20.880 --> 0:51:22.719
<v Speaker 2>Whatever I'm making about decision now, I'm gonna be like

0:51:22.760 --> 0:51:23.360
<v Speaker 2>just putting.

0:51:23.080 --> 0:51:23.760
<v Speaker 1>Me first out.

0:51:24.400 --> 0:51:25.600
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, no, you're not.

0:51:28.760 --> 0:51:34.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like shout out to see the shots for the plot.

0:51:35.680 --> 0:51:35.839
<v Speaker 7>No.

0:51:36.000 --> 0:51:39.080
<v Speaker 1>I love that. And I think also we tend to,

0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:43.319
<v Speaker 1>I think, especially as we get older, like we think

0:51:43.360 --> 0:51:45.600
<v Speaker 1>of everyone before ourselves.

0:51:45.600 --> 0:51:48.319
<v Speaker 4>We're like, oh, what will this person think? I'll do this?

0:51:48.480 --> 0:51:50.600
<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to make this person feel a

0:51:50.640 --> 0:51:53.720
<v Speaker 1>certain way. But then you're almost if you're not living

0:51:53.800 --> 0:51:57.560
<v Speaker 1>your truth, it's going to constantly build on you and

0:51:57.600 --> 0:51:59.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, eventually drown.

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:01.240
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, exactly.

0:52:01.680 --> 0:52:04.319
<v Speaker 2>LUs. We like to always say, like, no one cares

0:52:04.360 --> 0:52:06.680
<v Speaker 2>as much as you think they do. Like you were

0:52:06.719 --> 0:52:10.880
<v Speaker 2>your own worst enemy, overthinking things, making yourself anxious. Everyone

0:52:11.000 --> 0:52:13.160
<v Speaker 2>actually is kind of just vibing on their own, like

0:52:13.280 --> 0:52:15.560
<v Speaker 2>no one's no one's sitting there watching you being like, wow,

0:52:15.680 --> 0:52:19.160
<v Speaker 2>she looks weird. Those cowboy boots suck. Like no one cares.

0:52:19.440 --> 0:52:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Like we were going to pilates for the first time

0:52:21.440 --> 0:52:23.080
<v Speaker 2>and we're really nervous, and we're like, we're gonna look

0:52:23.080 --> 0:52:24.480
<v Speaker 2>so silly, Like what if people are watching us and

0:52:24.480 --> 0:52:25.239
<v Speaker 2>we don't know what we're doing.

0:52:25.280 --> 0:52:27.879
<v Speaker 3>No one gave a flying hoot. No, no, no one

0:52:27.920 --> 0:52:29.400
<v Speaker 3>cares as much as they do.

0:52:29.520 --> 0:52:32.720
<v Speaker 4>Get invested in their own world. Yeah worrying.

0:52:33.000 --> 0:52:37.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, before we get onto chatting some money and budgeting,

0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:40.719
<v Speaker 1>because that's your zones of genius. I want to know,

0:52:40.840 --> 0:52:44.040
<v Speaker 1>do we have a really funny horror dating story?

0:52:44.480 --> 0:52:48.320
<v Speaker 2>Probably, I tell the lamb ragu one.

0:52:48.520 --> 0:52:50.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, it's.

0:52:49.880 --> 0:52:52.680
<v Speaker 4>So good, it's so cook okay.

0:52:52.520 --> 0:52:57.160
<v Speaker 2>Literally, So basically I accidentally started dating someone that was

0:52:57.160 --> 0:52:58.279
<v Speaker 2>in the same building as me.

0:52:58.680 --> 0:53:00.200
<v Speaker 3>Don't ever do that.

0:53:00.120 --> 0:53:02.320
<v Speaker 4>Was a life and how was it an accident? Do

0:53:02.320 --> 0:53:03.000
<v Speaker 4>we not know?

0:53:03.360 --> 0:53:03.560
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:53:03.600 --> 0:53:07.120
<v Speaker 3>I did know. We met at the Bins an romantic.

