1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just answers. 3 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:13,240 Speaker 2: Now, my relationship with my daughter is completely intact. She 4 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 2: feels loved, she feels understood, and I have a car 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 2: that functions and works. I see so much goodness as 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 2: opposed to what I could potentially see if I chose 7 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 2: to see things differently. 8 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 3: People matter, things don't. 9 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mom 10 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: and dad. 11 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 3: Well, pretty much the entire nation is now on school holidays. 12 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 3: Everybody is I want to say, relaxing, but I don't 13 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 3: think so. We've heard about parent anxiety when it comes 14 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 3: to Christmas holidays, try to juggle babysitters. There's the financial cost, 15 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 3: there's interest rates, there's fuel, there's food. 16 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:45,680 Speaker 2: Look, that's just the shopping. 17 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,560 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, and how much is that costing at the moment. 18 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 3: But in spite of it all, in spite of it all, 19 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 3: I'm feeling really good, Like this is the time of 20 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 3: the year where we can, in spite of all that stuff, 21 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 3: take a breather, we can start to relax enjoy another's company, 22 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 3: just like being around each other again. 23 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 2: How are you going with that? 24 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 3: I am going great. So my Old Do Better Tomorrow. 25 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 3: For those of you who are new to the podcast, welcome, 26 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 3: great to have you along, Thanks for joining. Just when 27 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 3: we're about to move away from regular programming for a 28 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 3: few weeks. We're going to have some short podcast episodes 29 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 3: over the next few weeks through Christmas, because hey, we 30 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 3: want to have a holiday as well. But the last 31 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 3: week or so, I've been awake every morning, nice and early, 32 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:26,320 Speaker 3: down the beach with whichever kids want to come. I 33 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 3: haven't been forcing them, but I've had our twelve year 34 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 3: old in particular, in the water pretty much every day, 35 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 3: teaching her to surf, catching waves, swimming in the ocean. 36 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 3: And I feel like that's my old Do Better Tomorrow, 37 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 3: just being available and saying, hey, kids, let's go out 38 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:45,119 Speaker 3: of the beach, let's enjoy life. I've been planning some getaways, 39 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 3: some breaks for next year with some of the bigger 40 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 3: kids as well, and inviting them into sort of say hey, 41 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 3: here's where we're going to be and here's what we're 42 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 3: going to do. What do you want to do while 43 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 3: we're there. That's it. My Old Do Better Tomorrow is 44 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 3: just time with the kids. I love holiday time. I 45 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 3: just love it because we get to be normal instead 46 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 3: of under pressure all the time and trying to get 47 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 3: from here to there and do it all in a hurry. 48 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 2: Well, you were busy being normal. I might have had 49 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: things just go a little bit skewed. 50 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 3: Just before we talk about your things going a little 51 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 3: bit skewed, I want to just quickly mention highlights. We 52 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 3: had an incredible highlight last week. You and I for 53 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 3: the first time and I don't know how long, feels 54 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 3: like a couple of years, managed to get away for 55 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,959 Speaker 3: a weekend with no kids. And how good was that? 56 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 3: So part of I'll do bet It's moor. Part of 57 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:31,959 Speaker 3: being a great parent is having time for investing in 58 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 3: the relationships that matter to you. And we jumped on 59 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 3: an aeroplane. We hopped a flight to Melbourne and we 60 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,920 Speaker 3: saw Billy Joel live in concert at the MCG with 61 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 3: about I don't know eighty thousand other people and it 62 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:50,079 Speaker 3: was so good. It was just such an amazing, amazing night. 63 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 3: And his band, his team, oh my goodness, they are tight. 64 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 2: What I loved about it was just how generous he 65 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 2: was with allowing them to shine. 66 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, the guitarists up there singing opera songs and doing 67 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 3: solos of led Zeppelin, and then his percussionist is singing 68 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 3: Tina Turner River Deep Mountain Heigh, Oh mysh goodness smashed. 69 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 3: But the main point that I wanted to highlight was 70 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 3: just how good it felt for you and I to 71 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 3: step into our relationship where we didn't have to parent 72 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 3: and we didn't have to do all the stuff that 73 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 3: goes with having a family. Oh, it felt so good. 74 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 3: If you're listening to this podcast and you haven't done 75 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 3: that for a while, can I please put it out there. 