WEBVTT - G’s hotline ☎️ In conclusion: just get a vibrator

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<v Speaker 1>The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of

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<v Speaker 1>and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the podcast for ordinary.

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<v Speaker 1>People who want to do extraordinary things. If your love

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<v Speaker 1>language is touched, you need to know how to like

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<v Speaker 1>sort that out, yes, because you can't always you know, rely,

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<v Speaker 1>I just think that's on the od vibrator.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conker Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It is your host, Georgie Stephenson and guys, I'm back

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<v Speaker 1>with another Geez hotline. These other episodes where you send

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<v Speaker 1>in your life dilemmas and I provide you with my

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<v Speaker 1>very young qualified two cents on the situation, and of

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<v Speaker 1>course a tea is joining us. So guys, disclaimer, this

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<v Speaker 1>episode is so chaotic. We went completely rogue.

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<v Speaker 2>It's more than last time.

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<v Speaker 1>We say this every time and then we just keep

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<v Speaker 1>topping it and it's a bit spicy. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel about it, to be honest, I spoke

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<v Speaker 1>to a Tea and Ellie and I'm like, do we

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<v Speaker 1>just cut it chunk out? Yeah, it's a bit of appropriate,

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<v Speaker 1>But as I say in it, we are grown ass

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<v Speaker 1>women a TIA and we can talk about these things.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't get me wrong, I will talk about these things

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<v Speaker 1>all day, every.

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<v Speaker 2>Day with you know friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I guess I'm just conscious because we do get

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<v Speaker 1>a bit spicy. We talk about sex life and when

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<v Speaker 1>I lost my virginity, and like, I don't mean to

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<v Speaker 1>be a prude because I'm really not in person. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I remember that thousands of people listen to this,

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<v Speaker 1>and I also don't know who listens to this, and

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<v Speaker 1>I also know my mom and family members listen to this.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna have to send my mum a message

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<v Speaker 1>and just be like, look, dead's not the yep for you,

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<v Speaker 1>not at all, not at all, but also happy to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it because.

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<v Speaker 2>We are grown ass women ATIA.

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<v Speaker 1>We are we are, So I'm sorry if we get

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<v Speaker 1>a bit ooh, this is so inappropriate, But I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit embarrassed, But definitely listen to this one

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<v Speaker 1>with earphones and if you're in a public place. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a great recommendation. A tea recommendation for the week.

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<v Speaker 1>Mine is to Actually I've been doing it bit by

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<v Speaker 1>bit every day. I don't I try not to spend

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<v Speaker 1>too much time on it. But cleanse your Instagram following.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yes, I love a good cleanse. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>I actually saw someone post that they went and unfollowed

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<v Speaker 2>anyone who they followed that followed Andrew Tate.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah love and we love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we hate Andrew, we do.

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<v Speaker 1>We could do a whole episode of that. Let us

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<v Speaker 1>know if you want that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it's like, how would you find that out?

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<v Speaker 2>You just click on his profile and you can. It'll

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<v Speaker 2>show you who follows him that you follow Oh my god. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I saw a few people's names and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>that doesn't seem right. So I actually DM them and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh, why you following? I love you so much?

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<v Speaker 2>You should unfollow him? And they're like because it was

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<v Speaker 2>guys and yeah no, and they said, no, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>believe any of it. It's just funny to watch because

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<v Speaker 2>he's so crazy, and I'm like don't just don't give

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<v Speaker 2>him that attention.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's an excuse. I do not accept that. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you then go on and follow those people? Well, they

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<v Speaker 1>unfollowed him. I've read them oh good, oh good, or good?

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I am followed everyone I followed that followed him,

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<v Speaker 2>And then it just got me thinking like, hey, let

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<v Speaker 2>me cleanse it. And Instagram actually shows you in your

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<v Speaker 2>following section. Now you're least interacting. So that's where I went,

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<v Speaker 2>and I just do five minutes of that every day

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<v Speaker 2>to just check. I love that. It's like a spring

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<v Speaker 2>clean vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. My recommendation for the week is if you have

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<v Speaker 1>me on socials, I'm doing a hot girl reset.

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<v Speaker 2>I just love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to disclaim hot girl does not mean

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm a hotel because I like put this

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<v Speaker 1>on my stories and Tim's like, why do you keep

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<v Speaker 1>calling yourself a hot girl? And I was like, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a TikTok trend. It doesn't actually mean I think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a hot girl. A hot girl like prioritizes herself and

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<v Speaker 1>her self care and her healthy going on a hot

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<v Speaker 1>girl walk, it doesn't necessarily He was like, I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't think everyone knows this so concerning, Like he genuinely

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<v Speaker 1>gets embarrassed for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I think everyone knows it except.

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<v Speaker 1>It okay, good because I was like, oh gosh, oh gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>So guys, I've been on a hot girl reset where basically,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I've come off the back of some really

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<v Speaker 1>big launches, some really exciting stuff. And when my work

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<v Speaker 1>life ramps up, because I'm so strict with my boundaries

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<v Speaker 1>with Ivy, the thing that falls is my self care,

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<v Speaker 1>my healthy habits, and my friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I love your friends. So I just like.

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<v Speaker 1>Wanted to do a little challenge for myself and I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to put on Instagram and also I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 1>guys now here, just to keep myself accountable, just bed

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<v Speaker 1>tiny things. And it's like these are also things that

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<v Speaker 1>it's not restrictive. It's let's just put these healthy habits

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<v Speaker 1>back in there, because I know myself habits are aren't

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<v Speaker 1>hard once you have created them, if that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>They just become routine. It just becomes what you've done.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, I just need to like stick

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<v Speaker 1>to these things for a week. It's going to become

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<v Speaker 1>easy and I'll get back into routine. And so my

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<v Speaker 1>little hot girl habits were increase my veggies. That was

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<v Speaker 1>important because it was just like proteins and carbs for

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<v Speaker 1>comfort food, comfort food and just quick and easy. And

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<v Speaker 1>because it's a bit cold, I was off salad, but

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<v Speaker 1>then vegetables it take so long to cook, so literally

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<v Speaker 1>really fall enough. So just increasing our veggies. We know

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<v Speaker 1>good few fiber vitamins and minerals. I wanted to increase

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<v Speaker 1>my water intake, so at least two leads a day,

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<v Speaker 1>which I'm doing with my fun little water bottle. I've

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<v Speaker 1>got that you cannot see ten minutes of meditation and journaling.

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<v Speaker 1>I do that already, but just you know, want to

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<v Speaker 1>put that in their daily movement again. I do that already.

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<v Speaker 1>Limit caffeine.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that one. So she always has.

