WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - To Assume or Not Assume, That Is The Question 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.760 Lifelun Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.800 --> 0:00:06.520 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.560 past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.360 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:13.319 recorded on Drug Wallamata Land. 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:26.120 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of lifelu Cut. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:28.720 I'm Brittany and I'm producer Keisha feeling in. 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:32.640 For you Laura. Yeah, it is therapy Thursday. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:36.600 I'm just gonna cut and our very own, very beloved 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:37.560 Laura burn Or. 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:39.839 She's been working hard on something. She's been breadcrumbing and 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:41.920 feeding that to you. We've been joking that she's on 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:45.040 Ninja Warrior, so she's definitely at Ninja school today. 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:49.000 She does have an exciting announce been coming this afternoon 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:50.960 if you're listening to this as soon as the episode 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.000 comes out, but just so you do know, it's Ninja Worrior. 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.440 Also, I know we're so annoying, Like we're the most 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:59.279 annoying people. I hate nothing more when someone's like, been 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:01.960 working on thing that's coming soon and then we don't 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:03.480 tell you do You know what I love the most 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.000 is when people post that shit on Instagram and then 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:08.520 the thing that they announce is such a non. 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:11.480 Event that you're like, why did you try and create 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:12.880 hype about it? 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:14.839 Like, I wouldn't give a fuck if. 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.240 You posted that without the hype up, but I care 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:19.319 significantly less because I feel as though the. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.399 Climax of this announcements should have been high on. 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:24.480 It's funny too, when someone's like big change coming and 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:26.400 then they post their new hair or something and it's 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:28.080 like a centimeter was trimmed off and you're like. 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:31.120 Whoa, that's a change. Did I miss something? 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.560 No, we had some great questions coming up, but before that, 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:36.240 we do want to get into something a little bit 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.640 more serious, something that hasn't happened in a long time. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.400 It's been a bit of a drought. It is looking 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.360 like my skin. My skin is in a drought. Oh 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.200 my god, it's like a cracked river bed. But we'll 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:49.160 get to that in a minute. He's looking like producer 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:53.160 Keisha is getting the sack because she might have. 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:56.160 Herself a boyfriend and now we've got no one to 0:01:56.160 --> 0:02:00.000 bring the trauma days. She's gonna be getting the sacked 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.080 because I mean a little bit behind the scenes action. 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:04.600 I absolutely lost some footage and some. 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:06.400 Before Oh no, Yeah, you're getting the sack that you 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:07.240 made some work mistakes. 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.160 But no, the main reason you'd be getting the sack 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:12.200 is because we don't really do happy in love here, Like, 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:12.760 we don't do that. 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:14.480 I love ung hard. Now who do we throw to 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:15.119 the wolves? 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:19.000 You were almost worried when you started dating Ben. I 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:22.000 remember you actually being like, what are we going to 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:23.840 do now for content? Like how am I going to 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:25.480 bring shit to the table? Because that's kind of how 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:27.959 we connected. You know, there were many people that could 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.120 have been your producer, But I think when I wrote 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:32.119 to you guys, I was like, hey, look, I kind 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:33.400 of feel like we're gonna get along. 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.720 We trauma bond. We did we buy an email? 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:36.560 Yeah? 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.040 I don't know if I've ever have we ever. 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:40.240 Told that story? I'm sure we have at some point. 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:42.400 Producer Keisha, we just got an email. We got a 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.520 lot of email slidings, but we got an email from 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:47.400 a girl named what I said was Kishia when I 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:48.399 read it out loud. 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:49.720 Basically asking for a job. 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:52.000 It was a CV saying I like the podcast, this 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:53.040 is what I've done in the past. 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:55.640 I will do anything because it was tough, well it was. 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:57.720 It was you know, COVID time. It was a bit 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:58.440 of a rough time for. 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:01.919 A lot of people, and I don't know what it 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:03.480 was because we get all of different emails. 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:04.920 But I took it to Laura and I said, hey, 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:05.959 this girl's a job. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.280 She seems pretty honor it, like, she seems pretty like 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:09.920 she'd fit in Laura's. 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:12.280 Like nah, now did she really? 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:12.680 Well? 