Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and when you get your shit together all right?
Speaker 2: Huh, Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of
Speaker 2: Lack on Cut.
Speaker 3: And by another episode, I mean this is the first
Speaker 3: episode of season two and we're back, baby, Welcome to
Speaker 3: season two. Guys, back in town. Girls, A.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm trying to harmonize.
Speaker 3: I don't know what you were trying to do. I
Speaker 3: think we should both stop it though. That was Brittany
Speaker 3: and I'm Laura, And it is wonderful to be back
Speaker 3: behind these microphones and talking to y'all.
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you are new to the scene and to
Speaker 4: life uncut, welcome And this is probably the best decision
Speaker 4: you'll make this year.
Speaker 3: It's not many days of this year so far as
Speaker 3: the best decision you made so far. And to all
Speaker 3: our og listeners, it's so nice to be able to
Speaker 3: be back and bring you a brand spanking new episode
Speaker 3: from a brand spanking new studio.
Speaker 1: Actually, also, there's a lot of room for activities in here.
Speaker 3: Just don't do anything too crazy, keep your hands and
Speaker 3: legs under the table.
Speaker 4: So we are sorry that we have had so much
Speaker 4: time off. We do realize there's been a few months
Speaker 4: between seasons.
Speaker 3: Been almost three months. Yeah, where have you been just
Speaker 3: keeping a child alive? She's been a child alive. Yeah,
Speaker 3: she's kicking along. Actually, she's crawling. Now that's a big thing.
Speaker 3: It's very annoying, that's what it is, because.
Speaker 4: Now you can't just plunk her in the corner some
Speaker 4: of those things where you get so excited that your
Speaker 4: baby's developing and that they're hitting a milestone, and then
Speaker 4: all of a sudden you're like, oh, I wish you
Speaker 4: were a blob again, because this is a lot more.
Speaker 3: To deal with than what it used to be. But
Speaker 3: you know what, amazing and I am thoroughly enjoying each
Speaker 3: step of the of the ride.
Speaker 1: But what else have you been doing?
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 1: I think last time we spoke, you went to Europe.
Speaker 3: I went to Europe. You went to Mexico. We had
Speaker 3: some bougie holidays.
Speaker 4: You just ate heaps of a croissants and I ate
Speaker 4: heaps of tacos, and we just came back and then
Speaker 4: we've had Christmas and New Year's and the whole rest
Speaker 4: of twenty nineteen happened, and now here we are twenty twenty,
Speaker 4: bringing that big twenty twenty energy. Yeah, so, Laura, you
Speaker 4: and I have just literally caught up now and you've
Speaker 4: gotten back this morning from Molly Mork and you were
Speaker 4: caught in the fires over years.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad to have you back safe. But what happened.
Speaker 3: I grew up down south and so we were going
Speaker 3: to have a family holiday and it ended in the
Speaker 3: worst bush fires that we've ever seen. As everyone is
Speaker 3: so aware of and we've all been watching it play
Speaker 3: out on the news. We got a warning on New
Speaker 3: Year's Eve, and the New Year's Eve warning was a
Speaker 3: text message saying that you needed to evacuate, and then
Speaker 3: within ten minutes of that warning we received another one
Speaker 3: saying that was too late to evacuate and that everyone
Speaker 3: just had to take shelter in their house. We all
Speaker 3: lost electricity, we lost a phone reception, we lost internet,
Speaker 3: But all of that is so insignificant in comparison to
Speaker 3: people who lost their homes and their loved ones and
Speaker 3: their properties in Milton, which was only a couple suburbs away.
Speaker 4: I can't imagine how scary it is to have that
Speaker 4: feeling of it's too late to leave now, and what
Speaker 4: do you do?
Speaker 3: The hurt and the pain that so many families are
Speaker 3: going through New Year's for me has always been one
Speaker 3: of those days that have fallen short of the expectation
Speaker 3: that it's going to be great. But this year was
Speaker 3: something where I really felt like there wasn't anything to celebrate.
Speaker 4: You're not alone, I think for each Australian and every
Speaker 4: Australian I know. I had this immense feeling of guilt
Speaker 4: to even think about having a good time, Like I
Speaker 4: had a great time, but I still felt this responsibility
Speaker 4: and how can I be having fun? And this is
Speaker 4: resonating with all Australians and even people around the world now.
Speaker 3: Also, there's such a responsibility when you have a social
Speaker 3: media following which you do to not be out there
Speaker 3: and being like, oh, life is amazing, life is wonderful.
Speaker 3: When you can start channeling that into doing something that's
Speaker 3: a little bit more worthwhile and hopefully encouraging people to
Speaker 3: donate to the RFS or work towards whatever you can
Speaker 3: do to try and help these families who are so
Speaker 3: hugely affected. Britt how was the end of your last year?
Speaker 1: New Years? For me? To be honest, but it's so
Speaker 1: overrated for me. Talk to me about this.
Speaker 4: I think for me, it always has been the most
Speaker 4: overrated night of the year because these expectations and there
Speaker 4: is big build up that's always going to be this
Speaker 4: huge event and all these amazing things are going to happen,
Speaker 4: and then you start your year's resolutions.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's because we put such emphasis on it to
Speaker 3: be this milestone or this wonderful bookmarking of a brand
Speaker 3: new year and a new start. Actually New Year's is, oh,
Speaker 3: poor Matt, But New Year's has been one night where
Speaker 3: for the last two years, apart from this year, the
Speaker 3: two years prior, we have always ended up in a fight,
Speaker 3: a proper, proper fight. Actually, one of those fights was
Speaker 3: so public. We were last year at the Opera House.
Speaker 3: It doesn't get more beautiful setting, and I was really pregnant,
Speaker 3: very hormonal, patience very minimal, and I don't even remember
Speaker 3: what had happened, but I did definitely overreact and it
Speaker 3: culminated in me being like, you're a dighead in public.
Speaker 3: In public. We don't even normally fight, let alone fight
Speaker 3: in public.
Speaker 1: But what was I don't understand what the fight was over.
Speaker 3: I don't either.
Speaker 4: Oh, just one of those yeah, just like a stress
Speaker 4: build up and then an implosion, like.
Speaker 3: Lots of miscommunication and me taking things the wrong way
Speaker 3: and I just turned into a crazy person. Happy twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: Well, I think a lot of people actually around this time.
Speaker 4: From what I've seen, there's a lot of breakups around
Speaker 4: this time statistically.
Speaker 3: I read this Brittany in this Dolly magnifact. No, I've
Speaker 3: read it on the internet. I'm sure it's very correct,
Speaker 3: but one of the highest peaks for breakups is during
Speaker 3: this Christmas period.
Speaker 4: Speaking of breakups, actually, this I find really interesting, and
Speaker 4: we've all been guilty of it. I just want to
Speaker 4: preempt I recently discovered my friend had broken up with
Speaker 4: her partner, and I only knew that this had happened.
Speaker 4: She didn't tell me, but it was just because her
Speaker 4: Instagram had changed, like the things she was posting, in
Speaker 4: the style that she was posting. I said to my girlfriend,
Speaker 4: she's got to be single because these bloody hot photos.