76 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 3: Just grab your diary, sit down with your partner, your husband, 77 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 3: your wife, your spouse, whoever it is that you want 78 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 3: to spend quality time with, and just pick one or 79 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 3: two weekends next year where you can pencil it in 80 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 3: ring the in laws. Do what have you've got to 81 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 3: do to get the support and get that time away. 82 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 3: It feels so good. 83 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 2: Last week we actually did our final Q and A 84 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 2: for the year Yes. 85 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 3: With our Happy Families premium members in our Happy Families membership, and. 86 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 2: One of the questions was how do you manage the 87 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 2: messiness of family life? And the reality is you've given 88 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 2: this amazing highlight of the weekend, but it was still 89 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 2: really challenging to do it, and we had a few 90 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 2: kids away with cousins and a few kids taking care 91 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 2: of themselves and the puppy. I've come home and the 92 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 2: puppy's been eating my Christmas tree. We have had almost 93 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 2: a week of no accidents in the house. 94 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 3: And the dog's been pupping in the in the house. 95 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 2: So the reality is there is always going to be 96 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 2: reasons why it's actually not the right time, or it's 97 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 2: going to there's going to be an element of stress 98 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 2: associated with her. One of the children who was with 99 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:40,359 Speaker 2: the cousins got homesick and wanted to come home and 100 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 2: hang out with the big sisters. Just there's always something 101 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 2: if we can keep our eye on the goal and 102 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 2: recognize that things are never going to be perfect, they're 103 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,119 Speaker 2: not going to work out miraculously the way we hope 104 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 2: they are, but we're there for a reason and we're 105 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 2: doing good things. The family will survive. 106 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 3: So just wanted to just want to share the news 107 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 3: because it was so Highlie you have and I'll do 108 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 3: better tomorrow. That is worthy of legend status, and it's 109 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,600 Speaker 3: a really wonderful way for you to finish off. I'll 110 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 3: do better Tomorrow's for the year. Why don't you share 111 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:16,040 Speaker 3: the story. 112 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 2: Let's just say, after twenty five years of driving, I 113 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:22,240 Speaker 2: have never experienced this before in my life, and I 114 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 2: hope that it never happens again. I was heading down 115 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 2: to Brisbane with one of our daughters and I was 116 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 2: feeling a bit peckish and we were on a tight schedule. 117 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 2: We had an appointment at five o'clock. It was quarter 118 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 2: past four, and I looked at the tank and I thought, 119 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:35,720 Speaker 2: by the time we get out of our appointment and 120 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:37,839 Speaker 2: come home, it's going to be rather late. I don't 121 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 2: want to be filling up on the other end, So 122 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 2: can you fill up my car while I go on 123 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 2: and get food. She said yeah, sure. She said what 124 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 2: fuel do you use? And I said, I use premium 125 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 2: in mine, So just if you put the V power in, 126 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 2: we'll be right. I'll pay all my way out. So 127 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: I've gone in, got the food, I've gone to the 128 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 2: counter to pay for my petrol and the assistant says 129 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,240 Speaker 2: that was fifty seven leaders of diesel and I said, no, 130 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 2: it wasn't. And she said you're pump sixteen and I said, yep, 131 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,480 Speaker 2: I am, but it's not diesel. I got premium and 132 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 2: she said, yeah, premium diesel. 133 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 3: So before you go on with the story, anyone who 134 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 3: works in a petrol station, can I just say this 135 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 3: is just brilliant on the part of the service station attendant, 136 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 3: because normally you just say sixteen and they say one 137 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 3: hundred and fifty bucks, and you pay the money for 138 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 3: the fuel and resent every cent of it because it 139 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 3: used to only be one hundred bucks or eighty bucks 140 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 3: or whatever it is. But she actually said, you've got 141 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 3: the diesel. She highlighted the diesel, and that one fact 142 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 3: meant saved us thousands, meant that we didn't have to 143 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 3: make an insurance claim. You didn't turn the car on 144 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 3: because the car doesn't take diesel, the car takes unladed. 