WEBVTT - LIFE UNCUT RADO - 2nd April 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.080 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:42.760 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.040 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and this is our saucy 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:49.320 little Saturday edition of our radio show, which goes out 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:53.200 across the country every single Saturday between ten and midday. 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:58.440 It's a tight little package, though package. That's what he said. 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:01.960 Wow, that's super bogan really quick. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:02.880 Sorry about that, guys. 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:04.760 No, guys, we do have a really great episode. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:07.880 We are speaking to Elading from Married at First Sight 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:11.240 and Gavin Rubinstein from Lux Listings. We've got a really 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:12.440 solid episode today. 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:14.760 Yeah, if you guys, I mean I have been obsessed 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:16.960 with Lux Listings. I loved the first season. It's so 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:19.640 veryaristic and like I asked him how much money he makes? 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:21.360 He kind of answered it in a roundabout way, but 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.040 we figured it out. It's about one point three million 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:24.880 for an eighty million dollar house. Oh no, but that 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.080 is just what he makes from one. He's selling me 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:30.240 all the time, the guy two percent of sales. Guys, 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:31.720 that's what he makes. Let's cut to the chase. 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:32.320 I love it. 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:34.400 Also, he was like, I don't give out an information, 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:36.040 but I'll give you all the information. You need to 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:37.560 put it together to find out yourself. 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:37.880 Yeah. 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:39.479 So if you can do maths, you can figure out 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:42.080 how much money the man makes. But also we are 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:45.240 talking about, as you guys know, I went on holidays 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:48.920 this week and I had a very interesting little run 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:51.400 in with Matt a debate, mind you, about the things 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:53.760 that you should or shouldn't take from a hotel. And 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.440 it seems like some people are very confused about the situation. 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.440 And I think it's pretty fucking clear. For me, it's like, 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.680 you don't you just don't. Don't take anything in a hotel. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.600 The only thing I've ever taken from a hoteler a 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:08.200 couple of hearts, shampoo and conditioner. Oh my god, sorry, Okay, 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.839 look it's been long, Dame and Joke's and it's a terrible. 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.560 Okay, shampoo, conditioner and some hearts, But that's it. But no, guys, 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.519 it's a great episode. We hope you enjoy. I like 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.839 to take the sewing kid. Let me try that again, Laura. 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:23.000 It's a great epfact. Let's get into it now. Let's 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.640 get into it then cut Radio show. 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:31.520 With and Laura Burn Luck's Listing Season two is out 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:34.640 now Amazon Prime Video. It's sensational all about the crazy 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.280 real estate market in Sydney and the star of the show, 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.400 one of the bigger hitters, Gavin Rubinstein, is here with 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:39.720 this now. 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:42.560 Holo mate, Hello guys, thanks for having me. Appreciate that. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:43.400 Gavin. 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.320 Nice to hear from you. It was nice to see you. 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:47.639 Obviously, I saw you at the premiere a few nights ago, 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.480 and what a premiere it will be there, Yeah, I 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:54.080 mean like, I'm actually in the market for some housing, 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:56.280 so it's been helping me out look for some stuff. 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:58.200 Sure, we're going to find something soon. 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:00.000 I don't even think. 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.240 Think Gavin would look sideways at the sort of apartment 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:03.440 you might be looking at, Brett. 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.600 What's she after? What are some stipulations that Briot's given you? 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:11.360 Look, if I were to de her budget against confidentiality, 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.400 so I'll leave that to her. She wants to know 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.000 explain that. But I mean, look, I'll sell anything, doesn't 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:17.440 matter how it'small or big, you know what I mean, 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:18.679 It all goes into the same part. 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:22.320 So oh stop, and I think that that's that's you 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:24.239 being nice. I've seen the houses that you sell on 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:26.519 LUTs listings. What is the cheapest house you would sell 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:27.080 these days? 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.240 No joke? Three go, I did a deal for nine 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.639 hundred and eighteen thousand dollars with my associate Matthew Kemeny 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:34.200 was a good one. 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:34.800 There. 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:38.920 Go, what is the most expensive house you have sold today? Gavin? 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:41.800 I had an offer on something about two weeks ago 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:46.440 for twenty seven million. So we do all kind of 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:47.280 ends of the spectrum. 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:50.000 Yeah, so pocket money, isn't it? Oh stop? 