Speaker 1: Guys, I have something that's a lot more serious that
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk to you about. It comes as
Speaker 1: a bit of a PSA to parents out there. As
Speaker 1: you might know, I'm a mom. I have two little kids, Marley,
Speaker 1: she's four, and Lola's two. And on the weekend we
Speaker 1: were faced with the situation that I did not think
Speaker 1: I would be faced with this early with my kids.
Speaker 1: So just to kind of give you the background, we
Speaker 1: have a lovely older lady who lives next door to us.
Speaker 1: She's in her eighties. It's been a really nice part
Speaker 1: of like living in this new house is that the
Speaker 1: kids will go over and they will visit this lovely
Speaker 1: lady next door, and our doors always opened her and
Speaker 1: we kind of try and keep her company as well
Speaker 1: as you know, allow the kids to have a bit
Speaker 1: of a relationship with our neighbor. And on the weekend
Speaker 1: just passed, I went over there with the girls and
Speaker 1: my neighbor and I were standing on the balcony having
Speaker 1: a chat, and the girls run inside into her house
Speaker 1: and we're playing around because she's got dolls inside, she's
Speaker 1: got things in there. And about fifteen minutes past and
Speaker 1: Marley and Lola came out, and Lola, who's two, was
Speaker 1: white as a ghost, and Marley was bawling her eyes out,
Speaker 1: and I thought, what could have possibly just happened? And
Speaker 1: Marley came out and said, oh, there was something on
Speaker 1: the TV. And I walked inside, and not realizing our
Speaker 1: neighborhood is quite elderly, she didn't really register what she
Speaker 1: had playing out on the TV. And she had a
Speaker 1: true crime documentary playing and so the girls had run
Speaker 1: inside they'd seen something on the TV, and then they'd
Speaker 1: stood there and watched it, and they had seen something
Speaker 1: truly horrific play out on TV, really violent. And now
Speaker 1: this is so much for a little two year old
Speaker 1: and a four year old to process, and also for
Speaker 1: me as a parent to process the fact that they've
Speaker 1: experienced this and they've seen it, and then how do
Speaker 1: we deal with that? And it's just been such a
Speaker 1: challenging two days, and it's going to make me upset
Speaker 1: because you try so hard as a mum to protect
Speaker 1: your kids from this sort of stuff and then it
Speaker 1: feels like, in one moment you can completely fail them.
Speaker 1: And that's how I felt off the back of that experience.
Speaker 1: And you know, I thought, in this house, they were
Speaker 1: so safe. We've done it a hundred times, and it
Speaker 1: was just in that moment. And then you're like, how
Speaker 1: do you take back something that they've now seen. How
Speaker 1: do you comfort them in a way to explain what
Speaker 1: they've seen on a TV isn't real when they're too
Speaker 1: young to really comprehend what's happening.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think the thing is here, not that
Speaker 2: it makes it okay, But unfortunately in life, there are
Speaker 2: going to be things that are outside of your control.
Speaker 2: And you can be the best parent in the entire world,
Speaker 2: which we all know you are, and these things can
Speaker 2: still happen that you can't undo that, and you can't
Speaker 2: be even a helicopter parent can't be with their kids
Speaker 2: twenty four to seven. Like there's always going to be
Speaker 2: something in life. And you know you hear this from
Speaker 2: parents all the time at all different ages that you
Speaker 2: wish you could protect them from everything and be there
Speaker 2: with them every step of the way, but you just can't.
Speaker 2: And I guess now it's how do you explain to
Speaker 2: them that that was fake, that that wasn't real, that
Speaker 2: that's a growing up show where it's acting like I'm assuming.
Speaker 3: That was tomatoesource that What is that what you had
Speaker 3: to do? What was your first step as a parent.
Speaker 3: Did you talk to Matt, your husband, and go, we
Speaker 3: need to talk to them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And my first step with the girls was really reassuring.
Speaker 1: I mean, they live in the safest house, They are
Speaker 1: filled with love, like they are filled with safety. But
Speaker 1: I just I was like, how do you explain to
Speaker 1: them that what's happening on the TV isn't real? How
Speaker 1: do you explain to them that what they've just seen
Speaker 1: is not something that they should have to comprehend it?
Speaker 1: And I guess partly as well, like you want to
Speaker 1: validate that it's okay to be scared of that, because
Speaker 1: I would have been scared too, but it's not real.
Speaker 1: And I guess for me, I just having this experience
Speaker 1: on the weekend, it made me exactly as you said,
Speaker 1: like realize that you can try so hard, like you
Speaker 1: can put all of the safety nets in place, and
Speaker 1: sometimes things can happen that feel beyond your control. But
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that you don't feel incredibly guilty for it.
Speaker 1: And That's what I'm dealing with now, is this, like
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm the failure in that.
Speaker 3: Oh, Gloria, you can't feel that. That's so normal and
Speaker 3: so natural. It's part of growing up. Like you said, Britta,
Speaker 3: I have memories to this day of seeing Pans Labyrinth.
Speaker 3: Nowhere knew what the girls saw, but it's so scary.
Speaker 3: And also all my cousins had all the Goosebumps books
Speaker 3: and the front covers.
Speaker 2: I was scared.
Speaker 3: I would go downstairs in my cousin's house at family
Speaker 3: events and I'd look at these covers and I'd look
Speaker 3: at them and I'd be so terrified, and I would
Speaker 3: lose sleep over them. I didn't tell anyone, and it's
Speaker 3: not my parents fault. I don't think I'm blame my kids,
Speaker 3: So your kids are not going to blame you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And maybe this is the reminder to parents, like
Speaker 1: your kids at some point are going to see things,
Speaker 1: whether it be because they have an older sibling who's
Speaker 1: on an iPad or because you've been on Instagram, and like,
Speaker 1: there's so much that's happening online these days, whether it
Speaker 1: be violence overseas or whatever it is, but it is
Speaker 1: very easy for them to come across something that is
Speaker 1: not age appropriate. And I guess for me, this was
Speaker 1: a real lesson around how much more I guess active
Speaker 1: I have to be and how much more protection kids
Speaker 1: need in terms of like screen time and having that
Speaker 1: being in front of mind.
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, all right, let's get out of here, guys,
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