Speaker 3: All of a sudden, she's just got her booty on Instagram.
Speaker 3: She's like, yeah, boy, live in my best laugh.
Speaker 1: It's not even that, it's just literally my best life.
Speaker 4: And she's tan and she's beautiful, and she's at the
Speaker 4: beach and she's at a party, and the style changes.
Speaker 4: I think when you're in a relationship to when you're
Speaker 4: not in a relationship.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it comes because there's a motivating factor there where
Speaker 3: you're trying to make your ex jealous or you're trying
Speaker 3: to appear as though you're having the best life ever,
Speaker 3: and so there might be a mismatch between how you're
Speaker 3: feeling and what you're posting come straight after a breakup. However,
Speaker 3: I do also sometimes think maybe it's not a first trap.
Speaker 3: Maybe that girl's just living her best goddamn life and
Speaker 3: she's happy about posting it on the internet now, whereas
Speaker 3: before she maybe felt a little bit more reserved because
Speaker 3: she had a boyfriend and she thought, oh, I want
Speaker 3: to give the wrong impression. Maybe I didn't know what
Speaker 3: a first trap was until I read Liam Hemsworth has
Speaker 3: just first trapped and broke the Internet.
Speaker 4: He put this beautiful photo up with a dog, so
Speaker 4: I mean I liked it, as did eleven million other people.
Speaker 4: But it was him and his dog, and he looked
Speaker 4: so hot, and it was just after his breakup with
Speaker 4: Miley and Adam Devine, his friend, his active friend that
Speaker 4: was in Isn't It Romantic, actually commented on his photo
Speaker 4: and called him out for first trapping, and it's essentially
Speaker 4: just when you're putting a really hot photo out there,
Speaker 4: when you know you've just broken up with someone.
Speaker 1: You know I was going to get attention. You know
Speaker 1: they're going to be like, damn, he looks good. You're like,
Speaker 1: this is what you're missing, atom boy. So I had
Speaker 1: to google it myself, and it's a new term to me.
Speaker 1: Apparently it's been around for a while and I'm a
Speaker 1: bit behind.
Speaker 4: But like I love, there is absolutely nothing wrong with
Speaker 4: first trapping.
Speaker 3: I don't think I've ever actually first trapped because I
Speaker 3: am pretty sensitive with putting sexy photos of myself on
Speaker 3: my Instagram. Mind you, I have no issue if girls
Speaker 3: want to do that, I think, like, all the power
Speaker 3: to them. I just myself don't really feel like a
Speaker 3: particularly sexy person at all. EVERK God, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh where do I put my arms? Anyway?
Speaker 3: I used to I used to do something that was
Speaker 3: probably a step worse than that when I would go
Speaker 3: through bad breakups.
Speaker 1: I am laughing already, and I don't even know what
Speaker 1: this is. I used to put like really vague quotes
Speaker 1: like you just like love your life and love yourself
Speaker 1: and the rest will come.
Speaker 3: Or some live. For example, remember that not getting what
Speaker 3: you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
Speaker 1: As if he doesn't.
Speaker 3: Know that's about him, and as if all my friends
Speaker 3: don't know that it's about him. But here I am thinking,
Speaker 3: I'm being really, really mysterious and just like it's not pointed,
Speaker 3: I'm just living my best life.
Speaker 1: But really I was heartbroken.
Speaker 3: I just didn't deal with breakups very well at the time.
Speaker 3: I don't think.
Speaker 4: I absolutely can one hundred percent of test that you
Speaker 4: are not alone, and I have done that. Also, the
Speaker 4: deep quote is obviously this person you've just broken at me.
Speaker 3: And don't get me wrong, like I would read these
Speaker 3: quotes and think, yes, that one hundred percent reflects exactly
Speaker 3: how I feel right now, and I'm gonna put that
Speaker 3: on the Internet because I'm gonna own the space.
Speaker 1: But I look back.
Speaker 3: Now and I you lie, Yeah, I laugh, because it
Speaker 3: was so obvious that I had just transitioned into a
Speaker 3: breakup and that was me dealing with it in the
Speaker 3: way that I deal with things. But I wasn't necessarily
Speaker 3: posting that quote because it made me feel better. I
Speaker 3: was posting it because I knew he was going to
Speaker 3: see it, and I did it as this like subliminal
Speaker 3: way to kind of manipulate or try and have contact
Speaker 3: with someone who'd got no contact on me.
Speaker 1: That's not subliminal. I just got to tell me that
Speaker 1: right now. That is not a subliminal message. That's like
Speaker 1: a big fat yeah.
Speaker 3: I literally put up a neon sign and I was like,
Speaker 3: so I'm broken up, but I'm single now if anyone's wondering.
Speaker 1: Because he's a deep quote and I'm in a bikini. Look.
Speaker 3: New Year's always brings with it a lot of highs
Speaker 3: and lows and a lot of It's like a it's
Speaker 3: a time for reshuffling your life, and it's a time
Speaker 3: for a bit of self reflection, and it's the time
Speaker 3: when everyone sets New Year's resolutions and thinks, New Year
Speaker 3: knew me.
Speaker 1: What do you think of a resolution?
Speaker 4: I don't know how I feel about a resolution as
Speaker 4: such for the New year.
Speaker 3: You don't like the concept of New Year's resolutions, Like.
Speaker 4: I always make a point of I don't know if
Speaker 4: I want to call it a resolution, but I always
Speaker 4: make a point of saying, Okay, this year, this is
Speaker 4: what I want to do and achieve. But I think
Speaker 4: people shouldn't have to wait until that one day of
Speaker 4: the year, Like what was it about January first? Like
Speaker 4: this clean slate, this arbitrary first date of the year
Speaker 4: where we go, Okay, this is the time where we're
Speaker 4: going to make all the changes, and this is the
Speaker 4: time where I'm going to get my shit together, and
Speaker 4: all the stuff that happened last year, oh well, that
Speaker 4: was just a practice round. I think it's also the
Speaker 4: wording that people tell themselves to like, instead of saying
Speaker 4: I want to lose fifteen kilos, break it down because
Speaker 4: saying fifteen kilos that's huge, But I want to start
Speaker 4: eating better and I want to start running every day.
Speaker 4: That's going to get you there, but it's more attainable
Speaker 4: and it's not as scary, so people get overwhelmed with
Speaker 4: their own resolutions.
Speaker 3: I think it's also such a funny time of year
Speaker 3: to start making changes, because I mean, it's so impractical
Speaker 3: to think that you're going to get your health kick
Speaker 3: started or going to you know, be able to cut
Speaker 3: out sugar or do any of those sorts of things
Speaker 3: when it's right in the middle of a period where
Speaker 3: everyone's partying and everyone's having such a good time, and
Speaker 3: so you're then isolating yourself from enjoying that because you've
Speaker 3: made a resolution that actually, do you know what, maybe
Speaker 3: it would have been better to start that in March.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's happening in March.
Speaker 3: It's a good time. Just cut out, sugar.
Speaker 1: What what have you sort of set for yourself this year?