0:53:07.239 --> 0:53:08.640
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, So we met at the Bins and then

0:53:08.680 --> 0:53:11.200
<v Speaker 2>one night we had like drinks at his apartment because

0:53:11.239 --> 0:53:12.960
<v Speaker 2>I was like, how great. I only have to go

0:53:13.040 --> 0:53:15.640
<v Speaker 2>up a lift to get home. So that was very

0:53:15.680 --> 0:53:18.480
<v Speaker 2>convenient because there's nothing worse than like waking up in

0:53:18.480 --> 0:53:19.120
<v Speaker 2>a boy's bed.

0:53:19.200 --> 0:53:21.880
<v Speaker 3>It's like eight am, You're sixty minutes from home.

0:53:22.160 --> 0:53:23.920
<v Speaker 2>Like you really need a glass of water, the pillows

0:53:23.920 --> 0:53:26.279
<v Speaker 2>really uncomfortable, and you're just like, I'm like, this is it.

0:53:26.320 --> 0:53:28.600
<v Speaker 2>This is how it ends. So anyway, we were having

0:53:28.680 --> 0:53:32.000
<v Speaker 2>drinks at his and I was just talking absolute smack,

0:53:32.239 --> 0:53:33.960
<v Speaker 2>like I was just having a Yeah.

0:53:34.080 --> 0:53:35.160
<v Speaker 3>I was just like.

0:53:35.400 --> 0:53:36.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm a tian.

0:53:36.120 --> 0:53:38.280
<v Speaker 2>I was like, come over tomorrow night. I'll cook your dinner.

0:53:38.360 --> 0:53:41.040
<v Speaker 2>What do you want, Like, I'll make you any pasty

0:53:41.160 --> 0:53:43.120
<v Speaker 2>you want. And he was like, oh I really lamdragon.

0:53:43.160 --> 0:53:45.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like done, say less, my king.

0:53:45.320 --> 0:53:47.879
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I've got it sworded for you.

0:53:48.320 --> 0:53:50.680
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, the next day I was hungover as shit, and

0:53:50.719 --> 0:53:52.799
<v Speaker 2>I was like, there's no chance of hanging out with

0:53:52.800 --> 0:53:54.400
<v Speaker 2>the boy tonight. I was like, I just want to

0:53:54.400 --> 0:53:56.760
<v Speaker 2>look ugly, sit on my couch and watch the Vampire

0:53:56.800 --> 0:53:58.440
<v Speaker 2>Diaries and anyway.

0:53:58.520 --> 0:53:59.960
<v Speaker 3>So then I was kind of tossing up.

0:53:59.880 --> 0:54:01.799
<v Speaker 2>All day whether or not to hang out with him,

0:54:02.000 --> 0:54:03.759
<v Speaker 2>and it got to five o'clock and it was like

0:54:03.800 --> 0:54:05.600
<v Speaker 2>six thirty and I was like, no, it's not happening.

0:54:05.760 --> 0:54:07.600
<v Speaker 2>So then I called him and I like tried to

0:54:07.640 --> 0:54:09.880
<v Speaker 2>bail and I was like, hey, I'm so sorry, I

0:54:10.000 --> 0:54:12.759
<v Speaker 2>can't do tonight anymore, Like something's come up, blah blah blah.

0:54:12.760 --> 0:54:14.279
<v Speaker 2>And he was like, are you serious, Like it's an

0:54:14.280 --> 0:54:15.960
<v Speaker 2>hour and a half before we're supposed to be hanging

0:54:15.960 --> 0:54:18.040
<v Speaker 2>out and you're bailing, which, you know, like fair enough.

0:54:18.160 --> 0:54:20.680
<v Speaker 4>That was that was fair enough, Like I'll he lives

0:54:20.680 --> 0:54:22.160
<v Speaker 4>in the same building. It's not like this laft.

0:54:22.280 --> 0:54:22.759
<v Speaker 2>This was like.

0:54:24.760 --> 0:54:28.279
<v Speaker 4>This is like the third Yeah, this was.

0:54:28.280 --> 0:54:29.640
<v Speaker 2>Like the third time we were hanging out, so it

0:54:29.680 --> 0:54:31.560
<v Speaker 2>wasn't like we were like months in, like it was

0:54:31.600 --> 0:54:32.600
<v Speaker 2>still very new.

0:54:32.960 --> 0:54:34.800
<v Speaker 4>And then oh he made you feel guilty.

0:54:34.880 --> 0:54:36.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I was like, oh crap.