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:16.040 Not because it's yeah, but more because we had never 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:17.840 had another employee forever. 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:20.639 It was just Laura and myself. But Laura didn't want 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:21.120 to give up. 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.200 Not didn't want to, but it's always hard when you've 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.600 created something, when it's just the two of us that 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:28.280 worked in everything, it was really hard to give up 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:29.560 a piece to someone else. 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.200 And Laura always edited the podcast and we were bringing 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:32.880 you on to edit. 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:34.800 So for Laura it was a really big like I'm 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:36.400 not ready to let that go yet. But she was 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.240 also drowning in work, and I was like, babe, make 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.320 your decision, because like you're sleeping for an hour and night, 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:42.360 so here is someone that can help us. 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:43.520 I think that that. 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:45.760 Might've actually been something that I included because I'd come 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.240 from a radio background, and long story short, I was 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.360 made redundant, and I'd been looking for a job and 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.560 basically applying for all of these different media positions. And 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:56.200 I had a conversation with a friend of mine and 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.680 she was like, no, no, no, what do you actually want? 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:01.640 You know, who do you specifically want to work with? 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:03.720 And we went through a list of like do you 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:04.880 want TV? Do you want radio? 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:05.920 Do you want podcasting? 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.520 And I was like, I think podcasting what I really 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.560 like about it is that, like you can talk about 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:12.800 things you actually care about. There's a lot less filters 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:15.200 than traditional radio. You know, you can swear, you can 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:16.080 kind of talk about. 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.000 Whatever you want or anything. 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:19.480 Yeah, And she was like, okay, cool, what podcasts do 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.159 you like? And the first one was Life on Cut. 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:23.800 And she was like, why haven't you messaged them? 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:25.320 And I was like, cause, you can't just do that 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:26.640 and she was like, what do you mean you can't 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:27.920 just do that that you can? 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:30.480 Turns out you can slide into their dms. 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:33.800 It was literally divine intervention because it was the night 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:36.120 before where Laura and I had a proper conversation where 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:38.160 I was like, you know, she wasn't sleeping very much 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.400 because she's so busy all the time. And we were growing, 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:43.440 but we weren't growing. Yeah, anyway, it was perfect timing. 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.640 But that's how Keisha ended up with us. But also 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.880 we got onto that story. Well it was the trauma bond, right, 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:52.120 this is the whole connection. Was also like, oh, like, 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:53.919 she's also had a rough trot forever. 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:55.719 I think I actually wrote to you guys, and I 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.440 was like, look, professionally, there are people who could probably 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.240 do this job better than I can, because there are 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.120 people who are going to be better editors and better 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.800 audio engineers and blah blah blah. But I think I'll 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:07.080 actually really get along with you because I also have 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.080 some really fucked up exits my soul. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:11.159 You were like, great, we're on track. 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.560 But what this brings us to is we're putting applications 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:15.760 out for someone new that is also going through traumatic 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:17.680 times with their dating life because we need you on 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:18.200 it team. 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.200 No, KEI show looks like I don't know. 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:25.960 You tell me you've been going steady. Now you've been 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.440 going steady with someone And I say that because it's 0:05:28.440 --> 0:05:30.800 been more than three days, which we haven't hit that 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:31.279 in a while. 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.280 Am I getting it? Like my anxiety rash? I don't know, 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.120 tell us, what's the gosp And you know. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:37.960 The other reason I know is that when I was 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.800 going over to see Ben Laurie's to make the joke 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.599 that I was peacocking, I was getting ready. You have 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.520 peacock hard, you wear nice clothes, You've got your eyebrows done, 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:46.160 your beautiful makeup, you're doing your. 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:48.359 Hair, and I'm like, there must be a special someone 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:52.159 at home you before Brittay goes over to see Ben. 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:52.960 The amount of it. 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:54.919 Because we have a shared calendar, she puts all of 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:57.120 her appointments in there so that I don't book things 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:59.120 for when they're busy. 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:05.440 Appointment you get WHA's the back appointment? Laser from the eyebrows? Mowdown. 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.880 No, look, it's very early days, and that's why I 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:10.120 don't want to speak out of turn. 