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.880 It depends that you're asking not for me, but for 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:54.960 some of the people that you know, I come across 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:57.640 and I'm fortunate enough to be present in this marketplace here. 0:03:57.680 --> 0:03:59.400 For them, it's there was an investment. 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:01.280 So how did you go doing season one? 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:04.040 Because obviously it would have been a new experience, being 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:07.240 quite exposing, putting your business out there and showing the 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:10.160 kinds of the kinds of houses which are some of 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.840 these houses in season one were absolutely astronomical. But how 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:16.719 did it go filming season two? And what can we expect? 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.080 Yeah, So I mean, look, first off, the properties in 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:23.680 season two, in my opinion or another level versus season one. 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:27.040 So I think people who appreciate and are inspired by 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:31.240 properties are going to get super excited with the sort 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.920 of properties that we are featuring. I mean, it's kind 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:35.720 of like anything, you know. Season one. I was a 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.440 little bit wary of letting these new people into my 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:41.479 life because I wanted to see the effect it would 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:44.040 have on first and foremost my business and my brand, 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:47.960 you know. Having the feedback that we did from that experience, 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.120 I was kind of bull curtains open for season two 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.040 and now season three, which has been announced and filmed 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:54.800 and haven't looked back since it's been a ball. 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:55.760 Well, look at you go. 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.240 I have a question that got nothing to do with houses. 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.800 First of all, are you single, Gavin? Oh? 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:04.200 For me, No, I'm not. 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.480 Are you single? At I'm not? 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:10.600 Actually, this is this breaking news. 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:13.440 It's a new thing for me for like the last 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:15.760 I would say, a couple of months. It's a new 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.760 experience for me, and it's so far, so good. But 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:20.560 you know, like, we'll see where it goes. I'm a 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.240 young pup. I'm only thirty four, you know, Yeah, that makes. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:24.720 Me feel better. I'm thirty four too, I'm a young pup. 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:24.920 Two. 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.000 But since going on the show, so from you know, 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.240 let's just call it pre Lux Listings life before Lucks Listenings. 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:33.040 Was there a big change in the attention you got 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.440 from females? 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:35.599 Was it easy for you to pick up? 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:37.880 Were people noticing you, were they recognizing you? Or was 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:40.080 it only until it has it taken a little while 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:41.840 for the show to really kick off and for you 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.960 to get a lot more female attention? 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:47.600 Basically have you got absolutely? 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:51.880 Absolutely? It was a freaking game changer and I need 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:53.200 to get me a show. 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:54.480 You have to do it. 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.080 And nationally speaking too, Like I mean, in December I 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.480 went around to a few places around Australia just for 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:01.760 a bit of a break. I mean, it was beyond 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:03.920 my expectations in terms of the sort of pool it had. 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.760 So oh no, it was fun. That was fun, you know, 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:08.679 and it is it has been fun today. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:12.120 From houses to Pickupskevin, I have a very personal question 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.560 for you. Commission do you make on the houses that 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:16.040 you sell? 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:20.040 Well, you know, it always depends on the deal, the client, 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:23.480 the sort of house, but it really varies anywhere between 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:25.840 my fees being one point sixty five percent to two 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:29.919 percent plus GST. So I mean, for example, a building 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.280 set out I've got right now in Point Piper will 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:35.080 value somewhere between seventy five and eighty million. It's act 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:37.800 to thirty million of those in just two apartments last week. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:39.720 So can you do the maths for us for that 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.880 n because I never like to talk specifically about you know, that. 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.480 Sort of things better out now, all right, let's. 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.960 I can tell you this for a kid who failed 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.040 school and didn't go to university when his mum was 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.320 crying in year twelve about what he was going to 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.320 look like, it's I'm on track to do okay, but 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:58.400 I got a long way to go there. 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:00.960 A superstar Buddy Luves Listings and two is available now 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.279 Amazon Prime Video. It's a brilliant series. 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:05.120 We love it here, Gavin, just that we've got to 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.080 run but can do just let me know offair if 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:09.080 I if I get the house that we're betting on 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:10.000 for fifty mill next week. 