0:54:36.120 --> 0:54:37.520
<v Speaker 2>And then I was like, oh, you know what if

0:54:37.520 --> 0:54:39.759
<v Speaker 2>I just like throw back a glass of rose, I'll

0:54:39.760 --> 0:54:42.239
<v Speaker 2>probably like, yeah, pep up. But he was like, you

0:54:42.280 --> 0:54:44.400
<v Speaker 2>were planning on bailing all day, weren't you? And I

0:54:44.440 --> 0:54:45.640
<v Speaker 2>was like no, no, no, no.

0:54:45.640 --> 0:54:46.000
<v Speaker 3>I was like.

0:54:45.960 --> 0:54:47.919
<v Speaker 2>Busted, and I was like no, I swear I wasn't.

0:54:47.960 --> 0:54:50.040
<v Speaker 2>Like I literally got the ingredients. I've been like, I

0:54:50.080 --> 0:54:52.759
<v Speaker 2>started cooking, but like I this thing came up that

0:54:52.800 --> 0:54:54.480
<v Speaker 2>I just I have to go and help my friend.

0:54:54.880 --> 0:54:55.840
<v Speaker 3>And then he was like okay.

0:54:56.320 --> 0:54:58.040
<v Speaker 2>He's like, well, given that you're already cooking, why don't

0:54:58.040 --> 0:55:00.080
<v Speaker 2>you go help your friend and then like we and

0:55:00.280 --> 0:55:02.120
<v Speaker 2>just have dinner a bit later. And I was like, okay,

0:55:02.200 --> 0:55:04.040
<v Speaker 2>you know what, fine, I'll probably will like get back

0:55:04.080 --> 0:55:05.480
<v Speaker 2>into it once I've had a glass white. And so

0:55:05.520 --> 0:55:07.839
<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, fine. By this point, it's like

0:55:07.920 --> 0:55:10.120
<v Speaker 2>five thirty, and I was like, just come over.

0:55:10.120 --> 0:55:12.399
<v Speaker 3>At six thirty, I look like.

0:55:12.400 --> 0:55:15.160
<v Speaker 2>The female gremlin, Like I'm not looking good. I need

0:55:15.200 --> 0:55:17.480
<v Speaker 2>to like wash my hair, do my hair, do my makeup,

0:55:17.680 --> 0:55:21.000
<v Speaker 2>shave my entire body from like my eyebrows down, I

0:55:21.000 --> 0:55:25.320
<v Speaker 2>mean eyelashes that would be weird. And then I'm like, okay,

0:55:25.400 --> 0:55:26.239
<v Speaker 2>so I've sorted that out.

0:55:26.239 --> 0:55:26.879
<v Speaker 4>So I've got like.

0:55:26.840 --> 0:55:29.640
<v Speaker 2>An hour to get ready and then make lamb ragou.

0:55:29.760 --> 0:55:30.920
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, do you know what I'll do.

0:55:30.960 --> 0:55:33.560
<v Speaker 2>I'll milk run the ingredients. It'll be super easy. I

0:55:33.600 --> 0:55:35.759
<v Speaker 2>look up how to make lamb ragou. It takes a

0:55:35.840 --> 0:55:37.160
<v Speaker 2>minimum of four hours.

0:55:37.320 --> 0:55:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Why because you have to slow cook it.

0:55:39.880 --> 0:55:42.160
<v Speaker 4>You have to slow cook the may. And I was like, well,

0:55:42.200 --> 0:55:43.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm vegetarian.

0:55:43.080 --> 0:55:44.600
<v Speaker 3>I knew that. She was like, oh.

0:55:44.640 --> 0:55:47.239
<v Speaker 2>Fuck, I've already said I'm making it. Oh my, I

0:55:47.280 --> 0:55:49.200
<v Speaker 2>already said I had the ingredients and I'm making it

0:55:49.239 --> 0:55:51.200
<v Speaker 2>because he accused me of baling, which I was doing.

0:55:51.719 --> 0:55:54.680
<v Speaker 2>So then I'm like, and I can't make a different

0:55:54.680 --> 0:55:56.320
<v Speaker 2>pusta because I already said.

0:55:56.120 --> 0:55:56.680
<v Speaker 3>I was cooking it.

0:55:57.040 --> 0:55:58.960
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, I don't know what to do.

