WEBVTT - G’s Hotline ☎️ My worst brand deal… 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.400 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.680 the land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:12.160 Bear region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:16.000 connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:19.600 to their elders past and present and extend that respect 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:32.880 to all Aboriginal and terrest Rate Islander peoples today. Hello 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:35.880 and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.520 This is the podcast for ordinary. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:50.879 People who want to do extraordinary things. I hate this 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:55.200 because it's like, why we all still weigh ourseuse. I 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:58.120 don't know. I have very mixed emotions about this because 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:01.560 I just think if your thinking I need to be 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:05.360 a certain weight to do things, I just think it's 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:13.840 a bit problematic. Hello and welcome back to the Rise 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:17.280 and Conquer Potty. It is your host Georgie Stevenson, and 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.800 we are back today with a hot line EP. These 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:24.119 are our fun Friday epps where you send in your 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:29.000 life dilemmas and me and producer A Tea provide you 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:34.240 with our very unqualified two cents on the situation. Hello 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:34.640 a Tia. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:36.360 Hello, So guys. 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:41.080 Today on the episode we chat about problematic partners manifesting, 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:45.559 weight loss, and also what to do when you're manifestation 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:50.160 is something you thought you wanted, it turns out you didn't. 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:54.360 And I've got a very fun story for you. I 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:57.960 didn't give you my week update in Tuesday's episode because 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.760 you can probably tell by my voice. She's a bit husky, 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:07.840 bit sick, bit sexy. I sound like my partnership's manager, 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.160 Ja Center. Her voice like kind of just sounds like 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.760 this all the time, like husky, and I love it, 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:14.920 so I'm not mad about it. But yeah, no, I 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.080 was quite sick. I think it was just like me. 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:21.880 My immunity was quite low because you girls been busy, Yeah, 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:25.200 and you just run down, Yeah exactly. And I was like, 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:28.640 physically I wasn't too bad. It's just like my voice 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:33.840 left my body. It's like bye, bitch. So week was great. 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:37.919 We on the weekend we launched our candylanth collection was 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:42.080 so awesome in Naked Harvest. Obviously, we had a big 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:45.239 candy Land Carnival event. What did you think of the event? 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:48.200 A teer, so much fun, so much fun, literally best ever. 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:50.960 And Tea was a little helper at the event, so 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.800 running around it. But I didn't get to do. She 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:56.800 joined the NH team for the day. Very helpful, but 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.400 it was very surreal. It was like, you know, obviously, 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.799 walk into a planning event is just wild. What goes 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.600 into planning an event is Craig Kray, which is to 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:08.960 be honest, why we have never done one because it 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.640 just it gives me exciting thinking about planning event. But 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:14.239 it went so well. It did. It went so well, 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:17.640 and I just the feedback we got from you know, 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:20.960 the ambassadors and everyone there was like they said, it 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:22.760 felt like an event where they were just like around 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:26.920 their besties and it was like super casual. Because this 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:32.640 is a little secret, but I hate influencer events. I 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:34.760 feel like you've said that I'm probably out. It's not 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.080 a secret. I don't know. I just like never vibed them, 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.040 which is just you see me not going to many 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:43.200 like you know, big launches or anything, because oh, if 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.400 I've got spare time, you can bet I'm going to 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.640 spend it with like Ivy and Tim or like my 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:51.040 best friends, not at an event with random people who yeah, 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:54.240 you know are all just like it's just small talk 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:56.840 for two yeah, for their own agenda, which is fine. 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:58.560 I only ever go to events like I. 0:03:58.680 --> 0:03:59.680 Very much believe in. 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.440 But it was just so cool to have everyone there, 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.440 you know, and the reveal went so well and I 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.400 did my little speech and it was just, yeah, it 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:12.080 was really cool. I'm just so proud of NHTM. They 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.080 just they pulled it together. We had a couple of 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:19.000 mishaps the night before, but we won't go there holy shit. 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.599 But yeah, no, it was spectacular. And then the candy 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:26.600 collection launched and we've got five brand new products, and yeah, 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:30.600 it's just it's been a big, big week. But obviously 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:34.320 just finally kind of breathe for the next month or so. Yeah, 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:37.719 I've got no official launches coming up except obviously, you know, 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:41.000 Black Friday for Naked Harvest, got some exciting things for 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:43.600 Iron c Should we just tell them no? 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:47.119 Should we just tell them a tr No? 