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<v Speaker 1>Two coffees a day. You know the sitier, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just know it's not a good friend.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it so much, So to one coffee, like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's not be dramatic and yeah, you don't have cut

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<v Speaker 1>it out, no, So one coffee a day, one coffee

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<v Speaker 1>at one pre workout. And then also my collagen, so

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<v Speaker 1>I don't talk about collagen a lot bit. Collagen is

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<v Speaker 1>like my ride or die product that I took while

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<v Speaker 1>I was pregnant and also post partum, just to because

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<v Speaker 1>baby takes all your collagen. Oh yeah, Like I actually

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<v Speaker 1>had my GP be like, yeah, take collagen while you're pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>because baby just takes it all. That's why they say

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<v Speaker 1>like girls take your beauty and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, because they're sucking all your collagen. Now, yeah, they

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<v Speaker 2>literally take your collagen.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was really big on that and I just

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<v Speaker 1>felt like it really helped. And the last month I

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<v Speaker 1>just have been so lazy of my daily collagen and

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<v Speaker 1>I've noticed my skin and my hair and nail had

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<v Speaker 1>nail sorry, just like I don't know, feeling a bit gross,

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<v Speaker 1>feeling a bit like, eh, not shiny, not fun. So

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<v Speaker 1>sticking to the collagen and obviously a little sneaky plug

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<v Speaker 1>there is with my veggie intake using my n H

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<v Speaker 1>greens and then also with limiting caffeine, we have a

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<v Speaker 1>stim free pre workout, so it has been you know, easier.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have collagen that's very nice? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, of course, the collagen, the pure collagen. It's just tasteless.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I've just been.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing a Hot Girl reset and it is day five

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<v Speaker 1>and I've like stuck to it and I feel really

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<v Speaker 1>good and I think it's you know, it may even

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<v Speaker 1>be place ebo, but just sticking to some routines and

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<v Speaker 1>like proving to yourself and knowing that you're creating good

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<v Speaker 1>habits has been really nice.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that, all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, guys, without further ado. Oh also sorry, Like the

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<v Speaker 1>topics are we talk about love languages, we talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>What else manifesting, like big things verse little.

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<v Speaker 1>Things, big things versus little things and vibrators.

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<v Speaker 2>No, look, you on to love it. Let's get straight

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<v Speaker 2>into it. So our first hotline question, Georgie, I saw

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<v Speaker 2>you post a story about your love language being touch

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<v Speaker 2>and you had just gotten a ninety minute massage. I

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<v Speaker 2>was just wondering if things like this really fill up

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<v Speaker 2>your love language cup because mine is also majorly touched,

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<v Speaker 2>and my partner is a very physically unaffectionate person, so

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<v Speaker 2>I often feel largely lacking in that portion of my needs.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I love this question too, she says every question.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, these are the best questions ever. This is why

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<v Speaker 2>we chose some. I love this question.

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<v Speaker 1>So my love language definitely touch, but also quality time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, both of them up there. It honestly depends on

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<v Speaker 2>the mood which one is more important. Yeah, but I've

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<v Speaker 2>asked Tim's also.

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<v Speaker 1>His is definitely quality time, and I think acts of

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<v Speaker 1>service okay, which I'm horrible at doing access, which is

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<v Speaker 1>probably why it's his. Definitely if your love language is touch.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I have every second week I have an

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<v Speaker 1>acupuncture plus massage appointment.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. I actually have one today, very.

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<v Speaker 1>Excited, and it's just like it's booked in every two weeks,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's a reoccurring appointment. And I started getting acupuncture

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<v Speaker 1>when I was trying to conceive, and then I just

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<v Speaker 1>found this acupunctress who like she also does acupuncture and

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<v Speaker 1>then like kind of finishes off with a sneaky little

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<v Speaker 1>massage love and I was like, this is amazing. That's

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<v Speaker 1>ever Yeah, And I found that that just like filled

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<v Speaker 1>up my cup. And so then I started really seeking

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<v Speaker 1>out regular massage places. And so the big thing with

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<v Speaker 1>the massage places is it has to be for me,

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<v Speaker 1>someone who's like a bit woo woo and spiritual, so

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<v Speaker 1>someone can hold space for me and talk about not energetics.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's not like I go to a massage place, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, weird music playing, Yeah, or like you.

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<v Speaker 1>Get a different person, like my massage place is I've

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<v Speaker 1>found I go to the exact same person.

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<v Speaker 2>I know who I'm getting.

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<v Speaker 1>I love her energy, I'm I feel really safe in

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<v Speaker 1>that environment, and I like how she massages. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>an experience, yeah, and it really fills up my cup.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think definitely, like if your love language is touch,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to enjoy it. It might just be about

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<v Speaker 1>finding like the right messuse. And I think also some

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<v Speaker 1>people just are less affectionate. So if so with your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>like it is just going to be a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>harder if your love language is super like I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be affectionate. I want to be touched all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's definitely a conversation that you have with him. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think do what I do, go get a message.

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<v Speaker 1>Tim's actually a very affectionate person, but like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I get away from me.

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<v Speaker 2>My love likeguage is not touch right now. My love

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<v Speaker 2>language is touched, but only with my business.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's what I mean as finding different ways to

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<v Speaker 1>inject that in your life, I think is so crucial.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that idea and just I've never thought about

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<v Speaker 2>it like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And so quality of time too is I find obviously

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<v Speaker 1>quality time with Tim, but quality time with myself, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, is like this is me.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally, I need at least two to three hours by

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<v Speaker 2>myself a week, at least at least oh gosh, Like

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<v Speaker 2>Wednesday is my favorite day because I'm at home for

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<v Speaker 2>beauty and no one else is at home, so I

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<v Speaker 2>have the entire house till like five pm. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I love.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, when you're living at home and having the entire

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<v Speaker 1>house to yourself is just like a dream. Literally, I

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<v Speaker 1>come from a family of four kids, and anytime I

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<v Speaker 1>would be hurt myself, I'm like, oh my god, this

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<v Speaker 1>house is so big. Literally, but that's like something we do,

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<v Speaker 1>especially since IVY is. I tell Tim like I just

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<v Speaker 1>need a couple of hours. I'll go get a message,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll go to the.

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<v Speaker 2>Beach and journal.

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<v Speaker 1>And even though a lot of people like I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the time, it's like you make the time absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think knowing your love language is so a

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<v Speaker 1>big thing that she said is like he doesn't meet

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<v Speaker 1>my needs, meeting your own needs yes, So then anything

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<v Speaker 1>on top is like a little bonus.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes. I love that, And just knowing your love language

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<v Speaker 2>so that you can do that. Yeah, because what's the

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<v Speaker 2>love language book? Oh, I don't know that. Have you

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<v Speaker 2>never read the book? No, I've just read up a

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<v Speaker 2>lot about it. But the five love Languages how to

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<v Speaker 2>express heartfelt commitment to your mate. That is why I've

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<v Speaker 2>not read this book.

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<v Speaker 1>He is like, cannot relate, not applicable, but just think

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<v Speaker 1>of yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I think it's very.

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<v Speaker 1>Valuable knowing your love language, oh absolutely, and knowing how

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<v Speaker 1>to meet your own needs. Also, this is going to

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<v Speaker 1>be a bit crazy, and I'm just gonna go.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna go.

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<v Speaker 1>Tmis like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>So this person too.

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<v Speaker 1>If your love language is touch, you've got it and

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<v Speaker 1>you've got a partner. I think I was gonna say

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<v Speaker 1>it for that stop myself. I think this person also,

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<v Speaker 1>you've got to learn how to satisfy yourself sexually.

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<v Speaker 2>Dying.

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<v Speaker 1>So inappropriate for me as a boss to be talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>This, but it's for the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Good. I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, especially.

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<v Speaker 1>If your love language is touch, you need to know

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<v Speaker 1>how to like sort that out, yes, because you can't

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<v Speaker 1>always you know, rely, but yeah, that's just a little tidy.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think that's something a vibrator.

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<v Speaker 2>What I can't give you recommend out please Jaming, I

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<v Speaker 2>will die.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't cut that out of me. I can give you

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<v Speaker 1>Viboda recommendations if you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Not your tea out of the audience.

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<v Speaker 1>A tears, Mom, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>We are fucking grown women. A tear.