0:55:59.560 --> 0:56:02.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna busted. So then I did what any normal, saying,

0:56:02.640 --> 0:56:04.839
<v Speaker 2>rational person would do in this situation, and I uber

0:56:04.880 --> 0:56:07.600
<v Speaker 2>eats ninety dollars worth of lamb ragu to my apartment.

0:56:07.760 --> 0:56:09.920
<v Speaker 2>But it doesn't stop there. Then I got pots and

0:56:09.960 --> 0:56:12.960
<v Speaker 2>pans out and I.

0:56:13.080 --> 0:56:13.920
<v Speaker 4>Set the scene.

0:56:14.440 --> 0:56:18.400
<v Speaker 2>I like separated the meat. I like put the pasta

0:56:18.440 --> 0:56:19.439
<v Speaker 2>in like a different ball.

0:56:19.880 --> 0:56:21.640
<v Speaker 3>I had it in a pot. I FaceTime with my

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:22.760
<v Speaker 3>mom I was like, Mom, how.

0:56:22.600 --> 0:56:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Do I like keep this hot without overcooking the lamb

0:56:25.560 --> 0:56:28.000
<v Speaker 2>and making it too hard, but like not overcooking the

0:56:28.000 --> 0:56:29.760
<v Speaker 2>pasta and make it to And Mom was like, Alex,

0:56:29.800 --> 0:56:31.239
<v Speaker 2>this is lying and I was like, Mum, we were

0:56:31.360 --> 0:56:32.520
<v Speaker 2>so past that point out.

0:56:32.880 --> 0:56:34.480
<v Speaker 4>So I was like committed.

0:56:34.640 --> 0:56:37.680
<v Speaker 2>I got like bits of the sauce and like splattered

0:56:37.719 --> 0:56:41.080
<v Speaker 2>it on the bench and like mad mutual medicine, I

0:56:41.160 --> 0:56:43.839
<v Speaker 2>like got the strainer out and dirtied it, and then

0:56:43.880 --> 0:56:46.919
<v Speaker 2>I took down like every piece of rubbish I own,

0:56:47.000 --> 0:56:49.319
<v Speaker 2>because then if I hadn't taken down the rubbish, it

0:56:49.320 --> 0:56:51.719
<v Speaker 2>meant there should be like if it's a packets or

0:56:51.760 --> 0:56:54.400
<v Speaker 2>like meat packets, which there was, and because I was lying,

0:56:54.640 --> 0:56:56.520
<v Speaker 2>and so then I had to take it so sad

0:56:56.960 --> 0:57:00.640
<v Speaker 2>like the thought you I overthought this way much like.

0:57:00.680 --> 0:57:01.800
<v Speaker 3>It was way too much.

0:57:02.200 --> 0:57:04.680
<v Speaker 2>And then I literally took every piece of rubbish down,

0:57:04.840 --> 0:57:08.279
<v Speaker 2>remembering this boy lives in my apartment building, so I've

0:57:08.320 --> 0:57:11.600
<v Speaker 2>had to like scurry down and like put everything in

0:57:11.600 --> 0:57:14.279
<v Speaker 2>the bin. But your gal got away with it. I

0:57:14.360 --> 0:57:19.640
<v Speaker 2>completely got away with it. That he saw them, No,

0:57:20.000 --> 0:57:21.800
<v Speaker 2>he was like he ate it, and he was like, Babe,

0:57:21.800 --> 0:57:24.880
<v Speaker 2>this is the best lamb racko I've ever had. He

0:57:25.080 --> 0:57:27.120
<v Speaker 2>was like, he was like, how did you make it?

0:57:27.240 --> 0:57:28.840
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I can't tell you that mom would

0:57:28.920 --> 0:57:32.200
<v Speaker 2>kill me in his recipe. I hope he doesn't go

0:57:32.240 --> 0:57:39.200
<v Speaker 2>to Totty's basically because this before it's really similar. So yeah,

0:57:39.360 --> 0:57:41.640
<v Speaker 2>that was my like misdoubtfire dating story.

0:57:41.800 --> 0:57:44.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, shout out to Toddy's. Yeah, I love

0:57:45.240 --> 0:57:48.080
<v Speaker 1>extent you went to to be like, no, I committed,

0:57:48.680 --> 0:57:49.760
<v Speaker 1>you will believe I was.