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:51.680 I want to tell them, Okay, we can't. He was 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:59.320 exactly like, mel this tell them no. All talk literally 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.640 all talk. Recommendation for the week, the sour peach free 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:08.080 work out. I love it, the stim free stim free. 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:11.360 It's like my new favorite flavor. Is it because it's 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:12.520 stim free or just a flavor? 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:15.920 No, just the flavor. Truly, I thought I loved. I 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:19.599 love sour worms, but I love sour peach. 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:21.600 Really so much, such a good flavor. 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:23.000 I feel like they're quite different. 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:26.040 So sour worm is just like very in your face 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:30.840 and then sour peach is subtle. Yeah, but it's so good. 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.520 And I find like Courtney really hit the nail on 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.599 the head on Saturday because I tried the sour peach 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.800 for the first time because I hadn't tried it before Saturday, 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:39.080 but I'd had sour worm, and. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:41.479 I was like, what does this taste like? She's like 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:45.760 your childhood and I was like, that's literally it. I 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:47.159 like that I don't know. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:48.920 What from when I was a kid that this was, 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:51.280 because I obviously didn't eat the sour peach allies when 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:53.120 I was little, but yeah. 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.240 It just brings her back. Yeah, well, that's like the 0:05:55.279 --> 0:06:00.720 whole notion is just so nostalgic. It just brings everything back, 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.719 and especially for me and Cooper because we grew up 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.560 with a very health conscious mum who like to have lollies. 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:12.120 Was so special and so exciting. So like the inner 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.040 child of me just like dies over this collection because 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:18.120 it is so exciting and I have to stop myself 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:22.840 from drinking too much free workout. Oh my god, guys, 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:27.640 I literally am gonna read to you me honest sugar high, 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:32.840 essentially full context. I have had pre workout in the past, 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:37.000 but I've never done it with the purpose of working 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:40.680 out after. I've just drank it like juice or something 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.480 throughout the day. It's like a little pepper of energy 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.240 and it's been like half a serve. And I had 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.960 my first ever full serve of pre workout before I 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:52.159 work out. I think it was last week. Yeah, so 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:56.480 Tea text me Monday seven, nineteen pm. Oh my god, 0:06:56.640 --> 0:07:00.720 I'm like what. I textwork so fast too, because I 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.479 was like, what what's happened with the podcast. She's like, 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:07.280 first time today I actually use pre workout properly, and 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:11.680 then in caps it was amazing. And then I just 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:14.560 did the laughing face and she's like, I did my 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:19.000 workout in forty five minutes. Thirty five minutes, and then 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:22.320 she did laughing face and then she's like, life changing, literally, 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:25.360 life change. Literally. The conversation we had the day before 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.640 was you were saying your workouts were taking you an 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:29.960 hour long and a half and You're like, I don't 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:32.560 know if I can keep doing this, I know because 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:34.880 I was like, that's actually ridiculous. It was too long. 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:36.640 How are you meant to get anything in life done? 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:38.920 But I think the other thing that I did, which 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.400 I if my fitness coaches listening to this, please, this 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:46.760 is what I didn't stop, like twelve reps of something 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:50.200 I just did forty eight. No, well, that's like sometimes 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:52.040 I do that if it's like I've just got to 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:52.880 get the workout done. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.320 Yeah, yeah, but I mean I should be going heavier, 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:56.160 but it's fine. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:58.360 And then I was like, I did the workout. I'm like, 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:00.720 did you take normal pre workout or free? And she's 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:03.480 like normal. Then I was like, fuck ah, you're not 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:06.200 going to sleep very well. I did, and then she 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.800 she came in the next morning, was like, yeah, I 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:11.640 didn't sleep well, but that was a great worker Yes, guys, 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.160 this is why we have stim free workout. Don't do 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:18.280 what a tea did because it will, like pre workout 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.800 is going to affect your sleeves. Yeah, but if you're 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:23.600 a morning workout gao, you'd have a great day after. 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.640 Oh that's why I'm so happy with the time of tea. Yeah, 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:32.240 crazy your recommendation. Oh yes, I'm going to go back 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.720 to a TV show, even though Jamie banned us from 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:37.160 recommending TV shows. 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:39.120 Actually, first of all. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:44.280 My recommendation is the Mask Protein. Oh yeah, it is 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:47.120 so underrated, and I feel like so many of the 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.680 ambassadors at the event were like, oh, I was sus 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:52.240 on the flavor. Ye so sus and then they tried 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.160 it and they're like, holy shit, I don't know. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:55.120 It just works. 