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Speaker 2: Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell show podcast.

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Speaker 1: Talking us Small and then on The Christian O'Connell Show

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Speaker 1: about family secrets. She found out Jason at a family funeral.

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Speaker 1: My wife found out that her uncle worked for I Six.

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Speaker 1: For years, we always told he was an undercover cop.

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Speaker 1: All these secrets are amazing. This is an amazing one.

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Speaker 1: We found out after my mom passed away. She was

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Speaker 1: a codebreaker during the Second World War at Bletchley Park.

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Speaker 1: If you've all heard about what they did at Bletchie Plants,

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Speaker 1: incredible they cracked the codes. Never told a soul about it,

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Speaker 1: Not even my dad, her husband knew about it other

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Speaker 1: than that she worked during the war and it only

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Speaker 1: became released. It was then we found out about it

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Speaker 1: when the Official Secrets Act. A load of rare documents

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Speaker 1: came out as well backed it all up that she

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Speaker 1: was a senior codebreaker. Amazing. Yeah, Christian. When I was thirty,

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Speaker 1: I started getting messages on Facebook. I wonder how many

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Speaker 1: of you have found out about other family members through Facebook.

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Speaker 1: When I was thirty, started getting message on Facebook from

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Speaker 1: someone claiming to be my sister. Found out it was

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Speaker 1: completely true, Like Jack was saying earlier another family, this

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Speaker 1: is an amazing one. This feels like the plot to

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Speaker 1: a movie. In around nineteen thirty, my granddad died in

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Speaker 1: a trench he was digging out after being hit in

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Speaker 1: the head with a shovel accidentally by his best friend

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Speaker 1: at the time. The best friend went on to marry

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Speaker 1: and move in with my nan. Accident. Hey in quotation,

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Speaker 1: that's going on with that, Jody, Good morning money, Good

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Speaker 1: morning Jody. So a family secret you found out.

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Speaker 3: My mom grew up with a single mum. And this

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Speaker 3: is back in mum's eighty four, so a long time

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Speaker 3: ago where that probably wasn't the norm. And it was

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Speaker 3: only once we put my grandmother into age care and

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Speaker 3: she handed over her documents. She thought her father had

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Speaker 3: been dead that whole time, and when she handed over

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Speaker 3: her documents, mum found divorce papers. But mom loved her

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Speaker 3: her mum so much that she never investigated. So we

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Speaker 3: don't know if there's other family out there.

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Speaker 1: That's incredible. So her dad hadn't passed away, the divorced

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Speaker 1: and the mom tuld to just rub him out the picture.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So it was back in the Second World War,

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Speaker 3: so she thought he had died in the war.

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Speaker 1: I do understand also why your mom didn't want to

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Speaker 1: say anything, especially when your mum's in a care home

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Speaker 1: as well. You just don't want to. You just don't

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Speaker 1: want to bring up all all that pain and shame.

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Speaker 1: I guess around it all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, very well, very well. Could have been that,

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Speaker 3: you know, the stigma of divorce at that time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so amazing.

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Speaker 3: That's our little mystery that's still to this day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And have you thought about looking into any more yourself.

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Speaker 3: Jody, I certainly have, but I'm a bit like my mum.

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Speaker 3: I suppose I'm respecting her wishes. She like it's her father,

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Speaker 3: and she hasn't wanted to investigate, so I've left it alone.

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Speaker 1: Have you done any of those, you know, the genealogy

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Speaker 1: stuff like the DNA testing and the ancestry.

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Speaker 3: No, we haven't, we haven't. I sort of think it's

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Speaker 3: mum's story. And if mum wanted to find out, you know,

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Speaker 3: I would certainly support her in that and do whatever

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Speaker 3: it's become like a little mystery in the family because

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Speaker 3: once so that the divorce papers were found and there

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Speaker 3: was a bit of a discussion, not with my grandmother,

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Speaker 3: time it's been brought up. Hasn't been brought up here.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing. I think, you know, we're talking about sort

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Speaker 1: of family secrets you found out, but there are I

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Speaker 1: guess there are so many secrets that never ever get

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Speaker 1: found out that all families have. Really Yeah, that's incredible, Jody.

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Speaker 1: All right, Jodi, thank you very much for sharing that

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Speaker 1: with us. No way, Well, Christian Connell's show podcast us email.

