Speaker 1: Question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell show podcast.
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Speaker 1: about family secrets. She found out Jason at a family funeral.
Speaker 1: My wife found out that her uncle worked for I Six.
Speaker 1: For years, we always told he was an undercover cop.
Speaker 1: All these secrets are amazing. This is an amazing one.
Speaker 1: We found out after my mom passed away. She was
Speaker 1: a codebreaker during the Second World War at Bletchley Park.
Speaker 1: If you've all heard about what they did at Bletchie Plants,
Speaker 1: incredible they cracked the codes. Never told a soul about it,
Speaker 1: Not even my dad, her husband knew about it other
Speaker 1: than that she worked during the war and it only
Speaker 1: became released. It was then we found out about it
Speaker 1: when the Official Secrets Act. A load of rare documents
Speaker 1: came out as well backed it all up that she
Speaker 1: was a senior codebreaker. Amazing. Yeah, Christian. When I was thirty,
Speaker 1: I started getting messages on Facebook. I wonder how many
Speaker 1: of you have found out about other family members through Facebook.
Speaker 1: When I was thirty, started getting message on Facebook from
Speaker 1: someone claiming to be my sister. Found out it was
Speaker 1: completely true, Like Jack was saying earlier another family, this
Speaker 1: is an amazing one. This feels like the plot to
Speaker 1: a movie. In around nineteen thirty, my granddad died in
Speaker 1: a trench he was digging out after being hit in
Speaker 1: the head with a shovel accidentally by his best friend
Speaker 1: at the time. The best friend went on to marry
Speaker 1: and move in with my nan. Accident. Hey in quotation,
Speaker 1: that's going on with that, Jody, Good morning money, Good
Speaker 1: morning Jody. So a family secret you found out.
Speaker 3: My mom grew up with a single mum. And this
Speaker 3: is back in mum's eighty four, so a long time
Speaker 3: ago where that probably wasn't the norm. And it was
Speaker 3: only once we put my grandmother into age care and
Speaker 3: she handed over her documents. She thought her father had
Speaker 3: been dead that whole time, and when she handed over
Speaker 3: her documents, mum found divorce papers. But mom loved her
Speaker 3: her mum so much that she never investigated. So we
Speaker 3: don't know if there's other family out there.
Speaker 1: That's incredible. So her dad hadn't passed away, the divorced
Speaker 1: and the mom tuld to just rub him out the picture.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So it was back in the Second World War,
Speaker 3: so she thought he had died in the war.
Speaker 1: I do understand also why your mom didn't want to
Speaker 1: say anything, especially when your mum's in a care home
Speaker 1: as well. You just don't want to. You just don't
Speaker 1: want to bring up all all that pain and shame.
Speaker 1: I guess around it all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, very well, very well. Could have been that,
Speaker 3: you know, the stigma of divorce at that time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so amazing.
Speaker 3: That's our little mystery that's still to this day.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And have you thought about looking into any more yourself.
Speaker 3: Jody, I certainly have, but I'm a bit like my mum.
Speaker 3: I suppose I'm respecting her wishes. She like it's her father,
Speaker 3: and she hasn't wanted to investigate, so I've left it alone.
Speaker 1: Have you done any of those, you know, the genealogy
Speaker 1: stuff like the DNA testing and the ancestry.
Speaker 3: No, we haven't, we haven't. I sort of think it's
Speaker 3: mum's story. And if mum wanted to find out, you know,
Speaker 3: I would certainly support her in that and do whatever
Speaker 3: I could. But she's obviously comfortable about it. And again
Speaker 3: it's become like a little mystery in the family because
Speaker 3: once so that the divorce papers were found and there
Speaker 3: was a bit of a discussion, not with my grandmother,
Speaker 3: but we think the immediate family, and that's the last
Speaker 3: time it's been brought up. Hasn't been brought up here.
Speaker 1: It's amazing. I think, you know, we're talking about sort
Speaker 1: of family secrets you found out, but there are I
Speaker 1: guess there are so many secrets that never ever get
Speaker 1: found out that all families have. Really Yeah, that's incredible, Jody.
