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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers. Now.

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Speaker 2: Breakthroughs are the it's all been worth it moments, aren't they?

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Speaker 2: Like when you just have this breakthrough and you're like, oh, yes,

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Speaker 2: dot com dot you Today. My name is doctor Justin

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Speaker 2: Colson here with Kylie, my wife, mum to our six daughters. Hey,

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Speaker 2: why are you laughing at me? You're literally sitting there

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Speaker 2: like you're looking at my hair? Is my hair a

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Speaker 2: bit crazy?

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Speaker 3: You've got like a whole part at the back behind your.

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Speaker 2: I can hear it, like big bad, Yeah you can.

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Speaker 2: I can literally Now that you said that, I can

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Speaker 2: feel I need to go and spend some time in

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Speaker 2: the bathroom looking in the mirror nobody can see. You

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Speaker 2: didn't need to raise that. This is a podcast for all.

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Speaker 2: Everyone knows I look like Ken and you look like Barbie.

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Speaker 3: Oh is that?

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Speaker 2: I hope not? At every level for both of us.

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Speaker 2: I hope not. Gosh, you know what, life with kids

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Speaker 2: is challenging, and it's interesting when we look at the

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Speaker 2: feedback that we get from our listeners, how many people

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Speaker 2: are just saying, I'm overwhelmed, I'm tired, this is hard.

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Speaker 2: Help Like, what do I do about my little child

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Speaker 2: decisions that they're making and everything in between. And so

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Speaker 2: today we decided that we were going to take parenting

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Speaker 2: from a different angle. We were going to do our

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Speaker 4: Asked some of our listeners when they have experienced that

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Speaker 2: And we can't wait to hear what they have to say.

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Speaker 2: Our first response was from Jess. This is what she

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Speaker 5: My kids are still quite little, so I haven't had

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Speaker 5: too many moments yet when I feel like it's all

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Speaker 5: but certainly have felt that my approach to parenting has

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Speaker 4: This can backfire a little bit at times, can't it.

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Speaker 4: We can hear the worst of our parenting come out

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Speaker 7: Since listening to the podcast, I have introduced some family

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Speaker 2: They're listening, Hey, Joe, let's hear from you.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's magic.

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Speaker 2: Breakthroughs are the it's all been worth it moments, aren't they?

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Speaker 2: a look at what happens when bullying moments become it's

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Speaker 10: It's the Happy Families Podcast.

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Speaker 11: Imagine a home where discipline got results without anyone having

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Speaker 11: of discipline. Theres a webinar to help parents set limits

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Speaker 4: It's the Happy Families Podcast, the podcast for the time

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Speaker 4: poor parent who just wants answers now and today we're

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Speaker 2: So we're asking our Happy Families listeners to let us

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Speaker 4: I love how Kayleen had put it, you know, this

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Speaker 14: My son's had lots of challenges and he went on

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Speaker 3: The way, Oh that's unfair when what are yours?

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Speaker 3: I miss those days.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and sitting around the table and just saying, Hey,

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Speaker 2: They're the moments that I think are the it's all

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