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Speaker 1: My hard podcasts, hear more kids podcasts, playlists and listen

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Speaker 1: live on the Free I heard hates Will and What

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Speaker 1: It's comedy festival time, which is very exciting. Was we've

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Speaker 1: got the best of the best in the studio in

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Speaker 1: the lead up to the festival today, International Act, unbelievable.

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Speaker 1: James Barr joins us here on Will and what he

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about your show in a second, James,

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Speaker 1: because lots of questions there. Okay, but before we get

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Speaker 1: into that, I should say James Barcomedy dot com if James,

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Speaker 1: but before we get into that, you're on the radio

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Speaker 1: in the UK.

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Speaker 2: I am Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So you do a show called Hits Radio, Hits Radio

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Speaker 1: Breakfast Breakfast Ye and we were just talking. We were like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: this is gonna be awesome. He's just going to be

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Speaker 1: so professional.

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Speaker 2: Brother and brother and cut up here. How that hell

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Speaker 2: you can tell you? Thank you. Let's get the latest.

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Speaker 1: We actually we did a deep dive. Got to hear

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Speaker 1: it from myself, International Class, one of.

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Speaker 2: Your finest minds. Capa sill. I'm James Bar. This is

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Speaker 2: LMFAO's next single. It's going to rock Wembley Stadium when

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Speaker 2: they do it at the summer time ball waiting for

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Speaker 2: the champagne cup pork cock. Sorry, what am I to say?

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Speaker 2: Champagne cork pop at the end?

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Speaker 1: I'm going to go now, wow, I thought you're a professional.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's deeply embarrassing. I've gone so rad fair.

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Speaker 1: Enough, fair enough, Right, We'll move it on because I

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Speaker 1: want to talk to you about your show because it

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Speaker 1: seems really, really well interesting. I actually don't know how

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Speaker 1: you're going to do this, but I know this is

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Speaker 1: deeply personal for you and for a lot of people

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Speaker 1: as well. This will be potentially triggering. We are talking

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Speaker 1: domestic advance. So again the number is one hundred, respect

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Speaker 1: if you would like to call that if you're a

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Speaker 1: sufferer of that, but also if it's triggering for you

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Speaker 1: in any way you weren't in a relationship of abuse,

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Speaker 1: that's right. How do you sell a comedy show about

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Speaker 1: domestic vance?

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Speaker 2: It's a good question. Well, I call it Dommy V. Firstly,

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Speaker 2: I guess my thought on it is going to This

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Speaker 2: is the point, isn't it. You're going to challenge with

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Speaker 2: that code dommy V. That is the promo code exclusively

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Speaker 2: for your listeners, and giving that out today. Look, it

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Speaker 2: happens a lot. It's happening to way more people than

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Speaker 2: we realize. We need to accept that, we have to

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Speaker 2: deal with it. We have to talk about it in

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Speaker 2: as many different ways as possible, in as many different

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Speaker 2: art forms as possible, so that the message is out there,

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Speaker 2: and then we can't hide from it. We can't ignore it.

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Speaker 2: We have to do something about it. But I know

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Speaker 2: people will be upset listening, So I just want to say, like, yes,

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Speaker 2: one in three LGBTQ plus people are affected by domestic violence,

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Speaker 2: but it's okay. The other two are fine. There are

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Speaker 2: They're a brunch, so don't get too upset about it,

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Speaker 2: having a great time.

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Speaker 1: If we should mention one respect is the phone number.

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Speaker 1: This is triggering for any of you guys. Was there

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Speaker 1: a moment from the relationship that you first found funny or.

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Speaker 2: No, definitely not. It was awful. Yeah, I mean obviously

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Speaker 2: now with hindsight, I can make jokes about it. I

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Speaker 2: was just minimizing it a lot of I think that's

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Speaker 2: a very familiar feeling for people that go through this.