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:57.640 Yeah, it really does. It just works, and it's so 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.960 delicious and it's one of the few, you know, proteins 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.400 that you could literally just have it by itself, and 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:06.360 it's just it's so creamy, it's got so much flavor, 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:10.000 and it's so so delicious. So yeah, that's just that's 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:14.400 definitely my favor. But my recommendation is a TV show 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:18.000 called Tell Me Lies on Disney Pass. Have you heard I? 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.680 Have I heard of this? So it's a bit saucy, 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:25.800 A bit saucy. It's not our usual coming of age. 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:29.280 They're in college, so we've like we've gone up from 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.600 high school. A lot of sex, a lot of like 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:36.559 it's just so what gets me is it's like, I 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.760 don't want to give it away, but you're seeing, you know, 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:42.720 this girl full in love with a guy, yeah, but 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:45.199 then like he's got like an ex girlfriend that he's 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.400 kind of involved with, and it's I don't know, so 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:53.080 like messy love story, very messy, but it's very I've 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:57.560 never kind of seen it from this perspective where you 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:01.320 really see him like with her and then with her, 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.920 and usually when that happens, you don't like that person. 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:06.160 But for some. 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:07.719 Reason I like him. 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:10.800 I like him because there's something there that makes me 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:14.000 feel for him or that they've added in somehow to 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:14.559 the story. 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.160 It's just very refreshing because I think it's a. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:22.200 Very normal human feeling to you know, like someone but 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:25.280 like someone else, if that makes sense, Like you can 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.640 almost not be in love with two people, because I 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.720 don't be in love with someone but also have a 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.000 bit of a crush on someone. Well, I think just 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:37.080 I feel like a lot of people can resonate where 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:40.240 and I'm gonna be very transparent because when you know, 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:44.080 my previous boyfriend, like he broke up with me and 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:47.320 it was like super messy, and I literally started talking 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.560 to Tim to make him jealous, but then I fell 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:54.000 in love with Tim because it was so close together. 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:59.240 There was definitely like strands of me and the ex 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.240 If that makes sense. Yeah, like you're still attached a 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:04.920 little bit. Yeah, because you've had like a whole relationship. 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.200 Obviously I wasn't fucking yeah. Yeah, it's very different to 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.280 the show, let's make that clear. 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:12.240 But I can I guess you. 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.640 It's just like a very normal human experience if you 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:18.400 have been in that where you want to explore this 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:20.679 new thing, but if this person is coming in out 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:22.640 of your life, you kind of are not ready to 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:26.920 let go. And I've just never really seen that in 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:32.120 a TV show where it's not villified. That's cool, I'll 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.240 give it a go. Yeah, I'd be interested to see 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:37.160 what you think anyway. Yeah, so I've been watching that 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:38.840 and that's been a bit of fun. All right, guys, 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:50.199 let's get into the hotline. Our first question A bit 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:54.559 of a long question but important context. So it's kind 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:58.439 of a long story, but basically, she did she did 0:11:58.520 --> 0:11:58.920 warn us. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.079 My older sister is dating this guy and they have 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:05.280 been together for almost two years. It's really serious, and 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.920 they talk about marriage and they are literally obsessed with 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.920 each other. They don't do a single thing without each other. 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:14.520 My whole family does not like her. Boyfriend. He's not 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:16.800 very nice to my mom. He doesn't say hi to 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:20.480 my mom or acknowledge her. He's very controlling and it's 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:22.720 like it has to be his way or you're wrong. 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:25.360 It's so bad to the point where for my other 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:27.920 siblings birthday, he threw a fit about where we were 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:30.040 going to eat because it wasn't where he thought we 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:33.120 should go to eat. That has happened so many times. 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:36.480 We've tried to go on vacations and plan out trips, 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:38.440 but it has to be where he wants to go, 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:41.480 and wherever my mom wants is wrong or not good enough. 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.920 He can be mean and loves to tease myself and 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.200 my two younger siblings, but to the point where it's 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:49.720 her full things. My sister just defends him to me. 