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<v Speaker 1>Real about thirty. For God's sake, I think just going

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<v Speaker 1>off that A tear in saying that I am someone

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<v Speaker 1>like in my twenties. It has only been my later

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<v Speaker 1>twenties that I have like figured it out and realized

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<v Speaker 1>how I don't want to say the word freeing, but

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<v Speaker 1>how empowering and important it is to know your own body. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't respond to Jamie. Can you move the Gold

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<v Speaker 1>Coast so we can have these discuptions because Tea just

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't respond.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I totally agree. It is very important, even if

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<v Speaker 2>it's down to just checking your breasts next. I seem

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<v Speaker 2>to be incredibly good at manifesting little things, things that

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<v Speaker 2>are only a passing thought of that'd be nice. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I seem to be stagnant on my bigger dreams or

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<v Speaker 2>things that I really want and can't seem to manifest

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<v Speaker 2>them in the same way. I've tried breaking down into

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<v Speaker 2>smaller steps, but can't seem to crack my big goals,

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<v Speaker 2>some of which I've had for years. Now, what do

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<v Speaker 2>you think I should do? Ps og r and Z

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<v Speaker 2>project gal I joined round one and the minute it

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<v Speaker 2>opened and I loved it so sweet. I love my

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<v Speaker 2>rn C project. Bam, this is a good question. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's very relatable.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so my initial thing that comes up here is

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<v Speaker 1>if you find it easy to manifest smaller things rather

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<v Speaker 1>than like bigger things, I guess my initial gut reaction is.

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<v Speaker 2>For the bigger things, you need to feel worthy of them. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>is that what you were thinking? That's exactly what I

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<v Speaker 2>was going to say. Do you feel worthy of the

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<v Speaker 2>big thing? Exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's actually quite funny. I'm actually the opposite where

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<v Speaker 1>I struggle to manifest smaller things.

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<v Speaker 2>Must be nice, as I say, first problems.

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<v Speaker 1>Poor me. But even sometimes like manifesting a car park,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a small thing. And sometimes I'll be on the

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<v Speaker 1>way somewhere and I'll be like, oh, I really need

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<v Speaker 1>a car park out front, because like I haven't got

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<v Speaker 1>enough time, blah blah blah. But then like oh, we're

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<v Speaker 1>getting close, and I'll be like, there won't be.

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<v Speaker 2>One, and.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not joking, And I struggle. It wears big

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<v Speaker 1>goals and I'm like, of course, of course I'm worthy

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<v Speaker 1>of that, but not a car worthy of my dream house?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you stupid? But a car bar you got?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm no. And it's so I think it's really about worth.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I think there's something Obviously this person knows

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<v Speaker 1>about limiting beliefs. They know about the RNC project formula,

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<v Speaker 1>so they do have the tools. I just think they

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<v Speaker 1>may need to go deeper and work on the self belief,

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<v Speaker 1>work on the self esteem about why maybe they think

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<v Speaker 1>they can't have those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, And I think also, are you placing an unnecessary

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<v Speaker 2>weight or putting a goal on a pedestal that it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't need to be on, and that in itself is

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<v Speaker 2>stopping you from achieving it? Interesting because I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>some everyone looks at goals differently in terms of what's

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<v Speaker 2>a little thing, what's a big thing? Because I would

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<v Speaker 2>say that you call a car park a little thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, maybe like an expensive item is

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<v Speaker 2>a little thing, but someone else might look at that

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<v Speaker 2>as a big thing. And by calling it a big thing,

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<v Speaker 2>you're automatically kind of saying you're not worthy. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>putting a label on it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And well this buys into what's your story around

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<v Speaker 1>this thing, because she's already said I've had this goal

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<v Speaker 1>for years and it just doesn't happen for me. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>So I think there is some sort of story going

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<v Speaker 1>on here. I'd love to have more details about what

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<v Speaker 1>it is actually, Yeah, because yeah, I think there's maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a story that is replaying here that you think this

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<v Speaker 1>thing is really hard and really big, and it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>to manifest small things but not big things, whereas the

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<v Speaker 1>actual truth of manifesting is everything is the same. The

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<v Speaker 1>energy it takes to manifest a car park is the

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<v Speaker 1>exact same.

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<v Speaker 2>As the energy it takes to manifest a six million

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<v Speaker 2>dollar house, in which would you rather up.

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<v Speaker 3>Me?

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<v Speaker 2>I will take the house please. Here I am with

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<v Speaker 2>my car pug.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, I will take the car bar. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think again, I think you hit the nail on

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<v Speaker 1>the head. There are tear once you get your head

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<v Speaker 1>around the whole. Even calling it a big thing and

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<v Speaker 1>then calling the small things small things. Yeah, I think

0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:09.600
<v Speaker 1>there's a story playing here that deep down it's worth

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<v Speaker 1>or you have some sort of labels that are running

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<v Speaker 1>the show rather than seeing everything as.

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<v Speaker 2>The same energy. Yeah, and I think maybe even try

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<v Speaker 2>and find an expander that's achieved this goal, to try

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<v Speaker 2>and sort of shrink it down in a way for you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I find that expanders helped me not only believe

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<v Speaker 2>that I can do it, but also bring it back

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<v Speaker 2>down to earth in the sense that it's literally so achievable.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at the amount of people that have done it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you know what's interesting A Tia, And I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>I keep bringing up this episode, but the episode we

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<v Speaker 1>did with Jason yes last Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 2>If you haven't listened, you gotta so.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really interesting because didn't we When we were

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<v Speaker 1>like researching for the episode, we found out LSKD was

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<v Speaker 1>like a fifty million dollar business or something like. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>outrageous like that. And it's really funny because I have

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<v Speaker 1>been to the LSKD HQ and I have, like, I

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<v Speaker 1>know the team, I've worked with them, and it is

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<v Speaker 1>really impressive. But it's like they're still just a team,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like absolutely naked harvest. I still just have

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<v Speaker 1>a team. Yeah, And it's like it really expanded me

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<v Speaker 1>because I obviously have big goals and dreams for Naked Harvest,

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<v Speaker 1>but we're obviously nowhere near at that fifty million dollar mark.

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<v Speaker 1>But just to see Jason and like for him to

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<v Speaker 1>sit in front of me and then to know that

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<v Speaker 1>the in and out workings of his team is and

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<v Speaker 1>obviously it's bigger and it's more impressive, but it made it.

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<v Speaker 2>More Oh, I can do it too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, And it was such a great expander for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that's it's so true. Let's find someone

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<v Speaker 1>who has achieved that goal, who has similar circumstances. Because

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<v Speaker 1>a big thing about Jason, as we come from the

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<v Speaker 1>same area, yeah, which is that's like one sore, one

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<v Speaker 1>little thing that just makes me, Yeah, he can do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can do it too. So yeah, that's a that's

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<v Speaker 2>a great thing too. Is fine in a expander. So

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<v Speaker 2>on last week's episode, you guys would have noticed that

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<v Speaker 2>we did a little bit of a big question to

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<v Speaker 2>start with after our rogue hotline that was chaotic. That

0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:17.879
<v Speaker 2>was chaotic. We did put up a question box on

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram if there was any other taboo topics that you

0:22:21.200 --> 0:22:23.399
<v Speaker 2>guys wanted us to talk about. So we thought we

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<v Speaker 2>might include some here and there in the Hotline episodes

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<v Speaker 2>just to spice it up. And one we both really

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<v Speaker 2>liked was weddings outside of church, sex before marriage? Who

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<v Speaker 2>to invite? And then it says f E. But I

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<v Speaker 2>think she means I E fights with siblings. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you're having a massive fight with your sibling, do you

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<v Speaker 2>still invite them to your wedding? Kind of thing? Interesting?

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<v Speaker 2>I love talking about weddings.