0:57:49.800 --> 0:57:52.280
<v Speaker 2>There was no chance I was getting busted, absolutely not,

0:57:52.760 --> 0:57:53.320
<v Speaker 2>and like.

0:57:53.600 --> 0:57:55.320
<v Speaker 4>How like the rest of the night go.

0:57:55.680 --> 0:57:57.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was good, but like that was kind of

0:57:57.440 --> 0:58:00.240
<v Speaker 3>I had more fun doing that, to be honest, not

0:58:00.360 --> 0:58:03.160
<v Speaker 3>fun like trying to get away with it. Then I

0:58:03.200 --> 0:58:04.960
<v Speaker 3>was like, oh that's done. And then like a week,

0:58:05.000 --> 0:58:06.160
<v Speaker 3>lady Who's like I'm.

0:58:06.040 --> 0:58:09.240
<v Speaker 2>Still thinking about that lamb ragus the best I've ever had.

0:58:09.480 --> 0:58:11.600
<v Speaker 2>I like see him around now, like we're not dating anymore,

0:58:11.600 --> 0:58:13.120
<v Speaker 2>because I was just like, oh, this is just not

0:58:13.200 --> 0:58:16.200
<v Speaker 2>the vibe, but he'll like we'll see each other sometimes.

0:58:16.240 --> 0:58:18.400
<v Speaker 2>I still think about that lamb rago and I might like.

0:58:19.600 --> 0:58:21.439
<v Speaker 4>Poor boy, you got one day.

0:58:21.640 --> 0:58:29.080
<v Speaker 8>No, no, it's too already being like heys just like

0:58:29.320 --> 0:58:31.760
<v Speaker 8>I've lived in an apartment before, and yeah, like you

0:58:31.760 --> 0:58:33.439
<v Speaker 8>go to the beans, you go around the car park,

0:58:33.440 --> 0:58:35.400
<v Speaker 8>you look like fucking shit sober.

0:58:35.760 --> 0:58:37.440
<v Speaker 4>So yeah that makes sense.

0:58:37.560 --> 0:58:38.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's mine.

0:58:38.960 --> 0:58:41.280
<v Speaker 2>So if you ever need to make lamb raghu, make

0:58:41.320 --> 0:58:42.960
<v Speaker 2>sure you have at least four hours.

0:58:43.560 --> 0:58:44.800
<v Speaker 4>I did not knowed.

0:58:45.200 --> 0:58:48.840
<v Speaker 1>Okay, well let's chat some money and budgeting. So this

0:58:49.000 --> 0:58:51.840
<v Speaker 1>is your whole you know, the reason you started the podcast.

0:58:52.320 --> 0:58:56.720
<v Speaker 1>I love that you're him shopping journalists. Yes, So does

0:58:56.760 --> 0:58:58.479
<v Speaker 1>that just mean like you just know how to shop?

0:58:58.520 --> 0:58:58.760
<v Speaker 6>Well?

0:58:59.040 --> 0:58:59.680
<v Speaker 3>Yes or no?

0:58:59.760 --> 0:59:02.840
<v Speaker 2>So it's like, as like a shopping journalist, you kind

0:59:02.840 --> 0:59:05.640
<v Speaker 2>of have to know what everyone's shopping for, regardless of

0:59:05.680 --> 0:59:08.479
<v Speaker 2>like what we like ourselves, because we will wear pink

0:59:08.520 --> 0:59:11.560
<v Speaker 2>cowboy boots and like snake print like pants, where it's.

0:59:11.400 --> 0:59:13.280
<v Speaker 4>Like that's probably not everyone else's.

0:59:13.680 --> 0:59:17.000
<v Speaker 2>Everyone else's spiel, they're like you guys look CORESSI. But

0:59:17.240 --> 0:59:20.040
<v Speaker 2>so like it's things like Christmas gift guides as well

0:59:20.080 --> 0:59:22.320
<v Speaker 2>as like sales what people want to look for. We

0:59:22.440 --> 0:59:24.400
<v Speaker 2>do like a thing on our Instagram being like like

0:59:24.440 --> 0:59:26.280
<v Speaker 2>you can send us what you're shopping for and we'll

0:59:26.280 --> 0:59:28.680
<v Speaker 2>go find it on sale. Like it's knowing where to

0:59:28.720 --> 0:59:31.880
<v Speaker 2>find things on sale or what sites price match so

0:59:31.920 --> 0:59:33.640
<v Speaker 2>that you can like get the best possible.