Speaker 1: All right, Jodi, thank you very much for sharing that
Speaker 1: with us. No way, Well, Christian Connell's show podcast us email.
Speaker 1: I've just remembered him someone who doesn't want to come
Speaker 1: on here, but they found out their Italian grandfather who
Speaker 1: suddenly had to move to Australia was a hit man
Speaker 1: in the Matthew in Italy who came over there to
Speaker 1: height from the authorities.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 1: I'm now worried about what happens to when my parents
Speaker 1: passed away whenever. That is what I'm going to find out.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's exotic as that just probably be
Speaker 1: debts that have been bossed on to me. But that
Speaker 1: is incredible. All right, we're talking this morning about family
Speaker 1: secrets you found out after I found out when I
Speaker 1: was back in Britain a couple of weeks ago during
Speaker 1: the Easter break that my dad trained to be a
Speaker 1: priest for five months. Quit when you find out you
Speaker 1: can't have a girlfriend, which I thought everyone everyone knew.
Speaker 1: So family secrets? What did you find out? Nine four
Speaker 1: one four three John, Good morning, Good morning, Christian, John,
Speaker 1: what family secret did you find out?
Speaker 5: Well, Christian, I'm a man of fifty four years of
Speaker 5: ig I had my father insisted when I was a boy.
Speaker 5: He insisted that.
Speaker 2: I've become a charlesand supporter. Yeah, otherwise I was to
Speaker 2: sleep with the dog. When he died, I found a
Speaker 2: calling wood jumper and several teeth in his wardrobe.
Speaker 1: And a very old joke. Wow. Wait, that's a big
Speaker 1: family six. Do you think he was a closet fan then?
Speaker 2: Uh? Possibly?
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, John, we're gonna have to go now. It's quite
Speaker 1: a lot of gaps and we're trying to piece them
Speaker 1: together and have a conversation. John, We're gonna have to
Speaker 1: move on, But thank you for cool, Thank you question. Yeah,
Speaker 1: chat night, but we can with the show. But make
Speaker 1: a note of that he's not Sylarity.
Speaker 4: Roslyn, good morning.
Speaker 1: Yes, all right, this is control or reset the show,
Speaker 1: turn it on and off. We're back into it. Back
Speaker 1: of the room, seeing Rosalind, what was the family secret
Speaker 1: you found out?
Speaker 4: So my family secret was my father found out when
Speaker 4: he was nearly sixty that he was adopted.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, you hear about this happening, don't you.
Speaker 4: But it gets better that he had worked with his
Speaker 4: little sister, his half sister, for ten years and didn't
Speaker 4: know it was his sister.
Speaker 1: Wow. What do you mean work with them? What in
Speaker 1: the same office.
Speaker 4: Or he was a mechanic or doing refrigeration stuff. And
Speaker 4: the place that she worked at was an old age
Speaker 4: center and he used to go in there and fix
Speaker 4: the appliances. And they got on very well and.
Speaker 1: H not too wellwisey. Yes, well when they were going
Speaker 1: they got on very well.
Speaker 4: Yes, they became mates and then found out that it
Speaker 4: was his little sister.
Speaker 1: That is incredible. That is some story, isn't it, Roslyn.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and everyone in the family assumed that he knew
Speaker 4: that he was adopted.
Speaker 1: Wow, awesome. Thank you very much for sharing that with us. Rawson,
Speaker 1: have a good day, thank you, Okay, bye. That's incredible.
Speaker 1: Does everyone in the family, though, assume that he knows
Speaker 1: it's your job, as the parents and the other people
Speaker 1: in the family tell him. Families are odd. No one
Speaker 1: told you that. I'm sure we mentioned it listening, Kathy,
Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning, Kathy. What's your family secretly found out?
Speaker 6: Okay, my grandfather, when my dad and his siblings were little,
Speaker 6: went out to get the milk and didn't come home
Speaker 6: for eleven years, and nobody knows where he was.
Speaker 1: Well, the obviously sold out quite few of those milk
Speaker 1: biles and he just kept looking.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well he didn't even come back with the milk.
Speaker 3: Didn't work out well, did it?