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<v Speaker 1>And also I think we can put in their e

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<v Speaker 1>lope or do a ceremony. Oh yeah, okay, So I

0:22:52.440 --> 0:22:54.080
<v Speaker 1>got married three years ago, so I had.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of takes on this. What's the first question?

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<v Speaker 2>The first one is doing it outside of church? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not really like, I guess outside of your religious

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<v Speaker 2>institution if you are religious. Yeah, well I'm not religious,

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<v Speaker 2>So that was an easy one.

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<v Speaker 1>I personally couldn't think of anything worse than having my

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<v Speaker 1>wedding in a church when I'm not religious.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah weird, Yeah that feels weird. Did you have it

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<v Speaker 2>in like a chapel though?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Okay, so we had it no, yeah, just like

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<v Speaker 1>at a place and it just had a beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>View of the Hindland. Oh nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I been saying that I've got a girlfriend who's

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<v Speaker 1>not religious, but they had it in a chapel and

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<v Speaker 1>the whole ceremony was quite religious, just because her family

0:23:34.840 --> 0:23:37.520
<v Speaker 1>is quite religious and she just like wanted to please them,

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<v Speaker 1>which I thought was quite sweet.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah that is nice. Yeah, so what was your ceremony?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Super casual and super fun.

0:23:43.880 --> 0:23:45.920
<v Speaker 1>We did our own vowels. The guy was like really

0:23:46.000 --> 0:23:48.520
<v Speaker 1>funny and just very fun and homie.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, what would you do? I definitely want the

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<v Speaker 2>religious We call it a nicker when you get married,

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<v Speaker 2>but that doesn't have to be done in a mosque.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think it would just come down to where

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<v Speaker 2>in the world I'm getting mad married and the costs

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<v Speaker 2>and who to and who to because this is this

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<v Speaker 2>is not a thing I went through on my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Because, for example, if you marry a man who is

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<v Speaker 1>not Muslim.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think I'd still want a knicker, yes, and

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<v Speaker 2>to be married Islamically, would you? I wonder if he

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<v Speaker 2>could dissipate.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just you at the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually don't know. I should check on that.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, this is a rogue question. Would you ever marry

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<v Speaker 1>someone who isn't Muslim?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? But their values need to match mine. Love that,

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<v Speaker 2>So I have no issue marrying someone not Muslim as

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<v Speaker 2>long as our values aligned, but because a lot of

0:24:43.520 --> 0:24:46.680
<v Speaker 2>mine tend to align with my religion. But also as.

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<v Speaker 1>Long as he was super respectful of your beliefs. Religion exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would never want him to stop doing anything

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<v Speaker 2>that because obviously I don't drink and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But say he had a wine here and there. I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't ever want a press for someone to stop. But

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<v Speaker 2>I would have to be okay with that. Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>But I would never make someone stop being who they

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<v Speaker 2>are just because they're marrying me. Good, I would hope not.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, next question, sex before marriage? I love her

0:25:21.480 --> 0:25:22.080
<v Speaker 2>follow ups.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna go road and be very open and say.

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<v Speaker 2>I had sex when I was fourteen.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. Yeah, I was a child, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>So in Jehovah's witness. Is that against the rules?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? Rules?

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<v Speaker 2>I was no longer Jehovah's witness.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, I was like and also I was going

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<v Speaker 1>through my rebel teenage stage.

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<v Speaker 2>I was a bad teenager. I was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really funny because I started being a rebel

0:25:48.080 --> 0:25:50.360
<v Speaker 1>and going to parties and stuff when I was fourteen fifteen,

0:25:50.600 --> 0:25:54.159
<v Speaker 1>and then I became really studious in grade eleven and twelve,

0:25:54.880 --> 0:25:57.120
<v Speaker 1>Like I've pulled it together, yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Like stop going to parties and like stop drinking and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I had like a really bad stint when I

0:26:03.160 --> 0:26:06.040
<v Speaker 1>was younger and then kind of got through it. And

0:26:06.080 --> 0:26:07.840
<v Speaker 1>then it's funny because everyone else was going through their

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<v Speaker 1>rebel stage and I was.

0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:14.360
<v Speaker 2>Like, been there, done that. So I can't believe I.

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<v Speaker 1>Just said that on air.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had sex quite young.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's something now looking back, I didn't even understand

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<v Speaker 1>the whole concept.

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<v Speaker 2>And it is just because my parents.

0:26:25.440 --> 0:26:28.600
<v Speaker 1>Had the belief that you don't have sex before marriage. Yeah,

0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:31.800
<v Speaker 1>so I didn't get did they both follow that? They say?

0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:34.960
<v Speaker 1>Literally I asked them and they're like, we never had

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<v Speaker 1>sex before marriage when I was younger, and then like

0:26:37.480 --> 0:26:38.440
<v Speaker 1>now they're like, yeah, of.

0:26:38.320 --> 0:26:41.680
<v Speaker 2>Course we didn't. And I was like you why would

0:26:41.720 --> 0:26:45.639
<v Speaker 2>you say that? Is you know, no wonder why I

0:26:45.640 --> 0:26:46.600
<v Speaker 2>went through a rebel stage?

0:26:46.800 --> 0:26:51.520
<v Speaker 1>You lied to me anyway, So I.

0:26:51.440 --> 0:26:52.400
<v Speaker 2>Was like pushing back.

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:56.280
<v Speaker 1>But now, looking back, this is a random rant. But

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<v Speaker 1>for example, I've had this conversation with Tim that with Ivy.

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<v Speaker 1>I to be very open about sex because my parents weren't,

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<v Speaker 1>and I went through it at a stage where I

0:27:08.280 --> 0:27:11.360
<v Speaker 1>actually didn't really understand the whole concept, and I wish

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:15.399
<v Speaker 1>I had more information and more just understanding because I

0:27:15.440 --> 0:27:16.920
<v Speaker 1>don't think I would have had sex so young.

0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:19.000
<v Speaker 2>That makes so much sense, do you know what I mean? Yeah,

0:27:19.000 --> 0:27:21.280
<v Speaker 2>it's almost if you don't talk to someone or have

0:27:21.359 --> 0:27:24.119
<v Speaker 2>an open conversation about those things, they're more likely to

0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 2>do it. And then it's like when you're underage drinking.

0:27:27.320 --> 0:27:29.280
<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's the easiest way to explain it

0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:30.879
<v Speaker 2>is that you'd rather do it in the safe space

0:27:31.000 --> 0:27:33.040
<v Speaker 2>because you're going to do it anyway, so at least

0:27:33.040 --> 0:27:36.600
<v Speaker 2>be educated and understand what you're doing before you do it,

0:27:36.880 --> 0:27:39.159
<v Speaker 2>because then you can make an educated decision as to

0:27:39.200 --> 0:27:40.199
<v Speaker 2>whether to do it or not.

0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:43.880
<v Speaker 1>Correct And for me, in that situation, all my friends

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:46.320
<v Speaker 1>had already had sex, so I just thought it was

0:27:46.359 --> 0:27:48.320
<v Speaker 1>the thing I think we all did. Yeah, And I

0:27:48.400 --> 0:27:50.479
<v Speaker 1>also I did have a long term boyfriend and he

0:27:50.600 --> 0:27:55.399
<v Speaker 1>was really sweet and it was fine. Yeah, But but

0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:58.760
<v Speaker 1>now looking back, I wish there was some more openness

0:27:58.880 --> 0:28:03.080
<v Speaker 1>and some conversation about it. Yeah, for me to actually

0:28:03.160 --> 0:28:06.960
<v Speaker 1>having an understanding about sex, not it being like this

0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:10.919
<v Speaker 1>weird exclusive thing that you don't have sex before you're marriage,

0:28:11.080 --> 0:28:14.040
<v Speaker 1>and yeah, because it's just that's not applicable for everyone.