0:59:34.200 --> 0:59:36.360
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, love or like beauty joops, if you want to

0:59:36.360 --> 0:59:39.520
<v Speaker 6>buy affordable beauty, or if you want to shop more sustainably,

0:59:39.720 --> 0:59:41.520
<v Speaker 6>like helping people like make.

0:59:41.400 --> 0:59:43.720
<v Speaker 4>Better shopping decisions. Yes, trying to.

0:59:43.920 --> 0:59:44.880
<v Speaker 3>It's so bad though.

0:59:44.920 --> 0:59:48.120
<v Speaker 1>She was a hashtag because I, like probably everyone else

0:59:48.160 --> 0:59:52.800
<v Speaker 1>at the moment, I wanted to buy something from Jeff Avenue.

0:59:52.040 --> 0:59:56.360
<v Speaker 4>And I was like, I've found a couple.

0:59:56.960 --> 1:00:02.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Well, tell us some of your best budgeting shopping tip.

1:00:02.960 --> 1:00:05.320
<v Speaker 1>It's a very broad question, but I'm sure you got some.

1:00:05.600 --> 1:00:05.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

1:00:06.080 --> 1:00:08.760
<v Speaker 2>The first one is that sales mainly launch on a

1:00:08.800 --> 1:00:10.960
<v Speaker 2>Tuesday or a Wednesday, So like if you're going to

1:00:11.000 --> 1:00:14.400
<v Speaker 2>buy something and it's like a Friday, wait because if

1:00:14.400 --> 1:00:16.320
<v Speaker 2>it's not on sale, it might be on sale that

1:00:16.360 --> 1:00:19.200
<v Speaker 2>Tuesday or Wednesday. Like the Iconic is always on sale.

1:00:19.240 --> 1:00:22.440
<v Speaker 2>That's like their business model, but every Tuesday or Wednesday

1:00:22.640 --> 1:00:26.000
<v Speaker 2>it changes to something else. And same with like wherever

1:00:26.040 --> 1:00:29.240
<v Speaker 2>you're shopping, like Princess Poll or Nasty Gal, like their

1:00:29.280 --> 1:00:31.800
<v Speaker 2>sales update mainly on like a Tuesday or Wednesday, so

1:00:31.840 --> 1:00:33.480
<v Speaker 2>that's when we'll do like the best sales of the

1:00:33.480 --> 1:00:36.400
<v Speaker 2>Week round up because that's when all the new sales.

1:00:36.160 --> 1:00:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Are going to come in.

1:00:37.720 --> 1:00:39.360
<v Speaker 2>And then the other thing is if you want to

1:00:39.400 --> 1:00:42.880
<v Speaker 2>buy something online, to put it into Google and then

1:00:43.040 --> 1:00:45.480
<v Speaker 2>like the exact product name, like if you wanted to

1:00:45.520 --> 1:00:48.800
<v Speaker 2>get like Converse Chuck Taylor Platforms, I don't that's not

1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:50.960
<v Speaker 2>like the exact name, but you'd put that into Google

1:00:51.000 --> 1:00:53.520
<v Speaker 2>and Google will show you all the retailers that stock

1:00:53.600 --> 1:00:57.520
<v Speaker 2>it in like their little carousel at the top, and

1:00:57.560 --> 1:01:00.640
<v Speaker 2>so you can actually like compare prices through that and

1:01:00.760 --> 1:01:02.960
<v Speaker 2>from that go to like their policies roof. They have

1:01:03.000 --> 1:01:05.520
<v Speaker 2>the little chat box on their website, be like, do

1:01:05.560 --> 1:01:07.200
<v Speaker 2>you guys price match? So if you want to get

1:01:07.240 --> 1:01:09.320
<v Speaker 2>it from the Iconic because you've got a gift voucher,

1:01:09.600 --> 1:01:12.440
<v Speaker 2>but you know like JD Sports has them on sale,

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<v Speaker 2>go to their chat and be like, would you guys

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<v Speaker 2>and the Iconic does price matt so and you can

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<v Speaker 2>do it that way is probably my two favorite, and.