Speaker 4: Do you have a resolution or like a goal or
Speaker 4: aspiration or I like new ye, knew me, old.
Speaker 1: You, old me.
Speaker 3: I liked Olbie. I mean Oldie was fine, she was okay,
Speaker 3: she was run about. I mean, look, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 3: I am one hundred percent of work in progress, and
Speaker 3: I think there's lots of things that I need to
Speaker 3: change coming into this new year. And I guess for me, though,
Speaker 3: news resolutions have never spoke to me on a on
Speaker 3: a deep level, so I haven't really put in place
Speaker 3: any massive news resolutions for twenty twenty. I have, however,
Speaker 3: from a relationship perspective, and maybe this is a bit
Speaker 3: of an overshare, and I was like, we're going to
Speaker 3: have more sex in twenty twenty.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, can that be my resolution too? Not
Speaker 4: for you to have more sex, but like for me
Speaker 4: to also have more sex. You can have it for
Speaker 4: me to have more sex, I need the support. I
Speaker 4: kind of reflect on the last six months and I have,
Speaker 4: you know, we've had a baby, and the stresses and
Speaker 4: the full time consuming nature that comes with having a child.
Speaker 4: I feel like it's really gotten the better of Matt
Speaker 4: and I a little bit. And as much as we
Speaker 4: absolutely love each other, there are aspects of our relationship
Speaker 4: that I think have massively taken a back burner. So
Speaker 4: I just want to reshuffle some of my priorities in
Speaker 4: my life and put our relationship back up, back up
Speaker 4: the pile.
Speaker 3: Basically.
Speaker 4: It's just one of those things, isn't it. It's I mean,
Speaker 4: give yourself some credit. You just had a baby and
Speaker 4: sex is just not a priority. You had to kill
Speaker 4: a child alive, and you have a business to run
Speaker 4: and sex is probably the last thing you want to do.
Speaker 4: Having said that, now you know Marley's probably not as
Speaker 4: dependent on your boob, and she's a bit older, and
Speaker 4: you know you could just she can look after herself
Speaker 4: so you can go and.
Speaker 1: Have some more set Yeah.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, she's pretty much doing my tax now, No, I guess,
Speaker 3: and I know that any other new mums who are
Speaker 3: listening to this probably can totally relate because it's just
Speaker 3: an aspect of your life that gets shoved aside, and
Speaker 3: it's not it's not a necessity. You're like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: that got us into this in the first place. Keep
Speaker 3: it away from me. But the less of it that
Speaker 3: you have, the less of it that you need. And
Speaker 3: so it's very.
Speaker 1: Forget what you're missing. Yes, we've all been there at
Speaker 1: some point, and so I'm just like.
Speaker 3: Not even motivated for it at the moment, but I
Speaker 3: know that when I do it, I will like it,
Speaker 3: and so I'm getting back on that bandwagon.
Speaker 4: We'll just send me a message and I can come
Speaker 4: down and get Miley for a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'll let you guys go, Nuice, what do you think
Speaker 1: I was gonna say.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, you're not invited, Brittany. You we're
Speaker 3: a duo and everything, but you're not coming to that.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm just really disappointed.
Speaker 3: Now it's an exclusive party that you're.
Speaker 1: Not welcome to anyway.
Speaker 3: What about you, honey, any newar's resolutions that you'll bringing
Speaker 3: to the table.
Speaker 4: Well, I didn't think of that as a resolution, but
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, okay, let's have more sex for everyone.
Speaker 4: I think everyone can have that resolution. There you go,
Speaker 4: spread the word.
Speaker 1: Spread it. You heard it here.
Speaker 4: First, I have a few random things like I just
Speaker 4: want to start surfing, I really do, and I need
Speaker 4: to just take the first step and buy board.
Speaker 3: And well, you live in Bondai. Now, it's very Bondai
Speaker 3: of you.
Speaker 4: I know there's so many people in Bondai that you
Speaker 4: can hit like, I just need to go somewhere it's
Speaker 4: not as many people. I want to definitely cut back
Speaker 4: on my sugar consumption because you know, I'm all or nothing.
Speaker 4: I can't just have one little chocolate.
Speaker 3: I'm going to call you out on this one because
Speaker 3: you have been saying to me that you want to
Speaker 3: cut out sugar, and then this morning when we went
Speaker 3: for coffee, you were like, oh, I'm just gonna put
Speaker 3: some sugar in.
Speaker 1: This, which I never did.
Speaker 3: That was weird. Yeah, So for someone who's not cutting out,
Speaker 3: who's cutting out sugar, you then actively put it in
Speaker 3: your coffee. You also sent me a video of yourself
Speaker 3: eating ice cream last night. And the last time we
Speaker 3: came into this podcast room, which has all happened this year, guys,
Speaker 3: she walked in with a container of chocolate covered almonds
Speaker 3: and ate the entire thing, which, do you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm fully supporting of it, and if.
Speaker 4: I don't want to cut it out, I want to
Speaker 4: cut back. And also, I brought those chocolates for you
Speaker 4: to share. It's not true she's lying to you.
Speaker 1: You are, but that is definitely a resolution.
Speaker 4: I need to cut back because I just find that
Speaker 4: my energy is better when I'm not always having these
Speaker 4: sugar highs. I'm not as fatigued, I feel better and
Speaker 4: I know that. So that's something I want to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I'm I'm all for that. If you actually
Speaker 3: genuinely want to do something, I guess you have to
Speaker 3: kind of surround yourself with people who support you positive. Yeah, why,
Speaker 3: I be a realist. When you can be positive, I
Speaker 3: will be positive for you and I will help you
Speaker 3: on your Jenny.
Speaker 1: I also want to do some things.
Speaker 4: I want to start filming things, I want to start
Speaker 4: acting and just really embracing dreams that I've always wanted
Speaker 4: to do. And I really encourage a lot of people
Speaker 4: to do this. Don't worry about what anyone thinks of
Speaker 4: you in your life. Because I've been speaking to a
Speaker 4: lot of friends recently that want to go and start
Speaker 4: doing things. We've been talking about resolutions, like I've always
Speaker 4: wanted to do this. I've always wanted to try this,
Speaker 4: but I'm scared people will judge me, and I'm scared
Speaker 4: I'm going to fail, and we're all going to fail
Speaker 4: at stuff. But the surest way for you to fail
Speaker 4: in anything is to not try.
Speaker 3: I'm so glad that you said this, because this resonates
Speaker 3: so well with something that I had written down actually
Speaker 3: for this podcast, and it was that this year, I'm
Speaker 3: not going to allow my experiences and the things that
Speaker 3: I enjoy to be dictated by other people's fears. And
Speaker 3: the reason why I had experienced this myself was because
Speaker 3: going back to like traveling with Maley, and also when
Speaker 3: I was pregnant, especially last year, I had so many
Speaker 3: people tell me all of the bad bits about it.
