1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast, It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,440 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers now. 3 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 2: In each of those moments, I was reminded of just 4 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 2: how amazing these three individuals are and yet how vulnerable 5 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 2: they are. 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum 7 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: and dad. 8 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 3: I don't know if we've ever had so much feedback 9 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 3: on a podcast as we got yesterday the conversation about 10 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 3: Barbie Has. They all came from your style simply yes, 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 3: my stuff were very excited. What's fascinating to me about this, Kylie, 12 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:42,959 Speaker 3: is there are so many people who are angry about Barbie, 13 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 3: but they haven't watched it or there I don't know 14 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 3: clinging this some political position. I'm pretty non politically oriented. 15 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 3: I just want people to be good to each other 16 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 3: and know who they are. And to me, that movie 17 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 3: said that didn't have everything about it. I was pretty 18 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 3: clear about that, but it's a movie that gets you thinking. 19 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 3: Why sit there and watch something mindless when you can 20 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 3: actually watch something that makes you think. And I'm just 21 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 3: I'm so grateful that we've got so many positive messages. 22 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 3: There are a few people who weren't positive about it 23 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 3: at that time. I'm okay with that. A couple of 24 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 3: people also said, Oppenheimer, we'd like to know what you 25 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 3: thought we need to talk about Oppenheimer. Wasn't it good 26 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 3: to see that? 27 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? It was great. 28 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 3: Okay, we're out of time. You know what that ship 29 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 3: has sailed. It's worth watch. It's an incredible story. Christ 30 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 3: Nolan's brilliant. But let's just let's just let Oppenheimer be 31 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 3: because this is a parenting podcast. It's not a movie 32 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 3: review podcast. And we reviewed Barbie and talked about that 33 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 3: at length on Fridays, though, you and I Kylie review 34 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 3: the week. What happened this week? How did it go? 35 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 3: How are we going as parents? What can we do 36 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 3: to be better? We call it all do better tomorrow 37 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 3: because we want to be the best parents that we 38 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 3: can be every single day. Unfortunately that doesn't happen, and 39 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 3: so what we do is get a bit introspective and 40 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 3: a bit intentional. I'm going to go first this week 41 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 3: because my one's really quick and really easy. For about 42 00:01:57,120 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 3: three months, you've been telling me to get rid of 43 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 3: all those ten cent bottles cans, you know, the ones 44 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 3: that you save for the recycling, and you're stick them 45 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 3: out somewhere and just hope that eventually you'll be able 46 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 3: to take them to the recycling depot and get ten 47 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 3: cents for each one and just to be really increased, 48 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 3: make some real money. 49 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:13,839 Speaker 4: We don't have a garage. You put them. 50 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 3: I put them around the corner behind the car port, 51 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 3: near the shed where nobody can see them. 52 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 4: And you know, you just when your house is in 53 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:26,359 Speaker 4: an order, even if you can't see it, you can 54 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 4: just feel the energy. I just every time I walk 55 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 4: around there, there's just chaos. 56 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 3: I'm starting a new collection. I took Emily on what 57 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 3: was it Saturday morning? We finally got it all together. 58 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 3: We took all the cans and all the bottles down there. 59 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 3: They broke as we lift up the bags because they've 60 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 3: been out there for so long that the weather they've deteriorated, 61 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 3: and there were bottles and cans everywhere we get there. 62 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 3: You're supposed to take the lids off. Didn't know that, 63 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:52,359 Speaker 3: so we're trying to take off all the lids. They're 64 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 3: getting cranky atus because we're taking up the space and 65 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 3: they need to bring other people through, and we're like, 66 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 3: oh sorry, we're doing the best we can. We ended 67 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 3: up with about fifty bucks worth of bottles and cans. 68 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 3: We had just over five hundred bottles and cans out there. 69 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 3: Here's the problem. They tried to give me the money 70 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 3: and it didn't transfer. We spent half an hour playing 71 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 3: around with the app and all that sort of stuff, 72 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 3: and they're like, Oh, I don't know, it'll go into 73 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 3: the bank. It'll be fine, it'll go in. Never went in. 74 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 3: Never went in. So I haven't told Emily, and I 75 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 3: just gave her the money because she's been saving up 76 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 3: all these bottles and cans for so long. But I'm 77 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 3: fifty bucks down as a result of the collection thing 78 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 3: just not working. Can't believe it. So we've started saving again, Kylie. 79 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 3: We've started getting a whole lot more of those bottles 80 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 3: and cans, and I think we're up to about thirty. 