WEBVTT - The 6th Stage Of Breakup Grief 💔

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been reading the book Stolen Focus. Have you read it?

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<v Speaker 1>It was given to us by our exbos and it's

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<v Speaker 1>fantastic if you want to learn about how to get

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<v Speaker 1>your attention spanned back. I say this sort of say

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<v Speaker 1>while I'm going on a tangent that I was on

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<v Speaker 1>TikTok and a credit called gay lieta g A E

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<v Speaker 1>l A I t o R put up a TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>about the sixth stage of grieving relationship. Please play the tape.

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<v Speaker 2>Mikaylas So, has anyone else ever gone through the Reddit

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<v Speaker 2>stage of healing? Because I feel like we should include

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<v Speaker 2>it in the five stages of grief, Like you know

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<v Speaker 2>that stage where you're like searching up questions and then

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<v Speaker 2>adding Reddit to the end of it to find other

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<v Speaker 2>people that have gone through the same thing as you

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<v Speaker 2>because you're just so like, what am I supposed to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Facts? I need to know? FLEXI, have you ever post breakup,

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<v Speaker 1>post friendship, breakdown, post work scenario that didn't go well?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you gone on Reddit? Because I have, for example

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<v Speaker 1>one of my relationships. Sometimes when I'm in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I get a thing that I found out and whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not this is true, I'm not sure. Is called RCD.

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<v Speaker 1>So as we know, I've spoken about my previous life

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<v Speaker 1>as an OCD kind of girly, and there's a thing

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<v Speaker 1>called relationship OCD, which is where you second guess everything

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<v Speaker 1>about the relationship and the other.

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<v Speaker 3>Person as it's happening, or in retrospect.

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<v Speaker 1>As it's happening. So you're like, oh my god, should

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<v Speaker 1>we be together?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this right?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this wrong?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they the right person? What about this? And like

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<v Speaker 1>you just doubt everything, And that's like a core tenant

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<v Speaker 1>of OCD for some people, is this doubting of self.

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<v Speaker 1>So what I did was I was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>find answers. Nobody understands that I'm trying to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>them about. They're like, well, maybe you're just not that

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<v Speaker 1>into them. I'm like, no, it's a separate issue. So

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<v Speaker 1>I reddited it and found out there's a whole thread

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<v Speaker 1>on Reddit dedicated to people with r OCD sharing means

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<v Speaker 1>sharing experiences, and I was like, wow, this is what

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to help my own mind. And I agree

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<v Speaker 1>with this person. You go to Reddit and you're searching

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<v Speaker 1>up this happening relationship go and Reddit people are just

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<v Speaker 1>so wise there. It's like no other place on the Internet.

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<v Speaker 1>I learn actually important things from Reddit. So I agree

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<v Speaker 1>we should create the sixth stage of grieving, which includes

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<v Speaker 1>redditing things.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. I like Reddit because it's social learning. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>the learning that happens when you're actually engaging with people,

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<v Speaker 3>not from an expert level but a lived experience, which

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<v Speaker 3>is sick because sometimes when you're reading like an academic

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<v Speaker 3>paper on whatever heartbreak grief, you're like, Okay, this is

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<v Speaker 3>great and helpful if I was a robot. But I'm

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<v Speaker 3>a real person with a very unique problem. Need someone

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<v Speaker 3>with a very similar, real unique experience to weigh in.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't do post relationship Reddit. I do initial

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<v Speaker 3>stages Reddit. I'll be like can and avoid it and

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<v Speaker 3>an avoidant date? Wow, I want to know Uphand I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>what's it like being an areas woman? Reddit? I say,

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<v Speaker 3>what are the other five stages?

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<v Speaker 1>Like deny your happiness, sadness.

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<v Speaker 3>Anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. If I not grieved in

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<v Speaker 3>my life, I didn't know that Reddit had a bad rap.

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<v Speaker 1>They did it ever have a bad rap? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>It does who said, here's the thing. When you date

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<v Speaker 3>reddit brows and then you're friends people who don't get

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<v Speaker 3>reddit brows, and then you hear what people who aren't

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<v Speaker 3>reddit brows think about reddit brows, you realize it's a

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<v Speaker 3>very scary place.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>On TikTok they talk about hetero TikTok especially they talk

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<v Speaker 3>about the categories of men who probably traum tize women, matts,

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<v Speaker 3>guys with jay names. Yeah, yeah, Reddit bros, virgos, pisces.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm talking about. There's a very specific archetype.

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<v Speaker 3>My experience with the reddit brow defaulting to strangers on

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<v Speaker 3>Reddit and not using his own brain for individual issues.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a slippery slope because it's not just Reddit. People

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<v Speaker 3>do it all the time on the Internet with most

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<v Speaker 3>things where they're waiting for the common opinion. But I

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<v Speaker 3>think the good thing about just say like Google is

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<v Speaker 3>you're getting like an aggregation of the Internet.

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<v Speaker 1>Reddit is disagree one guys, disagree. Google is all full

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<v Speaker 1>of people with ads and media companies. Reddit is the individual.

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<v Speaker 3>What I'm saying. But when you Google, you're getting thousands

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<v Speaker 3>of articles, Yeah, but they're not Reddit. You're getting one person.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But when it's on Google and you're reading articles. These

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<v Speaker 1>people are getting paid to write verbiage. However, on Reddit.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you been on Google scholar in your time?

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<v Speaker 1>Babe?

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<v Speaker 3>Have you been into a therapist's website? You're thinking like

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<v Speaker 3>paid news media, Guardian the Aide, even if you went

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<v Speaker 3>to the thought catalog psychology. Today there are websites with

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<v Speaker 3>an aggregation of heaps of information, whereas things like Reddit

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<v Speaker 3>you keep going down into rabbit holes and rabbit holes

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<v Speaker 3>and rabbit holes, and there's no way to measure and

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<v Speaker 3>discern what's worth listening to. It's just the more emotional

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<v Speaker 3>you get, like, and you find something that matches the

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<v Speaker 3>answer you want, you cling to it so tightly.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to write a directory of the most mentally

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<v Speaker 1>ill websites to go on. How mentally are you you?

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<v Speaker 1>Depending on mentally ill you were meant like, if you

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<v Speaker 1>go on these websites, here's the degree of mental ill

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<v Speaker 1>you are. For example, Reddit, Yeah, they're cemental illness happening guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, all right, and you're like in the stage

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<v Speaker 1>where your mental illness has made you a kind person. Cora,

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<v Speaker 1>I love my mentor girlies more of the girl really

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<v Speaker 1>type of things a bit of an older demographic. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I read he a thirteen year old. You gotta say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm over thirteen. That's a real indicator. Does he like me?

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<v Speaker 1>Cora is the one for that. God it catalog is

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<v Speaker 1>when you are.

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<v Speaker 3>I use Cora to figure out what my philosophy quotes mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's cool, I used for other reasons, and then

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<v Speaker 1>finally does he like me?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Period?

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<v Speaker 1>You remember that era?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a couple of weeks ago. Literally last.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to one day pour it out for that man?

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<v Speaker 1>Really have me thrown for loop?

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