Speaker 3: They had said how hard like having a newborn is,
Speaker 3: and they told me how shitty it is to go
Speaker 3: traveling with a kid, and how awful it is on
Speaker 3: a plane, and how hard it is to kind of
Speaker 3: figure out their food and their schedules. And so I
Speaker 3: walked into these experiences in my life. I walked into childbirth,
Speaker 3: and I walked into traveling with Marley thinking it was
Speaker 3: going to be hideously awful, and I was so prepared
Speaker 3: to hate every part of that experience, But to be
Speaker 3: perfectly honest, I have loved it so much. I just
Speaker 3: wish that I hadn't taken on such negative opinions and
Speaker 3: allowed somebody else's experience to dictate what I thought my
Speaker 3: experience was going to be. Because you shouldn't. You shouldn't
Speaker 3: live your life through somebody else's fears, but we do.
Speaker 1: And I really love this saying. I can't remember it
Speaker 1: word for word, but it's like nobody above you is.
Speaker 4: Going to put you down or judge you. The only
Speaker 4: people that are going to put you down and judge
Speaker 4: you are the people below you. And that comes from
Speaker 4: jealousy and fear that they don't like that you're living
Speaker 4: your dreams, but they're too scared to live theirs.
Speaker 3: People are all different in the way that they respond
Speaker 3: to situations, and if you're a copa or you're someone
Speaker 3: who's like quite tenacious and can kind of problem solve
Speaker 3: on your feet, then maybe a situation that you find
Speaker 3: somebody else would find really difficult. And so we all
Speaker 3: respond to us, our external stimulations and our external environments
Speaker 3: very very differently. We all cope with different levels of
Speaker 3: adversity differently. I resonate with that. I want to if
Speaker 3: I'm going to talk about a real, actual resolution for
Speaker 3: twenty twenty, it's that I'm not going to let other
Speaker 3: people's fears dictate my experiences.
Speaker 1: Amen.
Speaker 4: And if you guys are listening and you have a
Speaker 4: dream and you're scared people are gonna laugh at you
Speaker 4: or that you're gonna fail, screw them, go do it.
Speaker 3: What an inspiration you are, Brittany.
Speaker 4: We care so much about what people think in every
Speaker 4: single aspect of our life. We're the only person you
Speaker 4: should be caring about right now.
Speaker 1: Is you.
Speaker 3: So I do have a question for you.
Speaker 1: Hit me.
Speaker 3: I love it being the single one in this podcast
Speaker 3: and knowing that this is a relationship. I mean, we've
Speaker 3: got a real relationship slant in this podcast and it's
Speaker 3: what we like to lean into. What does twenty twenty
Speaker 3: look like for you in your dating life? Because you
Speaker 3: told me you were going to come to this and
Speaker 3: bring me some dating stories and you haven't done that yet.
Speaker 4: Well, actually, I do want to start by saying I
Speaker 4: am hyper aware of what this time of year, the Christmas,
Speaker 4: the New Year's, the summer period. I'm aware of how
Speaker 4: that can make single people feel. And I want to
Speaker 4: touch on that for a second because I don't want
Speaker 4: people out there, if you're feeling this, to feel like
Speaker 4: you're alone. It can be a really bloody tough time
Speaker 4: for single people. It's like this time of year where
Speaker 4: everything's heightened, isn't it like couples, Everyone's in love, everyone's
Speaker 4: on holidays, everyone's at Christmas doing couply things, and it
Speaker 4: can be a time for people they can feel really
Speaker 4: lonely at this time. I have experienced that myself ninety
Speaker 4: nine point nine percent of the time.
Speaker 1: I love being single.
Speaker 4: But I don't want people to think that that is
Speaker 4: an around the clock, twelvemonth thing.
Speaker 3: Did you find that like New Year's and Christmas was
Speaker 3: particularly a difficult time for you.
Speaker 4: Anyone that knows me knows that I'm pretty thick skinned.
Speaker 4: I don't I'm not overly emotional. I'm going to cry
Speaker 4: a lot.
Speaker 3: But you live your independent life, girl friend, I.
Speaker 1: Really do, you really do.
Speaker 4: But because we are being complete honest on this podcast,
Speaker 4: and I do want people to be able to relate. Yeah,
Speaker 4: it's really tough for me. Every Christmas, I mean single
Speaker 4: eight years now. And this sounds strange, and I don't
Speaker 4: know why I do it, but every year at Christmas,
Speaker 4: I just say it to myself. I'm like, this is
Speaker 4: the last Christmas you'll be alone. Like next year you
Speaker 4: will wake up with someone you love, you will have
Speaker 4: someone around you.
Speaker 1: And I say it every year, and I.
Speaker 4: Think that's why every year I get sad, because I
Speaker 4: get there and I'm like, that didn't happen, and I
Speaker 4: am waking up alone again. And Christmas, I'm the only
Speaker 4: single person in like my family and relatives and friends.
Speaker 4: So whenever you catch up together, everyone's in this love bubble.
Speaker 1: And then you're just the person on the end of
Speaker 1: the table. You're the person that's.
Speaker 4: Sleeping on the trundle bed when you go away, like
Speaker 4: at the end of my sister's bed.
Speaker 3: Like, sorry, all the couples have taken the doubles, You'll
Speaker 3: have to sleep on the floor, Brittie.
Speaker 1: I have done that so many times. I pull out
Speaker 1: this trundle at the end of my sister's bed.
Speaker 4: But it's definitely a hard time and I had a
Speaker 4: really hard time this year. But I just want people
Speaker 4: to know that that's normal to feel.
Speaker 3: It's so wonderful that you would share that, share that
Speaker 3: you have been vulnerable, because it is it is a
Speaker 3: time of year where it's kind of pushed in our
Speaker 3: faces that everyone is so happy and everyone is coupled up,
Speaker 3: even when it comes to trying to do stuff over
Speaker 3: the holiday break. Everyone's spending the holiday break with their partners.
Speaker 3: If you're the only single person, or your friends have
Speaker 3: gone away and they're all doing stuff with their partner,
Speaker 3: and then you're seeing those photos on Instagram as well,
Speaker 3: so it's almost like a double up. And I do
Speaker 3: think that the Christmas period and also New Years it
Speaker 3: really can shine a spotlight on the things that maybe
Speaker 3: are missing from your life and maybe a lacking And
Speaker 3: even the most independent and happily single person can feel lonely.
Speaker 3: And that's okay, And you're allowed to have those feelings
Speaker 3: and you're allowed to sit through that. There's nothing wrong
Speaker 3: with that. I think it's when you're desperate to find
Speaker 3: someone that it becomes a problem. But that's not to
Speaker 3: say that you're not allowed to go through periods that
Speaker 3: are lonely.
Speaker 4: Oh, you're definitely allowed to feel all the feels, but
Speaker 4: just know that.
Speaker 1: Just around the corner is a veno and some happiness.
Speaker 3: Well, actually, I read this awesome article. It was a
Speaker 3: couple of weeks ago now and it is on Pedestrian TV,
Speaker 3: and the article itself is about how being single is
Speaker 3: not purgatory and we need to sort of rework the
Speaker 3: way that we think about being single and that it's
Speaker 3: not this transitional period that's supposed to get us to
Speaker 3: our next relationship. Look, I know that maybe it's easy
Speaker 3: to be the one in a relationship in this podcast
Speaker 3: saying like guys enjoy being single, being singles great, it
Speaker 3: kind of seems like an unfair stance for me to take. However,
Speaker 3: I have been single, and I spent a lot of
Speaker 3: my life single, but I spent a lot of my
Speaker 3: life unhappily single, and looking back on it now, I think.