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Speaker 1: I've just remembered him someone who doesn't want to come

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Speaker 1: on here, but they found out their Italian grandfather who

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Speaker 1: suddenly had to move to Australia was a hit man

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I'm now worried about what happens to when my parents

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Speaker 1: passed away whenever. That is what I'm going to find out.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's exotic as that just probably be

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Speaker 1: is incredible. All right, we're talking this morning about family

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Speaker 1: secrets you found out after I found out when I

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Speaker 1: priest for five months. Quit when you find out you

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Speaker 1: So family secrets? What did you find out? Nine four

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Speaker 1: one four three John, Good morning, Good morning, Christian, John,

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Speaker 1: what family secret did you find out?

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Speaker 5: Well, Christian, I'm a man of fifty four years of

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Speaker 5: ig I had my father insisted when I was a boy.

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Speaker 2: I've become a charlesand supporter. Yeah, otherwise I was to

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Speaker 2: sleep with the dog. When he died, I found a

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Speaker 2: calling wood jumper and several teeth in his wardrobe.

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Speaker 1: And a very old joke. Wow. Wait, that's a big

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Speaker 1: family six. Do you think he was a closet fan then?

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Speaker 1: Okay, John, we're gonna have to go now. It's quite

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Speaker 1: a lot of gaps and we're trying to piece them

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Speaker 1: move on, But thank you for cool, Thank you question. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: chat night, but we can with the show. But make

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Speaker 1: a note of that he's not Sylarity.

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Speaker 4: Roslyn, good morning.

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Speaker 1: Yes, all right, this is control or reset the show,

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Speaker 1: turn it on and off. We're back into it. Back

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Speaker 1: of the room, seeing Rosalind, what was the family secret

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Speaker 1: you found out?

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Speaker 4: So my family secret was my father found out when

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Speaker 4: he was nearly sixty that he was adopted.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, you hear about this happening, don't you.

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Speaker 4: But it gets better that he had worked with his

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Speaker 1: Wow. What do you mean work with them? What in

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Speaker 4: Or he was a mechanic or doing refrigeration stuff. And

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Speaker 4: the place that she worked at was an old age

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Speaker 1: H not too wellwisey. Yes, well when they were going

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Speaker 4: Yes, they became mates and then found out that it

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Speaker 1: That is incredible. That is some story, isn't it, Roslyn.

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Speaker 1: Does everyone in the family, though, assume that he knows

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning, Kathy. What's your family secretly found out?

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Speaker 6: Okay, my grandfather, when my dad and his siblings were little,

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Speaker 6: went out to get the milk and didn't come home

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Speaker 6: for eleven years, and nobody knows where he was.

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Speaker 1: Well, the obviously sold out quite few of those milk

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well he didn't even come back with the milk.

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Speaker 3: Didn't work out well, did it?

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Speaker 1: I think he found his milk, right, He just disappeared.

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Speaker 6: For disappeared for eleven years, and nobody to this day

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Speaker 1: If I just disappeared for an hour, my wife's at

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Speaker 1: where have you been eleven years? I'm just going to

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Speaker 1: walk in and go, oh is everyone, where have you been?

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Speaker 1: In prison? An affair never came up in conversation. No,

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Speaker 1: we just never got around to it. Kathy, this is extraordinary.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm sure there is a family out there somewhere,

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Speaker 1: Just turn up one day after eleven years. Pretty big

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Speaker 1: thinking about this, Kathy, that's an incredible one. Thanks you cool,

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Let's finally get Craig in. Craig welcome to

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Speaker 7: Thank you, Christian. How you doing.

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Speaker 1: I'm good great. So the family secretly found out what

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Speaker 7: I was the family secret my friend so pretty much

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Speaker 5: It was?

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Speaker 7: It was pretty amazing. Look, I guess for her it

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Speaker 7: guess it was more like, like I don't know how

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Speaker 7: I was just like, because I don't always known my

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Speaker 7: like forty odd years later coming out with a secret

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Speaker 7: like that would be more of a shock to them.

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Speaker 7: But like my sister has always supported her in that

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Speaker 7: an incredible relationship together. So it all worked out quite well. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: Like you do hear some disaster stories, but this one

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Speaker 7: go down and play a visit there for that time.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, and how did your adoptive parents feel about

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Speaker 1: it all as well? It must have been hard for

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Speaker 1: them as well, because there always know that moment might happen,

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Speaker 7: They've always been encouraging, Like ever since I was little,

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Speaker 7: that always I've always known and they were always encouraging.

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Speaker 7: My adopted mother was always like, if you ever need

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Speaker 7: any help finding finding your natural birth mother, that's we

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Speaker 7: can go go ahead. Yeah, but I've always felt the

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Speaker 7: support there. But yeah, pretty crazy.

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Speaker 1: Oh awesome, great, thank you very much for trusting and

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Speaker 1: sharing us with that one. It's amazing story.

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Speaker 7: Thanks Risian.

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