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:10.240 Thanks. 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:13.440 I appreciate your time, guys, Thank you so much. 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:16.960 Thanks Gavin, talking buddy, Gavin, p you in twenty two 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:19.000 your Saturday Morning Last. 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:21.760 Hockley and Laura Ben. 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.040 Right now, Laura, you stole something this week. 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.920 That's what I've got written there, Laura Burn, that's what 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:28.440 you have written. 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:30.680 It's got Laura committed crime this week. That's all I'm saying. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:32.720 Laura's going to jail. Yeah, okay, well it's been fun. 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:34.560 I can't wait. The police are just standing outside the 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:37.520 bill here. No, I didn't steal anything. 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:39.320 But I want to ask you, guys, Mitch, you look 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:41.720 like the sort of person who would take your toilet 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.440 trees from a hotel. Are you someone who likes when 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:46.160 you go and stay a hotel? Do you like take 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:47.120 all the freebies with you? 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.280 Yeah? Said I had a wedding this past weekend and 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:53.320 I stole a bathrobe like a dressing gown. Okay, oh, 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:55.040 from an overtown. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.720 Kid day is very different to like the little moisturized 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:58.800 and stuff they put on the scene. 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.280 No, it's as far as I'm concerned, those things are freebies. 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:03.040 You pay for the room and you take them home. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.320 I am so glad you said this, because that is 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:07.920 exactly where my story was going. So I walked in 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:11.600 on Matthew Johnson, my beloved partner, and we had to 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.640 get We had to pack in a real frenzy because 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.040 when we had to leave it was like we were 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:17.120 up in Byron when the storm's hit and everything, and 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:19.000 we were trying to get out of there so where. 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:21.320 And Matt is not a good packer at the best 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.320 of times. He is the sort of person there's two 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:24.920 people in the world. There's people who fold and there's 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.560 people who shoved, to shove everything into a suitcase, and 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:28.040 he's a shover. 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:29.880 I don't say we talked about toilet paper scrunching. 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.120 I following exactly. 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:32.480 I think you'd also be a scruncher. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.959 Anyway, walk in and he's there in the in the 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.400 bedroom and he's shoving the kids close in. But whilst 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.440 he's shoving the kids close in, he's also shoving a bathrobe. 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:41.360 And we stay. 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:44.520 We stayed at Elements, we stayed at this beautiful hotel 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:48.200 en Byron, and he's shoving a bathrobe into the suitcase 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:51.040 and I was like, Matt, what are you doing And 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.400 he's like, oh, I'm taking the bathrobe like it was casual. 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:55.920 And I was like, you can't They're not free. And 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.400 then we had a full debate around what isn't isn't 0:08:58.440 --> 0:08:59.120 free in a hotel? 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:00.679 Yeah, I did the exact same thing with my partner. 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:05.079 He was very mad, way like nothing is free. Wrong, 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.920 you paying a premium, you. 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:11.880 Don't take the bedding, you don't like a duvet, Do 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:15.280 not bundle me into the same like absolute outrageousness as 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:16.600 Mitch Chrury and Matthew Johnson. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.839 I don't think that you can take a bathrobe. I 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:20.719 was like, I was shocked in appalled, and I was like, 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:22.800 Matt put the bath robe back, and he's like, what 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:23.480 about slippers? 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:26.000 The slippers are surely freaks And I was like, actually, 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.559 I was like, fan point, I think the slippers are free. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:30.280 It's like, what about the lamp over here in the corner, 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.000 because it's a really nice lamp. I think the lamp 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.439 wouldn't be free? Because okay, but do you know what 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:35.240 what happened? 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:37.920 So we got more into this conversation and we decided 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:39.679 to start debating over the things that you can and 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:42.880 can't take. When I first started dating Matt, like fresh 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:45.480 off the Bachelor, and I went to his like bachelor pad, 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:49.960 he used to have really lovely towels. They were all mismatched, 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:51.520 but they were really lovely towels. 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:53.040 He's a thief. 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:56.480 Yes, After I've steing together for five years, I've just 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.400 found out that all the towels that he used to 0:09:58.480 --> 0:09:59.920 own were stolen from hotel. 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:03.040 Do you know what last time you guys came for dinner, 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:06.520 I had some towels missing from my house. He used 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:08.760 the bathroom and now they're gone, And now I know 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:11.400 exactly where they now walks out with a big tote 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:13.280 bag and it's just full of Bernie Hockley's towns and 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:14.800 also a bathroom that's gold. 