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.440 It's very very early days. But I have been enjoying 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:17.480 the company of one person. The bar was so low. 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.120 What do you think? What does make him sound very good? 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.600 This is what's been quite a big surprise to me 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:24.720 is that this is probably one of the first times 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:26.320 in quite a long time. And I'm going to say, 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:28.560 you know that everyone that I've dated in the past 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:29.520 has been horrible because they have it. 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:32.520 Some have been great people, but I don't think i'd. 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:35.080 Realized until I actually went on like my first date 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:39.200 with him, that, my god, like what I had become 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:43.680 accustomed to accepting us like normal dating behavior, it was 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.840 just getting really down in the pits, down in like 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.840 the bottom of the barrel type area of what you 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:51.640 should expect, like respect from someone. 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.160 What the fuck is that? Totally? 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:54.760 And I remember, I mean you and I have gone 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.000 from many walks and had many of conversations about our 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:58.880 dating life. And I remember one day we pulled each 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:01.680 other up. Yeah, I think you actually said it. 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:04.719 You were like, oh my god, he's just so sweet, 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:05.599 and I was like, what did he do? 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:10.960 He was like, he wrote back a piece of salmon. 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.400 Okay, Dalilah was with me when I went to visit 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:14.720 for lunch one. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:16.880 Day, and what are we going to call him? I 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:19.800 actually call him. You want to call him Toplane. 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:23.440 That's not anything, it's top gra nickname for me. But 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.640 he did cook Delila a piece of salmon, so. 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:27.320 Which means he's winning me over. 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.840 If you're going to treat my dog, if you to 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:31.320 cook her salmon, because you know that's what she. 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:35.280 Likes to waiters. Have you had the talk? No, I'm 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.080 getting to thirty soon. I'm not going to get into 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:43.440 a third base that you know, it's serious. We are 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:47.760 hitting third day. Do you still have the conversation? I 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:48.680 don't think you do. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:52.320 Getting to this age, I'm like, surely you don't have 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:56.320 to have that chat anymore, because realistically, if I find 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:58.320 myself wanting to go and hook up with another person, 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.480 then like, what's the difference if I've had the conversation 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:03.440 of is this exclusive or not? 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:04.840 Because I would just. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:06.960 End it and then do you know what I mean? Like, 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.560 I think people have the conversation still, yes, do go? 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:13.080 Yeah, Because if you don't have the conversation, it's a 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.320 whole past, it's a ticket, it's an excuse that if 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:17.120 they do go and hook up with someone else, you're like, well, babe, 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:18.520 I thought I didn't know we're exclusive. 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.800 We never had that. They win that argument because you 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:22.880 never had the conversation. But like, that's what I mean. 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.520 If he wanted to go and hook up with someone else, 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:27.440 and that's to me is like, oh okay, well then 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:28.240 you didn't see this. 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:30.840 Going where I may be thought it was going. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.079 No, because you've done that in the past, and I'm 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:34.760 not saying that's a bad thing, but like, you've dated 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:36.240 people casually in the past that you've. 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:38.200 Quite liked, Yeah, not exclusive. 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.040 You've hooked up with someone else and you're like, well, 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.119 you know, we're not exclusive. 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:43.240 I think it's a conversation yet you have to have. 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:45.040 But I think the fact that like I had hooked 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:47.400 up with someone else is the indication that I wasn't 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:48.320 that into the person. 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:49.200 I don't know. 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:53.120 To me, it's very implied. I do think, No, you're wrong, 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.679 You're making a mistake. Don't assume you know what that says. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:57.280 You make an ass out of you and me. I'm 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:58.680 trying to think of what Ben and I did. 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:03.839 I remember Ben was trying to lock you down. Oh 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:08.640 for the moment he got laid tell everyone never exen 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:10.120 like it. 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.360 And Britt was like, oh, you keep some wanting to 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.679 have this conversation with me about you know, whether we're 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:16.240 seeing each other or not. But I think I need 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:18.400 to go over and spend some proper time with him. 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:20.920 Like it's definitely leading in that direction, and it's not 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.360 like I'm going to be investing any time in someone else, 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:25.080 but we need to spend more time together before I 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:26.160 actually make that decision. 