0:28:14.320 --> 0:28:15.240
<v Speaker 2>I feel like it.

0:28:15.520 --> 0:28:17.840
<v Speaker 1>I love the concept, not really, I don't love it,

0:28:17.920 --> 0:28:21.200
<v Speaker 1>but like I understand the concept of no sex before marriage,

0:28:21.600 --> 0:28:24.640
<v Speaker 1>but if it's not applicable, I think it's important for

0:28:24.960 --> 0:28:28.840
<v Speaker 1>young women to understand it. Yeah, just everyone, of course,

0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:32.480
<v Speaker 1>it needs to be something that I think they do

0:28:32.720 --> 0:28:35.040
<v Speaker 1>talk about it more in schools now than they did

0:28:35.080 --> 0:28:36.240
<v Speaker 1>when we were in school.

0:28:36.280 --> 0:28:39.640
<v Speaker 2>I remember sex ed, but it wasn't sex ed. It

0:28:39.760 --> 0:28:41.640
<v Speaker 2>was like, here's how reproduction work.

0:28:42.080 --> 0:28:44.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I feel like, but that's what I mean, Like

0:28:44.520 --> 0:28:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I just had no concept of again tear my about

0:28:48.680 --> 0:28:52.560
<v Speaker 1>how to like what felt good for me, how like

0:28:52.760 --> 0:28:57.560
<v Speaker 1>knowing my body, Yeah, understanding about what sex is actually

0:28:57.600 --> 0:29:01.920
<v Speaker 1>about and how you should feel very empowered and you know,

0:29:01.960 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 1>it should be feel very like.

0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:07.520
<v Speaker 2>Knowing what good feels like vers knowing what bad feels like. Yeah,

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:11.200
<v Speaker 2>kind other than just like things being painful or not painful.

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:15.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I think just openness about it. Yeah, because

0:29:15.080 --> 0:29:18.560
<v Speaker 1>it felt like this naughty thing. And I think also

0:29:18.840 --> 0:29:21.920
<v Speaker 1>being a young rebellious child, a naughty thing. You want

0:29:21.960 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 1>to go do it? Yes, He's like, cannot relate. I'm like,

0:29:32.920 --> 0:29:37.760
<v Speaker 1>I was just the most uptight kid ever up tied here.

0:29:37.800 --> 0:29:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I was like getting drunk, dying and feels and grateful.

0:29:41.640 --> 0:29:43.560
<v Speaker 2>My mom told me I needed to learn how to

0:29:43.600 --> 0:29:46.000
<v Speaker 2>take a joke, so I borrowed a Knock Knock joke

0:29:46.040 --> 0:29:49.360
<v Speaker 2>book from the library. Oh tear, you're so sweet. I

0:29:49.480 --> 0:29:49.960
<v Speaker 2>love you.

0:29:55.080 --> 0:29:56.960
<v Speaker 1>It's funny because you're not that uptight now.

0:29:57.160 --> 0:30:00.680
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, I've chilled out good. I was wound up,

0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:03.920
<v Speaker 2>like wow. It was insane interesting in the sense that

0:30:04.000 --> 0:30:06.560
<v Speaker 2>to the point that my teachers had to work with

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:09.400
<v Speaker 2>me to not get an entire week's worth of homew

0:30:09.400 --> 0:30:10.720
<v Speaker 2>I've done on the day they gave it to me,

0:30:10.720 --> 0:30:13.320
<v Speaker 2>because I'd just like stay up till midnight. In primary school,

0:30:13.320 --> 0:30:15.400
<v Speaker 2>I would stay up till midnight doing the homework they

0:30:15.440 --> 0:30:17.000
<v Speaker 2>gave to me that day when I had a week.

0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:21.600
<v Speaker 2>There was something going on there. What, Yeah, it was

0:30:21.600 --> 0:30:24.040
<v Speaker 2>a crazy concern. I was. I don't know why I

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:27.440
<v Speaker 2>was wound so tightly, but I'm fine now. So it's okay.

0:30:28.000 --> 0:30:31.480
<v Speaker 2>We love this transflation for you anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my view what's your view on sex before marriage?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know your moment.

0:30:37.680 --> 0:30:40.840
<v Speaker 1>No, your religion is no sex before marriage, just like

0:30:40.920 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Jehovah's witness.

0:30:41.680 --> 0:30:43.840
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I feel close religions are no sex

0:30:43.880 --> 0:30:48.120
<v Speaker 2>before Maria. Yeah, and I haven't had a boyfriend, so

0:30:48.200 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 2>I can't really comment because I don't know what I

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:54.080
<v Speaker 2>would want to do. She'll get back to us. Yeah,

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:58.479
<v Speaker 2>I don't think i'd ever casually do it just to

0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:03.800
<v Speaker 2>do it, you know, like this, I'm not going to

0:31:03.880 --> 0:31:06.280
<v Speaker 2>download Tinder and go hook up with someone just because

0:31:06.400 --> 0:31:08.800
<v Speaker 2>I want to have sex? Why not? Though I don't

0:31:08.840 --> 0:31:11.160
<v Speaker 2>want to right now, But that's the things you don't

0:31:11.200 --> 0:31:15.520
<v Speaker 2>want to I couldn't tell you why for someone who

0:31:15.520 --> 0:31:17.760
<v Speaker 2>does want to have sex, Oh, go for it. Yeah,

0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:18.800
<v Speaker 2>Like I have no issue with that.

0:31:18.880 --> 0:31:21.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah good, Yeah, it's because that's actually not like for

0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:25.280
<v Speaker 3>me myself and I I felt like growing up there

0:31:25.360 --> 0:31:29.520
<v Speaker 3>was such a stigma around like slutty girls and that

0:31:29.640 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 3>sort of thing, which now looking back.

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:33.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, what is wrong with people? Yeah?

0:31:33.920 --> 0:31:36.840
<v Speaker 1>And that's like another conversation that I want to have

0:31:36.920 --> 0:31:41.280
<v Speaker 1>with Ivy and like just being like you should feel empowered.

0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:42.800
<v Speaker 2>To sleep with as many people as you want.

0:31:42.760 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah safely please Yeah, yeah, obviously safely. But also it's like,

0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:52.320
<v Speaker 1>if you're a person who enjoy sex and you love yeah,

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:54.560
<v Speaker 1>you love that experience and it feels really good for

0:31:54.600 --> 0:31:57.960
<v Speaker 1>you and really empowering, you should feel empowered to go and.

0:31:57.840 --> 0:31:59.240
<v Speaker 2>Do that thing. Absolutely.

0:31:59.240 --> 0:32:02.680
<v Speaker 1>You shouldn't feel like, oh, society says as a woman,

0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:06.160
<v Speaker 1>I should sleep with one persons off in my whole life.

0:32:06.360 --> 0:32:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Guys get praised for sleeping with lots of women, but

0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:13.600
<v Speaker 2>girls get shatter. This is this is a whole other episode.

0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it is like and I grew up with three brothers,

0:32:16.480 --> 0:32:20.320
<v Speaker 1>so you can imagine, yeah, toxic masculinity.

0:32:20.600 --> 0:32:22.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in it wasn't toxic.

0:32:22.400 --> 0:32:26.280
<v Speaker 1>Like my brothers are great, they're very respectful.

0:32:26.360 --> 0:32:27.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want to put that on there.

0:32:27.840 --> 0:32:30.480
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, it's just a whole thing where it's like

0:32:30.760 --> 0:32:34.120
<v Speaker 1>you get to decide and I just want again, this

0:32:34.160 --> 0:32:35.440
<v Speaker 1>is me talking about Ivy is.