145 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 2: So in my child's defense, I didn't actually even know 146 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,279 Speaker 2: there was a premium diesel product, so it never occurred 147 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 2: to me, to be very specific. I just saw V power, 148 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 2: knew that I was having the premium product, and everything 149 00:06:57,520 --> 00:06:57,960 Speaker 2: was okay. 150 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 3: So kid's just expensive, right, Kids make mistakes. But what's 151 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 3: that thing? That thing that I always say, Kylie, what's 152 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 3: that thing that I was set the end of the day. 153 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 3: People matter, things don't People matter, things don't. 154 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 2: And so I took a deep breath. I didn't even 155 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 2: pay I actually I looked at her and I just 156 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 2: she saw my whole face drop and she just let 157 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 2: me walk away. 158 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 3: I just needed a moment just to clarify. Fuel is 159 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 3: the most expensive, it feels like it's ever been. And 160 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 3: she put seventy liters of diesel, like one hundred and 161 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 3: fifty dollars worth of diesel into a car that doesn't 162 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:32,239 Speaker 3: take diesel. 163 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 2: So I had no idea how I was supposed to 164 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 2: get out of this mess at all. So I walked outside. 165 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 2: I took a few deep breaths, and a man who'd 166 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 2: been standing behind me, he was getting into his car 167 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 2: and he just said, whatever you do, do not turn 168 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 2: your car on. I said, okay, I got that message, 169 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 2: But in my mind, I'm thinking what am I going 170 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 2: to do now? And I knew that I was going 171 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 2: to ring you, but you were going to be no 172 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 2: help because you would have had no idea what to 173 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 2: do in that situation either. Anyway, the shop assistant comes 174 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 2: out finally, and she hands me card and she said, 175 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 2: these people will be able to help you. And I've 176 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 2: looked at it and gone, uh huh. Just I Honestly, 177 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 2: I was speechless. I heard nothing. So they came and 178 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 2: they were able to siphon out the tank. But because 179 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 2: our tanks, we've got sub tanks and they go over 180 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 2: the top of the chassis, so he could easily get 181 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 2: to the one that was closest to the fuel pump side. 182 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: But he had to remove my back seat to get 183 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 2: onto the other side of the sub tank, and he'd 184 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 2: never done it before. 185 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 3: So this all started at what time? Four fifteen? And 186 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 3: what time did you leave the petrol. 187 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 2: I left at six forty five, so. 188 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 3: You were at the petrol station for two and a 189 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 3: half hours watching some guy pull the car apart. 190 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 2: Poor guy was just pouring with sweat. 191 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 3: Ah, honestly, and the petrol station, I'm guessing they didn't 192 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 3: like give you the tank of diesel for free. 193 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 2: They did not, So I paid for my tank of petrol. 194 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 2: I paid for him to come and siphon. That was 195 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 2: five hundred and eighty dollars because there's a surcharge per liter, 196 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:57,679 Speaker 2: holy on top of just the fee of having them 197 00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:59,719 Speaker 2: come out. And then I got to fill my car 198 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 2: with unleaded. 199 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 3: Which costs another what one hundred and fifty bucks or something. 200 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 3: Like that, so effectively, what you're saying is it cost 201 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 3: nine hundred dollars to fill my tank. To fill the tank. 202 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 3: It's been a big week. 203 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 2: But you know, at the end of it, I just 204 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 2: thought this could have been so much worse. 205 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 3: It could have been so. 206 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 2: Much worse, and I was just so grateful. 207 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 3: Did you yell at our twenty year old? 208 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 2: No? No, and because do you know what it could 209 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 2: have just as easily been me? 210 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 3: And did she learn the lesson? 211 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, she learned the lesson. 212 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 3: So a couple of things on parenting in relation to 213 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 3: this amazing story. First off, when children make mistakes, they 214 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:41,440 Speaker 3: know every now and again. It might be appropriate to 215 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 3: make sure that they know by asking some gentle questions, 216 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 3: but we don't have to rub their face in it. 217 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 3: We don't have to make sure that they learned their lesson. 218 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 3: When they make mistakes like this, especially unintentional, unforeseen errors, 219 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 3: they know. Second thing, we love our daughter, but she 220 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 3: does and get out of this scot free. So once 221 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 3: she'd calmed down, this is the same daughter who wrote 222 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 3: my car off a week earlier. She's not having a 223 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 3: good time. 224 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 2: She's not and she was so aware of I guess 225 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:14,319 Speaker 2: the financial. 