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:28.560 You were the one who was commitment phobic. You say that, 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.679 like that's a surprise. We know I have commitment issues. No, 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:32.560 you know what it was. 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.000 He never hid that he wanted a relationship, and I 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:36.640 would just say to him straight back, like we're not 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:38.480 there yet, like I really like seeing you, but we're 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:39.720 not there, And he's like, that's okay, you don't have 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:41.160 to be I'm just telling you what I like. He 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:43.320 was just so forward with his feelings, which I loved, 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:45.120 but he kept saying things like, well. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:46.719 Obviously you wouldn't see anyone else, would you. 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:48.959 Oh? Like the question that was like it passed off 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.200 was rhetorical, but he was actually. 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:52.360 Trying to dig for a bit more information. 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:54.559 Yeah, he was trying to make it like dah w 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:56.160 we'ere obviously at the place where we're seeing each other. 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.559 Yeah, I don't think it's an employed Sometimes. 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:00.000 I'm sure it's implied, like you might move in together 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.320 straight away. All the COVID times, you know, when people 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:04.720 ended up dating for two weeks COVID happened, you know, 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:07.559 that's of course implied that you're together. But I think 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:09.400 at your stage, like I mean, you have spent three 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:10.400 nights in a row with him. 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:11.080 It's a lot. 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:13.040 I'm not used to having something. I think I've become 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:14.520 a lot more like you. We've been spending too much 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:18.160 time together. I'm just morphing into Brittany gradually because I mean, 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.880 I guess people on podcasts might not know this, but 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:22.320 we actually spend a lot about personal life together as well. 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:25.720 Quite co professional codependent. I said to him last night. 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:28.080 I was like, I haven't spent this amount of time 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:30.680 with the one person except for britt for a very 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:33.880 long time life, and I'm just not used to it. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.840 But yeah, look, taking things slowly in my mind, and 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:40.840 I will give an update on where it goes. But 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.240 I'm also actually genuinely interested. I might put this up 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.840 on an Instagram story today and ask you whether you 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:48.280 think you still have to have the conversation to me. 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:50.560 This is the first year of my life that I 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:55.040 have thought, nah, I don't need to I don't need clarity, 0:10:55.640 --> 0:11:00.360 like you know, you could regret that maybe any but 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:02.760 I don't. Every year up until this point I would 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.400 have been like, oh, yeah, like I'd like to have 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:06.560 that conversation, but I have anxiety about it, or like 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:08.680 I feel a little bit uncomfortable about maybe how they're 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:11.839 gonna respond. I genuinely have just I don't know how 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:13.320 I got to this place, but I've just moved to 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.360 this point where I'm like, night, I actually don't care 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:16.440 about having the conversation. 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:18.760 I genuinely think there's a time too of your life 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:20.720 where and I think you're entering it where you've been 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:23.920 shit on so many times that your care factor goes 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:25.960 down a little bit and you're like, cool, I'm just 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:27.920 not gonna put the energy in even if you're interested. 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:30.160 You're like, I'm not gonna give it the energy that. 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:31.080 I normally would have. 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.559 And I don't mean the good energy, like of course 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:35.199 you're putting effort into the dating, but I mean when 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.400 something starts to go south. You used to not you, 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:39.520 but people we would dwell on it, would talk about it, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.880 would wonder why should I triple text them? 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:42.559 They've goes to me? 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:44.240 But now you sort of would be like, oh, well, 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:45.960 he was a dickhead, like who cares? 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:47.400 Move on, look for the next good thing. 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:50.240 It's so crazy because I feel as though this is 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:53.920 the first time I've given no fucks, like just been 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.280 like oh whatever, it is what it is, And you 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:58.920 had said this to me for so long, being like 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:00.800 as soon as you get to that point, you are 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:02.680 so insanely attractive to men. 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:04.280 Dude, my dms. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:08.360 They've never been for they've never been lit up like this. 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:10.000 It's like a moth to a flame. It's like they 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:13.160 can sense that you don't want like that. You're just like, ohren, 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:16.480 give fuck, like you had your chance for literally six months. 