Speaker 1: My god, fuck.
Speaker 3: I just wish I could have enjoyed it more at
Speaker 3: the time, because it was such great and amazing times
Speaker 3: with my girlfriends and it was really carefree. But I
Speaker 3: spent a lot of it in my own head wishing
Speaker 3: that I had a boyfriend, and now that I do
Speaker 3: have a relationship, and I do have a baby, and
Speaker 3: as much as I love where my life is now,
Speaker 3: it's definitely nowhere near as carefree and there's so many
Speaker 3: more responsibilities that come with it, and shit's just really
Speaker 3: really real now, and I wish that I could look
Speaker 3: back on those times with a little bit more joy
Speaker 3: in the memories and go in a moment, I yeah,
Speaker 3: like I love that and I love that time, but
Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think I did own being single.
Speaker 3: I think I kind of sucked at it. So that's
Speaker 3: why when I see you being single and you owning
Speaker 3: it and you loving that space, I love that in you.
Speaker 4: Well, I do, and you've encouraged this. I do want
Speaker 4: to date more this year because it has not been
Speaker 4: a priority, and you've really encouraged me to try and
Speaker 4: say yes more to things in the dating world.
Speaker 3: But maybe twenty twenty is the year of yes, because
Speaker 3: I think it's the year of big twenty twenty energy.
Speaker 1: Okay, you need to listen to this twenty to.
Speaker 3: Keep saying big twenty twenty energy.
Speaker 1: Listen, I have a story for you. Okay.
Speaker 3: You have been talking about this story for like the
Speaker 3: last couple of hours, but she didn't want to tell
Speaker 3: me pre podcast because she wants my reaction to be genuine.
Speaker 3: So bring it, girlfriend, I do.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: So, Laura, I'm blaming you for this because you said
Speaker 4: I should need to say yes more and be open opportunities.
Speaker 1: So look, I'm going to tell you this story. It's
Speaker 1: so bloody funny. I was on this. You've built this
Speaker 1: up so well. I just was a bit gobsmack, to
Speaker 1: be honest. I was on his boat party.
Speaker 3: Okay, I knew a few people, but she's single, and
Speaker 3: single people go on boat part But I was on
Speaker 3: his boat party and I knew a few people there,
Speaker 3: but there were so many people I didn't know. And
Speaker 3: there was this one guy that had like me, making
Speaker 3: eyes at means, but he started to talk to me.
Speaker 3: But when he started talking to me, he was a
Speaker 3: bit drunk already. Now this boat party went for eight hours.
Speaker 3: This is a whole day commitment.
Speaker 4: So we were talking for hours, and I could tell
Speaker 4: he was quite flirty, and he was saying.
Speaker 1: All the right things like I saw your eyes.
Speaker 4: I saw your eyes from when I first walked on
Speaker 4: and that's like why I knew I had to talk
Speaker 4: to you, and the things I'm he was saying to me,
Speaker 4: you would think were off a movie. He was saying
Speaker 4: things like, after an hour of talking, He's like, I'm
Speaker 4: so invested in this. You know that I'm going to
Speaker 4: love you so hard. He was saying something too hard. Well,
Speaker 4: it's cute love bombing babe. He was obviously joking, saying
Speaker 4: we're going to date, basically, but he kept on saying it.
Speaker 1: You're so beautiful.
Speaker 4: You saw me, And I kept saying to him, Okay,
Speaker 4: I get it, you're drunk. He was saying, you're like
Speaker 4: and I am amazing, and okay. We had spoken by
Speaker 4: this point about everything that I do, like all the
Speaker 4: jobs that I do, and my life, and we'd spoken
Speaker 4: about little things like what kind of he was going
Speaker 4: to get a dog and I was suggesting the dogs
Speaker 4: to him. We spoke a lot of details, right He
Speaker 4: asked for my number and no, He said, can I
Speaker 4: give you my number? I was like, no, it doesn't
Speaker 4: work like that, Like you can ask for my number,
Speaker 4: but you're not giving me yours because I'm not going
Speaker 4: to call you.
Speaker 1: If you want my number, you can take it.
Speaker 3: Really, I kind of like that. He said, can I
Speaker 3: give you my number? Because then it puts the ball
Speaker 3: in your court, yeah, which I didn't like.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 3: I think it's respectful. I think it's like I like you,
Speaker 3: I want you to call me so because well my
Speaker 3: number call me.
Speaker 1: No, he did it because he lost his phone the
Speaker 1: night before and he was drunk. It wasn't a respecting
Speaker 1: it's so good.
Speaker 3: I was like, maybe this guy's like so new age,
Speaker 3: what a gentleman.
Speaker 4: It's just like, sure, I got drunk last night and
Speaker 4: lost my phone. I actually can't take your number anyway.
Speaker 1: So we're moving along.
Speaker 4: After a couple of hours, we swap numbers and he
Speaker 4: kept going about He's like, you were just everything I've
Speaker 4: ever wanted. I'm so infatuated with you. Blah blah blah
Speaker 4: blah blah blah. And then I said to him, what's
Speaker 4: my name? This is after five hours.
Speaker 1: What's my name? He goes, oh.
Speaker 4: Shit, And I'm like, no, be honestly, you think I'm
Speaker 4: so amazing and we're gonna have his life together.
Speaker 1: What's my name?
Speaker 4: And I knew by this point, I even knew his
Speaker 4: middle name. I said his whole name to him, and
Speaker 4: he's like shit, and I'm like, you need to go
Speaker 4: and sort this shit out, because you can't be saying
Speaker 4: these things and not no my name. So we keep
Speaker 4: He goes and finds out and comes back. He's like, see,
Speaker 4: I know your name, now keep talking. A few hours later,
Speaker 4: he was trying to kiss me, and I said, I'm
Speaker 4: not just going to kiss you now, feel free to ask.
Speaker 1: Questions at anymore. I can see you trying to ask.
Speaker 3: I just I just think, wasn't this already a red
Speaker 3: flag that maybe he's full of shit? It gets way better, Laura.
Speaker 1: We're moving along.
Speaker 4: He tries to kiss me a few times and I
Speaker 4: just like turned my head and let him kiss me
Speaker 4: on the cheek. And I was like, I'm not just
Speaker 4: going to make out with you right now in the
Speaker 4: middle of this thing, because it was quite an intimate party.
Speaker 4: It's not like, you know, we're in a club totally.
Speaker 3: It's daytime.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And then at the end, I'm going to walk back
Speaker 4: to BONDI. It was from Rose Bay, and he's like,
Speaker 4: I'll walk you. I was like, I was very gentlemanly
Speaker 4: of you.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: He's like, I'll carry your bag and I'm like great.
Speaker 4: We're walking along, chatting away, and he.
Speaker 1: Says so what do you do?