Speaker 1: I think he found his milk, right, He just disappeared.
Speaker 6: For disappeared for eleven years, and nobody to this day
Speaker 6: knows where he went or what happened, or if he
Speaker 6: had another family. Nothing.
Speaker 1: If I just disappeared for an hour, my wife's at
Speaker 1: where have you been eleven years? I'm just going to
Speaker 1: walk in and go, oh is everyone, where have you been?
Speaker 1: In prison? An affair never came up in conversation. No,
Speaker 1: we just never got around to it. Kathy, this is extraordinary.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm sure there is a family out there somewhere,
Speaker 6: but nobody ever asked questions. We don't know whatever happened,
Speaker 6: It just got pushed under the carpet.
Speaker 1: Just turn up one day after eleven years. Pretty big
Speaker 1: baggage to sweep under the carpet. Wow, I can't stop
Speaker 1: thinking about this, Kathy, that's an incredible one. Thanks you cool,
Speaker 1: Thank you. Let's finally get Craig in. Craig welcome to
Speaker 1: the show.
Speaker 7: Thank you, Christian. How you doing.
Speaker 1: I'm good great. So the family secretly found out what
Speaker 1: was it?
Speaker 7: I was the family secret my friend so pretty much
Speaker 7: like I was adopted, and back in twenty sixteen got
Speaker 7: a mysterious letter from the government asking me to reach
Speaker 7: out with the government about so and so. Turned out
Speaker 7: my mother decided to reach out and try and connect
Speaker 7: with me, which I did, and pretty much found out
Speaker 7: that the reason that happened was like that wasn't mind
Speaker 7: our sister. They were talking about keeping secrets and stuff,
Speaker 7: and my mum opened up to her that she had
Speaker 7: a son. I'm forty seven this year, so obviously forty
Speaker 7: seven years ago that she had a son. And yeah,
Speaker 7: so we're all recently well six years ago now recently
Speaker 7: all connected again with each other. But we all lived
Speaker 7: in the same same city and stuff like that. She
Speaker 7: kind of worked in Malvern and she had an aunty
Speaker 7: who lived in Devin Meadows, which is kind of like
Speaker 7: the area I'm from, so we always were in the
Speaker 7: same vicinity, but it never knew.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and what was it like the first time you
Speaker 1: saw your your birth mother when you went to meet
Speaker 1: up for the first time, What was that like?
Speaker 5: It was?
Speaker 7: It was pretty amazing. Look, I guess for her it
Speaker 7: was kind of more emotionally. It's more emotional for her
Speaker 7: because obviously holding a secret for forty forty you know
Speaker 7: back then, well, I'm crapping mats with forty five. I
Speaker 7: guess it was more like, like I don't know how
Speaker 7: to more of a thing for her. Like to me,
Speaker 7: I was just like, because I don't always known my
Speaker 7: whole life and the guilt someone I guess could feel
Speaker 7: like forty odd years later coming out with a secret
Speaker 7: like that would be more of a shock to them.
Speaker 7: But like my sister has always supported her in that
Speaker 7: and like we like we're like now, like we've got
Speaker 7: an incredible relationship together. So it all worked out quite well. Yeah,
Speaker 7: Like you do hear some disaster stories, but this one
Speaker 7: turned out really well. Like I'm I'm still in contact
Speaker 7: with her now, mother's they coming up, obviously I might
Speaker 7: go down and play a visit there for that time.
Speaker 1: But yeah, and how did your adoptive parents feel about
Speaker 1: it all as well? It must have been hard for
Speaker 1: them as well, because there always know that moment might happen,
Speaker 1: might come along.
Speaker 7: They've always been encouraging, Like ever since I was little,
Speaker 7: that always I've always known and they were always encouraging.
Speaker 7: My adopted mother was always like, if you ever need
Speaker 7: any help finding finding your natural birth mother, that's we
Speaker 7: can go go ahead. Yeah, but I've always felt the
Speaker 7: support there. But yeah, pretty crazy.
Speaker 1: Oh awesome, great, thank you very much for trusting and
Speaker 1: sharing us with that one. It's amazing story.
Speaker 7: Thanks Risian.
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