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:18.800 Don't come messaging me now. I don't want to hang 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:19.400 out with you now. 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.920 Yeah, you just need someone to break you that last time, 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:23.400 and I'm so broken. 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:26.559 You can't break me anymore. That's what it's mean. 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.439 And then it's you're on the ground, horizontal. There's only 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.880 one way, and that's up. That's where you are. You're flying, 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:32.679 soaring high. 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:35.360 Dating lives are so fucking grim. No, it's good. 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:37.360 I'm happy to say you're happy. And I have spoken 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:38.679 to him. I have not met him, but I've spoke 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:40.720 to him. He seems like a lovely man and I 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:42.080 can't wait for the update. 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.320 But I have been wondering about your skin. 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:47.400 You've been posting a little bit of stuff on Instagram 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.280 about the skin treatment that you're doing because you had 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:51.200 some pre cancer or cells and you've been was it 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.559 a cider toxic treatment or something like that? 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.559 Yeah, pre cancer cells founded a skin check and I've 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:57.959 can get a lot of questions, so I'm gonna spell 0:12:58.000 --> 0:12:59.280 it out a little bit. But I went to a 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.440 proper skin cancer clinic because a lot of people have said, oh, 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.640 did you go to just a GP or like who. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:04.960 Did you go to? 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:08.439 So to be clear, I went to a skin cancer specialist, 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.480 but I went for a a check up. But be 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.520 a couple of things that really were prominent on my 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.679 face that had been there for a while, just darker areas, 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:19.640 nothing extravagant. A couple of little, darker pigmented areas, and 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:22.040 it turns out there, yeah they're pre cancer, so they're 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.480 okay now, but chances are they will. 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:25.640 Turn into cancer if I leave them. 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:28.079 So you put this side a toxic cream on kills 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.800 your face basically peels off. Another question I've been getting 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.000 is do you just spot put it on on the 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:34.920 three spots that I had, But you do not. 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:36.480 You put on your whole face. 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.440 And I'm lucky that I did because a lot of 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:41.439 other areas have been coming out that are bad. Basically, 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.040 there's a lot of other bad areas in my face. 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.480 Your skin when you don't have anything on it, it 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:49.040 looks really painful, it looks really sore. And I know 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.520 that people who have been listening to the podcast consistently 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:53.599 are probably like, Oh, you're still banging on about this 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:56.199 skin thing. I cannot tell you how many messages we 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:59.000 are getting to the DMS about your skin treatment. And 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:00.880 I want to thank you because because of you, I 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.600 have booked in for a skin check and I'm pretty overdue. 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:05.599 I've had quite a lot of things cut out of 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:06.800 my body because I got up at the beach and 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.520 I spent a lot of time in the sun as 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:08.920 a kid. 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.400 But I it's something that I was kind of I haven't. 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.440 Been putting it off, but I just haven't had that 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:18.000 motivation to be like, oh, just book it in and more. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:19.840 Important, right, You're always like, I know I've got to 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:22.080 do it, but I'm busy this week. And it's an 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.200 easy when there's not a real thing that's worrying you, 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:25.400 it's an easy put off. 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:27.120 I only told you guys about it last week. 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:28.760 But I guess the reason we talk about it is 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:29.920 it's an ongoing thing. 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:31.000 So for the next three weeks. 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:34.320 I'm using the terms eats my face, like I keep saying, 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:36.280 it will continue to eat my face for like three 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:37.320 weeks and right now. 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:38.920 I tried to put a bit of makeup on today 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:39.320 because we. 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:41.280 Had so many interviews, but I don't think I'm supposed to, 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.440 so don't tell my doctor. And my face is like 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.720 covered in red blisters and they're getting worse, so it'll 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:47.160 continue to. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:48.280 Get worse for a couple of weeks. 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:51.320 I've had so many responses to my Instagram stories that 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:52.880 I've been posting about it. You know, a lot of 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:55.800 thanks for sharing, which are amazing because people have contacts 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.080 and relations that have had cancers and stuff like that, 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:00.000 but a lot of people being like, you're so brain 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.240 for putting this out, so thank you so much, because 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:04.520 you're so brave for showing your face like that. 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:07.960 You're brave, stunning and brave, which I did find the 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:09.560