81 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 3: When there's another five hundred, we'll try again and hopefully 82 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 3: this time we'll actually get paid. But that was my 83 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 3: old about it tomorrow. Oh and on the way back up, 84 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 3: got her and her sister who joined us a hot 85 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 3: chocolate and we had a nice, just good quality. She 86 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 3: was so excited. She's like, Dad, if you're buying me 87 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 3: a hot chocolate at the cafe. Does that mean this 88 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,119 Speaker 3: is a daddy daughter date? Like, she was so excited 89 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 3: and it felt so good, And I thought she. 90 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 2: Melked it that day because her big sister asked her 91 00:03:57,800 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 2: if she'd go to the beach with her while they 92 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 2: walked to the door, and she said, is this going 93 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 2: to be a sister's sister date. 94 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 3: After another treat? And she said, yeah, I. 95 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 2: Guess so, And she said, will you buy me an 96 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 2: ice cream? 97 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 3: That's so funny. This nine year old knows how to 98 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 3: work the system. So that's my older better tomorrow. Just 99 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:17,839 Speaker 3: the small things hanging out in the car for a 100 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 3: few minutes, playing around at the stinky bottle recycling place, 101 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 3: and then going for a hot chocolate. Really simple things, 102 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 3: but it makes such a difference. Memories, fun togetherness, connection time. 103 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 3: Had many of those moments over the last little while 104 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 3: and just wanted to share that one as an example 105 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 3: of it. That is my older better tomorrow. 106 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 4: Well, I'm glad you get to have sunshines with unicorns 107 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 4: and rainbow. 108 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 3: Tell me about your older better tomorrow. 109 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 2: Well, I actually had a really beautiful experience with one 110 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 2: of our daughters. I had to take her to an 111 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 2: appointment and in the process of that appointment, I just 112 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 2: I was able to kind of see with new eyes 113 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 2: the challenges that she was going through, and it was 114 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 2: a really really beautiful moment coming home. As the evening 115 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 2: wore on, there was just I could just see there 116 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 2: was some emotion there and a need for kind of connection, 117 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 2: and so I was able to kind of wrap her 118 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 2: up in my arms in my bed and we sat 119 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 2: there and we had a beautiful connective chat together, and 120 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 2: before she left, we said a little prayer and I 121 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,040 Speaker 2: gave her some oils specifically for her and sent her 122 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 2: off to bed, and it was just really calm. 123 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 4: Well, the next thing you. 124 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 2: Know, I've got the next daughter who's having a bit 125 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 2: of a meltdown, and so we had to go through 126 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 2: the same process with her. But now it's like, I 127 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 2: don't know, quarter past nine, I'm really ready for bed. 128 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 2: You have been traveling all week, and I'm doing this 129 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 2: all alone. I've got Miss nine who's walking around the 130 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 2: house because she is consistently procrastinating bedtime, and she shares 131 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 2: a whole heap of challenges that she's going through at 132 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 2: the moment and not sure how to kind of work 133 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 2: through them. And so we deal with that little meltdown, 134 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 2: and again we say little prayer and we have some oils, 135 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 2: and then the next door comes through the door and 136 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 2: we start all over again. And so much of it 137 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 2: is exhausting, So much of it is draining, like mentally, 138 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 2: physically and spiritually, even like it just a drain on 139 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 2: my being. And yet in each of those moments, I 140 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 2: was reminded of just how amazing these three individuals are, 141 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 2: and how strong and capable they are, and yet how 142 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 2: vulnerable they are. And you can be all of those 143 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 2: things in the same breath. And so my odd deal 144 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: bed tomorrow is just when we take the time to 145 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 2: slow down and actually really connect with our kids, we 146 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,159 Speaker 2: see them for who they really are, instead of seeing 147 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 2: them for the challenges that they bring into our lives. 148 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 2: We actually get to see their brilliance. And I was 149 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 2: so grateful for that, because when life is busy, you 150 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 2: can really just get caught up in the challenge of everything. 151 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 2: But to be able to have those moments with them 152 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 2: was really special. 153 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 3: It's the highs and lows, isn't it. It's the roller 154 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 3: coaster of parenting, literally in the same moment. It's not 155 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 3: like you go from moment to moment one is high 156 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 3: and one is low. This moment is both so low 157 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 3: because my child is struggling so much and so high 158 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 3: because my child has come to me to say I 159 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 3: need talk. 160 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 4: And I think that's what I relished. 161 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 2: I just was this acknowledgment that there was so much 162 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 2: big emotion going on for all of them, and yet 163 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: they knew where to come. Yeah, and I'm so grateful 164 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 2: that in spite of that challenge, that they see me 165 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 2: as a place that's safe, that they're able to come 166 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 2: and just find the love and connection and acceptance that 167 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 2: they need in that moment. 168 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 3: A little bit of a shorter I'll do better tomorrow, 169 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 3: the novel, the shorter podcast and all, but really one 170 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 3: take home message and one alone, I think, and that 171 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 3: is be there for the kids. Tim is how they 172 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 3: spell LV. The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin 173 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 3: Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. 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