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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just on answers. Now.

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Speaker 2: Hello, this is doctor Justin Coulson. It's so great to

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Speaker 2: have you joining me for another episode of the Happy

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Speaker 2: Families Podcast today, as we look at the very best bits,

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Speaker 2: the best tips that have come from people in our

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Speaker 2: interviews over the last couple of months. A conversation that

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Speaker 2: I had with Susie O'Brien, she's a reporter, she's an author,

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Speaker 2: and in episode three hundred and fifty four, talking about

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Speaker 2: the juggle and the pressure of being a hands on parent,

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Speaker 2: I was having a chat with her about data that

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Speaker 2: says that surprisingly, we actually have around about twenty percent

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Speaker 2: of our day according to time use surveys, twenty percent

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Speaker 2: of our day is allocated for leisure. I just sort

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Speaker 2: of said, Susie, as parents, what are we doing with it?

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Speaker 2: Where did it come from? But what are we doing

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Speaker 2: with it?

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Speaker 1: We're doing things with and for our kids, And you

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Speaker 1: know what, in some ways that's not a bad thing,

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Speaker 1: but it means that we actually don't have time for

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Speaker 1: anything else, and we're filling our time driving our kids

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Speaker 1: around to places that they could probably get to themselves

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Speaker 1: where not only dropping them off at sporting matches like

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Speaker 1: my parents certainly used to do. My dad used to

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Speaker 1: sit in the Kingswort out the back, you know, about

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Speaker 1: a block away and listen to the Google on the

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Speaker 1: radio because they were like the thought of watching my

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Speaker 1: sister and I for endless hours play sport was just

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Speaker 1: not on his radar. He would have driven home, but

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Speaker 1: we lived on the other side of town. So you know,

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Speaker 1: I think we're filling our days with things that don't

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Speaker 1: necessarily make us happy, but we feel compelled to do

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Speaker 1: these days. And you know, I look at Lego, and

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Speaker 1: that's a really good example. When I was growing up

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Speaker 1: in the seventies and eighties, Lego, you'd get a new

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Speaker 1: box of Lego, you'd think it was Christmas. You'd open

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Speaker 1: it out onto the living room floor. Your parents might

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Speaker 1: swear if they stand on a piece, that's about the

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Speaker 1: extent of their engagement on it. And they would leave

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Speaker 1: us to make our wonky creations. These days, you know,

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Speaker 1: Lego is all branded. You spend two hundred dollars on

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Speaker 1: the Mandalorian X Wing star Fighter whatever they're called, and

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Speaker 1: the parents sit down and they do the Lego with

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Speaker 1: the kids, and there's.

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Speaker 2: Right and the wrong way to do it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know what, the kids aren't happy because

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Speaker 1: they've been told that they're doing it wrong. The parents

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Speaker 1: aren't happy because it's boring, let's face it, and it's

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Speaker 1: expensive and it takes up hours of our time. And

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Speaker 1: when that X wing plane or whatever it's called has

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Speaker 1: been finished eight hours later by the dad, often it

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Speaker 1: goes up on the high shelf because it's too valuable

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Speaker 1: to be played with.

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Speaker 2: That's just nuts.

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Speaker 1: We're giving our kids these lego, but we're not actually

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Speaker 1: letting them.

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Speaker 2: Play with it. That was Susie O'Brien, our conversationalist for

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Speaker 2: episode three hundred and fifty four. Conversationalist, Is that a word? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to take that. Susie is an author, a reporter,

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Speaker 2: and an all round great person to talk to about

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Speaker 2: anything related to parenting and raising kids. I hope you

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Speaker 2: enjoyed that little snippet, that little tidbit of a conversation.

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Speaker 2: To hear the rest of the conversation, episode three hundred

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Speaker 2: fifty four of the podcast. Your daughter just walked by,

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Speaker 2: eyes glued to her phone, expression unreadable. You ask her

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Speaker 2: to put it down. But she balks. You know it's

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Speaker 2: not good for her, but you're not sure why or

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Speaker 2: how to support better choices. In the webinar, pixel perfect

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Speaker 2: I joined with psychologists and teen tech expert Joscelyn Brewer

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Speaker 2: podcast for the time poor parent who just wants answers. Now,

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Speaker 2: just before we wrap things up, if you haven't found

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Speaker 2: dot au. The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin

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