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Speaker 1: Jersey and Amanda jam Nation. I had an amazing night

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Speaker 1: last night. I launched a charity for a friend of

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Speaker 1: mine called Sophie. I'm an ambassador of this charity. It's

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Speaker 1: called Please Stay Foundation. And I've known Sophie for about

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Speaker 1: fifteen years, and I've known her two girls, Indie and Violet,

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Speaker 1: and I know what she's been through with Indy. Indie

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Speaker 1: is now an incredible eighteen year old, thriving, loving life.

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Speaker 1: But for a number of years there, Indy threatened or

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Speaker 1: tried to take her own life eight or nine times.

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Speaker 1: So hard for Sophie, who had to throw her job

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Speaker 1: in and be pretty much on suicide watch for her daughter.

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Speaker 1: I can't think of anything worse than every night thinking

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Speaker 1: if your child was going to leave you, so hard.

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Speaker 1: So Sophie has started this foundation that Grant's Wishes for Kids,

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Speaker 1: for young adults and adolescents who are in this mental

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Speaker 1: health crisis, and we are in the grip of a crisis.

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Speaker 1: Some of the things that they offer. For example, we

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Speaker 1: met a young woman called Alia who has harmed herself

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Speaker 1: over the years. She now wants to go for job

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Speaker 1: interviews and things and feels that her scars don't represent her,

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Speaker 1: so the foundation is paying for her to have scar

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Speaker 1: removal treatment. One of the crises at the moment is

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Speaker 1: trying to get professional help. Seven hundred dollars to see

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Speaker 1: a psychiatrist. Wow in the if you don't wait for

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Speaker 1: an appointment for months and months and months. And one

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Speaker 1: of the calls to action last night was a mum

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Speaker 1: needed to get her daughter to see the psychiatrist because

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Speaker 1: she needed a medication and the GP can't dispense it.

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Speaker 1: But she didn't have the money for the next appointment.

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Speaker 1: So they are looking to raise We are looking to

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Speaker 1: raise money to be able to fund all this kind

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Speaker 1: of stuff. But a big part of it too is

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Speaker 1: to create a community of people who have lived experience.

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Speaker 1: It was almost like a revival meeting last night. There

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Speaker 1: were mums and family members weeping in the crowd. Was

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Speaker 1: they're hearing these stories and shouts of recognition of the

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Speaker 1: pain everyone's in and how hard it is. And we

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Speaker 1: were talking to a psychiatrist who specializes in adolescent work

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Speaker 1: and she was saying that it's so important just for

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Speaker 1: parents to sit in the pain with their kids, just

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Speaker 1: to talk. And I know it sounds easy, you just talk,

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Speaker 1: but there's so much shame around this, and I was thinking,

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Speaker 1: you know that when we're in a mum's group, we

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Speaker 1: all except that we're novices, we except we don't know

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Speaker 1: what we're doing, and we say, I'm really struggling with this,

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Speaker 1: how's this working for you? Maybe we need to do

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Speaker 1: that again as parents of teenagers, means of adolescents who

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Speaker 1: are struggling. And yes there are experts involved, but even

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Speaker 1: the experts are saying talk to each other that lived

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Speaker 1: experience is stuff that money can't buy, saying to someone

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Speaker 1: this has worked for me, this might work for you.

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Speaker 1: I'm struggling with this. How's this doing for you? But

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Speaker 1: we need to lose our shame and be vulnerable with

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Speaker 1: each other. And that's what this group last night was saying.

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Speaker 1: It wants to be wants to be a community. So

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Speaker 1: I urge you, if you are a corporation looking to

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Speaker 1: align yourself with a charity, if you have money that

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Speaker 1: you would or even a skill set that you think

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Speaker 1: can be offered through a series of wishes for these adolescents,

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Speaker 1: or you're in need of help, please go to the

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Speaker 1: Please Stay Foundation and we'll see what we can do

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Speaker 1: great good work