0:32:35.480 --> 0:32:37.160
<v Speaker 2>I just want her to feel.

0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:41.280
<v Speaker 1>Really empowered and her to make that decision and in

0:32:41.320 --> 0:32:43.480
<v Speaker 1>the end, like it's all it's all left us.

0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:47.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I feel like another important thing that isn't

0:32:47.560 --> 0:32:53.040
<v Speaker 2>spoken enough about feeling empowered to have sex verse sex

0:32:53.120 --> 0:32:55.520
<v Speaker 2>making you feel good because you're happy someone wants to

0:32:55.520 --> 0:32:59.280
<v Speaker 2>sleep with you because your self esteem is that low. Yeah, Like,

0:32:59.440 --> 0:33:04.080
<v Speaker 2>I've seen both ends of the stick, and I it's

0:33:04.080 --> 0:33:06.560
<v Speaker 2>like a weird subject to broach with someone because they're

0:33:06.560 --> 0:33:09.160
<v Speaker 2>always like, oh, but it makes me feel good. And

0:33:09.600 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 2>I know you can't really tell someone that something's making

0:33:11.960 --> 0:33:15.080
<v Speaker 2>them feel good for the wrong reasons. But it's more

0:33:15.160 --> 0:33:18.720
<v Speaker 2>like the dip after that is so low that they

0:33:18.840 --> 0:33:21.160
<v Speaker 2>just need to sleep with someone else to get on

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 2>a high. Yep, Like it's kind of addictive. Interesting.

0:33:24.560 --> 0:33:28.200
<v Speaker 1>I've I don't have a lot of thoughts on the

0:33:28.480 --> 0:33:32.080
<v Speaker 1>topic because I've never thought about it, yeah, or been

0:33:32.120 --> 0:33:34.840
<v Speaker 1>in that scenario because I'm someone who's had a boyfriend

0:33:34.840 --> 0:33:35.520
<v Speaker 1>like her whole life.

0:33:35.800 --> 0:33:39.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, or wait, he's my husband and my boyfriend to.

0:33:39.960 --> 0:33:44.520
<v Speaker 1>Ask, Yeah, and like both long term relationships. But yeah,

0:33:46.240 --> 0:33:48.040
<v Speaker 1>I understand what you mean.

0:33:48.240 --> 0:33:55.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Interesting, that's all I upset on that. Okay, I

0:33:55.240 --> 0:33:58.840
<v Speaker 2>love this. Who to invite to your wedding? I love this.

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:02.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm a big advocate that you don't have to invite everyone.

0:34:03.040 --> 0:34:05.600
<v Speaker 1>It's just who you like, So just because they're family

0:34:05.720 --> 0:34:08.400
<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean they get to come to your wedding. Ooh,

0:34:09.280 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 1>huge advocate like, for example, my wedding was expensive. Yeah

0:34:14.200 --> 0:34:17.720
<v Speaker 1>per head, you're paying hundreds and hundreds of dollars per head.

0:34:18.040 --> 0:34:21.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So it's like if you're just inviting people to

0:34:21.320 --> 0:34:23.839
<v Speaker 2>please that person, well, not like to please a person

0:34:23.880 --> 0:34:26.880
<v Speaker 2>who's getting invited, yeah, or just because you think you

0:34:27.080 --> 0:34:28.920
<v Speaker 2>have to. I don't know, not a vibe for me.

0:34:29.760 --> 0:34:32.160
<v Speaker 2>What would you say, say you have a group of

0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:36.319
<v Speaker 2>six girlfriends, Yeah, and you get along with five of them,

0:34:36.480 --> 0:34:39.280
<v Speaker 2>and then the extra one is like a mutual friend

0:34:39.280 --> 0:34:42.280
<v Speaker 2>of someone that's come into the group and you'reinly vibe.

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:45.720
<v Speaker 2>Do you have to invite that person? No? No, why

0:34:45.920 --> 0:34:49.000
<v Speaker 2>you'll invite the it's my wedding.

0:34:51.239 --> 0:34:54.680
<v Speaker 1>I so a big thing that I'm sim with the

0:34:54.800 --> 0:34:56.920
<v Speaker 1>the big thing that I do is would I be

0:34:57.000 --> 0:34:58.160
<v Speaker 1>invited to their wedding?

0:34:58.440 --> 0:35:00.200
<v Speaker 2>And what if you would be? Then what do you do?

0:35:00.440 --> 0:35:04.319
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, true? Yeah? Well yeah, or what if you

0:35:04.520 --> 0:35:07.160
<v Speaker 2>have been invited to their wedding? Oh yeah, look, I'd

0:35:07.160 --> 0:35:11.120
<v Speaker 2>probably just didn't mind that. I'd probably feel bad.

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:15.560
<v Speaker 1>But also I think with that whole friend's situation, before

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:18.080
<v Speaker 1>the wedding invites went out, I would have a conversation

0:35:18.239 --> 0:35:21.719
<v Speaker 1>with that person and go, look, I love your company.

0:35:22.000 --> 0:35:24.160
<v Speaker 1>I obviously spend a lot of time with you could

0:35:24.200 --> 0:35:26.719
<v Speaker 1>because we've come together because of mutual friends. I just

0:35:26.719 --> 0:35:29.520
<v Speaker 1>want to let you know our wedding is super intimate

0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:33.200
<v Speaker 1>and it is quite expensive, and for that reason, we

0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:36.279
<v Speaker 1>have had to just be very you know, particular with

0:35:36.320 --> 0:35:38.680
<v Speaker 1>who were invited. And I'd love for you to come

0:35:38.719 --> 0:35:41.120
<v Speaker 1>to the engagement party, but you just you're not on

0:35:41.160 --> 0:35:41.719
<v Speaker 1>the wedding list.

0:35:41.920 --> 0:35:44.839
<v Speaker 2>Was your wedding intimate like eighty people? Okay, yeah, that's

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:46.920
<v Speaker 2>pretty small. Yeah, I think you can say that. And

0:35:46.960 --> 0:35:49.359
<v Speaker 2>I and I feel like anyone who's having a big

0:35:49.400 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 2>wedding you just got to stuck it up and invite

0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:53.960
<v Speaker 2>the people. Yeah. I don't know, I don't agree with that.

0:35:54.080 --> 0:35:56.319
<v Speaker 1>I just like, if you had your wedding people there,

0:35:56.600 --> 0:35:57.920
<v Speaker 1>who knows, three hundred people?

0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:59.640
<v Speaker 2>There were three hundred people at my uncles.

0:35:59.680 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's a whole other thing. Yeah, that's like family

0:36:03.160 --> 0:36:03.880
<v Speaker 1>family vibes.

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:07.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Wait, the sibling question. Yeah, so it's like, do

0:36:07.360 --> 0:36:09.360
<v Speaker 2>you invite your sibling if you're having a fight with

0:36:09.400 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 2>them to your wedding? I think you do.

0:36:11.440 --> 0:36:13.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I agree, if you don't think this fight is

0:36:14.000 --> 0:36:16.239
<v Speaker 1>going to last forever, I think you do. I think

0:36:16.280 --> 0:36:18.600
<v Speaker 1>even if you think the fight's going to last forever,

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:20.959
<v Speaker 1>you invite them because of your sibling and you don't

0:36:21.000 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 1>know what's going to happen. What if you mend this relationship,

0:36:25.560 --> 0:36:28.120
<v Speaker 1>no matter how broken it is at that point in time,

0:36:28.400 --> 0:36:30.839
<v Speaker 1>and then you come to regret not having them there?

