WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Free the Nip, Take the Dip! 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:12.680 This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:14.560 welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:16.760 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is. 0:00:16.800 --> 0:00:19.680 Us gun cut, where we will answered you're dark and 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:22.919 you're burning questions. However, there is something that I think 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:24.759 will live rent free in my head for the rest 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:29.360 of my life, like my Roman Empire. I cannot and 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:33.600 will not stop thinking about the video of Timothy challow 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:37.720 May and Kylie Jenner at the Indian Wells Open or 0:00:37.720 --> 0:00:40.599 whatever it's called, the tennis match. If you haven't seen it, 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:42.959 we are putting it on our social media right now. 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:45.760 In fact, to be up there, I have never seen 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:49.240 something more uncomfortable in my life. So okay, if you 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:51.640 haven't seen this already, it's making the rounds online. But 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:55.920 Kylie Jenner, who great love love their relationship, think they're adorable. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:59.120 She leans over to kiss him, and she's trying to 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:00.880 kiss him. I think it's for a camera. I think 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.160 someone's taking a video because there's a camera in the corner. 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:06.120 They also they know that they're constantly on camera wherever 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.480 they go. Every time they're in public, they are constantly 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.720 being watched, especially at a big tennis tour. 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:13.560 Is why Timothy Shalla Maye needs to control his face. 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:17.039 He can't control his face. He looks he looks so disinterested. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:20.800 But it's just there's so many different mixed body language 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:22.640 things that are going on, and I just can't I 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:23.480 don't know what's happening. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:25.880 I have some thoughts. Basically, if you haven't seen it, 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:29.000 Kylie's trying to kiss Timothy in the middle of this 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:32.760 huge match with Holgaroon and Ugo Unbird or whatever. 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:34.960 His name is, so at lafeon cut podcast because we'll 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:36.440 be on our Instagram. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:39.640 And he Timothy doesn't look like he wants to kiss 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:43.160 her in that moment. It's very awkward. But what I 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:45.880 will say is I understand both sides. She's trying to 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.640 kiss him and put on this united front because there's 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:52.320 very obviously a paparazzi or a cameraman that's right in 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:54.160 front of them that is filming them. She's seen that 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.520 and she probably knows, hey, let's just put on like 0:01:57.560 --> 0:01:59.720 this united front because if they just sit there looking so, 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:02.240 there'll be a story about them having a fight and 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:04.880 hating each other. So she's tried to kiss him, but 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.160 it's in the middle of a point, you can hear 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:10.400 that the game is still going, it's not between sets. 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:14.120 And there's a forensic lip reader that has come out 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:17.200 and said they know I was really invested. They know 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:20.320 exactly what they were saying to each other. So what 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:22.400 they were saying is and Timothy, apparently I love that. 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:23.960 I thought it liver and free in my head, but 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:26.600 clearly in yours more, I love that. A forensic lip 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:29.280 reader is a job. How do you become forensic? 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:33.080 It's really common now. Every single time there is a 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:36.200 red carpet for anything in the world, there are forensic 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:38.359 lipreaders that are employed to see what they're saying on 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:38.880 the carpet. 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.799 What distinguishes the difference between a lip reader and a 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.120 forensic lip reader, I. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:43.560 Can't be sure. 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:44.320 Rhyme. 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:47.440 Usually they lend themselves to important things, like, you know, 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:50.560 fighting crime, but in this case, no, so things we 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:51.200 care about. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:51.919 Okay. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:55.880 So first of all, Timothy says, wait a minute, love. 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.239 That's what he says to her. He says, wait a minute, love. 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.120 And because you can tell he's kissing right with his lips, 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.000 but his eyes are on the court, like he's not 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.359 giving her any attention. He says, wait a minute, love, 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:10.359 and then she says eye contact. This is allegedly sorry 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:15.160 eye contact. Then he responded, go on, yum. 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.760 Yep, that's not what he said. 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:21.560 Then then when he sits back and she starts to 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:23.800 rub his tummy, he says ol and she says are 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:27.320 you okay? And he says, no problem, I'm good, don't 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:31.040 worry about it. Then he says to her watch the point. 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:35.120 Watch the point. So he's literally just trying to say, babe, 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.880 like I fucking love you, let's do this after the tennis. 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:41.000 I'm so invested in the tennis, so it's really awkward 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:42.400 to watch and I hate watching it. I have to 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.840 turn it off. But I understand both sides. 