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.199 I think it's fine. You don't we want to take you? 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.000 Call thirteen one oh six five? What have you taken 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:20.760 from a hotel? Give us a call. Let's see what 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:22.679 Neve thinks. I'm thirteen one oh six five, Neve, what 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.120 have you taken from a hotel? 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.080 Hi to a bathroom? Two very nice bathrooms? 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:30.360 See why is everyone taking bathrooms? Also? Did you get 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:31.880 a call? Did they ask you to pay for it? 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:32.640 Yeah? 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.080 So I was staying at BMB a couple of years ago, 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:36.839 and we had a really craft mutch who were in 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:38.599 a really like screw the world mood. That's why we 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.000 sholder in the first place. And we were less probably 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.360 five minutes to walk away from the BnB and they 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:45.559 give me a call asking. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:46.040 Where they were. 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:48.520 Oh, I was like, oh, I played them. I was like, oh, 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.160 there was never any in our room left. 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.000 No, So not only did you steal them, you knew 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:53.640 you store. 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:57.400 Them and you line yeah, yeah, we still have it 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.280 and they probably looks so dodgy because they barely fit 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:01.040 in our bags anyway, only packed for one night with 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:03.520 the tinest backpacks over. But yeah, don't date. 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:05.840 You get reading on air and b so don't they 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:07.680 just put a rating down on your profile that says 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.520 she's a deep let her stay Stephen Lyle and a. 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:12.679 Criminal records that in breakfast, not an Airbnb. 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:15.120 So that before that, that's the thing you've got to 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:17.160 You've got to plan your play, guys. You got to 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:19.959 take from the big guns like the Overtales don't take 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.840 and the Hiltons. Yeah, you don't take from a mum 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:26.120 and half mbmb on the hill, you know in Scottish 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:29.480 Scottish exactly if we haven't had customers in thirty years, 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:34.280 great steal take you. You've got our first customers in decades. El, 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.319 I'm thirteen one o sixty five. Hello, what did you 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:37.240 steal from a hotel? 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:41.400 It actually wasn't me. I went to like work retreat 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.520 thing with a colleague and she'd never really been to 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:47.920 hotels before, and I was like, you know, I'm gonna duck. 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:48.360 Upstairs and. 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:53.959 I don't even know motels maybe, but yeah. I was like, 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:55.800 I'm going to go and get a few free things 0:11:55.800 --> 0:11:57.640 from the room before I packed my bag and she 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.720 was like, yeah, me too. And we came down after 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:01.400 that that I did you get the shampoo and Cadi 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.280 sha And she's like yeah, and I got the scales 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:03.960 and the kettle. 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.520 You said in a client shop, I'm going to go 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:12.520 take a few three things. I took a toaster. Did 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:14.480 she just like shove this all in her suitcase? What 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.520 did you say to her trailer you have to give 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:18.000 it back? 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.280 Well, she was like, oh, it's like one hundred and 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:21.959 eighty bucks a night. But the room surely they just 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:23.440 get a new toaster every time. 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.560 No, that's too far. 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.040 Yeah, toasted on hundreds of dollars. You guys, you're all crampy. 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:30.920 I draw the line at White Goods to be honest. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:34.080 Any electrics? All right, Rose, wrapping this up for us? 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:35.440 What have you taken from a hotel? 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:37.800 Well, actually it wasn't me. 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:40.599 It was my five year old sister. We're on a 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:44.959 holiday in Queensland and she stole the Bible from the 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:47.040 top drawers. 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.800 Yeah, she's light reading. 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:55.560 And our parents are super religious, so they all had 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:56.720 to send it back to the hotel. 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:58.079 They couldn't live with having it. 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:01.839 But all they the irony of stealing a Bible. But 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:03.480 did she not have her own bible? 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:03.679 Then? 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:06.400 Well, expects it. 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:07.760 Maybe she's just I don't know that. 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:11.559 The red ones in those top drawers, they are appealing. 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:13.440 Do you know what we did as a kid? Picture? 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:16.559 You've just sparked a memory. We once wrote naughty things 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:17.960 inside a Bible at the hotel. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:22.480 That explains your whole life? Please ex sins. 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:23.840 All suddenly makes sense. 