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:32.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know what I mean?

0:36:32.280 --> 0:36:35.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like I another actual thing just to note on

0:36:35.480 --> 0:36:37.719
<v Speaker 1>that with the people is something I did at my

0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:40.440
<v Speaker 1>wedding is I said for extra people who I was

0:36:40.480 --> 0:36:42.640
<v Speaker 1>close with, but it's like, you know, we didn't have

0:36:42.719 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 1>enough seats or whatever. I did say, you can come

0:36:44.800 --> 0:36:47.840
<v Speaker 1>to the ceremony, we just don't have enough spots for

0:36:47.880 --> 0:36:50.640
<v Speaker 1>you at the you know, Oh that's nice after party

0:36:50.719 --> 0:36:55.160
<v Speaker 1>or whatever. The reception, Yeah, reception, the after party, that thing.

0:36:56.719 --> 0:36:59.240
<v Speaker 2>I've heard that some people sell tickets to their reception

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 2>ticket what do you.

0:37:02.360 --> 0:37:03.560
<v Speaker 1>Like, make them pay for it.

0:37:03.760 --> 0:37:06.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they'll pay for like the eighty people, and they'll

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:09.399
<v Speaker 2>have a ceremony with one hundred people and they'll say, oh,

0:37:09.440 --> 0:37:11.000
<v Speaker 2>if you want to come to the reception, it's going

0:37:11.040 --> 0:37:13.560
<v Speaker 2>to be two hundred dollars. What are your thoughts on that? Oh,

0:37:13.560 --> 0:37:16.319
<v Speaker 2>I just don't have them. That's weird. Yeah, you can't

0:37:16.360 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 2>ask someone to pay. Again, I was.

0:37:17.760 --> 0:37:19.839
<v Speaker 1>About to say, but I come from a wedding where

0:37:19.840 --> 0:37:23.040
<v Speaker 1>like we paid for everything, even with like the bridesmaids

0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:25.600
<v Speaker 1>and groonsmen and stuff like we just yeah, I just

0:37:25.719 --> 0:37:28.360
<v Speaker 1>had the view like if I'm not making them be

0:37:28.400 --> 0:37:31.360
<v Speaker 1>a bridesmaid. But I was just like I didn't want anyone,

0:37:31.960 --> 0:37:34.520
<v Speaker 1>especially because like when I got married, like I was

0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:37.600
<v Speaker 1>twenty two or twenty three, So it's like, so you

0:37:37.640 --> 0:37:39.440
<v Speaker 1>were young. I was young, and I knew a lot

0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:42.000
<v Speaker 1>of our friends didn't have a lot of money. Yeah,

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:43.840
<v Speaker 1>and I wasn't gonna make them like fork out a

0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:45.919
<v Speaker 1>lot of money just so we could have our special day.

0:37:46.120 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 1>But did you have like, were you pretty financing stable

0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:54.000
<v Speaker 1>at that point? Somew It definitely cost us a lot

0:37:54.040 --> 0:37:56.840
<v Speaker 1>of money. But for example, if you're making the decision

0:37:56.880 --> 0:37:58.640
<v Speaker 1>to have a big wedding, I think you should wear

0:37:58.640 --> 0:37:59.040
<v Speaker 1>the cost.

0:37:59.719 --> 0:38:00.719
<v Speaker 2>That was just our view.

0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:03.680
<v Speaker 1>So we were happy to wear the cost, yeah, and

0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:07.160
<v Speaker 1>just be broke for a bit because it did left us,

0:38:07.200 --> 0:38:09.799
<v Speaker 1>you know. But then I think that's why if you're

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:13.120
<v Speaker 1>someone who wants to have this lavish wedding and all

0:38:13.120 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 1>the extras, but then you want, you know, everyone to

0:38:15.200 --> 0:38:16.000
<v Speaker 1>pay money to come.

0:38:16.040 --> 0:38:18.480
<v Speaker 2>I just I don't know, I don't think that's very fair. Yeah, no,

0:38:18.560 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 2>I totally agree in that sense. But what about It's

0:38:21.239 --> 0:38:23.120
<v Speaker 2>interesting because I know a lot of people that have

0:38:23.239 --> 0:38:27.200
<v Speaker 2>also asked bridesmaids and groomsmen to pay for the suits

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:30.040
<v Speaker 2>or dresses and to shoes. Yeah, like if it's a

0:38:30.080 --> 0:38:33.800
<v Speaker 2>couple of hundred dollars or whatever like for like those people. Yeah,

0:38:33.840 --> 0:38:34.720
<v Speaker 2>I think that's fine.

0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:37.440
<v Speaker 1>I just think asking people to pay for their seat

0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:41.719
<v Speaker 1>at a reception or for example, I think this is

0:38:41.800 --> 0:38:44.799
<v Speaker 1>just my view. Bridesmaids, if you want them to have

0:38:44.880 --> 0:38:47.880
<v Speaker 1>an expensive dress, you know, a Zimmerman or a Beckon

0:38:47.960 --> 0:38:52.120
<v Speaker 1>Bridge or something like that that is over two hundred dollars,

0:38:52.239 --> 0:38:53.319
<v Speaker 1>I think you should pay for it.

0:38:53.840 --> 0:38:58.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, or like subsidize the cost majorly. Yeah, because

0:38:58.120 --> 0:39:01.600
<v Speaker 2>I've known people who literally make their brides maids pay

0:39:01.600 --> 0:39:04.799
<v Speaker 2>for like eight hundred dollars dresses. No, And it's like

0:39:04.960 --> 0:39:07.640
<v Speaker 2>I just am like, oh my gosh, I said, I

0:39:07.719 --> 0:39:11.520
<v Speaker 2>meant never buy dress from Pedal and Pup. They ordered, yes,

0:39:11.960 --> 0:39:12.600
<v Speaker 2>well that's yeah.

0:39:12.640 --> 0:39:15.239
<v Speaker 1>The last wedding I went to literally my dresses from

0:39:15.239 --> 0:39:16.879
<v Speaker 1>Pedal and Pup and I was like, of course I'm

0:39:16.880 --> 0:39:20.640
<v Speaker 1>gonna buy it. Yeah, exactly, and like amazing, But yeah,

0:39:20.760 --> 0:39:22.800
<v Speaker 1>I think I don't know. I've just known a couple

0:39:22.760 --> 0:39:26.440
<v Speaker 1>of stories of like people having bougie weddings, but.

0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:29.200
<v Speaker 2>Like then wanting people to pay for things. I'm like,

0:39:29.800 --> 0:39:35.880
<v Speaker 2>what another question on weddings, what is the appropriate amount

0:39:36.200 --> 0:39:39.040
<v Speaker 2>to gift a couple if they're having a wishing well

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:42.080
<v Speaker 2>wedding or what is an appropriate wedding gift? First? Inappropriate

0:39:42.080 --> 0:39:42.640
<v Speaker 2>wedding gift?

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<v Speaker 1>I always do money because as someone who had a wedding,

0:39:46.719 --> 0:39:49.279
<v Speaker 1>I would want money. Yeah, because you're just trying to

0:39:49.320 --> 0:39:52.319
<v Speaker 1>repay all the money you spent. Yeah, do you want

0:39:52.360 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 1>an actual amount? Because I'm happy to do that.

0:39:54.320 --> 0:39:54.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:56.560
<v Speaker 1>I reckon, let's do it and then let's pull the

0:39:56.600 --> 0:39:57.839
<v Speaker 1>audience on what they think.

0:39:57.960 --> 0:40:01.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is also remembering. This is as a couple.