Speaker 4: And I said really, we just like for eight hours,
Speaker 4: I've told you about what I do and you don't remember.
Speaker 4: And he's like, no, I know you were on the Bachelor,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, that's not what I do. Like, that's
Speaker 4: not what I do. So he didn't remember anything. Then
Speaker 4: we're chatting and he's really lovely. He's like, I can't wait.
Speaker 4: I'm going to take you on the most amazing second date.
Speaker 4: It's going to be the best date you've ever been on.
Speaker 4: And I'm actually at this point starting to be really smitten.
Speaker 4: I'm like, this guy's cute. We did kiss at the
Speaker 4: end of the boat because he said, he said.
Speaker 3: Brittany, there's been three red flags that you've told me
Speaker 3: about this story already, and now you're telling me that
Speaker 3: you were spinning. I'm gonna start vetoing all the men
Speaker 3: that you date. Okay, Okay. So he's like jokingly talking
Speaker 3: about our kids. He's like, our kids are gonna love
Speaker 3: this story about how we first met, Gonna take you
Speaker 3: on the best date, gonna love you so hard. You're
Speaker 3: never gonna have experienced anything like this again, no one
Speaker 3: like me you will ever experience blah.
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah. I'm actually super romantic.
Speaker 4: And he's saying all this stuff and he's carrying my bag,
Speaker 4: he's walking me home, and I'm like, I've just met
Speaker 4: this person, Like I've just met someone.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna date this. I'm gonna date this person.
Speaker 4: Then out of nowhere, the silence for about two seconds.
Speaker 4: Out of nowhere, he says, I want you to sit
Speaker 4: on my face.
Speaker 1: That's what he said, or at your house walking.
Speaker 4: Home, out of nowhere, after saying like, I'm gonna love
Speaker 4: you so hard. There was this moment and then he goes,
Speaker 4: I want you to sit on my face.
Speaker 3: Wow, I can pick him.
Speaker 4: And then I in the street and I have just
Speaker 4: like there was like ten years of built up energy.
Speaker 1: When what that actual fuck?
Speaker 4: My hands were waving in the air. I'm like, why
Speaker 4: did you just say that?
Speaker 1: Who are you? And he was like what, I'm like,
Speaker 1: You've just ruined everything? And I was just so honest.
Speaker 1: I was like and he's like, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: I ruined everything?
Speaker 4: And I'm like this was could have been so amazing,
Speaker 4: and you were so great until you told me to
Speaker 4: sit on your face.
Speaker 3: I'm so glad that you did that, Britt, because you
Speaker 3: were making me really worried. But do you know, Okay,
Speaker 3: does this Is there more to this story? Because I
Speaker 3: want to jump in here and I'm gonna give you
Speaker 3: some hard loving, which you're probably not gonna like.
Speaker 1: I love when you hard loved me.
Speaker 3: I think that the fact that he came on so
Speaker 3: strong and like was so over the top from the
Speaker 3: get go. As much as it's really romantic and it
Speaker 3: makes you feel totally bold off your feet, it's not real.
Speaker 3: That meant that that is a way of love bombing
Speaker 3: you makes you feel so special, but it's not based
Speaker 3: in anything. The fact that he didn't remember your name,
Speaker 3: the fact he couldn't remember what you do for a job,
Speaker 3: and the fact that he then was like, cool, now
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get laid that bad guy red flags.
Speaker 4: I know, I said, you know what, I'm putting this
Speaker 4: on my podcast, perfect I said, so talk me through it.
Speaker 1: What's going through your head right now? To say that?
Speaker 4: I was genuinely I was like, tell me the truth,
Speaker 4: and he's like, I don't know. I just I was
Speaker 4: just thinking that I wanted it and it just came out.
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm like, but is there something that
Speaker 4: I have done to give you that impression. What makes
Speaker 4: you think that it's all right to say that to
Speaker 4: a woman that you have just met?
Speaker 1: And he couldn't. I said, just tell me. I want
Speaker 1: to know for all the women out there, why there
Speaker 1: are so many.
Speaker 3: Assholes, because I think he's just put in the effort
Speaker 3: all day and he's like, cool, No, I want my reward,
Speaker 3: Like that's what I was put in. The effort wasn't
Speaker 3: a bad date number two. It was about I want
Speaker 3: to get this girl home to sit on my face.
Speaker 1: He said, oh, it was just like the sort of family.
Speaker 1: I grab it. What He's like, we sort of grup.
Speaker 4: With that sort of humor. I'm like, that's that's not humor,
Speaker 4: and that's not an excuse.
Speaker 3: Your mum's not saying that to you. Power that's not true.
Speaker 3: I said, did you grub without a mom?
Speaker 1: And he said no, she was there. But he has
Speaker 1: he has message me and he wants to.
Speaker 4: He actually apologized and he said, I do want to
Speaker 4: take you on another date, So what do you reckon?
Speaker 1: Do I go on another date with him?
Speaker 3: I'm not saying right the guy off entirely because it
Speaker 3: does sound like you had some fun. Like, I get
Speaker 3: that I'm at him, but I really think that even
Speaker 3: from even from one date, like even from just meeting
Speaker 3: the guy, there's a few red flags in there that
Speaker 3: you need to be like, Okay, let's let's assess this.
Speaker 3: I'm not going to give you my heart on a
Speaker 3: platter because you've said all these gorgeous, wonderful things.
Speaker 1: I think I'm also not sitting on your face.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, girlfriend, if you want to go for it, like,
Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong with that either. But you guys have
Speaker 3: to be aligned in what you want, that's all. But Britt,
Speaker 3: I'm so happy that you brought a dating story to
Speaker 3: this podcast today because I am here for it.
Speaker 1: Rip me, that's all I say.
Speaker 3: No, you're born again. Girlfriend, is your year? Bloody better
Speaker 3: be Look, do you know what? You can make it
Speaker 3: whatever you want to, and that's just it right. Maybe
Speaker 3: you are out for hangs and bangs, and in which case, like,
Speaker 3: go for it. There's nothing wrong with it. But I
Speaker 3: think it's kind of unfair for a guy to do
Speaker 3: the whole Our kids are going to be so cute,
Speaker 3: We're gonna have the best second date. We're gonna do this.
Speaker 3: We're gonna do that because realistically, there's a good chance
Speaker 3: that had you put out on that date, you may
Speaker 3: never hear from him again. Yeah, because it's.
Speaker 1: A lot of words.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of trickery that goes into that, and
Speaker 3: I know that you're smarter than this.
Speaker 1: I am and I have had a rough trot.
Speaker 4: I've actually gone to Laura recently with some like proper
Speaker 4: dating issues, haven't I that I've had And you've given.
Speaker 1: Me the tough love, But you've told me what I
Speaker 1: needed to hear.
Speaker 3: I mean, for any of our og Uncut listeners, you
Speaker 3: would know that we do a section on this podcast
Speaker 3: could Ask Uncut, and it's actually our favorite section. And
Speaker 3: so coming into twenty twenty, we have some good news.