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Speaker 2: I was minimizing it a lot. I was telling myself

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Speaker 2: I deserved it. I was saying actually like, I'm not

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Speaker 2: the victim. He is because of what he went through

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Speaker 2: in his past and doing all of that. And then

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Speaker 2: this is the cycle that happens with people that are

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Speaker 2: really hurt. They don't know how to deal with it,

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Speaker 2: they can't process their emotions, and then they hurt other people.

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Speaker 2: As soon as I found clarity to leave, then there

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Speaker 2: are started to be moments where I would laugh at

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Speaker 2: myself and like my mom. My. Mom's a big part

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Speaker 2: of the show, and she obviously minimized things too. And

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Speaker 2: you know, when I told her what had happened, I said,

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Speaker 2: he's been violent. Her response was, well, we've all had

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Speaker 2: a difficult lockdown, and moments like that are really funny,

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Speaker 2: and you have to difficult lockdown. After the relationship, he

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Speaker 2: sent a Christmas card to my mum saying, sorry I

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Speaker 2: hurt your son. Of the show the title of the show,

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Speaker 2: and her response to that was, well, he's got lovely handwriting,

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Speaker 2: which he did. You know he does have lovely handwriting.

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Speaker 2: So that's the show. Yeah, it depends how dark you

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Speaker 2: want to go, medium dark chocolate. I want to go

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Speaker 2: for sun is settings. It's not fully dark, all right,

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Speaker 2: don't take us to midnight that phone number again, undred

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Speaker 2: respect hundred respects. There was a pushy washy down the stairs.

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Speaker 2: He wars. He oh yeah, he got really angry. He

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Speaker 2: slapped me. I slipped. I think you call it slip

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Speaker 2: stop slap here and the sunscreen thing, that the sunscreend thing. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I never explicitly told anyone I was close to that

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Speaker 2: he had been violent. I just said he gets angry,

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Speaker 2: which I think is a signal to people around you.

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Speaker 2: If someone's saying.

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Speaker 1: That, what would you tell someone who's experiencing domestic advance?

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Speaker 2: Now, I would say you can leave. I would say

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Speaker 2: it's difficult, it's tough, but it isn't as simple as

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Speaker 2: just leaving, because you have to start again. The most

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Speaker 2: important thing I would say is we feel as a

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Speaker 2: society like finding a partners the most important thing in

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Speaker 2: the world, and that we have to look for the one.

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Speaker 2: But actually I think you are the one, and you're

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Speaker 2: the most important person in your life. Yeah. That's an

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Speaker 2: awesome message.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah. So I suppose the show. The show kind

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Speaker 2: of like tickets. Now, that's it.

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Speaker 1: James bar Comedy dot com. If you want to see

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Speaker 1: James at the International Comedy Festival. I suppose the show

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Speaker 1: kind of like dovetails beautifully between like actually addressing the

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Speaker 1: domestic advance but then finding a way to laugh at

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Speaker 1: it without mocking it. Yes, which is very much the tone,

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Speaker 1: because you're you're currently oscillating so easily between like very

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Speaker 1: visibly like trauma.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 1: And then also you're then kind of like tapping out

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Speaker 1: of that trauma and like here's a joke about it.

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Speaker 2: It's because also we're on the radio and there's people

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Speaker 2: driving in the cars, and I suppose you've got to

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Speaker 2: think about like he's listening to this versus people is

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Speaker 2: that international radio?

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Speaker 1: I was talking here's the Bames.

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Speaker 2: Waiting for the champagne pork cock. Sorry. Also, what a

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Speaker 2: terrible song that is?

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Speaker 1: Oh I know when you were giving it the pump

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Speaker 1: up as well, that was embarrassing games on so many levels.

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Speaker 2: That's embarrassing. Here is l m f A. Oh there

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Speaker 2: we are going to play for Thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: Guys, I've been so nice to chat make congratulations on

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Speaker 1: the show. Good luck.

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Speaker 2: It's willin Wood.

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