226 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, we talked about the car being written off on 227 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 3: I'd do about it tomorrow a week ago, didn't we 228 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 3: With hitting of the Kangaroo, we did talk about that, 229 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 3: I think a week ago. Yep. Great, ya we did yep. 230 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 3: So so she's got to pay the excess on the 231 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 3: car because she wrote the car off. She's now up 232 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 3: for nine hundred dollars. Well, we paid for the tank 233 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 3: of fuel that we were going to pay for anyway, 234 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 3: but she's paid the remainder of it. She's paid like 235 00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 3: seven hundred bucks for that. Because she's still got to 236 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 3: be accountable for her mistakes. But we're willing to be 237 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:44,280 Speaker 3: gentle with her. We're not rubbing it in, and we're 238 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 3: willing to support her where we can. We've worked out 239 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 3: a couple of things with her in relation to all 240 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,320 Speaker 3: of that, because it's really messed up her savings and 241 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 3: her plans and all that kind of thing. But the 242 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:56,559 Speaker 3: central thing that I want to emphasize is we've been gentle, 243 00:10:57,080 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 3: we've been kind, but we've also let her know that 244 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 3: it's supportive as we are. There is a cost, and 245 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 3: as the responsible person, she needs to bear some of 246 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 3: that cost. There is accountability, yes. 247 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 2: And a natural consequence. This is this is literally a 248 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 2: natural consequence. I've made a mistake and it's going to 249 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 2: cost this much money to fix. But even with the 250 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 2: guy who came to help Siphon out the tank, he 251 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 2: was really apologetic because it had taken him so long. 252 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 2: He'd never taken out a back seat of ours and 253 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 2: just could not, for the life of him work it out. 254 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:32,439 Speaker 2: And he just said, thank you so much for being 255 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 2: patient with me. He said. The last time I had 256 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:38,439 Speaker 2: to learn on the job, he said, the woman literally 257 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 2: blasted me and told me, if you're so incompetent, just leave. Wow, 258 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 2: he said, he did. 259 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:47,840 Speaker 3: He did, He left. 260 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 2: She was so abusive to him, and I just looked 261 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 2: at him. 262 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 3: She's stuck at a servo and she can't do anything. 263 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 2: I just what's the point in me getting angry at you? 264 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:59,239 Speaker 2: The reality is I can't go anywhere without you. 265 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 3: You're kind of imported into this whole story. Please stay, and. 266 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 2: So for me, just I guess the learning for me 267 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: out of all of this is once upon a time, 268 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:09,520 Speaker 2: I would have been so irate about this situation. I 269 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 2: would have been so angry at my daughter for making 270 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 2: what would have appeared to be just a stupid mistake. 271 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 2: But the reality is it could have happened to anyone, 272 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 2: and the more people I've talked to, even the shop 273 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 2: assistant she actually said to me, not many stations have 274 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 2: the premium diesel product. Like I said, I didn't even 275 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 2: know it existed, So it was. It was just such 276 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 2: an innocent mistake on her part, and my night didn't 277 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 2: get destroyed. 278 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:37,199 Speaker 3: Well as a result, you missed the appointment and you 279 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:39,559 Speaker 3: drove all the way back to the Sunshine Coast from Brisbane. 280 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 2: Well, it was a long drive to get some petrol. 281 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 3: It was pretty expensive petrol too. 282 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 2: Happy for now, my relationship with my daughter is completely intact. 283 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 2: She feels loved, she feels understood, and I have a 284 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 2: car that functions and works. There is somebody there to help, 285 00:12:57,559 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 2: and I just I see so much goodness out of 286 00:12:59,880 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: that story, as opposed to what I could potentially see 287 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:05,240 Speaker 2: if I chose to see things differently. 288 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 3: People matter things, don't We Really hope you've enjoyed our 289 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 3: old do better tomorrow today. Thanks for sharing the story, Kylie. 290 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 3: Hopefully over the weekend and as we move into the 291 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 3: summer holidays properly now you're going to be able to 292 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 3: spend a whole lot of time in the park, or 293 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 3: in the beach, or wherever it might be, with your family, 294 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:24,960 Speaker 3: enjoying the love and the time and the lack of routine. 295 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:27,680 Speaker 3: Have a wonderful weekend, and we'll be back with more 296 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 3: on the Happy Families podcast on Monday. The Happy Famili's 297 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 3: podcast is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media. Craig 298 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,880 Speaker 3: Bruce is our executive producer. 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