Speaker 3: You would notice that this podcast has also dropped on
Speaker 3: a Tuesday, which normally our podcasts were every Wednesday. We're
Speaker 3: now going to like shuffle some stuff around and Tuesdays
Speaker 3: is going to be our meaty chatty just life, love
Speaker 3: and all the other stuff chat that's that podcast. Podcast
Speaker 3: number two is going to be dropped on Thursdays, and
Speaker 3: on Thursdays, it's going to be a special episode which
Speaker 3: is just going to be our Ask Uncut Special. So
Speaker 3: any questions that you guys have, please like slide into
Speaker 3: our dms on Instagram at Life Uncut podcast and you
Speaker 3: can ask us anything, any of your relationship questions, or
Speaker 3: your life questions, or your friend questions, anything that's kind
Speaker 3: of got you a bit stumped and you need some
Speaker 3: girlfriends on your side to give you a bit of advice.
Speaker 3: The reason we have.
Speaker 4: Done this is we have had such an overwhelming response
Speaker 4: from you guys on this segment and so many people
Speaker 4: riding in with their questions trusting us. Thought, you know what,
Speaker 4: let's just dedicate a whole episode to it. If you
Speaker 4: guys love.
Speaker 1: It, tune in. If you don't tune in anyway.
Speaker 3: Well, actually you know so we did one special episode
Speaker 3: from last season in season one, and that was a
Speaker 3: full ep on Ask Guncut and it was one of
Speaker 3: our most popular episodes, like our most downloaded episodes. So
Speaker 3: we are so privileged and we feel so special that
Speaker 3: you are trusting us to give our advice to the
Speaker 3: questions that you have. And you know what, we're a
Speaker 3: little bit unqualified, but what we do bring is some
Speaker 3: lengthy years of life experience and some very poor decision making.
Speaker 3: So that we can impart how to do things better
Speaker 3: and we have done.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we did it well those years.
Speaker 4: There is something else I wanted to tell you, but
Speaker 4: I didn't. I just don't want to brag about it.
Speaker 4: But I'm low key sort of dating chatting Tatum.
Speaker 3: You're lying right now. I can see it in your eyes. Also,
Speaker 3: that seems like a very very unlikely situation. Wait, isn't
Speaker 3: he still dating Jesse Jay?
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. I actually just saw him
Speaker 1: on a dating app.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say he's not dating Jesse j because
Speaker 3: I read this in Daily Mail the other day, So
Speaker 3: it's going to be a single Ye. I saw him
Speaker 3: on a dating app. Yeah, I saw him on a
Speaker 3: dating app. Sure it wasn't a fake profile, babe.
Speaker 4: It definitely wasn't fake. It's like, have you heard of
Speaker 4: this dating app called Raya? I feel like such a
Speaker 4: wank are saying this, But there's this dating app that's
Speaker 4: like the who's who are on?
Speaker 1: Like if Gigi did was on a dating app, she'd
Speaker 1: be on this dating app.
Speaker 3: How are you on?
Speaker 1: The don't ask?
Speaker 4: I think somebody had to put in a good word
Speaker 4: for me and I had to pay a couple of people,
Speaker 4: but I got on there, so I'm on there. Did
Speaker 4: you have to sit on anyone's face? Not yet, but
Speaker 4: I mean I put was changing datum. I'm just saying,
Speaker 4: don't apply at Channing Tatum listening. No, So I actually
Speaker 4: saw him on there and I was like, what do
Speaker 4: I do with this? I mean, I knew what I
Speaker 4: was going to do with it, but and my finger
Speaker 4: was hovering over the superike and I was like, I'm
Speaker 4: never super like?
Speaker 1: Do I super like?
Speaker 3: So you didn't play it cool and you super liked
Speaker 3: Channing Tatum.
Speaker 4: I super liked Channing Tatum, and I love that I
Speaker 4: did that because, let's be real, I'm still waiting for
Speaker 4: him just white right on me. Evidently he probably just
Speaker 4: hasn't come across me ot otherwise we would have matched.
Speaker 3: Also, like go for a girlfriend, I would be super
Speaker 3: liking Chatting Tatum as well. Oh my god, who wouldn't
Speaker 3: look girls gotta eat right, My girl does have to
Speaker 3: eat and I have to eat Channing Tatum.
Speaker 1: So oh that came out so wrong. But like, if
Speaker 1: he's listening, you know, watch this space.
Speaker 3: So in light of it being twenty twenty and us
Speaker 3: talking about new Year's resolutions and what this new year
Speaker 3: means to us. We also wanted to talk a little
Speaker 3: bit about motivation. I mean, what does motivation mean to me,
Speaker 3: what does it mean to brit What does it look
Speaker 3: like to you guys? And how do we stay motivated
Speaker 3: so that we're able to achieve the goals that we
Speaker 3: have set for our New Year's resolutions before we fall
Speaker 3: off the bandwagon come a couple weeks time.
Speaker 4: Motivation you don't pluck it out of the air. People
Speaker 4: think that they can be like, oh, I need to
Speaker 4: find my motivation. You don't just find it, do you.
Speaker 3: I think, unfortunately, motivation and like the motivational quotes and
Speaker 3: this like concept of what motivation is is that it
Speaker 3: kind of has almost like a spirituality attached to it,
Speaker 3: where people are like, oh, she's so motivated, like she's
Speaker 3: been gifted that beautiful gift of motivation, Whereas I don't
Speaker 3: think that motivation is something that's some people have and
Speaker 3: some people don't. I think that to be able to
Speaker 3: be motivated, you actually just have to get started. You know,
Speaker 3: objects in motion stay in motion.
Speaker 4: Thing is you need to break it down, So you
Speaker 4: need to you need to have a goal what do
Speaker 4: you want to achieve and why do you want to
Speaker 4: achieve it? Then knowing why is really important. But then
Speaker 4: break it down and you need to start making actions.
Speaker 3: Breaking things down into very small achievable objectives, because if
Speaker 3: something is too big that you can't overcome it, or
Speaker 3: you can't sort of figure out the way to get
Speaker 3: from point A to point Z, you're like, oh, that's right,
Speaker 3: there's a whole entire alphabet in the middle of this
Speaker 3: that I need to get to. So just figure out
Speaker 3: how to get to point A to point B and
Speaker 3: then from point b to point C and break it
Speaker 3: down into small things instead of trying to do everything
Speaker 3: which is just so insurmountable.
Speaker 4: A nice example is you and I creating this podcast.
Speaker 4: One day, we're like, let's do a podcasts. Then we're like,
Speaker 4: how the hell do we do that? That's so overwhelming,
Speaker 4: and it is, but then you break it down. We
Speaker 4: googled with on a studio, how do you find usually
Speaker 4: a news studio? Yeah, how do you find a studio? Okay,
Speaker 4: how do we upload it to Spotify? How do we
Speaker 4: We literally broke it down to every tiny little step
Speaker 4: and then all of a sudden it happened. But if
Speaker 4: you just think I need to go and do a podcast,
Speaker 4: that's so overwhelming totally.
Speaker 3: And then you put in and then you put in
Speaker 3: place accountabilities. And that's the next part of what makes
Speaker 3: motivation and what keeps motivation is you've set yourself a
Speaker 3: goal every week, we need to produce a podcast and
Speaker 3: it needs to be released by this time every Wednesday.