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.199 He seems very insecure and it feels like he has 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.120 my sister on a tight leash, and it's very adamant 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:58.160 about the things she does. However, this is the happiest 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:00.520 she has ever been, and he is good to my sister, 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:03.640 but is not nice to other people. My entire family 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.679 does not like him, including my extended family. It has 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:09.400 now become a whole fight between myself, my mum and 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.640 my sister because we mentioned to her our concerns, where 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.400 she got extremely defensive, saying it's been hard for him 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:18.280 to get used to how sensitive we are. Also keep 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.200 in mind that we did not grow up with any 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.840 brothers or a father figure and had a rough childhood 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.640 with our dad who was narcissistic. So I feel like 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:27.880 she is choosing the wrong guy because of that. I 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:30.160 voiced my concerns to her and she says he is 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:32.520 not controlling at all, but I think she is blind 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:35.400 to it. How would you navigate this? How can my 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:37.840 family move on? Because she has made it clear that 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:41.480 he is not going anywhere. I also forgot to mention something. 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.920 My sister got her dream job offer. She is currently 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.520 working as a manager at a gym, where she has 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:50.560 been for seven years. She's always dreamed of becoming a 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.959 florist and got in with this amazing company who was 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:55.880 going to teach her everything. It was paying amazing and 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.360 the only thing was it was forty five minutes away 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:00.880 from where she lives. Her boyfriend did not really want 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.640 her to take this job, as he felt it was 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.720 too risky, but told her whatever would make her happy. 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.040 She ended up taking the job, and when I asked 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.840 if he was happy for her, she replied with, he is, 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:13.880 but is worried we won't spend that much time together anymore. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.600 It was so upsetting because he was totally holding her 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.160 back from living her dream life. She found out that 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:21.720 this new job does not pay for holidays like Christmas, 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.120 and she declined the job offer her dream job. She 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:27.920 totally sabotaged it for herself because it seems like her 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.520 boyfriend didn't want her to take it. Wow, there's just 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:35.880 like so much to unpack here, so much. First of all, 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:37.760 it just really upsets me that he's mean to her 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:41.560 mom me too, Like if your mom is like, like, 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:43.680 I'm not too worried about the siblings, it's the mom 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:46.120 that I need respect for. Yeah, I know what you mean. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.960 Because it's easy for people to sort of disagree with 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:51.880 people's siblings about stuff. Yeah, but when it's a parent, 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:53.400 you kind of just have to keep quiet. 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:57.320 Yeah, and they're always right, unless it's like, you know, abusive, 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.120 abusive correct. Yeah. 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:00.960 Oh, I feel so bad. 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:06.520 This is actually such a hard situation because there's one 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.960 side of you know, you obviously care about your sibling, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:14.760 and there's a situation there where it's like her relationship 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:19.320 and whatnot, but also there's another side of it's her 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:24.320 own life. Yeah, and if she has, if you have 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:28.160 voiced your concerns and she still chooses to be with 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:32.200 this guy, then you almost need to respect that and 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:37.080 find a way to not let it affect you. Yeah, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.840 that's so hard. It's so hard. 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:42.480 That's why I feel very much like, oh. 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:44.720 Yeah, I honestly don't know what i'd do, because I 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:47.560 would just say, like my immediate responses confront her, But 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:48.720 they've already done. 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:50.000 That, That's what I mean. 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.360 Yeah, and if she has said no, he's not controlling, 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:54.400 I don't. 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.880 Know, two years so it's not there's no more rose 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.320 colored glasses, Like surely those would have come off by now. 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.720 I would like to know how old she is, Oh, 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:05.200 fair point, because if she is quite young, and if 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:08.480 this is her only relationship, you know, this person has 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:12.320 said there was problems with their father, you know, maybe 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:15.920 she has daddy issues where Yeah, if you grow up 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:19.480 not having a good example of a male figure, you 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:21.600 tend to then attract that in a partner. I think 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.360 that's very like psychology when I want, isn't it so 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:27.840 that would be like my only thing. But also if 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:30.200 she is a bit older and it's like this is 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:34.960 her life, you almost need to respect her decision. And 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.960 I think there's only so much you can do with 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:39.760 you know, bring it up to her like she has 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:43.120 and the only other thing she could possibly do is 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.640 like put boundaries in with the boyfriend. 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:49.040 Yeah, that was what I would say to, like, put 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:52.000 boundaries in when it comes to your family outings and stuff. 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.360 When he starts throwing a tantrum about where you're going 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:56.440 to eat, just ignore it, because that's what you do 0:16:56.480 --> 0:16:59.560 when a toddler throws a tantrum, You just ignore it. 