WEBVTT - When They Say "Only YOU Could Pull That Off" 🤔 👗

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and Frooms on CATA. It's time we settle this

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<v Speaker 2>debate once and for all. We're in the mood to

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<v Speaker 2>get a bit spicy. We're in the mood to say

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<v Speaker 2>exactly how we feel, and we're in the mood to

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<v Speaker 2>pick a side of an argument.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I could even the circumstance and no them. When

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<v Speaker 2>someone says to you, only you could pull that off.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it a compliment or is it well and truly

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of a diss And I asked this because

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<v Speaker 2>I saw it on an influencer's Instagram. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if they want to be named, because I think this

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<v Speaker 2>might have been like a personal scenario whatever, But I

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<v Speaker 2>saw it an influencer's TikTok. I could tell that they

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<v Speaker 2>thought that it was a disc but they poled their

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<v Speaker 2>audience and it was pretty much fifty to fifty with

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<v Speaker 2>people saying, Oh, it's definitely a dis It's someone kind

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<v Speaker 2>of finding a way to point out that you look

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<v Speaker 2>different without being rude, without saying what they really think,

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<v Speaker 2>That your shoes are ugly or I don't like your hair.

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<v Speaker 2>Only you could pull that off is what they say.

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<v Speaker 2>But the other half was saying, no, it's an actual

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<v Speaker 2>acknowledgment of the fact that you're wearing something that's daring

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<v Speaker 2>and challenging, and many people wouldn't do that, and it

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<v Speaker 2>takes a certain amount of confidence or conviction to do that. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>before we say whether it's a disc or not a disc,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to understand what do we actually think people

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<v Speaker 2>mean when they say, only you could pull this off?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I feel like we'd be tempted to say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>they're saying exactly what they mean. People never say exactly

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<v Speaker 2>what they do ever, ever, ever, ever, ever in history.

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<v Speaker 2>There's one thing about people. They're going to skirt around

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<v Speaker 2>a phrase to get to the center of what they're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to communicate.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you used the phrase before, girlies, No, babe used

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<v Speaker 1>against me. Oh, we've all been victims to only you

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<v Speaker 1>could pull it's a quirky girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've definitely you've used it. Oh no, it's been

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<v Speaker 2>used on me.

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<v Speaker 1>But you have you used it? No?

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<v Speaker 2>I would never say we like it a simple you

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<v Speaker 2>look good?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I keep it it.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, you're glowing.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, I love this. Today we aways have that from.

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<v Speaker 2>Where is that from?

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<v Speaker 1>It's always I'd never wear it.

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<v Speaker 2>But is it archives or can we go on funny

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<v Speaker 2>class school?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this your old uniform?

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<v Speaker 2>I am tempted to say compliments broadly are rarely used

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<v Speaker 2>for their primary intention. What I mean by that is

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<v Speaker 2>you would think a compliment is just someone acknowledging that

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<v Speaker 2>you look amazing and they want to impart some some

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<v Speaker 2>pleasure into your life for a day, when realistically, I

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<v Speaker 2>think a lot of people use compliments as a social

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<v Speaker 2>lubricant to feel less awkward, to kind of like gain

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<v Speaker 2>social standing. If I compliment you, it means I'm aligning

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<v Speaker 2>with you. It's good for optics if it looks like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on your team and on your side. Some might

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<v Speaker 2>say that's really Ciniston. Nobody thinks that deeply, That's what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. All your best and worst characteristics are subconscious,

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<v Speaker 2>but you just happen to be here. Now, what I

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<v Speaker 2>will say is I think it's a bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>diss but I would always taken as a compliment.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, so you're putting it on its head, yeah, because.

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<v Speaker 2>What like what does it serve me to be like

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<v Speaker 2>someone being like oh like literally like when I used

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<v Speaker 2>to wear heaps of colored wigs and do crazy makeup

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<v Speaker 2>and like really go hectic with the outfit. It was

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<v Speaker 2>the number one compliment, And I get what people were saying, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you are probably the only person I've seen look like

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<v Speaker 2>this where I'm from, and based on how you're presenting it,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you're the only person could pull it off. But

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<v Speaker 2>for me to now challenge what this person is intending

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<v Speaker 2>to be a compliment, I don't have enough hours in

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<v Speaker 2>the day. Just take the compliment and go, Okay, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Quite like a self preservational one.

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<v Speaker 2>Hundred percent, And it's all about self preservation for me anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I take it as like you're running through and dried up.

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<v Speaker 1>Like when someone says that to me, I'm like, you're

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<v Speaker 1>you're basic. Oh you know what I'm saying. It's that

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<v Speaker 1>whole Like I used to I had short hair for

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<v Speaker 1>like my whole life, my whole life since.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like a number one platinum blonde.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that almost bald. That was when I was getting there.

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<v Speaker 1>Only you can pull it off. And they do say

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<v Speaker 1>that it takes a certain type of person to pull

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<v Speaker 1>off a bald head, and I will say I was

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<v Speaker 1>doing it with Stalin Eese. But it's a.

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<v Speaker 2>Difference in saying you look really good with that haircut. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>only you could pull that off, because you're insinuating that

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<v Speaker 2>it's not very good, but you make it look good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's what it's insinuating. I mean, no, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it'd be more savage if I had a really ugly

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<v Speaker 1>haircut and people like only you can pull that off.

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<v Speaker 2>Where it's like, but how do we know, Well, every

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<v Speaker 2>person who loves a mullet, there are people who are like, ill,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a mullet.

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<v Speaker 1>Totally, but the shaved head thing, it's like double layered.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm a woman and like having short hair and

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<v Speaker 1>as a woman is seen as sometimes as like a

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<v Speaker 1>political statement or like was it for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Nah?

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<v Speaker 1>I just I just have like really thing hair. So ah, yeah, said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take the statement. I took it, and I'll took

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take yeah, of course take the statement. Also, I

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<v Speaker 1>understand it because a lot of people, particularly like women,

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<v Speaker 1>have emotional connections to their hair. So I can stand

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<v Speaker 1>how someone's like, that's did you right?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I just know, but you were even saying, like

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<v Speaker 2>going from blonde to brunette.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, that is the blonde to the brunette hair

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<v Speaker 1>generally no, no cut it off. You've been listening to

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