Speaker 3: So now we've been kept accountable for it. And so
Speaker 3: that's a massive part of being able to maintain motivation.
Speaker 3: It's really hard to start something when you have no
Speaker 3: accountabilities or no one to sort of show up to.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And for example, my sister at the moment, she
Speaker 4: detests running, but one of her goals was I want
Speaker 4: to run more. So she set herself an end date,
Speaker 4: I want to do a marathon. So now every little
Speaker 4: day she has to run because she wants to achieve
Speaker 4: a goal. So she just broke it down into days, saying,
Speaker 4: I want to run a marathon, way too hard, way
Speaker 4: too much. So I think, everyone write down your goal
Speaker 4: and your dream of the year, and then break it
Speaker 4: down and start to action it because I promise you
Speaker 4: everything is achievable. Everything if you just take it little
Speaker 4: bites at a time.
Speaker 3: So how are you achieving dating Chatting Tatum?
Speaker 1: Well, I super liked him.
Speaker 3: That was a big step in the right direction.
Speaker 1: I might even translide into his DM.
Speaker 4: I don't know, but yeah, like what a time to
Speaker 4: be alive, Liam Hemsworth and chatting Tatum is single?
Speaker 1: So girls dream b Well, this is my personal favorite
Speaker 1: part of the episode, and that is us gone card.
Speaker 4: I know, we said that we are changing this to
Speaker 4: a whole episode that we are dropping every Thursday, and
Speaker 4: we are doing that, but it's a habit, so we
Speaker 4: don't want to go cold turkey.
Speaker 3: We're giving you one question, So I have a doozy
Speaker 3: for you. Bring it at me, girlfriend, I am ready, Okay.
Speaker 4: I really struggled with this one, actually, so I'm super
Speaker 4: interested to see what you think about it. My partner
Speaker 4: and I were together for about seven months when we
Speaker 4: broke up. He broke up with me and then I
Speaker 4: hooked up with his best friend. It was only one
Speaker 4: night once off, and now my ex and I are
Speaker 4: trying to.
Speaker 1: Make it work again. Do I tell him what happened?
Speaker 1: Bloody hell? Help me?
Speaker 3: At the hell?
Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? It's a hard one.
Speaker 3: This is really tricky, and we'll just break it down.
Speaker 3: Let's break it down. Look, this is a judgment free zone.
Speaker 3: We all make mistakes, and we've all done some questionable
Speaker 3: things in breakups because it's a time when you're feeling really,
Speaker 3: really volatile, and maybe there was a little bit of
Speaker 3: you that wanted to get back at your boyfriend at
Speaker 3: the time. Maybe there were some some not so nice
Speaker 3: motivations behind it. However, look that's happened, and now you
Speaker 3: need to make a decision, and I think I think
Speaker 3: you have to tell him unfortunately. I mean, it's it's
Speaker 3: a shitty situation and you may not get the outcome
Speaker 3: that you want. But I do think that you now
Speaker 3: need to take some transparency and you need to grow
Speaker 3: some big balls and have a really, really hard conversation
Speaker 3: with him.
Speaker 1: I'm going to have to.
Speaker 3: Agree with that.
Speaker 1: I think it's hard.
Speaker 4: And what your reasons were for hooking up with a friend,
Speaker 4: I'm not sure. Like Laura said, maybe dip down it
Speaker 4: was a way to get back at him, or maybe
Speaker 4: it was literally a one night drunk.
Speaker 1: Action of it.
Speaker 3: Whoops, didn't mean to.
Speaker 4: But whatever the reason was, I guess it's irrelevant. I
Speaker 4: just think, if you're back with your ex now and
Speaker 4: you really think that this could be in his endgame,
Speaker 4: you have to tell him because it will come out.
Speaker 4: These things never stay buried, whether it comes out through
Speaker 4: a friend, whether one day it's too much and you
Speaker 4: tell him, or your friend tells him, or there's a photo,
Speaker 4: whatever it is, it's going to come out, and it's
Speaker 4: going to be so much worse if it comes out
Speaker 4: a year down the track.
Speaker 3: If I was in your situation, I genuinely think I
Speaker 3: would massively struggle with this as well, because you obviously
Speaker 3: love your boyfriend and want to be with him, and
Speaker 3: so by telling him this, there is a chance that
Speaker 3: he might not want to be with you. That may
Speaker 3: be the outcome, but the reality is that some choices
Speaker 3: have repercussions, and it's unfair of you to try and
Speaker 3: control your boyfriend and control his reaction to something by
Speaker 3: not giving him the information to make a decision that's
Speaker 3: best for him.
Speaker 4: I also think, if you're going if you're going to
Speaker 4: tell him, whether it's a year down the track or now,
Speaker 4: and the outcome he's going to be he's going to
Speaker 4: leave you.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't you want him to just leave you?
Speaker 3: Now now totally, because if you are endgame and if
Speaker 3: you guys are going to spend the rest of your
Speaker 3: life together, like you need to have that truth and
Speaker 3: transparency at the start of a relationship because trust is everything.
Speaker 3: It was a bit of bad decision making. But now
Speaker 3: put on your big girl panties, put them on, put
Speaker 3: your Bridget jones Is on, and go and have a
Speaker 3: really really hard chat with someone who you love. If
Speaker 3: he is able to put his ego aside and he
Speaker 3: loves you as much as you love him, and you
Speaker 3: guys are endgame, there's still a potential that you'll be
Speaker 3: able to make it work.
Speaker 1: And I did find this a difficult question.
Speaker 4: I know the truth always prevails, but I really wanted
Speaker 4: to sit on this on both sides and think about
Speaker 4: the pros and cons of telling him and not telling him.
Speaker 4: And I sort of went out and hypothetically asked some
Speaker 4: of my friends male and females.
Speaker 3: Like, what would they do in that situation?
Speaker 4: She was like, if this happened to you, what would
Speaker 4: you do? Do you think that she should tell him?
Speaker 4: I just said the same thing, but hypothetically, don't.
Speaker 3: Worry, guys, like we keep you so anonymous in there,
Speaker 3: So if you send us a question, we don't repeat, like,
Speaker 3: I don't even know who this person has come through
Speaker 3: as only brit knows. So if you want to send
Speaker 3: us your questions, you stay anonymous, but we may ask
Speaker 3: a few friends what they think of the hypothetical situation
Speaker 3: to get their feedback.
Speaker 4: And I was so interested to see what males said
Speaker 4: about this, and I'm going to be honest, the one
Speaker 4: hundred percent consensus from males and females of different age
Speaker 4: groups really put it out there.
Speaker 3: We took a poll.
Speaker 4: We took a poll and actually, let's do a poll
Speaker 4: on this. Yeah, we can do a poll with Instagram. Yeah,
Speaker 4: they all said that she has to tell him.
Speaker 3: I love it when we agree go a team. I
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Speaker 3: So our suck and sweet is basically just our highlights
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Speaker 1: Oh? And I kick it off?
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Speaker 4: No? I feel like the rule is like you're supposed
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