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:04.040 So I wouldn't be like polling him. I'd just be like, hey, 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:07.520 it's what's Yeah's birthday and we're going here seven pm. 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:11.480 If you can make it amazing, If not, all good? Yeah, 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:14.399 do you mean I think they're taking the power out 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:17.280 of not even giving him a say yeah, yeah, because 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:19.280 that's fair enough it's not your birthday. Yeah. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:21.480 And then like if he has a little bit of 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:26.200 a tiff, just let him and ignore it, yes, yeah, yeah, 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:28.959 and more focusing on how you can protect your energy 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:32.440 from that negative energy and ignore his bad vibes. When 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.320 he has those tantrums, because if you ignore it enough, 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.200 it'll stop. He'll realize it's getting him nowhere. 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:41.720 Yeah. And I think this is really sad because she 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:46.439 obviously has a relationship with her sister. Yeah, and that 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:49.919 would be really hard to continue that relationship, you know, 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:52.720 when this is happening. But I don't know what else 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:55.520 you're gonna do. Maybe you could have some girl trips 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:58.840 like your mom, all the sisters have a weekend away 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.639 just girl time, and that's how you can sort of 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:05.879 maintain that relationship with your sister without her boyfriend. Yeah. 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:08.560 I love that advice, Like, think how you can maintain 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:09.879 it without the boyfriend. 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:12.440 Yeah, and then just focus on that. Just be there 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:14.680 to support her, because I feel like it's sort of 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:17.080 at the point where if you push any. 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:19.720 More, you might lose her. You might lose your sister. 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:21.639 And the last thing you want is her if she 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:24.520 realizes this relationship isn't for me to have no one 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:25.119 to lean on. 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:28.960 Yeah, yeah, exactly. Love. The only thing I would add 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:33.000 to is, yeah, it's a hard situation, but also you 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:35.560 need to I don't know if you're gree with the sitia, 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:37.960 but like you need to respect that that it's her 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:40.200 decision of who she's with. Yeah, I do. 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:43.879 Obviously she's older, Like if she's like seventeen, yeah, you 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:47.320 have a bit more control. Yeah, But I the way 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.800 it's been described, I don't think so. If she's been 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:51.920 working as a gym manager for seven years, it sounds 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:52.480 like she's. 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:55.640 Like at least mid twenties, late twenties. Yeah, sad days. 0:18:55.680 --> 0:19:04.120 Sad day question number two. I found this one super interesting. 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:07.200 So it's not like I have any body image problems. 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:10.159 I just have this goal to reach. I've reached my 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:15.359 money goals, boyfriend goals, handstanding goals. I love that she 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:17.320 just put in brackets. I'm an active gal and have 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:20.560 been living a healthy lifestyle for seven years now, and 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:24.080 all the other things, even a free parking space. Love that. 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:26.119 But when I get to this, I kind of feel 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:27.719 that I don't know how to do it or what 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:29.919 to think about. I try to be like if I 0:19:30.040 --> 0:19:32.560 was a girl that was sixty five kilos, then I'd 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:34.560 be able to do this and that and look a 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:37.400 certain way. I have had small success with it for 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:39.960 a while, but then I get back to almost where 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:42.679 I started it. I think I need Gee's wisdom on 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:46.560 the topic, plus tars Vibe, Love You Girls, and the 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:49.200 Hotline to the Moon. I love that she called you Tea. 0:19:50.200 --> 0:19:52.080 I've never even thought about that, but of course that 0:19:52.119 --> 0:19:56.240 makes sense. Yeah, people called me that in school until 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:59.159 someone else in my class his name was Tea and 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:02.280 then confusion. But also, it's not to you. It's a dog, 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:09.000 So just get that right. And that's on that question. 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:12.919 I I hate this because it's like, why are we 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:16.680 all still weighing ourselves? I don't know. I have very 0:20:16.720 --> 0:20:19.760 mixed emotions about this because I just think if you're 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:24.480 thinking I need to be a certain weight to do things, 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:28.240 I just think it's a bit problematic. I agree. Do 0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:30.040 you agree or no? 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:34.040 I think needing to be a certain weight is not 0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:37.200 the best for your mental health. But I don't see 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:41.800 an issue in wanting to be a certain roundabout size, you. 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.600 Know what I mean? Like you say I feel my 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:46.920 best when i'm a size eight to ta, I'm yeah. 0:20:46.920 --> 0:20:50.640 But I'm going to counter you here and say, if 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:53.320 you're thinking so, let's say it's not weight. Let's say 0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:55.560 she's saying I want to be a size M or whatever. 0:20:56.640 --> 0:21:00.600 If you're thinking you need to be that size before 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.320 you're able to do something. I think that's where the 0:21:03.359 --> 0:21:03.879 issue is. 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:07.800 Oh yeah, absolutely, Like it shouldn't limit you from doing things. 0:21:08.600 --> 0:21:11.840