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:46.760 At first, because like he's super locked in right, and 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:48.360 at first I was like, oh, he could have just 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.520 turned and gave her a quick kiss and back to tennis. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:52.880 But then what I don't understand is when she didn't 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.360 get that, why did she start rubbing his tummy. 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:58.400 It's such a weird thing for someone to. 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:02.160 Be sitting next to you and start rubbing their barely. 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:05.160 I cannot have one time that I've rubbed someone's belly, 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:09.480 especially in public, especially after they've just rejected my advance 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:12.280 for like a kiss, because they're doing something that is 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:13.040 clearly important. 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.720 Also, I do like that she seems completely oblivious to it. 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:19.000 She's just smiling and happily, like waltzing through the whole thing. 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.839 I wonder how she must feel today we've all been rejected. 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:24.160 I think she couldn't kive a fuck today. She's a 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:26.840 billionaire who's living her best life. I don't think she cares. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:30.599 I wonder how Timmy's tummy's going. It's good luck. 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.080 No, the tummy thing doesn't bother me. I think she's 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:35.480 just a physical affection person. I would probably do the 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.680 same to Ben. I don't think she's rubbing his tummy 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:40.440 like get better. She's just putting her hand and being affectionate. 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:42.120 I don't care about that part. I care about the 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:43.880 part where he's trying not to kiss her and she's 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.599 like forcing his face back to her, and he's pulling 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:47.960 away and she's pushing it back. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:51.200 It's very hard to watch, but well, I hope that 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:53.160 we all enjoyed it as much as I did, because, 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:54.920 like I said, I'll be thinking about it for a 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:57.039 very long time before we get into your question. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.960 So let's do our vibes and unsubscribes of the week. 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.599 My vibe this week is a new Netflix series. It's 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:05.880 called Running Point. I don't know if you've seen it. 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:09.880 I absolutely loved it. So it's Kate Hudson. I don't 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:12.200 know if you've seen it advertised. It's basically about a 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:15.680 basketball team in America. It's did you guys ever watch 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.680 ted Lasso? You remember years ago I recommended ted Lasso, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:23.720 which is this really feel good series, comedy series about football. 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:26.520 This is the same kind of a thing, but about basketball, 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.960 and long story short, Kate Hudson has taken over this 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:33.960 basketball team. It's purely like a male dominated industry. It's 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:37.840 a man's world and it's about the family dynamics between them, 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:42.080 but also running of this team. I saw it advertised 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:43.760 and I thought it was going to be really cringey. 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.280 It's so good. It is so funny, it is so 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:50.080 feel good. It's filmed really well. I feel like a 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:53.360 lot of shows that these streamers churn out lately seem 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.560 to be done really quickly with low budgets, But this 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.760 felt like I was watching a movie at the cinemas, 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.599 Like it's really high quality. If you ever watched New Girl, 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:04.039 which I loved was a series of very long running 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.800 series in America. One of the main actors from that 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:08.360 is in it too, and I haven't seen him in 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.920 a while. But it's just brilliant. I loved it. Kate 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:14.080 Hudson was brilliant. Her comedic timing is amazing. 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:16.279 I'm interested to hear this because I saw some chatter 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:19.480 about this online and it was getting really bad commentary. 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:20.680 Like, I loved it. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.279 Interesting because Mindy Kayling was one of the creators. 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:24.719 She is the creator and producer. 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:26.800 Yeah, which I thought was interesting with the timing of 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:29.359 the whole Meghan show, you know, like get Mindy on 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:31.960 Megan show, because she's also got this other Netflix you know, 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:33.400 everyone's in the Netflix family. 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:35.480 And well, Mindy even came out and said, like anything 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.840 that she does that involves Megan, obviously and understandably absolutely 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:40.600 blows up. So she's like, if she wants to do 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.960 cross promotion, it makes sense. 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:42.440 Yeah. 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:44.160 Yeah, I loved it. I loved it. So it's called 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:46.600 Running Point. It's just a very easy watch. You're not 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.799 going to learn anything, but like it's not a docu series. 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.599 It's just a lot of fun, right, up my alley 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:53.440 my vibe this week. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.359 Did you guys ever get on the match A train? 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:56.720 Yes? Did you? 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:57.400 Yeah? 0:06:57.400 --> 0:06:59.160 And then I got off it real quick, Okay, because 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:00.479 I've never been able to get into it. 