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<v Speaker 6>As well as knowing those weekly sail like seasons sale events.

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<v Speaker 6>So there are so many throughout the year, but before

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<v Speaker 6>the end of this year, we'll have Black Friday, Cyber Monday,

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<v Speaker 6>and then Boxing Day, so we don't do any of

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<v Speaker 6>our like big ticket item shopping sprees be on those dates. Really,

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<v Speaker 6>like so planning that out. So Christmas is coming up,

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<v Speaker 6>do all of your Christmas shopping on Black Friday and

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<v Speaker 6>Side Monday. Get a spreadsheet or like have it or

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<v Speaker 6>everything that you want to buy that's in your like

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<v Speaker 6>must buy lists, and then have it in the cart

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<v Speaker 6>ready to go, so as soon as the sail drops

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<v Speaker 6>you can jump on it.

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<v Speaker 1>This is actually something that I came across the other

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<v Speaker 1>day that my pre a's twenty first was the other day,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, what do you want for your birthday?

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<v Speaker 1>And then she's like told me how she's got this

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<v Speaker 1>like almost like a wish list.

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<v Speaker 2>Cue.

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<v Speaker 1>And then someone else was saying they have a wish list,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, is this a normal thing where

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<v Speaker 1>you almost have a document of like all the things

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<v Speaker 1>you want?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you guys have that?

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<v Speaker 3>I do?

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<v Speaker 2>It's like twelve pages long. I'm like, what do you

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<v Speaker 2>want for Christmas? She's like, here's a spreadsheet?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I have it.

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<v Speaker 2>I have it on TikTok as well, so you know

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<v Speaker 2>how you can like save into folders.

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<v Speaker 3>I have like a two by folder of all.

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<v Speaker 2>The things that like to because you know how you

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<v Speaker 2>see something on TikTok and you like scroll it or

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<v Speaker 2>you like it, but then like your light folder is

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<v Speaker 2>like seven one hundred tiktoks and you never can find

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<v Speaker 2>it again. So I save it to a folder of

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<v Speaker 2>things that I want to buy.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you guys have like a roster or something like?

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<v Speaker 1>For example, I'm a person when when I like achieve

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<v Speaker 1>a goal or something, I buy myself something. I'm that

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<v Speaker 1>person and I love to treat myself in that way

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<v Speaker 1>and almost I almost need to work for something for

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<v Speaker 1>it to feel really special and nice to me. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking more like luxy. Do you guys kind of have

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<v Speaker 1>a roster of like how much money you spend or

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<v Speaker 1>if you're you know, waiting for those like higher ticket things,

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<v Speaker 1>or like what do you do in that situation?

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<v Speaker 6>I think we always consider the cost per wear if

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<v Speaker 6>it's all cost per use.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too, Like that is like bags.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't do shoes because I don't like shoes very often.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I like guys toes. It is scary most.

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<v Speaker 1>Sneakers most of the time.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, So you're not gonna like splurge on a pair

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<v Speaker 6>of gees that you give you like.

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<v Speaker 4>Agony for the rest of your life.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, whereas a handbag that you're like, this is

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<v Speaker 6>a classic style that I will never fall out of

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<v Speaker 6>love with.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, I will splurge on that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's also like a hack that you can do

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<v Speaker 2>that we saw on TikTok as well, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>like if someone if you want us to buy a

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<v Speaker 2>new case, for example, and the phone case was fifty dollars,

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<v Speaker 2>or someone offers you fifty dollars, Like, would you if

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to give you the phone case for

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<v Speaker 2>free or I was going to give you fifty dollars

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<v Speaker 2>and you would choose the fifty dollars, then you don't

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<v Speaker 2>actually want the phone case.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like you value the money more than the item.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god. Yeah, I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's like a good way that you can do it,

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<v Speaker 2>or working out how many hours you would actually work

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<v Speaker 2>do that? Yeah, But then like that one includes maths,

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<v Speaker 2>so I don't do that one.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, do I want fifty bucks? Yes, not

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<v Speaker 3>a phone case for me?

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting? Yeah, Oh I love that so much.