0:40:02.080 --> 0:40:04.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it's to get around if you're a single person.

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:09.600
<v Speaker 1>As a couple, if it's someone we're not as close with,

0:40:10.080 --> 0:40:12.560
<v Speaker 1>but it's like you've been invited to the wedding, mutual

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:14.040
<v Speaker 1>friends having fun.

0:40:13.960 --> 0:40:16.120
<v Speaker 2>Like maybe you're seated towards the back of the reception

0:40:16.280 --> 0:40:17.880
<v Speaker 2>kind of relationship with the person.

0:40:18.120 --> 0:40:21.399
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're at the back yeah, I reckon like two

0:40:21.520 --> 0:40:25.960
<v Speaker 1>hundred to three hundred. Yeah, absolutely, any close friends, we've

0:40:26.000 --> 0:40:29.880
<v Speaker 1>always gone like five hundred. Yeah, because for example, our wedding,

0:40:30.000 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 1>I remember it was close to two hundred per head. Yeah,

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:39.759
<v Speaker 1>so you're basically covering what your per meal and drinks are. Yeah,

0:40:39.960 --> 0:40:42.239
<v Speaker 1>knowing this person has just spent a lot of money

0:40:42.280 --> 0:40:44.560
<v Speaker 1>and you really love this person and you want them.

0:40:44.480 --> 0:40:46.239
<v Speaker 2>To have a great day, and would you give them

0:40:46.239 --> 0:40:48.879
<v Speaker 2>a gift as well? Then no, or like say if

0:40:48.880 --> 0:40:50.879
<v Speaker 2>you were a bridesmaid, Oh yeah, if.

0:40:50.800 --> 0:40:52.919
<v Speaker 1>You're a bridesmaid, because you do a little gift, you're

0:40:53.000 --> 0:40:54.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, all the bridesmaids.

0:40:54.000 --> 0:40:55.400
<v Speaker 2>Put in and you get her a little gift.

0:40:55.640 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think that's fine it and then like a

0:40:58.200 --> 0:41:00.960
<v Speaker 1>little bit of money and a yeah yeah, So like

0:41:01.120 --> 0:41:04.279
<v Speaker 1>rule of FuMB depending on the wedding, it's kind of

0:41:04.440 --> 0:41:08.440
<v Speaker 1>how to cover your own costs to a certain extenth

0:41:08.520 --> 0:41:10.560
<v Speaker 1>to just like help them out and enjoy the day.

0:41:11.000 --> 0:41:13.920
<v Speaker 1>But in saying that, yeah, I think I don't know

0:41:13.960 --> 0:41:16.000
<v Speaker 1>if that's I don't know where that sits in the

0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:17.840
<v Speaker 1>realm of how other people.

0:41:18.400 --> 0:41:20.319
<v Speaker 2>I kind of look at it the same. I would

0:41:20.400 --> 0:41:22.960
<v Speaker 2>put about one hundred to one hundred and fifty dollars

0:41:23.000 --> 0:41:26.880
<v Speaker 2>in yeah, by myself, Yes, because I'd say that's probably

0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:30.520
<v Speaker 2>around what the wedding would cost. Yeah. Or I'd get

0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 2>them something that I know they need, Like if I

0:41:34.120 --> 0:41:36.879
<v Speaker 2>know they're just about to move out and they might

0:41:36.960 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 2>need something for their kitchen, and I have a good

0:41:39.640 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 2>relationship with them and I know that they need that

0:41:42.040 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 2>specific thing, I will do it, but with a gift receipt.

0:41:46.960 --> 0:41:49.239
<v Speaker 2>Always with a gift receipt just in case they get

0:41:49.239 --> 0:41:54.760
<v Speaker 2>given five of them. But otherwise you have money. Yeah.

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 2>The last thing I wanted to talk about eloping versus

0:41:58.040 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 2>having a ceremony, verse having a huge wedding or a

0:42:01.760 --> 0:42:04.200
<v Speaker 2>small wedding. I think it's just completely up to you.

0:42:04.640 --> 0:42:06.960
<v Speaker 1>If it's really important for you to have your big

0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:10.080
<v Speaker 1>day and you want, you know, the big ceremony, then

0:42:10.160 --> 0:42:12.880
<v Speaker 1>like do that. But if it's not really your vibe,

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:15.720
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't bother quote unquote wasting the money.

0:42:16.200 --> 0:42:18.080
<v Speaker 2>How did you and Tim design? I?

0:42:18.360 --> 0:42:20.880
<v Speaker 1>You know, I come from a Biggish family. I have

0:42:20.960 --> 0:42:23.360
<v Speaker 1>three brothers, I have a lot of arnies and uncles,

0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:26.680
<v Speaker 1>and I always have great memories of other weddings and

0:42:26.719 --> 0:42:28.399
<v Speaker 1>it being like really beautiful family time.

0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:30.920
<v Speaker 2>And like I wanted to wear the big white dress.

0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:31.959
<v Speaker 2>I wanted to have.

0:42:31.880 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 1>All the flowers. I wanted to feel like, you know,

0:42:35.520 --> 0:42:38.080
<v Speaker 1>a queen on my wedding day. So I always knew

0:42:38.120 --> 0:42:39.640
<v Speaker 1>I wanted the big wedding day.

0:42:39.600 --> 0:42:42.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm a very That's that's my style. If you

0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:43.560
<v Speaker 2>haven't known that.

0:42:44.040 --> 0:42:47.480
<v Speaker 1>In saying that, Like my best friend she's and I

0:42:47.560 --> 0:42:50.040
<v Speaker 1>was also like quite young, and it was that was

0:42:50.320 --> 0:42:52.759
<v Speaker 1>just my mentality. I thought I did like we did,

0:42:52.800 --> 0:42:54.120
<v Speaker 1>we really wanted to do.

0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:55.640
<v Speaker 2>That means yeah.

0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:59.240
<v Speaker 1>But for example, my best friend, she she's actually not engaged,

0:42:59.239 --> 0:43:02.160
<v Speaker 1>but she said when we get married, she's like, I

0:43:02.239 --> 0:43:03.120
<v Speaker 1>just want a big party.

0:43:03.480 --> 0:43:05.840
<v Speaker 2>And she's just like, we'll probably hire at a house.

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:08.400
<v Speaker 1>We'll just have our close friends and family. She doesn't

0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:11.200
<v Speaker 1>have a lot of family, so she's like and she's like,

0:43:11.239 --> 0:43:13.480
<v Speaker 1>we'll probably literally just you know, get married at the

0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:16.279
<v Speaker 1>court and then come back to the house and.

0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:18.880
<v Speaker 2>Just have a big celebration. I love that. Yeah, So

0:43:18.920 --> 0:43:20.960
<v Speaker 2>I think it's just and she's not a traditional sort

0:43:21.000 --> 0:43:23.879
<v Speaker 2>of girl. Yeah. And how did you guys decide sort

0:43:23.920 --> 0:43:28.560
<v Speaker 2>of what circle of friendship to stop inviting people at?

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:30.360
<v Speaker 2>If that makes sense, We.

0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:34.200
<v Speaker 1>Just invited our close friends and that was it. I

0:43:34.200 --> 0:43:36.400
<v Speaker 1>don't have many friends, so it was quite easy.

0:43:36.960 --> 0:43:39.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I didn't have any friends many friends either,

0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:41.680
<v Speaker 2>so look, there weren't a lot of people.

0:43:41.719 --> 0:43:45.640
<v Speaker 1>Man. All right, guys, we're going to do a poll

0:43:45.840 --> 0:43:48.520
<v Speaker 1>of these wedding questions to see what you guys think.

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