1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,920 Speaker 1: Christian Christian O'Connell's show podcast, my book No one listens 2 00:00:06,920 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: to your Dad's Show, which is out today. It's out today, 3 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: but we obviously aren't out today, So like the radio show, 4 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: let the book come to you. And I don't know, 5 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 1: I don't who knows whether we're going to be coming 6 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: out this the weekend or a wee bit longer. But 7 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: thank you very much to everyone has been buying the 8 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 1: book as well and pre ordering it as well. You 9 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 1: will get it this week. Thank you also as well. 10 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: My book is out today and I'm really proud of it. Actually, 11 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 1: I've put my heart and soul into the book, and 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,599 Speaker 1: it's about the it's about the move here, but it's 13 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: also about something else, which is what I want to 14 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: talk about this morning. Jack and Pats know about this, 15 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: and they've known for a bit of time as well. 16 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: But one thing I want to talk about when I 17 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: told my story was I want to tell the real 18 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 1: reason of why I moved here. And I've never really 19 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: talked about it before for a reason because I felt 20 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: ashamed of it. And sometimes when we have something tough 21 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: in our life, we feel we feel shame, and it 22 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: keeps you in a very small place. It makes you 23 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:02,319 Speaker 1: feel prayed only as well. And five years ago, five 24 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: or six years ago, and my life was in a 25 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: very different place. I had terrible anxiety attacks and I 26 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: couldn't do the one thing that I've always loved in 27 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: my life, which is this radio. And for an awful period, 28 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: I wasn't I was having any terrible anxiety tacks as 29 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: I was walking into the radio station and I had 30 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: to go home, and my wife, as always, was a 31 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: great support and she said, it's always a defining moment 32 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: your relationship when she said, I think you need to 33 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: go and get help. And I did, and it was 34 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: the best thing I've ever done for myself. And even 35 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,199 Speaker 1: though it was a very very tough time in my life. 36 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: And I also want to assure you that this book, 37 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 1: I haven't just written this for three hundred and thirty 38 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: two pages. It isn't it's like some Angela's ashes misery fest. 39 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,919 Speaker 1: It's part of my story. It isn't the whole story. 40 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: And even though that happened in my life, I actually 41 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: grew through it. I learned some stuff. I learned some 42 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: new things about what to do and if it can 43 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: how one person, And right now in the world. There 44 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: is a lot of people suff anxiety. It's not unique 45 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: to me. It comes in various forms. This just happened 46 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: to be mine. The amazing thing is and this could 47 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: be you as well. If you're in it right now, 48 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: you've been in it before and you might be in 49 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: it again, is you can get through it. And I 50 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: also from not being able to do a radio show, 51 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:09,360 Speaker 1: I had a kind of Once I got better and 52 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: was able to get back to the thing I love 53 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 1: in my life, which is radio, I was able then 54 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: to make some changes in my life. And if I 55 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 1: could give one bit of advice to anyone who if 56 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: you ever go through this is the mistake I made 57 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: that made it harder was I looked the other way. 58 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: And sometimes we do that in tough times, don't we. We 59 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: sort of were hard wired these days to be risk 60 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: and pain averse, and we look the other way, and 61 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: we look in the other way from us. And actually, 62 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: what my big thing was looking the other way and 63 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: looking towards what was actually going on to me. And 64 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: I can say this now that actually the anxiety attacks 65 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 1: were that were the best thing that ever happened to 66 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: my life. Without them, I wouldn't have come to Australia. 67 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: Please don't think you need to respond to any kind 68 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: of anxiety life by moving on the other side of 69 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: the world. That's a very extreme overcorrection, all right. The 70 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: book isn't saying the only way you can say anxiety 71 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: is to move to a different hemisphere. If you can 72 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: point on the map that it's further away than further 73 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: away from where you are right now, throw a dart 74 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: at the glow and go there, you know, And that's 75 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: why Tony Robbins awakened the giant within. Don't do it. 76 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. However, the story isn't 77 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,519 Speaker 1: about that. It's part of my life. It'll probably be 78 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 1: bubbling around for a while, but it isn't all of me, 79 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 1: and it doesn't define who I am. I've stormashed to 80 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: have an amazing life and I've got to come to 81 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: Australia with my wife and kids. So some of you 82 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: might have seen the article that was in the Herald 83 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: Sun and Sunday about all this, and so the real 84 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: reason why I put it in the book is because 85 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: my kids have You know, if you've got teenagers, they're 86 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: going to go through tough times and I found myself 87 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: saying this a lot. Oh, you know, it's very human 88 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: to struggle. You've got nothing to feel ashamed about. One 89 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: of them said to me, it's all right for you, 90 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: what do you know? And I thought, well, I am ashamed. 91 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: I'm not living to what I want them to aspire 92 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: to do. So I put it in there. It's a 93 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: bit the start of the book. Perhaps you're reading the book. 94 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: It's not all the book in there. I already helps it. 95 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: I put my heart ins on the book. It is 96 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: funny because it's been amazing. You're in this book as well. Jack, 97 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: Actually lots of the callers to this show, some of 98 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: the hate mail, and then the people that have really 99 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: made a difference in our life, like Peter Logan, you're 100 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 1: in there as well. It isn't just my story. It's 101 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: a story of if this show exists. Because you listen 102 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: to it and you support it with all your phone 103 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: calls that you do in your emails and you misheardly, 104 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: it sures you are as much part of this show 105 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,719 Speaker 1: as me, Jack and Pats, and I love that. I 106 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: hope that we're building something new in front of your 107 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: ears and eyes and your hearts. Sometimes as well, and 108 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 1: I've always wanted to make this show. When I moved here, 109 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: I wanted it to be a place where I guess 110 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: I just after going through that it was so hard. 111 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: I always wanted to make a radio show where there 112 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: was didn't you wan't feeling like that, they didn't need 113 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: to fit alone. I want to maybe hopefully I'll get 114 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 1: through some minute. Guys, don't worry. Thanks for Karin. Jack 115 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: actually actually thought he's gone in is Tesla Tesla. There 116 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: are big emotions right now. This was not in the 117 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 1: running order come and get me, but now I always 118 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: want I want it. I want to forget you a 119 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: hand ten minutes ton me. I'm struggling out and weeping 120 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: in my own house Jack, and that's not enough for him. No, 121 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 1: I want this show to be someone we can talk 122 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: about all of life, the silly things we do, and 123 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:28,720 Speaker 1: the other you know, the other emotions as well. I 124 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: want to bring it all to this, to this radio show, 125 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: and I hope we're doing that. So anyway, probably the 126 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 1: strangers plugged a book you're ever probably not going to read. 127 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: But what I was trying to say was man of life, 128 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: from years of not saying anything to getting the emails 129 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: from you guys has just been overwhelming, so thank you. 130 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: I took a break and I'll be back christ you know. 131 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: Connel Show podcast