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<v Speaker 3>That's like a good I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Also another thing is for me personally, I love mixing

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<v Speaker 1>and matching, like you know, high priced tans and low

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<v Speaker 1>price items and not getting caught up in I guess

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<v Speaker 1>like it it's whatever it means to me. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter to anyone else. And it's like, am I going

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<v Speaker 1>to value this piece? Am I going to feel like

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<v Speaker 1>this is really worth it? Or is it just like

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<v Speaker 1>trendy at the moment?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, trending like designer bag.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the Gucci marm On belt was like one of

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<v Speaker 2>the best things that people could buy what like five years.

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<v Speaker 3>Ago, and then like everyone had it.

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<v Speaker 2>But then when everyone has it, I just feel like

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<v Speaker 2>it's not special anymore.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's just like my opinion, and then it becomes

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<v Speaker 6>a little bit cringe. But say if you do think no,

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<v Speaker 6>I genuinely love this and will love it forever, Like yes,

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<v Speaker 6>by it if it's on trend. Yeah, but it needs

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<v Speaker 6>to be something that you know that you will love forever.

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<v Speaker 2>We're really bad in terms of like when one of

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<v Speaker 2>us is like, oh, should I buy this? Like like yes,

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<v Speaker 2>we are each other, like you have black you know,

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<v Speaker 2>You're like when I achieve something, I buy something.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes I will. I'm probably the opposite.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to buy something, but I'm like Joe, what

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<v Speaker 2>I went for the gym three times? Last week I

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<v Speaker 2>wrote an article I did my job.

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<v Speaker 8>I just have something.

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<v Speaker 1>In saying that that's still achieving things if I've even

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<v Speaker 1>gone through like a bit of a like hard time Metal.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I just.

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<v Speaker 2>Seroton, Yeah, a little shopping serotonin here. My like Postman's like, ell,

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<v Speaker 2>what have we got today? And I'm like, wouldn't you

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<v Speaker 2>like to know?

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<v Speaker 6>Joe?

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<v Speaker 4>I was a kids. Yeah, No, that's amazing. They are great.

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<v Speaker 1>Tip Well, guys, thank you so much for coming on

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<v Speaker 1>the potty. This is us and you you already offered,

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<v Speaker 1>so we'll have you every hotline difect everyone's please. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate so much. It's so lovely being in person,

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<v Speaker 1>so nice, so nice. But can you tell the audience

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<v Speaker 1>where they can find you all those good things?

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<v Speaker 6>You can listen to our podcast two broa Chicks wherever

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<v Speaker 6>you get your fine shows. You can follow us on

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<v Speaker 6>Instagram at two Broke Chicks and on TikTok at two

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<v Speaker 6>brow Chicks Underscore. And if you're out there and you're

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<v Speaker 6>the person with at two Broo Chicks on TikTok, please

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<v Speaker 6>linquish your power, will give you money know what is

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<v Speaker 6>what's the TikTok someone?

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't even they're not even. It's just some random

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<v Speaker 3>person that got too broke. Is your TikTok to broach

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<v Speaker 3>Chicks Underscore?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, so you can follow us there. We also

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<v Speaker 6>have a private Facebook group bro Chicks Club, and we're

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<v Speaker 6>always chucking up sales when we see them in there.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm joining.

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<v Speaker 2>I put a video of Sala washing my face last night.

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<v Speaker 3>We were a bit drunk in there today.

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<v Speaker 4>So you'll get those two sales trauma.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like to take off my makeup and Sale

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<v Speaker 2>came in with like a WebWatch class.

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<v Speaker 3>She was like coming.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like help, Like that's if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>see that too. Everyone's like leaves groups.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you guys are honestly so much fun you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just love that with love this whole time.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys are really funny.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you, oh my god, one time, we'll do

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<v Speaker 2>your partnership.

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<v Speaker 3>And they're like, you know, we could go with like.

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<v Speaker 2>Really pretty creators, but you guys are funny.

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<v Speaker 1>And we were like I was like, no, we get it.

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<v Speaker 3>Where ugly.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I love is like even on my

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<v Speaker 1>personal brand, like when they you're really down to earth

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<v Speaker 1>like good.

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<v Speaker 4>That's all right.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll take the personality card.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we'll take the w.

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<v Speaker 4>Every day. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah no, thank you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye bye.

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