Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: Flex and Frooms on CATA. It's time we settle this
Speaker 2: debate once and for all. We're in the mood to
Speaker 2: get a bit spicy. We're in the mood to say
Speaker 2: exactly how we feel, and we're in the mood to
Speaker 2: pick a side of an argument.
Speaker 1: We're not doing.
Speaker 2: Oh, I could even the circumstance and no them. When
Speaker 2: someone says to you, only you could pull that off.
Speaker 2: Is it a compliment or is it well and truly
Speaker 2: a bit of a diss And I asked this because
Speaker 2: I saw it on an influencer's Instagram. I don't know
Speaker 2: if they want to be named, because I think this
Speaker 2: might have been like a personal scenario whatever, But I
Speaker 2: saw it an influencer's TikTok. I could tell that they
Speaker 2: thought that it was a disc but they poled their
Speaker 2: audience and it was pretty much fifty to fifty with
Speaker 2: people saying, Oh, it's definitely a dis It's someone kind
Speaker 2: of finding a way to point out that you look
Speaker 2: different without being rude, without saying what they really think,
Speaker 2: That your shoes are ugly or I don't like your hair.
Speaker 2: Only you could pull that off is what they say.
Speaker 2: But the other half was saying, no, it's an actual
Speaker 2: acknowledgment of the fact that you're wearing something that's daring
Speaker 2: and challenging, and many people wouldn't do that, and it
Speaker 2: takes a certain amount of confidence or conviction to do that. Now,
Speaker 2: before we say whether it's a disc or not a disc,
Speaker 2: I want to understand what do we actually think people
Speaker 2: mean when they say, only you could pull this off?
Speaker 2: Because I feel like we'd be tempted to say, oh,
Speaker 2: they're saying exactly what they mean. People never say exactly
Speaker 2: what they do ever, ever, ever, ever, ever in history.
Speaker 2: There's one thing about people. They're going to skirt around
Speaker 2: a phrase to get to the center of what they're
Speaker 2: trying to communicate.
Speaker 1: Have you used the phrase before, girlies, No, babe used
Speaker 1: against me. Oh, we've all been victims to only you
Speaker 1: could pull it's a quirky girl.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've definitely you've used it. Oh no, it's been
Speaker 2: used on me.
Speaker 1: But you have you used it? No?
Speaker 2: I would never say we like it a simple you
Speaker 2: look good?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I keep it it.
Speaker 2: Wow, you're glowing.
Speaker 1: Wow, I love this. Today we aways have that from.
Speaker 2: Where is that from?
Speaker 1: It's always I'd never wear it.
Speaker 2: But is it archives or can we go on funny
Speaker 2: class school?
Speaker 1: Is this your old uniform?
Speaker 2: I am tempted to say compliments broadly are rarely used
Speaker 2: for their primary intention. What I mean by that is
Speaker 2: you would think a compliment is just someone acknowledging that
Speaker 2: you look amazing and they want to impart some some
Speaker 2: pleasure into your life for a day, when realistically, I
Speaker 2: think a lot of people use compliments as a social
Speaker 2: lubricant to feel less awkward, to kind of like gain
Speaker 2: social standing. If I compliment you, it means I'm aligning
Speaker 2: with you. It's good for optics if it looks like
Speaker 2: I'm on your team and on your side. Some might
Speaker 2: say that's really Ciniston. Nobody thinks that deeply, That's what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. All your best and worst characteristics are subconscious,
Speaker 2: but you just happen to be here. Now, what I
Speaker 2: will say is I think it's a bit of a
Speaker 2: diss but I would always taken as a compliment.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so you're putting it on its head, yeah, because.
Speaker 2: What like what does it serve me to be like
Speaker 2: someone being like oh like literally like when I used
Speaker 2: to wear heaps of colored wigs and do crazy makeup
Speaker 2: and like really go hectic with the outfit. It was
Speaker 2: the number one compliment, And I get what people were saying, Yes,
Speaker 2: you are probably the only person I've seen look like
Speaker 2: this where I'm from, and based on how you're presenting it,
Speaker 2: maybe you're the only person could pull it off. But
Speaker 2: for me to now challenge what this person is intending
Speaker 2: to be a compliment, I don't have enough hours in
Speaker 2: the day. Just take the compliment and go, Okay, that's.
Speaker 1: Quite like a self preservational one.
Speaker 2: Hundred percent, And it's all about self preservation for me anyway.
Speaker 1: I take it as like you're running through and dried up.
Speaker 1: Like when someone says that to me, I'm like, you're
Speaker 1: you're basic. Oh you know what I'm saying. It's that
Speaker 1: whole Like I used to I had short hair for
Speaker 1: like my whole life, my whole life since.
Speaker 2: It was like a number one platinum blonde.
Speaker 1: Now that almost bald. That was when I was getting there.
Speaker 1: Only you can pull it off. And they do say
Speaker 1: that it takes a certain type of person to pull
Speaker 1: off a bald head, and I will say I was
Speaker 1: doing it with Stalin Eese. But it's a.
Speaker 2: Difference in saying you look really good with that haircut. Yeah,
Speaker 2: only you could pull that off, because you're insinuating that
Speaker 2: it's not very good, but you make it look good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what it's insinuating. I mean, no, I think
Speaker 1: it'd be more savage if I had a really ugly
Speaker 1: haircut and people like only you can pull that off.
Speaker 2: Where it's like, but how do we know, Well, every
Speaker 2: person who loves a mullet, there are people who are like, ill,
Speaker 2: it's a mullet.
Speaker 1: Totally, but the shaved head thing, it's like double layered.
Speaker 1: Because I'm a woman and like having short hair and
Speaker 1: as a woman is seen as sometimes as like a
Speaker 1: political statement or like was it for you?
Speaker 2: Nah?
Speaker 1: I just I just have like really thing hair. So ah, yeah, said,
Speaker 1: I'll take the statement. I took it, and I'll took
Speaker 1: I'll take yeah, of course take the statement. Also, I
Speaker 1: understand it because a lot of people, particularly like women,
Speaker 1: have emotional connections to their hair. So I can stand
Speaker 1: how someone's like, that's did you right?
Speaker 2: No, I just know, but you were even saying, like
Speaker 2: going from blonde to brunette.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that is the blonde to the brunette hair
Speaker 1: generally no, no cut it off. You've been listening to
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