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Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 1: I've been reading the book Stolen Focus. Have you read it?
Speaker 1: It was given to us by our exbos and it's
Speaker 1: fantastic if you want to learn about how to get
Speaker 1: your attention spanned back. I say this sort of say
Speaker 1: while I'm going on a tangent that I was on
Speaker 1: TikTok and a credit called gay lieta g A E
Speaker 1: l A I t o R put up a TikTok
Speaker 1: about the sixth stage of grieving relationship. Please play the tape.
Speaker 2: Mikaylas So, has anyone else ever gone through the Reddit
Speaker 2: stage of healing? Because I feel like we should include
Speaker 2: it in the five stages of grief, Like you know
Speaker 2: that stage where you're like searching up questions and then
Speaker 2: adding Reddit to the end of it to find other
Speaker 2: people that have gone through the same thing as you
Speaker 2: because you're just so like, what am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1: Facts? I need to know? FLEXI, have you ever post breakup,
Speaker 1: post friendship, breakdown, post work scenario that didn't go well?
Speaker 1: Have you gone on Reddit? Because I have, for example
Speaker 1: one of my relationships. Sometimes when I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I get a thing that I found out and whether
Speaker 1: or not this is true, I'm not sure. Is called RCD.
Speaker 1: So as we know, I've spoken about my previous life
Speaker 1: as an OCD kind of girly, and there's a thing
Speaker 1: called relationship OCD, which is where you second guess everything
Speaker 1: about the relationship and the other.
Speaker 3: Person as it's happening, or in retrospect.
Speaker 1: As it's happening. So you're like, oh my god, should
Speaker 1: we be together?
Speaker 2: Is this right?
Speaker 3: Is this wrong?
Speaker 1: Are they the right person? What about this? And like
Speaker 1: you just doubt everything, And that's like a core tenant
Speaker 1: of OCD for some people, is this doubting of self.
Speaker 1: So what I did was I was like, I can't
Speaker 1: find answers. Nobody understands that I'm trying to talk to
Speaker 1: them about. They're like, well, maybe you're just not that
Speaker 1: into them. I'm like, no, it's a separate issue. So
Speaker 1: I reddited it and found out there's a whole thread
Speaker 1: on Reddit dedicated to people with r OCD sharing means
Speaker 1: sharing experiences, and I was like, wow, this is what
Speaker 1: I needed to help my own mind. And I agree
Speaker 1: with this person. You go to Reddit and you're searching
Speaker 1: up this happening relationship go and Reddit people are just
Speaker 1: so wise there. It's like no other place on the Internet.
Speaker 1: I learn actually important things from Reddit. So I agree
Speaker 1: we should create the sixth stage of grieving, which includes
Speaker 1: redditing things.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I like Reddit because it's social learning. It's like
Speaker 3: the learning that happens when you're actually engaging with people,
Speaker 3: not from an expert level but a lived experience, which
Speaker 3: is sick because sometimes when you're reading like an academic
Speaker 3: paper on whatever heartbreak grief, you're like, Okay, this is
Speaker 3: great and helpful if I was a robot. But I'm
Speaker 3: a real person with a very unique problem. Need someone
Speaker 3: with a very similar, real unique experience to weigh in.
Speaker 3: But I don't do post relationship Reddit. I do initial
Speaker 3: stages Reddit. I'll be like can and avoid it and
Speaker 3: an avoidant date? Wow, I want to know Uphand I'm like,
Speaker 3: what's it like being an areas woman? Reddit? I say,
Speaker 3: what are the other five stages?
Speaker 1: Like deny your happiness, sadness.
Speaker 3: Anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. If I not grieved in
Speaker 3: my life, I didn't know that Reddit had a bad rap.
Speaker 1: They did it ever have a bad rap? Oh?
Speaker 3: It does who said, here's the thing. When you date
Speaker 3: reddit brows and then you're friends people who don't get
Speaker 3: reddit brows, and then you hear what people who aren't
Speaker 3: reddit brows think about reddit brows, you realize it's a
Speaker 3: very scary place.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: On TikTok they talk about hetero TikTok especially they talk
Speaker 3: about the categories of men who probably traum tize women, matts,
Speaker 3: guys with jay names. Yeah, yeah, Reddit bros, virgos, pisces.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm talking about. There's a very specific archetype.
Speaker 3: My experience with the reddit brow defaulting to strangers on
Speaker 3: Reddit and not using his own brain for individual issues.
Speaker 3: It's a slippery slope because it's not just Reddit. People
Speaker 3: do it all the time on the Internet with most
Speaker 3: things where they're waiting for the common opinion. But I
Speaker 3: think the good thing about just say like Google is
Speaker 3: you're getting like an aggregation of the Internet.
Speaker 1: Reddit is disagree one guys, disagree. Google is all full
Speaker 1: of people with ads and media companies. Reddit is the individual.
Speaker 3: What I'm saying. But when you Google, you're getting thousands
Speaker 3: of articles, Yeah, but they're not Reddit. You're getting one person.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But when it's on Google and you're reading articles. These
Speaker 1: people are getting paid to write verbiage. However, on Reddit.
Speaker 3: Have you been on Google scholar in your time?
Speaker 1: Babe?
Speaker 3: Have you been into a therapist's website? You're thinking like
Speaker 3: paid news media, Guardian the Aide, even if you went
Speaker 3: to the thought catalog psychology. Today there are websites with
Speaker 3: an aggregation of heaps of information, whereas things like Reddit
Speaker 3: you keep going down into rabbit holes and rabbit holes
Speaker 3: and rabbit holes, and there's no way to measure and
Speaker 3: discern what's worth listening to. It's just the more emotional
Speaker 3: you get, like, and you find something that matches the
Speaker 3: answer you want, you cling to it so tightly.
Speaker 1: I want to write a directory of the most mentally
Speaker 1: ill websites to go on. How mentally are you you?
Speaker 1: Depending on mentally ill you were meant like, if you
Speaker 1: go on these websites, here's the degree of mental ill
Speaker 1: you are. For example, Reddit, Yeah, they're cemental illness happening guys.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all right, and you're like in the stage
Speaker 1: where your mental illness has made you a kind person. Cora,
Speaker 1: I love my mentor girlies more of the girl really
Speaker 1: type of things a bit of an older demographic. No,
Speaker 1: I read he a thirteen year old. You gotta say
Speaker 1: I'm over thirteen. That's a real indicator. Does he like me?
Speaker 1: Cora is the one for that. God it catalog is
Speaker 1: when you are.
Speaker 3: I use Cora to figure out what my philosophy quotes mean.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cool, I used for other reasons, and then
Speaker 1: finally does he like me?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Period?
Speaker 1: You remember that era?
Speaker 3: Yeah, a couple of weeks ago. Literally last.
Speaker 1: We need to one day pour it out for that man?
Speaker 1: Really have me thrown for loop?
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