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:29.520 Ask Asking Patty is a segment that we do. 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.600 What's not a segment, it's an entire whole episode episode 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:36.000 we do every single Thursday. You guys writing your questions, deepest, 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:38.720 darkest burning questions, and we do our best to answer them. 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:42.080 So I have one for you today, ladies. I need 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.319 your opinion, ladies and Mitch, I need your opinions. I 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:47.679 have a friend that is really flaking. Even if I 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:50.440 book things quite far in advance, she tends to bail 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.880 at the last minute more than half the time. One time, 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:56.120 I was actually at the cafe that we were meeting 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:59.280 at to grab coffee when she texted me with some excuse. 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:02.040 Sometimes she has a fair reason. Other times I think 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.560 it's a total cop out. She's like this without other 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:07.720 mutual friends too, so I don't think it's necessarily personal. 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:10.800 I guess I'm asking if you have plans with somebody 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.240 and they cancel on you, but they had a legitimate 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:15.080 reason for canceling, do they. 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:17.520 Still owe you? And what can I say to her 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:19.800 if she continues canceling on me. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.640 Oh, this is a hard one because a part of 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:26.440 me is like, what's her legitimate reason? Her kids in 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:28.480 hospital and she had to go because like, no, then 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:32.240 obviously you can't hold it against her. I do think 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:35.120 that like, depending on where she's at in her life, 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:37.840 there can be an amount of grace, Like maybe she 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:41.120 is a new mum and she's struggling with the chaos 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:43.000 that is this transition in life. 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:43.840 Maybe she's not. 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:46.080 Maybe she's just in her twenties and she can't be 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.040 bothered and doesn't care about your time. I think that 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:51.360 the circumstances are very important to take into account here. 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.080 But nobody wants to have a friend or be, you know, 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.200 have a close relationship where they feel like they're not 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.080 being respected, and at the end of the day, there 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:00.240 is a huge lack of respect when you can't can't 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.640 organize things, or you can't trust that your friends are 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:03.840 going to show up when you need them. 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.680 I mean, I'm going to make an assumption here just 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:08.360 when the way it's written she doesn't have kids. I 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:10.480 think this is just two friends hanging out their twenties 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:10.880 or thirties. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:12.400 I feel like she would have said she would have 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:12.920 said it's a. 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:14.840 Pretty important piece of information, and I don't think you'd 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:16.880 be holding it against her if she did have little kids. 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.120 But if I have a friend that is perpetually canceling 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:23.560 on me when I'm the one making the plans, I 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:25.520 would just stop making the plans. I don't think you 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.320 need to have a full sit down intervention with her. 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.600 Just stop putting in the effort. If you're not getting. 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.880 Anything back from a relationship. And ask yourself, are you 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:34.200 getting anything back from this relationship? Are you getting anything 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.080 other than anguish and wasted time? 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:36.520 And money? 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:40.360 Time is a very very valuable commodity. And if you 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:43.440 have already you've traveled to the cafe, you've been sitting 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.080 there for however long you've you've already lost hours because 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:47.760 you could have been doing other work in that time. 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.360 Nothing worse than being stood up, let alone by a friend. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:52.800 For me, that is so annoying. So I would just 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:54.080 just stop planning. 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:56.080 I guess the only thing that maybe not that I 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:58.880 don't agree with you, but I think you could try, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.360 is like, instead of saying don't, sort of form an intervention. 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:03.920 I don't think you need to have a sit down, 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:05.480 but you can talk to your friend. Like your friend's 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.520 doing something that's upsetting you, you can obviously tell them, 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:10.680 you know. I feel like every time we plan something 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:12.720 that you cancel on me and it makes me feel 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:13.120 like this. 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:14.800 That's if you can tie it down, if you can 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.320 even get it to show up, I just avoid it. 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:21.240 I think you can have a conversation about it, But yeah, 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.480 I think you have to do something otherwise you're going 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:24.720 to become super resentful. 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.160 And then that's going to be I'd like back. 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:29.200