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:02.560 I'm told it's got all these health benefits and it's 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:05.040 all good for you because it's all like green tea extract, 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:07.120 But for me, it's just always tasted too much like 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:08.120 lawn mower clippings. 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.200 Oh it's not for me either, Kisha. 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:13.240 You ordered it on the weekend when we went to lunch, Yeah, no, 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:14.160 but I didn't. 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:14.640 Like that one. 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.040 And this is actually quite interesting that you say that, 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.560 because I've been trying to get myself into it and 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.160 I found this product from Tea too. It is salted 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:26.320 much a milkshake powder, So basically it's a much a powder. 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.680 I guess that they have added a bit of this 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.880 salted caramel toffee flavoring too. 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:35.440 It's not Matcha, well, it is much, but it's got 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:36.080 kind of like a. 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:39.200 Little addition to it that takes away a little bit 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:41.840 of that bitterness, and it doesn't make it sweet, Like 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.800 the overall flavor is definitely not sweet, but for me, 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:48.640 it makes it palatable instead of it being really really grassy, 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:50.400 because we went to lunch last week and I was like, oh, 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:52.480 I'm new on this march a train, but why do you. 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:54.560 Keep trying to drink something that you don't actually like 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.320 because it's got good stuff in it for you? It's 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.000 like totally yeah. 0:07:58.040 --> 0:07:59.960 But you could also just get like a green soup 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.239 powder that you can put in anything it tastes delicious. 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:03.880 You don't have to force yourself to have the mucho 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.480 if you don't want a giche, like if you don't 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:08.400 like it, you don't have to add salted caramel to 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:09.000 it too. Well. 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:10.000 I like this one. 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:12.160 So I have actually been having this for the past 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.680 two weeks every morning, and it's palatable to me. 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:19.960 So it's not palatable. It's not even good, it's just palatable. 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:23.320 You can force yourself to drink healthy things you don't 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:24.600 want as well if you. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:25.880 Want to just get it down. 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.920 People who are drinking that, what is it? It's like 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:34.680 a sea something like a sea kelp thing in the morning. 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:35.200 I don't know. 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:37.120 I've been watching. 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:38.559 There's like a few influencers who like drink their sea 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.160 kelp and they literally look like they're about to gag 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.080 and vomit every time they do it, and I'm like, 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:45.199 it's okay, it's okay to not drink every health thing 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:45.800 out there. 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:48.280 If it tastes awful, you don't have to do it 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:48.920 on the weekend. 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:51.199 They're just doing cocaine and putting all these other stuff 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:52.280 into their body. 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:54.800 But you have to have my seaweed. Yeah, that's a 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:59.199 take them a plants. Same help anyway. 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:02.000 Well, anyway, if you want to try and get yourself 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:03.920 on the march to train, but like me, you haven't 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:06.479 quite been able to make the jump because it's too grassy, 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:09.800 I recommend this one. It is from Tea two. It's 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.560 not the cheapest. The smallest tin is thirty eight dollars, 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:14.720 so like, it's not a massive outlay, but yeah, salted 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.840 much of milkshake flavored green tea powder. 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:19.839 I'm currently enjoying it. 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.719 And I'm currently sort of enjoying it that Keisha is 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.800 fighting palatable. I have a recommendation for anyone who owns 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:28.800 their own business and is looking to scale their business 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:33.000 or is like actually very much working on the trajectory 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:36.080 of getting more people onto their websites, growing their organic 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:39.719 growth and also growing their paid growth. So we use 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:41.719 a website. And I was thinking about this last night 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.319 because we use it all the time, and I was like, oh, 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:46.559 this is actually a great vibe for anyone who is 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.480 either a small business or an established business. So it's 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:52.520 called similar Web. Now anyone can go on and use 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:55.160 similar Web. You could just use it because you're curious, 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.959 but it's particularly great if you're trying to do market 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:01.360 research based on other brands or brands to the brand 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:04.040 that you have. And basically what you do is you 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:06.280 go on them you type in. So for example, I 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:08.679 can type in Tony May, and then I can type 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:12.160 in by Charlotte, I can type in Temple of the Sun, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:16.280 I can type in Francesca, and I can compare traffic 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:19.000 flow to my website based on all the traffic flow 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:22.040 to all my competitive websites. I know how long people 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.760 are spending on their pages, how many pages they've seen, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.200 how many hundreds of thousands of people have been to 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:28.640 the website in a month's time. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:30.520 So you can tell how many people are going to 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:32.640 your website versus like a competitive website. 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:36.120 Absolutely so, because basically anytime you visit a website, your 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.480 IP address is tracked, and that's how all that information 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:43.000 is public information, so it's really great if you want 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.880 to look at, for example, you might have really high 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:49.160 clickthrough and really high product engagement, but you might not 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.760 have very good organic growth for example, so you can 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.720 compare where you sit to other brands. So it gives 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:58.080 you a really clear understanding of the pillars that you 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.600 need to work on in order to better improve your 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.280 traffic flow to your website. It also gives you a 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.400 really good understanding of where you sit in the market 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:09.280 against your competitors, because you might think, oh, they're doing 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:12.240 so much better than me, and look online and they 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:15.240 have fifty thousand less people to their website per month 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.920 than what you have. So it really is such a 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.080 great gauge for figuring out where you sit in the 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:23.240 market and the areas that you need to put some 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.360 focus into and work better on. In terms of subscriptions 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:28.360 and stuff for it, so like you can pay but 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:31.320 it's quite expensive, whereas they have a free user, so 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.720 I don't pay for it at all, and that still 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.400 that gives you loads of accessibilities. So even if you 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:39.800 don't pay for it, it's very very very worthwhile tool. 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:41.400 For sure, sounds great. 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:43.880 Let's get into the questions. 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.120 Question number one, I want to do a nudy swim, 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:49.800 but my boyfriend's against it. Hear me out. I live 0:11:49.840 --> 0:11:52.360 in Hobart and every year there is a really big 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:55.640 nud to swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.960 to register, there's no photography allowed. You all wear robes 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:01.480 and swim caps, drop them then running into the water 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.360 really quickly. Of course there's a lot of nudity, that's 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:07.560 the whole point, but it's absolutely freezing, so it's not 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:10.320 like everyone's hanging around stark naked looking at each other. 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:12.800 I told my partner that I want to participate in 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:15.600 the swim this year, and it did not go down well. 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:20.199 He believes that it's a perverse event, just full of perverts. 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:22.880 He doesn't really understand why it has to be nude, 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:25.079 Like why can't you just go and do a swim 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:27.280 to celebrate, which I sort of also get, like you 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:29.640 could just go and do a normal swim. He doesn't 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.840 understand why I would quote put myself in a situation 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:36.120 with purves and to parade myself like meet in front 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:36.840 of lions. 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:38.720 That was just wow, it's bittraumatic. 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:43.160 I find this language incredibly shaming. I'm sorry, I'm only 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.200 laughing because the quote, Like, I just can't imagine a 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:47.120 man saying that, Like why would you put yourself as 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:49.080 meet in front of lions, Like it's just a swim. 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:53.080 I find it incredibly shaming. It furthers the sexualization of 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.720 female's bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:58.640 for going ahead and doing it regardless of his feelings 0:12:58.679 --> 0:12:59.680 and his attitude? 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:01.280 Nah, you're not Nashole. 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:02.599 Like I mean, if you want to go for a 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:04.840 Nudi swim because you think it's liberating, you don't have 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:07.280 to ask for your partner's permission. You're not doing anything 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:10.280 wrong in that case, like by any means, I mean. 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:11.720 It will depends on the circumstance. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.760 You will have to like deal, Yeah, I mean, if 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.800 you're going for a Nudi swim with some random DUDEIA 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:19.839 met at a nightclubbe mean at midnight, sure, But if it's 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.200 like an organized event, there's like seventy year old women 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.280 out there doing it, I don't you know. I think 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.000 he's sexualizing an event that's not a sexual event. 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:29.199 That's like a hymn problem. 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:31.240 But I also think if you can explain to him 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.640 the reasons why you want to do it. Maybe you 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.440 think it's liberating, whatever it is, like, it's something that 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.040 puts outside your comfort zone that you. 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:38.880 Want to be involved in. 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:43.000 But his version of it, like what he has presumed 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.040 is in his head, seems to be a bit of 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:48.400 a twisted kind of reality based on what actually is. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.520 I mean, two minds about it, because I agree with 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:54.280 everything that you just said, Laura, absolutely, but I've always 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.200 said that it is something where you need to take 0:13:57.280 --> 0:14:00.320 partner's feelings into consideration. Now that doesn't mean you have 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:02.760 to do what they say, but it means you need 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:05.040 to have a conversation where you say, hey, I totally 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:08.040 understand what you're saying, why it makes you uncomfortable, but 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:09.560 this is why it's important to me, or this is 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:11.080 why I want to do it, Like I think it's 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.720 the conversation. I do think it's important. Like if Ben 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:15.040 came to me and said he wanted to go and 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:17.240 do something nude, I would say, Okay, cool, what is it? 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:21.000 Why do you want to do it? And in all honesty, 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.760 of course, this isn't a perverted event. It's an event 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.040 that everyone does every year. Having said that, if I 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.680 was a pervert. I would be looking up these events, 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:31.240 and that's where I'd go. If I wanted to be 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:33.200 a PERV, I would go to a NEWD event. That's 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:34.760 what I do. So I don't want to say there's 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:36.600 not going to be a PERV there. Maybe there is, 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.840 like it checks out, but obviously that's not what the 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:43.200 event is. I don't imagine there's going to be that 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:45.920 many people lingering around nude having a cup of tea after. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:47.880 I think it's going to be so quick you'd barely 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:51.000 see it. Robes are off, you're freezing, you run into 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.120 the water, you're underwater, you run out, you put your 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:54.960 robe on. I think, go for it, but you do 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:56.720 have to take your part in the feelings at least 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:57.880 into consideration a little bit. 0:14:58.000 --> 0:14:58.360 I don't know. 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.920 I mean, I question. I think the PERF to normal 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.680 people ratio is going to be pretty slim. 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:05.080 It is, the ratio is going to be. There's more 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:06.600 pervs just out of the beach anyway. 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:09.120 But if you're a PERV, laws you're going to go 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:10.760 to the new events, right, You're going to look up 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:13.200 new events. Everyone in the room knows that's true. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.480 Look, I mean, I don't I think maybe because I 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.360 don't think it's a big deal, and I think it's 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:20.560 weird to have such adverse reactions around it. Like to me, 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.360 there's like this kind of like sense of ownership and insecurity, 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:26.240 and I think that that's kind of what you're getting 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:29.480 to when you say that it further sexualizes female bodies 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:30.280 in a negative way. 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:31.840 Am I the aursehole for going aheab? 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:35.280 You don't need permission to do things that you want 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:38.160 to do that have you know, an r about your body. 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:40.040 If it's going to upset him, you can have a 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.680 conversation with him, and then if you're willing to and 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:43.520 you want to, you. 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:45.960 Have to deal with that upset ask for forgiveness. 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:47.680 You don't have to ask for permission, you know, Like 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.320 not everyone approaches their relationship that way, But I don't 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:50.840 know if that's. 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.640 The best way to approach relationship. 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:57.920 But sometimes sometimes I guess what I'm saying is like, obviously, 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:00.200 don't do it with things that like deeply imp at 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:03.080 your relationship. But when it's things like this, I think 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:05.080 that he's being a little bit controlling to say that, 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:09.240 and his reaction to this, the way he's using words 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.640 like put yourself in a situation with pervs and parade 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.720 yourself like meet in front of lions. He is creating 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:19.240 something that this isn't Like the shame comes in him saying, it's. 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:20.640 You parading yourself. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:23.880 You're behaving in a way that's like not conducive to 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:26.400 being faithful within the relationship. Like there's a lot of 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:29.800 accusatory tone in that without him even realizing that he's 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.920 being accusatory. And that's because his perception of this is 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.280 not the reality. So I just think it's a lot 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.920 of conversations around it. But also ultimately, if you want 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:39.320 to go and do it and it's something that you 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:42.640 think is fun and wild and whatever, like, go and 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:44.600 do it, Go and do it, and then deal with 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:47.400 the consequences of his weird ass reactions afterwards. 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.200 I don't agree. I don't think go and do it 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:50.720 and deal with it later. I still think you need 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:53.920 to have the conversation, and I give him the benefit 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:57.840 of the doubt. I don't think he realizes come watch. 0:16:57.720 --> 0:16:58.520 You can be the perv. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:00.800 Come with me, yeah, fully clothed, and. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:02.560 Watch me run down and jump in a creek and 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:03.960 get out like eyes. 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:07.200